Ko te rongonui, te rongonui rānei o ngā tāne takatāpui nā te nui o te moe tahi me ngā hoa maha. Engari kei reira anō ngā tāne me ngā wāhine pērā i a mātou, he "noa" rite tonu ki tētahi tāne takatāpui takitahi. Mō mātou, kei reira anō ngā rā, ngā pō rānei e hiahia ana ia ki te moe tahi, engari kāore au, ko te ritenga kē rānei. E tumanako ana te tangata he nui ngā moe tahi a ngā tāne takatāpui, engari me pēhea mēnā kotahi anake te hoa e hiahia ana? Mēnā kua whakaaro koe he aha te mea hei mahi mā te wahine ina hiahia ia ki te moe tahi, mā ngā tohutohu a te tāne takatāpui koe e āwhina ki te whakahaere pai ake i te āhuatanga. Me pēhea te whakahaere i tētahi hoa tāne hiahia ki te moe tahi i te wā kāore koe e hiahia ana ki te moe tahi.
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1. I ētahi wā ka mahia e koe māna anake
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He rite tonu te mahi atawhai tetahi ki tetahi i runga i te moenga, pērā i ētahi atu mahi. Ki te whakaaro koe ka taea e koe te whakamanawareka i a ia i tēnei wā ahakoa kāore koe i te hiahia, me mahi noa.
Ko te mea nui i konei, kaua e kōrerotia ki a ia te pai o tāu mahi ki a ia. Me mahi noa i tēnei nā te mea e aroha ana koe ki a ia, ā, ki te kore e pā kino ki a koe, kaua e kōrerotia tēnei hei whakahē i a ia ina tautohe ana koe.
He wā anō ka hiahia nui ahau, engari ehara i te mea nā te roa o te mahi a taku hoa, engari ka āwhina ia i ahau ki te whakamātau i taku hiahia. Ehara i te mea he moepuku; he takaro noa iho pea i mua i te moe, he mea noa iho rānei te tango i a ia.
2. Mātaki tahi i ngā kiriata pakiwaitara
Ki te whakaaro koe ka pōuri pea koe i muri i te tuku i ana hiahia, ko te huarahi pai ki te whakamāmā i tana "matewai" ko te mātaki tahi i ngā mahi pakiwaitara. I ētahi wā, ka tīmata pea te whakaaturanga o te mahi ki a koe, engari ki te mātau koe, ka whakatere koe i tōna kaha i runga i te ataata, ka tuku noa i a ia kia moe i a koe e mirimiri mārie ana i a ia. He pō kua whakaarahia ahau e ia mō te moepuku, engari i te wā i hiamoe rawa ahau, kāore i taea te whakaaro ki te moepuku. I whakaaro ahau mēnā ka mātaki tahi māua i ngā kiriata pakiwaitara, ā, ka pupuri i tōna hiahia ki roto, ka taea e au te mawhiti i aua wā. Waimarie i pai mōku. E ngā wāhine, ka taea e koutou te whakamātau i te mea kotahi!
3. Whakahouhia ō kaupapa mahi
Engari kia pēhea te roa ka taea e koe te mahi i ēnei mea? I muri i te 8 marama o te kore moe tāne, ka kite ahau kāore tēnei i te āwhina. I taku wā horny, kāore ia i pērā, ā, i tana wā i pērā ai, kāore au i pērā. He tokomaha o koutou e kī ana he hiahia nui taku tāne, engari kāore au. I whakaaro ahau kāore he he o māua tokorua, ko te wā anake. I tīmata ahau ki te whakataurite i aku wā ki āna mā te whakahou i taku rārangi wā o ia rā. Hei tauira, i tīmata ahau ki te moe i te wā e pai ai ia, kaua ki te hikoi ko au anake ki te rūma moe. Ka taea e koe te kite i te wā e pai ana ki a kōrua tokorua. Koinei te huarahi pai ki te whakatau i tētahi hoa tāne hiahia nui.
4. He aha mēnā he hiahia tonu te tangata kotahi?
He tino teitei te hiahia o Sujeet, ā, e uaua ana ki a Adisha, tana hoa wahine, te mārama me pēhea te whakamātau i tana hiahia "i runga ake i te noa" ki te moe. E mea ana ia, "Kua whakamātau ahau i ngā mea katoa, engari he wā kāore au e hiahia ki te moe, ā, e hiahia tonu ana ia ki tēnā. Inaa, i tēnei rā kua tae māua ki tētahi wāhi e noho hoa ana māua engari kāore e piripono ana tetahi ki tetahi."
I taku pātai atu ki a Sujeet mō tana whakahaere i tana hiahia taikaha, ka whakamārama ia, "Ki te hiahia ahau ki te moe, he aha te mea nui? E hiahia ana ahau ki tētahi hoa wahine e kaha ana ki te moe. Ki a Adisha, i muri i te ono marama e noho tahi ana, i kīia mai ki ahau kāore ia e hiahia ki te moe pērā i taku e hiahia ana, ā, koira te wā i whakatau ai māua ka noho hei hoa noa māua. He maha aku haerenga ki te kite i a ia, ā, ka moe tahi māua i ētahi wā, engari kātahi ka mutu tā māua hononga." Mai i te kōrero a Sujeet, i mārama ahau tera pea ka wehe te tokorua ina hiahia taikaha ia, engari kāore ahau.
