Āhea te wā e whakaaetia ai te aroha?
Ripanga o Ihirangi
Ina whakaaetia te aroha, ā, ka whakahokia mai me te kore he akiaki, he mea whakaae. Ki te kore, ahakoa ngā mahi aroha harakore, ka kore e pai, ka kore hoki e whakamarie. Kāore ngā āhuatanga rerekē o te aroha whakaae i te pango me te mā e ai ki te whakaaro o te nuinga o te tangata. Ko te kore mārama ki ēnei wāhi hina te take e kore ai te tangata e aro ki te whakaae a tētahi atu tangata, me te kore e mōhio.
Ahakoa e mārama ana te iwi ko te whakatoi ā-ira he whanonga kāore e manakohia, e kore hoki e tika, ko te mea kāore i te tino māramahia ko te pānga o taua whanonga he rerekē i te āhua o te wā. Hei tauira, ina whakatata mai tetahi hoa, tetahi rānei kāore koe i te tino mōhio ki te aroha, ehara i te mea uaua ki te tangata kāore e aro ki te whakahē i a rātou. Mena nā tetahi hoa tata kua mōhio koe ki ēnei whakatata i mahia, he uaua ake te whakahē i a rātou nā te mea kāore koe e hiahia ki te whara i ō rātou kare ā-roto.
Waihoki, ki te mea nā tētahi hoa mahi e mahi tahi ana koe i ngā mahi whakahihiko, ka mataku kei noho pōrearea ngā mahi i te mahi, nō reira, he nui ngā whakaaro e pā ana ki te huarahi pai ki te kī kāo. Inaianei, whakaarohia tētahi āhuatanga ka whakahihikohia e tō rangatira, e tō kaiwhakahaere pūrongo rānei tēnei mahi. Haunga te pōrearea, kei reira anō tētahi atu mataku – kei rapu utu i te mahi.
I roto i ēnei āhuatanga, ka tīmata koe ki te whakaaro me whakakore rawa atu rānei. Ki te pērā koe, me pēhea te mahi i tēnā me te kore e pā ki tō umanga?
Ahakoa te āta o te whakahē i tētahi tono pēnei, tera tonu te tūponotanga ka puta mai ngā momo rapu utu ngaro. Kātahi ka ara ake te pātai, he tino whakaae tahi rānei te whanaungatanga ki tētahi kaimahi he kaimahi kei raro i a ia? Koia te take he mea nui te wetewete i ngā āhuatanga o ngā whanaungatanga whakaae tahi i te wāhi mahi.
Ngā Hononga Whakaaetanga i te Wāhi Mahi – He Whakaaetanga Tuturu Rānei te Wāhi Whakarongo ki ngā Whakatairanga?
I ētahi tau kua pahure ake nei, i uru atu ahau ki tētahi uiuinga i aroha ai tētahi rangatira matua ki tana kairīpoata tonu. I moe rāua (he tamariki ā rāua), ā, i tino huna ngā mahi whakatairanga i ngā wāhanga tuatahi. I mua, he mema te wahine nō te komiti ā-roto o te whakahaere, ā, i mārama ia ki ngā mea e tupu ana, engari i whiriwhiria kia kaua e aro atu kia kitea rā anō ngā mahi whakatairanga. I taua wā, ka kōrero mārire atu ia ki a ia kei te harikoa ia i roto i tana marena, nō reira, kāore ia i te aro.
Kāore i mutu ngā mahi whakatairanga, engari i rerekē mai i te tumanako ki tētahi whanaungatanga ki te whakapuaki noa i ngā kare ā-roto. Kāore tonu i te pai ēnei kīanga ki a ia, engari kāore ia i pai ki te amuamu, i te whakaaro ka pā ki tana mahi me tana ake mahi. I tētahi rā, i a ia e haereere ana, ka tukuna atu e te rangatira he karere ki a ia:
"Kāore e taea e au te noho tawhiti atu i a koe mō te wā roa, nā te mea e aroha nui ana ahau ki a koe."
Engari, i pānuitia e tana tamāhine taiohi tēnei karere, ā, i whakakitea ki tōna pāpā, ā, i tohe kia tukuna he amuamu i raro i te Ture POSH.
