He rite tonu te ahua o te whakaipoipo i te wā e noho ana koe hei whaea takakau ki tētahi mara maina. Tērā pea kei te pouri tonu koe i te wehenga, kei te āwangawanga rānei koe kei tukua e koe tētahi atu tangata ki roto i te oranga o āu tamariki i muri i te wehenga raruraru. Āe, kāore he hiahia ki te tere, ā, he mea pai tonu kia ata noho, kia atawhai hoki ki a koe anō.
Ko te aroha ki a koe anō ka waiho hei mahi māu, ina koa kei te pukumahi koe ki te ringihia te aroha mutunga kore hei whaea takakau. Kua tino pukumahi koe ki te whakakī i te tangata ngaro i roto i te oranga o āu tamariki, ā, kāore e puta ake te whakaaro ki te whakaipoipo. Tērā pea ka whakaaro koe he mea papai, he moemoeā tawhiti rānei, i runga i ō kaupapa mahi o nāianei. Engari whakapono mai, ka pai ake. Me tuku e koe ngā mea kia tau ki tōna wāhi tika, ā, ina tau, ka tika te tatari.
Ina rite koe ki te hoki ki te kēmu, ka nui rawa ō whakaaro, ā, ka puta ake pea he maha ngā pātai me te āwangawanga i muri mai. Me pēhea koe e tūtaki ai ki tētahi ina he mātua takakau koe? Me pēhea rānei koe e hoki ai ki te whakaipoipo hei whaea takakau?
He waimarie mō mātou, i taea e mātou te whakapā atu ki ētahi whaea takakau taitamariki mohio, ngaro hoki, i atawhai mai ki te whakapuaki mai i ō rātou wheako me ā rātou haerenga ki a mātou. Heoi anō, ko te whai huatanga o tēnei mea te mea e akiaki ana i a koe, ehara i te ariā noa iho, kāore? Anei tētahi tirohanga ki ngā kōrero a Pooja Sharma, he kaituhi purongo me te kaitohutohu ihirangi, he whaea takakau hoki ki tētahi tamaiti 12-tau te pakeke, mō te hohoro ki te mahi i tētahi mea i muri i te whakarere:
"Tukua ō ake kare ā-roto i te tuatahi. Ka taka te whanaungatanga kei te aratau whakaora ki te tauira kotahi - ahakoa he whanaungatanga tahi, he tukino, me ētahi atu. Ki te kore koe e wehe atu i te tauira, ka taka anō koe ki roto. Hoatu taua ārai ki a koe anō kia ora ai, ā, kia mahara, ko te wikitoria i tētahi whanaungatanga tawhito he rite ki te pouri, me whai wā."
Nō reira, kia mōhio kei runga koe i te tangata kāore e taea te maioha ki tō āhua whakamiharo ina rite koe ki te rapu anō i a Mr. Right.
Nā, me waiho te ruarua katoa i waho o te tatau, i a mātou e ngana ana ki te whakautu i ō pātai katoa mō te huarahi ki te whakaipoipo hei whaea takakau me te kore āwhina! Ka oati mātou kia pono, kia mata hoki ki te āwhina i a koe ki te whiriwhiri i te huarahi tika. Ka taea te whakaipoipo hei whaea takakau, ā, koinei te huarahi:
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He uaua te hoki anō ki te whakaipoipo hei whaea takakau. Heoi anō, kei te wehewehe pea koe i waenga i tō mahi me tō tiaki tamariki. He nui te mahi ki te heu i ō waewae/ringa mō tētahi tāne noa i te wharekai, kāore? Kei te pātai pea koe ki a koe anō mēnā he pai te waiho i tāu tamaiti ki te kāinga hei whakautu i ngā pātai whakaipoipo tuatahi a tētahi tāne tauhou.
Āe, ki te kore koe e whakamātau, e kore rawa koe e mōhio. Ka mōhio koe?
Engari e mārama ana mātou – ehara te whakaipoipo hei whaea takakau i te mea ngāwari. Heoi, ki te whakatau koe ki te hoki anō ki te rapu hoa, kua kohia e mātou he aratohu hoa hei pupuri māu. Te whakaipoipo hei whaea takakau? Kei a koe mātou i te huarahi katoa.
