Kua rongo pinepine mātou mō te tohutohu marena, te tohutohu rānei mō ngā tāne me ngā wāhine. E mōhio ana mātou he mea nui te tohungatanga, ā, he tukanga tēnei mō te wā e ahua pōrearea ana tō marena. Hei whakaora i tō marena, hei whakatika i ētahi raruraru whakawhitiwhiti kōrero, hei tīmata i te oranga hauora o te marena, he kōwhiringa rongonui te tohutohu marena. Engari he aha tonu ngā whāinga motuhake mō te tohutohu marena? He aha tāu e whakatutuki mā te kite i tētahi kaiārahi? Ā, me pēhea te whakaoti i ngā raruraru o tō whanaungatanga?
I ngā tau tata nei, kua whānui haere te whānuitanga o te rongoā mō te marena. Me aro nui ki te kaupapa o te marena. Ehara i te mea ka huri noa te marena i ō taunekeneke me te taiao, engari ka tino huri anō hoki koe hei tangata. He arai anō hoki tēnei tukanga katoa o te manaaki i ngā kare ā-roto o tētahi atu me te tiaki i ō ake kare ā-roto. Ā, ina tīmata te uaua o ngā mea, tera pea ka rite ki te hinganga o ngā mea katoa ki a koe.
Mena kei te pōuri koe i roto i tō marena, kei te whakaaro rānei koe ki te tīmata i te whakaora hinengaro mō ngā tāne me ngā wāhine engari kāore koe i te tino mōhio, kua tae mai koe ki te wāhi tika i tēnei rā. Tērā pea he ahua whakamataku te whakaora hinengaro i te tīmatanga. Ā, ki te mea kāore anō kia rite kōrua ko tō hoa mō tēnei, he pai noa iho. Ka taea tonu e mātou te kōrero atu ki a koe mō te whānuitanga o te whakaora hinengaro mō ngā tāne me ngā wāhine, ā, ka taea e koe te whakatau i muri mai mēnā he pai tēnei māu, kāore rānei.
Me ngā whakaaro o te tohunga hinengaro matua Tākuta Prashant Bhimani (Ph.D., BAMS), he tohunga ki te tohutohu whanaungatanga me te whakaora hinengaro, kua kohikohia e mātou ētahi whāinga e tika ana mō te tohutohu marena. Kei raro nei kua kōrerohia e mātou te kaupapa o te tohutohu marena me pēhea te whakatutuki. Nō reira, whakarerea ō manukanuka katoa, nā te mea ka taea e mātou te whakakore i ō feaa mō ake tonu atu.
Me pēhea te whakatakoto whāinga mō te rongoā mō ngā tokorua?
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He tukanga roa, he tukanga kare ā-roto te tohutohu, kaua e tangohia noatia. Me āta whakatakoto ngā whāinga motuhake mō te tohutohu marena kia tīmata ai tō haerenga ki te mārama ake ki tō hoa, kia tutuki ai hoki he te marena hauoraKa whakatinanahia, ka kauwhautia hoki ēnei whāinga e ngā tohunga hinengaro rongonui hei āwhina i ngā tāne me ngā wāhine ki te wikitoria i ō rātou raruraru.
E whakaatu ana ngā kaiwhakatakoto whakaaro mō ngā tāne me ngā wāhine he rerekē ngā take e pā ana ki ngā tāne me ngā wāhine, koia te take he whāinga motuhake ā rātou mō te wā poto mō te rongoā. He maha ngā kaiwhakatakoto whakaaro mō ngā tāne me ngā wāhine e whakarite ana i ngā whāinga motuhake hei whakatau i ngā raruraru whanaungatanga motuhake. Engari he whānui ngā whāinga e pā ana ki te katoa. He mea noa ētahi e whai ana ngā tāne me ngā wāhine kia tutuki mā te rongoā – te whakawhitiwhiti kōrero pai ake, te whiwhi pūkenga whakaoti rapanga, te ako rānei me pēhea te whakahaere i ngā tautohetohe i runga i te hauora.
