Kukondana ndi Mlendo? Izi ndi Zomwe Mumachita

Maluwa akutchire a m’mitengo, misika yamitundu yonyezimira, maso achidwi a ana a m’misewu kudzera m’mazenera, chipwirikiti cha magalimoto osadziwika bwino, kukuwa kwachisangalalo kwa ogulitsa m’misewu, ndi fungo losiyanasiyana la m’malo ogulitsira zakudya m’mphepete mwa msewu – kodi zonsezi sizikanawoneka zokongola kwambiri ngati mukugaŵana naye ulendo wopita kuntchito m’malo mongokhala nokha? Ndipo bwanji ngati kukwera komweku kungakhale chiyambi chakukondana ndi mlendo?

Ndi ntchito zoyendera magalimoto monga Ola Share ndi UberPOOL zomwe zikubwera ku India komanso padziko lonse lapansi, zomveka zaposachedwa ndi "Umm, bwanji mutakumana ndi munthu wokongola m'galimoto yomwe mukugawana nayo?" Wothandizira Bonobology, Disha Dadlani, akudabwa ngati wina angapeze chikondi kapena bwenzi mwa okwera nawo kudzera pa OLA Share kapena UberPOOL.

Kodi N'zotheka Kukondana ndi Mlendo?

Richard sanagwiritsepo ntchito iliyonse mwa mautumikiwa koma akuvomereza kuti nthaŵi zina ubwenzi ukhoza kukula mkati mwa mphindi zisanu zokha za kuchitirana. Iye anati: “Ngati anthu aŵiri ogwirizana akukwera limodzi kukwera galimoto, kuyanjana kwawo kungadzetse mabwenzi ngakhalenso chikondi.” Chotero kukondana ndi mlendo amene mwangokumana naye kumene si nkhani yachiphamaso,” iye akutero, mosazengereza.

Steve, yemwe waonapo anthu akukulitsa maubwenzi abizinesi pokwera nawo Uber, akuseka kuti, “Kodi mungakonde munthu amene simukumudziwa? Ngati maubwenzi amenewa anakula, sindikudziwa. Ndiye ngati zingachitike pa masitima apamtunda ndi mabasi, bwanji osakhala pa Uber kapena Ola? ” akuwonjezera.

Zachidziwikire, zenizeni zitha kukhala zosayembekezereka - koma Matt adatiuza nkhani yake ya momwe kuyendetsa galimoto limodzi kunamupezera bwenzi moyo wake wonse. "Chifukwa cha osonkhanitsa magalimoto monga Ola ndi Uber, ndinakumana ndi mtsikana pamene tinkayenda limodzi. Ndipo patangopita mphindi zochepa, tinagwirizana kwambiri moti tsopano zasanduka ubwenzi wopanda vuto . Ndimakonda kwambiri ulendowu. Timagwirizana kwambiri kotero kuti timasungitsa taxi nthawi imodzi, ngakhale aliyense wa ife atakhala ndi mphindi zisanu mpaka khumi. Papita pafupifupi miyezi 7 kuyambira pamene tinayenda limodzi koyamba, ndipo tikukumbukirabe tsiku limenelo mwachikondi," akutero Matt.

Tagwa mchikondi ndi lingaliro lotulutsa mafoni athu am'manja ndikusungitsa kukwera. Koma kodi ndife okonzekadi kugawana zambiri kuposa kungokwera ndi mlendo? Kodi kugwa m'chikondi ndi mlendo kwathunthu pamakhadi athu? Kodi n'zotheka kukonda mlendo? Tiyeni tiyese kuyankha mafunso amenewa.

Ngati kukonda munthu wosamudziwa sikungatheke, ndiye kuti simukanakula mukumva nkhani za chikondi nthawi yoyamba . Sizikanakhala ngati kukonda munthu kapena kukonda munthu nthawi yoyamba. Zingamveke zachilendo koma ambiri a ife tikudziwa kapena takumanapo ndi momwe kukonda munthu wosamudziwa kumamvera kapena momwe kukopeka naye kwambiri kumakhudzira thupi lanu ndi malingaliro anu. Kodi kukonda munthu wosamudziwa kapena kuchita chibwenzi ndi munthu wosamudziwa si chinthu chachibadwa kapena chachibadwa chomwe chimachitikira munthu?

Kodi si momwe ubale uliwonse umayambira? Mumamva agulugufe m'mimba mwanu kapena kumverera kwambiri kwa munthu yemwe mumangomuwona kapena simukumudziwa. Chinachake chokhudza iwo chimakupangitsani kukopeka kapena kukopeka nawo. Mumamva ngati mukufuna kudziwa zambiri za iwo, khalani nawo nthawi yambiri. Zoonadi, kuwadziwana nawo pamlingo wamalingaliro kumatenga nthawi koma palibe kuletsa mtima kumva zomwe ukumva. Monga amati: Mtima umafuna chimene ukufuna.

