Ongazithandi izindaba zomshado. Nali iqoqo lethu lezindaba eziyishumi ezihamba phambili zomshado eNdiya. Ezinye izindaba zichaza ukuthi imibhangqwana izame kanjani ukwenza umshado wabo ugqame kanti ezinye zimayelana nobunzima bokuthola umcimbi wabo womshado ngendlela abebezicabange ngayo.
Siyakuqinisekisa, uzozijabulela lezi zindaba zomcimbi womshado.
Indlela Engangithanda Ngayo
Okuqukethwe
Ukuthandana akukho ezandleni zakho, kungenzeka noma nini, noma kuphi. NginguDeepshikha, futhi lena indaba yami ngesikhathi ngithandana nomyeni wami.
Kuthe uma umama ebuza ukuthi nginesoka yini, ngavuma kwathi kungakapheli nemizuzwana wavula iphrofayili kaShaadi.com ayengenzele yona. Kwaba umsebenzi kimi nsuku zonke ukuhlola amathuba omshado.
Futhi ngolunye usuku oluhle, ngathola le phrofayela. Wayebonakala ephile saka. Umama wajabula kakhulu futhi washayela inombolo esekhasini lephrofayela. Lolo cingo olulodwa lwanginika ukugijima kwe-adrenaline. Kwafika engqondweni yami izikhathi eziyikhulu ukuthi ngingagcina ngishade nalo mfana. Ngandlela-thile, ngaba nomuzwa onamandla kakhulu ngakho. Ngaleso sikhathi, umama wayeseqedile ukukhuluma ngocingo nalo mfana futhi wathi umnike inombolo yami futhi uzongishayela cishe imizuzu emi-5.
Izibhamu, hhayi imicikilisho, zavala lo mshado ohleliwe
Ngosuku umama akhuluma ngalo ngendaba yomshado wami, ngabhalisa ukuqeqeshelwa ukudubula izibhamu. Zombili lezi kwakuyizenzakalo ezingahlobene.
Ngase ngihlanganisa iminyaka engu-25, okwakuwuphawu lokuba abalingani bomphakathi balwele udaba lwami ngokuziphindiselela. Umalume wenza iloli eligcwele amakhophi ezinkanyezi zami ukuze anikezwe wonke amaTamil edolobheni.
Ngangifuna ukujabulela ukuzimela kwami isikhathi eside ngangokunokwenzeka. Njengentatheli, bengiwuthanda umsebenzi wami futhi ngithanda indlela yokuphila engajwayelekile ewunikezayo. Ngangingakholelwa 'enjabulweni yasekhaya' abazali bami ababezama ukuyithengisa. Kodwa angizange ngifune ukubacasula futhi esikhundleni salokho, ngavumela isekisi elihambisanayo ukuthi liqhubeke.
Ukufunda Okuhlobene: Amazwi Akhuthazayo angu-55 Endoda Oyithandayo Ezikhathini Ezinzima
Isiphakamiso, umbhalo odakiwe kanye nenjabulo naphakade
Angizange ngiqaphele kahle ukuthi ngangingena kuphi lapho ngithi yebo ku-Arjun ngaphansi kwesibhakabhaka samadayimane akhazimulayo. Ngangihleli emathangeni akhe ethala, ngigqoke amabhulukwe akhe amafushane ayithandayo. Izinwele zami zazingcolile ngokuphelele. Imigqa eluhlaza yayivumela ukuba kube nombala ophuzi ongcolile kodwa kwakumnyama kakhulu ukuba ungabonakala. Sasidakiwe kakhulu lapho ebuza umbuzo ongalindelekile nhlobo. Yebo, yebo, yebo! Futhi ngidakiwe ngathumela umlayezo osheshayo cishe kuwo wonke umuntu ohlwini lwami lokuxhumana, ngithi ngizoshada no -Arjun.
Ngeshwa ebengingakaqapheli ngaleso sikhathi ukuthi 'cishe wonke umuntu' uzohlanganisa bonke abazala bami, omalumekazi nomalume futhi okubaluleke kakhulu umama nobaba wami - iphutha engalibona ngakusasa ekuseni.
Iqakala elisontekile kanye ne-twist emapheras
Ngemva kokuphola iminyaka emine, uRhea noVicky bagcina beshadile. Imindeni yomibili yayiphikisa kodwa yayizibambele mathupha. Bazama ngazo zonke izindlela ukukholisa abazali babo, kodwa lutho. Besabisa ngokuphuma. Abazali bavuma. Ngokuqinisekile bangenza ngaphandle kwehlazo.
Uma kubhekwa izinga lokungqubuzana ababebhekane nakho, lo mbhangqwana wawulindele ukwelashwa okuyisithwathwa nhlangothi zombili, okwesikhashana. Kodwa bamangala. Abazali bakaRhea bamamukela ngezandla ezimhlophe uVicky emndenini. Wayetotoswa njalo lapho evakashelwa. Abazali bakaVicky bashawa uRhea ngakho konke ukunakwa okumfanele ukuba abe umalokazana. Wonke umuntu wabonakala ethathe i-U-turn ephelele!
