Kodi chikondi si chiyani? Kuti munthu amvetse zimenezi choyamba ayenera kudziwa kuti chikondi n’chiyani komanso mmene chimaonekera m’zigawo zosiyanasiyana zaubwenzi. Izi zimakhala zofunika kwambiri pamene ulamuliro, nkhanza, ndi chinyengo zichotsedwa ndi kuvomerezedwa, zonse m'dzina la chikondi.
Chikondi ndi chiyani?
M'ndandanda wazopezekamo
Zizindikiro za chikondi ndizochuluka. Tikudziwa kuti chisamaliro ndi chizindikiro cha chikondi, kudzipereka ndi china. Kukhala nthawi zonse kwa wina ndi mzake, kukhala kumbuyo kwa wina ndi mzake, kuchoka pa njira yanu ngakhale pamene kuli kovuta kwambiri, ndi zizindikiro zina zodziwika za kukhala m'chikondi. Kukondana, kuwina ndi kudya, kusinthanitsa mphatso onse amakhudzidwa kuti apambane pa okondedwa. Chikhulupiriro chimapezedwa ndikubwezedwa, malumbiro amasinthidwa - kukondana wina ndi mnzake mu matenda ndi thanzi!
Chikondi chongobadwa kumene chimakula
Kenako banjali limanyamuka kupita kwawo wokondedwa ndipo gawo latsopano la chikondi limayamba - kutsegulira zofooka za wina ndi zofooka zake, ndikulonjeza kuti adzasunga mnzake wamtengo wapatali ndikuwateteza zivute zitani ndikukonzekera tsogolo limodzi ndi chipinda chogona cha zipinda zitatu pamalipiro awo ophatikizana. Ulendo wawo wamaloto umayamba.
Kuthamanga kwa zaka zingapo; ana, makolo okalamba, kusunga ntchito ndi kutsogolo kwa nyumba kumayenda bwino, kumalepheretsa chikondi cha okwatiranawo. Chikondi chopanda malire chimatembenuka zofunikira. Kaya mwamuna kapena mkazi watenga ana ku makalasi a piyano, ndiye kuti abwera kunyumba kwa mwamuna kapena mkazi wokondwa ndi 'wachikondi' kapena ayi. Ndipo mosemphanitsa.
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Ndiyeno zimakhwima
Romance imayikidwa pakona ndipo tsiku ndi tsiku rigmarole imatulutsa mbali yaukali ndi yamwano wina ndi mzake kusiyana ndi yofewa komanso yosangalatsa yomwe adazolowera. Iyinso ndi nthawi yomwe kukonda amagwiritsidwa ntchito kukambirana ndi kugulitsana, kupepesa chifukwa cha khalidwe loipa, kapenanso kunyengerera winayo kuti achite zomwe mukufuna. Pamene ubale ukupita patsogolo, maukwati ambiri, ngati si onse, amakhala okhudza kugawirana, kugawa ndi kuyendetsa (makina apanyumba) kuposa nyimbo ndi mausiku amasiku.
Kodi Chikondi Sichotani?
Aliyense akudziwa kuti mafotokozedwe achikondi asintha ndipo amadziwa kuti chikondi ndi chiyani, koma apa tikuyika mndandanda wa chimene chikondi sichiri. Tidazindikiranso zizindikiro ndi zizindikiro zomwe sizili muzu wa ubale wofanana, wa demokalase. Ndimakumbukira kukambirana kwanga ndi katswiri wa zamaganizo Dr. Kushal Jain yemwe nthawi zambiri uphungu maanja mkati ndi kuzungulira Delhi. Amalankhula za momwe mawu akuti 'koma ine makukonda' zimangochitika mwachisawawa mu maubwenzi anthawi yayitali kuti tidzikhululukire kuzinthu zonse zosakonda za ife zomwe timayikanso okondedwa athu. Werengani zitsanzo pansipa:
'Ndikudziwa kuti ndinakuwa mopanda nzeru koma ukudziwa kuti ndimakukonda eti?'
'Ndikukupemphani kuti musiye munthu/bwenzi m'modzi ameneyo chifukwa cha ine. Timakondana wina ndi mnzake, ine ndikanachitira inunso chimodzimodzi.'
'Mukudziwa kuti sindinatanthauze pamene ndinakupemphani kuti mutuluke. Ukudziwa kuti ndimakukonda'.
