Me pēhea te whakatakoto i ngā rohe kare ā-roto i roto i ngā whanaungatanga?

I roto i ngā pukapuka āwhina-whaiaro katoa, ngā pukapuka me ngā tuhinga kua tino whaia e koe i ēnei tau katoa, kua pānui pea koe i ngā kōrero mō te hiahia ki te pupuri i ngā rohe kare ā-roto i roto i ngā whanaungatanga, ahakoa he whanaungatanga whaiaro, he whanaungatanga ngaio rānei. He maha ngā wā ka pānuihia e koe, kātahi ka warewarehia, ā, ehara i te mea miharo te take.

Heoi anō, tera pea kei te tino ataahua tō marena, kei te harikoa tō hoa rangatira ki a koe, kei te manaaki i a koe, kei te hoko koha māu, kei te kawe i a koe ki waho, ā, kei te mea kia tino motuhake koe. Tērā pea kei roto koe i taua mahi pai, kei te noho koe i te tari mō ngā hāora maha, kei te harikoa ki te haereere ki te mahi ahakoa i ngā wiki mutunga, me te mōhio ko te whakapau kaha atu te utu mō te oranga pumau, haumaru, whai hua.

Āe, he pūrongo tēnei māu: Ki te kore koe e ako ki te whakatakoto i ngā rohe kare ā-roto, ka haere tonu te ao ki te kawe i a koe ki tētahi haerenga nui. Āe, kei roto ko te whānau! Engari ko te pātai nui: me pēhea te whakatakoto i ngā rohe kare ā-roto i roto i ngā whanaungatanga? Mā te āwhina a te kaiwhakaora hinengaro Snigdha Mishra (tohunga CBT me te REBT nō Beck Institute, Philadelphia), he tohunga ki te whakaora hinengaro me te whakaora herekore kare ā-roto, me rapu tātou me pēhea te whakatakoto rohe i roto i te whanaungatanga aroha me te hiranga o aua rohe.

He aha nga paenga kare-a-roto?

Nā, me pēhea koe e mōhio ai mēnā he hapa kei roto i ō rohe? Snigdha e mea ana, "I rongo ahau i tētahi wāhi "ehara i taku makimaki, ehara i taku hākari". Ko te tikanga o tēnei, ki te kore ia e noho hei makimaki māku i roto i tētahi hākari, kāore he aha ki ahau, ā, kāore au e hiahia ki te whai wāhi atu ki taua hākari. Pērā anō hoki te whakatakoto rohe. Koinei te tauira tino pai o te kore e hiahia ki te whakauru atu ki te oranga o ētahi atu, ki te whai wāhi atu hoki ki ngā kare ā-roto o te oranga o te tangata, ki te kore rātou e tono mai i a tātou mō te āwhina, mō te tohutohu rānei, ki te kore rānei ā rātou mahi e pā tika mai ki a tātou.

"Ngā rohe i roto i te whanaungatanga Ko tōna tikanga ko te whakatairanga i a koe anō me te tiaki i ō hiahia kare ā-roto i a tētahi atu. Ko tōna tikanga hoki ko te ako ki te kī "kāo" me te kore e manukanuka ki te whakahē a te tangata, ki te whakakorenga rānei i a koe. Nō reira, kaua e tukua ō mahi kia ārahihia e te hiahia ki te whakamanawareka i ētahi atu.

Pērā i ngā āhuatanga katoa, me mārama koe ki tētahi raruraru i mua i te tango i ngā mahi whakatika hei whakaoti. Pērā anō hoki mō te whakatakoto rohe kare ā-roto. He tino māmā te whakamāramatanga o "rohe whanaungatanga": ko tōna tikanga, ko te tango i te kawenga mō ō ake mahi me ō kare ā-roto, engari KAUA e tango i te kawenga mō ngā kare ā-roto, ngā mahi rānei a ētahi atu.

