Mena he mea kotahi e mōhiotia ana e te katoa he pono mō ngā whanaungatanga, koia tēnei, he maha ngā pikinga me ngā hekenga. He nui tonu te taumahatanga i te rangi hei huri i ngā pakanga iti hei mea kino. Ahakoa kāore i te mutunga te mutunga o te whanaungatanga, me whai tikanga haumaru anō hoki. Koinei tonu te wā ka taea ai e ngā huarahi ātaahua hei mihi atu ki a koe.
Nō reira, mehemea kua hē koe, ā, e kore e mutu te riri o tō hoa wahine ahakoa kua mutu te whawhai, mā ēnei nekehanga ātaahua ka mea ia "āue!"
Āe, me pēhea te mihi aroha mai i roto i te reo ātaahua? Ka haere noa atu koe ki a rātou ka mea "aroha mai" i roto i te reo rorirori? Kāore. Ko te mea anake ka riro i a koe ko te tikiti kotahi te ara ki te tūru. Kia kore ai tēnā e tupu, pānuihia kia kitea ai ētahi huarahi tino ātaahua hei mihi aroha ki a rātou.
12 Ngā Huarahi Ataahua Hei Whakapā Mai
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He aha te mea pai atu i te tuku i tō hoa aroha kia rewa ki roto i ō ringaringa i te wā e awhi mahana ana koe, i muri tonu i te mihi atu mō tētahi pakanga? Me te mea nei kei te rere atu ō raruraru katoa i taua wā tonu, ā, kua warewarehia katoatia, tae atu ki taua kupu kino i kōrerotia e koe.
Ki te kore rawa ō whakaaro i a koe e ngana ana ki te whakaaro me pēhea te mihi aroha i roto i te huarahi ātaahua, kua oti i a mātou te āwhina i a koe. Kāo, kāore rātou e hiahia ki ngā haora o te mahi whakarite (āe, tera pea ētahi) ā, he tino māmā noa iho (ki te kore koe e hanga he kai e toru ngā wāhanga mā rātou). Me titiro tātou ki ngā huarahi ātaahua katoa hei mihi aroha:
1. Hokona he kai mā rātou
Ko te tangata i kī ko te huarahi ki te ngākau o te tangata mā roto i te puku, he tino pai rawa atu. Kāore he mea e pai ake ana i te kakara o te kai i te rangi. Whakaarohia ngā panikeke o te ata e wareware ai tō hoa i ōna raruraru katoa.
AkiMena kāore e taea e koe te tunu kai hei whakaora i tō oranga, ā, ka mahue iho he pōuri, he pakarukaru hei utu mō te keke, kua tae pea te wā ki te tono. Kia kotahi te pīta tiihi wera rawa atu i muri mai, e tino mohio ana ahau ka raru te aroha o tō oranga ki te riri tonu ki tō mata ātaahua. PS: E mōhio ana koe ki tā rātou e kī nei mō ngā tāne e tunu kai anaWhakamātauria te tunu kai?
2. Kawea rātou ki te hokohoko
Ahakoa te maha o ā rātou kī kāore rātou e pai ki te hokohoko. He mea kei te ao katoa e huri ai ō rātou turi ki te tiēre. Kawea tō hoa takaro ki tētahi toa petipeti, tōia te tangata pukapuka ki te rangi pukapuka tata, ka haria tō hoa kakahu ki te tirotiro i ngā momo kāhua hou, ā, i a koe e mahi ana, kia rite ki te whakapau moni nui. Koinei te mahi: ka nui ake tō riri, ka mama ake tō pēke i muri mai.
Aki: Ki te riri rawa rātou ki a koe, kāore e whakaae kia haere ki hea, ki te kore rawa rānei ō moni hei whakatutuki i tēnei, tonoa he mea ipurangi. Tērā pea he kēmu tino pai ki a rātou, he pukapuka hou nā tā rātou kaituhi tino pai, me ētahi atu. Mā tēnei ka taea e koe te whakahaere i te nui o te moni e whakapaua ana e koe, me te whakaatu anō hoki kei te aro nui koe ki a rātou, ā, kei te whakarongo tonu koe ki a rātou ina kōrero mai rātou i tētahi mea ki a koe. He tino pūkenga, kāore?
