E waru tau māua e marena ana, ā, he tangata atawhai taku tāne engari ehara i te tangata tino whakapuaki whakaaro. Kāore taku tāne i te tangata aroha, i te tangata aroha rānei. He āwhina nui ia i roto i te kīhini engari e kino ana ia ki ngā mahi o te whare. Ehara ia i te momo tangata aroha e hiahia ana ki te whakahihiri i ahau.
Kei te ngaro ahau i taua momo aroha. E tumanako ana ahau kia aro mai ia ki ahau, kia kihi i ahau, kia kī mai "Kei te aroha ahau ki a koe" me te mahi rānei i tētahi mea motuhake. Ahakoa i runga i te moenga, kei a ia he tino mangere tonuHe maha ā mātou pakanga mō tēnei.
Kua hoha ahau ki te tono aroha mai i taku tāne i ngā huarahi katoa. Nā te kore o te aroha kua puta he raruraru i roto i tō māua whanaungatanga, ā, kāore au i te mōhio me pēhea te whakatau.
Kāore taku tāne i te aroha, i te aroha rānei
Ripanga o Ihirangi
I ēnei rā, kua kaha ia ki te riri. Ahakoa te mea iti rawa pērā i te whakawhiti i te nāpi o tā māua tamaiti, ki te tono atu ahau kia mahi ia, ka whawhai mai ia ki ahau. Ko tētahi atu tauira, ki te kore e taea e au te mahi i ētahi mahi kua tohaina e māua ki a māua anō nā te taenga mai o taku waka mahi i te ata, e kore ahau e rongo i te mutunga o āna amuamu.
Kāore taku tāne e whakanui ana i ahau
Ki te kore te tāne e whakaatu i te aroha, ko te tikanga kāore ia e aroha ki a koe, ki a koe rānei kia mōhio ki tōu uara. Te āhua nei kāore ia e mārama ki tōku uara, i te mea ka aroturuki ahau i ngā pire katoa o te whare, ka hoko kai, ka tākai kai mā tā māua tamāhine, ka whakahaere i ā māua pūtea, ka tunu kai, ka horoi i te whare, ko ētahi noa iho.
EAhakoa tētahi mahi e kīia atu ana e au ki a ia, ka whakakahore ia ki tēnā. Me inoi atu ahau ki a ia kia āwhina i ahau. Ahakoa i taua wā, ka mahi ia me te nui o te riri. Kua tīmata hoki ia ki te amuamu mō ngā mea katoa pēnei i te whakanui tahi i tētahi hakari.
Ki te kore te tāne e whakaatu i te aroha, ā, ka amuamu tonu, ka totohe i te wā iti noa iho, ka tīmata ia ki te whakapōrearea i a koe. Ā, koinā te mea e pā ana ki ahau.
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Kāore he whakanui huritau
Nō nā tata nei ko te huritau o tō māua marena, ā, kāore ia i tono whakaaetanga kia whakanuia ngātahitia, he mea e mahia ana e māua. I tua atu, i hiahia māua ki te whai wā mō māua anō, engari te āhua nei kāore he take mōna.
Kua hoha ahau ki te inoi mō tōna aroha, ā, e tino mamae ana ahau ina kore ia e aro ki tā tātou ngā tohu paetae mō te whanaungatanga.
Ko au rānei te tangata e whakapau kaha ana?
Kāre au i te mōhio he aha te mea e tupu ana, engari ki taku whakaaro ko au anake te tangata e hiahia ana ki te rongo i te aroha, me te hiahia kia angitu tā māua marena, i te mea kua tino hoha.
I ētahi wā ka whakaaro ahau he tangata noa iho taku tāne, he tangata kore kōrero, ā, e kore rawa ahau e whiwhi i te aro e hiahiatia ana e au. I ētahi wā ka whakaaro ahau kāore pea ahau i aroha ki a ia. I ētahi wā ka hiahia ahau ki te aroha me te aroha mai i taku tāne, ā, i ētahi wā ka hiahia ahau ki te oma atu.
Kei te tino rangirua au. Kāore taku tāne e aro mai ana ki ahau. He tohu ēnei kua kore taku tāne e aroha mai ki ahau?
Kāore au e hiahia kia ngaro taku marena, engari e hiahia ana ahau kia rerekē ētahi mea. Āwhina mai!
E te Wahine,
Āe! He pono? I muri i te pānui i tāu i tuhituhi ai, kāore au e pai ki te noho hei tāne māu. He aha ai? Nā te mea kei te ahua hiahia koe, piri ā, nui rawa tō tangi! Nā, ko te wāhanga whakamiharo tēnei – nāu te he? Kāo. Koinei te wāhi e uru atu ai ahau, e hine, kia tirohia ngātahitia e tāua, kia pai ake ai.