Ukufunda Okuhlobene: Imibuzo Engu-51 Yokubopha Izibopho Zemibhangqwana Yokuqinisa Ubudlelwano
I-cocktail yamasiko
Indaba yethu ifilimu ye-Bollywood (i-Chennai Express ne-2 States ngokuhlehla). NgingumPunjabi oshade nomTamil. Nokho, ngokungafani nala mafilimu, izinhlangothi zombili zavumelana ngokushesha ngomshado wethu.
Amalungiselelo omshado aveza ukwehluka kwamasiko. Umyeni wami, ongumTamil Brahmin, wathi akukho ukudla okungeyona imifino, umdanso noma iziphuzo ngosuku lomshado ngenxa yabadala abalondolozayo emndenini wakhe. Babevumelene ngokwenza lo mcimbi ngendlela yesiPunjabi, ongaqali ekuseni njengemishado yamaTamil kodwa uthembisa ukuqhubeka kuze kube sekuseni. Sinqume ukuba nephathi ye-3-D's (Umdanso, isidlo sakusihlwa neziphuzo) ngaphambi kosuku lomshado.
Imishado yamaNdiya kanye nobuciko bokulandelela imigqa
U-anti omkhulu osuswe kabili wake wamemeza ngaphandle kokusimemela emshadweni womzukulu wakhe. “Ini, awungikhumbuli?” wamemeza ngokwesaba okukhulu ocingweni, wabe esechaza iwebhu enembile neyinkimbinkimbi yobudlelwano esixhume. Phela bengilapho emshadweni wabazali bakho! Ngaxolisa ngokuthi ngangiphuthelwe yileso senzakalo, mhlawumbe ngenxa yokuthi ngangingakazalwa. Wahonqa naby pamby excuse. Ngokuqondene naye, ngokwezaba ze-namby-pamby, kwakuphezulu lapho eduze "Bengiphuma ukulwa impi!" noma “Bengisesibhedlela nginengane!”
Umakoti ubegqoke amajini
Kwaba lapho ngineminyaka engu-19 ubudala lapho ngithembisana khona umshado. Ngashaqeka nami kanjalo nabangane bami ekolishi. Kodwa uRavi wangihlaba umxhwele ngokushesha lapho sihlangana, futhi abazali bami bajabula lapho bevuma ukushada naye.
Ngezinye izikhathi, izinkumbulo ezinhle zomshado yilezo obungazihlelelanga.”
Ngangisemncane kakhulu ngaleso sikhathi futhi ngenza isifungo esiwubuwula sokushada ngigqoke ibhulukwe lami eliyintandokazi le-Wrangler. Kusobala ukuthi umama wenqaba ukulalela noma yini kulokhu. Ubaba wayengijabulisa bese ephakamisa izandla zakhe emoyeni athi akanakwenza lutho ngakho. Lokho kwangenza ngaba nesibindi kakhulu. Ubumnandi babuwukwephula imithetho nokuphambana nesiko . Ngangizisholo kakhulu kubangani bami ngakho futhi yileyo ndlela okwakuzoba yiyo! URavi wangihlekisa ngokuthi uzongishada kungakhathaliseki ukuthi ngigqokeni.
Ukufunda Okuhlobene: Amagama Amnandi, Acatshangelwe, Asuka Enhliziyweni angu-125 Okumenza Azizwe Ekhethekile
Wawumisa umshado wakhe wesithandwa sakhe
Kungenzeka ukuthi sathola inkululeko yethu eminyakeni engu-70 edlule kodwa i-India ayikuvumeli ukuthi ukhululeke. Siseyizithunjwa zezinganekwane, imicabango yakudala kanye nezingcindezi zomphakathi.
Mina no-Aloka sazana kusukela sisebancane. Ngacabanga ukuthi ngiyamazi ngaphakathi. Umbono wami washabalala ngosuku lomshado wakhe. Nokho, ingxenye ethile kimi iyajabula ngokuthi yaphumelela. Okuningi kuye, kunami.
Yize imangalisa njengoba le migqa embalwa elandelayo ingase izwakale, yenzeka ngempela. Njengoba umkhwenyana elindile e-mandap, u-Aloka wayematasa ekamelweni elivaliwe eliphezulu, nabazali bakhe, (futhi wangiphoqa ukuba nami ngiqhubeke) ngesikhathi seqiniso.
Amafilimu amahle kakhulu emikhosini yomshado
Umshado Womngani Wami Omkhulu
Lapho umngane wesikhathi eside wowesifazane eveza ukuthi uthembise umshado, uyabona ukuthi uyamthanda futhi uzimisele ngokumlanda, kusasele izinsuku ezimbalwa ngaphambi komshado. (105 imiz.)
