Tokowhitu ngā tāne me ngā wāhine i whaki i tā rātou mauheretanga i a rātou e moe tahi ana

Ka taea e te hiahia nui te huri hei whakama nui ina mau koe i a koe e mahi tahi ana.

Kāore he whakama nui atu i te hopukina i a koe e mahi ana i te mahi kino. I tētahi meneti kei te kihi koe i tāu tāne, ā, ka werawera, ka taumaha haere ngā mea, ā, i tētahi meneti, ka titiro iho koe ki te mata whero o tō whaea. Āe, he pono te whakama.

I ētahi wā ka hē te haere o ngā mea ina tukuna e tātou te hiahia taikaha kia kaha ake i a tātou. I ētahi wā ka mangere rawa tātou ki te raka i ngā tatau i mua i te hekenga ki te mahi i te mahi, ā, i ētahi wā he mea kua oti kē te whakarite. Ka mutu te mahi moepuku e te kanohi tirotiro kāore he take ki te noho ki reira. Pānuihia tonu kia kitea ai ngā kōrero whakamiharo mō te mau o ēnei tāne me ngā wāhine i a rātou e mahi ana i te mea whakamiharo.

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7 Ngā Tāne me Ngā Wahine i Whakaae i te Hopukanga o Rātou i a Rātou e Whakaipoipo Ana

Ahakoa te take – ahakoa he mātua, he whanaunga, he pirihimana, he hoa noho, he tangata noa iho rānei, he mea whakarihariha te wā e whakararuraruhia ana koe i a koe e mahi ana i tāu e hiahia ana. Ā, he tino whakama hoki.

Heoi, he pai ake te mōhio kāore ko tātou anake i roto i tēnei āhuatanga. Tata ki te katoa o ngā tāne me ngā wāhine kua mau kē i a rātou e puremu ana i te aroaro o te marea, ā, i ora tonu rātou ki te kōrero i te kōrero whakarihariha.

Nā, anei ētahi kōrero a ngā tāne me ngā wāhine i hopukina e mahi tahi ana

1. I hopukina e te matua

"I te kāinga o taku hoa wahine ahau. I roto mātou i te rūma moe. Kāore ōna mātua i te mōhio he takatāpui tā rāua tamāhine. Ki a rātou, he hoa noa iho ahau. I takoto mātou i runga i te moenga i raro i ngā rama māwhero i whakatūria e ia. I waho ōna mātua mō te pō, ā, e kore e hoki mai. Nō reira, kāore mātou i manukanuka ki te raka i ngā tatau i mua i te kakahuria. I tino kaha tā mātou mahi tahi, ā, i maka noatia ō mātou kākahu ki konei, ki reira."

He Pānui e Hāngai Ana: Pānuihia te pūrākau rorirori a tēnei wahine mō te marena tahi i roto i tētahi whānau kotahi.

Kātahi ka huaki te tatau, ā, ka kite ahau i te whaea o taku hoa wahine i te tatau. Kei te mahi taku hoa wahine i ōku ū i taua wā. I tū ahau, i tū taku hoa wahine, i tū tōna whaea. I muri i te hēkona o te wahangu, ka mea tōna whaea "Āe, pai ana, kaua e manukanuka" ka kati te tatau i muri i a ia i a ia e haere ana.

He waimarie, he tangata atawhai ia, he nui ake tōna whakaaro ki ngā hiahia moepuku o tana tamāhine i ētahi atu mātua. Ahakoa i kitea e ia māua i waenganui o te hui whakaipoipo, kāore ia i whakahua anō i taua mea. I ngā wā katoa i tae atu ai ahau ki tōna whare i muri i tērā, ka karanga ia "Kia ora, ka haere mai ahau ki te rūma a mua tata nei", i mua i tana tomokanga ki te rūma.

