E rima ngā wāhine e whakaatu ana i te take i murua ai e rātou ā rātou tāne tinihanga

I tō mātou whare noho i te kāreti, tekau mā rua pea ngā taiohi, e whakaaroaro ana mēnā ka wehe atu mātou i tētahi hoa aroha, i tētahi hoa rangatira rānei e tinihanga ana. Tata ki te katoa i whakaae kāore e taea e rātou, ā, e kore rawa e taea e rātou te aro atu ki te kitenga i te tangata tinihanga. Tokorua noa iho ngā kōtiro i kī mai i tērā. he here kore ko te tikanga he murunga hara i te tāne tinihanga, me te ako ki te haere tonu me te whanaungatanga.

He mea whakamiharo te kaha o ngā wāhine ki te muru hara ki tā rātou tāne kua hē. "Ki taku whakaaro, ko ngā take anake me whakaaro te tangata mō te wehe atu, te wehe atu rānei i tā rātou tāne ko te porangi, te waranga, me te tutu ā-whare," te kī a tētahi o ngā kōtiro tokorua. "Nō reira, kāore te puremu e taka ki roto i taua kete."

Kua kōrero ahau ki ētahi o ōku hoa i whiriwhiri ki te muru i ngā hara a ā rātou tāne kua hē, ā, anei ētahi kōrero.

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He tokomaha ngā wāhine e mea ana, "Ka murua e au taku tāne mō tana tinihanga," ā, ka mutu koinā te mahi. Te whakatau i ngā te tinihanga i roto i te whanaungatanga he tino uaua engari kei reira ētahi wāhine e whakaae ana ki te āhuatanga me te mahi tonu te ora i te tinihanga kua tupu tēnā.

I kōrero mātou ki ētahi wāhine tokorima, ā, i kōrero mai rātou he aha rātou i muru ai i te hara a tā rātou tāne tinihanga, ka noho tonu ai ki te whanaungatanga.

1. He uaua ki te mārama ki te aroha mutunga kore pono

I raro a Anna i te mate Stockholm syndrome, ā, ka taka ia ki raro i te makutu a te kaitukino. Mō te ataahua, kāore he tangata hei rite mō te āhua pai me te tino o Anna. Ko ia tōku kuia i te taha pāpā, i moe i tētahi zamindar whakakake, whai rawa.

I aua rā, he mea noa te kawe wahine ki roto i tō whare wahine, engari he whānau Karaitiana pono, he whānau whai mana hoki tō mātou. Kāore tetahi i maia ki te tū atu ki a ia, ā, i whakapehapeha ia i tōna kaha pērā i te pīkoko. He maha āna tinihanga i a ia, ā, kāore ia i whakapāha mō tēnā.

Mā tōna mana tino kaha ia e ārahi ki patua ia e te aroha kore ā, i mua i te 30 o ōna tau, kua ngaro katoa ōna niho, ā, he maha ngā wā kua materoto ia. Ka mataku ana tamariki tokorua i te mamae nui i te kitenga i tēnei patunga nanakia ki tō rātou whaea.

Heoi, ka murua e Ana tana hara, ka hoki ki tana tāne. I mātakitaki noa atu ōna hungawai me te kore whakapono, kāore i taea te wawao, ā, ka tohe ōna teina tokorima kia whakarērea e ia tana tāne, kia hoki ki te kāinga o tōna whaea.

Ka ata whakamanawanui a Anna i ana mahi tukino, ā, ka tunu kai anō hoki mā tana hoa rangatira hou. I pātai atu ahau ki a ia i a ia e whitu tekau tau ana, he aha ia i hoki tonu ai ki tana tāne whakarihariha. Ka moemoeā ōna kanohi, ā, ka mea ia, "I aroha nui ahau ki a ia."

2. Ngā herenga pāpori me ngā whakararuraru o te āhua noho

He mea atawhai e ngā wāhine ā rātou hoa rangatira me ā rātou tamariki, ā, ko rātou te mea nui i mua i ngā mea katoa. He wahine mātau, he wahine huatau hoki a Rani, i moe wahine ki tētahi Perehitini Tuarua ataahua o tētahi kamupene rongonui o te ao, Fortune 500.

