“Ndothuke kakhulu ukuba ndingasabela, ngokwenene ndandingazi ukuba ucinga ngale nto,” kwiminyaka embalwa edlulileyo, umhlobo wam wakhala egxalabeni lam, njengoko wayejamelene nenyaniso yokuwohloka komtshato wakhe. Kwiinyanga ngaphambi koku, ndandingenantliziyo yokumxelela ukuba umtshato wakhe uza kubetha ngokukhawuleza. “Kuyo yonke indawo, kukho iimpawu ezibonisa ukuba umyeni wakho uceba ukukushiya.” Ngelishwa, ungaboni kakuhle,” ndandimxelele ngokuphandle.
Ngokungathandabuzekiyo, ukuthetha kwam phandle akuzange kuxatyiswe yaye wayeka nokundincokolisa kangangexesha elithile. Ngelishwa, ndingqinwe ndilungile. Kwiinyanga ezimbalwa emva kwale ncoko, wanikwa amaphepha oqhawulo-mtshato. “Umyeni wam uyandishiya,” watsho njalo umhlobo wam. "Ndiya kwaphuka ngaphandle kwakhe."
Njengomntu wesifazane, ndazibuza ukuba kutheni nawuphi na umfazi efuna ukubambelela kwindoda ngokucacileyo ayinamdla kuye, kodwa ke, intliziyo isebenza ngeendlela ezingaqondakaliyo. Into eyashiywa ingathethwa ngumhlobo wam yile: “Umyeni wam ufuna ukundishiya kodwa ndisamthanda, yaye ndifuna ukwenza konke okusemandleni ukuthintela oku kungenzeki.”
Nangona kunjalo, kulapho umhlobo wam kunye nabantu abaninzi abafana naye bephambuka. Kuphantse kube yinto engenakwenzeka ukuthintela umtshato ukuba ungaqhawuki, ngakumbi ukuba elinye iqabane lanele kuko. Usenokuziva utyekele ekuzibuzeni umbuzo othi “Kutheni umyeni wam efuna ukundishiya nje?” Enyanisweni, usenokungavumelani nengqiqo yakhe emva kokuyibiza, kodwa ukuze umtshato usebenze kakuhle, omabini amaqabane kufuneka atyalwe ngokulinganayo.
"Nokuba kukho iingxaki, isibini sinokuzilungisa ngaphandle kokuba kukho ukuthanda ukwenza izinto zisebenze. Kodwa ukuba elinye iqabane liwuncamile umtshato, kwaye xa iqabane lakho lenziwe nawe ngokwasemoyeni, nakuphi na ukudibanisa kuya kuba sisisombululo nje sexeshana," utshilo ingcali ye-NLP esekwe kwi-UAE uSushma Perla.
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Isiqulatho
Ngenzeka, imfuno yoqhawulo-mtshato ayisoze yenzeke ngequbuliso nokuba ibonakala ngathi ibholithi eluhlaza. Ngamaxesha amaninzi, kusoloko kukho imiqondiso emininzi umyeni wakho aceba ukukushiya kodwa usenokungazazi kakuhle izinto ezenzeka engqondweni yakhe okanye ebomini bakhe kangangokuba uqhele ukuzihoya.
Oku akupheleli nje kubudlelwane obubonakala ngathi bujonga zonke iibhokisi kuluhlu lovavanyo lwemitshato eyonwabileyo (njengolo mhlobo ukhankanyiweyo) kodwa nakobo bungonwabanga apho, nangona kukho iingxaki ezinzima, unokuziva ngathi isiseko sobudlelwane bakho somelele ngokwaneleyo ukuba singamelana nazo naziphi na iinkqwithela. Ewe, bunokuba namandla, kodwa wenza ntoni ukuba umyeni wakho akasakuthandi? “Xa isiseko esenza ubudlelwane busebenze – uthando nokuthembana – singekho, kuba nzima ukubugcina,” utshilo uSushma.
Kwelinye icala, amabhinqa amaninzi sele ethandabuza ukuba kukho undonakele emtshatweni wawo. Noko ke, ukwamkela le ngcamango “Ndicinga ukuba umyeni wam uza kundishiya” kuyothusa. Ngoko baqhubeka bejonge kwelinye icala, benethemba lokuba ukungathethisani nendlovu egumbini kuya kuyenza imke. Nangona kunjalo, kunqabile ukuba izinto zihambe njani.