Ko te whakaaro noa iho tēnei: ​​kāore e taea e koe te whakaaro, te mahi rānei mō te ao, tae atu ki tō hoa rangatira, tō hoa rangatira, ō tuākana, tuākana, rangatira, tae atu ki ō mātua. Me whakatakoto koe i a koe anō ki mua, ā, kaua e tukua kia nui ake ngā kare ā-roto o tētahi atu i ōu ake.

E taunaki ana a Snigdha i ētahi pātai me pātai koe ki a koe anō kia taea ai e koe te whakatakoto i ngā rohe kare ā-roto:

• He aha te mea e tū atu ana koe, ā, kua rite koe ki te tū atu ki te aha?
• He tangata pono koe?
• He tangata pono koe?
• He pai ake ki a koe te whakaū i te riri, te riri rānei i te whakaū?
• He aha te momo momo whakawhitiwhiti kōrero e hiahia ana koe?
• He aha ō rohe matatika?
• He aha ngā mea ka taea e koe te tuku atu, me ērā kāore e taea e koe te whakaae?

E whakamārama ana hoki ia me pēhea te āwhina i a koe mā te pātai i ēnei pātai ki a koe anō, "Ina mārama ake koe ki a koe anō, ka taea e koe te tū pakari. Mā tēnei ka taea e koe te whakatau me pēhea koe e whakapuaki ai i a koe anō, te waihanga i ō rohe me te whakaatu i aua rohe – i runga i te ngāwari me te pakari, i runga i ngā āhuatanga e hiahiatia ana."

Ahakoa he huarahi me ngā tikanga whanonga me piri te tangata, ka puta ngā raruraru i roto i ngā rohe kare ā-roto ina takahia e koe te mahi i tua atu i tōu ake tikanga. ngā ngana ki te whakamanawareka i ētahi atuKei te whakaroa koe ki te whakapuaki i ō hiahia i te tina whānau? Ka mutu, ka kai koe i te tītī nā te mea he pai ki tō tāne ahakoa he pai ki a koe ngā kaimoana?

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I tētahi atu taha, kei te whakama koe ki te whakaae ki ngā mihi, ki te tono āwhina rānei nā te mea he nui rawa tō whakapehapeha? He tauira katoa ēnei o ngā rohe kare ā-roto hē. Tērā pea kāore e taea te whakatutuki i ngā rohe kare ā-roto i roto i te whakaipoipo me te kore he kōrero whakamā ki tō hoa, engari i ētahi wā, kia whai rohe i roto i ngā whanaungatanga, ko tāu noa iho he paku pakari ki ngā mea kāore e pai ki a koe.

Anei tētahi tauira o ngā rohe kare ā-roto i roto i tētahi whanaungatanga: He roa te rā o Jessie i te mahi, ā, i tino ahotea ia mō te ata pō i pā ki a ia i te aonga ake. I hiahia a Aaron, tana hoa, ki te kōrero mō tētahi huihuinga mamae i pā ki a ia i mua. I hiahia ia ki te whakapuaki i ōna kare ā-roto ki te tangata e tino piripono ana ki a ia, ki a Jessie.

Heoi, kāore i a Jessie te kaha o ngā kare ā-roto ki te whakahaere i tētahi kōrero whakahirahira pēnei. Mā te kī noa "Kua ngenge ahau i te hinengaro me te tinana i ngā mea i puta i te mahi i tēnei rā, ā, ki taku whakaaro kāore ahau i te kawanatanga hei whakahaere i aua kōrero" ka taea e ia te whakatakoto rohe i roto i tētahi whanaungatanga me te kore e whakahaere.

He aha te hiranga o ngā rohe kare ā-roto i roto i ngā whanaungatanga?