I nui te moni nā te mea nō te whānau pirionaire ia, ā, i whiriwhiria e ia te mahi hei pupuri i tana mahi e tika ana, nā te mea kāore ia i aro ki te pakihi a te whānau.

Kāore i te mea ko te ātaahua me te taonga anake i manaakitia ai ia; i oma marathona anō hoki ia, ā, he tino pakari tōna tinana. Me te mea kāore i ranea ēnei āhuatanga, i whakawhiwhia anō hoki ia ki te wairua whakakatakata tino ngawari. I tino harikoa a Rani, engari i tana haputanga i tana pēpi tuatahi, ka kitea e ia te kutukutu i roto i te aporo.

Ka moe ia me āna hēkeretari, kātahi ka marenatia rāua me te koha moni nui me ngā whakapaipai koura. Nā tēnei tinihanga i whara kino a Rani. Whai muri i te maha o ngā kōrero haereere me te ngā pakanga nanakia, ka whakatau ia ki te noho. "I murua e au taku tāne tinihanga," ko tana kī.

I whakama ōna hungawai i tana maia ki te kōrero mō taua mea. I whakaaro rātou me huna e ia te katoa o te mea. Nā te mea, i tiakina ia me āna tamariki me te nui o te manaakitanga.

I taku pātai atu he aha ia i kore ai e whakarērea ia ia, ka mea ia, "Āe, me mahi au, kāore rawa e taea e au te utu i te momo noho o aku tamariki i nāianei, ā, i whakaaro ahau he hē tēnā ki a rātou. Ehara i te mea ngāwari te muru i te hara o tētahi tāne tinihanga, engari me whakaaro ahau ki ngā tamariki."

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3. Me tahia e tātou ki raro i te whāriki

He pai tonu ki ngā wāhine te pupuri i te rangimārie me te horomi i te mamae – kaua e whakararuraru i te waka, koinei te meme. He wahine noa a Sonali o te ao, engari ko tana tāne te mea nui ki a ia. I te whānautanga o tana pēpi kōtiro tuatahi, i aro atu ia ki a ia. I hiahia ia ki te whakarērea tana mahi, kia noho hei noho-i-whaea mamaKāore tana tāne i pai ki te whakarongo – i mea ia me whiwhi ia i te utu o tana tāne hei oranga mōna.

Ā, i te kore e pai, ka tono ia ki tōna whanaunga, ki a Anita, te tamahine a tōna whaea kēkē, kia haere mai ki te āwhina i te tiaki i tana pēpi. Kāore i roa, ka tiaki a Anita i te pēpi me tōna matua, ehara i te mea ko te manaaki aroha noa iho.

I whakapuaki a Sonali i tōna mamae ki tōna hungawai wahine, ā, i riria ia e ia mō te tuku i tētahi kōtiro pēnei ki roto i te whānau. Kāore e taea te waiho i te ika kia noho noa iho ina he ngeru tōu i te kāinga! Ka tukua e Sonali tōna whanaunga ki tōna kāinga tupu, ā, ka marenatia ia i reira, ā, ka whānau he kōtiro, ā, ko te āhua nei, he rite tonu ia ki te tāne a Sonali.

E mea ana a Sonali, "Āe, kei roto katoa i te whānau, ā, he kaiwhakarato pai taku tāne, he ngākau atawhai, he pai ki ngā tamariki, ā, he pai ake ki ahau te whai i tētahi rewera e mōhiotia ana i te rapu i tētahi atu Mr Perfect. I murua e au te hara hei whakaora i taku marena."

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4. Te hapori me te whakaae i mua i te riri tika

Ko te tikanga tuku iho, te whānau, te whakapono, te hapori me te whakatikatika i te tangata ki te tika me te hē, ka pupuri i te wahine tino mamae ki te tikanga o te murunga hara i tana tāne tinihanga. Nō te whānau Jain tuku iho a Sushma, ā, i moea ia i te 16 o ōna tau, ā, tae noa ki tēnei wā i te 31 o ōna tau, he ātaahua tonu ia. I taua wā, he he marena whakarite ā, kāore āna kupu i tua atu i te whakaae.

