Me pēhea te aroha ki a koe anō i roto i te whanaungatanga - 21 Tohutohu Whaihua

Whakaarohia tēnei: ​​kei roto koe i tētahi whanaungatanga, e hiahia ana ki tō hoa rangatira, ā, he moemoeā te āhua o ngā mea katoa. Engari i waenganui i ngā wā aroha, he mea nui te mahi hei pupuri i te mura kia mura tonu – he horopeta hauora o te aroha ki a koe anō. Ki te mea kei te whakaaro koe me pēhea te aroha ki a koe anō i roto i tētahi whanaungatanga, kua tae mai koe ki te wāhi tika.

Kei te kite koe, he rite te aroha ki a koe anō ki taua mea ngaro e kawe ana i tō whanaungatanga ki tētahi taumata hou. Ehara i te mea ko te arotahi noa ki te oranga tinana, ki te mahi rānei i ngā mea papaku hei whakamanawareka i a koe anō. Ehara i te mea ko te hiahia whaiaro, ko te whakapehapeha rānei; engari ko te poipoi i ō ake hiahia, i tō oranga, me tō harikoa, me te aroha e tohaina ana e koe ki tō hoa. Mā te awhi i te aroha ki a koe anō, kei te whakamana koe i a koe anō kia noho ko koe te putanga pai rawa atu o koe, ā, ka whai pānga pai ki waho, ā, ka whakarei ake i te kounga o tō whanaungatanga.

21 Ngā Tohutohu Aroha ki a Koe Anō Ina Kei Roto Koe i tētahi Hononga

A ako in Te Tangata me te Tangata Takitahi e pūrongo ana, "He whakapono rongonui kei te kīia 'me aroha te tangata ki a rātou anō i mua i te kaha ki te aroha ki tētahi atu.' E rite ana ki tēnei whakaaro taketake, he nui ngā rangahau e whakaatu ana ko te hunga whai whakaaro nui ki a rātou anō he nui ake ā rātou arotake pai mō ā rātou whanaungatanga aroha i te hunga whai te iti o te whakaaro ki a ia anō i roto i te whanaungatanga"... Nō reira, kei reira te iti rawa he tautoko mō te whakaaro ko te hunga e aroha ana ki a rātou anō ka nui ake te harikoa o ngā whanaungatanga i te hunga kāore i te whai whakaaro pai ki a rātou anō."

He mea whakamīharo, i roto i te pūnaha pūtea me te ahurea rongonui, ko te aroha ki a koe anō te tikanga o te kaukau mirumiru, ngā maimoatanga kaukau, me te hokohoko rongoā. Ae, tera pea ka pai ake tō wairua i ēnei mahi, engari kāore e taea te whakakapi i te rangimārie o roto, te ngākau māhaki, me te maia ki te noho i te ao i runga i ō ake tikanga. Anei ētahi tohutohu 'tūturu' hei ako i a koe me pēhea te aroha ki a koe anō i te tuatahi: 

1. Whakahaerehia te aroha ki a koe anō i te tuatahi i roto i te whanaungatanga

Kei te tatari koe kia whakaorangia koe e tō hoa? Kei te tumanako koe kia whakatikahia e tō whanaungatanga ngā raruraru katoa o tō ao? Engari ko te tatari kia whakaorangia koe e tō hoa aroha, kia pai ake rānei tō wairua i ngā wā katoa, me tango te kawenga mō tō ake harikoa. Me aroha ki a koe anō i ia rā, me te mātakitaki i te makutu e puta mai ana. Ā, i a koe e whakahaere ana, kia manawanui ki a koe anō.

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2. Poroporoaki ki aua whakapono huna e whakawhāiti ana i a koe

Āe, ka ruku mātou ki te pito hōhonu o tō hinengaro – te whenua o ngā whakapono whakawhāiti. Kei te mōhio koe, ko aua whakaaro whakarihariha e kī ana, "Kāore koe i te pai mō tō hoa tāne" me "Kāore koe e tika kia arohaina, ā, whanaungatanga hauora"Āe, kua tae ki te wā ki te whakamārama i aua kaiwhakararuraru iti. Kia tūpato ki aua kōrero kino ki a koe anō, ā, tukua ēnei whakapono here kia rere atu. Whakamanahia koe kia rite ki te whetu toka e mōhio ana koe!