3. Tuhia he rotarota, he waiata rānei mā rātou
Ahakoa te kaha o tō mahi, kāore he aha. Ko te mea nui ko te whakaaro i hangaia e tetahi tetahi mea hou me koe anake i roto i te hinengaro. Whakapono mai, ka memeha haere te riri o tō hoa mā te mōhio noa kua pau te wā me te kaha ki te hanga i tetahi mea mā rātou anake. He tino mīharo te āhua. Kāore e taea e koe te wikitoria i tēnei huarahi whakamīharo ki te mihi.
Aki: Ki te mea kei te ruarua koe ki te tuhi kupu ki te whārangi kau e titiro mai ana ki a koe, kāore he tangata i kī mai me mahi ko koe anake. Waea atu ki ō hoa mō ētahi whakaaro. He pai ake rānei, whakapā atu ki taua hoa toi e kinongia puku ana e koe. Me pēhea te tuhi reta aroha engari, ehara i te mea uaua pērā i tō whakaaro.
4. Whakaritea he pō 'hoa pai anake' i roto i te whare
Ki te mea kei te tino whakaaro koe ki te mahi i tēnei, tera pea he tino kino te āhuatanga. Ko te tumanako kua whakamaheretia e koe i mua, ā, kei a koe ngā nama waea o ngā hoa pai o tō hoa. Waea atu ki a rātou katoa, whakaritea he moe ki tō whare, kia nui te kai me te waipiro i roto i te pouaka whakamātao, ā, kia iti hoki te kai.
Aki: Kaua rawa e whakatau ki te whakauru atu ki tā rātou pāti iti. Hoatu he wāhi ki a rātou kia puta ai ō rātou whakaaro me te whakangā. Ka nui ake te riri o tō hoa ki a koe, ka nui ake tō rātou maioha ki a koe. Nā wai i mōhio kāore koe e hiahia kia noho tahi mai hei whakapāha i roto i te reo ātaahua?
5. Whakakorehia ō hui, kia rite ki te awhi
Mena ko ō pakanga tata nei mō te kore o kōrua e hiahia ki te noho tahi, me te ahua pukumahi tonu, kua tae ki te wā kia tirohia ō mea nui. Ā, ki te kore e hē te kī a tō hoa he nui ake te hiranga o te mahi ki a koe i a ia, kua tae ki te wā kia kaha ake tō kaha me te whakaatu i te nui o tōna hiranga ki a koe.
Whakakorea ngā mahi katoa mō te rā, ka pātai atu mēnā kei te hiahia rātou ki te hanga pā urunga, ki te whakangaro rānei i a koe i tā rātou kēmu tino pai. Whakapaua he wā ki a rātou, whakatuwhera i ō whakaaro, kai i te nui o ngā kai paraurehe, awhiawhi, kai anō i ngā kai paraurehe, mātakitaki i tētahi kiriata reka, kātahi ka moe pōrearea, ngenge, harikoa.
Aki: Ki te hiahia koe ki te whakapai ake i tēnei, whakamahia tētahi atu o ngā huarahi whakamīharo hei mihi atu ki a koe mō ngā mea kua whakarārangihia e mātou. Nā te mea kua wātea koe i tēnei rā, kāore he rohe ki ngā mea ka taea e koe te mahi. Kāore he mea pai ake. tohu mō te whanaungatanga hauora i te whai wā tetahi ki tetahi.
6. He rā kī tonu i ngā mea ohorere
Ka roa te wā me te auahatanga hei whakarite mō tēnei. Tīmatahia he iti, kātahi ka hanga mai i reira. Tērā pea ka whakatakotoria he kāri ataahua i hangaia e te ringa i te taha o tā rātou parakuihi. Whakaritea kia tukuna ngā tiakarete me/ngā putiputi rānei ki tā rātou tari. Tukua rātou kia whakatuwhera i tā rātou putea kia kitea he tina i hangaia e te ringa me tētahi karere.
Kia tae atu rātou ki te kāinga, kua iti ake te riri i tō mua. Me mirimiri wera, me whakangāwari pea rātou i mua i te hura i te ohorere whakamutunga: he tina ataahua, he tina piripono, he tina rama ataahua pea?
