10 Ngā Rohe Whakawhanaungatanga Hauora Me Whai

Porohia te aroha

Ehara ngā rohe whanaungatanga hauora i te tohu kino. Ahakoa te kōrero mō te whakatakoto rohe i roto i te whanaungatanga, ehara i te mea kua wehe kē koe i tō hoa rangatira, ahakoa ka puta he aue riri i te tīmatanga.

I a koe e noho ana i te wā marena, he tino ngaro kē te whakaaro ki te whakatakoto rohe i roto i te whanaungatanga. Ki te mea he tuwhera ō kōrua ko tō hoa mō ngā mea katoa (arā, ngā mea katoa), kaua kōrua e manukanuka kei whara ngā kare ā-roto o tētahi ki tētahi i roto i te kōrero.

Ahakoa ko te aroha te mea hei whakatata i a kōrua, ko te whakatakoto rohe ko te whakarite kia kaua kōrua e whakawhirinaki tahi. Kia tīmata tātou ki te kōrero mō ngā mea katoa e hiahia ana kōrua kia mōhio, me te āwhina a te tohunga hinengaro. Nandita Rambhia (MSc, Hinengaro), he tohunga ki te CBT, REBT me te kaunihera mō ngā tāne me ngā wāhine.

Nā, He aha tātou e hiahia ai ki ngā rohe whanaungatanga hauora?

Ripanga o Ihirangi

Kāore i te maha ngā wā ka kōrerohia ngā rohe whanaungatanga hauora, ehara hoki i te mea ko ngā mea e pai ana ki a koe, me ngā mea kāore e pai ana. Ahakoa te āhua nei ko te kōrero uaua rawa atu tēnei, nandita e kī ana "I te nuinga o te wā, ka whakatakotohia aunoatia ngā rohe i te whanaketanga o te whanaungatanga."

He pōhēhē kei te hiahia koe ki te whakatakoto rohe i roto i ngā whanaungatanga aroha? Me tīmata tātou ki ngā kaupapa matua. Ki te mea ko koe te momo tangata kāore e mimi me te tuwhera te tatau i mua i tō hoa, he mea tino pai tēnei māu.

Mā ngā rohe whanaungatanga hauora ka taea e koe te whakapuaki i ō hiahia me ō matea mai i te whanaungatanga. Kāo, kāore e whai wāhi te mimi tirotiro-tirotiro. Mā te kōrero ki tō hoa mō ngā mea e pai ana, me ngā mea kāore e pai ana, ka tino whakaitihia e koe ngā hapa whakawhitiwhiti kōrero.

"He mea nui ngā rohe me ngā tumanakohanga hauora mō te whanaungatanga," te kī a Nandita. "I ētahi wā, me kōrero tātou, me whakapuaki hoki i ō tātou hiahia hei whakatakoto i ētahi ture matua mō te whanaungatanga. He mea nui tēnei nā te mea kāore koe e hiahia kia ngaro tō tuakiri hei tangata, engari kia mau tonu te whanaungatanga hauora," tāna tāpiri.

Mā ngā rohe ka whai mana whakahaere koe i tō oranga, ā, ka taea e koe te noho ko wai koe, me te kore e whakararu i te whanaungatanga. Ki te mea he hoa mārama tāu, ka ngāwari te whakatakoto i ngā rohe hauora. Ki te kore kōrua e hiahia kia kiia ko ō kōrua hoa anake, he mea nui kia mau tonu tō kōrua ake tuakiri.

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I roto i te whanaungatanga, tera pea ka whakatau tātou i ngā mea e pai ana mō te oranga. Ahakoa te manaakitanga ki a koe kei a koe tētahi hoa rangatira e kore e neke ki tētahi atu tāone mō tētahi mahi whakamiharo kia taea ai e ia te noho tahi me koe, tera pea ka pāngia koe e aua kōwhiringa i muri mai.

Tērā pea ka noho koe me te iti o te hara, engari ka whakamahia pea e tō hoa tana patunga tapu hei whakamārama rama hau koe ā muri ake nei. Tērā pea ka whiua e ia tēnei patunga tapu ki tō aroaro ina tukuna he whai wāhi ki a koe kia whakatairangatia koe, kia neke atu ai ki tētahi atu tāone.

He aha ngā rohe hauora i roto i te whanaungatanga?