Ke, ukuba imibuzo efana "Ngaba umyeni wam ufuna ukundishiya?" okanye “Ngaba umyeni wam uza kundishiya nangona ndikulungele ukulungisa umtshato?” zikugcina ebusuku, sukulithulisa elo thuku lethuku. Ukuze uzisindise kwintlungu yentliziyo kamva, kuhlala kungcono ukuba ulumke kwaye uqaphele apho umtshato wakho umi khona. Nazi ezinye iimpawu iqabane lakho licinga ngokuphelisa umanyano lwakho nawe:
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1. Akanaxesha lakho
Akusoloko kusenzeka ukuba uhlale udibene e-hip wakuba utshatile. Uxanduva kunye neenkxalabo zomsebenzi zinokukhokelela abantu ukuba baxakeke kwaye bangene kwindlela yexesha elisemgangathweni elichithwa njengesibini. Nangona kunjalo, indoda ekuthandayo iya kufumana ixesha lokuchitha nawe, ngenye indlela okanye enye. Xa umyeni wakho ekuthanda, ukwenza ixesha lobudlelwane kuya kuzizela kuye kuba ukuba kunye nawe kumzisela ulonwabo, intuthuzelo, kunye nentuthuzelo.
Kwelinye icala, xa umyeni wakho efuna ukukushiya, akukho nto imbangela ukuba enze umgudu ongakumbi. Ukuba umyeni wakho usoloko efuna isizathu sokuhlala kude (kwanangeempelaveki okanye ngeeholide) kuwe ngenxa yesizathu sokusebenza okanye ukuba uye wavala naziphi na iincoko, ingakumbi ezomntu, kuba exakeke kakhulu ukuba angakwazi ukuba nengxoxo eneenkcukacha, yazi ke ukuba kukho into engahambi kakuhle.
Ukuzinxwema kwakhe kusenokukushiya uzibuza, “Ingaba umyeni wam ufuna ukundishiya?” Nangona ukungafumaneki kwakhe yedwa kungebobungqina obaneleyo bokuba uphumile emtshatweni ngokweemvakalelo , ngokuqinisekileyo yingxaki. Kungaba ngumbono olungileyo ukujonga impilo yolwalamano lwenu nokuvavanya ukuba nimi phi.
2. Uvalekile ngokweemvakalelo
Masiyiphose kancinci inqaku 1. Mhlawumbi usenokuba uxakekile kwaye uxakekile kodwa ukuba uyakhathala, uya kuba neemvakalelo ngawe. Amaxesha amaninzi, amadoda anokuba neengxaki ngabafazi bawo, adla ngokuzivalela ngaphandle ngokweemvakalelo, mhlawumbi ade asebenzise ukungathembeki ngokweemvakalelo , ngaloo ndlela ekugqibeleni onakalise ubudlelwane.
Ngoko ke usenokuba wenza imisebenzi yakhe, igalelo endlwini, ukwenza imisebenzi yasekhaya, ukuba neencoko, ukuthatha inxaxheba kwimibhiyozo, njl. Undoqo weemvakalelo unokuthi ulahlekile kwaye lolunye lweempawu zokuqala umyeni wakho uceba ukukushiya.
Enyanisweni, nangona ehlola zonke iibhokisi kuluhlu lwezinto eziza kwenziwa zomyeni olungileyo, unokukufumanisa kunzima ukunxibelelana naye ngokweemvakalelo. Usenokude uzibuze, “Kutheni umyeni wam engahambi ekubeni ngokuqinisekileyo engekho kulo mtshato?” Ukuba kulapho ukhoyo, sukuzihoya iimpawu ezilumkisayo zomtshato ongaphumeleliyo – kukukhalela uncedo.
3. Ngequbuliso uyayibona inkangeleko yakhe
Xa umyeni wakho ethandana nomntu oyimfihlo, le yenye yezona mpawu zicacileyo afuna ukuphuma emtshatweni - uyayiqonda inkangeleko yakhe aze atyale imali eninzi kuye. Angaya ejimini ngequbuliso, atyale imali kwi-plastic surgery, athenge iimpahla ezintsha nezinesitayile. Ewe kona, akukho nanye kwezi zinto enceda wena. Amadoda aneentlobano ezinzulu adla ngokuzama konke okusemandleni awo ukutshintsha indlela athanda ngayo izinto ezintsha. Akufuneki ukuba kuthethwe, oku kusenokuhluka kakhulu kubuntu bawo obuqhelekileyo, nto leyo ngokuqinisekileyo iluphawu olubalulekileyo kubudlelwane.
