He aha ngā ngoikoretanga o te tāne i te wā o te aroha?

He maha ngā wā kua whakapae mai taku wahine i ahau mō te kore aroha. He mea miharo tonu tēnei ki ahau, nā te mea i whakaaro tonu ahau he nui ake taku whakapuaki i ahau anō i ōku hoa ina tae mai ki te aroha. I taku whakatau ki te "rangahau" i tēnei take, ka kite ahau kāore pea te mea e kiia nei e au he tohu aroha e rite ana ki tā taku wahine. He take noa tēnei e pā ana ki te tini o ngā tāne. Nō reira, haere mai ki te keri hohonu atu ki ngā ngoikoretanga o te tāne i te wā o te aroha.

Me mahi tetahi mea mō tēnei koretake o ngā tirohanga i roto i taku marena. I kite ahau he maha ngā take mō tēnei koretake o te aroha. Ahakoa te aroha ki ngā ngoikoretanga o te tangata e ngana ana ki te aroha, me mārama te tangata ki te āhua hinengaro o te tangata. Ko ngā mataku, ngā āwangawanga, te iti o te whakaaro ki a ia anō, me te maha atu o ngā take ka kiia he ngoikore i roto i ngā whanaungatanga - ki te kore e whakaarohia e koe, engari e whakaarohia e tō hoa rangatira.

13 Ngā ngoikoretanga o te tāne i te wā o te aroha

Nō reira, i kitea e au ko te korenga o te tāne ki te whai i te aroha ka puta mai i ngā āhuatanga koretake o te whanaungatanga, ngā pēhanga pāpori, te ngoikore o te whakapuakitanga o ngā kare ā-roto, Tuhinga o mua, me ētahi atu āhuatanga. Kei te hiahia koe ki te mōhio me pēhea te mahi a te tāne i ēnei āhuatanga?

Kei a mātou tētahi rārangi o ngā ngoikoretanga o te tāne i te wā e aroha ana. Kia mārama tātou ki ēnei take i mua i te kōrero mō ngā otinga.

1. Tērā pea ka āwangawanga te tāne mō tōna āhua

Ka taea e te koretake o te āhua o te tangata te arahi ki ētahi raruraru, inā koa i te wā e aroha ana. Ko ngā tāne e koretake ana i roto i ō rātou āhua ka taea:

• E pāngia ana e te manukanuka pāpori
• Te iti o te whakaaro ki a ia anō me te maia
• Kia tino aro ki ngā whakahē katoa, inā koa i muri i te whakakorenga (tūturu/kitea) mai i tētahi e pai ana ki a rātou/e arohaina ana e rātou
• Te pakanga ki te whakapuakitanga o ngā kare ā-roto
• He uaua ki te hanga hononga kare ā-roto, inā koa ki ngā hoa mahi, ki ngā hoa rānei e hiahia ana kia haere tahi

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2. E wehi ana ia kei whakakahoretia

Tērā pea kua pāngia ia e te whakakorenga, e te mamae rānei i mua, ā, ka mataku pea ia kei whakakorea ia ā muri ake nei. Koinei tētahi o ngā ngoikoretanga nui o te tāne i te wā e aroha ana. 

E ai ki te ako, ka puta te wehi o te whakakorenga i roto i ngā huarahi rerekē, tae atu ki:

• Te whanonga pai o te tangata
• he te raruraru ki te kī "kāo"
• Te huna i ō whakaaro me ō kare ā-roto pono mai i ētahi atu
• Te tuku i ētahi atu kia mahi kino ki a koe

E maumahara ana ahau ki te haerenga o taku hoa, a Maka, i wehe atu tana hoa wahine i a ia. Nā te wehi kei whakakahoretia ia i tino pāngia ai ia e tēnei, ā, nā te wehi kei whakakorea ia i whakapōrearea ai. Nā tēnei wehi i whakamanawanui ai ia ki ētahi whanonga tino kino mai i tana hoa o muri mai, ā, ka tīmata ia ki te whakaaro kua whakamahia ia. I te mutunga, me wehe e ia tēnei whanaungatanga.

