Foreplay: Zoposa Kungotentha 

Pankhani ya kugonana, n'zosavuta kuika maganizo pa chochitika chachikulu. Koma kodi mudayimapo kuti muganizire za kufunikira kowoneratu? M'zochitika zanga monga ubale ndi mphunzitsi wapamtima, ndawona maanja ambiri akukumana ndi kugonana kosasangalatsa komanso moyo wachikondi chifukwa kuwonetseratu sikunali kokhutiritsa. Nthawi zambiri amabwera kwa ine akumva okhumudwa komanso osagwirizana. Popanda kuwonetseratu kokhutiritsa, zochitika zogonana zimakhala zamakina komanso zosakwanira. Ndikofunikira kuti maanja azikhala ndi nthawi komanso kuyesetsa kuti azisewera, chifukwa ndiye chinsinsi cha kugonana kosangalatsa.

Nkhani yabwino ndiyakuti ndi njira yoyenera ndi chitsogozo, ndizotheka kubweretsanso cheche ndikutengera zomwe mukukumana nazo pakugonana pamlingo wina watsopano. Musalole kusowa kokwanira kowoneratu kuwononge ubale wanu! Ndiye, foreplay ndi chiyani? Monga momwe Dr. Laura Berman, katswiri wodziŵika bwino wodziŵa za kugonana ndi katswiri wa zaubwenzi, ananenera, “Kuwoneratu n’kumene kumapangitsa munthu kukhala wokhutiritsadi pakugonana.” Ndipo kodi ulendowu ndi wokhutiritsa kuposa kopita? Foreplay ndiye ulendo, ndipo ndi ulendo wofunika kuutenga.

Ubwino Wakuthupi Ndi Wamtima Wa Foreplay

Kuwoneratu zakugonana sikungopanga chiyembekezo komanso chisangalalo, kumakhalanso ndi zabwino zina mthupi lanu ndi malingaliro anu:

• Zitha kuonjezera kutuluka kwa magazi kumaliseche, kupangitsa kuti zikhale zosavuta kuti amayi azipaka mafuta komanso kuti abambo akwanitse
• Itha kutulutsa ma endorphin omva bwino omwe amawongolera kukhazikika kwathunthu. Amachepetsanso kuchuluka kwa mahomoni opsinjika Cortisol m'thupi
• Foreplay imathandizira kutulutsa Oxytocin, yomwe imadziwika kuti hormone yachikondi. Izi zimalimbitsa mgwirizano wa kudalira maubwenzi ndi ubwenzi pakati pa okondedwa

Momwe Mungaphatikizire Sewero Loyamba Mu Ubwenzi Wanu

Ngakhale mungafune kuti zokometsera ndi chisangalalo zibweretse m'moyo wanu wogonana, nthawi zina zimakhala zovuta kudziwa momwe mungaphatikizire muzochita zanu zatsiku ndi tsiku. Nawa maupangiri owoneratu kuti akuthandizeni kuti muyambe:

1. Pezani nthawi

Kupeza nthawi yowonetseratu kungakhale kovuta, makamaka ndi ntchito yotanganidwa ndi ndondomeko zaumwini. Koma pali njira zopangira nthawi yowoneratu zokopa, ngakhale ndi ndandanda yotanganidwa:

• Konzani: Monga momwe mungakonzekere msonkhano kapena masewera olimbitsa thupi, konzekerani kugonana ndi kupeza nthawi ya foreplay. Chipangitseni kukhala gawo lokhazikika lazochita zanu ndikuchiwona ngati chinthu chofunikira kwambiri. Awa ndi osavuta amalingaliro akutsogolo kukuthandizani kuti muyambe
• Khalani opanga: M’malo momangokhalira kugonana usiku, yesani kukhala pachibwenzi m’maŵa kapena panthawi yopuma masana. Izi zitha kuwonjezera chisangalalo ndi chisangalalo pakugonana kwanu
• Kulitsani kukanika kugonana: Muzigonana ndi okondedwa wanu tsiku lonse pomukopana, kumunyoza, komanso kumukonda. Izi zidzakulitsa chilakolako chogonana zinthu zisanafike ngakhale kuchipinda
• Osachitenga ngati chintchito: Kumbukirani kuti kupanga nthawi yowoneratu sikuyenera kukhala ntchito, itha kukhala njira yosangalatsa komanso yosangalatsa yowonjezerera zina paubwenzi wanu. Ndipo m'pofunika kuyesetsa!

