Ndi 3 koloko m'mawa ndipo ndi inu apo, mukuganizira kwambiri ubale wanu wonse. Mumadzifunsa kuti, "Kodi ndili bwino pabedi? Kodi mnzanga amakopekanso ndi ine? Mafunso onsewa, omwe mwina amayamba chifukwa cha kuchepa kwa kugonana muubwenzi wanu, amakuikani pachifuwa chofuna kudziwa momwe mungakhalire okondana bwino.
Kuganiza mopitirira muyeso n'komveka. Ndipotu, kugonana ndi chinthu chofunikira kwambiri pa ubale wabwino. Malinga ndi kafukufuku , chimodzi mwa zifukwa zazikulu zomwe maanja amasiya chikondi chinali kutayika kwa ubale wabwino. Ndipo simukufuna kukhala banja loterolo. Kudziwa kuti muli pano, mukuyesera kupeza yankho la "momwe mungakhalire wokondedwa wabwino kwa mwamuna kapena mkazi wanga kapena mnzanu" kumasonyeza kuti mumasamala za thanzi la ubale wanu ndipo simunayende mumsewu woterera wodzidalira. Chabwino, ulemu kwa inu!
Ponena za kusunga chilakolako chanu chikhale cholimba, musadandaule, tili nanu. Tili pano kuti tikuthandizeni pakuyesetsa kwanu kukulitsa chilakolako chanu chogonana ndikupeza momwe mungakhalire wokonda kwambiri pabedi, mothandizidwa ndi nzeru za akatswiri ochokera kwa katswiri wa zachiwerewere Dr. Rajan Bhonsle (MD, MBBS Medicine and Surgery), yemwe wakhala katswiri wodziwa za kugonana kwa zaka zoposa makumi atatu.
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M'ndandanda wazopezekamo
Dr. Bhonsle akuti, “Malangizo a momwe mungakhalire wokondedwa wabwino amasiyana malinga ndi nkhani ndipo sangatchulidwe kuti ndi ofala kwambiri. Mwachitsanzo, malangizo anga kwa anthu awiri omwe sagonana m’banja sangagwire ntchito kwa iwo omwe ali ndi kusagwirizana pankhani yogonana m’kamwa muubwenzi.” Chifukwa chake, kutengera komwe muli, lembani malangizo othandiza omwe angakuthandizeni:
1. Gwiritsani ntchito 3 Cs kulumikizana
Momwe mungakondweretse mwamuna pabedi kapena momwe mungakondweretsere mkazi pabedi - zirizonse zomwe mukukumana nazo, dziwani kuti njira yomanga ubwenzi imayambira kunja kwa chipinda chogona. Kugonana m'banja kapena pachibwenzi sikungayende bwino pokhapokha okondedwa ali ogwirizana m'maganizo. Kuti zimenezi zitheke, m’pofunika kuti muzimvetsetsana ndipo musamapse mtima mukangoona kuti simukumasuka kapena kunyoza mnzanuyo ngati sakukupatsani nthawi yomweyo zimene mwapempha. Zonsezi zitha kutsogozedwa ndi kulankhulana momasuka, moona mtima. Dr. Bhonsle amalankhula za 3 Cs ya luso loyankhulana:
- Malizitsani ziganizo zanu: Khalani olunjika pa zomwe mukufuna pabedi. Mwachitsanzo, ena mwamakasitomala anga amalankhula za momwe amakondera kupsompsona kwautali, konyowa ku France pomwe ena amakonda zofewa. Kodi mumakonda zotani? Ndipo abwenzi anu? Kambiranani za izi kuti mupeze mgwirizano wanu wogonana
- Kufotokozera zofunikira: Fotokozani momveka bwino thupi lanu ndi zosowa zam'maganizo. Kunena kuti “Mmmmm” kungatanthauze zinthu zosiyanasiyana. Wokondedwa wanu si wowerenga maganizo amene angathe kudziwa telepathically ngati mwakhumudwa kapena mukukayikira
- Kulumikizana kosamala: Chisamaliro chanu ndi chisamaliro chanu kwa okondedwa anu chiyenera kuonekera m’njira imene mumalankhulirana naye. Pewani kutsutsa. Mukanena mawu ngati, "Nthawi zonse mumakhala nthawi yayitali", mumakumana ngati woyesa, yemwe akuwunika momwe wina akuchitira pabedi osati mnzake yemwe amagawana nawo ndikusangalala ndi zomwe adakumana nazo.