He mea nui ngā rohe kare ā-roto i roto i ngā whanaungatanga nā te mea ka hoatu he whanaungatanga hauora. He maha ngā wā, ko te iti o te whakaaro ki a ia anō te take o te kore whakatakoto rohe. Ko te hunga whai whakaaro nui ki a ia anō, ko te hunga rānei kāore e uru ki te kōrero kino ki a rātou anō, kāore e kitea he uaua ki te whakatakoto rohe ki ā rātou taunekeneke nā te mea kei a rātou te mana whakahaere o ō rātou oranga, ā, e mōhio ana rātou ki tā rātou e hiahia ana, ki tā rātou e kore e hiahia.

I tana whakamārama he aha te hiranga o ngā rohe kare ā-roto i roto i ngā whanaungatanga, engari he uaua rawa ki te whakatakoto, e kī ana a Snigdha, "I te nuinga o te wā, ina hiahia tātou ki te haumi ki tētahi whanaungatanga - ahakoa he whanaungatanga ngaio, he whanaungatanga whaiaro rānei ki te hoa me te whānau, tae atu ki ngā hononga aroha, ki te marena rānei, ka kīia mai ki a tātou ko tā tātou haumi kare ā-roto he rite tonu ki te tipu o taua whanaungatanga."

"Engari kāore mātou i te kīia mai ki hea te wāhi hei hanga rohe kare ā-roto. Ko te take māmā kei muri i tēnei, he whakanuia ngā āhuatanga pēnei i te atawhai tangata, te kore whakaaro whaiaro rānei, tae noa ki te wā ka tīmata koe ki te whakaū i a koe anō, ki te kī "kāo", ki te whakapai ake i tō whanonga me tō momo noho hei manaaki i a koe anō, ka wehi koe kei whakahēngia koe he tangata whaiaro, kei whakakahoretia, kāore e arohaina nā te mea he tangata pakari, he tangata motuhake."

"Heoi, he teka tēnei. Ki te kore koe e whakatakoto i ngā rohe kare ā-roto, ka tīmata koe ki te aroha ki a koe anō, ka rite ki te patunga, ka tīmata rānei koe ki te whakaaro me te whanonga rite ki te mātāra. Ko te tukinotia pērā i te whāriki tatau me te tuku i te tangata kia hikoi noa i a koe ka pāngia e te mamae i te roanga o te wā. Ā tōna wā, ka rite koe ki te moumou i tō oranga mō ngā mea kāore i te whai pānga ki a koe nā ēnei wehi kāore i taea e koe te puta atu."

Anei ētahi atu take he mea nui te whakatakoto i te rohe me te whakaū i te tawhiti e pai ana koe ki te haere, ki te tuku rānei i tētahi i roto i tētahi momo whanaungatanga:

1. Hei tiaki i a koe ano

He mea nui anō hoki ngā rohe whaiaro nā te mea me tiaki koe i a koe anō i mua i te āwhina i ētahi atu. He maha ngā wā, ka mutu ka noho koe hei hautai mō ngā mea katoa e whiua ana ki a koe. Ka kitea nuitia tēnei i roto i te kaha o te whanau.

Kei te kite koe i a koe anō e mahi ana i te nuinga o ngā mahi i te tina o te Kirihimete a tō whānau, i te mea kei te koa ētahi atu mema, ā, kei te whai wā hoki mō rātou anō? He tohu ngawari tēnei e kore e aro nui tō whānau ki a koe. He mea nui kia whakatakotohia he rohe i te tīmatanga o te whanaungatanga, kia kore ai e tae mai he wā e whakaaro ana te tangata ki ō kare ā-roto, ā, ka meinga koe kia pēhia ki te mahi i ngā mea kāore koe e hiahia ana.

2. Hei ārai i te whakahaeretia

Ehara i te mea ko te katoa e hiahia ana ki te whara i a koe. Engari i roto i te hinengaro, ina kore koe e whakatakoto i ngā rohe whaiaro, ka huri te hunga e hiahia ana ki ngā kare ā-roto ki te whakahaere i a koe. Tērā pea ka tupu tēnei i roto i ngā marena, i ngā whanaungatanga roa rānei, ina nui haere te whakawhirinaki o tētahi hoa ki tētahi atu.

