Momwe Anafikira Kuvomereza Kuti Mwana Wake Ndi Gay Ngakhale Mamuna Wake Amakhala Osiyana

Monga adauza Eleena Sanyal

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Ine ndi mwamuna wanga Lalit tinalera ana athu aamuna ku Mumbai. Posachedwa ndidapuma pantchito yapagulu ndipo Lalit adapuma zaka 3 zapitazo ngati wasayansi ngakhale akuti, kodi wasayansi angapume pantchito? Mwana wanga wamwamuna wamkulu Milind tsopano ali ndi zaka 31 ndipo Kshitij ali ndi zaka 29. Poyamba ndi anzanga apamtima ndipo abale pambuyo pake.

Milind amakumbukira koyambirira kwa mchimwene wake ndi pomwe onse adayamba kumenyana ndi chiwongolero chakutali cha TV ali ana. Aliyense wakula akumudziwa mnzake monga mnzake, wokhulupirira, wopikisana naye pa matebulo ochulukitsa, komanso amagawana zovala ndi makabati mosakayikira. Akhoza kukhala pakhosi pa wina ndi mzake koma nthawi zomwe zimawagwirizanitsa nthawi zonse zinali zotsutsana ndi ine ndi ma diktat anga. Mwamuna wanga adakumana nawo mocheperapo, chifukwa adakhala nthawi yayitali mu labotale yake ndipo akakhala kunyumba, adatiyang'ana mwachete pamene timasewera masewera amakono a Nkhondo ya Kurukshetra m'chipinda chochezera.

Pamene Anayamba Kusintha

Imeneyi inali Kurukshetra yovomerezeka kwambiri, chifukwa chakuti zidachitikanso ndi ana ena m'mabanja ena. Nkhondo ina imene tinali kumenya pamodzi zaka 15 zapitazi inali ya mtundu wina komanso ukulu wake. Atangolowa ku koleji, Milind adaganiza zosiya tsitsi lake kuti likule. Iyo inali koleji, pambuyo pake. Iye ankayenera kulandira malipiro ochepa. Mchira wake wa ponytail utakula kuposa wanga, Lalit adati apite kukadula. Mosiyana ndi mmene ankachitira nthawi zonse, iye anakalipira bambo ake n’kunena kuti ankafuna kulilima chifukwa ankalikonda lalitali. Mwadzidzidzi adayimba zonse pomwe ma fuse m'mutu mwake adayamba kuphulika.

Sitinakonzekere momwe adaphulika kulingana pakati pa amuna ndi akazi ndi kukondera ndikuyamba kukayikira malingaliro ndi miyambo mosavutikira. Analavula utsi pamene ankanena kuti chilichonse n’chofanana kwa amuna ndi akazi. Anali kuyenda mmwamba ndi pansi ndipo ndinawona makutu ake akusanduka ofiira ndi mikanda ya thukuta ikuyenderera m'mbali mwake. Ndinadabwa ndi kukhumudwa kwake kosaneneka. Sanayang'anena ndi aliyense wa ife panthawi yomwe ankalankhula. Adamaliza ndi mawu akunjenjemera kuti amakonda kuvala ngati azimayi ndipo amatero tsiku lililonse. Anatipempha kuti tisadzafunsenso.

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Zinali Zoonekeratu Kuti Anali Gay

Kshitij anali atapita ku maphunziro ake a gitala ndipo ine ndi Lalit tinathokoza Mulungu popanda kuvomerezana. Kodi chimphepochi chinali chiyani chomwe changowononga miyoyo yathu? Panalibe kulosera kuti kudzatigunda. M'masabata akubwerawa, Milind adayamba kukulunga mbava ndi masikhafu m'khosi mwake. Panali pakati pa mwezi wa October. Ndinadziwa kuti sanali kumva kuzizira. Iye ankangotulutsa zonse. Zina mwa izo zinali kupanduka kumene ndinakhulupirira. Zinali zowawa zonse ndi mikangano yomwe inakhala m'kati mwa zaka zingapo zapitazi pamene sanayerekeze kutuluka.