2. Pezani njira yapakati yowonetsetsa kuti zosowa za onse awiri zikukwaniritsidwa
Kodi ndingakhale bwanji wokonda bwino kwa mkazi wanga? Kodi ndingatani kuti kugonana kukhale kosangalatsa kwa mwamuna wanga? Kodi ine ndi mnzanga tingawonjezere bwanji chilakolako chathu? - Yankho la mafunso onsewa ndi kuonetsetsa kuti zofuna za abwenzi onse zikuganiziridwa ndi kukwaniritsidwa mu nthawi yanu yapamtima, makamaka pamene zosowazi zikutsutsana kwambiri.
Kodi kukumbatirana pambuyo pogonana ndikofunikira kwa mmodzi wa inu pomwe winayo amafunikira malo? Kodi wokondedwa wanu amakonda kugonana m'mawa kapena masana ndipo mumakonda usiku? Nanga bwanji zomwe mumakonda mu foreplay? Kulankhula za izi ndikupeza maziko apakati pazinthu zomwe zosowa zanu ndizosiyana ndizofunikira. "Mmodzi mwa makasitomala anga sankakonda kukwatiwa pambuyo pogonana chifukwa amagona mopepuka koma mkazi wake ankafuna kukumbatirana. Kusagwirizana kumeneku pa zosowa zawo kunawapangitsa onse kukhala osakondwa. Zikatero, ndimalangiza okondedwa kuti azikumana pakati pa njira, mwachitsanzo, kukumbatirana kwa mphindi 15 mutagonana kapena kumapeto kwa sabata ".
Momwemonso, okwatirana ena amasemphana maganizo pa nthawi yoti agonane.” Mwamuna akhoza kukhala wodzutsidwa m’bandakucha koma mkazi angakonde kukhala pachibwenzi usiku.Mukakonda munthu, mumakhala ndi maganizo omasuka ndipo mumavomereza kukambitsirana pa zinthu zoterozo.Simumadana ndi zizolowezi zawo zodabwitsa, m’chenicheni, zimenezo ndi zinthu zimene zimachititsa kuti wokondedwa wanuyo akhale wapadera.
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3. Kukhazikitsa zomwe sizingakambirane
Kodi kukhala wokonda wabwino? Dziwani zomwe wokondedwa wanu amakonda ndi zomwe sakonda pakama. Kusamala ndi nitty gritty ndikofunikira kwambiri. Dr. Bhonsle akufotokoza kuti: “Amuna ndi akazi amene ndinawalangiza anangotsala pang’ono kuthetsa banja chifukwa chakuti analephera kukhazikitsa malire a kugonana muukwati wawo ngakhale kuti anali pachibwenzi kwa zaka zitatu asanakwatirane.” Mkaziyo anasudzulana chifukwa chakuti mwamuna wake anafuna kuyesa kugonana kumatako, zimene anaona kuti n’zonyansa.
"Ngakhale malire a munthu angakhale osinthasintha pankhani ya kupsompsonana kapena kugonana, kukakamiza wina kuti ayesere kuchita zogonana zomwe sakusangalala nazo kungayambitse mavuto. Chinsinsi chofuna kudziwa momwe mungasangalatsire mkazi pabedi - kapena mwamuna, makamaka - ndikutsimikiza zomwe zili zovomerezeka ndi zomwe sizili zovomerezeka. Kumbukirani, udindo wa kuvomereza sunganyalanyazidwe, mosasamala kanthu za msinkhu waubwenzi womwe muli nawo."
4. Gwiritsani ntchito chinenero cha “Ine” m’malo mwa “inu”
Dr. Bhonsle amalankhula mwatsatanetsatane za chilankhulo cha "I" mu maubwenzi apamtima. Iye akutsindika kuti munthu ayenera kunena kuti, "Ndikufuna kuti muzigwirana pambuyo pogonana", m'malo monena kuti, "Nthawi zonse mumathawa kugonana". Mofananamo, m’malo monena kuti, “Kodi mungasangalale bwanji kugonana m’kamwa?
Iye akuwonjezera kuti, “Mawu onyoza kapena onyoza angapangitse munthu kumva ngati wakanidwa ndipo amamupangitsa kudziteteza. Ngakhale muli ndi ufulu wonena zomwe mumakonda komanso kugawana zomwe mumakonda ndi zomwe simukonda ndi mnzanu, muyenera kusamala posankha mawu. N’zotheka kukana kugonana kapena zochita zina zogonana popanda kukhumudwitsa mnzanuyo.”
