Momwe Mungamangire Ubale Wathanzi Wama Gay

Pali chodabwitsa chomwe chimatchedwa udzu kukhala wobiriwira mbali ina ya mpanda, pomwe anthu amaganiza kuti kukhala m'malo osiyanasiyana kungapangitse moyo wawo kukhala wabwino.

Kodi tinganene zimenezo ponena za maunansi ogonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha? Ngakhale kuti anthu ena akadali osatsimikiza za mutuwo, monga momwe zafotokozedwera m'nkhani yatsopano ya Tendermeets tikukhala m'dera lovomerezeka kwambiri komwe kuli. si mlandu kukhala gay, si mmene zinalili kale. Poganizira izi, tiwona mbali zosiyanasiyana za maubwenziwa kuti timvetsetse kufanana kwawo komanso kusiyana kwawo ndi maubwenzi ena.

Kuwerenga Kofanana: LGBT Kapena Apo ayi, Chikondi Ndi Chikondi - Prince Manvendra Singh Gohil

Chilengedwe Ndi Chikhalidwe Chogonana

Chilengedwe komanso momwe munthu amagonana ndi munthu ndizoyenera kuyang'ana pozindikira ngati wina ali wokondwa paubwenzi kapena ayi. Chinthu chimodzi chokhudza amuna kapena akazi okhaokha n'chakuti nthawi zambiri sakhumudwitsidwa ndi achibale kapena abwenzi chifukwa chongolunjika. Komabe, zomwezo sizinganenedwe za anthu omwe ali gay. Chifukwa chake kupeza kuvomerezedwa m'banja kungakhale chopinga chachikulu chomwe okwatirana ogonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha ayenera kuwoloka.

Mwa kuyankhula kwina, kukhala ndi ubale nthawi zambiri ndi njira yabwino yothandizira yomwe munthu wa gay angakhale nayo. Osati kokha kuti pali anthu ochepa omwe angakhale okwatirana nawo, koma akuyeneranso kuyesa ngati akuyenerana m'njira zosiyanasiyana kusiyana ndi maanja owongoka.

Nthawi zambiri, anthu ogonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha adzapeza kagulu kakang'ono ka anthu omwe ali ofanana nawo muzotsatira ndikugwiritsa ntchito ngati malo otetezeka omwe sangaweruzidwe ndi anthu ena.

Choncho, mofanana ndi ena, anthu ogonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha amafunafuna anzawo amene amawathandiza ndi achikondi ngakhale kuti nthawi zambiri zimakhala zovuta kuwapeza.

Nthano ndi zoona zokhudza maubwenzi a gay

N'zomvetsa chisoni kuti alipo ambiri nthano zosiyanasiyana za maubwenzi a gay zomwe zimapitirizidwa kudzera m'ma TV kapena ndi anthu omwe akuyesera kufotokoza madandaulo awo ndi amuna kapena akazi okhaokha. Izi zikunenedwa, ndikofunikira kuzindikira ndikuchotsa malingaliro awa omwe tichite pano.

Nthano: Amuna ndi akazi okhaokha amakhala ndi “mwamuna” ndi “mkazi”.

Iyi ndi nthano yodziwika bwino, koma ndiyopanda pake. Amuna awiri atha kukhala ndi m'modzi muubwenzi wachikazi, koma izi sizitanthauza kuti wina ndi mwamuna ndipo wina alibe. Anthu ogonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha ali apadera paudindo wawo paubwenzi monga momwe amakhalira mabanja owongoka.

Bodza: Maubwenzi a gay amalephera pamlingo wapamwamba kwambiri kuposa ena.

Izo sizowona konse. Amatha kutha mofanana ndi maubwenzi ena achikulire. Kupatula apo, pali zolimbikitsa zambiri zomwe zimakhala limodzi komanso zovuta zomwe okwatirana ogonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha amakumana nazo ngati zowongoka. Kafukufuku wina mu 2003 adapeza kuti maukwati ogonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha amakhala ndi mwayi wopambana pazaka 20 poyerekeza ndi maubwenzi owongoka.

Bodza: Ogonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha si makolo abwino.

Maphunziro ambiri amalizidwa pamutuwu. Anthu amaganiza kuti chifukwa anthu ogonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha sangakhale ndi ana popanda chithandizo chamankhwala kuti sangakhale makolo opambana. Malinga ndi kafukufuku wambiri, okwatirana ogonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha amagwira ntchito mofanana ndi makolo mofanana ndi anthu owongoka, omwe amapereka moyo wolemera, wokhutira ndi chitukuko cha ana m'nyumba zawo.

Nchiyani chimapangitsa kuti maubwenzi a amuna kapena akazi okhaokha aziyenda bwino kapena kulephera?