1. Hoatu he wa mo koe
Me pēhea te tīmata ki te whakaipoipo hei whaea takakau, e whakaaro ana koe? I oati mātou kia pono, kāore? Nō reira, ka tohutohu mātou kia ata noho koe. Ina koa mēnā kei te whakaipoipo koe hei whaea takakau i muri i te wehenga, i te wehenga kino rānei, kāore he aha kia kaua e tere ki te whakaipoipo tonu.
E whakaatu ana tētahi rangahau o te tau 2019 he maha ngā wāhine i whakaaro kē ki te whakaipoipo i te tīmatanga o te wehenga, ā, e 65% i kī i tīmata rātou ki te whakaipoipo i roto i te tau tuatahi. Ahakoa he mea whakahihiri te hoki ki te whakaipoipo, kia rite koe mō tēnā. Kia maumahara, kaua e hiahia ki te tere.
Kia tino mohio kei roto i tō hinengaro he pūrākau aroha e tatari ana ki a koe. Whakauru atu ki ētahi o ngā mahi whakaora i muri i te wehenga, kātahi ka whakaaro ki te hoki ki te whakaipoipo. Ahakoa kāore koe i puta noa mai i te wehenga, engari kei te raru koe ki ngā āhuatanga tūturu o te whakaipoipo hei whaea takakau me te pēpi, he pai tonu te whakaaro ki ngā āhuatanga kē atu o tō oranga, i mua i te hoki anō ki te whakaipoipo.
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E whakaae ana te rōia me te whaea takakau a Laila Zafar, me tana kī, "Me tino ora tātou i ngā mamae o mua kia kore ai tātou e hoki anō ki ngā tauira, kia taea ai hoki te kukume mai i ngā hoa pai ake. Ki taku whakaaro ehara i te mea kino te noho takakau mō tētahi wā i muri i te whakarere, i te wehenga rānei - ka hoatu he wā ki a tātou kia marino ai te ruarua i roto i ō tātou hinengaro."
"E mōhio ana ahau ki tētahi whaea takakau, i tīmata tana whakaipoipo i mua i tana wehenga, ā, kāore anō ia kia ora i te mutunga o tana marena. Ehara i te mea miharo, ko ōna raruraru katoa he whakaata i ngā wāhanga o tōna hītori pakaru kāore anō kia ora. Kāore au i te mārama he aha ia i mahi tonu ai i tēnei ki a ia anō, engari e tohutohu tonu ana ahau ki ngā whaea takakau kia noho tawhiti atu i ngā whanonga kino ki a rātou anō ka huri hei whanaungatanga kino ," te tāpiri a Laila.
2. I te wā e whakaipoipo ana koe hei whaea takakau: Kaua e whakama, tēnā
Me pēhea te whakaipoipo hei whaea takakau me te kore āwhina? Āe, hei tīmatanga - kaua e whakahe i a koe anō. He uaua ētahi rā, he māmā ake ētahi.
Mā te whakaipoipo anō hei whaea takakau ka taka pea koe ki roto i te puna o te hara. Ko koe te kaitiaki matua mō āu tamariki – me pēhea mēnā ka tangohia koe e te whakaipoipo hei whaea takakau mā te whiriwhiri kia matara atu i a rātou? He aha ngā pānga roa ka pā mai? Wareware atu! He tino māmā ake te noho i roto i ō PJ me ngā tamariki i a koe e kai ana i te pata pīnati tika mai i te ipu, tika? He hē.
Me whakarērea e koe te hara, e hine. Kei a koe te tika ki te whakaipoipo, ki te aroha, ki te hanga i tētahi oranga hou mōu ake. Kāore tēnei e waiho hei whaea kino mōu. Inaa, ka hoatu he tirohanga hauora ki āu tamariki mō te mahi mātua. Ko te whakawhirinaki nui o ngā tamariki ki ō rātou mātua, ki te whakawhirinaki rānei ki ō rātou mātua, ka kino pea, ka kore hoki e whai hua. He whakatau pai pea te whakaipoipo hei whaea takakau.
E mea ana a Laila, "Ko taku tohutohu ki ngā māmā takakau e hiahia ana ki te whakaipoipo, ki te piri anō rānei ki tētahi hoa hou, kia mārama, kia whakaae hoki he rerekē rawa ngā take o te whakaipoipo hei tangata takakau me te whakaipoipo hei mātua takakau. Hei māmā takakau, me whakarērea e tātou ngā whakaaro pohehe katoa mō te whakaipoipo, me te ako i ngā rohe whanaungatanga hou mō ngā tāngata e tūtaki ana tātou, e whakaipoipo ana rānei, nā te mea kei a tātou ngā tamariki inaianei. Kia whakaaetia tēnei e tātou, ā, kia taea ai te wehewehe i ō tātou oranga, ka māmā ake ngā mea."