Mā te whakatakoto i ngā rohe hauora i roto i te whanaungatanga ka taea e koe te whakatau i ngā whakataunga e whai hua ai koe, me ngā whakataunga e whai hua ai koe. Me te kore e whakaaro kei te hiahia koe ki te mahi takitahi, ka taea e koe te whakaatu ki tō hoa rangatira te momo wāhi e hiahiatia ana e koe kia harikoa ai.

Hei tauira, kāore he ture pakari mō te nui o te wā e taea ai e koe te pupuri i te waea a tō hoa. Ka taea e koe te tango i te waea mēnā ka kite koe i te waea e tangi ana i a rātou i roto i te wharepaku, engari ko te tirotiro i ngā karere i roto i te waea ehara pea i te mea pai.

I ētahi wā, kāore ngā hoa rangatira e mārama he rohe anō hoki tō te whakawhitiwhiti kōrero. Kāore e taea te tohatoha katoa i ngā kupuhipa me ngā paraihe niho. Ina tīmata te tangata ki te māuiui me te kore whakaute nā te mea he maha tonu ngā wā e takahia ana koe, koinā te wā e puta mai ai ngā rohe hauora.

"He rerekē ngā hiahia o ia tangata, nō reira ka rerekē ngā rohe i roto i ia whanaungatanga," te kī a Nandita. "Ka taea te kōrero mō ngā kaupapa nui kāore e whakaaetia. Ko ētahi o aua kaupapa ko te whānau, te mahi, te pupuri i ngā whakahoahoa, te kōrero kino, te PDA, me ētahi atu."

"Ko te mea nui ia, ko te whakawhitiwhiti kōrero tuwhera me te hiahia nui ki te mārama me te whakaute i te hiahia o te hoa mō tētahi rohe motuhake. Koinei tētahi o ngā pou o tētahi whārite kaha, harikoa, me te hauora," tāna tāpiri.

He mea nui te whakatakoto rohe i roto i ngā whanaungatanga aroha, ā, ka taea hoki e tēnā te pupuri ngā hoa whakahaere kia āta tirohia. He rerekē ngā momo rohe i roto i ngā whanaungatanga, ā, ko te mea e pai ana mō tētahi tokorua, kāore e tino pai mō tētahi atu. Ko ngā mea tino nui ko ngā rohe ā-tinana me ngā rohe ā-hinengaro, engari ka taea hoki e koe te whakatakoto rohe whanaungatanga hauora me ō hungawai, hoa, me ngā whanaunga.

He rerekē ia tangata, ia tangata. Ka rerekē ngā rohe i ia tangata, i ia tangata. Me titiro tātou ki ētahi rohe hauora hei whakatakoto i roto i tētahi whanaungatanga.

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Mā ngā herenga whanaungatanga hauora ka kaha ake tō hononga

Kāore pea te whakatakoto rohe whanaungatanga i te mea nui, nā te mea e whakaaro ana te hoa rangatira e mōhio ana ki ngā mea e pai ana ki a rāua, me ngā mea e kore e pai ki a rāua. Tirohia te pono: He whakaaro noa iho tēnei.

Kia puāwai ai tō whanaungatanga, me whakatakoto mārama ngā rohe whanaungatanga hauora. Me whakaaro ki te pai o te noho tahi o kōrua. Me mārama koe ki tāu e hiahia ana me te āhua o ngā mea e hiahiatia ana e koe, kaua e aro ki te whakarerekē i konei. Pērā ai, kua tīmata kē koe i tētahi whanaungatanga i runga i te whakaae tahi.

1. Kia pēhea te piripono o tō hononga matihiko

Ko koe te Momo PDA InstagramKei te tuku karere mai tō hoa i a koe me ētahi atu e 49 i roto i tētahi pou mō tō kōrua whanaungatanga? Tērā pea ko koe te tangata e tohatoha tonu ana i ngā whakaahua orotika o tō hoa, engari kāore pea tō hoa e pena.

I mua i te whakatuwheratanga o tō kōrua whanaungatanga ki te ao mariko, whakatakotohia he rohe mēnā e pai ana ki a kōrua. Tērā pea kāore tō hoa e hiahia ki te hokohoko i te whanaungatanga ki te marea.

