Kaŵirikaŵiri chikondi chimakula m’malo amene ubwenzi wabwino unakhazikitsidwa kale. Ubwenzi uli kale njira yabwino komanso yokonzedwa bwino. Koma mutangoyamba kukondana ndi mnzanu, maluwa amayamba kumera mozungulira. Mukawona zizindikiro kuti ndinu ochulukirapo kuposa anzanu, zingabweretse chidwi chosangalatsa cha "Kodi angatero? Sichoncho?"
Ubwenzi ungasinthe kukhala chikondi mukakhala ndi nthawi yokwanira ndi munthu. Mukakhala pafupi ndikulumikizana ndi munthu ngati mabwenzi, mumayamba kuwona zabwino zonse za iye!
Mumakonda kale gawo la iwo ndichifukwa chake ali pafupi kwambiri ndi inu. Mukakhala ndi nthawi yambiri komanso khama, mungayambe kukondana kwambiri ndi mnzanu zomwe zingakupangitseni kuchita zinazake. Kodi kudziwa pamene ubwenzi ndi kutembenukira chinthu kwambiri akhoza moona kutsegulira njira kwa ubwenzi wabwino, tiyeni tione zizindikiro muyenera kuyang'ana.
Zoyenera Kuchita Ngati Mukuphwanya Mnzanu?
M'ndandanda wazopezekamo
Osadandaula! Kukhala ndi chibwenzi si nkhani yaikulu. Ndizomveka, zovomerezeka, zomveka ndipo zimachitikadi nthawi zambiri. Si kumverera kuti muyenera kutembenuka kapena kupondereza. Zitha kuthetsedwa bwino.
Malinga ndi mmene mumam’kondera mnzanuyo ndiponso mmene mumayandikana, muyenera kusankha ngati mukufuna kumuuza kapena ayi. Ndalamayo imatha kuponyedwa njira iliyonse, palibe njira yotsimikizika yopitira mukakhala paubwenzi ndi kusweka.
Ngati mukuganiza kuti mnzanu wakhala akukupatsani malangizo enaake ndipo mwina angakhale ndi chidwi nanu, ndiye kuti nthawi yakwana yoti mupite kunyumba. Mufunseni kuti mukacheze naye, mosavuta. Izi zimapangitsa kuti zolinga zanu ndi malingaliro anu zimveke bwino. Ngati zinthu sizikuyenda momwe mukufunira, pali njira zothetsera chikondi chosabwezera.
Rose wakhala akuphwanya mnzake Matt kwa nthawi yayitali kwambiri. Aliyense ankadziwa kuti chikondi chamuofesi pakati pa awiriwa chinali pafupi. Matt atayambanso kuthera nthawi yochuluka pa chowuzira madzi pafupi ndi desiki yake, Rose adadziwa kuti chinali chizindikiro. Adalowa kuti aphedwe ndikufunsa Matt pa tsiku lachakudya!
N’zoona kuti palibe umboni wosonyeza kuti munthu akaulula kuti mnzanuyo anakukondani, zotsatira zake zidzakhala zimene munkayembekezera. Komabe, musadandaule. Ngakhale zinthu zitavuta, muyenera kuchita zonse zomwe mungathe kuti mukhalenso mabwenzi pambuyo pake. Simukufuna kutaya ubwenzi wabwino chifukwa chakuti simunakhalepo m’chikondi.
Ngakhale Matt adanena kuti inde ku deti la chakudya chamadzulo lomwe Rose adafuna, awiriwa adazindikira kuti anali bwino kukhala mabwenzi. Pambuyo pa masiku angapo, adazindikira kuti malingaliro awo sanali amphamvu kwambiri kwa wina ndi mzake koma adamaliza bwino. Amadyera limodzi nkhomaliro tsiku lililonse panthawi yopuma.
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Zizindikiro 11 Zomwe Muyenera Kuchita Pakuphwanya Kwa Mnzanu
Kuti tikuthandizeni kusankha ngati kukhudzika kwanu kwa mnzanu kuyenera kunyalanyazidwa kapena kupangidwa ndi thupi, tili ndi mndandanda wazizindikiro zomwe muyenera kuchita. Kuvomereza kuphwanya kwa bwenzi sikophweka ndipo muyenera kuyesetsa kukhala osamala momwe mungathere. Muyenera kudziwa ngati izi ndi zenizeni kapena kungomva kwakanthawi musanatengepo kanthu.