3. Te āhua "tāne" — Ko tētahi o ngā ngoikoretanga maha o ngā whanaungatanga

E tumanakohia ana kia kaha ngā tāne, i te taha tinana, i te taha hinengaro hoki. Nā tēnei tumanakohanga pāpori, he tokomaha o rātou e ngana ana ki te whakaatu i a rātou anō he momo kaha, he momo whakamā, kāore e whakahaeretia e ngā kare ā-roto. Ka pā tēnei ki ō rātou whanonga i te wā e aroha ana, ā, ka kino pea mō ō rātou whanaungatanga.

Ko ngā tāne e whakaatu ana i tēnei āhua 'tāne', kāore e taea te whakapuaki i ō rātou kare ā-roto, ā, ka raru ai ō rātou whanaungatanga. Kāore rātou e mahi i tētahi o ēnei e whai ake nei, nā te mea ka āhua ngoikore rātou:

• Tangi i mua i tō hoa rangatira, i mua rānei i tētahi atu tangata
• Kōrero, amuamu rānei mō ngā ahotea i te mahi
• Whakaatuhia ō rātou riri
• Whakaaetia kāore rātou i te pai

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He maha ngā hua kino o tēnei korenga e taea te whakaatu i te ngoikore, te pehi rānei i tō tātou āhua tangata, tae atu ki ngā raruraru e pā ana ki te whanaungatanga piripono. Akoranga E whakaatu ana ngā tohunga aroāroaro i Berkeley, ko te pehi i ngā kare ā-roto ka pā kino ki tō hauora me tō oranga. Koinei tētahi o ngā take matua e ngoikore ai te tāne i roto i tētahi whanaungatanga.

Ko taku hoa a Mark tētahi o aua tāngata kāore rawa e whakaatu i ōna kare ā-roto pono i te wehi kei whakapataritari i tana hoa wahine. I roto i ngā tau, i whakaaro tonu āna hoa ki te pā atu ki a ia me te whakapuaki i ōna kare ā-roto. He tohunga ia ki te whakaari kei te pai ngā mea katoa i roto i tōna ao, engari i raro iho, kei te tatari noa taua riri katoa kia pahū. Ina pahū, ka mataku pea āna pahūtanga, ā, kāore tana whanaungatanga i ora.

4. Kāore e taea te tautuhi i ngā kare ā-roto

Kei te whakaaro koe me pēhea te whakaiti i te kaha o te tangata ki a koe? Āwhina ia ia kia mārama ki ōna kare ā-roto. Ehara i te mahi ngāwari, ā, me whai wāhi atu ia ki tēnei mahi. E ai ki te kōrero i mua ake nei, ko te uaua ki te whakapuaki i ōna kare ā-roto he ngoikoretanga nui mō te tangata. Tērā pea nā te kore e taea te tautuhi i te kare ā-roto e pā ana ki a ia. Ka pā pea tēnei korenga ki ngā āhuatanga maha o tōna ao:

• Korero korero Ka taea e ngā pūkenga te whakararu nui i tētahi whanaungatanga, ehara i te mea ki te hoa rangatira anake, engari ki te hoa, ki te hoa mahi, ki te whānau, me ētahi atu.
• Mā te kore aroha ka puta tōna āhua he tangata tino kore aroha
• Ka puta te whakaaro kāore ia e aro ki tana hoa

5. Ka patua te aroha e ngā momo āhua ira tangata

A ako nā Tara M. Chaplin e kōrero ana mō ngā momo āhua ira tangata. E mea ana ko ngā tama i roto i ngā ahurea o te Hauāuru e "whakaaetia ana kia whakapuaki i ngā kare ā-waho tae atu ki te riri, te whakahawea, me te whakarihariha" kaua ki ngā kare ā-roto o te aroha. I te tamarikitanga, ka whakapono rātou ki ngā mea pēnei i te: "He tama ahau, nō reira he pakari ahau. Ka takaro ahau i te toa nui hei utu mō te inu tī."

