Uma uke waba semaphethelweni okuthola ukungathembeki, ubuzojwayelana kakhulu nesibhakela esiphuma emathunjini isambulo sokukopela esingazwakala sengathi. Nakuba umthelela wokuqala oshaqisayo wozakwenu ofana nokwethenjwa kubhalwe kahle, kuhle futhi ucabange ukuthi ukukhohliswa kukushintshe kanjani.
Asikho isigameko sokukopela okulula ukusidlula. Eqinisweni, kungasongela ikusasa lobudlelwano bakho. Kubantu abaningi, ukutholakala kubuhlungu kakhulu ukudlula, okubenza baqede ubuhlobo futhi baqhubeke. Ezimweni eziningi, imibhangqwana iyazama ukuhlala ndawonye futhi ibuyisane ngemva kokungathembeki.
Kuzo zombili izimo, umthelela wokuqhathwa uzwakala ngokujulile. Uma unquma ukubuqeda, ungase ubhekane nesizungu ngemva kokukhohliswa. Uma ninquma ukuhlala ndawonye, isigameko siphezu kobudlelwane benu bothando njenge-Sword of Damocles, esisabisa ngokuhlukanisa ubuhlobo benu uma kwenzeka iphutha.
Imiphumela yesikhathi eside yokukhohliswa ivame ukuba yinkimbinkimbi futhi kunzima ukuyicubungula kunokushaqeka kokuqala, ubuhlungu kanye nentukuthelo. Kungakho kubaluleke nakakhulu ukuqonda ukuthi ukukhohliswa kukushintsha kanjani. Ake sizame ukuqonda imizwa ngemva kokukhohliswa.
Ingabe Ukukhohliswa Kungakushintsha?
Okuqukethwe
Ukungathembeki ebudlelwaneni kubhekwa njengendlela enkulu yokukhaphela ebudlelwaneni obuzinikele, bomuntu oyedwa. Kubhekwa njengesenzo esisodwa esingaqeda zonke izithembiso zobudlelwano obabunazo kubo bobabili abalingani. Kodwa ikakhulukazi kulowo owakhohliswa. Isikhathi eside, isithombe esiqanjiwe somlingani wakho embhedeni nomunye umuntu sibhalwe engqondweni yakho.
Awukwazi ukuyeka ukuyidlala futhi kaningi. Njengendlela yomqondo womuntu, lesi sithombe - esiwumcabango wakho - kungenzeka sibe ingcaca kakhulu kunalokho okwenzeka empilweni yangempela. Ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, lesi sithombe singase siqale ukunyamalala kodwa imiphumela yesikhathi eside yokukhohliswa ingase iqhubeke.
Ungase uzibuze, “Ingabe ukukhohliswa kungakushintsha?” Kusisiza ukufuna izimpendulo, kusho isazi sengqondo kanye nomqondisi e-SAATH: Suicide Prevention Centre, uNishim Marshall , othi, “Ungase uphile impilo eyanelisayo ngokuphelele, uzizwa ubonga umlingani wakho, ubudlelwano bakho nokuthi izinto zikuhambele kahle kangakanani. Esimweni esinjalo, ukuthola ukuthi ukhohlisiwe kungakwethusa kakhulu.
“Okokuqala, kukuhlakaza ube yizicucu ngemibuzo engapheli ngawe, ukuzethemba kwakho, ukuzethemba kwakho, ukuzethemba kwakho, nokuzethemba. Uzithola ulwa nokungabaza, uzizwa udabukile, ungalondekile, ukhashelwe, futhi ucasulwa umcabango womuntu wesithathu oza phakathi kwakho nomlingani wakho.”
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Kungani ukukhohliswa kuyakushintsha?
Isizathu sokuthi kungani ukukhohliswa kubuhlungu kakhulu futhi kukushintshe yingoba abantu abaningi babopha isenzo sokukopela nokuzethemba kwabo. Bengingemuhle ngokwanele? Bengishoda kuphi? Yini omunye umuntu anayo engintula yona? Imibuzo enjengale ivame ukukhathaza umuntu oqhathiwe.
Ngokufanayo, uma uzama ukuhlola isizathu sokukopela ebudlelwaneni , ugxila ezintweni ezifana nokungajabuli, impilo yocansi enganeliseki, izinkinga ebudlelwaneni njalo njalo. Lena yindlela abantu abaningi abakopela ngayo abakwenza ngayo lokhu. Ngokuqaphela noma ngokungazi.
