He Aroha Tari Kua Kino – Te Kōrero mō Tina rāua ko Varun

Ehara i te mea kāore e taea te whakaaro he whanaungatanga aroha i roto i te tari ina pau te nuinga o tō rā ki te taunekeneke me ō hoa mahi. Ina noho tahi kōrua i roto i tētahi wāhi piripono i ia rā, i ia wiki, i ia wiki, i ia marama, ka taea e ngā whanaungatanga ngaio te whanake hei whanaungatanga, hei whakahoahoa, hei hononga aroha anō hoki.

He mea whakahihiri te whakaipoipo i tētahi hoa mahi. Engari i mua i te uru atu ki te ao aroha o te tari, he mea whakaaro nui kia whakaarohia he aha ka puta mēnā kāore e pai ngā mea. I ako a Tina rāua ko Varun i tēnei i te ara uaua…

I tīmata tō māua aroha i te tari i te matapihi o te pātaka kai

Ki te piki koe i ngā arawhata ki tō mātou tari i te papa tuawhā, tera pea ka kitea e koe kia toru ngā tāne me ngā wāhine e noho ana i runga i te arawhata. Ko ētahi atu o ngā tāne me ngā wāhine aroha ka kitea i te wharekai o te tari, i te Barista rānei, i raro tonu i te whare.

He kamupene tīmatanga te wāhi, ā, kī tonu i te hunga rangatahi, nō reira ngā whanaungatanga ā-tari ā, kāore i taea te karo i te whanaungatanga. I haria e mātou te ariā ki tētahi taumata rerekē. I moe ngā tāne me ngā wāhine katoa i te tari i te mutunga, engari ko Varun rāua ko au. I puta he huringa i roto i tā mātou kōrero, i ahu mai i te matapihi o te pātaka.

He rūma iti te pātaka kai i tērā pito o te tari, he matapihi tōna e whakaatu ana i te tirohanga pai rawa atu o Kolkata. I tawhiti ka kitea te Whakamaharatanga o Wikitōria, te Maidan matomato, te Vidyasagar Setu, tae atu ki te Piriti o Howrah. I te tuatahi, i hui tahi māua ko Varun ki tēnei matapihi kia kite noa i te tāone mai i te manu.

I taua wā, i te whakaipoipo ahau i tētahi, ā, he hoa wahine anō hoki tāna. He māmā noa iho ā māua kōrero, he wā noa iho, me ētahi kōrero mō te tari i ētahi wā. Koinā anake. I mōhio ahau ehara i te mea nui, engari i pēnā tonu ahau. te whakawhanake i te aroha. Ā, kāore au i mōhio me pēhea te puta atu i tēnā. 

Ōku roimata me tana awhi

I tū ahau i taua matapihi i tētahi rā, ā, kāore i taea te pupuri i ōku roimata. Kua mau ahau i taku te tinihanga a taku hoa tāne ki ahau"... He pakanga nui tā māua, ā, i mutu taku tautohetohe i te pō i mua atu. Ki ahau nei, ko te tinihanga te take whakamutunga, he mahi e kore e murua."  

I tomo mai a Varun, ā, ka kite i tōku mata whero. Kāore ia i pātai mai i tetahi mea. I tū noa ia i reira i tōku taha mō te wā roa, kātahi ka tahuri mai ka muru i ōku roimata. I awhi pūmau ahau i a ia, ā, ka awhi pūmau anō ia i ahau. I tere tonu te hononga, he hiko.

I tupu te aroha o tā māua tari i roto i te pātaka

I muri i ētahi marama, ka wehe atu hoki a Varun i tana hoa wahine. Ka tū māua i te taha o te matapihi, ka pupuri ringa, kātahi ka mirimiri tere, ā, ka tere haere ki te kihi Wīwī aroha. He mea whakamiharo, kāore he tangata i tomo mai i a māua i reira, ā, ka nui haere tō māua maia.

Tērā pea kua tīmata te hunga mahi ki te hongi i ngā mea e tupu ana i roto i te pātaka kai i a mātou e noho ana i reira. I hiahia rātou kia ora rātou, kia ora hoki mātou i te whakama mēnā ka tūtaki mai rātou ki a mātou. I mōhio rātou he mahi whakamā te hopu i tētahi e whakaipoipo ana i tētahi hoa mahi mā ngā taha e rua. 

I mōhio te katoa mō te puāwaitanga o te aroha o te tari

Kāore māua i kōrero mō tō māua whanaungatanga ki tētahi, engari ko te āhua o ā māua whanonga i te mahi, i te kanikani tahi rānei i ngā rōpū tari, kāore i waiho hei whakaaro noa iho. I mārama te katoa e mōhio ana ki tō māua whanaungatanga tari e puāwai ana. I kino taku rangatira ki taku whanaungatanga ki a Varun, ā, i whakaari tana rangatira kāore i te kite.