Milind, mwana wanga wamwamuna wamkulu, mwana wanga woyamba, wabwinoko kuposa wangwiro, anali wogonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha. Anthu ankamutchula kuti gay ndi queer akadziwa. Ndipo posakhalitsa amacheza chifukwa anali atayamba kugwiritsa ntchito eyeliner ndi milomo gloss. Anasintha mosamala kuchoka ku stoles kupita ku ma dupattas. Akajambula zikhadabo zake, ankavala nsapato kapena nsapato. Tsopano adavala ma chappals a Kolhapuri chifukwa amafuna kuwonetsa polishi ya misomali ya matt yomwe adagula ku mtundu watsopano. Iye ankakonda anyamata. Analotanso kukwatiwa ndi mwamuna ndikumanga naye nyumba ndi banja, adandiuza zakukhosi kamodzi.

Kodi Ndinalakwa Chiyani?

M’gawo loyamba la mantha anga, ndinaona ichi ngati chilango ndipo ndinadzifunsa chimene ndinalakwa. Chifukwa chiyani ine? Bwanji mwana wanga? Kodi sindiyenera kumutchanso mwana wanga? Kodi ndiyamikire nyenyezi zanga kuti akadali bwino ndi ana a aneba amamutcha bhaiyya? Kodi ndipemphere kwa Milungu yonse pakati pa Vaishnodevi ndi Vatican kuti mwana wanga wamwamuna wamng'ono asasinthe 'mapulani'? Ndinasokonezeka kwambiri ndipo ndinkakonda kuimba mlandu ntchito yanga ya muofesi chifukwa cha kuyang'anira kotheka. Kodi sindinagwirepo zizindikiro? Sanasinthe gay usiku wonse.

Lalit sanasangalatse zokambirana zilizonse pankhaniyi. Ngakhale kuti anali ndi malingaliro ndi luntha la mkulu wa sayansi, mtima wake sunagwirizane ndi mfundo yakuti mwana wake sanali wowongoka monga ankakhulupirira kuti akanayenera kukhala. Kutalikirana maganizo kumasuliridwa kukhala kutali kwa abambo ndi mwana, pomwe Milind adasamukira kudziko lina kukachita maphunziro apamwamba.

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Ndachilandira Tsopano

Masiku ano Milind ali wokondwa kwambiri ndi banja lake gay mnzake Steve. Patha chaka chimodzi kuchokera pamene ine ndi Kshitij tinali oimira banja la Milind okha paukwatiwo. Achibale ndi anzake a Steve anakhamukira ku Ulaya konse. Lalit sanathe kuvomereza mgwirizanowu ndipo akuganiza kuti sukhalitsa. Amayembekeza kuti sizitero. Kutalikira sikunachepetse kugunda. Amakhala ku Kent ndipo Milind amandiimbira foni tsiku lililonse. Pa tsiku lobadwa la Lalit chaka chatha, Milind ankafuna kukhumba abambo ake. Ndinamva chete pakati pa 7000 km nditagwira mzere, ndikupempha Lalit mwakachetechete ndi maso anga kuti apereke moni kwa mwana wake. Lalit adangokhala akugwedeza mpando wake kwambiri kuposa kale.

Kshitij amamvetsetsa mchimwene wake. Iye amamva chisoni kwambiri ndi mnzanga amene anakhala naye m’mimba mwanga ndi zaka zake zopanda mano. Ubale wawo umasemphana ndi mfundo zonse zamakhalidwe abwino zokhazikitsidwa ndi anthu. Kulumikizana kosadziwika pakati pawo kumamveka bwino. Amayima pafupi ndi Milind panjira iliyonse. Kshitij ndiyolunjika monga momwe gulu lathu lingafune. Ali ndi chibwenzi ndipo akukonzekera kukwatirana m'chaka chomwe chikubwera. Akufunanso kuwonetsetsa kuti mchimwene wake ndi Steve ali pafupi kuti alowe nawo mwambowu. Ana anga onse ndi anthu odabwitsa. Ndi akulu ophunzira, odziwa bwino omwe asankha njira yawo.

Mphatso Yaikulu Kwambiri Ndi Kuvomereza

Pambuyo pa zaka zonsezi, ndikakonzanso mavidiyo awo aubwana, ndimazindikira kuti mwina mphatso yaikulu kwambiri yomwe kholo lingapereke kwa ana awo ndi kuvomereza momwe iwo alili. Chikondi chiyenera kukhala chopanda malire. Sichingakhale ndi ifs ndi buts. Sindingathe kusintha maganizo ake kapena zimene amakonda, koma ndimatha kusintha mmene ndimachitira ndi zimene wasankha. Ngati ali abwino kwa iye ndiye kuti ali abwino kwa ine.

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