AkiKāore he rohe mōna. Ki te mea kei te rapu koe i ngā huarahi ātaahua hei whakapāha ki tō hoa tāne, ā, e hiahia ana koe ki te ohorere i a ia, hokona he tīkiti mōna ki tana huihuinga hākinakina tino pai, he mea takai ki roto i tētahi hāte hou. Ā, ki te mea he huarahi ātaahua hei whakapāha ki tō hoa wahine tāu e rapu ana, tirohia tā rātou rārangi hiahia i runga i taua taupānga hokohoko. Ota mai!
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7. Pērā tonu i ngā wā o mua
Nā, māu tēnei mēnā kua mōhio ohorere kōrua kua mutu te wā marena, nō reira kāore he ngahau. He mahi noa iho, he whakatikatika, he whawhai noa iho i nāianei, tika? He hē. Whakamātauria te iti o ngā huringa me te harikoa o tā rātou whakamārie i a koe mā te kawe i a rātou ki tētahi rā. Ngā huarahi hei whakaatu i te aroha ki tāu e aroha nei, kāore he mea ngāwari ake.
Ngāna kia hoki anō ki te wā tuatahi i tūtaki ai kōrua: ko ia i roto i te kākahu putiputi kōwhai, ko koe i roto i ngā tarau poto me te tī kikorangi. He tūtakitanga tūpono i te toa pukapuka me tō kaituhi tino pai pea? He kapu tī werawera rānei me te nui o te kata. Whakahokia tō kōrua rā tuatahi, ō kōrua wheako tino pai rānei ki te tata rawa atu.
Aki: Ki te mea ko koe tētahi o ngā tāne me ngā wāhine kua roa nei e noho tahi ana, tangohia mai ngā whakaahua tawhito o te wā tuatahi i tūtaki ai kōrua. Ka tino menemene ō kōrua kanohi i ngā whakaahua tekau tau te pakeke o kōrua e menemene ana tetahi ki tetahi, me te mau i ngā kākahu rongonui o aua wā.
8. He huarahi ātaahua ki te mihi mā roto i ngā karere kuputuhi: tukua he ataata pai
Kei te ngana koe ki te kimi i tētahi huarahi ātaahua hei whakapāha ki tō hoa wahine? Whakaaturia ō pūkenga tākaro kitā, ō pūkenga rap wairangi rānei mā te tuku atu i tētahi ataata ātaahua o koe, mā te mahi rānei i mua i a ia. Kei te kimi koe i tētahi huarahi ātaahua hei whakapāha ki tō hoa tāne? Haere tonu, whakaharatauhia tō mahi tū-ake i runga i tētahi ataata ka tukuna atu, me te whakapāha i te mutunga.
Aki: Ki te kore rawa he whakaaro mō te momo ataata hei tuku, ka taea e koe te tuku atu i tētahi whakaahua o kōrua. Hangaia he pikitia ataata tāpiripiri me ngā whakaahua o kōrua, ā, ka tino tangi tō hoa. Kāore he mea pai atu i tēnei hei whakamārama i te mihi aroha.
9. Tangohia ngā mahi o te rā
Ki te kore tēnei e rite ki te huarahi ātaahua ki te kī atu "Aroha mai" ki a koe, tera pea nā te mea kāore koe i te pērā te noho tahi me tō hoa rangatira kia ora tonu. Kia noho tahi kōrua, kia roa rānei tō kōrua marena, ka mōhio koe ko te mahi i ngā mahi a tō hoa te mea tino whakahihiri rawa atu ka taea e koe te mahi.
AkiKo te whakaaro noa ki te horoi i ngā rihi katoa, te tango i ngā para, me te horoi i tō whare noho ka puta te pouri mōu i whakaaro ai koe ki tēnei whakaaro? Kaua e manukanuka, waea atu ki tētahi ratonga horoi. Ae, ehara i te mea pai mō tō pēke moni, engari ka taea e koe te whakatakoto utu mō te ataata a tō hoa?
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10. He rā kaukau tēnei? Ae rā!