Mā tēnei kaha o te riri me te whakakorekore i te wahinetanga ka akiaki i te tāne kia kaua e aroha. Ko te whai i ēnei momo āhua ka waiho hei ngoikoretanga nui rawa atu o te tāne. Mā te āwhina i tō tāne ki te wero, ki te tautuhi anō, me te wikitoria i ēnei momo āhua ka āwhina i a kōrua, hei tokorua, ki te whakawhanake i tētahi hononga hauora.

Ko Maka te momo tāne tino rongonui. I pai ake ia ki ngā kiriata mahi, ā, i whakaaro ia he mea wairangi ngā kiriata aroha. Ko te wā waatea ka pau ki te whakakorikori tinana, ki te noho tahi rānei me ngā tāne, kaua ki te noho tahi me tana hoa. I whakakahore ia ki te tono awhina mo tetahi mahi whakatikatika i te kainga na te mea he mahi tāne tenei - Engari, he tino mangere ia! Nā te whanonga penei, ehara i te mea miharo i kore ai e roa ana whanaungatanga.

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6. Kāore ia e whakaaro ki ngā hiahia o tana hoa

Ko tētahi o ngā take matua e kore ai te nuinga o ngā tāne e aro ki te aroha, he onge noa iho rātou ki ngā hiahia me ngā wawata o tā rātou hoa. He maha ngā āhua o te kore whakaaro nui; ko tētahi o ngā take matua tēnei e pāngia ana e ngā whanaungatanga.

I a ia e kōrero ana mō ngā ngoikoretanga o te tāne i te wā o te aroha, ka kōrero mai a Ray, he tohunga hangarau 29-tau te pakeke nō Pasadena, mō tōna hītori ki a tātou, "He tino pai ahau ki te whakarite mahere hararei e uru ana ki te mahi i aku mea tino pai katoa. Hei tauira, ko aku mahere rā ko te nuinga o te wā ka huri ki te pōro ahakoa he pai ki taku hoa wahine te puni. He maha ngā pō i noho ai ahau ki te kāinga e mātaki ana i te whutupaoro i runga i te pouaka whakaata me te inu pia me aku hoa, ā, kāore rawa i haere tahi me ia ki te rā. Ka whakaaro ahau, kei a au aku tika! Kāore au i whakaaro mō te mahi tahi i ngā mea. "

7. Ka taea e ngā wheako o mua te ārai i te aroha

He tino uaua tēnei ina tae mai ki te whakapuaki i te aroha. Me kōrero tātou mō ngā ngoikoretanga nui o te tāne:

• I whakarērea ia e tana hoa o mua
• I pakaru tōna whakawhirinakitanga
• He taimaha te tinihanga ki tōna ngākau
• I tawaihia ia i muri i tōna tuara

Ka taea e tētahi o ēnei momo wheako kino te whakararuraru i a ia anō he uaua ki a ia te whakawhirinaki ki tētahi hoa hou ā, ka ārai i a ia ki te whakatū hononga hauora. I uaua a Maka ki te whakawhirinaki ki tana hoa wahine o nāianei nā te mea kua pakaru tōna ngākau i mua. Nā tēnei i uaua ai ki a ia te uru atu ki tētahi momo here. Ā, i tana mahi pera, ka pupuri ia i ōna kare ā-roto kia kaha - ehara i te mea pai mō tētahi hononga aroha.