Nā John rāua ko Julie Gottman i whakawhanake te Tikanga Gottman mō te tohutohu marena mā te mahi rangahau pūtaiao ki ngā tāne me ngā wāhine e 3,000 i roto i ngā tau 40. ngā kaupapa matua o te huarahi te hiranga o te aromatawai me te whakawhanake i ngā pūkenga ki te whakahaere i ngā pakanga, te wikitoria i ngā arai, te whakanui ake i te māramatanga, te whakatika i ngā mamae o mua, me te whakapai ake i ngā hononga i roto i ngā whanaungatanga.
Nō reira, hei whakatakoto whāinga mō te whakaora i ngā tāne me ngā wāhine, me tīmata mā te titiro ki ngā take motuhake e pā ana ki a rātou, kātahi ka mahi ki te aro atu ki aua take. I roto i tēnei tuhinga, kua rukuhia e mātou te whānuitanga o te whakaora i ngā tāne me ngā wāhine, arā, he huinga whāinga whānui e pā ana ki te nuinga o ngā tāne me ngā wāhine.
He aha ngā whāinga mō te tohutohu mō te marena?
He aha ngā mea e kōrerohia ana e koe i roto i te kaupapa tohutohu mō te marena? He whāinga poto kei roto i te kaupapa whakaora mō ngā tāne me ngā wāhine? He aha rawa te take o te kaupapa whakaora mō ngā tāne me ngā wāhine? Kei te pupū ake pea ēnei pātai i roto i tō hinengaro i a koe e whakatau ana mēnā me whiriwhiri koe i te kaupapa tohutohu mō te marena, kāore rānei.
Kotahi te mea ka taea e mātou te kī atu ki a koe, ko te ārahi a tētahi kaiwhakaora hinengaro mātau ka tino whai hua mō tō marena. Mā ngā aratohu tohutohu marena e hāngai ana ki ō hiahia motuhake, ka taea e tētahi kaiwhakaora hinengaro mātau te ārahi i a koe me tō hoa ki te huarahi tika.
He tika ōu āwangawanga engari kei konei mātou hei whakamarie i a rātou. Mā ēnei tauira 15 o ngā whāinga tohutohu mō te marena, ka mārama ake koe ki te āhua o tēnei tukanga. Nō reira, me tīmata tonu tātou.
1. Me pēhea te whakaharatau i ngā pūkenga whakaoti rapanga
Ko te kaupapa matua o te tīmatanga o te whakaora hinengaro mō ngā tāne me ngā wāhine he ako i ngā pūkenga whakaoti rapanga kia pai ake ai te whakahaere i tō korua whanaungatanga. Nga raru whanaungatanga Ka ara ake ngā rerekētanga i roto i ngā marena ina kore e taea e tātou te mārama ki ngā tirohanga a tētahi atu, ka whakaae he mea maori aua rerekētanga, ka kimi i tētahi otinga tika hei whakatika.
Nō reira, e ai ki a Tākuta Bhimani, me aro nui ngā tāne me ngā wāhine ki te urutau me te whakaae me ngā ringa tuwhera. E mea ana ia, "E tumanako ana mātou kia pērā te āhua o te tangata, engari he rerekē te katoa. Ko te aroha me te hototahi i roto i ngā marena me whakaae me te whakatikatika. Koia te take me whai kaha ngā tāne me ngā wāhine ki te whakatutuki i tēnā, ā, ka āwhina mātou i a rātou ki te whakatutuki i tēnā i roto i ngā wā wānanga."
2. Me pēhea te whakatau i ngā rerekētanga
Ka taea te kī ka taea te whakatau i ngā raruraru katoa o te marena mā te whakawhitiwhiti kōrero matatau me te whai hua. Koinei te huarahi pai rawa atu hei whakatau i ngā rerekētanga o tō whanaungatanga. "Whakaae ki te whakahē", he whakataukī tēnei e whakanuia ana e Tākuta Bhimani i roto i ana wā wānanga tohutohu.