Kei te kite koe i a koe anō e ngana ana ki te whakaoti i ngā raruraru katoa e pā ana ki tō hoa rangatira? Kei te kite koe i a koe anō e whakatakoto ana i ō hiahia me ō wawata ki muri i te mea kāore koe e pai ki te whakapataritari i a rātou? Kātahi koe ka noho i roto i te raruraru kare ā-roto, ā, whanaungatanga whakahaere.

He rerekē ki ngā whakaaro o te tangata, ehara i te mea ko te pānga o ngā rohe ki ngā whanaungatanga he waihanga i tētahi puna waipara kino o ngā tautohetohe me te noho wehe. Mā ngā rohe koe e tiaki, e whakarite hoki kia kore ētahi atu e tinihanga i a koe nā te mea kei te whakaaro noa rātou ki ō kare ā-roto.

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3. Kia kore ai e tukinotia i te mahi

He kaimahi tino pai koe. E mihi ana ō hoa mahi me ō rangatira ki a koe. Tae noa ki tēnei wā, kei te pai tonu. Engari he maha ngā wā ka pau ngā hāora ki te mahi e ngana ana koe ki te whakaoti i tētahi kaupapa ko koe anake, i te mea ka taea e koe te mahi me te āwhina mai i ētahi atu? Ka mutu, ka riro i a koe te hē mō tō tīma, mō ō hoa mahi rānei?

He aha te take e tukuna ai e tō rangatira he mahi tāpiri ki a koe i a ō hoa e hī ika ana i te mutunga wiki? Nā te mea kāore koe i kī "kāo" pūmau ki te mahi i tua atu i ō rohe, nā te mea i whakaaro koe he mahi whakatū rohe kino tēnei i roto i ngā whanaungatanga mā te tango i te mana o koe anō.

Kāore rawa tēnā i te pono. Kei a koe te kawenga mōu anō, ā, ko koe te kawenga ki te kī kāo ki tētahi momo tukinotanga ka pā ki a koe. Mena kei te nui rawa te mahi kei te whakamahia koe, kei te whakamahia rānei nā te mea kei te whakaaro tō rangatira ka pai ki a koe, me whai rohe koe i roto i ngā whanaungatanga.

 4. Kia harikoa

Ae, he tino māmā noa iho! Ahakoa te āhua nei he mihi ki a koe te noho hei kotiro pai, hei tama pai rānei, ehara i te mea mena ka takahia e koe tō tuakiri. Kia kore ai e tupu, me rapu hohonu koe i roto i a koe anō, me pātai mēnā he harikoa koe i te noho hei reme patunga tapu e kīia nei ko te reme.

Ko te whakautu kāore. Ko te raruraru o te kore whakatakoto tika i ngā rohe, ka mutu ka tukuna e koe he tini rawa ngā tāngata ki roto i tō koiora, ko ētahi o rātou, he pono, kāore e tika kia noho ki reira. Tērā pea ka tukuna e koe ētahi ki roto i tō koiora e mahi kino tonu ana i a koe, ā, kua pērā anō i mua. Ā, ka tūpono koe ki te whakaatu i a koe ki te maha o ngā mea. te maka atu i ngā whara, ka pā ki tō hauora hinengaro.

Tērā pea ka uaua ki a koe te whakamātau i te kōrero kino ki a rātou nā te mea e whakaaro ana koe he nui ake ō rātou kare ā-roto i ōu ake kare ā-roto. Ahakoa e kī ana rātou e hiahia ana rātou ki a koe, ehara i te mea me tuku tonu rātou kia uru mai ki roto hei whara i a koe. Hei whakatakoto rohe i roto i tētahi whanaungatanga me te kore e whakahaere, ko tāu noa iho he kī atu, "Kei te pēhia ahau ina kore koe e whakaute i ahau, ā, nā te mea kua mahia e koe i mua, kāore e taea e au te whakawhirinaki anō ki a koe."