Palibe ubale womwe sukumana ndi zovuta. Gay kapena molunjika, anthu amagwa m'chikondi kenako chifukwa cha chikondi mosavuta. Komabe, m'pofunikabe kufufuza zinthu zomwe zimapangitsa kuti amuna kapena akazi okhaokha azipambana kapena kulephera.

Chifukwa chimodzi, kuyanjana kwathunthu ndi chinthu chomwe chingapangitse anthu kukhala osiyana. Mutha kulowa muubwenzi ndikuyamba kusokonekera pozindikira kuti simukonda zinthu zomwezo kapena zinthu zomwezo kuti mutsimikizire ubale wanu.

ngati mabanja owongoka, mukhoza kuyamba ndewu zazikulu ndi zovuta. Ngakhale kuti anthu ogonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha sangathenso kubera anzawo, zimachitikadi. Choncho, wina akabera anzawo, amawasiya.

Komabe, pali zinthu zambiri zogawana za ubale wabwino pakati pa amuna kapena akazi okhaokha. Ngati anthu amakondedwa, kulemekezedwa, ndipo ali ndi zolinga zofanana, mwayi ndi wakuti adzakhalapo kwa nthawi yaitali.

Kupanga Ubale Wathanzi Wama Gay

Kupanga ubale wathanzi wa gay kumafuna ntchito ngati ubale wina uliwonse. Mwanjira zina, zitha kukhala zovuta kwambiri. Mwachitsanzo, kupeza bwenzi mukakhala otanganidwa ndi moyo kumakhala kovuta, koma pali njira zothetsera izo. Kotero, sitepe yoyamba yomanga ubale wathanzi wa gay ndikuonetsetsa kuti mwapeza munthu woyenera.

Njira imodzi imene anthu amagwiritsira ntchito bwino ndi kuchita zibwenzi pa Intaneti. Pogwiritsa ntchito akatswiri odziwa zibwenzi, mutha kupeza munthu yemwe ali pafupi, akuyang'ana zinthu zomwezo ngati inu mwa mnzanu ndipo ali ndi mawonekedwe omwe mukufuna pamasewera. Sikuti izi ndizoyenera kwa anthu omwe ali otanganidwa ndi zochitika za tsiku ndi tsiku, komanso ndi njira yabwino yokonzera madeti osachita khama.

Kuchokera pamenepo, kumanga ubale wabwino kumaphatikizapo zinthu zambiri. Mwachitsanzo, anthu amafunika khalani ndi malire a khalidwe loyenerera paubwenzi. Anthu ena amafuna magawo ofanana m’mbali zonse zaubwenzi, pamene ena amasinthanitsa ntchito ndi kusamalira panyumba.

Ndikofunikiranso kuvomerezana ndi zolinga zanthawi yochepa ndi yanthawi yayitali ndiyeno n’kuchitapo kanthu. Mukufuna kukhazikitsa ubale wanu kuti ukhale wopambana osati kulephera pokambirana ngati mwakonzeka kuchitapo kanthu kwa nthawi yayitali kapena ndikungofuna kukhala pachibwenzi ndikuwona komwe zinthu zimapita. Zoyembekeza zonsezi ndizothandiza popanga ubale wabwino wa gay.

Maubwenzi a gay ali ngati maubwenzi owongoka m'mbali zonse za chisangalalo ndi kusweka mtima.

Kuti tiyankhe funso lofunsidwa ndi mutu wathu: Ayi, maubwenzi a amuna kapena akazi okhaokha si abwino kapena oyipa kuposa ena. Amafunikira ntchito ndi kumvetsetsa limodzi ndi mwayi pang'ono kuti apambane kwathunthu. Ndikofunikira kwambiri tsopano kuposa kale kumvetsetsa kuti anthu ogonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha ndi anthu poyamba. Choncho, owerenga akulimbikitsidwa kuchotsa nthano ndi kuphunzira zambiri za anthu ogonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha m'malo mowanyoza m'tsogolomu.

Mabanja 10 Odziwika Odziwika ndi Amuna Kapena Akazi Amodzi (Gay).

6 Osewera a Bollywood Omwe Adasewera Maudindo Oyipa Modabwitsa!

Zopereka zanu sizikupanga zachifundo Mphatso. Zilola kuti Bonobology ipitilize kukubweretserani zidziwitso zatsopano komanso zaposachedwa pakufuna kwathu kuthandiza aliyense padziko lapansi kuphunzira momwe angachitire chilichonse.

Onani Ndondomeko Yathu Yolembera

Kumanani ndi Bungwe Lathu Lowunika

Gawani Ndemanga

Ndemanga zanu ndi zotani?

×

zothandiza Nenani Cholakwika Zina

kugonjera