Ko ngā whanaungatanga o ēnei rā, he maha ngā wā ka tīmata i te waea pūkoro. He mea whakamīharo, pērā anō hoki te puremu o ēnei rā. Nā te pānga o te hangarau ki ō tātou whakaaro me ā tātou mahi, kua memeha haere ngā rārangi i waenga i te tika me te hē i te roanga o te wā, ā, me pēhea! Ko te mea i whakarihariha i mua ko te mea noa i ēnei rā, ahakoa te whanaungatanga. Hei tauira, ko tētahi o ngā pātai matua i roto i te wāhi hina e mahi ana ngā whanaungatanga ko - he tinihanga te tuku karere kuputuhi, i a koe e noho tahi ana me tētahi atu?
Kāore e hiahiatia kia whakamāramahia te tikanga o te tuku karere kuputuhi, āe? He mārama noa iho tēnā. Engari mō te hunga kāore anō kia mōhio, anei te whakamārama o te pukapuka ako: ko te tuku karere kuputuhi te mahi tuku whakaahua, karere rānei, he mea whakarihariha, he mea tūkino rānei mā roto i tētahi taputapu hiko. Ahakoa he whakamataku, he mea whakararuraru hoki te ahua, he wheako ngahau, he wheako whakahihiri hoki. Ki te whakaarohia he moepuku i runga i te tuhinga, ko ō kupu anake me ngā mahi tuku karere kuputuhi kei a koe.
He mea nui te tuku karere kuputuhi i roto i te whanaungatanga i tēnei ao, ahakoa i roto i te whanaungatanga, i waho rānei i te whanaungatanga, ā, i runga i te horopaki, ka taea e ia te whakararu, te whakapakari rānei i te whanaungatanga. I roto i te ao pōuri o te ao matihiko, ka wātea noa ngā wawata moepuku, me te kore he here o ngā ture me ngā tikanga kua whakaaetia e te hapori. He tata te harikoa o te mahi. Koinei te mea e uaua ai te tuku karere kuputuhi. Mena i puta he tautohetohe mō te pātai nui "he tinihanga te tuku karere kuputuhi, he ngahau noa iho rānei?", ka kitea e koe he maha ngā kaitautoko i ngā taha e rua o te taiapa. Ka arahi te tuku karere kuputuhi ki te moepuku? Anō, he whakaaro noa iho tēnei.
Hei whakamārama ake i te kaupapa, me te mārama hoki ki te tinihanga o te tuku karere kuputuhi, kua whakamahia e mātou a Pooja Priyamvada , he kaiako mō te oranga ngākau me te aro nui (he tohunga ki te āwhina tuatahi mō te hauora hinengaro me te hauora hinengaro mai i te Kura Hauora Tūmatanui o Johns Hopkins Bloomberg me te Whare Wānanga o Sydney), he tohunga ki te tohutohu mō ngā moepuku i waho o te marena, te wehenga, te pōuri, me te mate, hei tauira noa iho, hei whakautu i ētahi pātai nui mā tātou i tēnei rā.
He aha te mea e kiia ana he tinihanga i roto i te whanaungatanga?
Ripanga o Ihirangi
I ngā wā o mua, he tino māmā noa iho te whiriwhiri i ngā mea e tika ana me ngā mea kāore e tika ana mō te marena, mō te whanaungatanga pumau rānei. Me noho pūmau koe ki tō hoa rangatira, ā, ki te mau tētahi o ngā hoa rangatira e tinihanga ana, tera pea ko te mutunga tēnei mō te tokorua. Ae, he tino māmā noa iho, he tino māmā noa iho i mua ake nei.
Ko te motuhaketanga te tohu o tētahi whanaungatanga pumau, ā, ki te mea he raruraru, me ngana koe ki te whakatau, ki te wehe rānei. Ko te haere ki roto i ngā ringa o tētahi atu tāne, wahine rānei, he mea tino kore e whakaaetia, ā, he tino whakahawea ki a rātou. Kāore hoki i te tino horapa te ipurangi, ā, kāore koe i mahue ki te whakaaro pēnei i te, "Kei te tuku karere kuputuhi kore tika taku tāne ki tētahi atu?"