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2. I hopukina e te whanaunga pakupaku, hiahia

"Ko te marena o taku whanaunga . I karangatia taku hoa tāne mō te wā roa nā te mea he whānau noa iho ia. I puku māua ki waho ka haere ki te taupee o te hakari whakanui. I whakaaro māua ki te tahae i tētahi kihi mānumanu engari i puta ke te āhua, ā, ka tīmata ia ki te whakangahau i ahau i reira. He pōuri te nuinga o te taupee, nō reira kāore tetahi e kite i a māua."

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I waenganui o te mahi, ka rongo ahau i tētahi aroaro iti e tata ana. I roto i te atarangi, ka kite ahau i te tamaiti a taku whanaunga e ono tau te pakeke. I mua i tā mātou whakatikatika i ō mātou kākahu, ka pātai mai ia, 'He aha tāu e mahi nei? He aha koe i haruru ai?' Ka oma atu ahau ki a ia, ka tono ki taku hoa tāne kia noho i te pōuri, ka kī atu ahau ki a ia kua mamae ōku waewae, nō reira i tangi ai ahau.

He waimarie nōna i hoko mai, ā, kāore i mōhio kei te taha ahau tētahi atu tangata. I haria ia e au ki raro, ā, i utua ia e au ki te tiakarete kia kaua ia e kōrero ki tētahi kei te tangi ahau. Kāore ia i kōrero.”

3. Ringaringa whero i te papa waka

"I tū māua ko taku hoa tāne o mua i tētahi toa hokohoko i raro i te whenua, ā, ka moe tahi māua. Me te mea he kākahu, he mahi whakaipoipo ā-ringa. I rongo māua i tētahi kaimahi haumarutanga e pupuhi ana i tana whiowhio me te tono kia neke māua. I mataku taku hoa tāne, ka tīmata te motuka, ka peia atu i te kaitiaki, me tōku ringa i roto i ngā tarau. Kāore he take ki te kī, i mate te wairua, ā, kāore i taea e māua te mutu te kata i te hokinga mai."

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4. I hopukina e tētahi atu tokorua hara

"I roto i tō mātou puni, kei reira tētahi wāhi whenua pōuri i kitea e mātou i te taha o te poraka whakahaere. He puna wai nui kei tōna taha me ngā kohatu nunui. I tētahi wā ka tino hiahia mātou ki tētahi wāhi marino, ātaahua hoki. I eke mātou ki te pahikara, ā, i kihi ahau i tōna kaki i a ia e taraiwa ana, ā, ka tae atu ki taua wāhi."

I a māua e kihi ana, e wetewete ana i ō māua kākahu, e noho ana i runga i te tarutaru. I a au e noho ana i runga i a ia, e piko ana i te puku maroke, ka rongo ahau i tētahi reo e mea ana, "E pai ana ki a koe te mahi i tēnā, kaua e nui te haruru? Ka rongo ngā tāngata e haere ana i a koe, ā, ka whiti te mārama ki tēnei wāhi hei hopu i te tangata." Pānui e pā ana: 9 ngā rohe tino wera mō ngā wāhine

I reira anō hoki tēnei tangata me tana hoa wahine ki te whakaipoipo. I muri i tana kōrero i tēnā, ka hoki anō ia ki te kihi i tana wahine, engari i pōuri mātou i muri i te hopukina e tēnei tokorua e whakaipoipo ana, nō reira ka whakatau mātou ki te kimi i tō mātou ake wāhi.”

5. Hoa noho me te rūma moe

"He whare moe tāne, wahine rānei ō mātou. Nō reira, ehara i te mea turekore te moe tāne i roto i ngā rūma engari he mea whakaiti. I tētahi wā, ka tae mai taku hoa tāne, ā, e mahi tahi ana māua. I waho taku hoa noho, engari ka hoki mai anō i te mea kei raro taku hoa tāne i ngā paraikete, e hoatu ana i te waha ki ahau. He hotoke, nō reira he matotoru rawa ō māua paraikete. Ka hoki mai taku hoa noho ki te tono i ngā kī o taku kuta. Ka taea e au te rongo i taku hoa tāne i raro i ngā whāriki, e tū ana i waenganui o te mahi, e manawa puku ana mā roto i tōna ihu."

