Kāore he whanaungatanga e rite ana te āhua. Tērā pea ka whānui te whakarōpūtanga o tētahi whanaungatanga, pērā i te motuhake, te kore motuhake rānei. Engari i mōhio koe he rerekē ngā momo whanaungatanga tūao? Nō nā tata nei, ka tīmata taku hoa pai, a Alice, ki te whakaipoipo i muri tonu i tana wehenga atu i tētahi whanaungatanga nui. I whakaaro ahau mēnā kei te rapu ia i tētahi mea aroha. Engari i taku kōrero ki a ia, ka kite ahau kāore ia i te tino tuwhera ki tētahi whanaungatanga pumau i taua wā.
I mea ia, "Kāore au i te mōhio he aha taku e tumanako ana mai i tēnei whanaungatanga, engari ki taku whakaaro ehara i te mea nui. Ko taku hiahia anake kia ora i roto i te wā o nāianei, kia whiwhi hoki i ngā wheako ka taea e au te whiwhi." I whakaarohia e tā mātou rōpū kōtiro koinei tana wāhanga whanaungatanga noa, ā, mai i reira, ka kōrero mātou mō te hinengaro o nāianei o tā mātou hoa i roto i ngā whanaungatanga noa.
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Ka taea te kī he hononga tūao kore-motuhake, engari ehara i te mea koinei tonu te āhua. Ka taea e koe te kite i ētahi atu tāngata mēnā kāore tētahi o ngā tāngata e rua i roto i te hononga e tono ana kia tūao motuhake . Ka whai te hononga tūao i ngā paearu e whai ake nei:
- He mea nui atu i te hononga, i te moe tahi rānei i te pō kotahi
- He mea kāore he tapanga whanaungatanga
- He here e whaia ai e koe te ngahau, ā, kāore koe e hiahia ki te noho tahi
- He whanaungatanga kāore e hiahiatia he whakapau kaha
E ai ki ngā rangahau , e 23% o te tangata e whakamahi ana i ngā taupānga whakaipoipo ipurangi hei rapu i te moepuku noa, ko te 20% kei reira hei kimi hoa kore-motuhake. Ka huri ēnei whanaungatanga hei momo whanaungatanga noa, ā, i ētahi wā ka noho hei whanaungatanga noa mō te wā roa, hei whanaungatanga noa rānei mō te wā poto. Mena kua tae koe ki te tohu toru marama o te whanaungatanga, ā, kāore anō kia kōrero mō te motuhaketanga, kua uru koe ki tētahi whanaungatanga noa.
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E ai ki te hinengaro o ngā whanaungatanga tūao, ko te hunga e noho tahi ana mō te whanaungatanga ā-tinana anake , ā, kāore e rapu ana i tētahi mea mō te wā roa, e kiia ana kei roto i tētahi whanaungatanga tūao. Ahakoa he maha ngā rohe o tētahi whanaungatanga tūao, ko te pātai matua ko – He aha ngā mea hei tumanakohia i roto i tētahi whanaungatanga tūao?
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- He hoa kore-motuhake e whakatutuki ana i ō hiahia tinana anake i te nuinga o te wā
- Kāore pea i te mea ko te taatai anake, ko ētahi e hiahia ana kia noho māhorahora noa iho nā te mea kua puta mai rātou i tētahi hononga nui.
- Tērā pea ka kitea e te hunga e whakaipoipo ana he mea whakahihiri, he mea whakaohooho hoki te whakaaro ki tētahi whanaungatanga roa.
- Ko te hunga kāore e wātea ki ngā kare ā-roto e rapu ana hoki i te whakaipoipo noa
He whānuitia te ao o te whakaipoipo noa, ā, anei ngā momo whanaungatanga noa:
1. Te whiunga matarohia
Ko te whanaungatanga poto, ngāwari hoki i tumanakohia e Emma rāua ko Adam i te tuatahi i roto i te kiriata, No Strings Attached , he whanaungatanga ngāwari. He hononga poto tēnei, kāore he kawenga mō ngā kare ā-roto o tētahi ki tētahi. Kāore e taea te kī he whanaungatanga roa tēnei, nā te mea e rua, e toru rānei ngā marama e roa ana.