3. Ka taea e te kōrero whakaata te ako i a koe me pēhea te aroha ki a koe anō i roto i te whanaungatanga 

He whakaata, he whakaata i te pakitara, ko wai te mea tino arohaina o rātou katoa? Hopukia he whakaata, titiro hohonu ki roto i ō kanohi ake, ka kī anō, "E aroha ana ahau ki a au anō" me "E aroha ana ahau ki a koe." He ahua kuware? Tērā pea. Engari whakapono mai ki ahau, ka taea e tēnei mahi ngāwari te mahi merekara. He rite ki te kōrero ngākau ki a koe anō. Nō reira, me kōrero koe ki a koe anō i roto i te whakaata, kia noho humarie ki te tangata tino nui o tō ao - ko koe.

4. Awhitia ngā hinganga ka ara ake anō 

He haerenga pōuriuri te ao. I ētahi wā ka tūtuki koe, ka hinga, ā, ka tūtaki koe ki ngā hinganga o mua. Ā, koinei tētahi wāhanga o te noho tangata. Ko ngā hinganga, ko ngā wehenga o mua, ko ngā whakakorenga aroha – he kōhatu takahi katoa ēnei i te ara ki te aroha me te māramatanga. Kāore hoki tētahi o ēnei e kī ana he ngoikore koe, he mangere rānei. Nō reira, kaua e tukua ngā mamae o te ngākau kia hinga koe. Whakatika ake, ka horoia te puehu i a koe anō. Kia mahara, ko te whanaungatanga angitu ka puta mai i te ako me te tipu. Awhitia te haerenga, kotahi te taahiraa i ia wā.

5. Kai rite ki te toa aroha ki a koe anō

Kei te whakaaro koe me pēhea te aroha ki a koe anō, me te whai māia hoki i roto i tētahi whanaungatanga? Mō te aroha ki a koe anō i roto i ngā whanaungatanga, kua tae ki te wā ki te atawhai i tō tinana me te manaaki i a koe anō. Nō reira, kia aro ki tāu e whakatakoto ana. Whāngaihia koe ki ngā mea reka, hauora hoki. Whāia ēnei tohutohu: 

• Ngāna kia kaua e kai nui i ngā kai kare ā-roto, e hoa. Engari ki te mea he nui ngā kai paraurehe e kainga ana e koe i ēnei rā, ngana ki te rapu i te pūtake o te kai, me te aro atu ki ō hiahia hauora hinengaro.
• Ngāna kia kai i ngā kai hauora, whakakīkī hoki i a kōrua e whakatau ana ki tō hoa. Ka taea hoki e kōrua te whakamutu i te whakatau me te toro atu ki te pāka me te whakangā tahi me te karāhe wai rēmana.
• Whakaaturia te aroha nui ki tō tinana mā te whāngai i a ia ki ngā kai me ngā inu whai kiko i te wā tika (āe, kaua e wareware ki te kai). Whakapono mai, ki te tika tō tiaki i tō tinana, ka mihi mai ki a koe me te kanapa me te whakanui ake i te aroha ki a koe anō.
• Kaua e tukua ki ngā whakaaro whakarihariha mō ngā paerewa ataahua. He tino tika koe, ā, e tika ana kia kai koe i ngā kai pai i ia rā, i ia rā.

6. Kia tino tiaki i a koe anō ina pēhia koe

Ki te mea kei te ngana koe ki te ako ki te aroha ki a koe anō i roto i tētahi whanaungatanga ahakoa i roto i tētahi pakanga marena, he whainga tika tēnā. He maha ngā kiriata pakiwaitara aroha e whakatairanga ana i te whakaaro ka taea e te hokohoko whakaora te whakatika i ngā mea katoa, engari i te ao tūturu, he mea nui te tiaki i tō āhua kare ā-roto i te wā e tino taumaha ana.