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5. Whakaarohia te take
Ki te mea ka haere tonu koe ki te whakamārama i a ia mō te ngenge, me tino whakaaroaro koe, me te kimi i te tino take e ngenge tonu ai koe. Tērā pea kāore koe i te moe pai, kei te pāngia rānei koe e te ahotea, te taumahatanga rānei. I ēnei wā, he pai ake te kōrero ki a ia, kaua e riri ki a ia mō te hiahia nui. I mua, he ngenge tonu ahau, ā, i ia wā e hiahia ana ia ki te moe, ka tahuri ke atu taku mata, ka tono atu kia mutu tana mahi. I tīmata tēnei i te nuinga o te wā.
I taku haerenga ki taku tākuta hinengaro, i whakamārama atu ahau i te raruraru, ā, i mea mai ia nā ngā rongoā ārai pouri pea e tangohia ana e au. I whakarerekētia e ia te horopeta me te rongoā mōku, ā, kāore i roa, ka moe tahi anō māua i runga i te whakaae.
Ehara i te mea he he tonu nā te hiahia nui. Ko tāku i ako ai, he hiahia nui te katoa, engari me whakarite ki te nui o te hiahia o tō hoa, kia kitea ai he aha te rerekētanga i waenganui i a ia me tō taumata.
Kāore au i te pai ki te haere tahi me taku hoa tāne nā te mea ehara ia i te ātaahua…
Kāore tō koha e kiia he kaupapa aroha takohaMā tēnei ka taea e Bonobology te kawe mai i ngā mōhiotanga hou me ngā mōhiotanga hou ki a koe i roto i tā mātou whainga ki te āwhina i te tangata katoa o te ao ki te ako me pēhea te mahi i tetahi mea.
I roto ahau i tēnei āhuatanga mō te wā roa, kāore ia i pai ki te pā mai ki ahau, ki te kihi mai rānei i ahau, he iti noa iho tana moe tāne ki ahau i roto i ngā marama, i te nuinga o te wā ka inoi ahau ki a ia mō tēnā, ka mea mai taku kare ā-roto ki ahau kia utua he kaihōtaka ngaio hei āwhina i ahau ki te tirotiro i ana mahi, ka kōrero ahau ki a THEdarkhacker @protonmail.com, ā, i muri mai ka kitea e ia kei te tinihanga taku tāne, ā, he tamaiti tāna i waho. Ka taea e koe te whakaaro me pēhea te āhua o ngā mea i roto i tōku kāinga i nāianei?
Tuatahi, ka mihi atu ahau ki a Bonobology mō te kawe mai i te kōrero mō te hunga takatāpui ki te tēpu o ngā kōrero whānui. Nā, ka tae atu ki te kaupapa - ki te puta tēnei i ētahi wā, kāore he aha. Heoi, ki te mea he maha rawa ngā wā e puta ana, me okioki, ka hono anō ki tō hoa. Whakaarahia anō te aroha, me ngana ki te pupuri i te hihiri, nā te mea ehara pea te taatai i te mea nui i roto i te whanaungatanga engari he nui rawa!
Ka pā tēnei ki a tātou katoa. I ētahi wā, kāore tātou i te hiahia ki te moe tāne. I ētahi wā, he pai noa iho, engari ki te tupu i ia rā, kāore e pai mō tō kōrua whanaungatanga. Ā, ki taku whakaaro ahakoa kāore koe i te hiahia nui, ā, kei te hiahia nui ia; i ētahi wā, me whakapau kaha, mā wai e mōhio, tera pea ka pai ake te pō (kua whakamatauria :P). Ehara i te mea kotahi te taumata mō te katoa, engari he mea nui kia ora ai te noho tāne!
Āe, ko te tīmatanga tēnei i whakararuraru i ahau. He aha tātou i kōrero ai mō ngā takatāpui, i te mea he pikitia tāne me te WAHINE kei reira? I tangohia e au te whakaahua mata me te whakanui kia kore ai e whakararuraru.
Ko tētahi atu mea, KAUA rawa e kī atu ki tāu tāne kāore mō te moe tāne. Ki te tino kaha tō whakaaro kāore koe e hiahia ki te mahi i tēnā, me kī atu koe kia hoatu he wā ki a ia kia whakatau i a koe anō, ā, me wehe atu koe kia tika ai ō whakaaro mēnā me tika. Ki te kī atu koe KĀORE ki tētahi, he maha ngā wā ka kore te tangata e hiahiatia ana, ā, ko te mea whakamutunga e hiahia ana koe ki te kī ko "ehara i a koe, engari ko au".
Tuatahi, ka mihi atu ahau ki a Bonobology mō te tīmatanga o tētahi kōrerorero tino hira. Mā te mārama me te mōhio tata ki te hapori LGBT ka āwhina i te tangata kia whānui te hinengaro me te whakaae. Nā, ka tae atu ki te kaupapa. Ae, tera pea ka tupu i ētahi wā engari ki te mea he mea noa, me whakaoho anō, me te tukutahi anō i ngā mea. Ehara i te mea ko te tinana te mea tino nui engari he mea tino nui!
Tuatahi, ngā mihi nui ki a Bonobology mō te whakaputa mai i ngā kōrero pono mai i ngā hapori katoa. Mā te mōhio me te mārama ki ngā hapori LGBT i runga i te taumata whaiaro ka tuwhera te huarahi ki te hunga takatāpui. Nā, tae atu ki tēnei tuhinga. Ki taku whakaaro e whakaae ana ahau ki ngā kōrero katoa e kōrerohia ana i konei. Waihoki, ko taku whakaaro he mea noa iho tēnei, mēnā ka tupu i ētahi wā. Engari, ki te noho hei mea noa, me whakaoho anō tō whanaungatanga. Ehara i te mea ko te piripono tinana anake te tūāpapa o te whanaungatanga engari he mea nui.