Xa u-Skylar eqala ukuqaphela umyeni wakhe we-15 iminyaka ngequbuliso eqonda malunga nenkangeleko yakhe kunye nokuqina kwakhe kwi-40, wayengenako ukuyishukumisa imvakalelo yokuba uphulukene naye komnye umntu kwaye kwakuyinto nje yexesha ngaphambi kokuba umtshato uqhawuke. “Ndicinga ukuba umyeni wam uza kundishiya kwaye kusenokwenzeka ukuba uye wathandana nomnye umntu,” watsho. Olona loyiko lwakhe lwazaliseka ngaphantsi kweenyanga ezi-6 kamva xa wayephuma endlwini waya kuhlala neqabane lakhe elitsha.
4. Ufihla ifowuni yakhe
“Uninzi lwemicimbi luqala kwiifowuni eziphathwayo,” utshilo uSushma. “Iincoko zeWhatsApp kunye neencoko kwimidiya yoluntu zichaphazela kakhulu ubudlelwane. Ziye zaba yinxalenye ebalulekileyo yobomi bethu obusondeleyo.” Ukuba umyeni wakho ugcina iimfihlo kakhulu xa kufikwa kwifowuni yakhe (okanye ii-imeyile), ezifihla kwaye etshintsha igama lakhe eliyimfihlo rhoqo, qiniseka ukuba kukho into engalunganga. Nokuba akakuqhathi, ukufihla iimfihlo luphawu olukhulu lokuba umyeni wakho uceba ukukushiya.
Ukuba akafuni ukuqhubeka nomtshato, ngokuqinisekileyo uya kuceba ukwahlukana kwangethuba kwaye azilungiselele ngokufanelekileyo ukuze akuxelele iindaba. Mhlawumbi, uye wagadwa kakhulu ngefowuni yakhe kunye nelaptop kuba iqulethe iinkcukacha malunga nezicwangciso zakhe zokuphuma emtshatweni. Ngaba umyeni wakho uceba ukuqhawula umtshato ngasese? Ingayiyo! Usenokuba sele ethetha namagqwetha okanye esebenza ngenyameko ukuze akhusele izilangazelelo zakhe kwimeko yoqhawulo-mtshato engenakuphepheka. Ukuqinisekisa ukuba awufumani mpumlo kuyo yindlela yakhe yokulawula imeko.
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5. Ukunika uxolo ngexesha lokulwa
Ngaba iingxabano beziyinto eqhelekileyo emtshatweni wenu? Ngaba ngoku uyekile ngokukhawuleza ukuphendula ngomsindo kwi-jibes yakho okanye ukugqabhuka? Unokucinga ukuba mhlawumbi uyeza kwaye ujonge ukwenza uxolo kodwa esona sizathu sisenokwahluka - isenokuba yenye yeempawu zokuba umyeni wakho uyakucaphukela. Ukusabela ngomsindo obandayo apho abeka khona udonga lweemvakalelo kwaye awukwazi ukuba kwenzekani engqondweni yakhe kunokuba kuphazamisa kakhulu.
Ubuncinane xa nilwa ngomsindo kwaye nithetha amazwi, usenokuba uyazi ukuba ucinga ntoni. Kodwa ukungathethisani kunokukucaphukisa kakhulu kuba kubonisa ukuba akakhathali. “Ngaba umyeni wam uza kundishiya?” Lo mbuzo woyikisayo usenokuqala ukukujonga ebusweni ngakumbi nangakumbi njengoko umyeni wakho esiya ekhululeka. Ngoku akavumi ukuzibandakanya nawe ngokuphelisa ukungakhululeki emva kwengxabano. Iinkxalabo zakho azinasihlahla kuba iimpendulo zakhe zibonisa ukungabi naxhala ngawe nomtshato.
