Ndiye ndikafunsidwa kuti ndilembe zinazake zokhuza kukhala dona wokwatiwa ndi mwamuna wachilungamo, zomwe ndimachita koyamba ndikuzisiya! “Kodi mtundu uli ndi phindu paubwenzi? Ndani amene amasamala za khungu masiku ano? Ndikuganiza mokweza ndi amayi tiyi wathu wamadzulo.
“Tifunika kukambirana za nkhani ‘zazikulu’. Utsogoleri wa amuna ndi akazi. Maganizo okhudza amuna ndi akazi. Malipiro osafanana. Zochititsa manyazi,” ndinatero. Ndemanga zamitundu zimagwira ntchito m'malo omwewo achikhalidwe, iye anati. “Ndinakupemphani kuti mupake multani mitti (dothi lodzaza) ndi besan (ufa wa gramu) kuti khungu lanu likhale lowala lopanda chilema. Ndinu mwayi kuti sindinapange kesar (safironi) kukhala gawo la nthawi yanu yaubwana,” iye anatero. Ndipo ndikudziwa kuti zimenezo zinapanga kusiyana kwakukulu.
Kodi Ubale Wa Khungu Ndiwofunikadi Mu Ubale?
M'ndandanda wazopezekamo
Inde, ndikukumbukira chenjezo lake lokhudza mafuta odzola opangidwa ndi ammonia ndi mankhwala oyeretsera khungu, kupanga zinthu zopangidwa kunyumba za ana ake aakazi okongola - koma chomwe ndikukumbukira ndichakuti nthawi zonse anali ndi mawu osiyana oti munthu ndi wokongola. Monga aishwaryam (chisomo), tejas (kuwala), pakwata (kudzidalira) ndi zina zotero.
Mawu onsewa anali ogwirizana ndi malo amkati mwa matupi athu omwe amafunikira kuwonjezeredwa mu mawonekedwe a kuwerenga, zokumana nazo ndi kusinkhasinkha, osati mawonekedwe akuthupi okha. Khungu lowala linali lofunika kwambiri kuposa khungu loyera. Panali zambiri kukongola kupatula kungokhala loyera kapena lakuda.
Kufikira tsopano ndinali ndisanavomereze kuti zimenezi zinapanga malingaliro anga a kukongola. Ine ndimalemba zolemba mmalingaliro kuti ndibwerere, ndikumukumbatira iye ndi kunena kuti iye si mayi wamkulu, koma mkazi wamkulu. Ndine wokondwa kuti sanatengeke ndi kutengeka kwapakhungu ku India komwe kwavutitsa azimayi ambiri aku India.
Pambuyo pake, pa chakudya chamadzulo, ndikuyamba kuganizira za mwamuna wanga 'wabwino'. N'zodziwika bwino kuti amakonda atsikana achimalaya omwe nthawi zambiri amakhala akazi akuda. Ndipo ndakhala ndikusangalala kale ndi anthu ambiri okonda zinthu zachilendo monga m'banja lachimalaya m'banja lake la Marwadi, m'zaka zinayi za ukwati wathu.
"Chabwino, mtundu wa khungu lako ndi wokongola, umakulitsa maso ako ndi kumwetulira kwako."
Zikomo! Koma ndikudziwa kale ndipo ndikufuna kumva china chake. "Chabwino, mwina mutha kuyankhula za ine, komanso kutchuka komwe ndimasangalala nako ndikapita ku Kerala. Kumbukirani, achibale anu akuganiza kuti mwachita mwayi?" Timaseka. Timakumbukira ulendo wopita kukachisi wa banja lathu. Wansembe wapakachisi anachita chidwi kwambiri ndi maonekedwe a mwamuna wanga (mu akachisi a Kerala, amuna amayenera kukhala opanda malaya), ifenso tinali ndi chidwi chochuluka.
Ife tinali kuseka kwambiri pa izo ndiye. Timalankhula monyinyirika za azisuweni athu 'ochezeka' omwe amatiseka, ponena kuti akhoza kuvomereza zokometsera zachilungamo. Ndi iko komwe, iye ndi 'wokongola ndi wokongola' osati mbali ya anthu akhungu. Nthawi zina amati: “Mlongo wathu akuoneka kuti wayamba kuchita zinthu mwachilungamo; Sitinatsimikizepo kuti chinali nthabwala kapena kuyamikira. Koma taziseka.