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2. Kukhazikitsa siteji

Kusewera kwa foreplay sikungokhudza thupi lokha komanso kumapanga chidziwitso chokhudza kumva. Kusewera kwa foreplay kumasangalatsa kwambiri pokopa chidwi cha ziwalo zonse zisanu. Nyimbo, makandulo, fungo labwino, kuvina, ndi kutikita minofu ya thupi kungakhale njira zabwino kwambiri zosangalalira ndi foreplay yokhudza kumva zomwe zimakuthandizani kulumikizana ndi mnzanu. Nazi malingaliro ena a foreplay omwe mungafufuze:

• Zowoneka: Zinthu monga kuyatsa makandulo kapena kukhazikitsa malingaliro ndi kuyatsa kofewa
• Kumveka: Gwiritsani ntchito nyimbo kapena mawu achilengedwe kuti musangalatse
  -Music: Nyimbo zimatha kukhazikitsa malingaliro ndikupanga mawonekedwe omwe angathandize maanja kumasuka ndikulowa mumphindi. Nyimbo zapang'onopang'ono, zokhuza thupi zitha kukhala njira yabwino yokhazikitsira njira yachikondi komanso yapamtima
  -Chilengedwe: Phokoso la chilengedwe - mvula yotsutsana ndi galasi lanu lawindo, mafunde pamphepete mwa nyanja, kapena nyimbo za m'nkhalango - zingakhalenso zotonthoza komanso zosangalatsa. Onetsetsani kuti mwapeza malo achinsinsi komanso otetezeka
• Kumva: Makandulo amatha kuwonjezera mawonekedwe, kupanga malo ofunda komanso osangalatsa. Aromatherapy itha kugwiritsidwanso ntchito kukulitsa chisangalalo. Mutha kugwira ntchito ndi mafuta ofunikira monga lavender, vanila, ndi jasmine omwe ali othandiza kwambiri popanga malo osangalatsa komanso omasuka.
• Kukhudza: Kugwirana mwakuthupi kumagwira ntchito yofunika kwambiri pakukulitsa maubwenzi apamtima. Mutha kuyesa: Dansi: Kuvina kumabweretsa matupi anu pafupi ndipo mumagwirana wina ndi mnzake m'njira zosagonana, zomwe zitha kukhala zapamtima kwambiri. kuvina kotsika, kodzutsa chilakolako ndi njira yabwino yolumikizirana kunja kwa chipinda chogona; Kuchiza: Kusisita matupi a wina ndi mnzake kumatha kukhala kosangalatsa kwambiri ndipo ndi njira yabwino yopumula
• Kulawa: Kukoma kungaphatikizidwe mwa kupsompsonana kapena kugwiritsa ntchito mafuta onunkhira

Izi zimapanga chikhalidwe chomwe chingathandize onse awiri kuti apumule ndikukhala ndi maganizo oti akhale pachibwenzi, komanso kumanga chiyembekezo ndi chisangalalo. Kugwiritsa ntchito mphamvu zonse zisanu, kuphatikizapo kuona, kugwira, kununkhiza, kulawa, ndi kumveka kungapangitse kugonana kukhala kosangalatsa kwa onse awiri.

Komabe, zopinga zathu zamaganizo ndi zoopsa zakale zingatilepheretse kudzitsegulira tokha ku chisangalalo cha chilakolako cha kugonana. Kale ndinali ndi kasitomala wamkazi yemwe, chifukwa cha mavuto a thupi, sankalola mnzake kufufuza thupi lake panthawi ya chibwenzi. Ankadzidera nkhawa ndi mawonekedwe ake ndipo ankaona kuti mnzakeyo sangamukonde . Kudzera mu ntchito yathu limodzi, adaphunzira kukonda ndi kuvomereza thupi lake, ndipo chifukwa cha zimenezi, adatha kusangalala mokwanira ndi chibwenzi chake.