3. Whakaarohia ngā mea e kore e taea e koe te whakakore i ō whakaaetanga
Me pēhea te tīmata i te whakaipoipo hei whaea takakau? Kaua e moumou taima ki ngā mea me ngā tāngata e mōhio ana koe kāore e pai mōu. Ki te tohe tonu tō hoa aroha kāore ia i te pai ki ngā tamariki, kaua e moumou taima ki te whakatenatena i a rātou kia kaua e pērā. Ki te tino hiahia koe ki te ara wawe kia taea ai e koe te whakarite parakuihi mā āu tamariki, rapua tētahi e hiahia ana ki te tautoko i a koe.
Me pēhea te whakaipoipo hei whaea takakau, kāore he āwhina? Mā te whakaipoipo i tētahi tāne, ehara i te tama. He whaea takakau koe, ā, he pukumahi tonu koe. Ahakoa he mea iti noa iho pēnei i te hiahia ki te whakamahana i tētahi tau, kia tūpato ki tēnā, kaua hoki e moumou taima ki tētahi tangata kāore e aro!
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Ki a Pooja, ko te pono te mea nui. "Ki te mea kāore au e taea te pono mō taku whakarere, mō aku tamariki, mō aku raruraru hauora rānei, e mōhio ana ahau kāore au i te taha o te tangata tika. Ā, i tō rātou mutunga hoki, ki te kore e taea e rātou te whakapuaki mai i ō rātou āhua pono ki ahau, he aha mātou i pēnei ai? He tangata kōrero hohonu hoki ahau – me kōrero tuwhera, me kōrero auau hoki ahau . Nō reira, ko te kōrero me te whakapuaki he mea tino whakararu i te whakaaetanga," tana kī.
E whakaae ana mātou, e Pooja! Mā te kōrero me te whakawhitiwhiti kōrero ka ea te haurua o ō tātou raruraru whanaungatanga katoa. Ko te whakawhitiwhiti kōrero te mea nui.
4. Te whakaipoipo hei whaea takakau? Kia mōhio rātou ki āu tamariki
Ahakoa he tino mārama te ahua o tēnei tohutohu, he pono, he uaua te whakaipoipo hei whaea takakau. Ā, he ngāwari te mataku ki te kawe i āu tamariki ki tētahi whakaipoipo. Kāore koe e hiahia ki te hamama i mua i a rātou i te wā tonu ka tūtaki ai kōrua, engari he mea pai kia whakahuatia i te whakaipoipo tuatahi tonu (i ngā karere tuatahi rānei, mēnā kei te whakaipoipo tuihono koe ).
Ina hoki koe ki te whakaipoipo hei whaea takakau me te pēpi, kaua e wareware ko āu tamariki te wāhanga nui o tō oranga, tō kaupapa mahi, tō oranga aroha, ā, he maha ngā mea ka whakatauhia e taua wāhanga o tō oranga. Kaua e mataku. Ki te whakaaro tō hoa kāore te whaea takakau i te tino ātaahua, he mate tēnā mō rātou!
5. Whakaarohia te whakaipoipo ipurangi
Me pēhea te tūtaki ki tētahi ina he mātua takakau koe? Nō reira, kei a koe pea ō rōpū māmā me ngā rōpū kura, ā, ko te tumanako he maha ngā rōpū tautoko māmā takakau. Engari kua whakaarohia e koe te whakaipoipo ipurangi? He maha ngā taupānga whakaipoipo māmā takakau hei āwhina i a koe ki te rapu i ngā tāngata e hiahia ana koe, i runga i ō āhuatanga.
E whakaatu ana tētahi rangahau e 44% o ngā wāhine e whakaipoipo ana i runga ipurangi he māmā takakau. Waihoki, e 76% o ngā māmā takakau e whakahua ana i ā rātou tamariki, e tuku whakaahua ana rānei i a rātou ki ā rātou kōtaha.
Nō reira, he huarahi pai tēnā hei whakaatu i a koe anō, me te whakamōhio atu hoki ki ngā hoa aroha pea he tamariki āu. Ā, ko te tumanako, kei reira ētahi tāne ātaahua e whakatipu ana i ā rātou ake tamariki. Tērā pea kei te whakaipoipo koe i tētahi pāpā takakau hei whaea takakau. Tērā pea kei te whakawhitiwhiti kōrero koe mō te kaitiaki tamariki me te kōrero mō ngā tūponotanga o te noho hei mātua takakau me te tāne o ō moemoeā i tō kōrua whakaipoipo tuatahi!
