UModel Katie Price wake wathi, “Ngiwazonda ngempela ama-sitcom kuthelevishini anokuhleka okusemathinini nokunye. Okungenza ngihleke izinto zangempela ezenzeka ngempela. Kodwa yini ngempela amahlaya owomile? Futhi ungayifaka kanjani i-deadpan ukulethwa? Silapha ukuze sikusize ngawo wonke la magama amahlaya obuchwepheshe futhi sabelane ngamathiphu athile okuthuthukisa amakhono akho endaweni – phela, ukuhlekisa kungaba usizo olukhulu, ikakhulukazi kwezothando.
I-Dry Sense Of Humor - Incazelo
Okuqukethwe
Umuntu angawachaza kanjani amahlaya owomile? Kalula nje, kulapho umuntu ekhuluma izinto ezihlekisayo kodwa isimo sobuso sibucayi/sizolile. Inkinga ngalolu hlobo lwamahlaya ukuthi angeke aqondwe abantu abaningi. Abanye bangase bacasuke lapho kwenziwa amahlaya ashisayo.
Kuphinde kwaziwe ngokuthi yi-deadpan comedy ngoba umuntu owenza ihlaya wenza kanjalo ngaphandle kokubonisa imizwa nangephimbo elicashile leqiniso. Lolu hlobo lwehlaya olungeyona into emangalisayo luyisitatimende esihlakaniphile umuntu asenza ngomunye umuntu, isimo, noma isenzakalo.
Umsebenzisi we-Reddit wabhala, “AmaMelika asebenzisa amagama athi ‘dry comedy’ ukusho amahlaya angenalo ulaka, amaNgisi awasebenzisela amahlaya angewona “haha” ahlekisayo kodwa “ahlekisayo anesizotha.” Omunye umsebenzisi we-Reddit wabhala, “Ngamahlaya amahle kakhulu ahlekisayo, i-punchline ivame ukushiywa emcabangweni wezilaleli, noma inikezwa ngezwi elijwayelekile njengokungathi liyingxenye evamile yengxoxo esikhundleni sokudlalelwa ukuhleka.”
Izibonelo ezithile zomqondo owomile wamahlaya
USteven Wright, omunye wamahlaya amahle kakhulu anamahlaya angenamsebenzi, wake wathi, “Boleka imali kubantu abangethembi, abalindeli ukuthi ibuye.” Uqhubeka nokusebenzisa amazwi alula afana nokuthi, “Unembeza yiwona obuhlungu lapho zonke ezinye izingxenye zakho zizizwa kahle.” Asikaqedi okwamanje. Nazi ezinye izihlaya ezingenamsebenzi ezihlekisayo (ungagcina usuthandana namahlaya azimele ngemva kwalokhu):
- “Amabhomu ethu ahlakaniphe kunomfundi ovamile wasesikoleni esiphakeme. Okungenani angathola i-Kuwait”
- “Angikaze ngishade, kodwa ngitshela abantu ukuthi ngidivosile ukuze bangacabangi ukuthi kukhona okungalungile ngami”
- “Into ebaluleke kakhulu engangizoyifunda esikoleni ukuthi cishe yonke into engangizoyifunda esikoleni yayiyoba yize”
Indlela amahlaya owomile okusebenzela ngayo
Ithini ihlaya eliwumbala omile ngawe? Ingabe ihlaya eliwumbala omile liyakhanga? Umsebenzisi we-Reddit wabhala, “Liyangikhanga? Ngicabanga ukuthi ubaba womyeni wami uhlekisa ngendlela exakile, exutshwe namahlaya okubuka. Uyangihlekisa.” Ngaleso sizathu, ake sithole ukuthi ukukhanga kwalolu hlobo lwamahlaya kuvelaphi:
- Izifundo khombisa ukuthi ukusho into ehlekisayo kuphakamisa imibono yokuzethemba/ikhono, okubuye kwenyuse izinga
- I-Deadpan wit/ukugcina izinto zilula kuholela ekwanelisekeni kobudlelwano, ngokusho ucwaningo
- Izifundo futhi kubonisa ukuthi ukuhleka kusiza ekucindezelekeni, ukukhathazeka, nokucindezeleka
- U-90% wabesilisa no-81% wabesifazane umbiko ukuthi umuzwa wokuhlekisa uyikhwalithi ebaluleke kakhulu kumlingani
Kuyini Ukubhuqa?
Abantu abaningi badidanisa amahlaya ahlekisayo nokubhuqa ngoba womabili aqukethe uhlaka olulodwa oluhlakaniphile. Kodwa, empeleni ahlukile. Ake singene shí phakathi komehluko phakathi komqondo ohlekisayo nokubhuqa ukuze ukwazi ukwenza intombazane ihleke /yenze indoda ihleke ngaphandle kokufaka ingozi yokuyicasula.