Wokondedwa wina, okwatirana, amangokhalira kugwirizana mumdima wathunthu. Sanaonanepo pa nthawi ya mchitidwewo. Izi zidachitika chifukwa cha zowawa zakale zomwe zidawapangitsa kudzidalira okha pathupi lawo. Tinayesetsa kukulitsa chidaliro ndi kudzikonda, ndipo m’kupita kwa nthaŵi anatha kuleka kusadzidalira kwawo ndi kuchita nawo ubwenzi wapamtima m’kuunika. Kunali kusintha kokongola kuchitira umboni komanso umboni wotsimikizira kuti kuphunzitsa pamtima komanso kudzikonda kungathandize kuthana ndi mavutowa.

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3. Lankhulani zosowa zanu ndi zokhumba zanu panthawi yamasewero

Kugonana kumangokhudza kulumikizana wina ndi mnzake, kukhala munthawi yake, ndikusangalala nazo. Njira yokhayo imene mungachitire zimenezi ndi kulankhulana ndi mnzanuyo ndi kuwadziwitsa zimene zimakusangalatsani ndi kukutonthozani kwambiri. Musamayembekezere kuti mnzanuyo awerenge malingaliro anu!

Komabe, kulankhula za zilakolako zanu, malire anu, maloto anu ogonana , ndi zomwe zimakupangitsani kukhala ndi chilakolako kungakhale koopsa. Ndicho chifukwa chake akatswiri monga Dr. Emily Morse akugogomezera kufunika kolankhulana momasuka komanso moona mtima, osati panthawi yogonana, komanso muubwenzi wanu wonse.

Ndipo kumbukirani, kulankhulana ndi njira ziwiri. Onetsetsani kuti mukumveranso zofuna ndi zokhumba za mnzanuyo. Ndipo musawope kuyenderanso zokambiranazo pamene nonse mukukula ndikusintha!

4. Zolakwa Zomwe Muyenera Kuzipewa pamasewera a Foreplay

Kuwonetseratu kuyenera kukhala kuphulika kwa onse awiri koma nthawi zina timalakwitsa zomwe zingachotse chisangalalo. Ichi ndichifukwa chake limodzi mwaupangiri wofunikira kwambiri womwe ndili nawo kwa inu lero ndikupewa zolakwika izi:

Kuthamanga kudutsamo

Monga mphunzitsi wa ubale ndi ubale, ndaona ndekha kufunika koti ndisafulumire kuchita zinthu mopupuluma komanso kutenga nthawi yokonzekera ndi kusangalala. Dr. Ian Kerner, katswiri wodziwa za kugonana komanso wolemba nkhani, nayenso akupereka lingaliro lomweli. Mwatsoka, ndapeza kuti maanja ambiri sakhutira ndi moyo wawo wogonana chifukwa kuchita zinthu mopupuluma kumachitidwa mopupuluma kapena kuphonya. Anthu amaganizira kwambiri za kugonana kapena kuchita zinthu mopupuluma ndipo samatenga nthawi yofufuzana, kudzutsana kapena kufotokoza zosowa zawo. Nthawi zonse ndimauza makasitomala anga m'malo mongoganizira cholinga chawo, kusangalala ndi ulendowo.

Kusalabadira zosangalatsa za mnzanuyo

Kulakwitsa kwina komwe ndimawona nthawi zambiri maanja amapanga ndikunyalanyaza chisangalalo cha mnzawo panthawi yachiwonetsero. Dr. Kerner akugogomezera kufunika koonetsetsa kuti onse awiri akukhutitsidwa, osati mmodzi yekha. Sindinavomereze zambiri, pambuyo pake, kuwoneratu ndi chiyani ngati si njira yopangira ubale ndi kulumikizana? Ndikofunikira kuwonetsetsa kuti onse awiri ali patsamba limodzi kuti akwaniritse zogonana zokhutiritsa.