• Ina taumaha rawa ngā mea e pā ana ki a koe me tō hoa, manawa hōhonu, ā, me whakangāwari i a koe anō
• Kaua e whakapae i a koe anō mō ​​te ngaro o tōu ao aroha
• Tangohia he wāhi, puta atu ki waho, nekehia tō tinana, hikoi whakahauora, me te hongi i te hau hou.
• Kaua e wareware ki te whakapā atu ki ngā hoa, ki ngā mema rānei o te whānau, hei tautoko i tō haerenga.
• Ki te kore e angitu ngā mahi katoa, hangaia he kapu tī matomato whakamarie māu, ā, kia maumahara koe ka pahemo atu anō tēnei.
• Ka taea e koe te whakapā atu ki tētahi kaiwhakaora whanaungatanga hei whakamāmā i te raruraru
• Kaua e whai whakaaro kino ki a koe anō ka whakama ai koe, ka aro noa rānei ki tō āhua tinana i muri i te pakanga, engari ruku hohonu atu, ka tohu i ngā mea katoa e pouri ai koe, e taumaha ai rānei.
• Mā tētahi mahi māmā e pai ana ki a koe ka tino huri te āhua o te kēmu, hei tauira, te pānui pukapuka pai.
• Ko tētahi atu huarahi hei whakatau i tēnei ko te whakahaere wā – te whakarite i ō mahi o ia rā, me te whai wā ki te arotahi ki ō hiahia kare ā-roto.

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7. Whakamutua ngā whanaungatanga kino

Ki te mea he pūtake tonu o te ahotea tō whanaungatanga, ka huri te aroha ki a koe anō hei haerenga uaua. Ki te waiho koe e tō hoa rangatira me te ngenge me te pouri i ngā wā katoa, kua tae ki te wā ki te poroporoaki ki a koe te whanau paitiniKia maumahara, e tika ana kia karapotia koe e te hunga e whakamīharo ana i a koe.

Kaua e whakawhirinaki tō whakaute i a koe anō ki te whakaaro o tō hoa mōu. Akohia te aroha ki a koe anō, kaua ki tō hoa tāne, ki tō hoa wahine rānei, me te kore e whakawhirinaki ki te whakamana a tētahi atu. Awhitia tō ahurei whakamiharo, ā, tukua atu tetahi mea, tetahi atu rānei kāore e whai wāhi pai ki tō haerenga aroha ki a koe anō.

8. Tiakina tō hinengaro

Āe, te hinengaro – te rewera iti nei e taea ana e ia! I ētahi wā ka tinihanga i a koe, ka meinga koe kia whakapono ki te mea kino rawa atu mōu ake me tō āhuatanga. He mea nui te mōhio ki a koe anō me te mahi ki te whakaae ki a koe anō nā te mea he tika koe kia harikoa. Ko te atawhai i tō hinengaro he wāhanga nui o tō haerenga aroha ki a koe anō, inā koa mēnā kei te anga atu koe ki tētahi mea takitahi, ki tētahi mea rānei... nga wero honongaAnei ētahi tohutohu hei āwhina i a koe ki te tiaki i tō hinengaro utu nui:

• Kia noho mokemoke koe i roto i te taiao
• Whakaharatauhia ngā mahi manawa hōhonu hei whakamarie i aua whakaaro tere
• Whakamātauria i ia rā ki te tiaki i a koe anō mō ​​tō hauora kare ā-roto, me te aro atu ki ō kare ā-roto.
• Whakapaua te wā ki te arotahi ki ngā mea pai, ki tētahi mahi rānei e pai ai tō whakaaro mōu ake
• Kia maumahara ki ō mahi uaua katoa, ā, me tango he wā okiokinga. Hoatu ki tō hinengaro te okiokinga e tika ana.
• Whakapaua te wā ki te pārekareka ki ētahi mahi whakangahau mā ngā tāne me ngā wāhine