8. He aha te mea e ngoikore ai te tāne i roto i tētahi whanaungatanga? Te wehi kei whakahengia ia

Ki te wehi ia kei whakahengia ia, ka taea e tēnei āhua te mea kia tino whakahē ia i a ia anō. Ka taea e ngā tāne te tino whakahē i a rātou anō. Ina tupu tēnei, ka tino aro atu rātou, ka mataku kei whakahengia hoki rātou e tā rātou hoa. Ka taea e tēnei te pā kino ki te tāne, ā, ka meinga ia kia huna i ōna kare ā-roto me te pehi i ngā whakaaturanga kare ā-roto i a ia e kōrero ana mō ngā matea matua o te whanaungatanga.

Hei ārai i tōna wehi kei whakahengia ia, kua ngana te hoa o Mark ki te waihanga i tētahi taiao kore whakahe, tautoko hoki, me te whakatenatena i a ia kia whakapuaki noa i a ia anō, kia hinga hoki i te wehi kei whakahengia ia. He tino whakamiharo ngā huringa kua puta i roto i a Mark, ā, kei te pai haere te whanaungatanga ināianei.

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9. E mataku ana ia kei herea ia ki tētahi hononga pumau

Ko tētahi o ngā ngoikoretanga nui o te tāne i te wā o te aroha, e mōhiotia ana ka whakangaro tēnei wehi i te maha o ngā whanaungatanga. He maha ngā āhuatanga ka puta ai te wehi o te piripono, tae atu ki:

• Te wehi ki te ngaro o te herekore
• Te wehi o meake nei
• Te hiahia kia maha ngā hoa mahi
• He hiahia mō tētahi mea "pai ake"
• Te kitenga i ētahi atu tāngata i roto i ngā whanaungatanga pōuri
• Te kite i a ia anō e kukume tonu ana i ētahi atu wāhine

Mā tēnei uauatanga o te whakapau kaha ka ārai i te tāne kia kaua e whai i te aroha. He Quora kaiwhakamahi e aro ana ki ngā ngoikoretanga o te tāne i te wā e whakaipoipo ana: "Tuatahi, me mārama koe he aha te take kāore taua tangata e hiahia kia herea (kia herea). Tērā pea nā te mea kāore ia e pai ki te mahi. Tērā pea nā te mea kāore ia e hiahia kia ngaro te mana whakahaere whaiaro, ā, kāore i a ia te taumata whakawhirinaki e hiahiatia ana hei mahi pēnā. Tērā pea he hononga ki tētahi huihuinga mamae o mua (arā, te tāwharau/te whakaeke) ka waihanga i tētahi wheako tino whakaohooho mōna."

10. Ka wareware ia ki te hiranga o te whakawhitiwhiti kōrero

Ko te whakawhitiwhiti kōrero tuwhera me te pono te kī ki te whanaungatanga piripono i roto i te whanaungatanga hauora. Anei ētahi o ngā āhuatanga o mua o Maka:

• Te kōrero rohe: He tokomaha te hunga kāore e mōhio ki te tuhi rohe hauora i roto i tētahi whanaungatanga, i te kōrero rānei ki tā rātou hoa he aha ngā whanonga e whakaaetia ana, e kore e whakaaetia ana. Hei tauira, i kino a Maka ki te tawai a tana hoa ki a ia i mua i ana hoa, engari kāore i te whakapuaki i tēnei ki a ia. Ka puritia e ia tōna riri, ā, i te mutunga, ka pahū, ka meinga ia kia kōrero i ngā mea ka whara i a ia.
• Te tirotiro i ia wā: He huarahi nui tēnei hei whakaatu i tō ngākau nui ki te whanaungatanga. Anei ētahi tauira: Kei te pēhea tō hauora hinengaro i tēnei rā? Kei te pai koe ki tēnei pā? Kei te pēhea ō kare ā-roto i muri i tā tāua pakanga?
• Te pupuri i tō hoa i roto i te porowhita: He maha ngā wā ka wareware a Maka ki te whakamōhio atu ki tana hoa mēnā ka tomuri ia i te hokinga mai i te mahi, ā, ka tino manukanuka ia. Mā te waea noa iho ka taea te karo i tēnei.
• Te whakawhitiwhiti kōrero kore-waha: Kāore a Maka i tino pai ki tēnei momo whakawhitiwhiti kōrero. Kāore ia i te pai ki te whakapā atu ki tana hoa, kāore rawa i te pā atu ki a ia, ā, he maha ngā wā ka noho ia ki runga i tētahi atu tūru kaua ki tōna taha. I te mutunga, kāore i taea e ia te pupuri i te mura o te aroha i roto i ana whanaungatanga o mua.