Umakoti Obalekile
Intatheli ijutshwe ukuthi ibhale indaba yowesifazane oshiye inqwaba yamasoka e-altare.
Princess Bride
Ngesikhathi egula ekhaya embhedeni, umkhulu womfana omncane umfundela indaba ethi The Princess Bride. (98 imiz.)
Umshado Wami Omkhulu WamaGrikhi Omkhulu
Owesifazane osemusha ongumGreki uthanda umuntu ongeyena umGreki futhi uzama kanzima ukwenza umkhaya wakubo wamamukele kuyilapho esamukela ifa lakhe nesiko lakhe. (95 imiz.)
Uyise wengoduso
Njengoba sekusondele umshado wendodakazi yakhe endala, ubaba uzithola emadolonzima ukuwudedela. (105 imiz.)
Monsoon Wedding
Ubaba ocindezelekile, umakoti ozoba nemfihlo, umhleli wezenzakalo oshayiwe, nezihlobo ezivela emhlabeni wonke badala umsindo mayelana namalungiselelo omshado ohleliwe eNdiya. (114 imiz.)
Izingcaphuno emikhosini yomshado
Isikhumbuzo somshado siwumgubho wothando, ukwethembana, ukubambisana, ukubekezelelana nokuqina. I-oda liyahlukahluka kunoma yimuphi unyaka.
- UPaul SweeneyIngubo yomshado iyinto esondelene futhi yomuntu wesifazane - kufanele ibonise ubuntu nesitayela sikamakoti.
- UCarolina HerreraUmshado umngcwabo lapho unuka izimbali zakho.
- U-Eddie CantorUmshado, umshado omuhle, kuwukuqhuma nje. Umgubho wothando nomphakathi nothando… Yini engajabulisi ngalokho? Lutho.
- U-Ariel LevyLondoloza
Imibuzo Evame Ukubuzwa
1. Yini eyenza indaba yomshado ikhumbuleke?
Indaba yomshado ekhumbulekayo ithwebula imizwa, izikhathi ezingalindelekile, kanye nokuthintwa komuntu siqu okwenza uhambo lombhangqwana ngamunye oluya e-altare luhluke. Noma ngabe wukushintshana kwesifungo okukhala izinyembezi noma iphutha elihlekisayo, ubuqiniso obuhlala nawe.
"Umshado wangaphandle ka-Emma noJack wawuhlelelwe izinyanga, futhi isimo sezulu sabonisa ukukhanya kwelanga kwaze kwaba umzuzu wokugcina. Ngosuku lomshado, amafu amnyama aqala ukuna futhi imvula yaqala ukuna ngaphambi nje kokuba benze izifungo. Esikhundleni sokungena endlini, u-Emma noJack banquma ukwamukela leso sikhathi. Izivakashi zabo zakhipha izambulela, futhi umbhangqwana wema, ucwilise uthando lwabo, kodwa waba uphawu lothando. ukuqina, nezithombe zezifungo zabo ngaphansi kwemvula zaba intandokazi yawo wonke umuntu uJack usancokola ngokuthi “ngisho nezibhakabhaka zakhala ngenjabulo ngalolo suku.
2. Lezi zindaba zothando zibakhuthaza kanjani abashadile?
Lezi zindaba zikhumbuza imibhangqwana ukuthi uthando luwuhambo, futhi umshado ngamunye umele ukuqala kwesahluko esisha. Bakhuthaza abanye ukuthi bamukele izindaba zabo zothando, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi zibonakala zivamile noma zingavamile kangakanani.
3. Ithini indikimba evamile kuzo zonke lezi zindaba zomshado?
Intambo evamile uthando. Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi ukunqoba izinselele, ukwengeza izici zomuntu siqu emcimbini, noma ukuzungezwa nje obathandayo, uthando nokuzibophezela kugqama kuyo yonke indaba.
Imicabango Final
Imishado ayiyona nje imikhosi; iyisiphetho sezindaba zothando kanye nokuqala kwezahluko ezintsha. Izindaba zomshado ezinhle kakhulu zivame ukugqamisa indlela uthando olukhanya ngayo ngisho nasezikhathini ezincane kakhulu—kungakhathaliseki ukuthi isithembiso esihletshwayo, ukubukana, noma ukuhleka okuzenzakalelayo. Lezi zindaba zisikhumbuza ukuthi umshado awukona nje ukuphelela; umayelana nabantu ababili abazibophezela ezikhathini ezinhle ezingaphelele kanye nokuphila kwabo ndawonye.
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Ubudlelwano bukaPlato - Uthando Olungavamile Noma Lwangempela?
Umnikelo wakho awuyona iminikelo yokusiza . Kuzovumela i-Bonobology ukuthi iqhubeke nokukulethela ulwazi olusha nolusesikhathini njengoba sifuna ukusiza noma ubani emhlabeni ukuthi afunde ukwenza noma yini.
Hewu! Leli iqoqo elimnandi le-mushy mushy lezindaba zomshado! Kuyajabulisa ukufunda!