Mwina mukulira kuti “Ndili ndi chibwenzi ndi mnzanga,” koma kodi ndi chibwenzi chenicheni, kapena mumakonda mmene amakusekerani nthawi zina? Chikondi ndi kukondana nthawi zambiri zimatha kusokonezedwa, choncho musaike chikondi chanu pa maziko osakhazikika.
Khalani ndi nthawi yosankha ngati kuwauza kuli koyenera kapena ayi. Kodi sizikuwoneka kuti zikufika pamapeto otsimikizika? Yang'anani izi 11 zizindikiro zomwe muyenera kuchita pakukondana kwanu ndi mnzanu:
1. Mumalakalaka kuwaona
Monga abwenzi, mungafune kuwona abwenzi anu pafupipafupi ndikucheza nawo. Kupita kukamwa, kumwa ayisikilimu pamasiku amvula kapena kuonera mafilimu pamodzi - abwenzi nthawi zambiri amathera nthawi yabwino pamodzi.
Komabe, ngati mukuyembekezera kumapeto kwa sabata kuti muwone wokondedwa wanu kapena kupitiriza kumutumizira mauthenga awiri kuti muwone ngati ali aulere, mukuyamba kudzipereka ndikukonzekera chinthu chenicheni. Pali kusiyana kwakukulu pakati pa kusangalala kukumana ndi mnzanu ndi kukumana ndi wokondedwa wanu. Ngati mukufuna zizindikiro zosonyeza kuti ndinu mabwenzi ambiri, onani kangati mumasintha zovala zanu musanakumane ndi munthuyu. Ngati zikukupangitsani kukhala osakhazikika komanso osangalala kwambiri, mungakhale ndi chikondi chachikulu!
2. Mumakonda akamakuyamikani
Aliyense amasangalala ndi kuyamikiridwa ndi anthu ena. Chosangalatsa ndichakuti, munthu amasangalala ndi kuyamikiridwa kwambiri ngati akuchokera kwa munthu woyenera yemwe nthawi zonse umafuna kukuyang'anani. Mukakhala kwamuyaya mukuyesera kuti tsitsi lanu liwoneke bwino kwa munthu uyu ndipo amazindikira ndikuyamikani pa izi, tikuganiza kuti simutsika pamtambo wachisanu ndi chinayi posachedwa.
Ngati wokondedwa wanu amakuyamikani nthawi zambiri ndipo mumayamba kukwiya, mwina ndi nthawi yoti muyambe. Kapena, mungayambe mwa kuwayamikira kuti muwachititse manyazi ndikuwona momwe angachitire. Komabe, ngati kuyamikako kukusintha kukhala kukopana, ndithudi ndi chimodzi mwa zizindikiro zomwe muyenera kukhala nazo kuposa kukhala mabwenzi.
3. Mumamva agulugufe akamalowa m'chipinda
Kuwona bwenzi kumabweretsa chisangalalo, chisangalalo ndipo mutha kumva kuti ndinu otetezeka komanso olimbikitsidwa. Ngakhale kuti pamene mwakopeka ndi mnzanu, malingaliro amenewo samangokhala chilimbikitso. Iwo amakupangani inu giddy! Inu mwina munakhala mukupendekera pansi, tsopano mwakhala ndi nsana wanu mowongoka ngati muvi, mukuyang’ana kuti muwone ngati chirichonse mu chovala chanu sichili bwino.
Ngati kuphwanya kwanu kumalowa m'chipinda kumakupangitsani kudzidalira komanso kufooka m'mawondo, mumagwidwa - koma mwa njira yabwino. Ndi chimodzi mwazizindikiro zotsimikizika kuti ndinu ochulukirapo kuposa abwenzi, makamaka m'malingaliro anu chifukwa simungathe kudziletsa koma mukufuna kusangalatsa munthu uyu. Cupid waponya muvi wake ndipo ndi nthawi yoti muwombere yanu.
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4. Kuphwanya kwanu ndi osakwatiwa
Ngati wokondedwa wanu wakhala ali wosakwatiwa kwa nthawi yayitali, mwina akukubwezerani! Ngati mukufuna zizindikiro zakuti “kodi ndife oposa mabwenzi?”, wokondedwa wanu kukhala wosakwatiwa kwa kanthawi kungakhale chimodzi mwa izo. Ngati ali ndi mwayi wopeza chibwenzi koma asankhabe kukhala wosakwatiwa ndikukhala nanu nthawi yonse, palinso china chake chomwe chingawathandize.