9. Whakaaroaro me te manawa

Ko koe te whawhai tonu ki tō hoaKei te pātai koe i tō uara i roto i tō marena, kei te uaua rānei ki te aroha ki a koe anō nui atu i tō hoa tāne, i tō hoa wahine rānei? Kei te ngana koe ki te ako ki te aroha ki a koe anō i roto i te whanaungatanga 'me' ō ngoikoretanga katoa, kaua e whakahē i aua ngoikoretanga? Anei tētahi otinga: Hangaia he wāhanga iti o te rangi i roto i tō kāinga hei wāhi e taea ai e koe te pārekareka ki te kaha o te ao whānui.

Whakakāhia ngā rama kakara, hopukia ētahi pukapuka whakahihiko, ka whakatangihia he waiata ngawari, whakamarie e kōrero ana ki tō wairua. Whakatapua he meneti torutoru i ia rā ki te whakaaroaro. Whakapono mai ki ahau, he mahi aroha ki a koe anō e whai hua ana, e kawe mai ana i te rangimārie me te taurite ki tō whanaungatanga me tō oranga katoa.

10. Puta atu i to rohe whakamarie

E mea ana ētahi, "Ko te aroha ki a koe anō te mea ngaro tuatahi ki te harikoa." Kei te hiahia koe ki te whakanui ake i te aroha ki a koe anō? Whakamātauria tētahi wero hei mea i a koe kia rite ki tētahi toa nui. Puta atu i taua rohe whakamarie, ka wikitoria i tētahi mea i wehi tonu koe. 

Kāore anō kia whakamātauria tētahi hākinakina mōrearea? Rēhita mō tētahi haerenga whakahihiri. Kāore koe e pai ki te tunu kai? Kakahuria taua āperene ka tūhura i te kīhini me te harikoa hou. Kāore koe i te mōhio ki te waehere? Rēhita ki tētahi akoranga ka awhi i te mea ngaro o te hōtaka. Ā, ki te mea kei te whakaaro koe kua tino pai rawa koe, kua mangere hoki tō whanaungatanga, ka kitea tonutia e koe ētahi mea whakahihiri. ngā mahi whakangahau mō ngā tāne me ngā wāhine Whakamātauria ēnei me tō hoa hei whakahihiri i te wairua. Mā tēnei koe e āwhina ki te whakapau i te wā kounga me tō hoa, ā, ka whakatairanga hoki i tō haerenga aroha ki a koe anō.

11. Kia manawanui

He haerenga tonu te aroha ki a koe anō, ā, me whai manawanui anō hoki. Tērā pea kua roa koe e whawhai ana ki ngā kare ā-roto o te koretake, e pekepeke ana i ngā arai, e ngana ana ki te whakatutuki i ngā paerewa koretake o te hapori. Engari kaua e manukanuka, e hoa. He mahi tonu te aroha ki a koe anō. 

Me whakaaro ki tēnei hei mahi whakakori tinana whakamiharo – kia whai mana, kia noho hei kaiārahi mōu ake. Awhia te mana o te manawanui, kia puāwai te aroha ki a koe anō hei mea whakamiharo. Mā tēnei tikanga anō koe e āwhina kia manawanui tonu i roto i tō whanaungatanga, ā, hono atu ki tō hoa i te taumata hohonu ake. 

12. Kia pai te atawhai i ētahi atu

He mea nui kia arotakehia te āhua o tō manaaki i a koe anō me tō hoa rangatira i roto i tō whanaungatanga. Nō reira, whai i te ture koura – me manaaki i ētahi atu i te huarahi e hiahia ana koe kia manaakitia. Engari koinei te mea nui: ko te manaaki pai i ētahi atu ehara i te mea ka wareware koe i a koe anō. Ko te mea nui ko te kimi i taua taurite makutu. Ina mōhio koe ki te aroha ki a koe anō i roto i te whanaungatanga, ka whiti noa koe i te atawhai me te aroha ki tō hoa wahine me ētahi atu. Nō reira, horahia aua kare pai, ā, kia waiho koe hei tauira kanapa o te aroha me te whakaute. 