Nokho, ukukopela cishe njalo kuwumphumela wobuntu bomkhohlisi futhi kungase kungahlanganise lutho nomlingani wakhe noma ubuhlobo. Kungaba umphumela wohambo lomuntu kanye namathonya asekuqaleni njengokufakaza ukukopela ebuhlotsheni bomzali wabo noma ukukhulela ekhaya elingasebenzi kahle. Kungaba futhi indlela yokucasha, ukugijima noma ukubhekana nesimo.
Ukuvuma lokhu kanye nokuzihlukanisa nokuthi yini, kungani futhi kanjani ukukopela kuwukuphela kwendlela yokuphika imiphumela yokukhaphela ebuchosheni.
Izindlela eziyi-11 zokukhohliswa ziyakushintsha
Ngemva kokukopela, umgomo kufanele kube ukugxila ekutheni kungani kwenzeke isiphambeko kunokuthi kwenzekeni phakathi komlingani wakho nomunye umuntu empilweni yakhe. Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi ufuna ukuqhubekela phambili ngemva kokukhohliswa noma ukuhlala ndawonye futhi wenze ubuhlobo busebenze, lena ukuphela kwendlela yokuphulukisa ngempela ekukopeleni.
Nokho, imibhangqwana eminingi ayikuhlomele kahle ukuhlangabezana nalo mgomo. Okungenani bebodwa, futhi ngaphandle kosizo nesiqondiso someluleki noma umelaphi. Ngenxa yalokho, imiphumela yesikhathi eside yokukhohliswa iqala ukubamba.
Iyini le miphumela yesikhathi eside? Futhi ukukhohliswa kukushintsha kanjani? U-Nishim wabelana ngale mithelela engu-11 yokungathembeki nokukhaphela ongase ube nakho uma uqhathwe kukho:
1. Uthuthukisa izinkinga zokwethenjwa
“Konke ukwethembana owawunakho kumlingani wakho kuyanyamalala ngokuphazima kweso,” kusho yena. Ngenxa yalokho, ungase ube nezinkinga zokuthembana ezijulile ezidlulela ngale kobudlelwano.
UMira, owakhohliswa umlingani wakhe wesikhathi eside, wazibonela mathupha lokhu. “Ngabuya engqungqutheleni ngaphambi kwesikhathi ebesihleliwe ngabuyela ekhaya ngijabulile ukuyomangaza umngane wami, kodwa ngamthola elele nowesifazane wasemsebenzini ayesebenza naye. esho enesigaxa emphinjeni.
“Ngiyazi ukuthi kungenye yezindlela ezivame kakhulu zokuthola ukuthi isithandwa sakho kade sidlala ngawe, kodwa kwaba njalo.Yize ngabuqeda ngaso leso sikhathi ubudlelwano, angicabangi ukuthi ngalulama kule nkinga.Enye yezindlela zokuqhathwa kunomthelela kumuntu wesifazane wukumphuca ikhono lakhe lokuthemba abantu,” engeza.
UMira useshadile manje kodwa ingxenye yobunzima bakhe bokuthemba umyeni wakhe. Ngibheka ifoni yakhe ngokunyenya, ngiqinisekise ukuthi ukuphi, ngoba angikwazi ukunyakazisa umuzwa wokuthi naye uzongikhohlisa.
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2. Uziqhathanisa nalo OMUNYE umuntu
“Okunye ukuwa okuvamile ngenxa yokuqolwa ukuthambekela kokuziqhathanisa nomunye umuntu.
Ngakho-ke, uzithola ulandela enye indoda noma owesifazane ezinkundleni zokuxhumana noma wenze uhlu lokuhlola engqondweni ukuthi bangcono kanjani kunawe noma ngokuphambene nalokho. Ukushintsha kanjalo-ke ukukhohliswa kwakho – kulimaza ubuwena,” kusho uNishim.
Uma nje uphila nalo muzwa ophukile wokuzethemba nokuzihlonipha, awukwazi ukuzigomela ebudlelwaneni bakho obukhona noma wakhe ubambiswano olunempilo esikhathini esizayo.
3. Isifiso sokuziphindiselela
Enye indlela ebalulekile yokukhohliswa ngezinguquko ukukufaka kuwe isifiso sokuziphindiselela kumlingani wakho. “Ufuna ukukhombisa umlingani wakho ukuthi nawe uyakwazi ukuba nobudlelwano bothando, ukuhlangana noma ukuhlala ubusuku obubodwa ngaphandle kobudlelwano,” kusho uNishim.
