Ndiye ndikafunsidwa kuti ndilembe zinazake zokhuza kukhala dona wokwatiwa ndi mwamuna wachilungamo, zomwe ndimachita koyamba ndikuzisiya! “Kodi mtundu uli ndi phindu paubwenzi? Ndani amene amasamala za khungu masiku ano? Ndikuganiza mokweza ndi amayi tiyi wathu wamadzulo.
"Tiyenera kukambirana nkhani zazikuluzikulu. Ufulu wa abambo, kuganiza kwa amuna ndi akazi. Malipiro osakhala ofanana. Manyazi amafuta," ndikutero. Ndemanga zamitundu zimagwira ntchito m'malo azikhalidwe zomwezo, akutero. “Ndinakufunsani kuti mulembe fomu multani mitti (fuller's earth) ndi bwana (ufa wa gramu) wa khungu lonyezimira lopanda chilema. Ndiwe mwayi sindinapangepo kesar (safironi) mbali ya ulamuliro wanu waubwana.” Ndipo ndikudziwa kuti zimenezo zinathandiza kwambiri.
Kodi Ubale Wa Khungu Ndiwofunikadi Mu Ubale?
M'ndandanda wazopezekamo
Inde, ndimakumbukira chenjezo lake lokhudza zonona zachilungamo zodzazidwa ndi ammonia ndi ma bleaching agents, kupanga zinthu zodzipangira tokha za ana ake aakazi owoneka bwino - koma zomwe ndimakumbukira ndikuti nthawi zonse amakhala ndi mawu omveka kunena kuti wina ndi wokongola. Monga ayishwaryam (chisomo), tejas (kuwala), pakwata (kudalira) ndi zina zotero.
Mawu onsewa amalumikizidwa ndi danga lamkati m'matupi athu lomwe limafunikira kulemetsedwa mwa kuwerenga, zokumana nazo ndi malingaliro, osati mawonekedwe chabe. Khungu lowala adakhala patsogolo kuposa khungu labwino. Panali zambiri kukongola osati kungokhala wachilungamo kapena wakuda.
Kufikira tsopano ndinali ndisanavomereze kuti zimenezi zinapanga malingaliro anga a kukongola. Ine ndimalemba zolemba mmalingaliro kuti ndibwerere, ndikumukumbatira iye ndi kunena kuti iye si mayi wamkulu, koma mkazi wamkulu. Ndine wokondwa kuti sanatengeke ndi kutengeka kwapakhungu ku India komwe kwavutitsa azimayi ambiri aku India.
Pambuyo pake, titadya chakudya chamadzulo ndikusankha ubongo wa mwamuna wanga. Ndizodziwika bwino kuti omwe amawaphwanya ndi atsikana a ku Malayali omwe nthawi zambiri amakhala azimayi akhungu lakuda. Ndipo ndasangalala kale ndi kuchuluka kwazinthu zachilendo monga Malayali bahu m’banja lake la Marwadi, m’zaka zinayi za ukwati wathu.
"Chabwino, mtundu wa khungu lako ndi wokongola, umakulitsa maso ako ndi kumwetulira kwako."
Zikomo! Koma ndikudziwa kale ndipo ndikufuna kumva china chake. "Chabwino, mwina mutha kuyankhula za ine, komanso kutchuka komwe ndimasangalala nako ndikapita ku Kerala. Kumbukirani, achibale anu akuganiza kuti mwachita mwayi?" Timaseka. Timakumbukira ulendo wopita kukachisi wa banja lathu. Wansembe wapakachisi anachita chidwi kwambiri ndi maonekedwe a mwamuna wanga (mu akachisi a Kerala, amuna amayenera kukhala opanda malaya), ifenso tinali ndi chidwi chochuluka.
Ife tinali kuseka kwambiri pa izo ndiye. Timalankhula monyinyirika za azisuweni athu 'ochezeka' omwe amatiseka, ponena kuti akhoza kuvomereza zokometsera zachilungamo. Ndi iko komwe, iye ndi 'wokongola ndi wokongola' osati mbali ya anthu akhungu. Nthawi zina amati: “Mlongo wathu akuoneka kuti wayamba kuchita zinthu mwachilungamo; Sitinatsimikizepo kuti chinali nthabwala kapena kuyamikira. Koma taziseka.
Kukhala wotanganidwa ndi chilungamo
"Ndiye palibe aliyense wakubanja langa (lalikulu) amene wanenapo za iwe?" amapeza mpata wondifunsa. Osati zomwe ndingathe kuziganizira. "Ayi amalume, ayi aunty?" Sindingaganizire chilichonse. Pali 'zovuta zazikulu', ndimalankhulanso. Zosaganizira za jenda. Utsogoleri wa makolo. Ukazi.