Kāore rānei koe e hiahia kia riria koe e ō whanaunga, e ō hoa mahi rānei mō tō oranga aroha, mehemea he whanaunga, he hoa mahi rānei ōu e hiahia ana ki te kōrero noa. Ahakoa te take, me mārama koe ki ngā rohe. Kōrerohia ngā mea ka taea, ngā mea kāore e taea te kōrero ipurangi mō tētahi ki tētahi. E mōhio ana koe ki tā rātou e kī nei, ina puta ki te ipurangi, ka puta tonu ki te ipurangi.

Te pānui e pā ana: A te wā e takiuru ai koe ki ngā pāpāho pāpori, kia maumahara kei te whakakino koe i tō whanaungatanga.

2. He mea nui te whakawhitiwhiti kōrero, engari kia hia te auau?

Ka roa pea te wā e noho pakeke ai koe me te mahi wā-katoa me te whanaungatanga. Tērā pea he pai ki a koe te whakawhitiwhiti kōrero tonu i te roanga o te rā, tērā pea he "Kei te whakaaro koe ki a koe" me te tohu kanohi e pai ana ki a koe. Tērā pea he pai ki a koe tō mahi, ā, kāore he karere kuputuhi e whakararuraru ana i a koe e mahi ana. Tērā pea ko tō hoa rangatira te momo tangata e waea atu ana ki a koe i te tina nā te mea i hiahia ia ki te whakarongo ki tō reo.

Ko te mōhio ki ngā mea hei kōrero, me te nui o te kōrero, me waiho hei rohe mō ngā tāne me ngā wāhine. Kei te hiahia koe kia tirohia e tō hoa tāne te pō whakangahau a tāu hoa wahine? Kāore rānei, ka waea atu koe i ētahi wā ina ngaro ia i te tāone i tētahi hui pakihi?

E kōrero ana a Nandita mō te āhua o te whakawhāiti i te whakawhitiwhiti kōrero hei tauira pai mō ngā rohe hei whakatakoto i roto i te whanaungatanga. "Ina nui rawa te whakawhitiwhiti kōrero i waenga i ngā hoa, me kōrero mārama, me te tika hoki. Mā te tuku wā mo te noho takitahi, te wā mōku ake rānei, ka āwhina i te whakapakari i te hononga, ā, ka hanga hoki i te whakawhirinaki mō tētahi wā."

Koinei tētahi o ngā rohe hauora me whakatakoto e koe, nā te mea kāore tetahi e pai ki te tangata e amuamu ana. Ki te kore e aro ki te whakatakoto rohe, tera pea he tohu kino mō te whanaungatanga.

3. Ngā ingoa ka taea e kōrua te karanga tetahi ki tetahi

Is pātītī-ātaahua He tino whakarihariha rawa atu māu? Ka taea e kōrua te karanga tetahi i tetahi 'e te tamahine' i mua i ō hoa? Kāore rānei, he pai ake ki a koe kia mau tonu tō hoa ki tō ingoa tūturu? Kōrerohia, ā, whakatauhia ko ēhea ngā ingoa e whakaaetia ana kia karangahia e kōrua tetahi i tetahi.

Ko te nuinga o ngā tāne me ngā wāhine e hoatu ana ngā īngoa karanga whakahihiri tetahi ki tetahi, ā, ka mutu ka mahi i ngā mea wairangi maha e whakaaro ana rātou he mea aroha. Engari ki te mutu ka whakaaro koe he rite tō hoa ki a ia e pai ana ki a koe, tera pea ka puta he raruraru. Kāore e taea e koe te karanga i tō hoa mā tō ingoa īngoa i mua i ana hoa mahi, tika?

Ina whakaaro koe ki ētahi rohe pai mō te whanaungatanga, kāore pea ngā īngoa karanga i te tihi o tō rārangi. Engari ki te whakama koe i tō hoa i mua i ō rātou hoa/whānau, ka hiahia koe kia kōrerohia tēnei i mua noa atu. Nō reira, puritia ō ingoa aroha ki roto i te rūma moe, whakamahia rānei i te haerenga roa, engari kaua e neke atu i tēnā.

4. Kōrerohia te whānau

Mena kua roa kōrua ko tō hoa e noho tahi ana, tera pea e mōhio ana ia ki ngā raruraru whānau kei a kōrua. Heoi, ki te mea he pūāwai tō kōrua aroha, he pai pea te whakatakoto i ngā rohe hou mō te whanaungatanga pēnei i te kore e kōrero roa mō te whānau.