5. Hei waihanga whanaungatanga hauora

Ko te mea nui ki te whai whanaungatanga pai, pai hoki ki tō whānau, ki ō hoa, ki ō hoa mahi me ō hoa mohio, ko te noho mārire i te ahotea. hauora rohe Koinei te taahiraa tuatahi ki tēnā, ko te kupu matua ko te "hauora". Kāore koe e hiahia kia whanoke, kia tūpato, kia noho puku rānei.

He maha ngā huarahi atawhai hei whakamōhio atu ki ētahi atu tāngata kei hea rātou i roto i tō ao. Kei te hanga koe i tētahi rārangi i waenga i te mea e whakaaetia ana me te mea kāore. Mā te mahi pera, ka piki ake tō whakaaro i roto i te tirohanga a te hunga e karapoti ana i a koe. Mā te whakatakoto i ngā rohe kare ā-roto i roto i te whakaipoipo ka whakarite kia mārama kua kore koe e noho hei tangata pēhi, kia taea ai e koe te whakarite kia whakautehia ō hiahia me ō wawata.

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Me pēhea te whakatakoto i ngā rohe kare ā-roto i roto i ngā whanaungatanga

Kua whakamāramahia e mātou te hiranga o te whakatakoto rohe i te tīmatanga o te whanaungatanga, engari kāore he hua o te whakapau kaha mēnā kāore koe i te tino mōhio me pēhea te whakatakoto. "I kī tonu mai taku tāne kia kaua ahau e kōrero i tētahi ara, nā te mea he 'whakariri' ki a ia. I kī ia he 'rohe' tēnā e whakatūria ana e ia, ā, i hiahia ia ki te whakamahi mā te huri i taku whanonga."

Nō taku kōrerotanga ki tētahi hoa mō te whakaiti i ahau i tēnei whanonga āna, kātahi ahau ka mōhio kua whakatūria e ia ngā rohe kino i roto i tō tātou whanaungatanga"... I uaua ki ahau te whakaara ake i tēnei mea nā te mea ehara ahau i te momo tangata e tū atu ana mōku ake. Ā, nā te mea i noho tahi māua i roto i te whānau kotahi, he uaua ake te kimi wā me taku tāne anake, ā, e kore rawa ahau e mahi i tēnei mea i mua i te aroaro o ētahi atu," te kōrero a Jasmine ki a mātou.

He uaua pea te whakatakoto i ngā rohe kare ā-roto i roto i tētahi whanaungatanga, engari kāore e kore e taea, ina koa kua maha ngā tau e noho ana koe hei tangata kāore i te mārama ngā rohe. Āe, kua tae ki te wā ki te whakarerekē i te āhua o nāianei, ki te whakahaere i tō oranga me te hoatu i tētahi huarahi rerekē. Anei te huarahi.

1. Whakaharatauhia ngā tauira o ngā rohe kare ā-roto

Akohia te whakatakoto i ngā rohe hauora. Mena kua tuku tonu koe i a koe anō ki ngā hiahia o tō hoa, tīmata mārire engari kia mau tonu te whakaū i a koe anō i roto i te whanaungatanga. Kia maumahara ki a koe anō – kei a koe te tika kia kaua e tutuki i ngā tumanakohanga koretake a ētahi atu. He rite tonu te hiranga o ō hiahia.

Kei a koe te tika kia atawhaitia koe e te whakaute i roto i te whanaungatangaKa taea e koe te kī 'kāo' me te ngākau māhaki engari me te kaha ki tētahi mea e kore ai koe e māia ki te mahi. Kāore koe e hiahia ki te whakamārama roa mō te take e whakahē ana koe i tētahi mea kia pai ake ai te whakatakoto i ngā rohe kare ā-roto. Akohia te kī "Au" kia whai hua ake. "Ki taku whakaaro," "Kei te rongo ahau," "Kei te whakapono ahau," me ērā atu.