13. Mea atu "kāo" ina tika

"Kāo" – he kupu kaha e taea ai te whakamutu i ngā whanaungatanga kino, ngā mahi e ngotea ana te wairua, me te whakatakoto i te rohe ki ngā hoa rangatira kore whakaaro, ki ngā mema o te whānau, me ngā hoa. Kaua e waiho hei tangata tino pai e tango ana i te taumaha o te ao, ā, e wareware ana ki ā rātou ake. ngā hiahia i roto i te whanaungatangaWhakaharatauhia te toi o te kī kāo. 

Kāore e waiho koe hei hoa kino – engari ka waiho koe hei toa aroha ki a koe anō, e mōhio ana ki tōna uara. Mā te kī "kāo" ki tō hoa me ētahi atu ina tika, ka māmā ake te whanaungatanga me te whakawhitiwhiti kōrero, ā, ka whakatau hoki i te maha o ngā raruraru.

14. Whakatakotoria, ā, whakawhitiwhitia ngā rohe

Ko te aroha ki a koe anō i te tuatahi i roto i te whanaungatanga ko te whakaute i ō hiahia me ō rohe. Kōrerohia mārama ō rohe ki tō hoa, me te whakarite kia whakautehia rātou. Tērā pea ka uru atu ki tēnei te kōrero mō tō wāhi whaiaro, te wā mokemoke, ngā hiahia kare ā-roto, tetahi atu āhuatanga rānei e nui ana ki a koe. Kia maumahara, ko te whakatakoto rohe he tohu whakaute i a koe anō, ā, ka whakapakari i tō whanaungatanga mā te whakatipu i te māramatanga me te whakaute tetahi ki tetahi.

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15. Arotahi ki tō ngākau hari me ō hiahia moepuku

He mea nui te whakatutukitanga o te moepuku me te harikoa o te tangata ki te aroha ki a ia anō i roto i te whanaungatanga. Kōrerohia mahorahora, pono hoki ki tō hoa mō ō hiahia, ō wawata, me ō rohe. Tūhurahia ngā wheako hou, whakamātauria ngā momo rerekē. ngā momo whanaungatanga, ā, kia matua whakaarohia tō oranga ā-ira. Kia maumahara, he mea nui tō ahuareka, ā, ko te whakapuaki i ō hiahia i roto i te rūma moe he mahi aroha ki a koe anō me te whakapono ki tō hoa.

16. Whakaorahia tō tamaiti ā-roto

Awhi mai i roto i tō tamaiti. Ko te awhi i a koe anō ko te tiaki i aua patunga o mua, me te atawhai anō i a koe ki te harikoa me te oranga katoa. Mā te whakaora i tō tamaiti o roto, ka hangaia e koe he turanga pakari mō te aroha ki a koe anō e pā pai ana ki tō whanaungatanga. Ka whakatakoto i te ara mō tētahi hononga hohonu, whai tikanga hoki ki te toenga o te ao.

17. Arotahi ki te tuhi i te pukapuka whakawhetai

Whakawāteahia he wā poto ki te maioha ki ngā mea whakamiharo katoa o tō ao. Hurihia tō arotahi mai i ngā mea kāore i a koe ki ngā mea maha e karapoti ana i a koe. Hopukia taua pukaiti ka tukuna tō mana whakawhetai! Tuhia ngā mea tekau e whakawhetai ana koe i ia rā. Pānuihia, ka pānuihia anō, ā, tukua te kaha pai kia horoia ki runga i a koe. Ina mahi koe i te wāhi whakawhetai, ka ringihia e te ao ngā manaakitanga maha atu ki a koe.

