Le yinto oyiva ngalo lonke ixesha. Kufuneka usebenze emtshatweni ukuze usebenze. Kodwa kuthetha ukuthini ukusebenzela umtshato? Kuthetha ukuba kufuneka wenze umzamo owongezelelweyo ngalo lonke ixesha ukuqinisekisa ukuba iqabane lakho liziva lithandwa kwaye kukho unxibelelwano lweemvakalelo kunye nomzimba ngalo lonke ixesha.
Amabali akweli candelo Ukusebenza kuMtshato zinika umdla ngokwenene. Izibini ebezisebenza emtshatweni zisixelela ukuba beziwenza njani. Abanye bathi esona sipho sibalulekileyo esinokuphana isibini lixesha nokunxibelelana. Kwandule ke kulandele umgudu wokuqonda iimbono zomnye nomnye kunye neentsilelo.
Umtshato linyathelo elibalulekileyo, elizaliswe yimincili, ulindelo - kunye noloyiko. Njengoko mna neqabane lam sasimi kumgubasi womtshato, sayibona intsingiselo yokubeka isiseko esomeleleyo sobomi bethu kunye. Sixhobe ngoluhlu lwemibuzo yokucetyiswa ngaphambi komtshato, sigqibe kwelokuba sifune isikhokelo sobuchwephesha kwiincoko zethu ezibalulekileyo. […]
Kukho isicatshulwa esidumileyo esithi: "Umtshato ufana nendlu. Xa ibhalbhu icima, awuyi kuthenga indlu entsha, ulungisa ibhalbhu." Kwaye ngokufanelekileyo. Iyamangalisa indlela nakweli xesha lobudlelwane obumanzi, abantu basatshata. Kodwa umtshato ophumelelayo uthatha
“Esona sizathu siphambili sokufumana uthando kukoyiswa kukabani naloo mkhwa,” watsho njalo isazi ngengqondo uErich Fromm kwincwadi yakhe edumileyo ethi The Art of Loving. Kwaye wayenyanisile. Ngokubaluleka kwabo okukhulu kunye nesidingo sokuba umntu abethe i-ego yakhe, siyazibuza ukuba ii-narcissists zinokumthanda ngokwenene nabani na, singasathethi ke.
Ukuthembana nentlonipho ziintsika ezingundoqo kulo naluphi na ulwalamano oluphilileyo. Ngaphandle kwezi, awunakuba nethemba lokwakha unxibelelwano oluphilileyo noluhlala luhleli nomnye umntu. Nokuba ninexesha elingakanani nikunye, ukwenza iinzame zokukhulisa ezi zinto zimbini zibalulekile ekuxhaseni ubudlelwane. Ngaphandle kwabo, into engenampilo okanye enetyhefu
Iqabane eligxekayo linokuba nzima kwaye licinezele ngokweemvakalelo ukuhlangabezana nalo. Xa elinye iqabane lisoloko linesimo sengqondo esingenathemba, oko kunokuchaphazela impilo-ntle yabantu ngokubanzi kwaye kuphazamise ubudlelwane. Nangona kunjalo, lo mba unokusingathwa kwaye amanyathelo athatyathwe kunxibelelwano olwakhayo nolonwabisayo ngokuzingisa, ukuqonda, kunye nezakhono zonxibelelwano ezisebenzayo. Kwi
Kuthetha ukuthini ukuxhomekeka kwiqabane lakho? Kwaye ziziphi iimpawu ezilumkisayo ukuba uwela kwikhondo lomtshato elixhomekeke kuwe? Funda ukuze ufumane.
Unokwazi njani ukuba umfazi wakho usebenzisa amazwi okuthoba isidima, ukulawula okanye ukulawula? Funda ukuze ufumane.
Iimpawu ezi-7 Unomfazi Othukayo kunye nezinto ezi-6 onokuthi Uzenze Ngayo Funda ngokugqithisileyo "
Kunini ukuphalaza intliziyo yakho ukusuka ekuphumeni okusempilweni ukuya ekulahleni okuthe ngqo ngokweemvakalelo? Kwaye ungawuchaza njani umahluko? Funda ukuze ufumane.
Umtshato luhambo oluhle, kodwa akusoloko kulula. Ukwakha ulwalamano oluphumelelayo lwendoda nomfazi kufuna umgudu, umonde nokuqonda. Kweli nqaku, sithetha malunga nendlela yokuphucula le bhondi emangalisayo kunye neengcebiso zeengcali.
Ubudlelwane boMfazi woMyeni - Iingcebiso ezili-9 zeeNgcali zokuPhucula Funda ngokugqithisileyo "
Kuqhelekile ukungaboni ngasonye emtshatweni, kodwa awufuni ukuthetha izinto ezibuhlungu kumntu omthandayo.