Kāore ngā tauira o ngā rohe kare ā-roto i roto i ngā whanaungatanga i te tino whakaharahara pērā i tō whakaaro. Kei roto pea i ēnei ko te kore kōrero a tō hoa mō tētahi kaupapa nā te mea ka whakaoho i ngā kare ā-roto kino i roto i a koe, te kore rānei e tuku i tētahi kupu kino kia pahemo nā te mea he tino whakama koe ki te whakamutu.

Kia mōhio koe ko te mea nui ko te whakaute i a koe anō, ka kite koe i te pānga o ngā rohe ki ngā whanaungatanga. Ko te tikanga o ēnei hei ārahi i a kōrua ki tētahi whanaungatanga taurite, kaua ki tētahi whanaungatanga e ki ana i te mauahara.

2. Tiakina tō wāhi kia kaha

He hapa tēnei e mahia ana e te nuinga o ngā tāne me ngā wāhine i te tīmatanga o te whanaungatanga, te marena rānei – ka ngaro te māramatanga o te wāhi whaiaro, ā, ka tīmata rāua ki te uru atu ki te porowhita hohonu o tētahi ki tētahi. Me whakatika tēnei mā te mahara ki te meka kāore te whanaungatanga hauora e tautuhia ana mā te hononga tonu ki te hope.

Tukua kia iti te wā, ā, hoatu he wāhi ki tō hoa i roto i te whanaungatanga. I taua wā anō, me whakaaro ki tō wāhi he tapu, ā, tiakina rawatia. Ka taea e koe te tīmata mā te iti noa iho, pērā i te whakatakoto i ō taonga tūmataiti ki roto i tētahi pouaka haumaru kāore e taea e tō hoa te uru atu, te kore e tohatoha i ngā kupuhipa pāpāho pāpori, te whai pūkete peeke me ngā pepa whakapaunga motuhake.

Ko te whakatakoto rohe he tikanga anō kia nui ake te whakapuaki i ō kare ā-roto. Ina whakaatu koe i tō riri ki tētahi mea kāore koe e pai ana ki te mahi, tae atu ki te moepuku, titiro tika atu ki te kanohi, ka kī atu. Kaua e whakama, kaua hoki e āwangawanga.

Ko te whakatakoto i ngā rohe kare ā-roto i roto i te whakaipoipo he mea pea mā te whakamahi i tētahi wāhi whaiaro hauora i roto i tō whanaungatanga. Ina whakamōhio koe ki tō hoa he mea nui tō tuakiri ki a koe mā te whakamahi i tētahi wāhi whaiaro, he tauira tēnei o ngā rohe kare ā-roto i roto i ngā whanaungatanga.

3. Whakatakotoria he rohe i roto i tētahi whanaungatanga aroha mā te mōhio ki ngā rohe o ētahi atu

Hei tumanako kia whakautehia ō rohe kare ā-roto whaiaro e ētahi atu, he mea nui kia mōhio koe ki ō rātou rohe kare ā-roto. Ki te whakamuri tetahi i a koe e kōrero ana, kāore e whakautu mai i te tīmatanga, ka karo i te titiro kanohi, ka tauhohe kotahi noa te kupu, ka neke haere te reo… kei te tuku tohu kore-waha rātou ki a koe e whakaatu ana kāore rātou i te tino ōrite ki tāu e hiahia ana, e ngana ana rānei ki te kōrero, nō reira he pai ake te whakamuri.

Kaua e tino kaha ki te whakatakoto i ō ake rohe, ā, ka wareware koe ki ō ētahi atu. Kia mahara he tika tā rātou ki te kī 'kāo', ki te noho tawhiti atu rānei i a koe. Ki te tupu tēnā, kaua e riri. Heoi anō, kia tupato kei tukua e koe ngā rohe kino i roto i ngā whanaungatanga e whakatūria ana e rātou. Ko te tikanga o ā rātou rohe he tiaki i tō rātou tuakiri, kaua e whakaiti i tōu.