He raruraru te whakaipoipo ipurangi mā Laila. I a ia e kōrero ana mō ētahi o ngā mahi tino whakakatakata, e kī ana ia, "Engari, i te wā o te mate urutā, i tīmata taku haerenga ki te whakaipoipo ipurangi, nō reira kāore au i taea te haere ki ngā whakaipoipo tinana. I tino ohorere ahau i aku whanonga whakaipoipo hou. I muri i taku wehenga me te mea he mātua takakau ahau, kua kite ahau he nui ake taku tumanako mai i aku whanaungatanga, ahakoa he iti noa te haki whero e puta mai ana, ka mutu taku mahi."
"I reira tētahi tangata, he āhua pai ia, engari i tino hiahia rawa ia. I mea ia 'Aroha ana ahau ki a koe' i te rua o ngā rā o taku kōrero! Ā, i muri i taku kīnga atu kāo, ka haere tonu tana kōrero, nō reira me tuku atu e au! I hiahia tētahi atu tangata ki te tono tīkiti me te haere mai ki tōku tāone i te wiki i muri i te taunga! E mārama ana ahau ki taku āwangawanga mō te mōhio nui me te whanonga a te tangata whaiwhai," tāna tāpiri kaha.
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"I reira tētahi atu tāne, nō ōku rā tuatahi o Bumble," te mahara o Laila. "I tono ia kia mārena māua i muri tonu i te taunga, ā, i taku whakakorenga, he maha āna kupu kanga. Nō muri mai ka tukuna mai e ia ngā whakaahua o tana marena, me te kī, "I ngaro koe!"
"Ko tāku i tino pai ko tēnei tangata he tino ataahua te tuhituhi i tana kōrero mō tōna oranga, engari i te tīmatanga o tā māua kōrero, i tino mōhio ahau kāore i a ia te reo hei tuhituhi. Ā, i taku pātai atu ki a ia, ka whakaae ia i tāruatia e ia mai i te kōrero mō tōna oranga o tētahi atu! Nō reira, i te mea kua ako ahau i ētahi rohe me te whakaute i a au anō, kāore i kino katoa te wheako, engari ko te korenga o ngā kōwhiringa ka taea te whai," te kata a Laila.
6. Kōrero ki ngā tamariki
Kei te pakeke o āu tamariki tēnei, engari ki te tika tēnei, tukua rātou kia pātai. He maha ngā pātai me ngā mataku o ngā taiohi, ina koa ko ngā tamariki kei raro iho i te tau rangatahi, mō te hoki anō o tō rātou māmā ki te whakaipoipo.
Mena kei te whakaipoipo koe hei whaea takakau i muri i te wehenga, ki te mea rānei kua pouaru koe, tera pea ehara tēnei i te kōrero ngāwari, ina koa kua pakeke āu tamariki ki te maumahara ki tō rātou pāpā, ki te mea rānei kei te mātua tahi koe me tētahi o ō hoa o mua.
Kaua e huna i te meka kei te whakaipoipo anō kōrua. Kōrero ki āu tamariki, kia pono, kia whakamanawa atu hoki ki a rātou ka noho tonu koe hei whaea mō rātou. I taua wā anō, kia u tonu ki te meka e tika ana kia harikoa koe, kia whiwhi hoki i ngā momo aroha rerekē i roto i tō koiora. Ehara i te mea ka iti iho tō aroha ki āu tamariki, engari, ina whakaipoipo koe hei whaea takakau mā te whiriwhiri, ka taea e koe te whakawhānui ake i tō ngākau me tō porowhita o ngā tāngata, he iti noa iho.
"Kei te momo tuwhera kē tōu ki āu tamariki, tō rātou māramatanga me te nui o te kanorau kei roto i ō rātou oranga," te whakamārama a Pooja. "Kua pānui kē rātou, kua mōhio rānei ki ngā whare mātua kotahi me ērā atu? Mena ko ngā whānau tāne-wahine-tamaiti anake e mārama ana ki a rātou, kāore he horopaki hei mārama ki tō whanaungatanga hou."