I whakaarahia e ia tēnei take ki te Komiti ā-Roto mō te Whakatoi Ira Tangata, ā, i whakamōhio mai ki a mātou kāore ia e hiahia kia tukuna he mahi ki a ia, nā te mea e whakapono ana ia kāore tēnei hapa whakatau e pā kino ki tana mahi rongonui. Ko tāna anake i hiahia kia mutu tēnei whanonga. I te wā i whakamōhiotia ai te rangatira mō te amuamu, ka tūpato tonu ia, ka mea, " He aha koe i maia ai ki te kī he whakatoi ira tangata tēnei! He harakore taku aroha ki a ia!"
Kāore au i mārama ki te tikanga o tana aroha he harakore – i kīia rānei e ia kāore he hiahia moepuku ki a ia, i te mea rānei kāore ia e akiaki ana i a ia kia uru ki tētahi whanaungatanga ki a ia, kāore ia e whakatoi ana i a ia? I tino ngaro i a ia te tikanga o te aroha whakaae.
I te mutunga, i muri i tana whakamōhiotanga ki te rerekētanga i waenga i te whakatoi moepuku whānui me te whakatoi moepuku i te wāhi mahi, ka whakaae ia ki te hohou rongo. Ahakoa i whakatauhia te take i runga i te rangimārie, tera pea e pārekareka ana ki ō rātou hinengaro, pērā i taku i pārekareka ai.
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Te Wāhi Hina o tētahi Hononga Whakaaetanga ki tētahi Kaiwhakahaere
Nō nā tata nei (i te wā o te rāhui tuatahi), i tonoa ahau kia kōrero mō tētahi atu take i aroha ai te tumuaki HR o tētahi whakahaere ki tētahi kaimahi hou i puta i te whare wānanga. I uiuitia ia e ia (he mea kāore i tika kia mahia e ia) ā, ka tīmata he kōrero ki a ia mā WhatsApp hei mihi ki a ia i te wā i tukuna ai he tūranga ki a ia. I noho hoa ngā kōrero, ā, ahakoa kotahi noa te wā i tūtaki ai rāua, i roto i te wiki kotahi kua whakapuakina e ia tōna aroha me tōna hiahia ki te marena i a ia.
Nā te mea ko te mahi tuatahi tēnei a te kōtiro, ā, he nui hoki tōna whai wāhitanga, kāore ia i pai ki te kī atu kia hoki whakamuri ia. I kī atu ia he taitamariki rawa ia, ā, ki te mea he pono tana kōrero, me pātai atu ia ki a ia āhea rāua tūtaki ai.
He waimarie mōna, he iti noa ngā wā i tūtaki ai ia nā te mate urutā COVID-19. I te mutunga o tana marama whakangungu, i haere ia ki te tari ki te whakaoti i ana whakaritenga whakauru. Nā te mea he tūranga whai mana tōna, i whakarite te HR matua kia noho ia i te tari i te wā e tika ana kia toro atu ia, ā, i tōna taenga atu, ka tono ia kia haere tahi rāua ki tana tari nā te mea he koha tāna hei hoatu māna.
I tō rāua taenga ki te ararewa (i tana kitenga atu i ētahi atu tāngata i roto i te ararewa noa, ka haria ia e ia ki te ararewa ratonga), ka ngana ia ki te awhi i a ia, ka tono kia kihi ia i a ia. Ka panaia ia e te kōtiro, ā, ka puta atu i te ararewa i te wā tuatahi i taea ai. I ngā rā e rua i muri mai, ka tukuna e ia he amuamu mō te whakatoi moepuku i te wāhi mahi.
I te wā i tonoa ai ia kia whakautu ki tēnei amuamu, i whakakahore ia i te haerenga tinana (he mea tino uaua ki te whakaatu i tēnei mea nā te mea i roto i tētahi ararewa kāore he kāmera, kāore hoki he kaiwhakaatu) ā, i kī ia kāore ia i te mōhio kāore ia i aro ki a ia nā te mea kāore ia i kī kāo, ā, i haere tonu tana taunekeneke ki a ia puta noa i te marama kua hipa. I pānuihia te kōrerorero WhatsApp katoa i waenganui i a rāua e te komiti ā-roto.