Zinthu Zomwe Muyenera Kuchita Ngati Mukukondana ndi Mlendo

Kugwa m'chikondi ndi mlendo ndikumverera kokongola. Zitha kuchitika kwa aliyense nthawi iliyonse ya moyo wawo. Atha kukhala munthu yemwe mumamuwona munjanji yapansi panthaka tsiku lililonse popita kuntchito, wamkulu kusukulu kapena ku koleji, wina yemwe wakhala moyang'anizana ndi inu mu laibulale kapena mumangoyang'anana naye m'mawa.

Mumayamba kuwamvera chisoni kwambiri. Mumalingalira zokhala nawo pachibwenzi. Mumakopeka nawo popanda chifukwa chabwino. Mwinanso mumadzifunsa kuti, “Kodi mungakonde munthu amene simukumudziwa?” kapena mukudabwa momwe mungapangire mlendo kuti akukondeni. Nazi zinthu zingapo zomwe muyenera kuchita ngati mukukondana ndi mlendo:

1. Kumvetsetsa ngati ndi chikondi, kukopeka kapena kutengeka mtima

Pali kusiyana kwakukulu pakati pa kukopeka ndi munthu kapena kukondana naye ndi kuyamba kukondana. Choncho, musanayambe kukondana, khalani pansi ndikuyang'ana momwe mukumvera. Dziwani ngati zomwe mukumva ndi chikondi chenicheni kapena chikondi chenicheni. Kodi mumakonda munthuyu mwakuthupi kapena m'chigololo kapena mukufuna kumudziwa bwino kwambiri? Ngati ndi choyamba, mwina ndi chizindikiro cha chikondi chomwe mwachiganizira kuti ndi chikondi.

2. Dzifunseni ngati mukufuna kukhala nawo moyo wanu wonse

Musanaganize kuti mukukondana ndi munthu amene simukumudziwa, dzifunseni ngati mukufuna kukhala naye moyo wanu wonse. Kodi mumaganizira za tsogolo lawo? Kodi mumamva kuti muli ndi mgwirizano wamphamvu ndi iwo? Ngati mukumva kulumikizana ndi mzimu wawo ndi malingaliro awo ndipo mukuona tsogolo lawo, tikukulangizani kuti mupite patsogolo. Ngati sichoncho, zomwe mukumva ndi zokopa chabe.

3. Lankhulani nawo

Mutamvetsa mmene mukumvera, muyenera kusankha ngati mukufuna kuika pachiswe polankhula ndi mlendoyu. Ndizovuta chifukwa sangakuuzeni momwe mukumvera. Koma, ngati mutasankha kulankhula nawo, mwina chidzakhala chiyambi cha ubwenzi watsopano. Mudziwa zambiri za iwo komanso kupeza mayankho a mafunso ofunika ochepa. 

4. Dziwani ngati sali pa banja kapena odzipereka

Ichi ndiye chinthu chofunikira kwambiri kuti mudziwe ngati mukuyamba kukondana mwadzidzidzi ndi mlendo. Mungakhale otsimikiza za malingaliro anu koma nanga bwanji iwo? N'zotheka kuti ali pachibwenzi kapena otomeredwa kapena okwatirana. Musanayambe chibwenzi ndi mlendo m'mutu mwanu, onetsetsani kuti mukudziwa ubale wawo.

5. Yesani kuona ngati akugwirizana ndi maganizo anu

Mwina mukuganiza momwe mungapangire munthu wosadziwa kukukondani . Ndi zachibadwa. Mukayamba kulankhula naye, yesani momwe akuyankhira kapena momwe akumvera. Onani ngati akukopeka nanu kapena bwezerani malingaliro anu. Muyenera kumvetsetsa, kudzera mu zochita zawo ndi chilankhulo cha thupi lawo, ngati akukumverani chimodzimodzi. Ngati akukumverani, pititsani patsogolo ubalewo.

Kuthekera komwe kumabwera ndi kugawana kukwera limodzi ndi anthu osawadziwa kwenikweni kumatha kukhala kosangalatsa kwa omwe ali ndi chidwi ndipo kungakhale kowopsa chimodzimodzi kwa mitundu yosungidwa. Ndipo kukondana ndi mlendo panjira? Ndiye chitumbuwa chenicheni pa keke! Chifukwa chake tulutsani foni yanu yam'manja, kanikizani batani logawana mukamasungitsa kabati, ndikuyimba ya Jim Morrison, "Chifukwa chake tiyeni tikwele tiwone zomwe zili zanga ..."

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