Ndicho chifukwa chake nthawi zonse ndimalimbikitsa makasitomala anga kuti azilankhulana bwino ndi anzawo , kufotokoza zosowa zawo ndi zomwe akufuna komanso kuonetsetsa kuti akupereka ndikusangalala panthawi yogonana.

Zomwe amuna ayenera kudziwa

Ponena za kugonana kwa amuna ndi akazi, amuna ndi akazi ayenera kumvetsetsa kuti matupi awo amachita mosiyana akamakhudzidwa ndi kugonana. Amuna nthawi zambiri amapeza kuti ziwalo zawo zoberekera ndi zomwe zimakhudzidwa kwambiri akakhudzidwa, pomwe matupi onse a akazi amakhala osangalatsa. Izi zikutanthauza kuti akazi angafunike zambiri osati kungolimbikitsidwa ndi nyini kapena ntchafu kuti asangalale mokwanira ndikulowa mumtima wofuna kugonana. Ndikofunikira kumvetsetsa zomwe zimapangitsa akazi kukhala okondwa.

Poyamba ndinali ndi kasitomala, mwamuna amene sankadziwa kukondweretsa mkazi wake. Amangomugwira kumbuyo popanda kuyang'ana kapena nthawi yowonetsera. Ndinamuphunzitsa kuti achepetse pang'onopang'ono, kupanga mlengalenga kudzera mu nyimbo, ndikumvetsetsa kufunika kofufuza thupi lonse la mkazi panthawi yamasewero. Tsopano amasangalala ndi kugonana kokwanira.

Amuna angatsogolere mwachidwi pofufuza thupi la mkazi pogwiritsa ntchito njira monga kuluma, kunyambita, kumpsompsona, ndi kugwiritsa ntchito nsonga zala ndi lilime. Izi zingaphatikizepo madera monga khosi, makutu, ndi ntchafu zamkati, zomwe nthawi zambiri zimanyalanyazidwa koma zimakhala zovuta kwambiri komanso zokondweretsa kwa amayi.

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Zomwe akazi ayenera kudziwa

Momwemonso, ndikofunikira kuti akazi amvetse tanthauzo la ubale wapamtima ndi mwamuna . Ndinali ndi banja lachinyamata monga makasitomala pomwe mkaziyo nthawi zonse ankavala zazifupi, malaya, ndi zovala zogona. Ndinamulangiza kuti timugulire zinthu pa intaneti, mothandizidwa ndi mwamuna wake. Mwamunayo anasankha zovala zamkati zomwe adaziona kuti ndi zokongola ndipo adamugulira ngati mphatso. Uwu unalinso mwayi wabwino kwa iye kuti aphunzire zomwe zingamupangitse kusangalala. Anayamba kuvala zovala zambiri za mwamuna wake ndipo zinathandiza kuti azikondana kwambiri.

Nthawi zonse ndimakumbutsa makasitomala anga kuti abambo amakopeka ndi maso ndipo ndikofunikira kuti amayi aziwonetsa mowoneka bwino. Izi zingaphatikizepo kuvala m’njira yosangalatsa kwa mnzanuyo, kukhala wokhutiritsa, ndi kununkhiza bwino. Ndi gawo laling'ono lomwe lingathe kusintha kwambiri ubale wogonana.

Pansi pake ndikuti, abambo ndi amai onse ayenera kumvetsetsa ndikuyamikira matupi a wina ndi mnzake komanso kusinthana. Izi zitha kubweretsa chisangalalo chogonana chokhutiritsa komanso chosangalatsa kwa onse awiri.