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11. Ngā ngoikoretanga noa o te tangata: Te koretake o te moepuku me te manukanuka ki te mahi moepuku

Akoranga Kua whakaatuhia e ngā rangahau ko te manukanuka mahi moepuku (SPA) e pā ana ki te 9% ki te 25% o ngā tāne, ā, he tino take tēnei o te ngoikore o te ure. Ka taea e ngā kare ā-roto o te koretake o te moepuku te pā kino ki te tāne i te wā e aroha ana. He wāhanga tēnei e raru ana te nuinga o ngā tāne, ā, me āwhina pea rātou e ngā tohunga ngaio hei whakatau.

tetahi ako e tūhura ana i te taunekeneke o ngā take hinengaro o te koretake o te moepuku me ngā āhuatanga ā-tinana. Kei roto i ēnei ko:

• Ka taea e te kore o te wheako kia whakaaro ia kāore ia i te pai
• Tērā pea ko te ngoikore o te tāne i te wā e kihi ana, e moe ai rānei, nā te kore wheako, ka hua ake te manukanuka ki te mahi.
• Ka taea e te mātakitaki nui rawa i ngā kiriata pono te hoatu ki a ia ngā whakaaro hē mō te taatai ​​i te ao tūturu.
• Ngā raruraru ā-tinana i roto i te rohe pelvic pērā i te pōrearea erectile (ED) te ejaculation wawe rānei
• Tērā pea he wheako moepuku o mua i tawaihia ai ia

I te nuinga o te wā, i aroturuki a Mark i ōna ngoikoretanga moepuku, arā, ahakoa kāore he raruraru ā-tinana, i whakaaro tonu ia he ngoikore ia i runga i te moenga, ā, nā tēnei i whakaiti i tana hiahia. I kī mai ia nā te mea i whakatoi tana hoa o mua i a ia. Nō reira, kāore ia i whiwhi i te tino pai o te moepuku. Ā, ko te tikanga, i pā tēnei ki tana mahi.

12. Tērā pea kua kī tonu ia i te whakahāwea i a ia anō me ngā whakaaro nui rawa

He maha ngā tāne e pātai tonu ana ki ō rātou ake pūkenga i roto i te whanaungatanga aroha. Nā tēnei pakanga ki te whakaroa i a rātou anō ka uaua ki a rātou te noho pono, ka aukati i te hiahia ki te aroha. Me pēhea te kimi i te ngoikore o te tāne? He māmā noa iho. Tirohia mēnā ka kitea e koe tēnei tauira: Ka taea e te whakaroa i a rātou anō te huri i ngā tāne pai rawa atu ki roto i ngā kōhao kore whakatau, me te whakaaroaro tonu i ia whakataunga. Ka horapa te whakaroa i a rātou anō ki roto i ā rātou whanaungatanga, ka whakaroa hoki i a rātou ki ā rātou hoa.

Nā te nui o te ruarua o Maka i a ia anō, i whakaaro ia kāore tana hoa i te tino aroha ki a ia. "He aha te take o te whai i te aroha," i mea mai ia ki ahau i tētahi wā, "ki te kore ia e aroha pono ki ahau? "

13. He mea whakararuraru tonu te iti o te whakaaro ki a ia anō

Ko tētahi o ngā ngoikoretanga tino kitea o te tāne i te wā e aroha ana, e tino whakaae ana koe. Ko te iti o te whakaaro ki a ia anō te pūtake o ngā raruraru o te tini o ngā tāne. I te taha o ētahi atu wehi me ngā āwangawanga, ka tino pā kino ki te tāne i te wā e aroha ana. He ara puhoi, he ara uaua hoki te pakanga ki te wawahi i te huringa kino o te wehi me te iti o te whakaaro ki a ia anō, me te whakaora i ōna pānga kino.

