Ina kei roto kōrua i tētahi hononga tawhiti, he iti noa iho ngā huarahi e taea ai e kōrua te ātaahua. He nui te utu mō ngā haerenga ohorere, ā, ka tere te hoha o te tuku koha. Wareware ki te tawhiti, ina kore e taea e te huaketo te tata atu ki tētahi atu tangata, he uaua rawa atu te noho aroha. I ēnei wā, mā te mōhio ki te noho aroha i runga waea ka nui ngā mea whakamiharo māu.
He tino ātaahua te whakahoki me te whakahoki mai i te "kāo, me whakairi koe i te waea!"? I te nuinga o te wā, ka kite koe he tino do e hiahia ana koe ki te whakamutu i te waea. Kātahi ka puta mai ngā pātai whakamataku engari whānuitia "nō reira i kai koe? I aha koe i kai ai?". Mena koinei tō whakaaro mō te aroha i runga i te waea, ko tēnei tuhinga māu!
I ngā wā kāore e taea te tūtaki ki tō hoa rangatira, mā ngā huarahi hei pupuri i te aroha i ia rā me tō hoa rangatira ka mau tonu te hihiri. Nā, me pēhea te tīmata i tētahi kōrero aroha i runga waea? Kia tīmata tātou!
Me pēhea te noho aroha i runga waea - 15 Tohutohu hei whakatutuki i tēnā
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"He aha tāu e kākahu nei?" he kupu whakaari e tino whakaohooho ana i ngā kare ā-roto, tika? Taria kia pā mai te kupu "ōku pīni paru, me horoi ēnei e au". Ka memeha haere te aroha. Ā, i whakaaro koe he tino mātanga, he tino mohio hoki koe i tāu pātai tuatahi.
Kāore koe i te tauhou ki ngā waeatanga hoha me tō hoa. Koia koe i pānui ai i tēnei tuhinga! E 20 meneti ki roto i te waeatanga, ka mōhio koe he pai ake ki a koe te mahi i tētahi atu mea. I tēnei wā, kei te panuku koe i ngā pāpāho pāpori i a koe e kōrero ana ki tō hoa mā te reo. Ehara te "kōrero" i te kupu tika nā te mea ko tāu e kī ana ko "hmm" me "āe"!
I muri i ngā tau maha o te whakaipoipo, tera pea ka ahua hoha ō kōrua kōrero. Tae noa ki te wā ka moe kōrua i runga waea, engari ehara i te mea ātaahua. Te whakahihiri i roto i te whanaungatanga Tērā pea ka arahi koe ki ngā kōrero waea hoha. Ki te kore koe e hiahia kia rite ō kōrero ki te mahi uaua, kaua ki ngā mahi aroha e tika ana, kua whakaratohia e mātou ēnei tohutohu 15 māu:
1) "Kia maumahara ki te wā..." he tino ātaahua ngā kōrerorero
"Kei te mahara koe ki tā tāua tūtakitanga tuatahi, ā, kāore au i te mōhio mēnā kei te aro mai koe ki ahau?"
"Kei te mahara koe ki tā tāua kihi tuatahi?"
"Kei te mahara koe ki tāu kōrero mai i tōku mataku i te rā tuatahi?"
Ina mutu ā kōrua kōrero, he huarahi pai te maumahara ki ngā mea ātaahua i mahia e kōrua i mua hei whakaatu i te aroha i runga waea. Ahakoa he mea whakama pērā i te whero o ō kōrua kanohi i te rā tuatahi, he mea ngahau te maumahara ki aua mea me tō hoa.
I taua wā, i taea e koe te kihi i a ia engari kāore i pērā, i taua wā i tūtaki tuatahi ai kōrua, i taua wā whakama rānei kāore kōrua i te mōhio he aha te mea hei kōrero mā kōrua i te rā tuatahi. Ka ataata tonu koe, ā, ka rere te aroha i roto i te kōrero. Ngāwari noa!
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2) Whakamaherehia ō rā ā muri ake nei, he haerenga pakiwaitara rānei
Ahakoa a hararei papai mā kōrua Kāore pea e taea te whakarite i tētahi mā te waea i tēnei wā, āe? Kōrerohia ngā mea ka mahia ngātahitia e kōrua i tēnei haerenga. Tērā pea ka kino koe i te ata e whai ake nei ina mōhio koe ko te wharepaku anake te wāhi e haere ana koe i mua i te hui Zoom kua tomuri koe ki te haere.
Ahakoa ngā katakata, he huarahi pai te whakamahere pono i ngā rā ā muri ake nei hei tīmatanga kōrero aroha. Ka meinga kōrua kia tumanako ki ā kōrua rā, kia nui ake hoki te ngaro o tetahi ki tetahi mēnā ka taea!