4. Mahi i runga i to whakaaro whaiaro

He mea nui te whakatakoto i ngā rohe whaiaro pai o te hononga pai engari pērā i te nuinga o ngā mea o te ao, ka tīmata i a koe anō. Me mōhio tuatahi koe ki te wā e takahia ana ō rohe, ā, ko te huarahi anake ki te mahi i tēnā ko te aro atu ki a koe anō.

Kia tūpato ki ō kare ā-roto, kia noho mataara hoki. Ki te pāngia koe e te kore whakamarie, te ahotea, te manukanuka, te hara, te riri, te mauahara rānei, tera pea nā te mea kei te mōhio koe kei te tukinotia koe. Whakautehia koe anō. Tū atu mōu ake. Mea atu "kāo" me te mea ko tō tikanga tēnā.

Ko te whakatakoto i ngā rohe kare ā-roto i roto i te whakaipoipo he mea nui ki te kaha o tō kaha ki te kōrero mō ngā mea kāore koe e pai ki te kōrero. Ki te kore koe e hiahia ki te kōrero mō tētahi mea, kāore he take. Ki te kore koe e hiahia ki te awhi i tēnei wā tonu, kaua e kōrero, ā, me kī atu koe kāore. Kia whakapakari koe i tō whakaaro ki a koe anō, ka pai ake tō tū atu.

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5. Akohia te whakatakoto i ngā rohe kare ā-roto i roto i te marena

He tino uaua tēnei. Ina ngoikore tō tuakiri, ka tukua e koe tō hoa rangatira ki te whakatau i ō whakatau, i ētahi wā kāore koe e aro ki ō ake hiahia me ō kore e pai. He pono, me whai whakarerekētanga me te whakatikatika te marena hauora, harikoa hoki. te tauutuutu mai i ngā hoa rangatira e ruaHeoi, kei a koe te whakatau ko ēhea uara, ko ēhea wāhanga rānei e pai ana koe ki te piko me te whakaae, ā, ko ēhea hoki kāore e taea te whiriwhiri.

Kia oti i a kōrua te wehewehe i a kōrua, noho tahi kōrua ko tō hoa rangatira, kōrerohia ngā rohe kare ā-roto e hiahia ana kōrua kia whai i roto i tō kōrua marena, ka pātai atu ki a rāua kei hea rāua e whakatakoto ana i te rohe. Mēnā ka puta he pakanga, kia tuwhera ki ngā kōrero me ngā kōrerorero kia kitea he huarahi waenga, mena ehara ko kōrua anake te tangata e tumanakohia ana kia piko whakamuri.

I ētahi wā ka kore koe e whakatakoto rohe i roto i te marena nā te mea e wehi ana koe ki te ngaro o te whanaungatanga, e wehi ana rānei kei whakahengia koe. Anei te kī. Me whakapau kaha koe ki a koe anō i te tuatahi. Ngāna ki te whakamana i a koe anō i roto i ngā mea iti i te tuatahi, kātahi ka neke atu ki ngā mea nui ake. Tērā pea kāore tō hoa rangatira e whakaae tonu ki ō whakaaro engari ka whakapuaki i ō kare ā-roto me ō whakaaro. Mā te haere tonu, ka whakatūria koe hei tangata whai whakaaro motuhake.

6. Akohia te whakatakoto rohe i roto i te tari

He mea whakamīharo, ko te nuinga o ngā tohunga ngaio, inā koa ko te hunga e mahi ana i ngā ahumahi pēhanga nui pēnei i te hangarau mōhiohio, te pāpāho me te hauora, e whakapono ana ko te nui ake o ngā hāora e pau ana i a rātou ki te mahi, ko te nui ake o tā rātou mahi. Kia tika tā tātou kōrero. Ahakoa te nui o tō whakaaro ki a koe, e kore e whakaute i tō wā ki te kore koe e tango i ngā wā okioki e tika ana māu.