I paku uaua ngā āhuatanga i te tīmatanga o te whakaaro o ngā kaiwhakatakoto whakaaro me ngā kaipūtaiao pāpori mēnā ka kiia te kore whakapono ki ngā kare ā-roto he tinihanga. Mēnā kua moe koe engari kei te moemoeā koe mō tētahi atu tāne, wahine rānei, kei te piripono rānei koe ki tētahi atu tangata, ka kiia rānei he tinihanga ahakoa kāore he moepuku? Ko te whanaungatanga tinana anake te tohu o te pono? E kī ana a Pooja ki a tātou, "Ko te tinihanga te takahi i tētahi oati, i tētahi whakawhirinaki rānei o tētahi ki tōna hoa."
"He rerekē ngā mea e kiia ana he tinihanga i roto i te whanaungatanga i ia tokorua. He mea whakaaro noa iho te puremu me te kore puremu. Hei tauira, ka pai pea tētahi tokorua ki te takaro ki ētahi atu, kāore he kino. Engari ki tētahi atu tokorua, kāore pea i te tika te mahi i tēnā. Ki ētahi, he pai pea te tuku karere kuputuhi, ki ētahi atu, he takahi ture, he momo tinihanga rānei." Kāore anō kia whakatauhia ēnei raruraru, ā, mēnā he tinihanga te tuku karere kuputuhi ki tētahi atu i roto i te whanaungatanga. Kei konei mātou hei āwhina i a koe ki te whakautu i tēnei pātai.
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E kiia ana he tinihanga mēnā kei te tuku karere kuputuhi koe?
Ka taea te kī ko te tuku karere kuputuhi he rite ki te tuku rotarota whakaipoipo, ki ngā reta aroha rānei i te rautau kua pahure. I runga anō i te whanaketanga o te ao, ka whakaratohia e te hangarau te tūāpapa hei hono atu ki tētahi atu tangata. Ehara i te mea he kino noa iho, engari he mea noa ake. Ka tuku tonu ngā tāne me ngā wāhine i ngā pikitia piripono, i ngā karere kuputuhi, i ngā emoji whakahihiri rānei ki a rātou anō. Ā, ina kei roto rātou i te hohonu o te hiahia, ka taea e ēnei te ngahau, ā, ka whai wāhi ki te tāpiri i te kakara ki ō rātou oranga moepuku.
Ko te raruraru, ko te tikanga, ka puta ake ina tukuna ēnei karere kuputuhi, pikitia, me ngā reo ki tētahi atu tangata ehara i te hoa rangatira kua moe ture, i ngā hoa piripono rānei. Ahakoa e whakahē ana ētahi i tēnei mea, tera pea ētahi e muru hara engari he uaua ki te whakawhirinaki ki tā rātou hoa i muri i te tuku karere kuputuhi. Kātahi ka puta te pātai, "Ka arahi te tuku karere kuputuhi ki te moe tāne?"
Mō Mischa rāua ko Seth, i pērā. He marena pumau tā rāua, tekau mā tahi tau te roa, koinā te whakaaro o rāua. Kātahi ka hopukina e Mischa tana tāne e tuku karere kuputuhi ana ki tētahi atu wahine, ā, ka kitea e ia ētahi karere kuputuhi whakahirahira i runga i te waea a Seth, i tukuna ki tētahi atu wahine. I tana whakahē i a ia, i te tuatahi ka tohe ia kāore i neke atu i ngā karere kuputuhi anake. Engari i te mutunga, ka whakaae ia he hononga tūturu tēnei.
"I tūpono noa ahau ki taku tāne e tuku karere kuputuhi kore tika ana ki tētahi atu wahine," te kī a Mischa. I raru ia i tēnei mō ētahi wiki, me te pātai ki a ia anō, "Ka taea e te tuku karere kuputuhi te whakamutu i te marena?" I te mutunga, ka wehe rāua i muri i ētahi marama.
