25 Ngā Tohu e Āwhina Ana Te Tangata Ki A Koe, E Ai Ki Ngā Tohunga Whakaipoipo

Kua kite koe i a koe e titiro matatau ana ki tō waea pūkoro, e wetewete ana i tētahi ataata, i tētahi emoji rānei mai i tētahi tāne, me te mea he karere huna? Kua pā ki a tātou katoa tēnei, i a tātou e moe ana mō te pātai, "E pai ana ia ki ahau?" He mea noa te huri haere ki ngā momo āhuatanga katoa. He pono, ka taea e ngā tāne te tuku i ngā momo tohu rerekē, ahakoa he pono ō rātou kare ā-roto mōu. I tētahi meneti ka tuku karere ia me te mea he porangi, i tētahi meneti ka whakamōmona ia i te reo irirangi, ka puta he āwangawanga mō te aha, te take, me te pēhea i roto i tō mahunga. Heoi, e ai ki ngā tohunga whakaipoipo, ko te wetewete i ngā tohu e hiahia ana tētahi tāne ki a koe ehara i te mea uaua pērā i te āhua. 

Koia tonu te take i hangaia ai tēnei aratohu. Whakaarohia tēnei hei tohu whaiaro māu mō ngā tohu e arohia ana koe e te tāne engari e huna ana, kāore rānei i te rite ki te whakaatu, e tautokona ana e ngā māramatanga tohunga me ngā wheako tūturu o ngā wāhine kua pā ki tēnei raruraru. Kāore mātou e tuku atu ana i tētahi tikanga makutu ki a koe, engari mā ēnei māramatanga ka āwhina i a koe ki te whakakore i te whakaaro pohehe. Kua rite koe ki te kite he aha te mea e tupu ana? Me tīmata tātou. 

25 Ngā Tohu e Āwhina Ana te Tāne ki a Koe—Nā Ngā Tohunga Teití i Whakamārama

Whakaarohia ia o ēnei tohu e 25 e kukume ana tētahi tāne ki a koe, pērā i tētahi wāhanga o tētahi panga. Kāore e taea e te tohu kotahi anake te whakaatu i te pikitia katoa. E mea ana te kaiako whakaipoipo a Geetarsh Kaur, "Ina tae ki te wetewete i ngā kare ā-roto o tētahi atu tangata, kāore he tohu kotahi e taea te kī he hiahia aroha tōu." Ki te hiahia koe ki tētahi whakautu ki te pātai, "E pai ana ia ki ahau?", me aro koe ki ngā tauira whānui o āna whanonga e karapoti ana i a koe. Ā, ngā tohu kaha o te kukume tāne ka tīmata te puta. Pānuihia te rārangi, ā, tera pea ka kite koe i tētahi kaupapa i roto i tana whanonga:

1. Ka titiro matatau ia ki ngā kanohi

"He mea nui te titiro kanohi, he wāhanga tūturu o te whakawhitiwhiti kōrero e whakamahia ana hei whakaatu i te hiahia me te kukume," te kī a te tohunga hinengaro a Wendy L. Patric. Waihoki, e kī ana te tohunga reo tinana a Vanessa Van Edwards, "He maha ngā tāne e whakaatu ana i ngā kare ā-roto o te kukume mā te titiro kanohi. 

Ki te mea kei te titiro mai ia ki a koe, me te pupuri tonu i a ia, ina koa me te ataata, koinei tētahi o ngā tohu tino rongonui o te reo tinana e pai ana te tāne ki a koe. Tērā pea ka kitea e ia tō kanohi i tērā taha o te rūma, i te mahi rānei. Ina titiro atu koe ki a ia, ā, ka titiro tonu ia ki a koe, kaua e tahuri wawe atu, he tohu mārama tēnā o tōna hiahia. Ko tētahi atu tohu ko tana titiro tonu ki a koe i roto i te kōrero, ahakoa kei reira ētahi atu. 