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Me pēhea te āwhina i te tāne kia hinga i ōna āwangawanga

I ahu mai te koretake i te wehi. He kare ā-roto o te manukanuka mō te heke mai e kore ai koe e tino māia ki a koe anō me āu mahi. Ka pā kino te koretake ki te whakaaro o tō hoa ki a ia anō, ka whakaiti i tōna whakaaro nui ki a ia anō me tōna mana. Ki te kore e tirotirohia, ka pā ki ngā āhuatanga katoa o tōna ao tae atu ki ana whanaungatanga aroha.

He tino uaua tēnei ki te horomi mēnā kei te aroha koe ki tētahi tāne e raru ana i te whanaungatanga. Kei te raru ia i ana ake raruraru, ā, kāore anō koe kia mōhio me pēhea te pā atu ki a ia i roto i te ngākau. Kia mōhio koe ko te aro me te whakatenatena katoa ka taea e koe te hoatu ka hiahiatia kia taea ai e ia te mahi i tēnei mahi ā-roto.

Ka taea e koe te ako me pēhea te kimi i ngā ngoikoretanga o te tāne i te te pūtake o ōna āwangawanga kātahi ka āwhina i a ia ki te wikitoria i aua mea. Anei me pēhea te mahi:

1. Āwhina i a ia kia mārama ki ōna kare ā-roto

He tokomaha ngā tāne kāore e taea te tautuhi i ngā āhuatanga e pā ana ki a rātou, ā, kāore rawa e taea te whakatau he aha te mea e pēnei ai ō rātou whakaaro. Me pēhea te kimi i te ngoikore o te tāne ina kore e taea e ia te kimi i a ia anō? Mā te waihanga i tētahi taiao haumaru, tautoko hoki e taea ai e te tāne te whakapuaki i a ia anō, me te whakatenatena i te whakawhitiwhiti kōrero tuwhera, pono hoki. Mā tēnei, ka taea e koe te whakatipu i te aroha me te āwhina i a ia kia ngoikore ake.

He mea nui te kōrero aroha, me te whakaute i ngā hiahia me ngā whāinga o te hoa tokorua, mō tēnei mahi. Mā te whakatenatena mārie i a ia, ka taea e koe te akiaki i a ia ki te kōrero me te tuku urupare pai ki a ia. Mā tēnei ka ako ia he pai te noho ngoikore, ā, ka mahi ia i tēnā. whakakaha i te hononga.

Ki te mea kei konei koe hei ako i te whakaiti i te kaha o te tangata ki a koe, me arahi koe e au ki te hoa wahine a Maka, e tata ana rāua ki te marena. Nāna ia i āwhina ki te tūhura i ōna kare ā-roto mā te tono i a ia kia tuhia he pukapuka hei tuhi me te whakamārama i ōna kare ā-roto. Kei te akiaki tonu ia i te whakawhitiwhiti kōrero tuwhera, kia whakapuaki i ōna kare ā-roto pono. Kua tīmata ia ki te kite i te nui o ōna wehi me ōna āwangawanga e ahu mai ana i tōna whakaaro noa, ehara i te mea i ahu mai i te ao tūturu. Nā tēnei i ngāwari ake ai tana kōrero ki a ia.

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2. Hurihia tōna tirohanga mā te whakamahi i tētahi pukapuka whakawhetai

He maha ngā wā, ka puta he tirohanga kino rawa atu ki te tangata nā te koretake o tōna wairua mō ngā āhuatanga maha o tōna ao. Tērā pea ka puta he whakaaro kino ki a ia pērā i a Maka i mua: "He aha te take o te noho aroha mēnā ka whakarērea ahau e ia?"

