Ae, tera pea kei te ahua pai rawa atu tō whanaungatanga i tēnei wā, engari kāore i rite te ahua o tō whanaungatanga kura tuarua i a koe e noho ana i roto? Kāore pea i rite te hua ki tāu i tumanako ai. Ko te pono, kāore e taea e koe te tino mōhio kei roto koe i tētahi whanaungatanga pai ki te kore koe e titiro ki ngā tohu me ngā painga o tētahi.
Ka taea e koe te kī he pai tō whanaungatanga nā te mea i homai e tō hoa he kai reka māu, kāore koe i tono? Ahakoa he tohu tēnā i tētahi hononga ā-ao rerekē, kāore pea i te tino rite ki tā tātou e kōrero nei i tēnei rā.
Ahakoa he hoa, he hoa aroha rānei, he whānau, he hoa mahi rānei, me rapu tātou i ngā mea e tika ana kia kiia ai he whanaungatanga hauora te whanaungatanga. Mā te āwhina a te tohunga hinengaro tohutohu. Gopa Khan (Tohu Paerua i roto i te Hinengaro Tohutohu, M.Ed.), he tohunga ki te tohutohu marena me te whānau, ka hurahia e mātou te hinengaro, ngā tohu me ngā painga o te whanaungatanga hauora.
Me pēhea te hanga whanaungatanga pai?
Ripanga o Ihirangi
I roto i ngā kiriata, kua taunga tātou ki te mātakitaki i ētahi tāngata tino ataahua e rua e tūtaki ana tetahi ki tetahi i tētahi tiriti pukumahi, ā, kātahi ka puta te whanaungatanga tino pai i waenganui i te puoro ōkestra.
E mōhio ana pea koe, he rerekē te āhua o te ao tūturu. "Kia angitu ai, kia ora ai hoki tētahi whanaungatanga pai, me whai pūmau tonu te whakapau kaha ki te wikitoria i ngā āhuatanga pai me ngā āhuatanga kino," te kī a Huihuinga.
"Me whai whakaaro pai koe mō tō hoa rangatira i roto i tō ngākau, i roto hoki i tō hinengaro. Mō ngā taurite aroha, me whakapau kaha ki te whakapuaki i ōu oranga i runga i te mahi tahi. I roto i te whanaungatanga hauora, ka whakaae koe ko tēnei tangata te mea nui ake i ētahi atu, engari kāore e meinga ētahi atu tāngata o tō ao, pērā i ōu mātua, kia rite ki te mea kua ngaro koe i a rātou."
"Hei hanga hononga kaha, pumau hoki, me whakapau wā kounga tahi kōrua, me arotahi tetahi ki tetahi, me whakawhanake hoki i te hononga. Ko te mea nui pea ko te whakamana i tō hoa, te whakarongo me te kore e whakararuraru, me te whakaae me te whakaae ki ō rātou kare ā-roto," tāna tāpiri.
E ai ki tā Gopa, ko te mea anake e hiahiatia ana kia rangona ai te tangata ko te hanga hononga hohonu, pumau hoki ki a rātou. Ahakoa he tohu tēnā e hiahia ana tātou katoa ki te whanaungatanga, he tohu rānei i te ngāwari o te karapoti i a koe ki te rangimārie, ka tangohia e tātou.
Inaianei kua mohio koe he iti nei te hanga whanaungatanga pai, me kōrero tātou mō ngā tohu kei roto koe i tētahi. Kei tukua e koe tētahi hononga pai kia ngaro atu i a koe. Mā wai rā e whakarite he kai reka māu?
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Te Hononga Pai me te Hinengaro
Ko te tikanga whānui, ko te hinengaro o ngā whanaungatanga he tokorua, neke atu rānei ngā tāngata, pērā i te whakahoahoa, te whānau, te marena, te whanaungatanga aroha, me ētahi atu, ā, he mana tō ngā tāngata ki a rātou anō. Koinei te whakamāramatanga matua o te whanaungatanga mai i te tirohanga hinengaro.