"Nō nā tata nei, i pātai mai taku tamaiti 12-tau te pakeke mō tētahi rangatira. I tino mārama taku kōrero ki a ia, ā, e kore ahau e pai ki te noho tahi me tētahi tangata kāore i te tino pono ki āna tamariki," te tāpiri a Pooja.
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7. Kia ngahau ki te taatai
Kua tae ki te wā mō te kōrero! Hei tauira, kei te whakaipoipo koe hei whaea takakau e noho tahi ana me ngā mātua. Kāore he nui o te tūmataitinga mōu ake. He whakamataku pea te kawe mai i tētahi tāne ki te kāinga, ā, he āwangawanga te whakaaro mō te moe tāne. Ka rongo ngā tamariki i a koe? Ka pātai mai rātou? Waihoki, kua roa kē, ā, kei te mahara tonu koe ki te mahi i tētahi mea? Ā, me pēhea te hototahitanga o te moe tāne?
Anō nei, e whakaae ana mātou he pātai tika ēnei. Engari, ki te mea kua oti i a koe te whakarite i tō tiaki tamariki, ā, kua taea e koe te kōrero ki āu tamariki, me noho marino, me tuku kia rere ngā mea. Ki te mea kei te āwangawanga koe mō te āhua o tō tinana i muri i te whānautanga o ngā tamariki, ki te mea rānei kua ngenge rawa koe ki te mahi i te nui o te mea i runga i te moenga, kaua e mahi. Tukua kia puta ngā mea, kia tino pai koe ki te tangata kei a koe, kia whakawhirinaki hoki ki a ia, ā, kia ngahau.
"Tirohia, ina he whaea takakau koe, he wāhi tapu tō kāinga," te kī a Pooja. "Ina tae mai tētahi rōpū kāore i te mōhiotia, ahakoa he hoa, he hoa rangatira, he aha atu rānei, kaua rātou e takahi i tēnei wāhi, inā koa he taitamariki āu tamariki, ā, he ngāwari ki te mataku i te whakaaro mō tētahi atu tangata."
"He tangata māia ahau, ā, kāore he ruarua mōku anō. Engari ina noho mātou i roto i tētahi rōpū tau motuhake, me mārama mātou ki ngā mea katoa," te tāpiri a Pooja.
I te wā i tonoa ai ia kia whakamārama ake, ka karanga ia, "Ngā mea katoa, tino! Te ārai whānau, ahakoa e hiahia ana koe kia nui ake ngā tamariki, ngā take hauora, ngā herenga. Me noho pono tātou ki ngā tumanakohanga me te pupuri i te māramatanga. Ā, ka puta mai tēnā i te mōhio ki ō ake tika me ō rohe moepuku, ina koa ka pakeke koe. Āe, tera pea he herenga tōu ki te wā, ki te manawanui rānei. Tērā pea he pukumahi rawa koe i te wiki katoa ki te whai wā mō te moepuku. Me tautuhi katoa ēnei mea, ki te kore ka arahi ki te pakanga."
8. I te wā e whakaipoipo ana koe hei whaea takakau, kia pono ngā tumanakohanga
Me pēhea te tīmata i te whakaipoipo hei whaea takakau? Kia mārama koe he rerekē tonu tēnei i te whakaipoipo hei tangata kāore he tamariki. Tērā pea kāore e ngāwari te haere o ngā mea, kei a koe ngā tamariki me ngā kawenga ka puta tuatahi mai, ko te tikanga me nui ake tō kawenga mō te tangata e whakaipoipo ana koe me te āhua o tō whakahaere i tō oranga aroha.
Ahakoa kei te piripono koe ki tētahi pāpā takakau hei māmā takakau, kāore he taurangi ka tino ōrite kōrua. Nō reira, kia mau tonu ō tumanakohanga ki te ao tūturu, me te tumanako kāore pea ngā mea e puta i te huarahi i whakaarohia e koe. Mā tēnā koe e whakaora i aua mamae me ngā pouri iti kāore koe e hiahia ana.
"Kāore rawa aku tumanakohanga nā te mea i te tīmatanga kāore au i te tino mōhio ki taku e rapu ana, engari i taku tūhuratanga i a au anō me aku hiahia, ka taea e au te kite mārama i aku ake whakaaro mō aku whanaungatanga," te kī a Laila.