Ko tētahi tohutohu nui hei āwhina i a ia ki te whakatipu i tētahi waiaro pai ko te akiaki i a ia ki te pupuri i tētahi pukapuka whakawhetai. He whakaaro pai tēnei hei āwhina i a ia ki te whakarerekē i tana tirohanga. Ka taea e tētahi pukapuka whakawhetai te neke i tana arotahi mai i ngā mea katoa e kitea ana e ia he hē i roto i tōna ao ki ngā mea katoa e pai ana te haere i roto i tōna ao. Mā te haere tonu, ka kore ia e aro ki ngā mea ka hē pea, ā, ka ngaro te mana o ōna āwangawanga ki a ia.

3. Hei mahi i ngā ngoikoretanga o te tangata i te wā o te aroha, ka tūtohuhia te aroātahi me te whakaora hinengaro.

Ka taea e te aroātahi te āwhina i te tangata kia rongo i ō rātou kare ā-roto i te wā tonu. E ai ki ngā rangahau nā J. David Creswell o te Tari Hinengaro, Te Whare Wānanga o Carnegie Mellon, kua whakaarohia he whai hua te wawaotanga e ahu mai ana i te aroātahi ki te āwhina i ngā tāngata takitahi ki te aro atu ki ngā taiao ahotea nui. I tino whai hua hoki a Mark i te yoga me te whakaaroaro, ā, kua kaha ake tana pūkenga ki te whakataurite i ngā hiahia o tana mahi me tana whanaungatanga.

Mena he tino pōuri te āhua o tō tāne, he pai ake te kimi i tētahi kaiwhakaora hinengaro, i tētahi tohunga hauora hinengaro rānei. Ka taea e rātou te āwhina i a ia ki te tautuhi i ōna kare ā-roto me te rapu i ngā pūtake o ōna raruraru, me te āwhina i a ia ki te whakatau i ngā kare ā-roto me ngā wehi uaua e puta ai te manukanuka. Nō reira, whakatenatenahia tō tāne kia rapu āwhina ngaio, inā koa ki te whakaaro ia kāore e tika ana, kāore rānei e "tika ki te tāne".

Ki te kore ia e hiahia ki te rapu āwhina, kia manawanui, kia mahi hoki ki te waihanga i tētahi taiao tautoko. Ka taea e koe te hoki anō ki te kaupapa o tētahi kaiwhakaora hinengaro i tētahi atu rā. Kei konei tā mātou rōpū tohunga hauora hinengaro i Bonobology hei tautoko i a koe. Ahakoa i te tīmatanga, kua tino whai hua a Mark i te kitenga i tētahi kaiwhakaora hinengaro. I ēnei rā, kua nui ake tana whakapuakitanga. Kāore ia e tangi ana, e rite ana rānei ki tētahi puna piripono e tatari ana kia pakū.

He tino uaua te whakatau i ngā herenga o tētahi tāne i roto i tētahi whanaungatanga ina hiahia koe kia mārama ake ia ki ōna ngoikoretanga. Ki te hiahia koe ki tētahi whanaungatanga hauora, ā, kei roto koe i taua whanaungatanga mō te wā roa, me tino manawanui koe, me tautoko hoki i a koe e whakatau ana ki tāu tāne, ki ōna āwangawanga, me ōna ngoikoretanga e kitea ana, e kitea ana rānei, e tūturu ana rānei.

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Me pēhea te whakautu, "He aha tāu e rapu ana i roto i te whanaungatanga?"

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Kāore tō koha e kiia he kaupapa aroha takohaMā tēnei ka taea e Bonobology te kawe mai i ngā mōhiotanga hou me ngā mōhiotanga hou ki a koe i roto i tā mātou whainga ki te āwhina i te tangata katoa o te ao ki te ako me pēhea te mahi i tetahi mea.