Momwe Kugona M'mabedi Osiyana Kunawapangitsa Kukhala Osangalala Kwambiri Banja

Kugona m'mabedi osiyana kwa anthu okwatirana kumawonedwa ngati mbendera yofiira kwambiri. Koma bwanji kugona pafupi wina ndi mnzake usiku uliwonse ndikofunikira pa chikondi? Chikondi, ulemu ndi kumvetsetsana zitha kukhalapo muubwenzi ngakhale anthu atasankha kusangalala ndi malo awoawo. Zonse zomwe mukudziwa, zitha kupangitsa kuti ubale wanu ukhale wolimba.

(Maina asinthidwa kuti ateteze zidziwitso)

Dzina langa ndine Jon ndipo ndimagwira ntchito ngati mlangizi wamkulu pakampani ina yamapulogalamu. Zaka 22 zapitazo, ndinali nditasankha wokondedwa wanga wapasukulu ya sekondale Aimee kukhala mnzanga wapamtima ndipo pamene tinayamba moyo wathu limodzi, tinali ndi maloto ofanana ndi amene mwamuna ndi mkazi aliyense wokonda nyenyezi amakhala nawo. Tonse tinali ophunzira komanso tinachokera m’mabanja osangalala. Popeza kuti ntchito yanga inali ya malipiro abwino kwambiri, ndinapereka lingaliro lakuti Aimee aziyang’anira mwana wathu wamwamuna wamng’ono ndi nyumba, chifukwa chakuti nthaŵi zonse ndimakhulupirira kuti kuyang’anira nyumba ndi kulera banja lachimwemwe si chinthu chocheperapo kuposa ntchito yabwino. Ndinali ndi chidaliro kuti apanga zabwino amayi okhala kunyumba!

Posakhalitsa zidatizindikira zofuna zantchito yanga yakampani, maola ogwirira ntchito ambiri komanso maulendo ataliatali zidayambitsa kusamvana pakati pathu. Koma zimenezo sizinasinthe chikondi chathu ndi ubwenzi wathu. Popeza chikondi ndi chidaliro pakati pathu chinali chokhazikika, mphamvu ya nthawi yathu yokondana idakhalabe yosawonongeka. Koma posakhalitsa zinthu zinasintha, ndipo tsiku lina labwino, tinazindikira kuti aŵirife tinali kugona m’zipinda zosiyana.

Zinthu Zinasintha - Tinali Pamodzi Koma Osiyana

Mofanana ndi onse ogwira ntchito panyumba, inafika nthawi imene Aimee anali ndi nthawi yambiri yopuma chifukwa mwana wathu ankafuna kukhala yekha pamene ankakula. Aimee ankakonda kuwerenga ndipo kuzama kwa malemba akale achikhristu ankamusangalatsa nthawi zonse.

Chimene chinayamba monga kuwerenga kwa nthawi yaulere posakhalitsa chinakula kukhala kuphunzira kwakukulu kwa zinsinsi za moyo ndi moyo wapadziko lapansi lino. Ndinaona chidwi chakechi kukhala chabwino ndipo ndinapitiriza kumulimbikitsa.

Munthu wabwino amalola anthu omuzungulira kuchita zofuna zawo. Kundiuza mawu komanso kufuna kuti Aimee akhale ndi moyo womwe ndidasankha sikunali kosangalatsa kwa ine. Anandipempha kuti ndifotokoze mozama za nkhaniyi, kufunafuna nzeru zatsopano. Kuyanjana ndi anthu amalingaliro ofanana ndikupereka chithandizo kwa anthu omwe ali m'mavuto posakhalitsa kunakhala zilakolako zake.

Pamene ndinavomera kuti Aimee akhale wodzipereka ndi wodzipatulira kaamba ka chilimbikitso chauzimu, sindinazindikire kuti zimenezi zikaphatikizapo kusiya zokondweretsa za dziko (ŵerengani maunansi akuthupi). Posakhalitsa, ukwati wathu unasanduka a ukwati wopanda kugonana. Koma nditapereka mawu anga, ndinavomereza mfundo imeneyi, chifukwa ndinkamukonda. Titakhala m’banja zaka 12, tinapezeka kuti tikugona m’zipinda zosiyanasiyana. Tinali limodzi koma tinasiyana.

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Tsopano tinali m’gulu la mabanja amene anali ndi zipinda zogona zosiyana

Mabanja okhala ndi zipinda zosiyana? Zikumveka zosokoneza masiku ano. Koma ndi zoona, ndipo ndiyenera kuvomereza kuti zinalimbitsa ubwenzi wathu. Kupatulapo gawo ili la kugona m'mabedi osiyana, sizinasinthe kwambiri pakati pathu. Ndidadikirira kuti asinthe malingaliro ake pamapeto pake koma osamunyengerera, osati chifukwa chodzikuza koma chifukwa ndimakhulupirira kuti munthu aliyense ali ndi ufulu wokhala ndi moyo momwe akuwona kuti ndi woyenera komanso payekhapayekha ayenera kulemekezedwa. Ndinkakhulupirira kukondwerera umunthu wake, osati kudzipangira ndekha. Ichi ndi chimodzi mwa zizindikiro za banja losangalala.

Pamene zinthu zinkapita, Aimee anapitiriza kulondola njira yauzimu ndi kutumikira anthu kudzera m’zochitika zake zamagulu ndi zachipembedzo. Ali ndi otsatira ambiri pazama TV kuposa ine, ndipo amadzipereka ngati mlangizi kwa aliyense amene akufunika thandizo. Ndimanyadira mkazi wanga chimodzimodzi. Kugona m'mabedi osiyana ndi mtengo wochepa wolipira ndikafika kumuwona akukhala chomwe akufuna.

Ndili ndi chipinda chosiyana koma ndimamukondabe

Sindinali wotsimikiza kudandaula kapena ayi ponena za kukhala ndi chipinda chapadera, koma pa chiwerengero chimodzi ndinali womveka bwino: kuti Aimee mkazi wabwino kwa ine ndipo tonse tinkakondana, kusamalana komanso kulemekezana. Kusiya kufunikira kokhala ndi maubwenzi mofunitsitsa, popanda zovuta zaumoyo, kumawoneka kosavuta kwa amayi kuposa amuna ndipo chifukwa chake ndinali ndi njira ziwiri - kukhala ndi moyo wopanda madandaulo kapena kutsogolera m'njira yomwe imabweretsa kukwaniritsidwa kochulukirapo.

Kwa mwamuna amene anasunga unamwali wake kufikira ukwati wake ndiponso amene nthaŵi zonse anali wokhulupirika kwa mkazi wake, kukhala ndi chibwenzi kunja kwa ukwati sikunali kwenikweni njira yabwino. Choncho ndinaganiza zolimbikira ntchito komanso nthawi yanga yopuma, kuti ndithandize anthu amene anafunikira chisamaliro ndi chisamaliro.

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Ine ndi Aimee tili m’banja logwirizana kwambiri, moti tonsefe timalemekezana ndipo timalola kuti tizikula aliyense payekha.

Kugona m’mabedi osiyana kunakhala dalitso ndipo kunatipatsa mwayi wokhala patokha ndi danga mu chiyanjano. Madzi athu aluntha amayenda bwino ndipo timatha kuthandizira kwa anthu otizungulira, bwino kwambiri kuposa maanja omwe amasiyana maganizo. Moyo umene ukanati ndi wopereŵera, unatipatsa mwayi wofikira njira zatsopano ndikukula kufikira okhwima muukwati pamodzi.

(Monga adauza Dr Sanjeev Trivedi)

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