Ki te tāpiri noa tātou i te kupu pai ki te whārite, ka pai anō hoki te awe. Pērā tonu te māmā. He whanaungatanga pai te whanaungatanga e whai pānga pai ana ngā kaiuru tetahi ki tetahi. Ka taea e tēnei tāpiritanga ngāwari te whai pānga maha ki te whanaungatanga. He rite ki te wahie ki ngā kaipuke rōkete, ki te nui ake āu, ka teitei ake tō haerenga.
Ngā Tauira Whakawhanaungatanga Pai
E tino mōhio ana mātou kua tūtaki koe ki ētahi tāne me ngā wāhine kua mārama ki tēnei āhuatanga. Te āhua nei he kaha ake tō rātou hononga i te nuinga o ngā tāne me ngā wāhine. Kāore koe i te tino mōhio he aha te X-Factor, engari kei te rongo tonu koe i tōna noho. Ko te wairua pai e whakakaha ana i ēnei tāne me ngā wāhine.
E whakaatuhia ana ēnei momo tāne me ngā wāhine i roto i ngā kiriata i ngā wā katoa. Ahakoa he wāhanga o te whakaari te whakanui, ka taea tonu e tātou te tango i ngā kōrero matua. Hei tauira, ko Chandler rāua ko Monica i roto i te sitcom rongonui, TuhingaKo te āhua pai te mea e miharo ai te hunga mātakitaki. Ko te āhua o tā rātou whakahaere i ngā pakanga, me te āhua o tā rātou whakaatu i te hototahitanga me te mahi tahi, he mea tika kia akohia. Anō, kāore mātou e kī atu kia whai koe i a rātou kupu mō te kupu, engari me rapu i ngā akoranga matua.
Ko tētahi atu tauira kanapa e puta ake ana ki te hinengaro ko te tokorua o Gus rāua ko Hazel i roto i Te Hapa o ō Tātou WhetuAhakoa ngā uauatanga, ka whakaatuhia e rātou te pānga o te pai. Ko te parakore o te aroha te mea e tangi ai te hunga mātakitaki (kāore he whakama, i mahue katoa mātou i roto i te roimata).
Ngā Āhuatanga o ngā Hononga Pai
A Michelle rāua ko Barack, a Jack rāua ko Rose, a Netflix me koutou (aroha mai), me noho hei whanaungatanga pai katoa rātou, tika? Kāore e taea te kī pono mēnā kāore i a rātou ngā tohu katoa o te noho tahi. A te wā e whakaatu mai ai taua tokorua whakarihariha e mōhiotia ana e koe i tō rāua hononga, tera pea ka taea e koe te kī mēnā he pono ā rāua kereme hihiko.
"Ko te pai o te whanaungatanga, te kore rānei, te mea e whakatau ana i te pai o te whanaungatanga," te kī a Gopa. Me titiro tātou ki te tikanga o te noho i roto i tētahi whanaungatanga whai hua.
1. Te pūtake o ia whanaungatanga: Te whakawhitiwhiti kōrero hauora
Ka taea e kōrua ko tō hoa te kōrero mō ngā mea katoa i raro i te rā? Ka taea e koe te kī atu ki a rātou kāore koe e pai ki tā rātou kata me te kore e whakaoho i te pakanga? Ka taea e koe te kī atu ki a rātou e kino ana koe ki ngā whakaaturanga e pai ana rātou ki a rātou? Kāore rānei, e pai ake ana koe ki te pupuri i aua mea ki a koe anō, me te whakaae mārire ki tō aituā o te mātakitaki i ngā whakaaturanga kino rawa atu e mōhiotia ana e te tangata?
Ko te āhua o te kōrero a te tokorua ki a rāua anō te mea e whakatau ana i te momo hihiri kei a rāua. "Hei whakarāpopototanga, ko te kōrero pai te kī ki tētahi hononga. Ka pakaru ngā marena mēnā kāore he kōrero, mēnā rānei kāore he kōrero hauora," te kī a Gopa.