He momo tinihanga te tuku karere kuputuhi ki ētahi
Ehara i te mea ko te whakaipoipo noa iho, te patu rānei i tētahi tangata, engari ko te whanaungatanga o te tangata. Nā te mea he mea tino koretake te mahi nei, ka nui ake te koretake. Ko te pātai e tika ana kia pātaihia – he tinihanga te mahi nei mēnā kei roto koe i tētahi whanaungatanga? Kei reira anō te ruarua e puta mai ana mēnā he tohu kei te mahi tō tāne i ngā mahi nei, i muri rānei i tō kitenga i tō hoa e mahi ana i ngā mahi nei me te kore e mōhiotia. He aha te hua o tēnei mahi i muri mai, ā, he pai rānei kia murua tēnei mahi?
E kī ana a Pooja, "He maha ngā wā, ko te tuku karere kuputuhi ki tētahi atu tangata e kiia ana he tinihanga e te tangata. Nā te mea he kotahi te whanaungatanga, ka whakaaro ngā hoa he kotahi te whanaungatanga i roto i ngā tikanga katoa, tae atu ki te whanaungatanga moepuku i te ao mariko. Ko te tikanga o te tuku karere kuputuhi ko te hiahia tinana o te hoa ki tētahi atu, ā, ka taea te mārama he tinihanga."
Ahakoa he pono tēnei i te nuinga o ngā wā, he taha anō hoki kei roto i te whānuitanga. He tokomaha ngā tāngata i roto i ngā marena tino pakari e whakahē ana ki te tinihanga engari kāore he āwangawanga mō te tuku karere kuputuhi. He aha te take e tuku karere kuputuhi ai te tāne kua mārenatia ki tētahi atu wahine, e tuku karere kuputuhi ai rānei te wahine kua mārenatia ki tētahi atu tāne? Kia rongo tātou i te kōrero a tētahi o ā mātou kaipānui. Ko Vivien Williams (ingoa kua hurihia), e whakaae ana ki te takaro i te papa tākaro i te wā kāore tana wahine e titiro mai ana.
E 15 tau pea te roa o tana marena, ā, i roto ia i tētahi marena noa iho, tae noa ki te tīmatanga o te whanaungatanga ki tētahi hoa mahi i tūtaki ai ia ki te mahi. Nā te kōrero noa i arahi ki te tuku karere kuputuhi. Heoi, kei te tohe tonu a Williams he harakore. "I tuku karere kuputuhi ahau, ā, i pōuri ahau i te tuatahi, engari tirohia, kāore au i tinihanga i tētahi. He tuku karere kuputuhi noa iho, ka whiwhi ahau i ngā whakautu whakaipoipo... he kōrero whakaipoipo noa iho. Ka whakamā ahau – ka taea e au te whakapuaki i ngā mea ki a ia kāore e taea e au te whakapuaki ki taku wahine," tana kī.
Nā, he tinihanga te tuku karere kuputuhi?
Me i rite ngā mea ki te whakaipoipo hauora . Ka taea e te tuku karere kuputuhi te arahi ki ngā raruraru (kei raro ake nei te kōrero mō tēnā), ā, ehara i te mahi noa iho, ko ngā pānga ka ara ake te raruraru i te pararaiha. Me titiro noa ki ētahi kōrero rongonui kia mōhio ai te tangata ki ngā pānga kino o te tuku karere kuputuhi. Mai i a Tiger Woods ki a Ashton Kutcher, ko te turanga tuatahi o ā rāua marena e memeha haere ana i te wā i mau ai rāua e tuku karere kuputuhi me ngā pikitia kino, kāore rānei i te tika – he tohu mārama katoa ēnei kei te tuku karere kuputuhi tāu tāne.
Nō reira, ki te mea kei te whakaaro tonu koe he tinihanga te tuku karere kuputuhi, inā koa kei roto koe i tētahi hononga takitahi, ko te whakautu māmā ko: Āe. Ko te tuku karere kuputuhi i roto i tētahi hononga he momo puremu kāore e tika kia whakahēngia rawatia, kia whiua hoki, engari he tino whakahēngia.