E mea ana ia, "Ahakoa ngā mahi pēnei i te hikoi, te taraiwa roa rānei, ka taea e rātou te waiho i ō koutou mauahara ki te taha. Te whakapau moni wā kounga "Mēnā he pai te kōrero tahi, he wāhanga katoa tēnei o te whakawhitiwhiti kōrero pai. Ahakoa te whakarongo me te aro ki ngā hiahia waiata o tētahi ki tētahi, he otinga whai hua tēnei ki te momotu haere o te hononga. Mā te noho tahi me āu tamariki, me te kōrero atu ki a rātou anō, ka taea hoki te whakakore i te riri, nā te mea ka kitea te tirohanga whānui."
3. Ko ngā akoranga mō te whakahaere riri te kaupapa o te whakaora i ngā tāne me ngā wāhine
Ko te kaupapa matua o te whakaora i ngā hoa faaipoipo he mārama ki te whakahaere pai ake i tō riri, ā, mā tēnā ka matatau ake koe ki te whakatau i ngā raruraru o tō whanaungatanga. He taputapu morearea pea te riri, ka puta ake i ngā momo take. Engari ko te tere o tō hopu i te riri, ko te tere hoki o te pai o tō oranga.
E mea ana a Tākuta Bhimani, "Ina kitea te riri me te pōuri o tō hoa, me ngana koe ki te whakaiti i tō ake riri kia kore ai e puta he āhua wera kua wera kē. Ina riri te tangata, ko te kawenga a tetahi kia noho marino, kia kī atu kia kōrerohia e rāua i muri mai. Ko te whakaaro nui kia kaua e tautohetohe wera koretake, kia kōrerohia i te wā e marino ana te hinengaro o te tokorua."
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4. Te mārama ki ngā take e tīmata ana i te tamarikitanga
Ka taea te kī ko tētahi o ngā whāinga poto mō te whakaora i ngā tāne me ngā wāhine ko te mārama ki ngā take o ngā whanonga pōturi, riri, me ngā whanonga raruraru a ngā hoa e rua i roto i te marena. He mea nui te tīmatanga o te whakaora i ngā tāne me ngā wāhine, nā te mea he maha ngā raruraru o te tamarikitanga ka puta ake i tēnei take. Ka kitea te whakatipu tamarikitanga i roto i ngā momo taunekeneke maha i a tātou e pakeke ana.
Ina kite te tamaiti ngāwari ki te whakaaweawe i ngā tautohe a ngā mātua, kua maha ngā wā kua pāngia ia e ngā raruraru maha. nga hapa a nga matua, ka whakauru pea rātou i aua tauira, ka whai i roto i tō rātou ake oranga marena. Tērā pea ka tipu ake te tangata hei tangata kaha ake te whawhai, ka whakaatu i te nui o ngā āwangawanga, ā, tera pea ka puta ake ngā kiore pērā i te ngau i ngā whao.
He mea nui kia mārama ehara i te mea ngāwari te wetewete i tēnei āhuatanga o te tuakiri o te tangata. Heoi, he mea tino nui te aro atu ki tēnei āhuatanga mā te kōrero me te tuwhera i roto i te rongoā hinengaro, me te tuku tika i taua kaha. Ko te mōhio ka puta he raruraru nui tēnei, ko tētahi o ngā whāinga nui o te rongoā hinengaro mō ngā tāne me ngā wāhine.
5. Kei roto i te whānuitanga o te rongoā marena te huarahi ki te kōrero me te whakarongo pai
Ko te whāinga matua o te kaunihera marena ko te whakapakari i ngā pūkenga kōrero. Ehara i te mea ko ngā raruraru o nāianei pēnei i te hoha, te te ngākau māhaki i roto i te whanaungatanga engari he pūkenga e whai hua tonu ana i roto i tō oranga marena. Inaa, ka taea hoki te whai hua i roto i ō taunekeneke me ētahi atu tāngata. He mea nui te pūkenga whakarongo pai i roto i ngā momo whakawhitiwhiti kōrero katoa.
Hei whakatipu i tētahi whanaungatanga hauora, me aro nui, me hiahia hoki te tangata ki te whakarongo ki tā rātou hoa. Ka noho kino te whanaungatanga ina pakaru te whakawhitiwhiti kōrero. Heoi anō, he mea nui kia mōhio koe ki te whakapuaki i ō tautohetohe kia taea ai te whakapuaki i tō ake tūnga mō tētahi āhuatanga, me te whakaae hoki ki ngā kare ā-roto o tō hoa.