2. Ka piko atu ia, ka tū tuwhera ki tō taha

I mua noa atu i tana whakapuakitanga i ōna kare ā-roto, i mua rānei i tōna tino mōhio ki aua kare ā-roto, ngā tohu reo tinana e pai ana te tāne ki a koe ka tīmata te puta. Anei te āhua: 

• I a koe e kōrero ana, ka tahuri tōna tinana ki a koe, ā, ka piko atu pea kia rongo ia i ia kupu
• I roto i tētahi rōpū, ka neke ia ki te tū, ki te noho rānei i tō taha
• E anga atu ana ōna waewae me ōna pakihiwi ki a koe, e whakaatu ana ko koe te pokapū o tana aro
• Tērā pea ka piko tata mai ia ina kōrero koe i roto i tētahi rūma haruru, me te ngana ki te whakarongo ki a koe

E whakamārama ana te kaiwhakaora hinengaro a Tākuta Alison Tarlow, "Ina hiahia te tangata ki a koe, ka tahuri mai rātou ki a koe. He whakaaturanga huna tēnei o tō rātou hiahia kia tata ki a koe." 

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3. Ka whakaata ia i ō nekehanga me ō hiahia

E kī ana a Nick Hobson, te kaituhi o Forbes, "Ki te pai tetahi ki a koe, ka whai tonu rātou i ō nekehanga tinana." Anei te āhua o ngā tohu tinana o te kukume i te tangata: 

• Ina whiti koe i ō ringa, ka pera anō hoki ia i ētahi wā
• Ki te kata koe, ki te whakamahi rānei i tētahi tohu motuhake, ka mahi pinepine ia i muri tonu i a koe
• I roto i te kōrero, ka tīmata ia ki te tango i ō kīanga, i ō rerenga kōrero rānei
• Tērā pea ka pārekareka ohorere ia ki ngā mahi whakangahau ōrite, ka kōrero rānei mō te pai ki ō waiata, ki ō whakaaturanga rānei tino pai

Ka kitea rawatia tēnei āhua ki te whakaata i ngā mahi me ngā whanonga, ā, kāore e taea te wareware. E ai ki tētahi kaiwhakamahi Reddit r/offmychest"E pai ana ia ki ngā mea katoa e pai ana ahau ki a ia... Me te mea nei he tangata kotahi tonu māua." Koinei te huarahi i taea ai e ia te mōhio kei te hiahia tēnei tangata ki a ia. He meta kua ngaro atu i te whakaata i te hiahia!

4. Ka aro nui atu ia ki a koe

Ko te tangata e aroha ana ki a koe ka waiho hei he kaiwhakarongo paiE whakamārama ana a Vin Serai, te kaiako whakaipoipo, "Ka titiro ia ki a koe i a koe e kōrero ana, ka pōkaikaha, ka whakaputa i ngā oro whakatenatena, e whakaatu ana kei te tino rongo ia i a koe." Ki te rapu koe i ngā tohu e arohia ana koe e te tāne, tirohia mēnā: 

• I roto i te kōrero, kāore ia e tirotiro i tana waea, e titiro haere rānei
• Ka mau tonu ōna kanohi ki ōu kanohi
• Ka pātai ia i ngā pātai whai muri mai, ā, ka whakahua anō i ngā kaupapa i kōrerotia e koe i ngā rā, i ngā wiki rānei kua pahure.
• Kāore ia e whakakorekore, e whakakorekore rānei i ō kōrero
• Ahakoa he mea nui, he mea iti rānei tā kōrua e kōrero ana, ka whakaatu ia i te mea he mea nui. "He pai ki a koe te tī chamomile, āe? Kei te mahara ahau!"

Ka maumahara ia ki tāu e kōrero ana, kāore e hiahiatia he whakamahara, nā te mea ka puritia e ia ngā kupu katoa e kōrerohia ana e koe. Ka puta noa tēnā ina tino aroha te tāne ki a koe. 