Ki te mea kei te whakaaro koe, "He aha ngā kōtiro ka tuku karere kuputuhi ki ētahi atu ina he hoa tāne tā rātou?" "He aha te tāne kua moe tāne ka tuku karere kuputuhi ki tētahi atu wahine?", he take whaiaro pea ō rātou take, ā, kāore he whakamārama whānui hei tuku atu ki a koe. Engari ka taea e mātou te hoatu ētahi kōrero ki a koe mō ngā āhuatanga rerekē o te tuku karere kuputuhi ki tētahi atu ehara i tō hoa rangatira me ōna pānga ki tō whanaungatanga matua.
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He mea whakamīharo, neke atu i te haurua o ngā ākonga i whakaae ko te tuku karere kuputuhi i arahi ki te moe tahi me taua tangata. Ka taea te whakawhānui i tēnei rangahau ki tētahi whānuitanga nui. Ahakoa te āhua kino me te harakore, ka taea e te tuku karere kuputuhi auau te arahi ki tētahi hononga aroha mutunga kore mēnā ka puta he whai wāhitanga. Ka taea e te tuku karere kuputuhi te arahi ki ngā kare ā-roto? He nui te tūponotanga ka pērā pea.
He tokomaha te hunga e whakaaro ana he aha te take kāore te tuku karere kuputuhi i te tinihanga, engari ki te tangohia e koe ngā paparanga o te ariā, ka kitea e koe he rārangi angiangi rawa e wehe ana i ngā mea e rua. Anei ētahi kōrero whakamere mō te tuku karere kuputuhi hei whakautu i te pātai - he tinihanga te tuku karere kuputuhi, he kino atu rānei te tuku karere kuputuhi i te tinihanga?
1. Ka whakatupu i ngā tumanakohanga koretake mō te taatai
E whakamārama ana a Pooja, "Ka taea e ngā whanonga auau te whakararuraru. Pērā anō hoki te tuku karere kuputuhi, nō reira ka taea te whakararuraru. I ētahi wā, ko ngā āhuatanga o ngā tuhinga, ngā tohu oro-ataata, me te tawhiti atu i te tangata ka taea te tāpiri atu ki ngā tumanakohanga koretake mō te taatai whānui. Tērā pea ka tūtaki rātou ki taua aroha ipurangi i te ao tūturu, ā, ka tino ohorere i te ako i te mooni. Kāore te taatai tūturu i te tino tika, engari ko te tuku karere kuputuhi whakararuraru ka meinga koe kia whakaaro he tika."
Pērā i te maha atu o ngā papaaho ipurangi, ka whakamanawa te tangata i te tuku karere kuputuhi. I muri i te mata waea pūkoro, i te mata rorohiko rānei, ka taea e koe te pato, te mahi rānei i ngā wawata kāore pea koe e maia ki te mahi. Ka tino whakawai ngā kōrerorero. Ka taea e ngā kōrerorero whakaipoipo ipurangi te mea kia rite te tangata ki ngā atua wahine, ki ngā atua rānei o te taatai.
Ka taea e te tuku karere kuputuhi te whakamutu i te marena? Tērā pea. Ka taea hoki e ia te arahi i a koe ki te hanga i ngā tumanakohanga koretake mō tō oranga moepuku. Ināianei, ki te mea ehara taua tangata i tō hoa rangatira, i tō hoa rangatira rānei, kei te āta wehe atu koe i tō whanaungatanga o nāianei, ā, kei te kukumea koe ki te whanaungatanga mariko. He aha te hauora o tēnā? E mōhio ana koe ki te whakautu, pērā i a mātou.