2. Hononga tuwhera: he māramatanga o te maha o ngā hoa
Ko ngā huihuinga moepuku i whakahaerehia e te Anfitriona o Club Paradiso i roto i te kiriata, More The Merrier , he tauira tika o ngā whanaungatanga tuwhera e whakaaetia ai te tangata ki te moepuku me te tangata i waho o tō rātou whanaungatanga. Ahakoa e ai ki te hinengaro whanaungatanga tūao, tera pea ētahi ture taketake mō te whanaungatanga tuwhera , ko te whakaaro kia wātea ki te whai i tō ake ira tangata ka tino tuwhera te whanaungatanga.
3. Te nekeneke: te whakawhiti i ō hoa moepuku
Ehara te moe tāne i te mea onge i roto i ngā hanganga whanaungatanga o nāianei. Ko te whakawhitiwhiti hoa moe tāne i waenganui i tētahi rōpū tāngata (kia whā pea te iti rawa) tētahi o ngā momo whanaungatanga wātea.
E ai ki ngā tāne me ngā wāhine kua pā ki te tūru, ko te kīanga noa e whakamahia ana e rātou hei whakaahua i te wheako ko, "He huarahi tino pai (tūru) hei whakaoho i te hiahia ." Koinei te kaupapa matua o ngā mea hei tumanakohia i roto i tētahi whanaungatanga noa pēnei.
4. He whanaungatanga tūao mō te wā roa
I roto i tēnei, ka whiriwhiri te tangata ki te whakaipoipo, ā, ka moe tahi mō te wā roa. Tērā pea he whakaritenga tēnei hei whakakī i te hiahia mō tētahi hononga pumau mō te wā poto, kāore koe e pikau i ngā taumahatanga engari ka whiwhi i ngā painga o tētahi hononga pumau.
5. Te whanaungatanga maha: kei tua atu i 'te kotahi'
He hanganga whanaungatanga e whakatinana ana i tētahi whanaungatanga aroha me te moepuku me te neke atu i te kotahi hoa i te wā kotahi me te whakaae whai whakaaro o ngā hoa katoa. Ahakoa he tokomaha te hunga e uru ana ki te polyamory hei poipoi i te neke atu i te kotahi whanaungatanga pumau, i ētahi wā, ka rapua hoki ngā whanaungatanga moepuku rangitahi e puta ana i waho o te whanaungatanga tuatahi. Nā tēnā ka waiho hei tētahi o ngā momo whanaungatanga wātea e piki haere ana te rongonui i ēnei rā. He pai te whakaritenga nei ki te hinengaro o te whanaungatanga wātea o te tangata.
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6. Te whiunga kare ā-roto
Ko te whanaungatanga kare ā-roto he wā e whakawhirinaki ana te tangata tetahi ki tetahi mō te pumau o te kare ā-roto. Kāore rātou e rapu ana i te ahuareka tinana mai i a rātou anō, engari kia mau ai te pumau ki roto i ō rātou ao, he pai ake ki a rātou te kōrero mō ō rātou kare ā-roto me te kore tātari. He wā poto hoki tēnei e rongo ana koe he kare ā-roto ōu mō tetahi, engari ehara i te mea koinei te āhua. He momo whanaungatanga tēnei e kore e huri hei whanaungatanga wā roa.
7. Te hihiri "kia mau tonu tōna āhua o nāianei"
I konei, kāore te hunga e whai wāhi ana ki te whanaungatanga e hiahia ana kia whanake i roto i ngā wāhanga o tō rātou whanaungatanga nā te mea e wehi ana rātou kei piripono ngā kare ā-roto. He maha ngā wā ka noho motuhake te hononga o ēnei whanaungatanga, ā, he take moepuku anake. Ka rongo pinepine koe i ngā kīanga pēnei i te "E pai ana ahau ki tō tātou wāhi" me te "Kia ngahau noa tātou". Ko tētahi o ngā momo whanaungatanga wātea tēnei, kāore ngā hoa e hiahia ki te whakauru i te here ki roto i te pikitia, ā, ka noho tahi rātou ki te ngahau me te mawhiti i te ao.

8. Ngā hoa whai painga
I roto i te kiriata, Friends With Benefits , i tumanako a Jamie rāua ko Dylan kia whai rohe tō rāua whanaungatanga . I whiriwhiria e rāua he hoahoa e uru ai ngā mahi moepuku i ētahi wā.