2. Kāore te whanaungatanga e tautuhi i a koe
Ko te tikanga, he nui ngā waahi whaiaro i roto i tōu hihiri, ā, mā tēnā ka taea e koe te pupuri i tōu tuakiri. Ina pupuri koe i tōu ake tuakiri, ka kawea mai e koe he mea hou ki te tēpu.
"He whakawhirinaki tahi, he motuhake rānei ngā tāngata e whai wāhi ana? Mā te tuku wāhi tetahi ki tetahi, me te kore e whakamomori i a rātou anō me te whanaungatanga, ka āwhina i a rātou kia tipu ake i te wā roa," te kī a Gopa.
E mārama ana a Nisha rāua ko Howard, i ia Paraire tuatoru, ka wehe rāua i tētahi rā. Ka kiia e rāua ko te "me-day". E wātea ana rāua ki te whakapau i te rā i tā rāua e pai ai, me te kore e whakaaro ki ngā whakatau a tā rāua hoa. Ā, i muri mai i taua wiki mutunga ka kōrero rāua mō tā rāua "me-day", ngā mea i mahia e rāua, me te āhua o ō rāua kare ā-roto. Nā tēnei mahi i āwhina rāua ki te pupuri me te mārama ki ō rāua ake tuakiri. E whitu tau rāua e marena ana, ā, kei te harikoa rāua pērā i tētahi atu tokorua kua marenatia.
3. Te noho tahi i te wa kounga
Āe, kāti, kua whakarārangihia e mātou te hiranga o te tū motuhake! Nō reira, ko tēhea te mea nui? E rua, ko te tikanga. Kia tupu ai tētahi hononga, me kimi e koe te wāhi pai i waenga i te wāhi whaiaro me te noho tahi - me te kore waea.
""Ko tētahi o ngā huarahi pai ki te hanga whanaungatanga pai ko te whakapau i te wā kounga tahi. I pā mai ki ahau tētahi tokorua hou kua mārenatia, i hiahia te tāne ki te mahi pērā i te takakau, me te tumanako kia noho puku te wahine. I te tīmatanga, i inoi te wahine ki a ia kia noho ko ia anake, engari i te mutunga ka whakatau ia ki te wehe atu i te marena," te kī a Gopa.
He mea nui te noho tahi i te wā kounga o tētahi whanaungatanga. Ki te mea kei te noho mokemoke koe i roto i tētahi whanaungatanga, he pai ake kia kaua e noho i roto i tētahi.
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4. Ko te whanaungatanga pai e whakaatu ana i te whawhai
Ā, he nui rawa atu. Ko te rerekētanga anake, kāore ngā pakanga e rite ki tāu e whakaaro ai. Kāore he taonga pakaru, kāore he oko hiriwa pakaru, kāore he reo e ara ake ana (i te nuinga o te wā) ā, he whakatau tonu kei te haere.
Ka mārama tātou. He tangata katoa tātou i konei (haunga a Ryan Gosling, ka taea e tātou katoa te whakaae he Atua ia). Ko tātou katoa whawhai paruHei whakamārama i tō whakaaro, tera pea ka whakanui koe i tō reo i ētahi wā. Ka tupu tēnā.
I roto i tētahi whanaungatanga hauora, heoi, ko te mea nui ko ngā tikanga whakatau tautohe e whakamahia ana he maha ake te whai huatanga ki te whakakore i ngā kino i pā mai i ētahi kupu kino. Nō reira, i te wā e kī ai te tokorua "tino pai" kāore rāua e whawhai, ka mōhio koe kua ki tonu rāua i te whawhai.
5. Te whakawhirinaki me te whakaute
"Ko tētahi atu tohu matua ko te whakawhirinaki me te whakaute tetahi ki tetahi. Koinei ngā pou matua o tētahi hononga. Ko te aroha noa ki tētahi hoa, me te kore whakawhirinaki me te whakaute, ehara i te tohu pai mō te heke mai," te kī a Gopa.