6. Usoloko esilwa nawe
Into echaseneyo nenqaku lesi-5 nayo iyinyani. “Sihlala sisilwa ngalo lonke ixesha. Akukho nanye imini yoxolo. Ngaba umyeni wam uza kundishiya?” UBrianna, umfundi waseWashington, uyabuza. Ukulwa rhoqo okanye ukuqalisa iingxabano ngaphandle kwesizathu zikwangumqondiso wokuba umyeni wakho uceba ukukushiya. Ngokufuthi, le milo isenokungazenzekeli kodwa ibe kukuhlasela okucwangcisiweyo. Oku kwenzeka naxa bengafuni ukuba iindaba zokuba bayahamba zikothuse kuwe okanye kusapho lwakho. Xa umyeni wakho efuna ukukushiya, wenza isiseko sokuqala ngokuvusa imilo ngabom.
Oku kudla ngokuba yinto eyenzekayo xa efuna indlela yokuphuma emtshatweni kodwa ekhetha ukukubeka ityala kuwe. Ukukubangela ukuba ulwe, ukuvusele impendulo eshushu okanye enomsindo kuwe, aze akujike akwenze ube ligqwirha ngokuqinisekileyo zizibonakaliso zomlilo zokuba umyeni wakho uyakucaphukela. Uneqabane elikurhawuzelelayo esandleni sakho.
Mhlawumbi, uzama ukuphembelela imilo ukuze emva kotshintshiselwano olushushu lokuqala, abuyele ekukunikeni unyango oluthe cwaka. Isibakala sokuba oku kuthula okunetyhefu kukhululekile ngakumbi kumyeni wakho kunokuba kwabelwana ngamaxesha oxolo nolonwabo kwanele ukuba ubuze, "Ngaba umyeni wam ufuna ukundishiya?"
7. Usoloko ezibeka kuqala
Ngaba kusoloko 'ndim, mna, ngokwam' xa kufikwa kwizigqibo ezibalulekileyo ebomini zomyeni wakho? Okukhona indoda irhoxa emfazini wayo, kokukhona izithanda ngakumbi. Umtshato kufuneka ube lumanyano lwabalinganayo. Kodwa xa ubudlelwane buyaphela, elinye iqabane lifumana isikhundla esiphezulu apho enze yonke into ngaye. Nokuba yintoni na ingqiqo engqondweni yakhe, kodwa xa umyeni wakho ekubeka ekugqibeleni kuyo yonke into, luphawu olukhulu lokuba awudlali indima ebalulekileyo ebomini bakhe.
Nokuba ukwenza ngabom okanye akunjalo, luphawu olubi kuwe nokuba kukweyiphi na imeko. Mhlawumbi awucingi ngaye, okanye ufuna ukukubeka kule ngongoma kuyo yonke inyathelo lendlela yokuba unokufuneka uzilungiselele ukumyeka. Kwakhona luphawu lokuba unokufuneka uzinyamekele ngelixa elungiselela ukuphila ubomi ngaphandle kwakho kwaye enyamekela izinto zakhe xa kuthe kwabakho uqhawulo-mtshato. Ukuba ezi mpawu zomntu othanda ukuzingca ziye zavela kutshanje kwiqabane lakho, ungazithatha ezi mpawu njengeempawu zokuba umyeni wakho uceba ukukushiya.
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8. Ubomi bakho bokwabelana ngesondo bulahlekelwa yi-mojo
Xa uthando luphela emtshatweni, kunjalo nangesondo. Nokuba amaxesha amaninzi okanye umdla ungaphantsi, umtshato ophilileyo uya kufumana ezinye iindlela zokugcina intlantsi iphila. Isibini siyakuqonda ukubaluleka kobudlelwane obusondeleyo kubudlelwane. Ukwabelana ngesondo yenye yeendlela zokufikelela ukukhulisa ubuhlobo obusondeleyo kubudlelwane. Ke, ukunqongophala kobomi besondo kunye nokungathandi ngokupheleleyo kubudlelwane bomzimba ziimpawu eziqinisekileyo zokuba umyeni wakho uceba ukukushiya.
Ubudlelwane obungenasondo buchaphazela kakubi ubudlelwane ngeendlela ezahlukeneyo. Kodwa ukuba kungenxa yokusebenza kakhulu okanye uxinzelelo okanye nasiphi na esinye isizathu, kukho iindlela zokulungisa loo nto. Isibini esityale imali kubudlelwane siya kuzama konke okusemandleni ukuqinisekisa ukuba ulwalamano oluphakathi kwabo alupheli kwaye lufe. Kodwa ukuba isizathu sokungathandi kukuthandana okanye ukungavisisani okungapheliyo, awunakwenza nto ukuyibuyisela endleleni. Kubi kodwa kunjalo.