Phakathi kwezinhlobo ezahlukene zemizwa yamahlaya, amahlaya abhuqayo asho ukusebenzisa amagama ngendlela ehluke ngokuphelele kulokho okushiwo umuntu. Amazwana ashiwo ngephimbo lezwi elenza kube sobala ukuthi okuphambene ncamashí kushiwo. Ngokwesibonelo, uma ubuza umngane wakho, “Uyalifuna ikhekhe?” bese bephendula ngokuthi, “Awu! Ngiba nekhekhe kuphela uma libhakwa umpheki wakwaMichelin”, kusho ukuthi kuwuphawu lomuntu obhuqayo.” Kodwa uma bephendula ngokuthi, “Ngeke ngibe nalo kuphela, ngizolidla futhi” kusho ukuthi umngane wakho uyahlanya.
Nasi esinye isibonelo. Uma usho into esobala njengokuthi “Imvula iyana ngaphandle”, umuntu obhuqayo angase aphendule, “Ngempela? Uqinisekile?”. Ngale ndlela, umuntu obhuqayo usuke ekugcona ngokusho okusobala. Ngakho-ke, ukubhuqa kulapho umuntu esho okuphambene nalokho akushoyo kuyilapho amahlaya ahlekisayo eyingxenye yomuntu okhaliphile okhulumayo.
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Ungathuthukisa Kanjani I-Dry Sense Of Amahlaya
Akuwona wonke umuntu ongathola amahlaya ahlakaniphile ahlanzekile. Kodwa, ungakhathazeki, amahlaya acashile angathuthukiswa ngokwenza. Okokuqala, bukela futhi ufunde kosomahlaya abafile abafana noSteven Wright, Bob Newhart, David Letterman, Mitch Hedberg, Billy Murray, kanye noJerry Seinfeld. Ngisho noma ungaziboni izimpawu zokuthi uyahlekisa, nansi indlela ongathuthukisa ngayo umuzwa owomile wokuhleka:
1. Sebenzisa ubuso obuqondile
Awudingi ulimi lomzimba oluyihaba ukuze uthole ihlaya elifanele. Okudingayo nje ubuso obungenamazwi kanye nokwethula inkulumo engaqondakali. Futhi, sebenzisa leyo ngqondo ehlakaniphile ukwenza amahlaya ngezinto ezingenangqondo ezenzeka empilweni yakho yansuku zonke. Nazi ezinye izibonelo zokuhleka okuhlekisayo :
- “Ikhala lami likhulu kakhulu lisuka ku-AZ…Bheka ikhibhodi yakho”
- “O, ngiyaxolisa. Ingabe phakathi kwesigwebo sami kuphazamise ukuqala kwakho?” (kumnandi ukubuya kumuntu okuphazamisayo)
- “Ulethela wonke umuntu intokozo enkulu…uma uphuma ekamelweni” (lona uya kwesokunxele bese kwesokudla aphinde kwesokunxele, efaka usawoti enxebeni)
2. Yazi izilaleli zakho
Ukwenza ihlaya ngomuntu kungenzeka kuphela uma unemibono ebukhali ngokuziphatha/isimo sakhe. Futhi uma kukhulunywa ngabantu ongabazi, sebenzisa ikhono lakho lengqondo ukuze umfunde njengencwadi. Uma usumazi umuntu ngokujulile, yilapho-ke ihlaya lizobonakala lihlobene/liyimfihlo. Ungawaphula la mahlaya ngobuso be-poker:
- “Inhliziyo yami iyancibilika lapho abantu ababili abayiziphukuphuku bethandana…Pho, ubani onenhlanhla?”
- Uthisha omdala wabuza umfundi wakhe, “Uma ngithi, ‘Ngimuhle’, yisiphi inkathi leso?” Umfundi waphendula, "Kusobala ukuthi yisikhathi esidlule"
- “Ndaweni ethile laphaya, isihlahla sikukhiqizela umoya-mpilo ngokungakhathali. Ngicabanga ukuthi kufanele uxolise”
3. Ungabi mnene egameni lamahlaya amnyama
Kunomugqa omncane phakathi kokuhlekisa okuhlekisayo nokuhlekisa okubi. Yingakho ukufunda umehluko phakathi komqondo owomile wokuhlekisa nokuhlekisa kahle, nokwazi ukuthi kufanele usebenzise nini uhlobo lwamahlaya olubalulekile. Ngaphandle kwalokho, amagama akho ahlakaniphile angaphenduka ngokushesha abe yimigqa emibi kakhulu ezokubangela ukudumazeka. Yenza amahlaya ahlekisayo kodwa ungabangeli ukungazethembi kwabantu ngokuba ngumuntu ohlambalazayo. Nasi isibonelo sokuthuka vs umqondo owomile wokuhlekisa:
Ukuthuka:
Intombi: "Ingabe ngimuhle noma ngimubi?"
Isoka: “Ninobabili”
Ntombi: "Usho ukuthini?"