Lokhu kuphakathi kokusabela okuphezulu kakhulu kokuthi ukuqhathwa kuyithinta kanjani indoda. Kungenzeka ngisho nakubantu abahlale bekwazisa ngokujulile ukwethembeka ebudlelwaneni; labo abakaze ngisho banikeze omunye umuntu ukubheka kwesibili, ngoba babesebudlelwaneni obuzibophezele. Ukwephulwa kokwethembeka kungakwehlisa endleleni yokuziphatha okuxekethile, uma nje ukukhombisa omunye umuntu phezulu.
Lokhu ukusabela okunamandla kokuthi ukukhohliswa kukushintsha kanjani unomphela.
4. Ukuqhathwa kuyakucasula
Abesifazane nabesilisa abaye bakhohliswa bangase bashintshe ubuntu. “Ukuzizwa umunyu, ukucasuka nokucasuka eminye yemiphumela evamile yokukhaphela ebuchosheni.” Lezi zinguquko zibe nomthelela ebuhlotsheni bakho nezingane zakho (uma zikhona), umndeni nabangane, ngaphandle kokuba nomthelela ekusebenzeni kwakho emsebenzini.
U-Nishmin uthi: “Ukukhohliswa kubuhlungu kakhulu kangangokuthi kuletha okubi kakhulu kuwe.” Ukuqaphela ukuthi umuntu owawumazisa kakhulu uye walunyathela uthando nokumethemba enabelana ngakho kungaba buhlungu kakhulu.
Ngaphandle uma uthola indlela yokucubungula nokuqondisa le mizwelo engemihle, izinguquko zobuntu ezibangelwa isenzo sokukopela zingaba unomphela.
5. Ulwa nemizwa enobuthi
UNishim uchaza lezi njengengxube yemizwa yecala, umona, ukungazethembi, amahloni kanye nokuphoxeka. Nakuba umona nokungazethembi kuyimizwelo ehlobene kakhulu ngemva kokukopela, abalingani abaningi nabo babhekana nomuzwa wecala, amahloni kanye namahloni.
Lokhu kubonakala kakhulu endleleni ukukhohliswa okumthinta ngayo owesifazane, kodwa kungenzeka ukuthi amadoda abhekane nemizwa efanayo. Indaba kaHenrietta isibonisa indlela umuzwa wecala owangena ngayo. Uthi, “ Umyeni wami wakopela kodwa ngazizwa nginecala ngoba angikwazanga ukuyeka lo muzwa okhathazayo wokuthi umsebenzi wami owadala izikhala emshadweni, okwenza kube nendawo yokuba umuntu wesithathu angene.”
Nganikezwa isikhundla futhi kwadingeka ngithuthele kwelinye idolobha ukuze ngiyomisa ihhovisi elisha. Kwakuyigigi yonyaka ongu-1, futhi ngayithatha ngicabanga ukuthi singayiphatha. Kodwa-ke, umyeni wami wagcina esejola izinyanga eziyisithupha kulolu shintsho. Kuze kube namuhla, ingxenye ethile yami isola isinqumo sami sokwenza owethu umshado ohlala kude ngenxa yesiphambeko sakhe.”
6. Kukwenza ubuze ubudlelwano bakho bonke
USuzanne wayekhulelwe ingane yakhe yokuqala lapho ebamba umyeni wakhe ethumelela i-ex i-ex. “Lapha ngangithwele ingane yakhe, ilala ingakhululeki, umzimba wami washintsha ngendlela engaziwa, wayesethola igalelo lakhe kulo leliqili.Okubi nakakhulu ukuthi sasilele ndawonye ngesikhathi exoxa izindaba zocansi eziningi ne-ex yakhe.
"Wafunga ukuthi akazange alale naye noma ahlangane nomuntu wakhe, futhi wathi kwakuwukukhishwa nje okungenangozi kwe-testosterone. Esikhundleni sokuxolisa ngakho, waphambukisa impikiswano esiqondisweni esithi ' kuthunyelelwana imiyalezo yocansi '."
“Akuzona nje izenzo zakhe kodwa nendlela asabela ngayo lapho ebanjwa oqotsheni kwangenza ngangabaza yonke isisekelo sobuhlobo bethu. Ingabe wayeke wakwenza lokhu ngaphambili? Ingabe wayezophinde akwenze? Ingabe wake wangithanda ngempela njengoba enza owayeshade naye? Noma ingabe owethu kwakuwumshado nje wokuziphilisa,” usho kanje.