"E tumanako ana mātou kia mārama ngā hoa rangatira tetahi ki tetahi, engari me mārama te kōrero a te tangata, me te whakapuaki hoki i ō rātou whakaaro mā te kupu. Ehara te whawhai, te totohe, te pōuri rānei i te huarahi whai hua hei whakatau i tētahi āhuatanga. Me mārama te kōrero, me tuwhera te hinengaro," te kī a Tākuta Bhimani. He mutunga kore te mana o ngā kupu, ā, me āta whakamahi kia whai hua ai ngā kōrero i roto i tō marena.
6. Me pēhea te arotake i runga i te whai hua
E ai ki te kōrero i mua ake nei, he mana mutunga kore tō ngā kupu, inā koa i roto i te whanaungatanga. Inaianei ka puta ake ngā whakahē i roto i ō tātou rerekētanga ki te tangata, ehara i te mea ka taea e tātou te whakakore noa, te mea rānei me whakakore noa. He mea nui te whakahē whai hua hei tātari i ngā mea e kino ai te whanaungatanga, ā, hei whakatika i tēnā i te katoa.
Nō reira, he mea nui te noho marino, te arotahi me ngā taringa tuwhera hei whakatau i ō raruraru me te whakapuaki i ngā mea e whakararuraru ana i a koe mō tō hoa. "Tukua rātou kia tino mārama ki tō tirohanga, kia tukua hoki rātou kia whakapuaki i ō rātou kare ā-roto. He mea nui tō whakahe engari me whai whakaaro anō hoki ki tā rātou urupare ki tō whakahe," te kī a Tākuta Bhimani.
Tērā pea ka whakaaro koe ehara te kākahu e mau ana tō hoa i te mea pai rawa atu māna. He tika te whai i taua whakaaro. Engari me pēhea te whakapuaki? Koinei te mea me ako e koe, ā, kei roto i te whānuitanga o te rongoā marena.
7. Me pēhea te whakakore i ngā kupu mamae
Kei roto hoki i te whānuitanga o te rongoā marena te matapaki i ngā pakanga o mua me ngā amuamu whaiaro. He maha ngā wā, i ētahi wā ahakoa he take kāore e pā ana, ka mahi, ka kōrero rānei tātou i ngā mea kāore pea i te tino whakaarohia e tātou. Ka whakaatu wawe tātou i ngā pakanga o roto i ngā huarahi kāore i te tika, ā, ka tukuna ō tātou ake kare ā-roto me ō tātou kare ā-roto ki ō tātou hoa.
Ahakoa kāore e taea te karo katoa i ēnei āhuatanga nā te uaua o te katoa, he mea nui kia whakapāha pono ā muri ake nei, ka kōrerotia whānuitia. Ina hoatu e tātou he wā ki a tātou anō ki te whakaaroaro me te tukatuka i ō tātou kare ā-roto i runga i te taumata whaiaro, ka nui ake te mohio me te ngākau o ā tātou kōrero me ā tātou whakapāha i muri mai, nā te mea kua pahemo te tai o te riri tae noa ki taua wā.
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8. Te mārama ki te wā i heke ai te whanaungatanga
Koinei tētahi o ngā tauira tino nui o ngā whāinga tohutohu mō te marena. Ina tomo koutou ki te tari o te kaitohutohu, ko te mea tuatahi pea mā koutou katoa e mahi ko te wetewete me te mārama ki te tīmatanga o ngā hapa. Tērā pea ka pā mai ngā wā pōuri ki tētahi whanaungatanga, ki tētahi marena rānei i roto i tōna wā. Ehara i te mea hei āwangawanga nui māu, engari me mōhio wawe kia taea ai e koe te tere ake te whiti i te wā e pahemo ana.
Hei tangata, ehara i te mea ka tino tika ngā mahi katoa a tātou. Tērā pea ka ahua ngoikore ō marena, engari mēnā ka taea e koe te tautuhi tika i te pūtake o ngā raruraru, me te whakarite i tētahi ara hei whakatere i aua raruraru, ka... ka taea e te marena te kaha ake atu ake.