Ahakoa he pono kāore i kitea he whakakorenga mārama, i kite te komiti i tētahi panonitanga nui o te reo o āna karere i ngā wā katoa ka whakatata atu ia. He "pukumahi" ia i te nuinga o te wā ina pātai ia he aha ia kāore i whakautu ki āna whakaaturanga aroha; kāore ia i te tūtaki ki a ia, i te kōrero rānei ki a ia i runga waea, ā, kāore rawa i kōrero i tētahi mea e tohu ana kua whakautu ia i ōna kare ā-roto. He hoa tonu ia, ā, kāore i kī kāore ia i te hiahia.
Ngā Whakatairanga Moni Kāore e Manakohia Te Whakakore i te Whakaaetanga
He tino noa ēnei momo āhuatanga i roto i ngā wāhi mahi, ā, he mahi uaua mā ngā komiti ā-roto te whakatau mēnā kei te taurite ngā kare ā-roto o te aroha , o te hiahia rānei. I te tuatahi o ngā take, i whakaatu te kaiwhakapae i tōna kore hiahia mā te kī kei te harikoa ia i roto i tana marena, heoi, i te tuarua o ngā take, he tino huna tēnei tohu.
Ahakoa kāore i tino kitea te whakakorenga a te tuarua o ngā kaiwhakapae, i tohu mai āna whakautu i te kore hihiri. I te pātaitanga he aha ia i kore ai i whakamārama i tōna kore aro, i kī mai te kaiwhakapae i te tīmatanga, i pai ia ki te takaro engari i tino ohorere ia i te hurihanga hei whakaaturanga aroha, ā, i tino ohorere anō hoki ia i te tono marena a ia i muri i te kotahi noa o te tūtakitanga ki a ia.
I te tīmatanga i whakaaro ia he whakakatakata noa iho ia, ā, i tōna mōhiotanga he pono tana kōrero, kāore ia i te mōhio me pēhea te whakapōrearea i a ia me te kore e whara i ōna kare ā-roto. I tua atu i tēnā, kei raro tonu ia i te mana whakamātautau, ā, kāore he tangata i taua tūranga e hiahia ana ki te whakapataritari i te tangata kei a ia te mana whakatau whakamutunga mō tā rātou tūranga mahi. Ko te mea whakamutunga mōna ko te wā i whakaaro ai ia ka noho ko te whanaungatanga ā-tinana.
Mā ēnei āhuatanga ka kitea ngā uauatanga e puta ake ana ina tukuna he tono aroha ki te mahi e te hunga kei roto i te tūranga hei awe i te oranga mahi a te kaiwhiwhi. Heoi, he mea nui kia mōhio te hunga kei roto i tēnei tūranga kāore e tika ana kia whakaae, kia whakahē rānei i aua tono mena he wehi, he whakaaro rānei kei rapu utu rātou.
Heoi, he mea nui kia kōrerohia, kia ripoatahia hoki ēnei take ki te komiti ā-roto o te whakahaere. Ko te mahi a te IC he rapu i ngā tohu tino huna hei kite mēnā i whakaaetia, kāore rānei.
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Me pēhea te karo i te hē o ngā whanaungatanga whakaae tahi i te wāhi mahi?
Nā, me pēhea e kore ai koe e whakahawea ki te whakaae a tetahi i a koe e whai ana i ō kare ā-roto, inā koa i roto i te wāhi mahi e pā ana te whakaaro o te kaumātua me te hunga e whai kawenga ana? Anei ētahi tohutohu:
- Me mārama te whakaaetanga: Me whakaatu te whakaae me te ngākau nui, me te mārama hoki. Ko te kore e kī kāo, te noho puku rānei, ehara i te mea he whakaae, he hiahia rānei.
- Te whakakorenga ngawari: He āhua mārire te whakakorenga. Hei tauira, te karo i te noho ko koe anake; te karo i ngā kōrero whaiaro, me te whakautu hihiri ina pā te kaupapa ki te mahi; te kore rānei e aro ki ēnei tono. Ehara i te he o te kaiwhakapae mena kāore te kaiwhakautu e mārama ki tēnei
- Kaua e mamae puku: Kāore e āwhina te noho puku. Ka hangaia e tēnei whanonga he taiao mahi whakarihariha, ka whakaiti i tō hua, ā, ka mutu, ka whakararu i tō ahunga whakamua. Ko tō wehenga atu i te whakahaere hei karo i tēnei āhuatanga ka pā kino noa iho ki tō ake umanga.