Endabeni kaSuzanna, ukukhohliswa kwamlimaza kangangokuthi wayengasakwazi ukububheka ngendlela efanayo ubuhlobo bakhe. Kusukela lapho, izinto zashintsha ngokushesha okukhulu.
7. Ukuqhathwa kukwenza uqaphe kakhulu
Kudinga inhliziyo eningi - kanye nokuthembela komunye umuntu - ukuvumela ukuqaphela kwakho futhi ubeke ubungozi bakho obala. Ukukhohliswa kwakho izinguquko kukwenza uqaphe kakhulu.
Hhayi nje ebudlelwaneni bakho bamanje noma obuzayo kodwa njengomuntu. Uma uzibuza ukuthi ingabe ukukhohliswa kushintsha unaphakade, lokhu kuyisibonelo sakudala. Njengomuntu osinde ekungathembekeni, ungase ungakwazi ukwabelana nokungazethembi, ukwesaba, amathemba namaphupho akho ajulile, ngisho nalabo osondelene nawe kakhulu.
Lokho kuhlanganisa abangani, umndeni, abazali kanye nezingane. Ukwethenjwa okuphukile kukwenza ukhiyele ucezu lwakho unomphela.
8. Kungakuhlehlisa ebudlelwaneni
U-Tully, umklami wokukhiqiza ophumelelayo, uyavuma ukuthi ukuxwaya ubudlelwano obuzibophezele kungomunye wemiphumela emibi yesikhathi eside yokuqhathwa. Wayeseminyakeni yawo-20 lapho isithandwa sakhe sasekolishi simkhaphela.
"Isikhathi eside kakhulu, ngangifungile amadoda. Kuyo yonke le minyaka, ngike ngaba nokujaha, ukuhlala ubusuku obubodwa futhi ngizama nobulili bami, kodwa angikwazanga ukuphinde ngiboshelwe omunye umuntu.
Uthi: “Ukwesaba ukuthi bazokwenza okufanayo akunyakaziki kakhulu.Into ngisho iminyaka eyishumi yokwelapha engazange iphole.Okuhle ukuthi kungifundise ukuba nokuthula nokuba nokuthula ngezinqumo zami zokuphila,” usho kanje.
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9. Uba lukhuni kakhulu
UChris, indoda emnyama, eyisitabane, eyakhula ngeminyaka yama-80s, wayesephile kanzima ngokwedlulele. Wayengakwazi ukuphuma aye kumkhaya wakhe noma abangane, futhi ukuphila okumbaxa-mbili kwakumcindezela. Wahlangana nendoda enhle wayithanda.
Kwakubonakala sengathi uhambo lwakhe luzoba lula lapha, ngaphandle kokuthi umlingani wakhe wayengagxilile emcabangweni wokuba nomlingani oyedwa noma ukuzibophezela. “Impilo yayivele inzima futhi ukungikhohlisa kwakhe kwakufana nesipikili sokugcina ebhokisini. Kwangiguqula ngaba yilo muntu ogxekayo, ocasukile, owayengakwazi ukuqonda imizwa yakhe ingasaphathwa eyokwabelana ngayo nabanye.
"Okwaba yisiliva ukuthi lolu hlobo lwami oluqinile lwase lulungele ukubhekana nanoma yini enye ikusasa enganginalo. Lokho kwaba isisekelo sempilo ephumelelayo nephumelelayo - nakuba nginesizungu - impilo," usho kanje.
10. Ukukopela kungakunika isibindi sokuqhubekela phambili
Abelaphi bayavuma ukuthi ukukopela kuwuphawu kunokuba imbangela yezinkinga zobudlelwane. Iqiniso lokuthi umuntu wesithathu angangena ebudlelwaneni benu likhomba ukuqhekeka okukhona namagebe.
Ngokuvamile, imibhangqwana iqhubeka ishanela izindaba zayo ngaphansi kukakhaphethi ize iqhume ebusweni bayo. Lesi simo sengqondo singaba isizinda sokungathembeki. Ngokufanayo, izikhathi eziningi, imibhangqwana ihlala ndawonye, izama ukudonsa ubuhlobo osekuyisikhathi eside buqhubeka, ngoba nje bujwayele futhi bududuza.