5. Ka tuwhera ia ki a koe

He maha ngā wā ka tiakina e te tangata ngā taipitopito whaiaro i te taha o ō rātou hoa, tae noa ki ngā hoa. Engari ki te hiahia te tangata ki a koe, ka tukua e ia tōna tiaki, ā,

• Ngā kōrero a ngā tūao mō tōna tamarikitanga, mō tōna whānau rānei
• E kōrero ana ki a koe mō ngā mea kāore anō kia kōrerotia e ia ki ētahi atu, pērā i te taranata huna, i te wehi rānei
• Kōrerohia ngā kaupapa pākiki pēnei i ngā hoa o mua, ngā hinganga o mua rānei 
• Whakaaetia ōna kare ā-roto

Tērā pea tēnei e rite ana ki te mea kei te hutia e ia te ārai o tōna ao, me te tuku atu i tētahi tirohanga ki a koe ki ngā āhuatanga o tōna ao e huna ana ia i te ao. E mea ana a Sylvia Smith, he kaituhi whanaungatanga, "Ina kōrero ia i ngā mea whaiaro ki a koe, he mahi nā te te tangata e ngoikore ana ki te wahine, ā, kāore tēnā e tupu mēnā kāore ia e hiahia kia piripono ki a koe.” Ko tēnei whakapuakitanga o ngā ngoikoretanga ko tāna huarahi ki te kī e whakawhirinaki ana ia ki a koe.

A Reddit kaiwhakamahi i whakaahua i tēnei āhuatanga o tana whanaungatanga me tana hoa mahi, me te kī, "Te āhua nei kei a ia tēnei hiahia kia mōhio ahau ki ngā mea katoa. Ko te mea rerekē, he āhua tūturu noa iho. E tino whakawhirinaki ana ahau ki a ia, ā, kua tuwhera atu hoki ōku whakaaro ki a ia. He rite tonu ki te whakawhitiwhiti kōrero hauora, tuwhera hoki i waenganui i te tokorua e pai ana tetahi ki tetahi."

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6. Ka kite ia i ngā huringa iti i roto i a koe

Ko tētahi o ngā tohu tino kaha o te kukume i te tāne ko tōna aro nui. Ina he aroha pono tō te tāne ki a koe, ka kite ia i ngā huringa iti noa iho o tō āhua, o tō whanonga, o tō wairua, o tō whanonga rānei. E kī ana anō a Sneha Tete, te kaiako whakaipoipo, "Ki te kite ia i ō kākahu, i ō makawe, me tō hanga kanohi, ā, ka mihi atu ki a koe mō tētahi o ēnei, e tino aroha ana ia ki a koe." Ka taea e koe te mutu te whakamamae i a koe anō me te pātai, "E pai ana ia ki ahau??", mēnā kua pā mai tētahi o ēnei ki a koe: 

• Kua tāpirihia e koe he tae rīpene ngutu hou? Ko ia te tuatahi ki te kī, "Āe, he tino pai tēnei tae mōu." 
• Ka kite ia ina whakawhiti koe i ngā mōhiti, ina whakawhiti rānei i tō hinu kakara
• Ahakoa te whakaaro kāore tetahi i kite i tētahi panoni iti i mahia e koe ki tō āhua, e kore ia e wareware ki te whakahua i taua panoni. "He whakakai taringa hou? He pai ki a koe."

He mea ohorere noa iho ēnei mihi, ā, he mea e tino pā ana ki te ngākau. Tae noa ki te wā ka tīmata koe ki te tumanako atu ki aua mihi. Ki te kore ia e mahara kua whakaritea he wā ki te tapahi makawe māu, ā, ka tono atu kia tukuna mai he whakaahua māu, e whakaaro ana koe kua kore te kaupapa matua o te tapahi makawe. 

7. Ka mataku ia, ka whero tōna mata

He maha ngā wā ka puta mai te kukume me te pūngao mataku. E ai ki te kaituhi a Sean Jameson, mēnā "ka whero wawe ia i a koe, ka hē tana kōrero, ka whakama, ka mataku rānei, he nui te tūponotanga kei te pirangi ia ki a koe!" Mēnā he aroha tō te tāne ki a koe, ka whakaatu ia i tētahi, i ētahi atu rānei o ēnei tohu rongonui o te pūrerehua i roto i te puku i tō taha:

• Tērā pea ka kata ia me te mataku ahakoa he kata ngawari noa iho
• Rūrūhia kia paku
• Titiro atu ina kite koe i a ia e titiro matatau mai ana
• Tērā pea ka whero ōna paparinga ina whakamoemititia ia
• Tērā pea ka paku kōrero ia mēnā ka pātai tika atu koe ki a ia