Kia kaha te whakatau kia kaua e whakautu i ngā īmēra mahi i muri i te mahi. Ia tau, tautuhia ngā rā e hiahia ana koe kia noho hararei, ā, tonoa wawetia. He mea tūturu pea te noho roa i te mahi i roto i te kamupene, engari kaua e waiho hei tikanga. Waiho kia noho hei mea rerekē.

An he tauira o ngā rohe kare ā-roto i roto i ngā whanaungatanga ko te wā tēnei e kī atu ai koe ki tō rangatira kāore e tika ana kia mahi tāpiritanga koe kāore he utu nā te mea ka utua koe mō tō wā, ehara i te whakaaro pai o te kamupene.

7. Hangaia he rārangi, ā, tirohia hoki kia tata

Anei tētahi mahi tinihanga. Tuhia he rārangi ingoa o ngā tāngata e tata ana ki a koe i te mahi, i roto hoki i tō whānau. Whakaarohia te hunga e whakaaweawe ana i a koe ki te aha i roto i ia āhuatanga, ā, kimihia ngā wāhi e hiahia ana koe kia pai ake ngā rohe kare ā-roto. Kātahi, tuhia he rārangi ingoa o ngā rohe e hiahia ana koe ki te whakatakoto ki ia tangata.

Kei te haere tō tāne ki te tākaro korowha me te tumanako ka āwhina koe i ngā mahi kāinga a tāu tamaiti? Kōrero atu ki a ia me whai wā koe ki te haere ki te wāhi mirimiri tinana me ō hoa wahine, ā, tonoa ia kia tangohia ngā kawenga a ngā tamariki mō te rā. Whakaaetia ka whakahoki atu koe ina hiahia ia ki te wā hei whakangāwari i a ia anō.

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8. Inoi mō te āwhina, tono mō te wāhi

Ae, ka taea e koe te mahi i ngā mea e rua me te kore e whakama. He maha ngā wā ka nui rawa te whakahīhī o te hunga he iti nei ō rātou rohe kare ā-roto. Ahakoa te āhua nei he whakahē, koinei te mea ka tupu. Kua taunga rawa te wahine kāinga ki te whakaatu he wahine toa ia, ā, ka mahi ia i ngā mea katoa i roto i tōna whare, ka whakapau kaha hoki ki te ngana kia noho hei whaea me hei wahine tino pai.

Tērā pea ka nui rawa te hiahia o tētahi tohunga ki te whakamanawareka i tōna rangatira, ā, ka whakaae rātou ki ngā kawenga katoa ahakoa te utu mō ā rātou mahi. hauora hinengaro. Kaua e pena. Ina raru koe i ngā rohe kino i roto i ngā whanaungatanga kua whakatūria e ētahi atu ki a koe, tonoa he āwhina ina hiahia koe. Ehara koe i te toa Marvel e hiahia ana ki te whakaora i te ao. Tonoa he āwhina ina hiahia koe, ā, me kī "kāo" ina hiahia koe ki tō wāhi. Ka hoki whakamuri rātou.

Ko te ture matua mō te whakatakoto i ngā rohe kare ā-roto pai ko te whakahonore i a koe anō. Ko ngā rohe pai he tohu o te tangata pakeke e mōhio ana ki tāna e hiahia ana mai i te ao. Kaua e whakaiti i tō mana ake ahakoa mō te hunga e tata ana ki a koe. Kimihia tō wāhi, ā, kia pai tō noho ki reira!

Ki te raru koe ki te whakatakoto rohe i roto i tētahi whanaungatanga aroha, i tētahi momo whanaungatanga rānei, ka pāngia pea tō hauora hinengaro. I roto i ēnei āhuatanga, he mea nui te whakatata atu ki tētahi kaiwhakaora hauora hinengaro whai raihana. Bonobology's he rōpū kaiwhakaora hinengaro mātau mā tēnei ka āwhina i a koe ki te whakatau i ngā rohe kāore i a koe, me pēhea hoki te whakatū i aua rohe.

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