Ko tētahi o ngā huarahi tino ātaahua ki te whakapāha ki tō hoa wahine, ki tō hoa tāne rānei, ko te huri i tō whare hei wāhi mirimiri. Whakapaua he wā, whakaritea he tēpu mirimiri, whakaritea he wairua ki ngā oro o te moana i runga i te Spotify, pania te hinu mirimiri ki ō ringaringa, ka mirimiri i a rātou e kore e warewaretia.
Aki: Ki te kore koe e tino whakapono ki ō pūkenga mirimiri, ka taea e koe te waea atu ki tētahi tohunga mirimiri i te kāinga. Ahakoa rā, he pai ake pea mēnā ka mahia e koe anō. Ehara i te whai huatanga o te mirimiri te mea nui, engari ko te whakaaro.
11. I kīia e tetahi he kai reka?
Āe, kua kōrero kē tātou mō te kai. Engari he rerekē te taumata o te whakamarie e kawea mai ana e ngā keke, he uaua ki te kitea i hea atu. Kua kite koe i tētahi e keri riri ana ki roto i tētahi keke tiakarete puhoi? Ahakoa e riri ana rātou i a rātou e mahi ana, i te meneti tonu ka ngaua e rātou, ka wareware rātou ki ngā mea i riri ai rātou.
Aki: Anō, ki te mea he pōuriuri, he kongakonga rānei tō keke, me tono mai ētahi mea. Kaua e mutu i reira, engari me whakarite mēnā ka taea. Tāpirihia pea he kupu "Aroha mai" he karere iti rānei ki te keke iti. He tino ātaahua, he reka hoki. Tērā pea he huarahi pai ake hei mihi atu i tēnei?
12. Hurihia hei pō kiriata
He kiriata kei te tino pārekareka ki tō hoa, engari kāore koe i te tino hiahia? Āe, koinei tō wā ki te whakamātau anō. Ae, he uaua pea te mātakitaki i a Ryan Gosling e tangi ana mō te tekau o ngā wā i roto i te haora, engari ko te mea nui ko te kore o tō hoa rangatira e riri ki a koe, nā te mea kei te whakapau kaha koe. Hei tāpiri, he mea pai rawa atu. whakaaro mō te rā i te kāinga.
Aki: Ahakoa kei te rapu koe i ngā huarahi ātaahua hei mihi atu ki tō hoa wahine, ki tō hoa tāne rānei, ka taea e koe te miharo i a rātou mā te whakarite i tētahi pō kiriata. Whakaritea te pōporo, whakatakotoria he paraikete ki tō tūru, ka whakatuwhera i te Netflix me tā rātou kiriata tino pai. Kia whakaae rātou ki te noho tahi me koe, ko te mea anake e toe ana ko te pēhi i te pātene "play". Ā, hei haumaru mō te katoa, waiho tō waea kia tawhiti rawa atu.
He mea tino kore e taea te karo i ngā pakanga i roto i te whanaungatanga, pērā i te urunga o te onepu ki roto i ō hu i te takutai moana. Ko te mahi nui ko te whakamōhio i tō hoa aroha ki tōna hiranga ki a koe, me tō aroha hoki. Kia maumahara: mā ngā kōrero iti rawa ka taea te kawe mai i te harikoa nui. Kāore koe e hiahia ki te whakapau kaha ki te whakaatu i tō aroha, mā ēnei huarahi ātaahua ki te mihi atu ka ea ai. Me titiro matatau hoki ō kanohi pēpi. Hei ārai noa iho.
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Kāore tō koha e kiia he kaupapa aroha takohaMā tēnei ka taea e Bonobology te kawe mai i ngā mōhiotanga hou me ngā mōhiotanga hou ki a koe i roto i tā mātou whainga ki te āwhina i te tangata katoa o te ao ki te ako me pēhea te mahi i tetahi mea.
Ahakoa e aroha ana te tokorua tetahi ki tetahi, ka ara ake pea ngā pakanga i ētahi wā ina tīmata rāua ki te noho tahi mō te wā roa. Nā reira, ina tautohe kōrua, me mōhio koe me pēhea te whakamutu i te pakanga me te ātaahua, ā, me haere tonu ina oti.
He tino reka ēnei huarahi hei whakangāwari i ō rātou ngākau!