5. Orgasm si cholinga chomaliza
Izi ndi za wokondedwa wanu - kugonana sikuti nthawi zonse kumabweretsa kutopa. Dr. Bhonsle akuti, "Ngati mukufuna kukhala wokondedwa wabwino, ndikofunikira kuzindikira kuti kutopa sikofunikira pa chilichonse. Nthawi zambiri, amuna ndi akazi sangathe kutopa panthawi yogonana koma amadzithandiza okha pambuyo pake. Nthawi zina, mnzawo m'modzi yekha ndiye amatha kutopa panthawi yogonana kenako n'kumulimbikitsa winayo.
Njira yabwino yopititsira patsogolo khalidwe la kugonana m’banja kapena pachibwenzi ndi kusunga zinthu kukhala zamadzimadzi komanso zamphamvu monga momwe mungathere ndikuchita zomwe zingakuthandizeni inu ndi mnzanuyo. Kumbukirani, palibe njira yolondola kapena yolakwika apa; chilichonse chomwe chimakusangalatsani inu ndi okondedwa wanu ndi njira yopitira.
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6. Musachepetse mphamvu ya kusonyeza chikondi
Monga tanenera kale, ulendo wofufuza momwe mungakhalire okondana bwino pabedi umayambira kunja kwa chipinda chogona. Ngati mukulimbana ndi kusagonana m'banja kapena pachibwenzi, kapena ngati mukufuna kusintha khalidwe la kugonana, muyenera kuyesetsa kukulitsa chiyanjano chanu ndi mnzanuyo.
Njira imodzi yodziwikiratu yochitira zimenezi ndikulimbikitsa ubale weniweni muubwenzi . Dr. Bhonsle akulangiza kuti, "Kusonyezana chikondi kosagonana monga kugwirana manja, kukumbatirana, kukumbatirana, ndi kupsompsonana ndikofunikira kwambiri kuti okwatirana awiri azimva kuti ali ogwirizana komanso ogwirizana." Choncho, yesetsani kupangitsa mnzanuyo kumva kuti akukondedwa kunja kwa chipinda chogona ngati mukufuna kuwonjezera kutentha mkati.
7. Chepetsani ndikusangalala ndi mnzanu
Izi zimagwira ntchito yowonetseratu komanso kugonana. Anthu nthawi zambiri amasesedwa chifukwa cha kutentha kwa mphindi kotero kuti satenga nthawi kuti asangalale ndi kukhala pachibwenzi ndi okondedwa awo. Kusintha kumeneku kungakhale gawo loyamba kuti mukhale okondana bwino ndi anzanu.
Ngati mukudabwa kuti “momwe mungakhalire wokondedwa wabwino kwa mkazi/bwenzi langa” kapena “momwe mungapangire kugonana kukhala kosangalatsa kwa mwamuna/bwenzi langa”, apa ndi malo abwino oyambira. Tengani nthawi yokwanira yofufuza matupi a wina ndi mnzake ndikuchita masewero olimbitsa thupi nthawi zambiri momwe mungathere. Ngati mukuchita kale zimenezo, yesani kuchepetsa liwiro ndikusangalala ndi mphindi iliyonse. Yang'anani m'maso mwa mnzanuyo ndikusangalala kwambiri ndi kupanga chibwenzi . Chinsinsi chake ndikudzilimbitsa nokha munthawi ino ndikusangalala ndi zomwe zikuchitika.
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8. Yesani malo atsopano ndi osiyana pabedi
Aliyense ali ndi ufulu wofufuza, kufotokoza, ndi kuyesa zomwe zimawadzutsa, zowasangalatsa, ndi zowakhutiritsa. Izi ndizofunikira kuti mupange ubale wokwanira. Sizongokhudza maudindo omwe mumakonda komanso omwe mukufuna kuyesa nawo. Osadziletsa, kutengera zomwe zidachitika kale, ndipo khalani omasuka kuzinthu zatsopano. Tikhulupirireni, kudzidalira ndiko chinsinsi.
Kufufuza maudindo atsopano kumakhala kofunika kwambiri ngati inu kapena mnzanuyo mukukumana ndi mavuto ena azaumoyo. Mwachitsanzo, ngati chibwenzi/mwamuna wanu akuvutika ndi vuto la kugonana kapena nkhawa yokhudza kugonana, kukhala wokonzeka kuyesa pabedi kungakhale yankho lanu la momwe mungasangalatsire mwamuna pabedi. Maudindo ena angawathandize kuchita bwino. Momwemonso, amuna akhoza kukhala bwino pabedi poyesa maudindo omwe amasangalatsa kwambiri anzawo.
