5 kuvomereza kwa anthu omwe adabwezera kugonana

Cholinga cha kubwezera kugonana ndi udierekezi momwe angathere. Chiwembu chonsecho ndi kupeza chikhutiro mwa kubwezera m’njira yopweteka wakale wanu. Kubwezera ndi koyipa ndipo kumakhudzanso kupweteketsa wokondedwa wanu wakale pogona ndi munthu wapafupi naye. Ndizochitika zachithupithupi, zomwe nthawi zambiri zimavala mitundu yokongola ya kubwezera. Ndipo kubwezera kumatheka pakama.

Kubwezera kugonana kuti mugonjetse munthu nthawi zambiri kumakhala konyansa

Ngakhale kuti zimaseketsa thupi, sikuti nthawi zonse zimatengera makhalidwe abwino ngati munthu wamkulu. Kubwezerana kugonana kaŵirikaŵiri sikumakhala kotengeka maganizo; mumachita chifukwa mukufuna kuti ex wathu adziwe kuti mutha kuchita komanso kuwawonetsa zomwe adataya. Kubwezerana kugonana sikungokhala ndi ma ex. Ngati mumakonda munthu koma akukhumudwitsani mwanjira ina, m'malo moyankhulana, mumakhala wankhanza, kugona naye ndikuchokapo, kuwasiya akumva chisoni. Mukaona kuti munthu wina wakugwiritsani ntchito, mumafuna kubisa chisokonezocho mwa kugona ndi munthu wapafupi ndi munthuyo kuti mubwererenso kwa iwo. Ndi masewera ang'onoang'ono odzipangitsa kukhala wamphamvu ndipo kubwezera kumakoma kwambiri panthawiyo.

Nawa maulalo a anthu omwe adakulitsadi kugonana kwawo kobwezera.

1. Pamene mnzanga ankandinyenga

"Ex wanga ankandinyenga ndipo ankaganiza kuti sindikudziwa. Chibwenzicho chinapitirira kwa miyezi itatu. Ndinali ndikugona ndi msuweni wake miyezi itatu yonseyo. Monga momwe ankafufuzira?

2. Kusewera ngakhale ndi amayi anga

“Amayi sankakonda bwenzi langa ndipo nthaŵi zambiri ankandiuza kuti sali bwino.” Choncho makolo anga akalibe, ndinkagonana ndi bwenzi langa pakama pawo, pabedi ndiponso panyumba iliyonse kumene ankapita.

3. Ndili ndi mlongo wa chibwenzi changa

"Ndinagonana ndi mchemwali wake wa chibwenzi changa atasiyana nane. Best kubwezerana kugonana ndipo tsopano tikwatirana."

4. Ndili ndi msuweni wa chibwenzi changa

“Ine ndi bwenzi langa titasudzulana, iye anayamba kufalitsa mphekesera za mmene iyeyo ananditayira atandigwira kuti ndikubera. Ndinakwiya kwambiri kwa mwezi umodzi kotero kuti ndinapambana mwa kukhala ndi msuweni wake wopambana kwambiri ndi kugonana naye.

5. Kubwereranso kwa mlongo wanga

"Mchemwali wanga amadana ndi amuna kapena akazi okhaokha ndipo amawombera bwenzi langa. Ndinamubwezera pogonana mokweza m'chipinda mwanga ndikumva zonse (popeza chipinda chake chili pafupi ndi changa).

6. Pamene ndinapita panyanja

"Ndinapita kumtunda pang'ono ndi uyu. Ndinagonana mosadziteteza ndi mtsikana wina ndipo ndinatenga matenda. Kenaka ndinamulola bwenzi langa lakale kuti agone nane ndikumupatsira matendawa. Kenaka ndinasiyana naye. Anali ndi zowawa zambiri, m'maganizo ndi m'thupi. Ndikhoza kupita kumoto chifukwa cha izi koma sindinakhalepo wosangalala."

7. Ndili ndi ex wanga

"Ndinakumana ndi mkazi wanga wakale. Ndinagonana naye bwino kwambiri. Tinasiyana chifukwa ananena kuti sakundikonda. Titagonana, ndinachoka. Anasiya mawu akuti "Unali wabwino ndipo ndakusowa." Ukuganiza kuti maganizo a ndani abwerera? Sindinabwerezenso.

8. Kamodzi wachinyengo, nthawizonse wachinyengo

“Ndinagona ndi wakale wanga ndipo ananamiza chibwenzi chake chapanthaŵiyo chimene anandinyenga.

9. Ndi mnzanga wakale wapamtima

“Ndinagona ndi bwenzi lapamtima la wakale wanga pa tsiku lake lobadwa, patatha zaka ziwiri titasiyana.”

10. Ndili ndi mtsikana, ndinakumana pa chikhalidwe TV

"Ndinkafuna kubwereranso kwa bwenzi langa. Pali mwanapiye amene ndinapanga bwenzi pa Facebook yemwe anali ndi ine ndipo ndinkafuna kuti ndigone naye kuti ndibwererenso kwa bwenzi langa. Mwanapiyeyu atadziwa za izo, m'malo mokwiya amakonza ndondomeko ndipo timakhala ndi kugonana kwakukulu kwambiri. Anapita kukawauza anthu za izo ndi momwe ndinaliri bwino pabedi.

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