5. Masewero ndi zongopeka muzowoneratu zakugonana

Sewero ndi kutengera zomwe timakonda kutha kuwonjezera chisangalalo chatsopano pakuwoneratu potilola kuti tifufuze mbali zosiyanasiyana zathu ndi anzathu. Mwachitsanzo, banja lina lomwe ndimagwira nawo ntchito ngati dokotala komanso wodwala, zomwe zidawathandiza kuzindikira zokhumba zawo motetezeka komanso mogwirizana. Zinabweretsa mulingo watsopano waubwenzi ndi kulumikizana ku zomwe adakumana nazo pakugonana ndikuwathandiza kuthana ndi midadada yogonana.

Kuchita zinthu zongopeka kungatimasulire komanso kutipangitsa kukhala odzidalira komanso omasuka. Mwachitsanzo, kasitomala wina adatha kufufuza kink yake ya BDSM kudzera mumasewero ndi bwenzi lake, zomwe zinamuthandiza kukhala womasuka kukambirana naye m'moyo weniweni.

Kuphatikiza apo, zingapangitse kuti tigwirizane kwambiri ndi mnzathu, monga momwe banja lina lomwe ndidagwira nalo ntchito linapezera pochita sewero loti anali atasochera pachilumba chopanda anthu. Ndi njira yabwino yofufuzira mbali zosiyanasiyana za ife eni ndi anzathu, kukankhira malire athu, ndikuyesera zinthu zatsopano.

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6. Bweretsani chinthu cha "zodabwitsa".

Kudabwa kumeneku kungapangitse kuti munthu asangalale kwambiri. Kungabwere m'njira zosiyanasiyana, kuyambira kukhudza kosayembekezereka mpaka kugonana ndi anthu atsopano kapena zoseweretsa. Kusayembekezereka kumeneku kungapangitse kuti munthu ayembekezere zambiri ndipo kungayambitse kugonana kolimba komanso kugwirizana kwambiri pakati pa okwatirana.

Kuti musiye chizoloŵezi chanu ndikuwonjezera kukhazikika, yesani kuyambitsa masewero m'chipinda china kapena kunja kwa nyumba. Tsegulani chidole chatsopano kapena chothandizira kuti muwonjezere chisangalalo ndi chisangalalo. Masewero, zovala, kapena zovala zingakhale njira yosangalatsa yowonera zongopeka ndi zokhumba zosiyanasiyana.

Zomwe zimadabwitsa zitha kugwiritsidwanso ntchito kufufuza mitundu yosiyanasiyana ya kukhudza, monga kukhudza kwa nthenga zopepuka kapena kusewera kwambiri. Kumbukirani kukhala omasuka komanso olankhulana, ndipo sangalalani poyesa malingaliro atsopano kuti mupititse patsogolo moyo wanu wapamtima.

Zimatengera awiri kuti (ayambe) kusewera

Ponena za foreplay, onse awiri ayenera kumvetsetsa kuti ali ndi udindo woonetsetsa kuti zonse zikuyenda bwino. Siziyenera kukhala udindo kapena katundu wa mnzawo m'modzi yekha. Akazi sayenera kuzengereza kutsogolera m'chipinda chogona . Luso la mkazi loyambitsa ndi kutenga udindo lingathandize kupanga mgwirizano wakuya wamaganizo ndi ubwenzi womwe ungapangitse kuti mukhale ndi nthawi yogonana yokhutiritsa komanso yosangalatsa. Choncho musazengereze kutenga nawo mbali mwachangu!

Pomaliza, sindingathe kutsindika mokwanira kufunika kwa foreplay kuti mukhale ndi moyo wogonana wokhutiritsa. Yesani njira zosiyanasiyana, lankhulani zosowa zanu ndi zokhumba zanu ndikupewa zolakwa izi zofala. Ngati mukuvutika, musazengereze kundilankhulana kuti mugwirizane ndi maanja pa nkhani yogonana. Monga mphunzitsi wogonana, ndimathandiza makasitomala anga kusintha machitidwe, zopinga, ndi machitidwe akale, omwe amawalepheretsa kukhutiritsa kugonana. Khalani omasuka kulumikizana nane kuti mundiimbire foni yoyamba yaulere yofufuza. Ndingakuthandizeni kuphunzira momwe mungakhalire ndi kugonana kosangalatsa komwe mukuyenera.

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