Te Tūranga o te Whakaaro Nui ki a Koe Anō i roto i ngā Hononga - Whakamātauria tēnei Whakamātautau hei Aromatawai i tāu i tēnei rā!

"Whakapono ki a koe anō, ā, ka whakapono te ao ki a koe." E whakaata tata ana tēnei kīwaha rongonui i ngā painga o te whakaaro nui ki a koe anō. Heoi anō, he maha ngā tāngata e ora ana i roto i te ao me te whakaaro nui ki a rātou anō kua ngenge, kua pakaru, e pā ana ki ngā āhuatanga katoa o ō rātou ao, tae atu ki ō rātou whanaungatanga piripono. Nō reira, he aha te tūranga o te whakaaro nui ki a koe anō i roto i ngā whanaungatanga? Ā, me pēhea e kitea ai e koe te āhua o tō ahunga whakamua i tēnei taha? 

I roto i tēnei tuhinga, ka kōrerohia e te tohunga hinengaro Pimple Jui (MA i roto i te Hinengaro), he kaiwhakaora hinengaro whai mātauranga mō te Whanoketanga Ā-roto me te tohunga rongoā Bach e tohunga ana ki te tohutohu ipurangi, e tuhituhi ana mō te hononga i waenga i te whakaaro nui ki a koe anō me ngā whanaungatanga, ā, e whakapuaki ana hoki i tētahi whakamātautau aromatawai whakaaro nui ki a koe anō hei āwhina i a koe ki te aromatawai i tāu ake. 

He aha te whakaaro-whaiaro? 

Ko te tikanga whānui o te whakaaro nui ki a koe anō ko te whakaaro nui o te tangata ki a ia anō, he huinga o te whakapono ki a ia anō me te mōhio ki ōna pūkenga me ōna āheinga. Koinei te huarahi e whakaaro ai koe ki a koe anō, me pēhea rānei koe e kite ai i a koe anō. Ki te mea kei te noho haumaru koe, kei te māia ki a koe anō, kei te tika koe i te nuinga o te wā, ā, he tuakiri tōu, ko te tikanga he whakaaro nui tōu ki a koe anō. 

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E ai ki te tohunga hapori a Morris Rosenberg, nāna i whakawhanake te tauine whakaaro nui ki a Rosenberg (RSES), koinei te taputapu e whakamahia whānuitia ana mō te aromatawai i te whakaaro nui ki a ia anō, ko te tangata he nui tōna whakaaro nui ki a ia anō "e whakaaro ana ia he tika ia; kāore pea ia e whakaaro he pai ake ia i ētahi atu". 

Kaore i rite ki te te whaiaro whakahihi e uru ana ki ngā kare ā-roto o te hiranga me te whakaaro nui ki a ia anō, ko te whakaaro nui ki a ia anō e uru ana ki ngā kare ā-roto o te whakapono ki a ia anō me te whakaute ki a ia anō. He mea nui te whakaaro nui ki a ia anō i roto i tō tātou tipu whaiaro me te tipu ngaio, i ā tātou whakatutukitanga, i ngā whanaungatanga, me ētahi atu wāhanga o te ao. 

Ko te hunga whai whakaaro pai ki a rātou anō he pai te tirohanga ki te ao, he māia, he mōhio ki ō rātou kaha me ō rātou ngoikoretanga, he iti ake te pouri mō ngā rā o mua, ā, e noho ana i tēnei wā. I tētahi atu taha, ko te hunga whai whakaaro iti ki a rātou anō he ki tonu i te ruarua, e hiahia ana ki te whakamanawa i ngā mea katoa, e pāngia ana e te koretake, e uaua ana ki te whakapuaki i ō rātou hiahia, ā, i te nuinga o te wā, he tirohanga kino tā rātou ki te ao. 

He hononga tata te whanaketanga o te whakaaro nui ki a ia anō ki ngā wheako o te tamarikitanga me ngā wheako o te tangata kāhua āpitihanga, i runga i te āhua o tō rātou whanaungatanga ki ō rātou mātua, ki te kaitiaki matua rānei. Tērā pea ka rerekē anō hoki i runga i ngā āhuatanga rerekē pēnei i ngā whakatutukitanga mātauranga, ngā mate, te tūnga ōhanga-ōhanga, ngā āheinga tinana, ngā wheako i te kura/mahi, me ētahi atu. 

Te Tūranga o te Whakaute i a Ia Anō i roto i ngā Hononga

He hononga tata anō hoki te whakaaro nui ki a koe anō me ngā whanaungatanga, ahakoa he maha ngā wā kāore tēnei hononga whakamere e arohia ana e ia. Ko tētahi whakamārama māmā hei mārama ki te tūranga o te whakaaro nui ki a koe anō i roto i ngā whanaungatanga ko te mea ka taea e tātou te hoatu aroha ki tētahi atu tangata mēnā ka taea e tātou te aroha me te whakaute i a tātou anō. I roto i tēnei tuhinga, ka tūhuratia e tātou te hononga i waenga i te hauora me te whakaaro nui ki a koe anō me ngā whanaungatanga. 