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8. Ka kitea e ia ngā take hei pā atu ki a koe

I kite a Heidi, he kaiārahi tamariki, i te kaha tonu o ngā pāpā o tētahi o āna ākonga ki te kōrero ki a ia i ngā wā katoa e noho ana ia i te puni o te kura, ahakoa mō ngā PTA, mō te tiki mai, mō te tuku atu rānei i tana tamaiti. I a rāua e noho hoa ana, ka kitea e ia he huarahi hei whakapā atu ki a ia. He pā mārie ki te pakihiwi, he mirimiri noa rānei ki te ringa. I ia wā ka tupu, ka whakaaro a Heidi he aha te take tae noa ki tana tono kia haere tahi rāua. 

E whakamārama ana te tohunga hinengaro a Kristie Tse, "He mea noa iho pa tinana "pēnei i te pā mārie ki te ringa, ki te pakihiwi rānei, ka taea te tohu i te hiahia kia tata." Ki te rapu koe i ngā tohu ā-tinana o te kukume mai i tētahi tāne, kia aro ki ēnei:  

• Ka okioki poto tōna ringa ki tō pakihiwi i a ia e hikoi ana, ka pēhi rānei i tō ringa hei wero takaro
• Ka awhi ia i a koe me te poroporoaki "pēhi"
• I a koe e kōrero ana, ka totoro atu pea tōna ringa ki te whakatika i tētahi mea ki a koe, pērā i te kuhu i ō makawe ki muri i tō taringa
• Ahakoa ngā paraihe iti, ngā paraihe "tūpono" rānei, pērā i tōna ringa ki tō tuara, ki tō huha rānei, he maha tonu ngā wā ka whai take anō hoki.

9. Ka kata ia ki āu kata katoa

Ina aroha te tāne ki a koe, ka takaro ia i te tūranga o te kaiwhaiwhai hihiri. Tērā pea ka kite koe i tana kata nui, ahakoa he kupu whakakatakata, he kōrero noa rānei, me te mea he tino pukuhohe, ahakoa he noa te nui o te katakata i roto i tāu i kōrero ai. Tērā pea ka menemene tonu ia ki a koe, me te whakaatu i taua menemene mahana i tō aroaro. I ētahi wā, ka kite pea koe i a ia e kata ana ki ngā mea kāore i te tino katakata āu e kōrero nei, nā te mea he katakata koe ki a ia. I te katoa, ki te harikoa tonu ia ki te noho tahi me koe, ā, ka mahi hei kaiwhakatenatena mōu, koinei tētahi o ngā tohu mārama e arohia ana te tāne ki a koe.

10. Ka kaha tana taunekeneke ki a koe i runga ipurangi

Kāore ngā tohu o te kukume i te tangata e kitea ana i roto i te taunekeneke kanohi ki te kanohi anake, engari ka kitea anō hoki i roto i ngā taunekeneke mariko, ahakoa mā te tuhinga, mā te pāpāho pāpori rānei. Ka tino kitea tonutia e ia, 

• Ka tukuna atu he karere kuputuhi i roto i ngā meneti, ahakoa mō ngā mea matapōkere pēnei i te, "I kite ahau i tētahi ngeru e rite ana ki tāu!"
• Tāpirihia ana ngā emoji 😊❤️😜 ki ana karere, ki ngā GIF rorirori rānei. Ae, he whiringa nā te tāne Ka taea e ngā emoji te whakaatu kei te pai ia ki a koe
• Ahakoa ka tuku karere koe i te pō, i te atatu rānei, ka tere tonu tana whakautu mai.
• Tukua he karere kuputuhi takirua kia kite ai mēnā kei te pai koe mēnā ka ngaro atu koe i te kōrerorero mō te rā kotahi
• Kimihia he huarahi hei tuku karere reka ki a koe ahakoa i roto i ngā kōrerorero rōpū 

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11. He maha ana mihi ki tō āhua

Ka kite te tangata e aroha ana ki a koe, ka kōrero mō tō āhua, ā, e kore ana kupu whakamihi me ana kupu whakamihi e noho noa iho, engari ka kitea e ia he tikanga. ngā huarahi hei whakanui i a koe anō me āna kupu, pērā i: 

• "Āe, he tino ataahua tō āhua i roto i taua kākahu!" 
• "He tino rerekē ō kanohi."
• "He kakara pai tōu, he aha te kākahu e mau ana koe i tēnei rā?" 
• "He tino pai tō momo makawe ki a koe."