Mai anō i te kupu "Haere", ko ia te tauira o te tangata tukino, whakakino waha me te whakamātau nui ki te waipiro, te petipeti, me te hiahia ki ngā wāhine. Heoi anō, ahakoa ngā tāne kino, ka moe tāne rātou mēnā he ngāwari ā rātou moni. Ko tōna ataahua te pūtake o te āwangawanga me te whakapae nui, ā, i tana wehenga atu ki te tiaki i ana toa kakahu – ka herehere i tana wahine marena taitamariki i roto i te whare.

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I whakamanawanui ia i ngā mea katoa nā te kaha o te pēhanga kia whakaae; mai i ōna mātua me ōna hungawai tuku iho. Tae noa ki tēnei rā – i te mea kua tīmata tana tamāhine ki te mahi, ā, ka taea e ia te wehe ngāwari i tana tāne nanakia, ka whakakahore ia, nā te mea he takahi i te tikanga.

"I murua e au te hara o taku tāne mō tana tinihanga me tana tukino i ahau, engari e atawhai ana ahau i te mamae i ia wā, i ia wā o te rā," te kī a Sushma.

Waihoki, mā te whakarere, e kore ia e whiwhi i te taonga tuku iho a tana tāne mā tana tamāhine. Mēnā kua whakarerea ia, kāore e taea te tono marena mā tana tamāhine. He pai ake ki a ia te pupuri i tētahi hononga pakaru, i a tana tāne e oma ana me tana ika hou i hopukina i tētahi wāhi i Hawai'i.

5. I whiriwhiria hoki e ngā wāhine mahi te muru hara

Ina rite ō kaupapa matua ki tā tō hoa rangatira, kātahi ka ahua koretake ana mahi tinihanga. He pai ake ki a koe te noho tahi me te hoa rangatira koretake, ā, ka mutu ka murua e koe te hara o te tāne tinihanga, kaua e maka kupenga hou. Whai muri i ngā whanaungatanga maha i rahua, ka kitea e Christy a Aatif, he tangata rite ki a ia he tohunga rorohiko, ā, he rite tonu tōna mōhio ki ngā āhuatanga o te moepuku.

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Ahakoa i mōhio ia he roa tana hononga ki tētahi wahine pakeke, i pōhēhē a Christy i te ataahua o Aatif. Pērā i ngā wāhine katoa kei te tata ki te toru tekau tau te pakeke, ka puta ake ngā kare ā-roto katoa, ka tono kia te whakapau kaha mō te marena i tīmata te puta ake.

He tangata pono a Aatif he tangata aroha maha, ā, kāore i huna e ia taua mea i a Christy. Heoi, i tino miharo ia i te wā i wahine pakeke i waea atu ki a ia i tana mahi, ā, i amuamu mō te tahae i tana tāne. Ka pakaru te riri.

Hei te tika, ko te wahine pakeke anake i hiahia ki te tohatoha i te wā me te kaha o Aatif, nā te mea he tino piripono āna tamariki ki a ia. Kāore i taea e Christy te whakaae ki te āhua o te hinganga o te mataono, ā, ka kī ia kua mutu katoa. Heoi, ko te hiahia mō te taatai ​​he mea nui hei akiaki i a ia ki te muru i te hara o te hoa aroha. I whakaaro ia i te 39 o ōna tau ka uaua ki a ia te tīmata ki te whai i tētahi tāne ehara i te mea he hoa aroha pai anake engari he rite tonu ki a ia te hinengaro. Nō reira, ahakoa te mōhio ki ngā mea katoa, i moe a Christy i a Aatif.

Ko te mea whakamutunga ko te hurihanga o te pūrākau i kōrerotia e mātou mai i ētahi wāhine e rima. He rerekē te murunga hara o tētahi tāne tinihanga, me te whakaora i te marena, engari he rerekē te whakaae ki ngā mahi a tētahi hoa aroha tinihanga, me te marena ki a rāua. Ina tae ki te aroha me te marena, ka mutu ka mahi te tangata i ngā momo mea katoa hei muru i te hara o tā rātou hoa rangatira, hei whakaora hoki i tā rātou marena.

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