18. Kaua e whakataurite

Ka whakataurite koe i a koe ki ngā hoa o mua o tō hoa, ki tētahi atu rānei. Ina rongo koe hae i roto i te whanaungatanga, ngana ki te aromatawai i ngā mamae o roto, ngā mea e tino hiahiatia ana e koe, me ngā mea e hiahia ana kia ora. Ko te awhi i te aroha ki a koe anō ko te whakaae ki a koe anō ko koe tonu, ahakoa ō hapa me ērā atu mea katoa. Tukua te hiahia ki te whakarite i a koe ki ētahi atu. Kia maumahara, kei te tuhi koe i tō ake kōrero whakamiharo, ehara i te mea e ngana ana ki te uru ki te kōrero a tētahi atu. Nō reira, tuhia taua pukapuka whakarite, awhi i tō ahurei, ka whakakoi i tō haerenga aroha ki a koe anō me te maia.

19. Kōrero mārie ki a koe anō

Whakaarohia he kaiārahi whaiaro e tautoko tonu ana i a koe me ngā kupu aroha me te whakatenatena. Āe, mātakitaki mai? Ka taea e koe te noho hei kaiārahi mōu ake. Ina titiro koe ki te whakaata, whakanuia āu mea, ā, ringihia ngā kupu atawhai ki a koe anō. Kia rite te atawhai me te aroha ki a koe ki tāu e whakaatu nei ki tō hoa pai, ki tō hoa rangatira rānei. Kia mahara, ko te āhua o tāu kōrero ki a koe anō te mea e whakatakoto ana i te āhua o te mahi a ētahi atu ki a koe. Nō reira, kia noho ko koe hei hoa pai mōu, ā, kōrero atawhai ki a koe anō i te tuatahi.

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20. Whakawhanaunga i ngā hoa i waho o te whanaungatanga

Ahakoa he mea nui tō whanaungatanga aroha, he rite tonu te hiranga o te pupuri i ngā hononga me ngā hoahoa i waho atu i tēnā. Mā te whakawhanake i ngā whanaungatanga ki ngā hoa ka taea e koe te whai pūnaha tautoko me te wairua takitahi i tua atu i tō hononga aroha. Mā te noho tahi me ngā hoa e whakaara ake ana, e whakahihiko ana i a koe ka taea te whakanui ake i tō whakaaro ki a koe anō me te whai wāhi atu ki tō harikoa whānui. Heoi anō, mā te whai hononga pāpori kanorau ka puta he tirohanga me ngā wheako rerekē e whakarei ake ana i tō tipu whaiaro, e āwhina ana hoki i a koe ki te aroha ki a koe anō.

21. Whakamahi i ngā whakaū pai

Kei te hiahia koe ki te whakakore i ngā whakaaro kino me ngā kare ā-roto kino? Ngā whakapumautanga mō te aroha He tino whai hua tēnei i roto i tēnei āhuatanga. Me kī tonu ki a koe anō – he rawaka ahau, he nui atu rānei i te rawaka. Kōrerotia tēnei ki a koe anō kia mau rā anō ki roto i tō hinengaro huna. He maha ngā kāri whakaū e wātea ana i te mākete, ā, ka taea e koe te whakamātau i ēnei i te ata tonu. Kia rongohia ngā kupu i a koe e kōrero ana, ā, mātakitaki i te ataahua o tā rātou whakarerekē i a koe me tō whanaungatanga ki tō mea motuhake.

Kei roto i a koe te mana ki te aroha ki a koe anō, e tatari ana kia wetekina. I a koe e tīmata ana i tēnei haerenga o te kimi i a koe anō me te aroha ki a koe anō, kia rite mō tētahi panonitanga kāore e rite ki tētahi atu. Awhitia te whanaungatanga e hangaia ana e koe ki a koe anō, ā, mātakitaki me pēhea te horapa ki ngā āhuatanga katoa o tō oranga, tae atu ki tō whanaungatanga aroha. Ka waiho tō aroha hou ki a koe anō hei mana e hiki ake ai tō oranga aroha ki ngā taumata tino teitei. Ā, kia maumahara ki tētahi mea puta noa i tēnei haerenga whakamiharo - kei a koe tēnei!

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