Kukondana ndi Mlendo? Izi ndi Zomwe Mumachita

Maluwa akutchire a m’mitengo, misika yamitundu yonyezimira, maso achidwi a ana a m’misewu kudzera m’mazenera, chipwirikiti cha magalimoto osadziwika bwino, kukuwa kwachisangalalo kwa ogulitsa m’misewu, ndi fungo losiyanasiyana la m’malo ogulitsira zakudya m’mphepete mwa msewu – kodi zonsezi sizikanawoneka zokongola kwambiri ngati mukugaŵana naye ulendo wopita kuntchito m’malo mongokhala nokha? Ndipo bwanji ngati kukwera komweku kungakhale chiyambi chakukondana ndi mlendo?

Ndi ntchito zoyendera magalimoto monga Ola Share ndi UberPOOL zomwe zikubwera ku India komanso padziko lonse lapansi, zomveka zaposachedwa ndi "Umm, bwanji mutakumana ndi munthu wokongola m'galimoto yomwe mukugawana nayo?" Wothandizira Bonobology, Disha Dadlani, akudabwa ngati wina angapeze chikondi kapena bwenzi mwa okwera nawo kudzera pa OLA Share kapena UberPOOL.

Kodi N'zotheka Kukondana ndi Mlendo?

Richard sanagwiritsepo ntchito iliyonse mwa mautumikiwa koma akuvomereza kuti nthaŵi zina ubwenzi ukhoza kukula mkati mwa mphindi zisanu zokha za kuchitirana. Iye anati: “Ngati anthu aŵiri ogwirizana akukwera limodzi kukwera galimoto, kuyanjana kwawo kungadzetse mabwenzi ngakhalenso chikondi.” Chotero kukondana ndi mlendo amene mwangokumana naye kumene si nkhani yachiphamaso,” iye akutero, mosazengereza.

Steve, yemwe waonapo anthu akukulitsa maubwenzi abizinesi pokwera nawo Uber, akuseka kuti, “Kodi mungakonde munthu amene simukumudziwa? Ngati maubwenzi amenewa anakula, sindikudziwa. Ndiye ngati zingachitike pa masitima apamtunda ndi mabasi, bwanji osakhala pa Uber kapena Ola? ” akuwonjezera.

Zachidziwikire, zenizeni zitha kukhala zosagwirizana - koma Matt adagawana nafe nkhani yake ya momwe kuyendetsa galimoto kumamupezera bwenzi moyo wonse. Chifukwa cha ophatikiza monga Ola ndi Uber, ndinakumana ndi mtsikana wina pamene tikukwera galimoto. ubwenzi wosalakwa. Ndi iye, ndimakonda kwambiri kuyendetsa. Timagwirizana kwambiri kotero kuti timasungitsa cab nthawi imodzi, ngakhale aliyense wa ife adikire kwa mphindi zisanu kapena khumi. Patha pafupifupi miyezi 7 kuchokera pamene tinakwera limodzi ulendo woyamba, ndipo timakumbukirabe bwino tsiku limenelo,” akutero Matt.

Tagwa mchikondi ndi lingaliro lotulutsa mafoni athu am'manja ndikusungitsa kukwera. Koma kodi ndife okonzekadi kugawana zambiri kuposa kungokwera ndi mlendo? Kodi kugwa m'chikondi ndi mlendo kwathunthu pamakhadi athu? Kodi n'zotheka kukonda mlendo? Tiyeni tiyese kuyankha mafunso amenewa.

Chabwino, ngati kugwa m'chikondi ndi mlendo sikunali kotheka, ndiye simukanakula kumva nkhani za chikondi powonana koyamba. Sipangakhale chilichonse chonga kukhala ndi chidwi ndi munthu kapena kukonda munthu poyang'ana koyamba. Zitha kuwoneka zachilendo koma ambiri aife timadziwa kapena takumanapo ndi momwe kukonda mlendo kumamverera kapena momwe kukopeka kopanda chiyembekezo kumachita ku thupi ndi malingaliro anu. Kodi kugwa m’chikondi ndi mlendo kotheratu kapena kukhala pachibwenzi ndi munthu wosam’dziŵa n’chinthu chachibadwa kapena chachibadwa kuti chimuchitikire munthu?

Kodi si momwe ubale uliwonse umayambira? Mumamva agulugufe m'mimba mwanu kapena kumverera kwambiri kwa munthu yemwe mumangomuwona kapena simukumudziwa. Chinachake chokhudza iwo chimakupangitsani kukopeka kapena kukopeka nawo. Mumamva ngati mukufuna kudziwa zambiri za iwo, khalani nawo nthawi yambiri. Zoonadi, kuwadziwana nawo pamlingo wamalingaliro kumatenga nthawi koma palibe kuletsa mtima kumva zomwe ukumva. Monga amati: Mtima umafuna chimene ukufuna.