3) Kia whakakatakata, engari kaua e tino kaha rawa
E mārama ana mātou, he rerekē ngā mea e rua, arā, te kata me te aroha. Engari, he tino tawhiti rawa te kata i te aroha? Mā te kata i roto i tāu kōrero waea, me te kore e ngana nui, ka māmā ake te wairua.
Kaua e kōrero whakakatakata, kaua hoki e pānui i ngā whakakatakata mai i Google! Ngāna noa ki te tāpiri i tētahi whakakatakata i ia wā, i ia wā. Ina pātai mai tō hoa he aha tāu i mahi ai i tēnei rā, me kī atu pea "I ngaro rawa atu ahau i a koe, engari kātahi ka mahara ahau kāore koe i pai ki te tī. Nō reira ka mutu taku ngaro i a koe, ā, ka inu tī ahau."
4) Kōrerotia tetahi ki tetahi he aha koe i pai ai ki te noho i roto i tēnei whanaungatanga
Ko te whakamarie? Ko te aroha mutunga kore? Nā te mea rānei kei te puranga tonu te pēke moni a tō hoa? Ahakoa te take, e pai ana kōrua ki te noho i roto i tō kōrua whanaungatanga, ringihia atu. Kōrerohia ngā mea pai, ngā mea e ngaro ana i a kōrua, me te take i pai ai kōrua ki aua mea i te tuatahi. Ngā take e aroha ai koe ki tētahi ka taea te noho motuhake ki tōu ake whanaungatanga.
Mena ko te mea tino pai ki a koe mō te whanaungatanga ko te matotoru ake o te pēke moni a tō hoa i tāu, me kōrero atu tētahi atu mea.
5) Whakamihi atu ki tō hoa, engari kaua e nui rawa!
Kimihia tētahi e kore e pai ki te mihimihi, ā, kua kitea e koe te Pāpa e whai ake nei. Inaa, e tino mōhio ana mātou e pai ana te Pāpa ki te mihimihi, he aha ia e kore ai? He huarahi pai te mihimihi ki tō hoa rangatira ki te kōrero aroha ki tō hoa wahine i runga waea. Kaua e kōrero tonu "he tino ātaahua koe!" i ia rima meneti. Ā tōna wā, ka pātai ia me aha ia ki aua kōrero!
6) Kōrero atu ki tō hoa rangatira te nui o tōna hiranga ki a koe
Ki te mea kei roto koe i te aroha, ka mōhio koe kāore e taea e koe te mahara ki ngā mea i whakaarohia e koe i mua i te taenga mai o tō hoa ki roto i tō ao. Ka huri ngā mea katoa o tō ao, ā, tera pea ka tīmata te āhua kei te pai haere ngā mea (ki te mea he... hononga hauora, he tika).
Kōrerotia atu tēnā ki tō hoa rangatira, me kī atu ki a rātou te nui o tō hihiri mō te ao mai i tōna urunga mai ki tēnei ao. Engari kaua e nui rawa, kia kore ai rātou e whakaaro ko rātou anake te kawenga mō ngā mea pai katoa e pā ana ki a koe!
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7) Kōrero atu ki tō hoa me pēhea, ā, āhea hoki koe e ngaro ai i a ia
He tino hoha te kupu "Kei te ngaro koe i ahau". E mōhio ana koe, e mōhio ana tō hoa, engari kei te kōrero tonu kōrua tetahi ki tetahi, kātahi ka whakaaro he kawenga ki te whakahoki atu. Engari, ngana ki te kōrero ki tō hoa i te wā e tino ngaro ana koe i a ia i te roanga o te rā. He aha koe i ngaro ai i a ia, me te aha tāu e mahi ai mēnā kei te taha ia. "I tino ngaro koe i ahau i taku haerenga ko au anake ki te hokohoko! Kua whakakitea mai e koe ki ahau ngā mea pai hei hoko!"
8) Whakanuia te wera mā te waea ataata
E mōhio ana koe ki tā mātou e kōrero nei. Koinei te mea tuatahi i puta ake ki tō hinengaro. He huarahi pai te moepuku i roto i te waea ataata ki te whai kōrero aroha tawhiti ki tō hoa. Hei tāpiri, ki te whakarite koe i ngā waea ataata whakarihariha, ka oati mātou ka nui te pai o te mahi, ā, ka tumanako koe ki te mahi i tēnā mō te wiki katoa.
9) Te moepuku waea!
Ki te kore koe e pai ki ngā waea ataata, ki te kore rānei he nui rawa ōu tūmataitinga, ko te taatai waea te tikanga tawhito hei pupuri i te hihiri o te hiahia. Ahakoa kāore anō kia whakaarohia e koe te taatai waea, tera pea ka aro atu kōrua ki tēnei mea i te mutunga. Ina koa kei roto kōrua i tētahi hononga tawhiti. Kia pēhea te roa ka taea e kōrua te noho me te kore e kōrero mō te taatai? Ā, ina oti i a kōrua, kāore e tawhiti rawa te taatai waea.