9. Onani malo anu ndi okondedwa anu
Thupi la munthu lili ndi mitundu yosiyanasiyana ya madera ozungulira ndipo izi zimatha kusiyana malinga ndi munthu ndi munthu. Kufufuza madera ozungulira ndikugwiritsa ntchito nthawi yanu ndi njira yodziwira bwino momwe thupi lanu limagwirira ntchito. Kuyambira kupsompsonana pakhosi mpaka kuluma khutu, kuyambira ntchafu mpaka zala ndi kumbuyo kwa mawondo, kuyambira kuyamwa mpaka kuluma kofewa - pali malo ambiri oti muyesere apa.
Ngati mukufuna kuphunzira kukhala okonda bwino m'chipinda chogona, yambani ndi kufufuza madera erogenous wina ndi mzake m'njira zosiyanasiyana. Ndi kafukufuku wowoneka ngati wosavuta wa matupi a wina ndi mnzake, mutha kukulitsa kuchuluka kwa kugonana mokulirapo.
10. Adabwitsani ndi zinthu zatsopano
Kukondana m'chipinda chogona si kungosewera ndi kugonana kokha, ndipo simungathe kumaliza kuphunzira momwe mungakhalire wokondedwa wabwino pokhapokha mutagwira ntchito pazinthu zosiyanasiyana zofunika zomwe zimapangitsa kuti chilakolako ndi chilakolako chikhale bwino m'chipinda chogona . Ngati mukudabwa kuti "momwe mungakhalire wokondedwa wabwino kwa mwamuna wanga" kapena "momwe mungamupangitsire mkazi wanga kukhala wokondwa", ndiye kuti malangizo awa ochokera kwa mphunzitsi wa ubale ndi chikondi Shivanya Yogmayaa angakuthandizeni:
- Valani, kununkhiza achigololo ndi kucheza wina ndi mzake monga alendo kachiwiri
- Sambani ndi kusamba pamodzi
- Kumanga m'maso ndi kuvula wina ndi mzake
- Sewerani mnzanu ndi kuvina kovula
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11. Kondwerani gawo lililonse laubwenzi mchipinda chogona
Musanayambe kuchita chiwerewere, lumikizanani bwino. Kuyesa kukhudza thupi kosakhala kogonana monga kupatsana masisitere a thupi kungakhale kosangalatsa komanso kumathandiza okwatirana kuti agwirizanenso kwambiri kuposa kungochita zogonana. Sewerani nyimbo pa chipinda chochezera ndikuyatsa makandulo pamene mukusamalirana. Tsopano popeza mwasangalala ndi kusamba, kusisita thupi, kuvina kovala zovala, kuseka, kuwomberana, ndi kugonana kosangalatsa, sangalalani ndi gawo lotsatira.
Mukamaliza kuchitapo kanthu, musaganize mwachangu za kuvala kapena kugona. M'malo mwake khalani ndi nthawi yokumbatirana. Mphindi pambuyo pogonana ndi omwe ali owona mtima komanso osatetezeka. Gwiritsani ntchito nthawizo mutagona m'manja mwa mnzanuyo, ndikusisita tsitsi kapena thupi lawo mosasamala, ndikulankhula nawo. Ngati simuli wamkulu pakuyankhula, ndiye khalani chete nthawizo, koma onetsetsani kuti mumasangalala nthawi imeneyo limodzi.
Zolozera Mfungulo
- Kuti mukhale wokondana bwino ndi wokondedwa wanu, muyenera kumvetsetsa zosowa zake - zamaganizo komanso zogonana
- Nenani momveka bwino zomwe simungakambirane ndikukhazikitsa malire ogonana msanga
- Gwiritsani ntchito mawu akuti "Ine" kuti mufotokoze zosowa zanu kwa wokondedwa wanu
- Osakhazikika pamalingaliro omwe anthu amangoganiza kuti kugonana kwabwino kumayenera kukhala kotani; chilichonse chomwe chingakuyendereni inu ndi mnzanu ndi njira yopitira
- Ikani patsogolo ziwonetsero zosagonana kuti mulimbikitse chikondi chanu
- Pitirizani kudabwitsa mnzanuyo ndi zinthu zatsopano ndikuyang'ana matupi a wina ndi mzake kuti chikhumbocho chikhale chozizira
Maganizo athu omaliza angagwiritse ntchito mawu osavuta, ndi malangizo akale ochokera ku buku lakuti How to be a good lover , lomwe linasinthidwa ndi laibulale ya Bodleian, “Musayese kupsompsonana m’bwato pokhapokha ngati nonse muli okhoza kusambira ndipo musapsompsone wokondedwa wanu ndi chipewa chanu chili pamutu panu.” Kupatula nthabwala, bola ngati simutaya chidwi chanu chofuna kudziwa mnzanu, mupeza njira zatsopano zolumikizirana naye.
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