He tino māmā noa iho. Ko te aroha kāore he whakawhirinaki, he whakaute rānei, e kore e mau tonu. Whakaarohia. Ki te kore tō hoa e aro nui ki ō whakaaro, e whai ana rānei i ō nekehanga katoa, me pēhea rā e noho ai hei whanaungatanga nui, pai hoki?
He tangata pāpori a Martha, ko tana hoa a Angela he tangata whakamāori noa iho. He rerekē te āhua o te tangata, ā, he tino ātaahua te kōrero mō ngā rerekētanga. He wahine tino ātaahua a Martha, he takirua, ā, he hoa ōna i ngā wāhi katoa o te tāone. Nō nā tata nei rāua i tīmata ai te whakaipoipo, ā, ka tīmata te pupuhi o ngā pakanga. Kāore i taea e Angela te aro atu ki ōna āwangawanga, ā, ka tīmata ia ki te pātai i ngā mahi katoa a Martha. Kāore hoki a Martha i tino whakaute i ngā āwangawanga o Angela kia kōrero pono ai mō taua mea. Engari i noho harikoa rāua ake ake. Kāore rawa!
6. Hototahi ā-ira tangata
"Ka tino whakakaha ake te hononga, ka tata ake hoki te tangata i te taatai. Ko ngā whanaungatanga kāore he taatai, he aroha rānei, i te wā roa, ka pā kino ki te whanaungatanga, nā te mea ka whakaiti i te harikoa whānui o te noho hei tokorua. Ka tūpono pea ēnei hononga ki te motu mena ka tīmata te whakaaro kua whakakahoretia tetahi o te hoa," te kī a Gopa.
Ae, ki te mea he tangata tautoko koe, he tangata tautoko rānei hononga takakau, kāore tēnei e pā ki a koe. Heoi, mō ngā hononga e whakaatu ana i te taatai, ka noho tonu hei wāhanga nui o taua mea.
A te wā e pātai mai ai tētahi ki a koe, "He aha te whanaungatanga pai?", me kī noa he whanaungatanga e whakaoti tahi ana ngā hoa e rua, kaua e oma tere tetahi ki te rārangi mutunga, kātahi ka takoto kore manawa mō te 10 meneti.
7. Ko kōrua te kaiārahi matua o tētahi ki tētahi
"He pūnaha tautoko koutou tetahi ki tetahi? Kei te whakawhirinaki tetahi ki tetahi? Ki te kore e taea te whakawhirinaki tetahi ki tetahi ki te awhina i a koutou? He mea tino nui te tautoko, ahakoa pēhea te āhua," te kī a Gopa.
E whakamārama ana a Gopa me pēhea te tautoko i ngā tāne me ngā wāhine kua marenatia hei whakatipu tamariki anō hoki. "Nā te mea he rerekē ngā papamuri whakatipu tamariki o ngā hoa tokorua, he mea nui kia arotahi ki te noho hei rōpū whakatipu tamariki me te tautoko. Ko ngā take whakatipu tamariki pēnei i te tuku i ngā hungawai ki te pokanoa, he maha ngā wā ka puta te mauahara i waenga i ngā tāne me ngā wāhine."
Ko te tūāpapa o tētahi hononga hauora ko te tautoko tetahi i tetahi, me te nui o te whakawhirinaki o ia hoa ki tetahi. Ki te kore tō hoa e waea atu tuatahi ki a koe ina he te āhua, kāti kei te hē tetahi mea.
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8. Te rangimarie whānui
Ko te hinengaro whanaungatanga pai e arotahi ana ki te whakarei ake i tō oranga, ā, ka nui ake tō harikoa i tō mua i tō wheako i taua mea. "Ka pāngia te whanaungatanga e ngā mea pēnei i te mahi, ngā take pūtea me te tohatoha i ngā kawenga," te kī a Gopa.