Posachedwapa tikukamba za Mr Tarun Vijay ndikuyang'ana maso athu pa ndemanga monga, 'Sikuti Amwenye onse aku South ali amdima!' Ndimalembanso m'maganizo: nthawi zambiri sitiyamika pazochitika zathu. Izi ndi zomwe zikutanthawuza kukhala ndi mwamuna kapena mkazi wosalowerera ndale komanso womasuka. Ndimamukonda, ndipo nthawi zambiri ndimakhala osangalala ndikulota zamakampeni komwe ali mwana wachikazi wachikazi!
Kuwerenga Kofanana: Mafunso 21 Otsutsana pa Ubwenzi Pachibwenzi ndi Ukwati
Tsiku lotsatira, zokambirana zikupitilira muofesi yanga. Pali atsikana anayi okongola amitundu yosiyanasiyana aku India omwe amagwira ntchito pano. Ndimawafunsa ngati adakumanapo ndi 'makomenti amtundu'? Pat amabwera yankho "Oh a-plenty!" Kuti? Ku makoleji awo. Nyumba zawo. Ena achichepere. Akuluakulu ena. Amaseka za 'amene' aunty akuda nkhawa kuti awakwatire ndani, chifukwa sali chilungamo. Ndipo zimachititsa atsikanawa kudzifunsa kuti, 'Kodi mtundu uli ndi udindo paubwenzi?' Chifukwa moyo wawo wonse adauzidwa kuti sapeza mnyamata woyenera mpaka atakwaniritsa zamitundu ku India.
Moni ngati “Mwachita mdima kwambiri, musamapite kunja kwambiri kapena kusambira kwambiri. chilimwe kukongola regimen.” Yankho pachochitika chilichonse ndi mawu akuti “Bwanji osaganizira zanu?” Ndipo amaseka pambuyo pake.
Mmodzi mwa anzangawo ananena kuti, “Zambiri mwa ndemanga zimenezi n’zabodza.
Mtundu zilibe kanthu
Mochenjera kapena ayi, mawu ngati awa ndi zida zomwe zimakhazikitsa miyambo ya anthu ndi mitundu yaukwati, zomwe sizimveka konse. Izi zimatsogolera kuzinthu zomwe zimatchedwa kuti zazikulu zomwe timayesa kulimbana nazo: malingaliro a amuna ndi akazi, abambo, tsankho ndi zina zotero. Ngakhale ngati, zikuoneka kuti sanabwere m’njira ya zosankha zanga zaumwini kapena zaukatswiri, akukhudza anthu m’njira zimene zimazunza akazi ndipo nthaŵi zina m’njira zina zimene sitidziŵa n’komwe.
Mwina, kukonda chilungamo ku India sikumakukhudzani mwachindunji ndichifukwa chake simunamvere. Koma malinga ndi momwe mnansi wanu amawonera nkhope yanu kwa anzanu omwe akuyankha nkhani zanu za Instagram ndikuti, 'Mtsikana, ukuwoneka wodetsedwa kwambiri! Yesani zonona zatsopanozi zomwe ndangogula kumene', tikumenya nkhondo yayikulu pano. Iwo ndithudi ndi mtundu wa Manyazi amthupi.
Komanso, pofuna kutsimikizira akazi a khungu lakuda kuti mtundu wawo ndi chinthu chokhacho chomwe chimatsimikizira kufunika kwawo, amayiwa nthawi zonse amafunsidwa kuti, 'Kodi mtundu uli ndi udindo paubwenzi?' lomwe mwalingaliro langa ndilo vuto lalikulu la anthu. Mwina kuseka si chinthu choyenera kuchita.
Ibibazo
Kodi mtundu ndi wofunika mu ubale? Ngati zitero kwa iye, ndiye kuti mwina siunansi wanu. Ayenera kukukondani chifukwa cha mmene mulili osati mtundu umene amaona kuti ndi wosangalatsa kwambiri.
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Nthawi yomwe mukufika pa msinkhu, mumayamba ulendo wodzivomereza koma mutauzidwa moyo wanu wonse, kudzera m'chipongwe, malangizo, ndi nthabwala kuti mtundu wanu ndi wosakongola, wosakhumboka komanso wosavomerezeka, mumayamba kukhulupirira kuti n'zoona. Koma sizowona, tili momwe tilili, palibe chokhudzana ndi khungu lathu komanso amayi chonde lekani kunyoza ana anu aakazi kapena a neba anu chifukwa cha khungu lawo. Ali ndi zinthu zabwinoko zoti azichita m’moyo!