2. Ka tangohia tō aro mai i tō whanaungatanga o nāianei
He tinihanga te tuku karere kuputuhi? Ae, he pono, mēnā ka akiaki koe kia aro nui atu ki ō kōrerorero waea me tētahi tangata ke atu i te kōrero tūturu ki tō hoa, ka puta whakarere mai he hoha, he koretake hoki ki a koe. Ina koa mēnā kei te raru koe me tō hoa, ko te tuku karere kuputuhi me tētahi atu ka mahi hei whakakorikori i te wehewehe. Ko te mea i tīmata hei kukume tinana mā te karere kuputuhi, kāore e roa ka waiho hei tautoko kare ā-roto, hei mahi rānei hei ārai i a koe i ō raruraru.
"He aha ngā tāne ka tuku karere kuputuhi i runga ipurangi ina he hoa wahine tā rātou?" te whakaaro a Selena. He take pai tāna ki te pātai. I te waranga o tana hoa o mua ki te tuku karere kuputuhi ki ētahi atu wāhine, ā, he maha ngā wā i mau ia i a ia e mahi ana i tēnā. I whakahē tonu ia kāore ia i te mahi he. "He tinihanga te tuku karere kuputuhi ki a koe?", ka pātai atu ia ki a ia me te reo whakahē.
I a ia e whakamārama ana he aha te tuku karere kuputuhi he tinihanga i roto i tēnei āhuatanga, ka mea a Pooja, "I ētahi wā ka taea e te tuku karere kuputuhi te wareware i tā rātou whanaungatanga o nāianei. Engari i ētahi wā onge, ka taea hoki e te tangata te hoki ki tā rātou whanaungatanga tuatahi, ā, ka whakaoho anō i te mura kua ngaro. E rua ngā huarahi e mahi ai, ā, e whakawhirinaki ana ki ia tangata, ki ia tangata."
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3. Ka mau tonu koe
Ko te nuinga o ngā tāngata whakaipoipo ira tangata kāore e tino whakama ki tā rātou mahi i te tīmatanga, nā te mea e whakaaro ana rātou kāore rātou e mau. He rerekē ki te whakama tinihanga , e puta ana ina uru ngā tāne me ngā wāhine ki tētahi mahi moepuku, kātahi ka pouri mōna, he maha ngā wā ka kiia te tuku karere ira tangata he mea iti rawa hei kore moe.
Tērā pea ka whakaaro koe kāore he kino o te tuku whakaahua whakarihariha ki tō hoa moepuku mariko. Engari he tino tūponotanga kei mau koe i te mutunga. He tika rānei? Ko te reo tinana i a koe e waea ana, te titiro moemoeā i a koe e kōrerorero ana, me ngā āhua kore e kitea i tō mata i a koe e kōrerorero ana, he tohu mate katoa mēnā kei te mātakitaki tata mai tō hoa wahine i a koe, e ngana ana ki te rapu huarahi ki te mōhio mēnā kei te tuku karere kuputuhi tetahi.
4. Ka taea e te tuku karere kuputuhi te arahi ki te piripono
Ka taea e te tuku karere kuputuhi te arahi ki ngā kare ā-roto? Me pēhea te mōhio kei te tuku karere kuputuhi tetahi? Hei whakautu i ēnei pātai e rua, whakaarohia tēnei. Ka kitea ngā take here. I tīmata a Riley Jenkins (ingoa kua hurihia), he wahine kāinga, ki te tuku karere kuputuhi i tana hononga anō ki tētahi hoa o mua.
Ko te mea i tīmata hei kōrerorero hoa, kāore i roa ka huri hei wāhi tapu. Nā ngā kōrerorero ira tangata i tino whakahihiri, i meinga ai ia kia taitamariki, kia werawera hoki. "Engari kāore i roa ka tīmata ahau ki te whai wāhi ki ngā kare ā-roto. Ka tīmata ahau ki te whakapuaki i ngā raruraru ki a ia. He pānga rerekē ki ahau ngā kōrerorero piripono nā te mea kāore au i hiahia kia mutu. I te mutunga o te mahi tahi, he ohorere kino," tana whakakitenga. Nō reira, i tēnei wā, ahakoa kāore he moepuku tinana, i mahi a Riley i te waea pūkoro i arahi ai ki te kore pono - he tinihanga tino!