Isoka: “Umubi kakhulu”
I-Joker:
Uthisha wayefuna ukufundisa abafundi bakhe ngendima yokuzethemba , ngakho wacela noma ubani owayecabanga ukuthi uyisiwula ukuba asukume. Omunye umntwana wasukuma futhi uthisha wamangala. Wayengacabangi ukuthi kukhona ozosukuma ngakho wambuza, “Kungani usukume?” Waphendula wathi, “Bengingafuni ukukushiya usukume wedwa.”
Siphakamisa ukuthi ufunde ukugcina lo mugqa omncane bese uzama la mahlaya kwabathandekayo kuqala.
4. Zilungiselele ukuqhumisa ibhomu
Kusho ukuthini ukukhalipha? Kuyinto subjective. Akuwona wonke umuntu ozothola amahlaya akho, ikakhulukazi uma usazama ukufunda izintambo. Into mayelana namahlaya e-deadpan ukuthi kunzima ukuwaqonda, ngisho nangesimo sawo esiphucuziwe kakhulu. Uma ungumfundi osafunda ubuciko, amahlaya akho angase abe nzima emaphethelweni, futhi ngenxa yalokho, angase awe phansi nakakhulu.
Ngezinye izikhathi, abanye abantu bazocabanga ukuthi iziqalo zakho zengxoxo ezihlekisayo azinambitheki kahle, kodwa lokho kungenxa yokuthi azifani nawe. Ungadangali, ngisho noma uqeqeshwe ukuqeqesha amahlaya azimele. Kulungile. Okudingeka ukwenze nje ukuzijwayeza. Nasi isibonelo somqondo ongcolile wokuhlekisa:
“Iphoyisa langimisa ngesivinini esikhulu, lathi, “Kungani ubuhamba ngesivinini esingaka?” Ngathi, “Niyayibona le nto unyawo lwami olukuyo na? Ibizwa nge-accelerator. Uma uyiphusha phansi, ithumela igesi eningi enjinini. Ivele isuke yonke imoto. Futhi niyayibona le nto? Lokhu kuyasiza." Ukuthi umuntu (noma izethameli) zithola ihlaya kuncike ngokuphelele kubo.
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5. Zama isandla sakho ngamahlaya azibukela phansi
Njengoba kushiwo ngaphambili, uhambo lokuba ngumuntu ohlekisayo alulula kangako futhi inselele enkulu kungaba ukuguqula isiphithiphithi sakho sibe yingcebo. Kanjani? Buya ngendlela emangalisayo noma wenze ihlaya ngawe. Lezi yizimpawu zomuntu ohlakaniphile. Nazi ezinye zehlaya (ezingasetshenziswa njengemibhalo ukuze uthole ukunakwa kothile ):
- “Ngingumuntu othanda ukunambitha. Uma ungangithandi, thola ukunambitha”
- “Ngiwathanda kakhulu amahlaya okuzibukela phansi.
- “Hawu akekho ohlekayo kodwa sengijwayele akekho owahleka kusukela ngizalwa”
Izikhombi Ezibalulekile
- Qonda amahlaya owomile vs umehluko wamahlaya amnyama bese uthola ukuthi izethameli zakho zifunani
- Sebenzisa isimo sobuso esingathathi hlangothi futhi uvumele amagama akho enze umsebenzi
- Kunezinhlobo ezahlukene zamahlaya; ngakho-ke zibonele ukuthi ngabe inkulumo ye-deadpan iyinhlanhla yakho
- Uma abantu bebheka amahlaya akho njenganganambitheki, yazi ukuthi amahlaya amnandi kakhulu ahlekisa kuphela ngokuprakthiza
Ekugcineni, ake siphethe ngamazwi ashiwo u-Oscar Wilde, “Uma ufuna ukutshela abantu iqiniso, bahleke, kungenjalo bazokubulala.” Futhi wayeqinisile! Ohlelweni olukhulu lwezinto, abantu bazokukhumbula ngobuhlanya bakho. Ungumngane weqiniso, uma ulethe ukumamatheka ebusweni babo ngezikhathi zabo zobumnyama.
Imibuzo Evame Ukubuzwa
Uma usho izinto nge- matter-of-fact, izinkulumo ze-deadpan. Akubandakanyi ulimi lomzimba oluyihaba. Ukuze wakhe umuzwa owomile wamahlaya, ungazama ukuhlola ama-puns kubangani bakho. Buka osomahlaya abangasekho abafana noSteven Wright.
Incazelo yomuntu ohlakaniphile ngumuntu okwazi ukuqhulula amahlaya ahlanzekile ahlakaniphile. Uma ukwazi ukunamathisela isimo sobuso/ithoni engathi sína, i-cherry phezulu.
Amahlaya awomile akhombisa ukuthi uyazenzakalela futhi uyazethemba. Ingabe amahlaya omile ayakhanga? Yebo, ukuqhulula amahlaya e-deadpan kuwubuciko, lokho kukwenza uthandeke kakhulu ezweni lanamuhla.
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