Ka taea te whai hua o te whakaora i ngā tāne me ngā wāhine ina whakaae ngā hoa e rua kei te raru tetahi. Ko ētahi o ngā tohu mō te ngoikore o ngā whanaungatanga, e ai ki a Tākuta Prashant Bhimani, ko te kore kōrero, te maroke o ngā taunekeneke, te pukuriri, te heke o ngā whanaungatanga moepuku, te kore e pai ki te haere tahi, me ngā taupatupatu maha.
9. Me pēhea te whakakore i te whakaaro kino
"He mea nui te hoatu wāhi manawa pai tetahi ki tetahi i roto i ngā wā whakawhitiwhiti kōrero mō te marena. Heoi anō, he mea tēnei e kore e arohia e ngā tāne me ngā wāhine. Ka whakaaetia ētahi atu kia whai kare ā-roto kāore e pā ki ō tātou kare ā-roto. Ki te kore tēnei māramatanga ka taea te waihanga i tētahi āhuarangi tino whakararuraru mō ngā hoa tokorua," te kī a Tākuta Bhimani.
He mea whakarite takitahi te tangata. Nō reira, ina uaua te āhua, me whakaaroaro takitahi, me waahi whaiaro He mea nui ēnei hei waihanga i tētahi wāhi pai ake i roto i tō whanaungatanga. Heoi anō, he maha ngā āhuatanga kino ka puta mai i tā tātou ake whakaaturanga i ngā kare ā-roto me ngā āwangawanga.
Ka tāpiri atu a Tākuta Bhimani, "Ahakoa he karere WhatsApp auau kāore i whakautua e tō hoa, engari ka kitea e koe ngā tohu kikorangi, ka taea e koe te pouri. Koinei te āhua kino e ngokingoki haere mai ana. He rerekē te ao tūturu i ō tātou whakaaro me ngā ariā, ā, me tuku e tātou ki ō tātou hoa te painga o te ruarua kia kore ai e puta ngā whakaaro kino. Koinā tētahi o ngā whāinga mō te kaiārahi marena."
10. Ko te kī "Ngā mihi" tētahi o ngā whāinga poto mō te whakaora i ngā tāne me ngā wāhine
"He wāhanga iti noa iho te whakaatu i te whakawhetai hei whakaatu i tō whakaute nui ki tō hoa. Me mahi tēnei e ngā hoa e rua i roto i te whanaungatanga i ngā wā katoa. Heoi, kāore i te kitea tēnei i ngā wāhi tuawhenua o Īnia. Kāore te hunga i ngā tāone iti e hiahia ana ki te kī "Ngā mihi" nā te mea he maha ngā whānau tāne e whakahawea ana ki ngā wāhine."
"Heoi, kei te tīmata te rerekētanga o ngā whanaungatanga i ngā tāone nui. Kei te nui ake te whakaute me te mihi ki ngā wāhine, ā, ko te whakapuaki i ō rātou whakawhetai he mahi e whakatinanahia ana e rātou, e maiohahia ana hoki," te kī a Tākuta Bhimani. He mahi ngāwari te mihi i ētahi wā, engari he mea tino nui i roto i te whanaungatanga. Ko tētahi o ngā whāinga poto mō te whakaora i ngā tāne me ngā wāhine ko te ako ki te whakapuaki i te whakawhetai me te maioha mō ngā mahi a tētahi ki tētahi.
11. Ngā tauira o ngā whāinga tohutohu mō te marena – Te whakahoki mai i te whanaungatanga piripono
Kāore e oti te mahi tohutohu mō ngā tāne me ngā wāhine ki te kore e aro ki te whanaungatanga piripono i waenganui i te tāne me te wāhine. Ka tino whakarihariha ngā wā maroke, ahakoa he aroha, he moepuku noa iho rānei. He mea nui rawa ngā whanaungatanga moepuku mō ngā tāne me ngā wāhine taitamariki me ngā tāne pakeke.