Ko te mea nui, he maha ngā wā ka ohorere koe i ēnei mihi whakamihi, ā, ka waiho koe kia whakaaro ki a ia mō tētahi wā roa.

12. Ka mihi ia ki tō āhua, ki ō mahi rānei

Mō ngā mihi, kāore tōna maioha ki a koe e herea noa ki tō āhua. He maha ngā wā ka whakaatu ngā tāne i tō rātou pai ki a koe mā te mihi ki a koe, me te whakaatu hoki i tō rātou maioha ki tō āhua, ki ō mahi, me tō waiaro. Hei tauira, 

• Ina whakaoti rapanga koe, ina mahi rānei i tētahi mea whakaaro nui, ka mea ia, “He tino atamai koe” me “He tino atawhai koe.” 
• Ka miharo ia ki tō wairua whakakatakata, ā, ka mea, “He tino katakata koe!” 
• E whakaatu ana ia i te maioha mō tō tikanga mahi mā te kī, "Kāore anō ahau kia tūtaki ki tētahi tangata penei tōna ngākau pono." 

enei ngā mihi mai i a ia he maha ngā wā ka tae mai i te wā kāore koe i te tumanako, ā, he tohu mārama tēnei e kite ana ia i ngā mea iti rawa mōu.

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13. Ka whakatutukihia e ia tana kupu

E whakanui ana a Susan Winter, he tohunga whakaipoipo, "Ina he aroha nui tō te tāne ki tētahi wahine, ka honoa aunoa āna kupu me āna mahi." He mārama noa iho: ki te whakatakoto mahere, ki te whakatakoto kupu whakaari rānei ia, ka puritia e ia. 

• Ki te mea ia ka waea atu ia ki a koe i te Taite, ka pērā tonu
• Ka whakawātea ia i tana rārangi mahi kia kite i a koe
• Ka tae atu ia ina kī ia ka tae mai ia, kaua te whakakore i a koe miniti whakamutunga
• Ki te whakahua koe i tētahi mea e hiahia ana koe, ahakoa he pukapuka, he kai reka tino pai ki a koe, he inu rānei e pai ana ki a koe, ka whakarite ia kia whiwhi koe. 

He tohu nui tēnei mō ōna whāinga. Koinei tana huarahi ki te kī, "Kei konei ahau hei tautoko i a koe. Ka taea e koe te whakawhirinaki mai ki ahau."

14. Ka whakapaipai ia i a ia anō ina kite koe

Ko te whanonga whakapaipai i roto i ngā tāne he tohu huna anō mō ​​te kukume i a rātou. Ka mahi ngā tāngata i ngā mea iti hei ātaahua i a rātou i te taha o tētahi e pai ana ki a rātou. E kī ana a Edwards, "Tērā pea ka kitea ia e whakatikatika ana i ōna kākahu, i ōna makawe rānei i a koe e whakatata atu ana. Kāore ia e whakama ana i a ia anō, engari kei te "whakapaipai" i tōna āhua ki a koe. He aha te āhua o tēnei whanonga whakapaipai? Anei ētahi tohu hei tirotiro māu:

• Ina kite ia i a koe e tata ana, ina kite rānei ia i a koe e titiro ana, ka whakatika tonu pea ia i te kara o tōna hāte, ka paraihe i te huruhuru hipi, ka mirimiri rānei i ōna makawe ki ōna maihao.
• Ki te mihi atu koe ki a ia, tera pea ka paku pōkaikaha ia, ka takaro mārire ki ōna makawe.
• Tērā pea ka nui ake tana tirotiro i a ia anō i roto i ngā mata whakaata ina noho tahi koe