Kua tīmata kē ētahi o ngā tāne me ngā wāhine o te tari ki te here i te here, ā, i tae atu mātou ki tā rāua marena me te whakapaipai katoa. Ko te pātai i pātaihia tonutia ko: ko wai ka whai ake? Ka kimo mai a Varun ki ahau i tana rongonga i te pātai, ā, ka whero tōku mata. He mīharo tā māua aroha. Tae noa ki te wā i tangohia ai e Varun tētahi hikoinga kāore i tika kia mahia e ia. 

I mahia e mātou te mea kāore i te whakaarohia

I utua e ia te kaitiaki tari, ā, i riro mai i a ia ngā kī o te pātaka kai i raka i muri i te 6 i te ahiahi. I whakatenatena ia i ahau kia noho roa ki te mahi. Ahakoa te ruarua o ōku whakaaro, i kaha ake taku hiahia ki te mahi tahi me ia i taku hiahia ki te piri ki ngā ture. I mōhio māua he mahi porangi tā māua, engari i tino aroha māua. 

I wehe wawe māua i te mahi, engari i hoki mai māua i te 9 i te pō me te kī he mahi kei mua i a māua hei whakaoti. I wehe katoa ō māua hoa mahi i te 10 i te pō, ā, i waiho kau te tari katoa. I te tūpato ki ngā kāmera CCTV, i whakarite māua kia noho tonu māua ki tō māua wāhi tae noa ki taku tango i taku putea me te whakaari kei te haere atu māua ki te pātaka kai, kua tomo kē a Varun mā te whakamahi i ngā kī.

Te pānui e pā ana: Ngā Mea e 10 e tika ana, e kore e tika ana mō te whakaipoipo i tētahi hoa mahi 

I pā mai tetahi mea ki a tātou i te pōuri 

Kāore mātou i te mōhio kia pēhea te roa o tō mātou noho ki reira. Kāore he raruraru mō te iti o te wāhi me te papa mārō, ā, i pai noa mātou ki te noho tahi i roto i te pōuri, ko Varun anake i ētahi wā ka whakamutu i taku harikoa ki ōna ringa. He mea whakahihiri, he mea porangi. He mea whakahihiri te takahi i ngā ture. 

I te wa i reira hiahia, i reira anō hoki te whakaroa. I mōhio māua he hē tā māua mahi, engari kāore anō māua kia pakeke ki te whakamutu. 

I tahuri te kī i roto i te raka

He waimarie, kua oti kē taku kākahu i taua wā. I rongo ahau i te hurihanga o te kī i te raka, ā, i piri atu ahau ki a Varun i roto i te pōuri, me te tino ohorere. I kitea mārama te āhua o taku rangatira i te tatau. I a ia e wehe atu ana i roto i tana motuka ka kite ia i a mātou e hoki mai ana ki te tari. I whai wā ia, ā, ka hoki mai ki te tango i te kōrero katoa mai i te tama tari.

I panaia māua tokorua. I te aonga ake ka tonoa māua kia tuku i ā māua reta rihaina, ā, ka poroporoaki hoki ki ō māua hoa mahi katoa. He pai tēnā i tētahi ara. Kāore i taea e au te aro atu ki ngā kōrero hāhā me ngā titiro aroha i muri i tērā.

He whakama rawa te titiro pōuri o tō mātou rangatira. Me i āta tupato noa mātou ki te taiao, kua kore kē tēnei wheako katoa e taea.

Te pānui e pā ana: Tokowhitu ngā tāngata i whaki i tā rātou mau i a rātou e mahi tahi ana. 

Kāore i taea e tā māua aroha o te tari te ora i taua aituā

He tino ohorere tēnei mahi ki tō māua whanaungatanga. Kāore i taea e māua te aro atu ki te pouri me te hara, me te kore hoki e taea e māua te whakahaere i a māua anō, me te tīmata i tētahi haerenga whakakatakata pēnei. Hei whakanui ake i te kino, kāore māua i mahi mō tētahi wā, ā, nā tēnā i nui ake ai te pānga ki te whanaungatanga.

Nō tētahi umanga mātou e tere haere ana te horapa o ngā purongo, nō reira, ahakoa te wāhi i haere ai mātou ki ngā uiui, i whakakahoretia mātou i mua i te tīmatanga o ngā kōrero. Mēnā kāore mātou i mahi i runga i te hiahia ohorere, kua kore kē tēnei āhuatanga e taea. Koinā taku pouri nui rawa atu. 