Ezimweni ezinjalo, isizungu ngemva kokukhohliswa singaba yilelo phuzu lokugcina elidingekayo ukuze uqhubeke futhi ubuyisele ukuphila kwakho.
11. Kungakukhipha okusha
Yebo, ukukhohliswa kuyakushintsha kodwa akumele kube ngezindlela ezingezinhle ngaso sonke isikhathi. “Uma usudlulile entukuthelweni yentukuthelo, ubuhlungu nobuhlungu, ungaqala ukululama.Ukuqaphela ukuthi ungaphezu komlingani womuntu kungasiza ukubuyisela isithunzi sakho, ukuphelelwa ukuzethemba nokuzihlonipha.
"Ngakho kufika umuzwa wamandla nokholo. Iphimbo lakho elingaphakathi, ukwazi kwakho kuqala ukukhuluma nawe. Lolu shintsho luqala ukunika inhliziyo yakho ephukile amandla futhi luyiqinise, kancane kancane kodwa kancane ukuze INGABE UNGAVIMBEKI.
"Akekho ongavimba lolu hlobo lwakho oluzethembayo, olunamandla ukuthi uye ezindaweni. Uqala ukuzibheka njengomuntu omuhle, oyigugu futhi ofanelekile, ongenamahloni okuvuma iqiniso," kusho u-Nishim.
Manje njengoba usuwuqonda kangcono umonakalo ongokwengqondo wokukhohliswa, umbuzo ube usuba “Ngiqhubeka kanjani ngemva kokukhohliswa?”
Ungasinda Kanjani Ukuqhathwa
Ukufunda mayelana nendlela ukukhohliswa ekushintsheni kwakho kuze kube phakade kungase kukwenze ukhathazeke kancane ngalokho okubekele khona. Nakuba, ngokuqaphela kancane, ungase ukwazi ukubuyisela emuva umonakalo ongokwengqondo wokuqolwa.
Kuyavunywa, ngeke kube lula kangako kodwa akukho okuzuzisayo okulula uma ucabanga ngakho. Ake sixoxe ngezinto ezimbalwa ongazenza ukuze uqiniseke ukuthi imizwa ngemva kokukoshelwa ayikuchazi ukuthi ungubani
1. Thatha ikhefu
Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi u-stoic kangakanani, imizwa ngemva kokukhohliswa izokwehlisa ngesikhathi esisodwa noma kwenye. Uzocindezeleka ngokuqondakalayo isikhashana njengoba isivunguvungu semizwa esidlula engqondweni yakho ngeke kube lula ukubhekana naso.
Esimweni esinjalo, ukuthatha ikhefu ebudlelwaneni, emsebenzini, nasemisebenzini kungaba usizo. Zinike isikhathi sokuthola ukuthi ungaqhubeka kanjani . Kodwa-ke, qaphela ukuthi ungavumeli lokhu kushaqeka kuhlale isikhathi eside kunalokho okufanele. Phatha ikhefu njengendlela yokuphunyuka emfushane, hhayi njengendlela yokuphila. Uma usuphinde wavuka futhi ngemva kwekhefu, ungase ukwazi ukuguqula indlela ukukhohliswa okuthinta ngayo ubudlelwano besikhathi esizayo.
2. Ukuqeda “ingabe leli kwakuyiphutha lami?”
Enye yezinto ezilimaza kakhulu ongayenza ngemva kokukhohliswa ukuzigxeka wena ngokungethembeki komlingani wakho. Umlingani wakho ukhohlise, azi imiphumela nokwazi lokho bekuzokwenza uzizwe udabukile. Uma ucabanga ukuthi bekunenkinga eholele ekutheni bakopele, ukukopela akuyona indlela umuntu abhekana ngayo nezinkinga. Umlingani wakho bekufanele abe nengxoxo nawe, hhayi ukuzitika ngeshende.
Ukuzigxeka ngokuvamile yilokho okwenziwa ukukopela kowesifazane. Ngokuqeda imicabango efana nokuthi, "Ingabe leli bekuyiphutha lami? Ingabe kukhona okungalungile engikwenzile?" kufanele uhlose ukuqeda noma yikuphi ukungabaza. Imizwa ngemva kokukhohliswa kuyoba lula kakhulu ukubhekana nayo uma usukwenzile.
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3. Ungavumeli intukuthelo ikulawule
Asisho ukuthi akufanele uthukuthele, njengoba intukuthelo ingenye yemizwa eyinhloko ngemva kokukhohliswa. Ngokungangabazeki, noma ubani uzothukuthela ngesikhathi esithile. Nokho, okulimazayo yilapho uvumela le ntukuthelo ithinte ezinye izici zokuphila kwakho, njengomsebenzi wakho noma ubungane bakho.