“Ndicinga ukuba umyeni wam uza kundishiya kwaye umtshato wam uphelile,” uJoyce wazifumana ebelana nomhlobo wakhe emva kwexesha elide kwigumbi lokulala. Umyeni wakhe, owayenomdla kakhulu wesini, wayephelelwe ngumdla wokuthandana naye. Akazange aphinde aqalise ukwabelana ngesondo kwakhona kodwa ukwala ukucengwa nguJoyce ngalo lonke ixesha – into awayengazange abenayo kwiminyaka esi-7 etshatile. Kwiiveki ezimbini kamva, waba nencoko eyoyikekayo kunye naye waza waphuma kwimpelaveki elandelayo.
9. Imidiya yakhe yoluntu iveza iinkcukacha ezikrokrelayo
Uthanda okanye awuthandi, ukuziphatha kwemidiya yoluntu kubonisa okuninzi ngomntu. Ngaphantsi, umntu ubeka iimvakalelo kunye neengcinga zakhe ngaphandle. Ukuba umyeni wakho uziphatha ngendlela engaqhelekanga, mhlawumbi iya kuba licebo elilungileyo ukuhlola ukhangelo lwakhe kwimidiya yoluntu. Ukuba ufumana uphendlo olunxulumene noqhawulo-mtshato okanye amagqwetha okanye ukwahlukana, ziimpawu ezinkulu zokuba umyeni wakho uza kukushiya. Njengoko sele sikhankanyile ngasentla, ingcinga yokwahlukana ayisoze yenzeke ngequbuliso, abantu bayathanda ukwenza isiseko phambi kokuba kutyhilwe.
Ngokufanayo, ukuba ubafumana bephindaphinda ukubandakanyeka kwizinto eziphathelele ukuqhubeka nobomi, okanye ukufumana uthando kwakhona , okanye iingenelo zokuba bengatshatanga, awuyi kuba uphazama xa uzibuza, “Kutheni umyeni wam efuna ukundishiya?” Kwakhona, vuleleka kubo xa bekhangela umntu othandana naye, umntu omthandayo waseyunivesithi, okanye umntu othandana naye osele ulibele kwimidiya yoluntu. Oko akuthethi ukuba bayakukhohlisa. Kodwa kunokukunika umbono wemeko yabo yengqondo.
“Umyeni wam ufuna ukundishiya kodwa ndisamthanda, ndenze ntoni?” UBill wazibuza njengoko wayeqala ukubona izithuba ezifihlakeleyo kwiakhawunti yomyeni wakhe yemidiya yoluntu. "Uye wabelana ngezi catshulwa malunga nokuqhubela phambili kunye nokuphila ubomi ngokupheleleyo. Ekuqaleni, andizange ndenze okuninzi. Kodwa xa ezi zithuba zaba yinto eqhelekileyo kwimidiya yakhe yentlalo kunye nokuziphatha kwakhe ekhaya kwaqala ukutshintsha kwakhona, ndazi ukuba sibheke kwintlekele, "watsho.
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10. “Ngaba umyeni wam uyalufuna ngokwenene uqhawulo-mtshato?” Ewe, ukuba ngokuthe ngcembe uyarhoxa kubomi bakho
Ukuba akukwazi ukuhlangabezana nombuzo othi “Ngaba umyeni wam uyalufuna ngokwenene uqhawulo-mtshato?”, yazi ukuba ukurhoxa ngokupheleleyo yenye yezona mpawu zibonakalayo azifunayo ngaphandle komtshato. Abantu abaceba ukuphuma emitshatweni yabo baya kuyenza inyathelo ngenyathelo. Unokumbona esenza izicwangciso ngaphandle kokukufaka. Ukususela ekungabinikho ngezihlandlo ezibalulekileyo kuwe, ezenza izingxengxezo zokuphoswa yimibhiyozo ebalulekileyo, ukwenza izinto eyedwa, uya kwenza konke okusemandleni ukuze ‘aphinde afumane’ inkululeko yakhe.
Umtshato owomeleleyo ubandakanya isibini esenza imisebenzi yobudlelwane kunye - ingaba yimisebenzi yasekhaya elula yokucwangcisa imali kunye neeholide kunye. Yaye loo mnqweno uyazizela, akuyomfuneko ukuba ubani asebenzele ukuwufikelela. Kodwa xa umyeni wakho eqalisa ukwenza imisebenzi ngokwandayo ngaphandle kwakho ecaleni kwakhe, lixesha lokuba ube nexhala.