Owerenga athu amatiuza zomwe chikondi sichiri
Tidafunsa owerenga athu pagulu la Facebook 'Tiyeni tikambirane za Moyo pambuyo pa Makumi anayi' zomwe chikondi sichiri ndipo pansipa ndi mayankho awo.
Sumeet Sethi: Kuseka mnzako mu a zochititsa manyazi khalidwe pamaso pa ena ndiyeno kunena kuti zonse ndi zosangalatsa chifukwa ndinu m'chikondi.
Pronami Chakraborty: Kuseweretsa wapolisi pachibwenzi si chikondi. Nthawi zonse akazitape kapena kutsatira zokambirana za mnzanuyo ndi ndandanda kapena nthawi zonse kufunafuna zizindikiro kutsimikizira 'kukayikitsa' wanu ndi zoipa.
Gomathi K Reddy: Kuweruza munthu amene akungofuna kutulutsa mawu.
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Falguni D Mehta: Kuchitira wina zosafunikira, kungomuwonetsa kuti "Ndimakuchitirani zambiri ndipo simusamala konse!"
Chavi Bhargav Sharma: Ngati umandikonda upanga izi kapena ayi. Kuwongolera mnzanuyo kuti akuchitireni inu zinthu.
Chinha Raheja: Kusiya udindo wonse wosamalira nyumba ndi ubwino wa banja kwa mwamuna kapena mkazi chifukwa "amachita bwino kwambiri".
Madhumeeta Srirang: Ndimakukonda ndipo sungathe kukonda wina aliyense.
Aneeta Babu N: umwini 'ufulu' wina ndi mzake.
Haywire Chronology: Kuyembekezera kuti winayo azikonda iweyo osati wina aliyense!
Anil Jena: Kupereka chilichonse, kukhala wofera chikhulupiriro, ndikutaya dzina lanu paubwenzi.
Rishi Dhanraj: Kulephera kukhala ndi zofooka za wina.
Neha D: Chikondi, poyang'ana koyamba, ndithudi si chikondi. Ndi kukopa.
Madhuri Maitra: Kufuna wina kuti 'akukondenso'.
Suma Bhatt: Pamene malingaliro anu pa wina akukulepheretsani kudzilemekeza, ndiye kuti chimenecho si chikondi. Chikondi si mndandanda wa zinthu zofunika kuchita kapena ntchito yoti ichitidwe. Ngati kumverera komwe mwatsekereza inu ndi malingaliro anu, ndipo sikusintha ndi nthawi, kukula, kukulitsa, kudzipanga nokha, ndiye kuti si chikondi. Chikondi ndi chophatikiza komanso chosinthika.
Ndipo potsiriza katswiri wathu Deepak Kashyap amati: Chikondi n'chofunika, koma sichikwanira kupanga ubale wa anthu ofanana.
Ibibazo
Ayi, chikondi ndi kudalira sikufanana. Kudalira kumachitika pamene munthu adalira wina kuti akhazikike m'maganizo kapena kudziona kuti ndi wofunika, zomwe nthawi zambiri zimatsogolera ku chiyanjano chosayenera. Chikondi chenicheni chimakhudza kulemekezana, kuthandizana, ndi kukula popanda kusokoneza ufulu wa munthu payekha.
Ayi, chikondi sichitanthauza kuvomereza makhalidwe onse mopanda malire. Chikondi chenicheni chimaphatikizapo kuika malire abwino ndi kusungana mlandu. Kulekerera kusalemekezana, kuzunzidwa, kapena kuchita zinthu zovulaza sikuli chikondi—kumene kumachititsa khalidwe loipa.
Maganizo Final
Chikondi ndi zinthu zambiri. Sichikhala chokhazikika koma chimasintha mawonekedwe ake muubwenzi wonse. Komabe, pali zizindikiro zambiri za kawopsedwe kolakwika ndi chikondi monga kumuteteza mopambanitsa kapena kusokoneza wokondedwa wanu m'dzina la chikondi. Munthu ayenera kusamala posiyanitsa zizindikiro za chikondi izi. Ngati mukuganiza kuti mukukumana ndi kawopsedwe chifukwa cha chikondi, kupeza uphungu wa akatswiri kungakuthandizeni kuthana ndi malingaliro anu bwino. Sungitsani gawo ndi Bonobology lero.
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Zopereka zanu sizikupanga zachifundo Mphatso. Zilola kuti Bonobology ipitilize kukubweretserani zidziwitso zatsopano komanso zaposachedwa pakufuna kwathu kuthandiza aliyense padziko lapansi kuphunzira momwe angachitire chilichonse.