Komano, komabe, zingatanthauzenso kuti amasangalala ndi moyo wawo wosakwatiwa kwambiri ndipo sakuyang'ana chibwenzi. Zikatero, chinthu chabwino kwambiri chimene mungachite ndicho kuwafunsa za nkhaniyi. Mukawafunsa ngati ali mbeta mosangalala kapena ayi, chidwi chanu pa ubale wawo chidzayambitsanso kucheza pang'ono kokopana. Zomwe muyenera kuchita pambuyo pake ndikuwonetsetsa kuti mwabweretsa masewera anu a A.
Pamene nonse mukulankhula za chifukwa chimene inu simuli mbeta, simudzakhala kwenikweni akulimbana kuyankha “momwe mungadziŵe pamene ubwenzi kutembenukira mu zina zambiri”. Lankhulani usiku wonse ndipo mwina nthawi ina mubweretse kuti inu nonse mutha kupanga banja labwino.
5. Adakupatsa malangizo
Kukukhudzani tsitsi lanu, kukhudza mkono wanu kwambiri, kumwetulira kosalekeza kapena kukunyengererani monyoza - izi ndi zizindikiro zazikulu zomwe zimakupangitsani kuti mukondenso. Ngati ndi amanyazi, anthu obisika omwe muli nawo kuposa mabwenzi anu angakhale ovuta kuwaona. Kuyang'anana nthawi yayitali, kuseka ndi kukondana, kuyesa kuyambitsa kukambirana nanu.
Mwina sakutsimikiza za mmene mukumvera kapena akuyesera kuti asawononge ubwenzi wanu. Komabe, sangalephere kukuululirani zakukhosi kwawo. Komanso, ngati ake / anzake tsopano mwadzidzidzi kusonyeza chidwi kwambiri inu ndipo inu mwatsala ndikudabwa "kodi zimatanthauza chiyani pamene abwenzi anu wosweka kulankhula nanu?" zitha kukhala chifukwa akungosonkhanitsira mnzako nzeru asanadumphire ndikukufunsani.
6. Mumathera nthawi yambiri muli limodzi kale
Kukhala mabwenzi osweka kungakhale kovuta mukakhala nawo nthawi yonse koma palibe chizindikiro cha "kupita". Ngati mumathera mphindi iliyonse yodzuka pamodzi, kusweka kwanu kumakukondani komanso kumasangalala ndi gulu lanu. Izi zikutanthawuzanso kuti mwamira kale mu chitonthozo chachikulu ndi iwo kotero kuti simukudziwa zomwe mukusowa.
Ngati mwagwidwa mukuganiza kuti, “Ndili ndi chikhumbo cha mnzanga, chotani?” ndipo muli kale mumkhalidwe womwe mukulankhula nawo nthawi zonse, mutha kulingalira kuwauza za izi popeza mwayandikira kale. Kumbukirani kuti zimenezi zingawononge ubwenzi wanu ngati munthuyo sakugwirizana ndi inuyo. Muyenera kuwauza zakukhosi kwanu ngati chizindikiro ichi mukufuna kukhala ochulukirapo kuposa abwenzi chikuphatikizidwa ndi zizindikiro zina zochepa.
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7. Amakuonani mosiyana
Maso athu akhoza kukhala owonetseratu ndikupereka malingaliro osiyanasiyana popanda ife kuzindikira. Ngati wokondedwa wanu nthawi zambiri amayang'ana m'maso mwanu mozama kapena kukuyang'anani pamene mukuyang'ana kumbali, ndiye kuti mwadutsa malire a ubwenzi. Ngati mwatsimikiza kuti "Ndimakopeka ndi bwenzi langa lapamtima" ndipo mukuyesera kuti muwone ngati malingaliro anu ali ofanana, yesani ndikuwona momwe amakuwonerani.
Mmene mumaonera mnzanu n’zosiyana kwambiri ndi momwe mumaonera munthu amene mumamukonda, ndipo mudzamuona akumuyang’ana ndi maso ake . Ngati nonse mumakhala bata mukamayang’anana m’maso kapena mukasangalala ndi nthawi zovuta, pali zambiri kuposa zomwe zimaonekera.