15. Ka pātai atu ia ki a koe i ngā pātai hōhonu, whakakitenga rānei

Ki te mea kei te kukume ia i a koe, ka tino hiahia ia ki te mōhio ki a koe. E kī ana a Tākuta Tse, "Tērā pea ka pātai ia ngā pātai hohonu ake mō ō whakaaro me ō kare ā-roto, kaua hoki e kōrero noa iho i runga i te mata. Mā te ngana ki te mōhio ki a koe i runga i te taumata whaiaro, kei te tohu ia kei te aro nui ia. Nō reira, 

• Engari ko te pātai noa iho "Kei te pēhea tō rā?", ka pātai ia "He aha te wāhanga pai rawa atu o tō wiki?" "He aha ō whakaaro mō tēnā?" 
• Ka pātai ia mō ō moemoeā, tō whānau, ō whakaaro rānei mō tō oranga
• Tērā pea ka takaro noa ia ki te tautohetohe ki a koe mō ngā uara, ki te kōrero rānei mō ngā mahere ā meake nei, me te hiahia kia mārama ki tō whakaaro.

Ina kōrero kōrua, ka rapu ia i te huarahi nā te mea e hiahia ana ia kia mōhio ki a koe, pērā i te tuara o tōna ringa. Koinei tētahi o ngā tohu tino kitea e aro ana te tāne ki a koe engari e huna ana, kāore rānei i te rite ki te whakapuaki i ōna kare ā-roto.

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16. Ka takaro ia i a koe

He mahi whakaipoipo noa te whakatoi, ā, ko tētahi o ngā mahi ā-tinana me te ā-tinana kāore i te tino mōhiotia whānuitia. raruraru fakasekisualé ngā tohu mai i tētahi tangata. kotahi Redditor e mea ana, "Ko te whakatoi te huarahi māmā me te huarahi pai ki te takaro ki tētahi e pai ana ki a koe, me te kore e puta he ahua whakamataku, he ahua pouri rānei." Ina kata ia ki a koe, i roto i te huarahi māmā, whakawhitiwhiti kōrero, he tohu kei te pai ia, kei te hiahia hoki. Ko ngā tohu o te kukume mai i te tāne ehara i te mea he ngawari, he aroha hoki i ngā wā katoa; tera pea ka rite ki: 

• Te whakamātau i a koe mō tētahi mea i roto i te huarahi mārie 
• Te tawai ki tētahi o ōu āhua rerekē
• Te kata ina tawai koe i a ia
• Te whakamahi i ngā ingoa rorirori 

Ko te tino tohu ko tana whakatoi ehara i te mea kino engari he mahana, he takaro hoki. Ko tēnei kōrero whakakatakata tana huarahi ki te hanga hononga ki a koe i roto i te huarahi ngahau.

17. Ka āwhina ia i a koe, ka tautoko hoki i a koe

He maha ngā wā ka whakapau kaha te tangata e pai ana ki a koe ki te āwhina. Ahakoa he mahi tahi i te wā e nui ana āu mahi, he tuku tohutohu, he tuku rānei i ōna pūkenga mō tētahi kaupapa e mahi ana koe, kei reira tonu ia hei tautoko i a koe. Mena kei te raru koe i tētahi mea, ahakoa he kaupapa mahi, he neke mahi, he ako roa rānei, ka tuku noa ia i a ia anō ki te āwhina, ka tae atu rānei ki te āwhina me te kore e tonoa.

Ka tukuna e ia ngā rauemi, ngā hononga rānei hei āwhina i a koe i te mea pai rawa atu, hei tautoko hoki i ō whāinga, hei haere ki ō huihuinga, hei whakatenatena noa rānei i a koe ina pouri koe. Koinei tana huarahi hei whakaatu i tana tautoko i a koe, hei tohu hoki kei te aro nui ia ki tō oranga me tō angitu.