Umzekelo, ngaba uqalile rhoqo ukujonga iintlanganiso zabazali nootitshala esikolweni sabantwana bakho? Okanye kutheni efuna ukuthatha iholide ngaphandle kwakho? Okanye achithe ubusuku bangoMgqibelo ebharini yedwa, kunokuba achithe nawe? Nangona kunjalo, bona ezi mpawu kuphela xa zidibene nemvakalelo yakho yamathumbu kunye nezinye iimpawu zokurhoxa ngokweemvakalelo. Akukho nto imbi ngomntu okwibudlelwane obuzibophelele ofuna ukwenza izinto ngaphandle kweqabane lakhe, aze abhiyozele ixesha lakhe eyedwa. Ukufuna indawo akusoloko kuyimpawu embi kubudlelwane.
11. Ubonakala engakwazi ukwenza izigqibo kwaye ephephe
Ukuqala ukwahlukana akungomsebenzi olula. Kuya kubakho amaxesha okubhideka kwaye ebeya kuba neengcinga zesibini malunga nesigqibo sakhe sokutsala iplagi emtshatweni wakhe. Mhlawumbi uyazi ukuba kukho iingxaki ajamelene nazo. Ukuba ithuku lakho lithi, "Umyeni wam akakwazi ukugqiba ukuba ufuna ukuba nam okanye andishiye", mhlawumbi kufuneka wenze okuthile.
Ukhetho ke lulele kuwe – ngaba ufuna ukujongana naye okanye ufuna ukuba athathe inyathelo lokuqala aze athabathe inyathelo lokuqala? Icebiso lethu leli: Musa ukuyiphepha incoko engenakuphepheka. Mhlawumbi usengxakini malunga nento afuna ukuyenza ngomtshato. Ukungenelela kwakho kunokumnceda ukuba athethe ngengxaki ekwigumbi lakho lomtshato.
Mhlawumbi, ukungabi nazigqibo kwakhe kuluphawu oluhle. Umgca wesilivere kumafu amnyama ojongene nomtshato wakho. Mhlawumbi, alikho lonke ithemba elilahlekileyo okwangoku kwaye unokwenza umtshato wakho usebenze ngoncedo olufanelekileyo. Cinga ngokuthetha nomyeni wakho malunga nokuya kunyango lwesibini ukuba "Umyeni wam ufuna ukundishiya kodwa ndisamthanda" kulapho ukhoyo, kwaye naye akakwazi ukwenza isigqibo malunga nokuhamba okanye ukuhlala. Ukuba yenzelwa ukuba ibe njalo, kwaye kukho ithemba eliseleyo, uya kufuna ukunika ubudlelwane bakho okokugqibela.
12. Akafuni kuthetha ngomtshato
Iingxaki ezininzi zobudlelwane zinokulungiswa ngonxibelelwano olusebenzayo. Kodwa indoda eyaziyo ukuba umtshato unengxaki, umyeni wakho akayi kuba namdla wokujongana neengxaki ezibonakalayo. Nokuba uyazi ukuba umtshato unengxaki, umyeni wakho akayi kufuna uncedo xa ucebisa. Ukongeza, akafuni nokwamkela ukuba kukho iingxaki kubudlelwane. Usenokukufumanisa kunzima kwaye kungakhululeki ukuxoxa ngale micimbi. Angathanda ukuzenza ngathi ungumntu othandabuzayo kunokuba axabane. Kaloku, zonke ezi ziimpawu ezibonisa ukuba umyeni wakho uceba ukukushiya.
Ukuba akabonakalisi mdla ekuzameni ukusindisa umtshato, mhlawumbi lixesha lokuba uyeke ukubuza “Ngaba umyeni wam uya kundishiya na?”. Yeka ukubambelela kwithemba elingeyonyani lokuba yinto erhabaxa okanye iya kudlula. Ngoku lixesha lokujonga imeko pragmatically kwaye uzilungiselele - ngokwasemoyeni, ngokwemali, kunye namalungiselelo-ukuphela komtshato wakho.
