Kodi chilakolako ndi chofunikira bwanji mu ubale?

Kufalitsa chikondi

'Kodi tinder ndi chiyani?' Mnzake anali kufunsa gulu tsiku lina. Mayankho adachokera ku 'ndi pulogalamu ya zibwenzi', kupita ku 'malo onse odzaza ndi zithunzi zosafunikira' mpaka 'pulogalamu yolumikizirana'. Yankho la app hookup likuwoneka kuti ndilodziwika kwambiri. Zinkawoneka kwa anthu kuti digito ndi mafoni anali malire atsopano kwa anthu onse omwe ali ndi nyanga kunja uko ndipo msika wa pulogalamuyo unapindula pa nthawi yayikuluyi.

Koma kugonana kopanda tanthauzo (popanda chiweruzo!), Kugonana kumakhalanso ndi gawo lofunika kwambiri mu maubwenzi. Ndiko kulankhulana kopanda mawu pakati pa anthu awiri. Ichi ndichifukwa chake anthu amafunafuna chilolezo cha anthu ndikulowa m'mabanja. Kugonana kwabwino kwakale kuli pamalingaliro a aliyense. Ndi anthu mabiliyoni amphamvu tikuwoneka kuti tikuchita zambiri koma ndiye bwanji sitikulankhula zambiri? Kodi chilakolako chimagwira ntchito yanji m'maubwenzi masiku ano? Tiyeni tiphwanye?

● Ndi kulankhulana

M'ndandanda wazopezekamo

Monga tanenera kale, ndikulankhulana mopanda mawu. Mukakhala ndi chilakolako muubwenzi sizikutanthauza kuti mukupanga chikondi nthawi zonse. Ngakhale izi zitha kukhala zenizeni, zimatanthauzanso kuti matupi anu onse amalumikizana pafupipafupi. Chinachake chabwino komanso chofunikira paubwenzi wautali.

● Ndi chizindikiritso

Chimodzi mwa zifukwa zomwe maubwenzi okondana amakhala okondana kwambiri ndi chifukwa cha kugonana. Palibe ubale wina pamene kugonana ndizochitika zogawana mpaka pano, choncho chilakolako ndi zomwe zimatsatira ndi zomwe zimawasiyanitsa. (Kulumikizana sikungatchedwe ubale munkhaniyi.)

Kuwerenga kofanana: Chifukwa chake chilakolako n'chofunika kuti timvetse chikondi

● Kuyatsa

Poyatsira moto ndi chinthu chowoneka bwino chothandiza ndipo chimakhalabe chokongola ngakhale chikuyaka kapena ayi. Komabe, sichingatenthe popanda kuyatsa kwamtundu wina. Ngati mutagwiritsa ntchito mfundo imeneyi pa chibwenzi mudzapeza kuti chilakolako ndicho kuyatsa komwe kumapangitsa kuti moto ukhale woyaka. Zimagwira ntchito ngati choyatsira moto. Pambuyo pa zaka zambiri zokhala pamodzi, chilakolako chikhoza kukhala chinthu chomwe chimapangitsa kuti ubale ukhale wolimba.

● Mizere yosaoneka bwino

Kulekanitsa chikondi ndi chilakolako kungakhale ntchito yovuta makamaka mu ubale wautali. Zomwe mumamva mukakhala pachibwenzi ndi wokondedwa wanu nthawi zambiri zimakhala zosakaniza, mizere imakhala yosamveka. Koma iwo sayenera kukonza nthawi zonse. Kupanga chikondi kungayambike ngati mtundu wa zilakolako, kukhalapo ngati kulumikizana ndikukhala chikondi. Sichiyenera kukhala ntchito yosiyanitsidwa bwino.

● Chitsimikizo

Anthu mwachisawawa ndi anthu osatetezeka. Akakhala pachibwenzi amakayikira zinthu zambiri. Amadzikayikira nthawi zonse. Limodzi mwa mafunso amene amadzifunsabe ndi lakuti, ‘Kodi ndine wokongola? Kodi mnzangayo amandikonda?' Chilakolako ndi kafotokozedwe kake kakhoza kutsimikizira okwatirana onsewo za kukopa kwawo. Zimathandizira kukulitsa kudzidalira kwawo kotero zimawapangitsa kukhala otetezedwa kwambiri.

● Gawo la honeymoon

Chiyambi cha chibwenzi pamene simungathe kusunga manja anu pa wina ndi mzake nthawi zambiri amayang'ana mmbuyo ngati nthawi yabwino, yomwe simabweranso. Ngakhale kuti chilakolako chimakhala ndi gawo lofunikira pamenepo, chikhoza kupitirizabe kuchitapo kanthu ngakhale gawolo litatha. Ngati mungalole, kukhumbira kumapangitsa kuti nyali ya chikhumbo ikhale yoyaka ndipo gawo lachisangalalo silikhala nthawi yongokhalira kulakalaka.

● Zosankha

Ubale wokhalitsa nthawi zambiri umakhala mwambo wosankha. Mumadzuka tsiku lililonse ndikusankha kukhala ndi munthu amene mumamukonda. Pali mphamvu ndi udindo waukulu kumeneko. Poganizira chilakolako, chikhumbo chomwe mumamva kwa wokondedwa wanu monga gawo la chisankho ichi ndi chofunikira. Kudziwa kuti muli ndi munthu amene mumamukonda komanso amene amayatsa moyo wanu tsiku ndi tsiku ndikumverera kopatsa mphamvu.

● Malo ake oyenera

Ngakhale kuti taona kufunika kokhumbira muubwenzi, sikungakhale chilungamo kuchipereka chofunikira mosayenera. Chilakolako ndi chachikulu, koma si zonse. Ngati simukufuna kung’ambana zovala nthawi zonse pamene muli nokha, sizikutanthauza kuti simuli pa ubwenzi wachikondi. Chilakolako ndi gawo chabe la masewera onse. Chiyanjano chenicheni chimakhala ndi zinthu zingapo. Simungathe kugonana ndikukhalabe m'chikondi kwambiri, kuti mumupatse ukulu pa kukhulupirika, kukhulupirika ndi kumanga moyo pamodzi kungakhale kulakwa. Kuyang'ana chilakolako ndi kugonana moyenera ndi zomwe zidzasunga ubale wanu kukhala wokhalitsa.

Chilakolako ndi chofunika, koma osati zonse

● Chilolezo ndichopambana

Kumva chikhumbo champhamvu kwa wokondedwa wanu sikungakhale chowiringula chosalemekeza chilolezo chawo. Chilakolako chiyenera kukhala chopatsa ndi chopatsa ndipo sichingakhale lawi la mbali imodzi limene limaphulika ndi kuyatsa lina. Mukakhala abwenzi, chilolezo cha anthu onse awiri chimakhala chapamwamba. Ndikofunikira kwambiri kuposa chikhumbo ndi mphamvu. Kulemekeza chilolezo si chinthu choyenera kuchita muubwenzi komanso ndi chisonyezero cha chikondi chenicheni.

Khalani osilira wokondedwa wanu kusunga ulemu ndipo moyo wanu wachikondi udzakhala wosanjidwa ngati kanthu m'mbuyomu.

Chopereka chanu sichikutanthauza chopereka chachifundo . Chidzalola Bonobology kupitiliza kukubweretserani chidziwitso chatsopano komanso chaposachedwa poyesetsa kuthandiza aliyense padziko lonse lapansi kuphunzira momwe angachitire chilichonse.