He waimarie nō te kitenga o Varun i tētahi mahi i Mumbai. He mea whakamarie, nā te mea i hiahia ahau kia neke atu ia i te tāone nui. I kite ahau, ki te kore he ingoa pai i roto i te umanga, kāore e ranea te kaha o ā māua awhi me te hononga hiko hei pupuri i a māua. I ako ahau ka taea e tētahi whakatau kuware te pakaru i tō umanga. 

I neke atu māua 

Nā te mea kāore i kitea he mahi i te tāone nui, ka noho mokemoke ahau. I taua wā ka puta mai anō taku hoa tāne o mua, ā, ka hiahia ia ki te moe tahi. I murua e au tana hara. I marena māua, ā, i muri i te marena ka neke ki Singapore. Engari i a ia, kāore rawa i kitea e au te hononga tinana i a au ki a Varun.

I pūha ahau i te manawa whakangā i tana tīmatanga anō ki te tinihanga. Kāore au i mōhio ka hari mai taku hoa tinihanga i ahau, kaua i te mamae. I wehe māua. He marena poto noa iho, engari kāore au i te pouri. Ko te marena me te ora i muri i te wehenga i ako i ahau i ngā mea hou mōku anō me ngā uauatanga o tētahi whanaungatanga. 

Kua hoki mai ahau ki te tāone inaianei…

Kua rongo au i ngā hoa noa kua hoki mai a Varun, kua whakarerea hoki. I ētahi wā ka whakaaro ahau me whakapā atu anō ahau ki a ia. Me tango atu rānei te ngākau nui i taua pō whakamataku i te pātaka, ka tīmata anō?

Ki tonu te ao i ngā mea ka taea. Kei te whakaaro ahau he aha ngā mea kei te tatari mai mōku. 

Ngā Mea e Tika ana, Ngā Mea Kāore e Tika ana mō te Whakaipoipo i tētahi Hoa Mahi

E kite ana koe, he maha ngā mea e tika ana kia mahia, e kore hoki e tika kia mahia i roto i te whakaipoipo i tētahi hoa mahi me tūpato koe. Mā tētahi mahi ohorere ka raru pea koe, ka memeha hoki ngā tau o ngā whakatutukitanga ngaio.

Hei tauira, ki te mea kei te whai koe i tētahi hononga aroha i roto i te tari, he mea nui kia kaua e puta ō hiahia taikaha ki te wāhi mahi, ā, kia mau tonu tō wairua ngaio ki mua i ō rangatira. Kaua e mau ki te mahi wairangi, kaua rawa e whakamahia tō whanaungatanga hei take mō te kore e tutuki i ngā wā mutunga.

Anei ētahi atu mea hei mahi, me ngā mea kāore e tika ana mō te whakaipoipo i tētahi hoa mahi hei āwhina i a koe ki te pupuri i te aroha o te tari me te whakatipu i taua whanaungatanga whai tikanga me te kore e pā ki tō umanga:

hoki	Nga Tangata
Ngā Tohunga Mahi: Kaua e tukua ngā pakanga iti, ngā ngangau rānei kia whakararu i tō whanaungatanga i te mahi.	Takahia ngā ture: Ka raru pea koe mēnā ka mau koe e mahi ana i tētahi mea kāore i te ngaio, i tētahi mea kāore i te tika i tō wāhi mahi. Kaua e mahi i runga i ō kare ā-roto.
Te Whakawhanaunga ki ngā Hoa Mahi: He tino raruraru te whakararuraru i tō whanaungatanga ki ngā hoa mahi. Kia nui te wā e noho tahi ai koe me rātou i te wā tina me te wā kawhe.	Me waiho kia kore e pai mō ētahi atu: He mea whakamā ki ētahi atu te whakaipoipo i tētahi hoa mahi, nō reira kia kaua e huna. Kaua e uru ki te PDA.
Wehea te whaiaro mai i te ngaio: Ahakoa e mōhio ana kōrua ko tō hoa ki ō hoa mahi, ehara i te mea ka taea e kōrua te tīmata ki te kawe i ō kōrua oranga whaiaro ki te mahi. Kaua e tukuna ō kakahu paru ki te aroaro o te marea, e kōrero rānei mō ngā kōrero whaiaro mō tō kōrua whanaungatanga.	Kia tino tautokona tō hoa: Ki te mea kei te tūranga teitei ake tētahi o kōrua i tētahi atu, kaua e whakamahia hei whakatairanga rawa i te mahi a tō hoa, ā, ka kore e whai hua ētahi atu. Ahakoa kei te taumata ngaio kotahi kōrua, kaua e whakapau kaha ki te āwhina i tō hoa, ki te kore koe e pai ki te mahi mō te katoa.

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