rangahau kua whakaatuhia e te hunga whai whakaaro hauora ki a rātou anō,

• He hiahia nui tō rātou ki te harikoa ake, ki te pārekareka ki ngā whanaungatanga roa, whai hua hoki me ō rātou hoa.
• Kia wheako i te ngākau māhaki i roto i te ao
• He māia
• Ka taea te whakapuaki i ō rātou hiahia
• Ka taea te tautoko i ō rātou hoa me te kore e wareware ki ō rātou ake hiahia

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He mea nui ēnei mea katoa mō te hanga whanaungatanga aroha hauora, whai hua. Ko tētahi o ngā kitenga o taua rangahau anō ko ngā raruraru whakaaro nui ki a ia anō i roto i ngā whanaungatanga ehara i te mea ka pā ki te tangata e raru ana ki te whakaaro ki a ia anō engari ki ngā taumata makona o tōna hoa.  

Te iti o te whakaaro ki a ia anō e puta mai ana i roto i ngā whanaungatanga

Te iti o te whakaaro ki a ia anō i roto i ngā whanaungatanga He kaupapa rangahau whānuitia tēnei. Ko te whakaaro nui, ko te tangata e raru ana ki te iti o te whakaaro ki a ia anō ka whakaatu i ōna wehi me ōna āwangawanga ki tōna hoa, ā, he maha ngā wā ka hua ake he whanaungatanga koretake, he whanaungatanga koretake, he whanaungatanga whakararuraru rānei. Anei ētahi take e hua ake ai he whanaungatanga kino i te iti o te whakaaro ki a ia anō:

• Te kore o te tuakiri pono: He uaua ki te hunga whai whakaaro iti ki a rātou anō te noho hei tangata tūturu. I ētahi wā ka ngana rātou ki te urutau ki ngā hiahia o ētahi atu, ki te ātaahua ake rānei, ki te pai ake hoki te āhua, me te kore e aro ki ō rātou hiahia me ō rātou kino. He maha ngā wā ka arahi tēnei momo whanonga ki te kore o te ngākau māhaki, ā, i roto i te wā, ka hoha pea rātou ki te noho i runga i ngā hiahia o ētahi atu, ka arahi ki tētahi whanaungatanga ngoikore.
• Ngā āwangawanga me ngā māharahara: He maha ngā wā ka raru te hunga whai whakaaro iti ki a rātou anō i te koretake me te manukanuka, ā, ka pā kino ēnei ki ō rātou whanaungatanga. Tērā pea ka tukuna ngā manukanuka ki tētahi hoa, ka arahi ki tētahi taiao kino whānui. 
• Nga take whakawhirinaki: Waihoki, ko te hunga he iti te whakaaro ki a rātou anō, take whakawhirinaki ā, ka ruarua tonu pea i te pono o tā rātou hoa, ka pā kino ā-tikanga ki te rangimārie o ngā hoa e rua 
• Te kore e taea te aro atu ki ngā whakahē: Ko te iti o te whakaaro ki a ia anō ka hua ake he tino aro ki ngā urupare a ētahi atu. Kāore e taea e ēnei tāngata te aro atu ki ngā urupare kino, ahakoa ngā whakahe tino whai hua. Ka tere te mamae o te ngākau, ā, he maha ngā wā ka ara ake he tautohetohe. Nā ēnei urupare, ka mutu pea te whakapuaki whakaaro o ō rātou hoa ki a rātou, ka puta ake he whakaaro tinihanga i roto i te whanaungatanga. 
• Te kore e taea te whakapuaki i ngā hiahia: Ko te iti o te whakaaro ki a ia anō e tohuhia ana e te kore e taea te whakapuaki i ngā hiahia o te tangata. Mēnā kāore e taea e te hoa rangatira he iti te whakaaro ki a ia anō te whakapuaki i ōna hiahia me te kaha, ka taea e ia te whakararuraru tonu i a ia i roto i te whanaungatanga. Ka taea e tēnei te arahi ki te whakatupu i te riri, ka taea te pupuhi i roto i ngā huarahi kino rawa atu me te iti noa o te whakaoho. 

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I te mea e mōhio ana koe ki ngā take o te whakaaro nui ki a koe anō i roto i ngā whanaungatanga, me pēhea te whakahaere i tētahi whakamātautau tere hei mōhio ki tō whakaaro nui ki a koe anō? 

Hei whakamutunga, ki te mea kei te noho pūmau koe, tō hoa rānei i roto i tētahi whanaungatanga, ā, ka iti te whakaaro ki a koe anō, kaua e mataku ki te rapu āwhina ngaio. Ka taea e te kaiwhakaora hinengaro te āwhina i a koe ki te kite i ngā tauira pēnei i te kōrero kino ki a koe anō, i ngā kōrero rānei e kōrerotia ana e koe ki a koe anō kia noho tonu ai koe i roto i te āhua o te patunga. Ka taea hoki e rātou te ārahi i a koe mō tō momo piripono kore e tau te whakaaro ki a koe anō, ā, ka iti te whakaaro ki a koe anō i roto i tētahi whanaungatanga. Nō reira, kaua e mataku ki te whakapā atu ki a rātou. Tā mātou ngā kaitohutohu mai i te rōpū a Bonobology he paato noa atu. 

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