E whakamārama ana a Tākuta Bhimani, "Ko te tikanga, ko te aro nui o ngā tāne ki te taha tinana o ngā whanaungatanga, ko ngā wāhine ia e aro nui ana ki ngā taha kare ā-roto. Engari me taurite te whakawhitiwhiti kōrero i waenganui i ngā mea e rua, he rite tonu te hiranga o ngā mea e rua. Koinei te kī ki te whakatutuki i te pai." hototahi ai me te pupuri i tētahi oranga marena hauora.”
Me ārahi ngā tohunga hinengaro i ngā tāne me ngā wāhine ki te whai wāhi ki tētahi "wā mō tātou" kounga, kaua ki te "wā mōku anake". Ko tētahi atu mea nui e whakanuia ana i te wā whakaora i ngā tāne me ngā wāhine ko te mahi whakawhitiwhiti kōrero ā-ira tangata. "Me nui ake te taunekeneke nā te mea he maha ngā tāne me ngā wāhine kāore e kōrero i te wā e moe ai, ā, e karo ana hoki i te takaro i mua i te moe. Me whai hoki te takaro i mua i te moe me muri i te takaro," te tāpiri a Tākuta Bhimani.
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12. Te mahi i runga i te whakahoahoa
I te tīmatanga o te whakaora hinengaro mō ngā tāne me ngā wāhine, kia mōhio koe koinei tētahi o ngā mea nui ka ako koe ki te mahi. "I ngā wā o mua, ehara te whakahoahoa i te mea nui i roto i ngā marena, engari i ēnei rā, he mea nui kia whai hua te marena. He nui atu i te wehewehe noa i ngā kawenga me te whakawhitiwhiti kare ā-roto te marena. Kia waiho ai hei wheako ngākau nui, whānui hoki, me noho te whanaungatanga i waenganui i te tokorua," te kī a Tākuta Bhimani.
Ahakoa te pakeke o kōrua ko tō hoa, i ētahi wā ka hiahiatia he wairua takaro, he wairua hoa hoki mō te oranga tautoko. E kore rawa te ngahau, te kōrero pōhewa rānei e kino ki tētahi whanaungatanga i roto i tō kōrua ao. He aha e kore ai e mahi tahi me te tangata e arohaina ana e koe, ko ia hoki tō hoa rangatira?
13. Me pēhea te whakapāha me te muru i te hara a tō hoa
Ngā tautohetohe me ngā tautohetohe whanaungatanga ka noho tonu te whanaungatanga i waenganui i te tokorua. Hei tangata, he mea maori te whakahē me te tiaki. Engari ko te mea e whai hua ai te wheako ko te huarahi e ako ai te tokorua ki te wikitoria me te karo i aua rerekētanga kia hoki ai ki te tūranga pai i roto i tō rāua whanaungatanga.
Ki te hiahia koe ki te marena, ki te whakaae hoki ki tētahi i roto i tō ao, me manaaki koe i ō rerekētanga me ō āhuatanga katoa. I runga anō i te āhuatanga, ahakoa ko tō wā ki te piko i te turi, ki te pōuri rānei, me mahi koe i tēnei me te aroha nui me te manaaki. Koinei tētahi o ngā tauira matua o ngā whāinga tohutohu marena.
"Ki te kore koe e whakamahi i te murunga hara i roto i tō whanaungatanga, ko te tikanga kāore koe e whakaae ana ki te tangata kē. Me rite hoki koe ki te whakarerekē i a koe anō, me te whakatika i ngā hapa ina he tetahi mea. Koia te mea nui kia mōhio koe ki te whakapāha ki tō hoa," te whakamārama a Tākuta Bhimani.
14. Kia mārama ki ngā momo tuakiri me ā rātou momo mahi
He rerekē te tipu ake o tātou katoa, ā, he rerekē hoki ō tātou wheako. Ko tō tātou ahurei te mea e ātaahua ai tātou ki ētahi atu. Engari he maha ngā wā, ko te nui rawa o te ahurei, o ngā rerekētanga rānei, ka whakararu i te oranga o ia rā. Ko te mārama ki ngā rerekētanga tētahi o ā tātou whāinga matua mō te kaunihera marena.