Kei te kore koe e aroha mai i tāu tāne kei te pouri koe i roto i tō marena, engari anei ētahi mea me maumahara koe.
E kore te whakahihiri e tupu
E whāngaihia ana ngā wāhine katoa ki ngā ariā o te aroha, arā, ka kihi te tāne i te kōtiro, ka kawe hoki i a ia ki te tina i raro i te rama.
Ā, koinā te mea e hiahiatia ana e koe – he harikoa i roto i ōna kanohi ina kite ia i a koe – pērā i te āhua o te tamaiti i te ata Kirihimete i te kitenga i te koha a Hāta. Āe?
Ā, māku e whakamārama atu he aha i kore ai e tupu tēnā:
1. I muri i ngā tau maha e noho tahi ana, kua kore rawa taua āhuatanga ohorere i reira.
2. Kāore te ao e haere ana pērā i tana e hiahia ana, ā, hei utu mō te āwhina me te tautoko i a ia, ka kino rawa atu te āhuatanga mā te tono atu ki a ia kia noho hei toa o Hollywood, ā, kua hoha ia ki tēnei āhuatanga.
3. Kei te whakawhirinaki nui rawa koe ki a ia mō tō harikoa.
He iti noa ngā kōrero mō ngā tāne
Anei ētahi whakaaro tuku iho e pā ana ki te nuinga o ngā tāne engari kāore e whakaaetia e rātou:
1. E pai ana ki ngā tāne te noho hei toa i roto i ngā pukupuku kanapa mō te hunga kāore e hiahia ana ki a rātou.
2. Ko te nuinga o te wā e pai ana ki a rātou ko te moe tāne (kaua ko te moe tahi), ā, ko te nuinga o ō rātou tau tipu ake i ahu mai i ngā mahi puremu.
3. Ka oma ngā tāne i te kawenga.
Me pēhea te whakapai ake i te āhuatanga?
Me whai whakaaro ki ēnei mea, me pēhea te whakapai ake i te āhuatanga?
1. I tangohia e koe te kaupapa kia harikoa ai koe? Ki te whakapau wā koe ki te whakangahau i a koe anō, ā, te aroha ki a koe anō kaua e amuamu he aha e kore ai e taea e ia te whakahari i a koe – ko te mutunga iho ka harikoa koe!
Haere ki te wāhi mirimiri i te whare mirimiri, hoko mai he mirimiri māna, ka mea atu – haere ina wātea koe, māku e tiaki ngā mea katoa i taua wā. Mā te whakapumau noa i a ia ka tiaki koe i ngā mea katoa ka harikoa ia, ā, i muri i tō haerenga mirimiri, ka harikoa koe. Nō reira, he painga mō te katoa, he harikoa rua hoki.
2. Kia riro koe hei wahine kaha, hei toa, kāore e hiahia ki tētahi tāne kia harikoa ai, ka nui ake te hiahia o tō tāne ki a koe, ā, ko tāu e hiahia ana – kia tata ia ki a koe, ka tutuki.
Nō reira, i mua i tō kīnga atu, "Kāore taku tāne i te aroha, i te aroha rānei!" whakaarohia anō.
Aroha me te māramatanga, e hine. Ā, mēnā he pātai āu, whakamōhio mai!
PS I ētahi wā, kakahuria ō kākahu tino pai, whakamahia ō taringa, ka whakatangihia he waiata, ka kanikani hoki i te wā kāore he tangata e titiro mai ana!
FAQs
I muri i ngā tau maha o te marena, kua kore rawa te ohorere. Tērā pea kāore ōna kanohi e kanapa ina kite ia i a koe, kāore rānei ia e oma ki te awhi i a koe, ā, tērā pea ka tautohetohe koe, ka whakaaro pea koe kāore tō tāne e whakaatu ana i te aroha. Engari he mea noa tēnā, kāore?
He pai ki ngā tāne te moe tāne (kāore i te whakaarohia te moe tāne i ngā wā katoa), he pai ki te noho hei toa ki te hunga kāore e hiahia ana ki a rātou, me te oma atu i te kawenga. Ki te mea ka whakaaro koe kāore te tāne e aroha ana, kāore pea koe e mārama ana ki tāu tāne.
Ka taea e te kore aroha te whakakino i ngā whanaungatanga, engari kaua e whakatau wawe mō te kore aroha. Ahakoa ehara tō hoa i te taika i te moenga, i te kawe rānei i a koe ki ngā tina rama, tera pea he tangata atawhai, he tangata ngākau pono. Tirohia ngā mea pai, kaua e aro nui ki ngā mea kino.
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