Ngenkathi uthatha isikhashana, yamukela iqiniso lokuthi lokhu kwenzekile futhi esikhundleni sokuphila esikhathini esidlule, gxila kokulandelayo. Uma uzibuza ukuthi ukukhohliswa kuyithinta kanjani indoda, intukuthelo ingenye yemizwa eyinhloko.
4. Qonda ukuthi uyophinde uluthole uthando
Lapho ingqondo yakho ikhathazekile ngokomzwelo ngemva kokukhohliswa, kulula ukuqala ukukholelwa izinto ezinjengokuthi, “Ngeke ngiphinde ngiluthole uthando, ngizofa ngingashadile”, noma “Ngeke ngiphinde ngithembe muntu”. Kungase kubonakale kukuncane kuwe njengamanje, kodwa uzoqonda ngokushesha ukuthi isikhathi siyawapholisa ngempela wonke amanxeba.
Ukukhathazeka ngekusasa yilokho okwenziwa ukukopela kowesifazane. Esikhundleni sokukholelwa ukuthi ukukhohliswa kushintsha unomphela, khetha indlela yokuphulukisa futhi uqale ukukholelwa ukuthi isikhathi sizokusiza ukunqoba zonke izinkinga zakho. Uzothola uthando futhi.
5. Funa usizo lochwepheshe
Ukubonana nomelaphi kungenye yezindlela ezikhiqiza kakhulu ezingakusiza ukuthi udlule imizwa ngemva kokukhohliswa. Uzokwazi ukuqonda ukuthi kungani uzizwa ngendlela oyikho nokuthi kufanele wenze kanjani ukubhekana naleyo mizwa.
Ukukhohliswa kuyithinta kanjani indoda uma amadoda enqaba ukwelashwa? Ngokuvamile yingakho kubathatha isikhathi eside ukucubungula imizwa yabo. Njengoba bengakwazi ukuxoxa ngezinkinga zabo, abakaze babhekane nazo ngempela. Ngokufuna usizo lochwepheshe, uzokwazi ukuqonda ukuthi yini engcono kakhulu kuwe futhi uqoqe ukuzazi ngenkathi usesenkingeni. Uma okwamanje ubhekene nobunzima bokubhekana nokukhohliswa, iBonobology inabelaphi abaningi abanolwazi ukuze bakusize udlule kulesi sikhathi esinzima empilweni yakho.
Ukuthi ukukhohliswa kushintshile kanjani kuncike endleleni obheka ngayo impilo, isimo sakho sengqondo, impilo yobudlelwano bakho, kanye nokuhlangenwe nakho kwakho okudlule noma okwabiwe. "Impilo ikubuza mayelana nokwethembana, ukwethembeka, nokholo. Sonke sinikezwa ukukhetha empilweni, ngemva kokukhohliswa umuntu angase akwazi ukuzimela futhi azimele ngamandla noma abe ngumuntu onomunyu, ongemuhle. Ukuzikhethela kungokwakho," kuphetha uNishim.
Imibuzo Evame Ukubuzwa
Ukukhohlisa kuqeda izisekelo ezimbili zobudlelwano - ukwethembana nenhlonipho. Ngaphandle kwalezi zinto ezibalulekile, awunakuba nethemba lokuba nobudlelwano obuqinile nobunempilo.
Awukho umugqa wesikhathi obambekayo wokuqeda ukukhohliswa. Ngosizo lochwepheshe kanye nokwelashwa, ungakubeka ngemuva kwakho ngokuhamba kwesikhathi. Kodwa-ke, ezimweni eziningi kakhulu, umthelela wokukhohliswa ungahlala unawe unomphela.
Uma ukhohliswe futhi ungakwazanga ukucubungula nokuqeda isiqephu, ungase ugcine usuletha izinkinga zokwethembana, ukungazethembi, ukuthambekela komona kanye nokudideka ebudlelwaneni bakho besikhathi esizayo.
Cha, ukukopela akulungile. Ngisho nalapho kwenziwa ukuze ubuyele kumlingani okhohlisayo. Uma uqhathwe, unezinketho ezimbili kuphela ongakhetha kuzo - qeda ubuhlobo futhi uqhubeke, noma uhlale uzame ukubudubula futhi.
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