- Ka taea te whakatau i runga i te rangimārie: Kāore i te hua tonu i te amuamu ki te IC te mahi whiu i te kaiwhakautu. Mena e hiahia ana te kaiwhakapae kia whakatauhia i runga i te rangimārie, ka taea te whakahaere i tētahi hohou rongo, ā, ka taea hoki e te IC te tūtohu i tētahi tohutohu mō te kaiwhakautu.
- Ko ngā mahi whakatoi kino ka rite ki te whakatoi ā-ira tangata: Āe, HE WHAKATŪPATO TĒNEI I TE WĀHI MAHI. Mā ngā mahi whakatoi kino tonu (ahakoa ehara i te mea he moepuku) ka pā mai he whakatoi hinengaro me te taiao mahi kino.
Ki te hiahia koe ki tētahi kaimahi o raro iho i a koe , kia maumahara ki ēnei āhuatanga kia mōhio ai koe kei te whakatū hononga whakaae koe ki tētahi kaimahi o raro iho i a koe, ā, kia kaua e whakahawea ki tā rātou whakaae i tētahi ara, ahakoa kāore i te mōhiotia. Ki te mea kei te pāngia koe e ngā tono kino mai i tētahi kaumātua, i tētahi hoa mahi rānei, kia mōhio koe kei reira ngā huarahi ture e wātea ana ki a koe.
Ngā Whakaaro Whakamutunga: Te Pupuri i ngā Hononga Whakaute i te Mahi
Hei whakarāpopototanga, he mea nui kia mārama ko te aroha me te whakaae i te wāhi mahi he mea uaua, ā, me mārama te whakawhitiwhiti kōrero. Mā te whakamāori hē i ngā kare ā-roto o tētahi ka arahi pea ki ngā āhuatanga whakararuraru, kino hoki. Me rapu tonu i te whakaae mārama me te hihiri, ā, kia mahara ko te wahangu, te karo rānei ehara i te tohu whakaae. Mā te waihanga i tētahi taiao haumaru, whakaute hoki ka taea e te katoa te noho humarie ki te whakatakoto rohe me te whakapuaki i ngā āwangawanga. Hei tangata whai mana, kia tūpato ki ngā nekehanga mana, ā, kia whakatairanga i te ngaiotanga me te whakaute i roto i ngā taunekeneke katoa.
Ngā Pātai Auau: Te Mārama ki te Whakaaetanga i te Wāhi Mahi
1. Me aha ahau mēnā kei te tūtaki ahau ki ngā mahi whakaipoipo aroha kāore i te pai?
Kaua rawa koe e pēhia kia whakaae ki ngā mahi kāore e hiahiatia. He mea nui kia kōrero koe me te ripoata i te whanonga ki te komiti ā-roto o tō kamupene, ki tētahi hoa mahi pono rānei. Kei a koe te tika ki tētahi taiao mahi haumaru, whakaute hoki.
2. He tohu whakaae rānei te wahangu, te kore rānei e whakahē mārama i ngā mahi aroha?
Kāo, ko te wahangu, ko te kore rānei o te whakakorenga mārama ehara i te whakaae. Me mārama, me hihiri, me tuku noa te whakaae. Me whakaute hoki ngā whakakorenga ngawari pēnei i te karo i ngā kōrero whaiaro, te whakarerekē kaupapa rānei.
3. Ka taea rānei e ngā whanaungatanga aroha i waenganui i te rangatira me te rangatira o raro te whakaae tahi?
Nā te kaha o te mana e pā ana ki ēnei whanaungatanga, he maha ngā wā ka ara ake ngā pātai mō te whakaaetanga pono. Ahakoa ka whakaae ngā taha e rua i te tīmatanga, tera pea ka pēhia te tangata i raro i a ia, ka mataku rānei kei utua ia mēnā ka ngana ia ki te whakamutu i te whanaungatanga. He mea nui kia mōhio ki ēnei āhuatanga uaua, kia aro nui hoki ki ngā rohe ngaio.
4. He aha ngā hua o te kore aro ki te whakaaetanga i te wāhi mahi?
Mā te kore e aro ki te whakaaetanga ka puta he taiao mahi kino, ka pā kino ki te hua, te wairua, tae atu ki ngā mahi. Ka taea hoki e ia te arahi ki ngā mahi ture mō te whakatoi moepuku. He mea nui te whakatairanga i ngā whakawhitiwhiti kōrero mārama me te whakaute i ngā rohe hei whakatipu i tētahi wāhi mahi hauora, whakauru hoki.
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