I tangohia e taku hoa noho ngā kī, ā, ka kōrero mō te kiriata ka mātakihia e rātou, ka pātai mai mēnā kei te pirangi au ki te haere, kāore rānei. I mua i tana wehenga atu, i te tatau ka tahuri ia ka mea, 'Āe, e kitea ana ō waewae i raro i te paraikete, e Jobin.' Ko Jobin taku hoa tāne.”

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6. I hopukina e te kuia

"I hopukina māua e te hoa noho o taku hoa wahine e puremu ana i roto i te kīhini, he kuia ataahua. I a māua e tū ana i muri i te kaute kīhini, ka kite taku hoa wahine i te e whakamomori ana i ahauI waenganui, ka tuwhera te tatau o mua, ā, ka tomo mai te wahine. I reira ahau, i muri i te kaute, kua kumea ōku tarau ki raro ki ōku pona, ko taku hoa wahine hoki, i muri i te kaute, e tū ana i runga i ōna turi.

I tae mai te kuia reka ki te whakahoki i tētahi pukapuka tunu kai i namahia e ia. I mea atu ahau ki a ia kia whakatakotoria ki runga i te tēpu. Ka mutu te pupuhi a taku hoa wahine i ahau, ā, ka huna ki muri i te kaute. I kōrero ahau ki te kuia, me te kanga i a ia me ahau anō hoki. I tōna rironga atu, ka peke ake taku hoa wahine ki runga, ka kata nui.” Ngā Pānui e Pā Ana: Ngā wāhi pai rawa atu mō te moepuku i waho

7. I hopukina e te tuahine matua

" E noho ana ahau i roto i tētahi whānau kotahi , ā, kāore he huarahi ki te moe tahi i roto i tōku whare, engari i te wā e haere ana te whānau katoa ki te kiriata, ki tētahi atu mea rānei (he mea onge tēnei). I tētahi o aua rā onge, i haere tōku whānau katoa ki te whare karakia mō te Puja. I noho ahau ki muri me te kī he paheketanga. (Kāore e tika kia tomo ngā kōtiro e pāngia ana e te paheketanga ki roto i ngā temepara). I haere mai taku hoa tāne. He whare nui tō mātou, he maha ngā rūma. Nā te mea i waho te katoa, ka haria e ahau taku hoa tāne ki te rūma moe o ōku mātua.

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I tomo mātou ki raro i ngā paraikete, ā, ka haere tonu te mahi tae noa ki taku rongonga i te tangi o te wai i roto i te wharepaku. I te kitenga he tangata kei reira, ka ngana mātou ki te whakakakahu i ō mātou kākahu. Ko taku tuahine matua i kore i haere nā te mea he puku mamae tōna. I tū ia me te titiro mai ki a mātou i a mātou e mau ana i ō mātou kākahu o roto.

"Ka kata ia, ka mea, 'Aroha mai' me te kī atu, 'Ka kōrero atu ahau ki a Māmā', kātahi ka haere atu. Kāore he take ki te kī, kāore ia i kōrero ki tētahi, ā, ka kata noa iho ia mō taua mea tae noa mai ki tēnei rā."

I tino kata mātou, i oho hoki ēnei kōrero, ā, ko te tumanako i whakaakona mai ētahi akoranga ki a mātou.

Nā, me aha koe mēnā ka mau koe e puremu ana? Āe, e ai ki tā mātou i pānui ai, ka rapu kupu whakamāori koe, ka whakaatu i te pono, ka oma atu, ka whiti noa rānei ō ringaringa me te tumanako ka pai te hua. Ko te akoranga nui rawa atu i konei ko te kore e whakahoki anō i ō tātou hapa , me te noho haumaru kei mau koe e puremu ana i te aroaro o te marea!

Ehara tō takoha i te koha aroha . Mā tēnei ka taea e Bonobology te kawe tonu mai i ngā mōhiotanga hou me ngā mōhiotanga hou ki a koe i roto i tā mātou whainga ki te āwhina i te tangata o te ao ki te ako me pēhea te mahi i tetahi mea.

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