E ai ki a Pooja, "Koinei te ngoikoretanga tūturu o te tuku karere kuputuhi. I te tīmatanga, he pai noa iho te āhua tinana, engari kāore e roa ka kitea e koe kei te piri tonu ō kare ā-roto ki tēnei tangata. Tērā pea ka hiahia koe ki te hono atu ki a rātou i runga i te taumata kare ā-roto, he mea nui ake, he mea raruraru ake i te hono atu ki a rātou i runga i te taumata moepuku anake."
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5. Ka taea e ia te arahi ki ngā hua whakama, kino rānei
Ko tētahi atu raruraru o te tuku karere kuputuhi, he hononga nui ki te hangarau. Ki ngā ringa hē, ka raru pea. He maha ngā tāngata kua hopukina ā rātou hoa mā te tirotiro i ā rātou waea pūkoro, mā te tārua rānei i ā rātou raraunga hei hopu i a rātou. I ētahi wā, ka turuturu ngā kōrerorero, ngā whakaahua rānei nā ētahi hapa hangarau.
Whakaarohia te ohorere ka pā ki tō hoa. Tērā pea ka tautohe koe kāore koe i mahi i tetahi mea hē, engari ko te mea i noho tahi kōrua i roto i te whanaungatanga mariko me tētahi atu, ka taea e koe te mamae nui ki tō hoa. He rite tonu te kino ki te moe tahi me tētahi atu tangata, ki te kore he kino atu.
I roto i ngā kupu poto, ka taea e te tuku karere kuputuhi te whakararu i tētahi whanaungatanga hauora . Ehara pea i te take o te wehenga, engari ki te mau te tangata e tuku karere kuputuhi ana, ka nui te whakama me te whakamā. Ko te nui o te whai wāhi ka whakatau i te mutunga o te marena, engari ki te whakamatautauria koe ki te kōrero piripono i runga i te waea, he tohu kei te hapa tetahi mea i roto i tō whanaungatanga o nāianei. Ko te pātai - kia pēhea te tawhiti ka haere koe ki te tūhura i te whakamatautauranga?
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Ka taea e koe te muru i te hara o te tuku karere kuputuhi mēnā kei te tino pouri ia, kei te whakama hoki, ā, mēnā he mahi takaro noa iho tāna i mahi ai. Ehara i te mea ngāwari te muru me te wareware engari ki te kaha te tokorua ki te whakapau kaha, ehara te tuku karere kuputuhi i te raruraru e kore e taea te whakatau ahakoa he mea kāore e hiahiatia.
Kāore e roa te pumau o ngā whanaungatanga e tīmata ana i te tinihanga. Ahakoa ka mutu te mahi tinihanga a te tokorua, ka mau tonu ngā koha, ā, ka arahi pea tēnei ki ngā whakapae mō ake tonu atu. Kāore e taea te hanga i tētahi hononga pēnei i runga i te turanga pai.
Ka taea te kī he kino atu te tuku karere kuputuhi i te tinihanga nā te mea e pā ana ki te mahi moepuku me te kore whakapono ki te kare ā-roto. Ahakoa kāore he pā tinana, ko te mea ka taea e te tangata te hanga hononga piripono, ahakoa mā te waea, me tētahi atu ehara i te tangata e piripono ana ki a ia, he rite ki te tinihanga.
Ka taea e te tuku karere kuputuhi te arahi ki tētahi hononga tūturu. Mā tēnei ka taea e koe te tīmata i tētahi hononga, me te puāwai. Waihoki, mā te nui rawa o te tuku karere kuputuhi ka taea e koe te piripono ki te tangata kē.
Kei ngā ture o te kawanatanga kei reira koe. Engari kāore e taea te kī he hara te tuku karere kuputuhi pēnei. Heoi, ka taea te kī he whanonga kāore e hiahiatia ana e arahi ana ki te tinihanga, ā, ka waiho hei take mo te whakarere.
Kāore e roa rawa ngā mahi ā-ture. Engari ko te mea tino roa ko te mamae e pā ana ki te hunga katoa e whai pānga ana.
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