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18. Ka kawea koe e ia ki roto i tana porowhita

E pai ana ia ki ahau? E aro ana ia ki ahau? Mena kei te whakaaro koe mō ngā āhuatanga ōrite, mātakitaki me pēhea tana whanonga ki a koe i roto i ngā huihuinga rōpū. Mena kei te aro ia ki a koe, ka kawea koe e ia ki te kōrero, ka tono rānei ia i a koe ki tana porowhita mā te tono i tō whakaaro, mā te tono rānei kia uru atu koe ki ana mahere. Hei tāpiri atu ki tēnei,  

• I roto i tētahi huihuinga rōpū, ka noho, ka tū rānei ia i tō taha, ka whakauru i a koe ki te kaupapa.
• Tērā pea ka kōrero ia i ngā kōrero e pā ana ki a koe, e whakaatu ana i tōu ataahua
• Ka pātai atu ia ki a koe i roto i te mano, ka whakaatu i a koe
• Ki te whakamahere koe i tētahi mea, he pono ka tukuna atu e ia he pōhiri ki a koe.

Arā, ka whakarite ia kia whakaurua koe, kia kitea hoki i roto i ana hoa, i ana hoa mahi rānei. Ko te tikanga o tēnei whakaurunga e whakaaro ana ia ki a koe he nui hei whakauru i a koe ki tōna ao.

19. He nui tana menemene ina kite ia i a koe

He uaua ki te rūpahu i ngā ataata pono, mahana. Mātakitaki mēnā ka tiaho ia ina puta mai koe. E ai ki ngā rangahau reo tinana, ka puta te "ataata Duchenne", te momo e whakakorikori ana i ngā kanohi, ina tino harikoa te tangata. He māmā noa iho, ki te meinga ia e koe kia menemene i ia wā, kia tae atu ki ōna kanohi, he tohu whakatenatena tēnā. Ko ana ataata tonu te tikanga kei te harikoa ia i tō aroaro.

20. Kua aro nui ia ki ō hoa me tō whānau

Ko te tangata e hiahia ana ki a koe, ehara i te mea ko te tūtaki noa iho i a koe ki ōna hoa, engari ka rite anō hoki tōna hiahia ki tō hunga o roto, ahakoa he hoa tata, he whānau rānei. Tērā pea ka kite koe, 

• Ka whakarongo pai ia ina kōrero koe mō ō hoa me tō whānau 
• Ka pātai anō hoki i ngā pātai whai muri. Pēnei i te, "Nā, i pēhea te haere o te uiuinga a Megan?", "I pēhea te tina me tō māmā?" 
• Āta mārire, engari he pono, ka whakaatu ia i tōna hiahia kia whakamōhiotia ia ki a rātou 
• I mua i tō mōhio, ka noho ia hei wāhanga nui o tō porowhita o roto 

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21. Ka whānui ake ōna kamo ina titiro ia ki a koe

Ko tētahi o ngā tohu tino ngāwari engari he tino pono o te reo tinana e pai ana te tāne ki a koe, ko te whānui haere o ōna kamo ina kite ia i a koe. He take pūtaiao tērā mō tēnā. rangahau kua whakaatuhia e te kukume tinana ka whakawhanui i ngā kamo o te kanohi nā te mea ina kite koe i tētahi e pai ana ki a koe, ka tīmata tō pūnaha io aroha. He uaua tēnei ki te rūpahu nā te mea ka puta i te kore mōhio ina kite tuatahi ia i a koe i muri i te okiokinga, i te wā rānei e kōrero ana kōrua. Ka pērā anō ō kamo; tera pea ka kukumea ia e ō kanohi. Ko tēnei tauhohenga "kanohi nui" he tohu aroha ā-tinana.

22. Ka whakakakahu ia i a ia anō ina mōhio ia ka kite ia i a koe

Ki te mea kei te rapu koe i ngā tohu kaha o te kukume i te tāne, kia aro ki tana whakapaipai. Ki te mea ka whakarerekē te tāne i tana āhua, ahakoa i ngā wāhi kāore e tika ana, pērā i te whare takaro, i te kura rānei, tera pea nā te mea e mōhio ana ia kei te mātakitaki koe.