He mea hauora te whakatakoto i tētahi rohe mō te āhua o tā kōrua kōrero mō te whānau o tētahi ki tētahi. He nui rawa te kīanga i tōna whaea he "mātātoa whakahē"? Kāore rānei ia i te pai ki te kōrero nui ki tētahi o ōna whanaunga? Me whakamārama ki tō hoa ngā mea e pai ana ki a koe me ngā mea kāore e pai ana ki a koe, kia kore ai ia e riri ohorere ina nui rawa.

Me mōhio koe ki te tawhiti o tō whakaae kia kōrero tō hoa ki tō whānau, kia karanga kino rānei i a rātou. Ki te kore koe e whakaae ki te kōrero a tō hoa mō tō whānau, he mea pai pea kia whakatakotohia he rohe mō tēnā, nā te mea he kaupapa pākiki te whānau.

5. He aha te momo whakapau kaha e hiahiatia ana e koe?

Kei te rapu tonu koe i te hoa tino pai? Me whakatakoto tēnei momo rohe, ina koa mēnā kāore kōrua i te tino mōhio mēnā ko kōrua te tangata mō tētahi atu, mēnā rānei kua tīmata noa kōrua te whakaipoipo. Mā te wawe o te tautuhi i te whanaungatanga, ka pai ake mā kōrua.

Hei tauira, ki te mea kua tautuhia e koe tō whanaungatanga he whanaungatanga noa iho, kāore koe e tino tumanako ka waea mai tō hoa ki a koe i ia hāora o te rā, tika? Ā, ki te pērā rātou, tera pea ka tīmata koe ki te whakaaro me whakatū ētahi rohe. Kāore ngā momo rohe i roto i ngā whanaungatanga e aro noa ki te whanaungatanga kotahi-kākahu kore-wai.

Kei te hiahia koe i tētahi whanaungatanga takitahi? Kei te pai tō hoa ki tētahi whanaungatanga tuwhera? Kei roto koe i tētahi te whanaungatanga maha-amorousAhakoa te momo whakapau kaha e rapu ana koe, kia mārama mai i te tīmatanga.

6. Ngā rohe ki ngā hoa o mua

Kāore koe i te pai ki te waea atu a tō hoa o mua ki a ia i waenganui pō? Kia pēhea te auau o tā rāua kōrero? Mena he hoa pai tonu rāua, he pai ki a rāua te haere ki waho ki te tina i ētahi wā?

"He mea uaua tonu te whakatakoto rohe ki ngā hoa o mua. Ko te mea pai, ko te noho puku ki tētahi hoa o mua he mea pai, engari kāore e taea i ngā wā maha. Hei tikanga whānui, i te wā tonu ka tīmata koe ki te māharahara mō te nui o te whanaungatanga o tō hoa ki tētahi hoa o mua, he take tēnei me kōrero," te kī a Nandita.

Mā te whakatakoto i ngā rohe mārama ki tō hoa o mua ka māmā ake tō kōrua hononga, ā, kāore he wāhi mō te āwangawanga, te hae rānei. Waihoki, ki te hiahia tonu koe ki te whakapā atu ki tō hoa o mua, me whakatakoto e koe he rohe mārama mō tēnā.

7. Ngā rohe wā whakahihiri

Kei te hiahia koe ki te mahi i taua mea whakamataku e pai ana ki tō hoa i te moenga? Tērā pea ka werawera te tīmatanga o te whanaungatanga. Engari mā te whakatakoto i ngā rohe moepuku mārama ka kore koe e mau ki te mahi i tetahi mea kāore koe e hiahia ki te mahi i runga i te moenga.

Mā tēnei koe e whakaora ā muri ake nei i te mahi i ngā mahi moepuku ki tō hoa e whakararuraru ana i a koe, e waiho ana rānei koe kia pōuri. I roto i ngā momo rohe katoa o ngā whanaungatanga, ko ngā rohe e whakahaere ana i ngā mea e pai ana i te moenga me ngā mea kāore e pai ana te mea nui rawa atu.