Zinthu Zomwe Muyenera Kuchita Ngati Mukukondana ndi Mlendo

Kugwa m'chikondi ndi mlendo ndikumverera kokongola. Zitha kuchitika kwa aliyense nthawi iliyonse ya moyo wawo. Atha kukhala munthu yemwe mumamuwona munjanji yapansi panthaka tsiku lililonse popita kuntchito, wamkulu kusukulu kapena ku koleji, wina yemwe wakhala moyang'anizana ndi inu mu laibulale kapena mumangoyang'anana naye m'mawa.

Mumayamba kuwamvera chisoni kwambiri. Mumalingalira zokhala nawo pachibwenzi. Mumakopeka nawo popanda chifukwa chabwino. Mwinanso mumadzifunsa kuti, “Kodi mungakonde munthu amene simukumudziwa?” kapena mukudabwa momwe mungapangire mlendo kuti akukondeni. Nazi zinthu zingapo zomwe muyenera kuchita ngati mukukondana ndi mlendo:

1. Kumvetsetsa ngati ndi chikondi, kukopeka kapena kutengeka mtima

Pali kusiyana kwakukulu pakati pa kukopeka ndi munthu ndi kuyamba kukondana. Chifukwa chake, musanayambe mfuti zonse zikuyaka, khalani pansi ndikuwunika momwe mukumvera. Zindikirani ngati zimene mukumvazo ndi zongotengeka maganizo kapena chikondi chenicheni. Kodi mumangokopeka ndi munthuyu mwakuthupi kapena pakugonana kapena mukufuna kumudziwa mozama, mozama? Ngati ndi woyamba, mwina a chizindikiro cha kutengeka mtima kuti mwalakwitsa ndi chikondi.

2. Dzifunseni ngati mukufuna kukhala nawo moyo wanu wonse

Musananene kuti mukukondana ndi mlendo, dzifunseni ngati mukufuna kukhala naye moyo wanu wonse. Kodi mumaganizira za tsogolo lawo? Kodi mukumva wamphamvu kulumikizana kwamaganizidwe ndi iwo? Ngati mukumva kugwirizana ndi mzimu ndi malingaliro awo ndikuwona tsogolo ndi iwo, ndiye tikukupemphani kuti mupite patsogolo. Ngati sichoncho, zomwe mukumva ndi zokopa chabe.

3. Lankhulani nawo

Mutamvetsa mmene mukumvera, muyenera kusankha ngati mukufuna kuika pachiswe polankhula ndi mlendoyu. Ndizovuta chifukwa sangakuuzeni momwe mukumvera. Koma, ngati mutasankha kulankhula nawo, mwina chidzakhala chiyambi cha ubwenzi watsopano. Mudziwa zambiri za iwo komanso kupeza mayankho a mafunso ofunika ochepa. 

4. Dziwani ngati sali pa banja kapena odzipereka

Ichi ndiye chinthu chofunikira kwambiri kuti mudziwe ngati mukuyamba kukondana mwadzidzidzi ndi mlendo. Mungakhale otsimikiza za malingaliro anu koma nanga bwanji iwo? N'zotheka kuti ali pachibwenzi kapena otomeredwa kapena okwatirana. Musanayambe chibwenzi ndi mlendo m'mutu mwanu, onetsetsani kuti mukudziwa ubale wawo.

5. Yesani kuona ngati akugwirizana ndi maganizo anu

Inu mwina mukuganiza za momwe mungapangire mlendo kukukondani. Ndi zachibadwa ndithu. Mukangoyamba kulankhula nawo, yesani mayankho awo kapena zomwe akuchita. Onani ngati amakopeka ndi inu kapena akubwezerani malingaliro anu. Muyenera kumvetsetsa, kudzera muzochita zawo ndi matupi awo, ngati akumva chimodzimodzi kwa inu. Ngati atero, pitirizani kusonkhana.

Kuthekera komwe kumabwera ndi kugawana kukwera limodzi ndi anthu osawadziwa kwenikweni kumatha kukhala kosangalatsa kwa omwe ali ndi chidwi ndipo kungakhale kowopsa chimodzimodzi kwa mitundu yosungidwa. Ndipo kukondana ndi mlendo panjira? Ndiye chitumbuwa chenicheni pa keke! Chifukwa chake tulutsani foni yanu yam'manja, kanikizani batani logawana mukamasungitsa kabati, ndikuyimba ya Jim Morrison, "Chifukwa chake tiyeni tikwele tiwone zomwe zili zanga ..."

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