E ai ki tētahi o ā mātou kaipānui, ki a Helly, he tohunga tānga whenua, " He ariā ngāwari te " Friends with Benefits " mēnā kāore koe e hiahia ki te ngaro i tētahi hoa, engari kāore e taea te karo i te moepuku me rātou. Ka tukuna te ngeru kia puta i roto i te putea." E ahu mai ana tēnei i te hinengaro whanaungatanga tūao, e wehi ana te tangata kei ngaro tētahi hoa, e hiahia ana rānei kia noho ngāwari noa iho ngā mea ki a rātou.
9. Te whanaungatanga 'noho tahi'
I roto i ēnei momo whanaungatanga noa, kāore te tangata e whakaipoipo ana. He "noho noa iho" rātou. Ehara tēnei i te kī he koretake te whanaungatanga. He maha ngā wā ka whakatau te tangata ki te whai i te ia, tera pea ka kore e tae te ia ki hea. Tērā pea ka pai ki a kōrua te noho tahi, engari koinā, kāore kōrua e tumanako kia pumau.
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10. Te whanaungatanga kāore i tohua
I konei, kāore te tokorua e mōhio me pēhea te ingoa mō tō rāua whanaungatanga. Kāore e taea te whakauru i a rāua ki tētahi o ngā kāwai noa, ā, e hiahia ana rāua kia mau tonu. Ahakoa he tapanga kua whakaritea mō ngā momo whanaungatanga tūao, i konei, ehara te tokorua i te hoa, ehara hoki i te hoa aroha. Kei te wāhi hina rāua i waenganui i te tokorua, ā, kāore e taea te tāpiri i tētahi tohu ki runga.
11. Te Tūnga: he mawhiti matarohia
I te whakaaro o te noho i roto i te wā, me te ngahau 'anake', ko te whakaaro o te noho tahi , ko te pai ki a koe te wāhi kei reira koe. He pūmau te aroha me ngā pūrerehua, engari e mōhio ana koe ehara tēnei i te mea ka taea te hanga hononga mō te wā roa. Heoi, ka haere tonu koe, nā te mea, i taua wā, he tino pai ki a koe.
Tohutohu Matua
- Ka taea e tētahi hononga noa te hoatu he hoa mō ō haerenga, he hoa piripono, he kaiwhakarongo rānei e tino hiahiatia ana mēnā he take kare ā-roto.
- He rerekē ngā momo whanaungatanga wātea, arā, te whanaungatanga maha-hoa, te whanaungatanga pono, te whanaungatanga tūpono, te whanaungatanga hoa-pānga, me ētahi atu.
- I roto i te ahurea whakaipoipo o nāianei, he maha ngā tāngata e whai ana ki te whai i tētahi whanaungatanga noa hei karo i te herenga mō te wā roa.
Tērā pea ka kitea ngā whanaungatanga noa hei mawhiti atu i te ara aroha nui. Engari i te mutunga, me whai tangata te katoa, hei tangata hei tangata mō rātou anō – ā, koinei te mea e rapua ana e te tangata i te mutunga.
FAQs
Ki te kōrerotia e koe ō hiahia ki tō hoa i ētahi wā, kāti, he pono ka pai te whanaungatanga. Ki te huna e koe ō kare ā-roto, ki te kore rānei e whaki atu ki a koe anō, tera pea ka kino ki a koe me tō hoa.
Me whakatakoto e te tangata he rohe mō ngā mea e whakaaetia ana, me ngā mea kāore e whakaaetia, ā, me piri tonu ki aua rohe. Me kōrero tahi i ia wā, i ia wā, kia mōhio ai kōrua kei te kotahi tonu ō kōrua whakaaro. Ki te mea kei roto kōrua i tētahi hononga noa, kaua e kōrero ki tētahi i te mahi, i te kura rānei. Ki te mea he nui ake ngā tāngata e pā ana ki tēnei, me aro atu koe ki ā rātou tumanakohanga. Ko te mea nui kia maumahara ko te ngahau engari kaua e whakawhirinaki ki tō hoa noa.
Ehara tō takoha i te koha aroha . Mā tēnei ka taea e Bonobology te kawe tonu mai i ngā mōhiotanga hou me ngā mōhiotanga hou ki a koe i roto i tā mātou whainga ki te āwhina i te tangata o te ao ki te ako me pēhea te mahi i tetahi mea.
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