10) Whakaritea ngā rā waea
I a koe e whakamahere ana i ngā haerenga/rā ā muri ake nei mō te wā e tūtaki ai kōrua, me whakamahere anō hoki koe mō ngā rā ā muri ake nei mā te waea. Kōrerohia te wā e wātea ana kōrua, me te wā e taea ai e kōrua te whakarite i tētahi, i ētahi rānei hāora mō tētahi ki tētahi. Mā te whakarite i ō rā ā-waea pēnei ka nui ake te hiranga. Kia whakaritea he rā mōna, ā, kia whakamanahia, ka tino tumanakohia hoki e koe.
11) Mahi tahi i tetahi mea mā te waea
Ahakoa kāore kōrua e noho tahi ana i te taha tinana, ehara i te mea kāore e taea e kōrua te mahi tahi i ētahi mea! Tunua te kai kotahi mā kōrua i a kōrua e mahi waea ana i te wā katoa, oma noa, moe noa rānei i runga waea. He tino ātaahua te kōrero i te pō katoa, kātahi ka moe i runga waea, ka rite ki te mea kei reira tonu tō hoa rangatira i tō taha.
Kia tino mohio kei te whakamahi koe i te WiFi i a koe e mahi ana i tēnei. Ki te kore, ka iti ake te āwangawanga mō te noho aroha i runga i te waea mā te pire waea!
12) Tautokohia tō hoa
Tērā pea ka puta he whanaungatanga tawhiti i te mea e hiahiatia ana, ā, ka kitea e tētahi o kōrua he mahi whai hua i tētahi atu wāhi. Mēnā kāore e taea e koe te tū atu ki mua i tō hoa rangatira hei tautoko i a ia, ka taea tonu e kōrua te mahi mā te waea. Ka tautoko ngā hoa pai tetahi i tetahi i roto i te hononga.
Kōrero atu ki tō hoa rangatira e whakapono ana koe ki a rātou, kōrero atu ki a rātou he aha ngā mea e pai ana koe ki a rātou, kaua e tukua kia rongo rātou i tō ngaro. Mēnā he tīmatanga hou kei te mataku tō hoa rangatira, me whakapau kaha ki te tautoko i a koe anō, me te whakapuaki kupu whakatenatena!
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13) Kia hono tonu
Nā ngā āheinga mutunga kore kua homai e te hangarau, ka taea e koe te noho waea atu me tō hoa i te rā katoa. Tāpirihia ō AirPods ki roto, hono atu ki te WiFi, ā, me te mea he waea nui koe, engari ko te mea pono, kei te kōrero noa koe ko wai te mea ātaahua ake.
Ki te mea he pūrākau aroha tōu, koinei te whakaaro pai rawa atu. Ki te mea kua roa kē tō whanaungatanga i tua atu i te hiahia o ō hoa ki te mahara, me karo pea i tēnei. PS: kaua e panaia koe i te mahi nā te mea i kōrero koe ki tō hoa i te rā katoa!
14) Whakangāwari mō tētahi wā poto
Mā te okioki i te kōrero mō tētahi wā poto ka āwhina i a koe te wāhi whaiaro i roto i tō whanaungatangaEngari ko te mea pai rawa atu ka mahia ko te whakanui ake i te aroha o ngā kōrero e mahia ana e kōrua. Ina whakaritea ō kōrua wā waea, ā, ka ngana kia kaua e tuku karere tetahi ki tetahi i ngā kōrero iti katoa mō tō kōrua oranga, ka nui ake ngā mea hei kōrero mā kōrua i te wā waea.
Kāore e tika kia puta ngā kōrero aroha tawhiti i ia rā, i ia rā. Ki te whakatā koe mō ētahi rā, ka tino aroha te kōrero e whai ake nei!
15) Kia pai tō whakarongo
Kāore te whai i te aroha e kī ana me whai kōrero whakamihi, whakakatakata hoki koe i roto i ia kōrero. Tērā pea he kōrero whakahihiri ki tō hoa rangatira. Kia aro ki ā rātou kōrero, ā, me whakautu whakaaro nui mā roto i ngā kupu e whakaatu ana i tō manaakitanga. Kaua e manukanuka ki te kōrero rotarota, ki te tino manaakitanga koe, ka tae mai ngā kupu ki a koe!
Kua kite pea koe ko te mea nui o te nuinga o ēnei ko te atawhai noa iho. E pai ana te katoa ki te mihi, inā koa ka puta mai i tētahi e arohaina ana e rātou. Ki te hiahia pono koe kia atawhai, ka puta mai ngā kaupapa pēnei i te kite i te huringa o tō hoa rangatira i tō ao. Ki te kōrero koe mai i te ngākau, ka tino pono koe ki ngā mea e kōrerohia ana e koe. He tino māmā noa iho te noho aroha i runga waea!
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