"Ko te nuinga o ngā pakanga a te tokorua e pā ana ki ngā take pūtea. Ina taea e rātou te kōrero pai mō ngā take pūtea, ka tino piki ake te harikoa whānui. Mā te tohatoha i ngā kawenga, te whakaatu i te manaaki me te aroha tetahi ki tetahi ka whai hua nui anō hoki…”
"Kua whakakitea mai e ngā tau e rua kua pahure ake nei o te mate urutā he raruraru nui tēnei mō ngā tāne me ngā wāhine, arā, ko te kore āwhina a ngā hoa rangatira i te kāinga. Mēnā he tautoko, he kawenga tahi hoki, ka karohia aua pakanga," te kī a Gopa.
Ngā Hua o te Hononga Pai
"Mā te noho pai o te marena ka hangaia he pūnaha tautoko kaha mō ngā raruraru o te ao. Ka whakaratohia he turanga pumau mō ngā tamariki kia tipu ake ai, kia whanake ai, kia ako ai hoki i ngā uara pai," te kī a Gopa.
"Ae, ka taea hoki e ia te whakanui ake i tō harikoa me tō ngākau māhaki. He hononga tika kei waenganui i te whai hononga hauora ki tētahi me tō hauora hinengaro. Ka taea e ia te mahi hei ārai i te mokemoke me te noho motuhake," tāna tāpiri.
Ahakoa he maha ngā whanaungatanga pai, kino hoki e tūtaki ana koe i roto i tō koiora, kāore he rite o ngā painga o te whai wāhi ki tētahi whanaungatanga pai. Ko te tumanako, mā te awhina o ngā tohu kua whakarārangihia e mātou, ka taea e koe te wehewehe i waenga i ngā whanaungatanga tino whai hua me ngā mea e puta mai ana i raro i te ahua o te aroha noa.
Me pēhea te whakatipu i ngā whanaungatanga pai?
Ahakoa te pakari o te turanga, me tiaki tonu ngā whare katoa. Nā te mea i kōrero mātou mō te whare pikitia, i whakaaro mātou me tāpiri atu ētahi tohu ā mātou ake, ā, he pai te āhua. Ko te whakaaro pai i roto i te whanaungatanga he whakapau kaha tonu. Ki te kore koe e rite ki te haumi tonu ki tō whanaungatanga, he aha rawa tāu e mahi nei?
Ka memeha haere ngā whanaungatanga mēnā kāore e whāngaihia. Me whāngai tonu koe i te aroha, te aro me te wā. Ki te whakaaro koe ki te tīmatanga o tō whanaungatanga, te wā o te marena hou, kia mahara koe ki te nui o te kaha i whakapaua e koe? Ko te whai i te hihiri kotahi ki te whāngai i te whanaungatanga. Ka rerekē pea ngā mahi, engari ko te whāinga kia tino harikoa tō hoa i ia rā, i ia rā.
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E ai ki ā mātou tohunga, me whakapau koe i te wā kounga ki tētahi tangata kia taea ai e koe te hanga hononga pai ki a ia. Me mau hoki ō kare ā-roto pai ki a ia.
Mā te noho mai o ngā kaupapa matua o tētahi hononga pai, pērā i te whakawhitiwhiti kōrero hauora, te whakawhirinaki me te whakaute tetahi ki tetahi, te wāhi whaiaro me te wā kounga, ka pai ai te whanaungatanga. Ina taea e tō hononga ki tētahi tangata te huri hei putanga pai rawa atu o koe, ka taea e koe te tino mohio he pānga pai tō hononga ki tō oranga.
Ko tētahi hononga e āhei ai te tangata ki te noho motuhake, ki te noho makona, me te whai hua i te taha hinengaro me te taha tinana, he tauira tēnei o tētahi hononga pai.
I te mea ka āwhina rātou ki te whakanui ake i te makona whaiaro, te harikoa me te tipu, he mea nui ēnei whanaungatanga mō te katoa i roto i ō rātou oranga. Ka taea hoki e rātou te āwhina ki te ārai i ngā kare ā-roto kino pēnei i te mokemoke me te pouri.
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