"I te tīmatanga o taua māramatanga, ka memeha haere aku mataku mō te noho takakau. Ināianei, e pai ana ahau ki te noho takakau, ki te kore rānei, engari ko te whakatau ki tētahi whanaungatanga nā te wehi kei koroheketia ko au anake he mea e kore e mahia e au. Ā, he nui ake taku kaha ki te whakapuaki i aku e pai ai. He pai ki ahau ngā tāne e ngākau māhaki ana, e tono whakaaetanga ana i mua i te tango tau, i te uru atu rānei ki ngā whanonga piripono pēnei i te tuku karere kuputuhi, ā, kāore au e wehi ki te whakapuaki i ēnei mea," tāna tāpiri.
9. Kāore he whakaari ki te hoa o mua
Mena kei te noho tonu tō hoa o mua i roto i te pikitia, kei te mātua tahi rānei kōrua, karohia ngā tautohetohe mō tō kōrua oranga whakaipoipo. Kia mau ki ngā rohe pakari, ā, kia kore rātou e whai wāhi ki te kōrero mō te tangata e whakaipoipo ana koe, me te auau o te whakaipoipo.
Ahakoa kua wehe kē koe i tō hoa noho , ā, kāore koe i te tino mōhio mō tō tūnga, ka tūtohu mātou kia wehea rawatia tō hononga i mua i te tīmatanga anō o te whakaipoipo. Kaua e uru ki ngā wāhi pōuri o te whakaipoipo hei whaea takakau – he onge noa iho te angitu.
He pai ki te mea he pai tō whanaungatanga ki tō hoa o mua, engari kia ora ai koe, kaua e uru ki tētahi āhuatanga pōrearea o te hoa o mua me ngā painga ki a rātou. He mea whakapoauau tēnei māu, he mea kino hoki mā ngā tamariki, ā, ka ārai i tō tupono ki te neke atu ki tētahi oranga hou, ki tētahi whanaungatanga hauora ake.
Te ngenge nui o te whakaipoipo hei whaea takakau Ehara i te mea ngāwari te whakaipoipo hei whaea takakau (engari kia mau tonu he keke i ngā wā katoa). He mea nui kia whai wā koe mōu ake, kia aro ki ō ake hiahia i tua atu i tō tūranga hei whaea.
Ko āu tamariki tō ao, ā, he mea whakamiharo tēnā. Kaua e wareware, he nui tonu te wāhi hei tipu ake i tō ao. Kāore he aha te tuku i ngā tāngata hou ki roto, he mea pai te whai wāhi ki te takaro hauora , te whakakakahu i ō rātou kākahu, me te haere ki te whakatau.
"He pono, i a tātou e pakeke haere ana, ka pai ake tātou i ngā mea katoa – te whanaungatanga, te taatai, te whakatipu tamariki, te whakawhitiwhiti kōrero, me ērā atu mea katoa!" te whakatau a Pooja.
Ka mea mātou 'āmene' ki tēnā.
FAQ
Āe, koia tonu. Tērā pea ka hiahia koe ki te tatari kia pakeke ake āu tamariki, ā, ka taea te waiho mā te kaitiaki tamariki. Engari he mea nui te whakaipoipo hei whaea takakau, nā te mea ehara koe i te whaea anake, engari he tangata anō hoki he hiahia me he wawata. Kia haepapa, kōrerotia ki a rātou mō āu tamariki, ā, kia ngahau. Kei a koe tēnei.
Ka āwangawanga pea ngā tāne i ētahi wā mō te whakaipoipo i tētahi whaea takakau nā te mea ehara ia i te tangata ngāwari, kāore hoki e hiahia ki ngā mea hou. Kia mōhio rātou ki tō tūnga, kia aro atu koe ki āu tamariki, ā, kia mōhio hoki rātou ehara te tangata whakaaro rerekē i te hoa pai māu. Ki te mea kei te whakaipoipo koe i tētahi pāpā takakau hei whaea takakau, tera pea ka nui ake tō rātou aroha ki tō āhuatanga.
Kei te āhua o te whanaungatanga te āhua. Ki te mea kei te hiahia ia ki te tūtaki ki a rātou, ki te hiahia rānei ki a rātou, ka taea e koe te whakamōhio atu i a rātou i muri i te kotahi, i ngā marama e rua rānei. Ki te mea kei te kore ia e tino mōhio, kei te kore rānei koe e tino mōhio mōna, tatari. Hei whaea takakau e hoki ana ki te whakaipoipo, kāore he painga o te tuku i āu tamariki kia piri ki tētahi e noho tonu ana, e kore rānei e noho tahi, e kore rānei e tino piri ki a rātou.
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