13. Wenza iintengiselwano ezintsha zemali
Ukuqala ukuziphatha ngendlela eyahlukileyo kwimicimbi yemali luphawu olucacileyo lokuba uzimisele ukwenza into ethile. Oku kungabandakanya nantoni na ukusuka ekutshintsheni iiakhawunti zakho ezidibeneyo zibe ligama lakhe ukuya ekudaleni iakhawunti entsha yebhanki eyimfihlo okanye ukuthenga izinto zemali ngegama lakhe kuphela. Usenokuba usenza ukungathembeki kwezemali . Apha uzibuza, “Kutheni umyeni wam efuna ukundishiya?” Kwaye apho, sele ebhala izivumelwano zangaphambi komtshato okanye emva komtshato, okanye ethetha ngezinto kunye namatyala abelana ngawo.
Kuninzi lwemitshato yoqhawulo-mtshato, imali iba yingxaki ebangela ukuba idabi libe libi ngakumbi kunangaphambili. Ukwenza izigqibo ezitsha zemali inokuba yindlela nje yokuzikhusela phambi kokwahlulwa okungenakuthintelwa. Ke ngoko, ngalo mzuzu ufumana "umyeni wam ucwangcisa ngasese uqhawulo-mtshato" inkling, fumana ukubamba imali yakho. Enyanisweni, kusoloko kububulumko ukuqaphela imeko yakho yezemali ukuze ungamangaliswa.
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14. Uhlala ethetha ngokukushiya - Olona phawu lucacileyo alufunayo
Oku kuziphatha kuchasene ngqo nokungathethi. Iingxabano neengxabano zixhaphakile kuwo nawuphi na umtshato kodwa jonga amazwi omyeni wakho ukuba uhlala egrogrisa ngokukushiya ngalo lonke ixesha lomlo. Kakade ke, umntu uthetha izinto ezininzi xa unomsindo ukuze utyekele ekungayihoyi. Nangona kunjalo, ukuba uhlala ethetha ngokuphelisa umtshato, oko kuthetha ukuba uzimisele ngayo - kwaye uceba ukukushiya okanye ubuncinane ufuna ukuhlukana okwethutyana.
Ngamanye amaxesha usenokuyithetha eqhula, kodwa nangona kunjalo, musa ukuyithabatha lula. Ezi ziimpawu ezilumkisayo zokuba umyeni wakho uceba ukukushiya. Ukuba uye wakhululeka ekubekeni kweso simo sokungakhuseleki, kuyacaca ukuba indlela ovakalelwa ngayo ayisenamsebenzi naye. Oku kukwabonisa ukurhoxa ngokweemvakalelo ebeziva. Umyeni wakho ukhangele ngokucacileyo kubudlelwane.
Umtshato unzima kwaye uhlala umkhulu ukulwela ukusinda kodwa awukwazi ukungaboni iimpazamo kuwo. Qwalasela oku kungasentla njengemiqondiso elumkisayo enokukunceda wenze isigqibo esifanelekileyo kwimeko yokuwohloka komtshato. Ubuncinci, kunokukunceda ukuba ube nesandla esiphezulu kwaye ulawule ubomi bakho ngexesha apho iqabane lakho lizimisele ukuhamba ngendlela yalo eyahlukileyo.
FAQs
Xa umyeni wakho ekuyeka, engaziboni iingxaki, engenzi mzamo wokubuyisana emva kokulwa, kwaye enesifungo esiyimfihlo esibaluleke kakhulu kuye kunosapho lwakhe, unokuqiniseka ukuba umtshato uphelile ngokwenene . Zonke ezi ziimpawu zokuba umyeni wakho uceba ukukushiya.
“Ngaba umyeni wam uza kundishiya?” uyazibuza. Ukuba umyeni wakho akabonisi sizathu sakufuna ukwenza izinto zihambe kakuhle yaye uzingisa ekwahlukaneni, mhlawumbi kungenxa yokuba wenze isigqibo sokukushiya. Xa kungekho nto ibonisa ukuba uzimisele ukuwusindisa umtshato wakhe, unokuqiniseka ukuba uzimisele ngoqhawulo-mtshato.
Ukuba, phezu kwayo nje imigudu yakho, akukho luphuculo emtshatweni wakho, ukuba umyeni wakho uyathandana yaye akaxolisi ngako, ukuba akabonakalisi mdla ekufuneni unyango okanye enze umgudu wokusindisa umtshato, zibone ezi njengemiqondiso ecacileyo ayifunayo ngaphandle komtshato. Xa iqabane lakho ligqibile ngawe, yazi ukuba kungcono ukuqhawula umtshato.
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