I ngā rā e hiahia ana ia ki te tūtaki ki a koe, ka whiriwhiria e ia he kākahu ataahua ake, ka rerekē rānei tana whakapaipai i ōna makawe. Mena he āhua noa iho tana kākahu engari ka kite koe i a ia e whakapau kaha ana, ehara i te mea tūpono noa iho. Ahakoa ngā panoni ngawari pēnei i te hinu kakara hou me ngā hu kua orohia, he huarahi ēnei hei whakaatu i tōna aroha ki a koe mō tōna āhua.

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23. Ka tono ia i a koe ki roto i ana mahere ā muri ake nei

Ina tino pai te tāne ki a koe, ka tīmata ia ki te whakaaro whakamua, ka whakauru i a koe ki ana mahere ā muri ake nei. Tērā pea ka kite koe, ka ngana ia ki te whakauru i a koe i ngā wā katoa e kōrero ana ia mō ngā kaupapa, ngā mahere rānei e haere ake nei, nā te mea e hiahia ana ia ki te whakapau moni. wā kounga ki a koe i te mea ka taea. Hei tauira, 

• "Me haere tāua ki taua kōnohete i te marama e tū mai nei."
• "Ka taea e koe te haere mai ki te pāti a taku hoa?"
• "Ka hikoi au i te Rāhoroi; kei te hiahia koe ki te haere mai?" 
• "Kei a au tēnei kaupapa i te wiki e tū mai nei, me haere mai koe." 
• "Ka taea e tātou te whakamātau i taua kiriata e kōrerohia ana e te katoa." 

24. He tiaki ia i a koe

Ki te hiahia koe ki tētahi tāne, tera pea ka whakaatu ia i tētahi āhua tiaki. 

• Ka tuku ia i a koe ki te haere tahi me tō waka, ki te āwhina rānei i a koe ki te kawe i ngā mea
• Ka tirotirohia e ia mēnā he rerekē tō reo, he taumahatanga rānei
• Ka tū ia i tō taha i ngā wā uaua, ka āwhina rānei i a koe ki te whakatau i ngā raruraru
• Tērā pea ka uru atu ia mēnā ka whakararuraru tetahi i a koe

Mā tēnei momo aro nui e whakaatu kei te whakanuia e ia tō haumaru me tō harikoa, ā, e hangai ana hoki ki ngā āhuatanga o roto. ngā kaupapa matua o te tautoko ka puta ake ina tīmata te tangata ki te manaaki i tētahi.

25. Ka kata tonu koe, ka whai wāhi hoki

Hei whakamutunga, tirohia mēnā ka haere tonu tana ngahau. Ina kukumea ia, ka harikoa ia ki te mahi i tētahi atu mea hei pupuri i te ora o tā kōrua kōrero. Ka maumahara ia ki ngā mea e whakahihiri ana i a koe, mai i ō katakata tino pai ki tō wairua whakakatakata, ā, ka whakamahia e ia hei mea kia kata ai koe. Tērā pea ka tukuna atu e ia he meme rorirori, he katakata rānei nā te mea e mōhio ana ia ka menemene koe. Ka tīmata ia i roto i ngā katakata e kōrerohia ana e kōrua anake. I roto i ngā kōrerorero, ka āta aro atu ia ki ngā kaupapa e pai ana ki a koe. Ko te tikanga, ka noho ia hei kaiwhakangahau whaiaro māu nā te mea kāore he mea e hari ake ai ia i te kitenga i a koe e harikoa ana.

Thoughts Final

Titiro, ehara te kukume i te pana whakakā/whakaweto, he pōrearea. Kāore pea koe e tohu i ngā pouaka katoa o tēnei rārangi, ā, he pai rawa atu tēnā. Ko te mea nui ko te tauira whānui o tana whanonga i roto i te wā. Nā te mea, kāore he menemene kotahi, he karere kuputuhi, he nekehanga rānei e whakaū ana i ngā mea katoa. Engari, tirohia ngā tohu e puta tonu ana, e puta tonu ana. Āe, kia mau tonu tō āhua whakamiharo i roto i ngā mea katoa. Kia aro ki ngā tohu me te whakawhirinaki ki te kare whānui, engari kaua e moe roa mōna. Ā tōna wā, ka tīmata ngā mea ki te mārama. Kei a koe tēnei.

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