Tērā pea ka waiho rāua hei rerekētanga i waenga i te moe hauora, te moe whakaae, me te mea e whakaititia ai kōrua, e tukinotia ai hoki. Engari, ki te pai kōrua, kāore he rohe, he pai anō hoki. Kōrerohia noa ngā mea e pai ana kōrua ki te mahi, me ngā mea kāore e pai ki te mahi.

8. He manaaki te tiritiri…engari i roto i ngā rohe

Kāore pea koe e hiahia ki te whakapuaki i ō taipitopito putea ki tō hoa. Ehara i te mea kāore koe e whakawhirinaki ana ki a rātou (tērā pea rānei), engari he whakaaro haumaru kei a koe ina puritia e koe ō kupuhipa me ō pine ki a koe anō.

Tērā pea kei te hiahia tō hoa ki te whakatū i tētahi pūkete tahi, ā, kāore anō koe kia pai ki te tiritiri i ngā pūtea i tēnei wā. He mea nui te whakatakoto i ngā rohe pūtea pakari, ā, me kōrerohia marietia kia karohia te tinihanga pūteaPērā anō hoki te tohatoha i ngā kākahu, i ngā taonga whaiaro rānei. Ki te kore tō hoa e pai ki a koe e whakamahi ana i tana kutikuti makawe, kaua e whakamahia.

9. Ngā rohe wā mokemoke

E tika ana kia wātea te wā mō tātou katoa, arā, mō tātou katoa. Tērā pea kāore tō hoa e pai ki te noho tahi me koe i ia hāora o ia rā, ā, he mea hauora tēnā.

Ahakoa he momo piripono koe, kāore e māharahara ki te noho tahi me tō hoa i ia hāora o te ara, kia maumahara, he mea nui te wāhi mō ngā whanaungatanga katoa. Nō reira, ki te hiahia ia ki te noho tahi me āna hoa i te ahiahi o te Taite, ā, ka tae atu koe i roto i tō kaukau pīkini me tō pia, kei te takahi koe i tōna wā mokemoke.

Ahakoa kei te whakaatu pea koe he ātaahua, ā, e hiahia ana koe ki te whakapau wā ki tō hoa, kāore pea rātou e aro noa ki tēnā. Kōrerohia ki tō hoa mō tō hiahia me tana hiahia mō te wā takitahi, kia mōhio ai koe he mea hauora te wā e noho wehe ana koe mō te whanaungatanga.

10. Ngā rohe whawhai

Whakatakotoria he rohe mō te whawhai. Kāore koe i te pai ki te whawhai i te aroaro o te marea? Mā te whakatau i ngā tautohetohe mā te hamama me te pakaru i ngā mea ka puta he wāhi kino i roto i tō hinengaro? He mea nui te whakatakoto i te rohe mō te whakatau i ngā raruraru i roto i te whanaungatanga.

Tērā pea i tipu ake tō hoa rangatira i roto i te hamama me te totohe tonu a ōna mātua, ā, i whiriwhiri ia ki te noho ki te kōrero, kaua ki te hamama me te hamama. Tērā pea ko koe te momo tangata e whiriwhiri ana ki te kōrero mō ngā take i muri i ētahi rā nā te mea me whai wā koe ki te whakamatao. Whakatakotoria he rohe mārama mō te huarahi e hiahia ana koe ki te whakatau i ngā raruraru o te whanaungatanga. Kia mahara, kei reira ētahi ngā huarahi hei whawhai mā te whakaute me whakatakoto hoki e koe he rohe mō te kōrero ki a koutou anō ina pāngia koutou e te ahotea.

Ehara hoki i te mea ngāwari te whakatakoto i ngā rohe whanaungatanga hauora, ehara hoki i te mea ngāwari te whai i aua rohe. Ahakoa te iti o te āhua o tētahi rohe ki a koe, me whakaute, ā, he mea HIRAHIRA tonu. Ahakoa he uaua tēnei i te tīmatanga, engari kāore e roa ka whiwhi kōrua ko tō hoa i te pūkenga, ā, ka kaha haere tō kōrua whanaungatanga i te roanga o te wā.

Mena kei te raru koe i tēnei wā ki te whakatū i ngā rohe me ngā tumanakohanga whanaungatanga hauora, kei a Bonobology tētahi he maha ngā wheako o te whanaungatanga ngā kaitohutohu e hiahia ana ki te āwhina i a koe i roto i ngā raruraru e pā ana ki tō whanaungatanga.

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