"He mea tūturu ngā momo tuakiri rerekē. Engari he mea nui ake te whakawhanake i tētahi māramatanga pai. He aha tātou me ngana ai ki te hanga i tētahi atu tangata kia rite ki a tātou anō? Me hoatu e tātou ki a rātou te mana ki te noho ko rātou anō. Koinei te māramatanga pono i roto i te marena. Me whakaae hoki tātou ki a rātou, me te mahi i te mahi tahi pai i waenga i ngā momo tuakiri e rua. Koinei te mea me ako pai e te tokorua i roto i te rongoā," te kī a Tākuta Bhimani.
15. Ko te whakawhanake i tētahi pūnaha uara ngātahi te kaupapa o te whakaora i ngā tāne me ngā wāhine
E kī ana a Tākuta Bhimani ki a tātou, "He 'āhua marena' tō ia marena. He mea nui ake te pūnaha uara ki te tangata, ā, he mea e huri haere tonu ana. He rerekē te āhua o ia marena. He rerekē ētahi tāne me ngā wāhine ngā marena tuwhera ko ētahi ia he tino pakari ki ngā whakaaro pēnei i te pono.”
Mena kua kōrero hōhonu ngā tāne me ngā wāhine mō te momo āhua e tumanakohia ana mō tā rāua marena, me ngāwari noa iho ngā mea katoa. Ka taea e te rongoā marena te āwhina i ngā tāne me ngā wāhine ki te whakaatu i taua āhua ki a rāua anō.
Nō reira, ka taea e tātou te whakaae tino ka taea e ēnei āhuatanga o runga ake nei te whakamahi hei rārangi arowhai hei aromatawai i ngā āhuatanga matua o tō marena. Ahakoa he āhua motuhake, he haerenga me ngā raruraru o ia marena, he iti noa ngā huarahi noa hei whakapai ake i te wheako hei whakapuaki ki tō hoa rangatira.
Mena kei te tīmata noa koe i te whakaora i ngā tāne me ngā wāhine, kei te whakaaro rānei koe ki te whakamahi, ko te tumanako kua mārama kē koe ki ngā mea hei tumanako atu māu. Heoi anō, kia ora tō haerenga. Mena kāore anō kia arotahi koe ki tētahi kaiwhakatakoto whakaaro, ka taea e mātou te whakaoti i taua raruraru i konei tonu. He rōpū kaiwhakaora hinengaro pūkenga a Bonobology, he iti noa iho te hunga e mahi ana i tēnei mahi. pawhiri atu hei whakatau i ō raruraru katoa mō te marena.
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Ko ētahi o ngā whāinga pai mō te marena ko te whakawhanake i ngā pūkenga whakaoti rapanga me te whakatau tautohe, te arotake i ngā whakaaro pai me te karo i ngā kupu whara, te whakapakari i te whanaungatanga me te whanaungatanga piripono, te kī "ngā mihi" me te "aroha" i ngā wā katoa. He mea nui anō hoki te mārama ki ngā take e ahu mai ana i te tamarikitanga.
Te nui o te he marena angitu kei te hanga whakawhirinaki me te māramatanga, kei te tohatoha i ngā kawenga me te tautoko tetahi i tetahi. Me tuwhera tonu ngā huarahi whakawhitiwhiti kōrero, ā, me whai hononga ā-hinengaro me te ā-tinana.
Me pātai atu koe ki tō kaiwhakatakoto whakaaro mō te marena me pēhea e taea ai e koe te whakatau i ngā raruraru o tō kōrua marena, kia kaha ake ai. Me tono atu ki tō kaiwhakatakoto whakaaro kia hoatu he aratohu me ngā whāinga mō te tohutohu marena kia taea ai e kōrua te whakatutuki i ia taahiraa.
E ai ki te American Association of Marriage and Family Therapy (AAMFT) paetukutuku he rite tonu te whai huatanga o te whakaora i te marena me te whānau, ā, i ētahi wā he nui ake te whai huatanga, i ngā maimoatanga paerewa me/ranei takitahi. E kī ana a AAMFT e 98% o ngā kiritaki o ngā kaiwhakaora i te marena me te whānau e kī ana he pai, he tino pai rānei ngā ratonga whakaora.
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