Kukhala wotanganidwa ndi chilungamo
“Ndiye palibe aliyense wochokera m’banja langa (lonse) amene wanenapo kanthu za inu?” Iye amapeza mwayi wondifunsa. Sikuti ndimangoganizira za inu. “Palibe amalume, palibe azakhali?” Sindingathe kuganiza za chilichonse. Pali 'nkhani zazikulu', ndikubwerezanso. Maganizo olakwika okhudza amuna ndi akazi. Utsogoleri wa amuna ndi akazi. Ufulu wa akazi.
Posachedwapa tikukamba za Mr Tarun Vijay ndikuyang'ana maso athu pa ndemanga monga, 'Sikuti Amwenye onse aku South ali amdima!' Ndimalembanso m'maganizo: nthawi zambiri sitiyamika pazochitika zathu. Izi ndi zomwe zikutanthawuza kukhala ndi mwamuna kapena mkazi wosalowerera ndale komanso womasuka. Ndimamukonda, ndipo nthawi zambiri ndimakhala osangalala ndikulota zamakampeni komwe ali mwana wachikazi wachikazi!
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Tsiku lotsatira, zokambirana zikupitilira muofesi yanga. Pali atsikana anayi okongola amitundu yosiyanasiyana aku India omwe amagwira ntchito pano. Ndimawafunsa ngati adakumanapo ndi 'makomenti amtundu'? Pat amabwera yankho "Oh a-plenty!" Kuti? Ku makoleji awo. Nyumba zawo. Ena achichepere. Akuluakulu ena. Amaseka za 'amene' aunty akuda nkhawa kuti awakwatire ndani, chifukwa sali chilungamo. Ndipo zimachititsa atsikanawa kudzifunsa kuti, 'Kodi mtundu uli ndi udindo paubwenzi?' Chifukwa moyo wawo wonse adauzidwa kuti sapeza mnyamata woyenera mpaka atakwaniritsa zamitundu ku India.
Moni monga “Wakhala wakuda kwambiri! Simuyenera kupita kunja kwambiri kapena kusambira kwambiri. Ikani ndalama mu mtundu wina wa njira yokongoletsera yachilimwe .” Yankho pa chilichonse mwa izi ndi mawu omwe amawerengedwa kuti “Bwanji simusamala za inu nokha?” Ndipo amaseka pambuyo pake.
Mmodzi mwa anzangawo ananena kuti, “Zambiri mwa ndemanga zimenezi n’zabodza.
Mtundu zilibe kanthu
Mochenjera kapena ayi, mawu ngati awa ndi zida zomwe zimakhazikitsa miyambo ya anthu ndi mitundu yaukwati, zomwe sizimveka konse. Izi zimatsogolera kuzinthu zomwe zimatchedwa kuti zazikulu zomwe timayesa kulimbana nazo: malingaliro a amuna ndi akazi, abambo, tsankho ndi zina zotero. Ngakhale ngati, zikuoneka kuti sanabwere m’njira ya zosankha zanga zaumwini kapena zaukatswiri, akukhudza anthu m’njira zimene zimazunza akazi ndipo nthaŵi zina m’njira zina zimene sitidziŵa n’komwe.
Mwina, kukonda chilungamo ku India sikukukhudzani mwachindunji ndichifukwa chake simunamvere kwambiri. Koma kuyambira pa chiweruzo cha mnansi wanu chokhudza khungu lanu mpaka anzanu omwe akuyankha nkhani zanu za Instagram ndikunena kuti, 'Mtsikana, ukuoneka wakuda kwambiri! Yesani kirimu watsopano amene ndangogula kumene', tikumenyana nkhondo yayikulu pano. Ndi mtundu wa manyazi thupi.
Komanso, pofuna kutsimikizira akazi a khungu lakuda kuti mtundu wawo ndi chinthu chokhacho chomwe chimatsimikizira kufunika kwawo, amayiwa nthawi zonse amafunsidwa kuti, 'Kodi mtundu uli ndi udindo paubwenzi?' lomwe mwalingaliro langa ndilo vuto lalikulu la anthu. Mwina kuseka si chinthu choyenera kuchita.
Ibibazo
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Nthawi yomwe mukufika pa msinkhu, mumayamba ulendo wodzivomereza koma mutauzidwa moyo wanu wonse, kudzera m'chipongwe, malangizo, ndi nthabwala kuti mtundu wanu ndi wosakongola, wosakhumboka komanso wosavomerezeka, mumayamba kukhulupirira kuti n'zoona. Koma sizowona, tili momwe tilili, palibe chokhudzana ndi khungu lathu komanso amayi chonde lekani kunyoza ana anu aakazi kapena a neba anu chifukwa cha khungu lawo. Ali ndi zinthu zabwinoko zoti azichita m’moyo!