8. Mumawafuna mwakuthupi
Mungathe kunena kuti 'Ndikuphwanya bwenzi langa motsimikiza' pamene mumawaganizira. Ndithu kuposa kuphwanya chabe ngati mukuganiza za kusweka kwanu nthawi zambiri mu kugonana. A kamodzi mu buluu mwezi kugonana maloto za bwenzi ili sizikutanthauza kuti ndinu gaga pa iwo, koma pafupipafupi kugonana zongopeka ndi akufa kupereka kuti muli ndi kuphwanya bwenzi. Zoyenera kuchita pa izi ndiye funso lalikulu lotsatira, mpaka mutazindikira kuti, mutha kumwa madzi ozizira pang'ono.
9. Mumakambirana chilichonse
Kaya pameseji kapena munthu - ngati inu ndi kuphwanya wanu kale kwambiri m'miyoyo ya wina ndi mzake, ndi chizindikiro chabwino kuti muyenera kungopita. Muli kale pomwe awiri muli omasuka komanso mumakonda kugawana chilichonse wina ndi mnzake.
Imeneyo ndi theka la nkhondo yomwe mwapambana nthawi yomweyo chifukwa mwamaliza kumanga chidaliro muubwenzi wanu. Ngati mwakhala kale ndi ubale wapamtima chonchi, ndi nkhani ya nthawi yokha mpaka chibwenzi chanu chikhale chosiyana.
10. Anzanu akukhudzidwa
Ngati anzanu ayamba kusakanikirana ndi kusweka kwanu ndipo abwenzi anu osweka amakudziwani bwino - si gulu la anzanu koma bwalo lakunja - ndi chizindikiro choti ndi nthawi yoti muchitepo kanthu. Kusweka kwanu pa bwenzi kukusanduka chinthu chenicheni pamene anzanu ena ayamba kukhudzidwa kwambiri ndi kudziwana.
Anzanu amangosangalala ataona kuti chinachake chikuchitika kumeneko. Khulupirirani chibadwa chawo ndipo nthawi zina mumangodziwa. Ndiye ngati mwapezeka mukudzifunsa nokha "Kodi zimatanthauza chiyani pamene abwenzi anu okondedwa akulankhula nanu?" khalani omasuka podziwa kuti osachepera, ndi chizindikiro chabwino.
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11. Nthawi zonse umafunika maganizo awo
Ngati malingaliro a wosweka wanu akukhala choyimira pazosankha zanu zonse, mwayamba kuzitenga mozama. Osadandaula, chimenecho ndi chinthu chabwino chifukwa chikuwonetsa kuti mumawakonda kwambiri. Zokonda zawo ndi zomwe sakonda zikayamba kulowa muzanu, kukhudzika kwanu kwa anzanu kwangopita pamlingo wina!
Kukhala ndi chibwenzi ndi bwenzi ndikoposa kwachibadwa ndipo aliyense amadutsamo kamodzi pa moyo wake. Kulimbana ndi kusweka kwa bwenzi sikovuta. Malingana ngati simuchita mantha ndikupangitsa zinthu kukhala zovuta, zikhoza kutha bwino. Khalani weniweni ndi woona mtima ndi inu nokha ndi kupereka mpata kuphwanya wanu kudziwa zimene iwo akufuna.
Ibibazo
Zingawoneke ngati zachilendo poyamba koma siziri choncho. Zimachitika kwa aliyense kangapo m'miyoyo yawo ndi abwenzi awo ambiri. Timakonda kugwa kwa anthu omwe timakhala nawo nthawi zambiri.
Kungakhale kusweka kwenikweni kapena kungokhala mabwenzi amphamvu. Mulimonsemo, patulani nthawi kuti mudzimvetse nokha ndikuzindikira. Zizindikiro kuti ndinu ochulukirapo kuposa abwenzi zidzakuthandizani kudziwa ngati ndi ubwenzi wapamtima kapena mukungofuna munthu amene simungakwanitse.
Mukakhala otsimikiza kuti mukufuna kukhala naye ndipo mwakonzeka kuyika pachiwopsezo kuti mukambirane nkhani yofunika, mungamuuze. Komanso, samalani ndi zizindikiro kuti muwone ngati amakukondani kapena ayi. Osachita zomwe mukumvera ngati ali ndi mnzanu.
Zokonda zambiri zimayamba ngati maubwenzi! Ndipo m'pomveka, popeza panthawi yaubwenzi mumadziwana ndi munthu uyu mkati ndi kunja. Mwanjira ina, mwina ndi nthawi yabwino kwambiri ya chibwenzi yomwe ilipo. Kotero inde ndithudi, ubwenzi wanu ukhoza kusintha kukhala chikondi posachedwapa.
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