Zizindikiro 12 Zosonyeza Kuti Mukuchita Chibwenzi ndi Stalker Ndipo Muyenera Kuthetsa Chibwenzi

Dziko la chibwenzi ladzaza ndi zodabwitsa zodabwitsa. Koma chinthu chonga, "Chibwenzi changa chimandizembera" sichiyenera kukhala chimodzi mwa izo. Nthawi zina, zodabwitsazi zimatha kuwonekera m'njira zowopsa zomwe zingawoneke ngati zabwinobwino poyamba, koma mukazindikira kuti sichoncho, nthawi zambiri zimakhala mochedwa kwambiri. Chokumana nacho chimodzi chotere chingakhale pamene muzindikira kuti mwamuna amene akuoneka kuti amakusilirani akukuvutitsanidi.

Zizindikiro zokhala pachibwenzi ndi stalker sizosavuta kuziwona, koma mukatero, muyenera kudzichotsa paubwenziwo nthawi yomweyo. Sikophweka kukankhira pambali wokonda yemwe amasonyeza zizindikiro zoopsa za khalidwe lotengeka muubwenzi. Komabe, pali zizindikiro zingapo zomwe zimawonekera nthawi zonse. Tsopano zikufika kwa inu, za momwe mumawonera izi mosamala. Munthu ayenera kukhala tcheru ndi kunyamula izi mofulumira kuti apewe zoopsa pambuyo pake.

Ngati mukuganiza kuti muli pachibwenzi ndi stalker, simungakhale opanda nzeru ndikusesa zizindikiro za chikondi chokhazikika pansi pa kapeti. Pali anthu omwe ali ndi zizolowezi za stalker zomwe zimalowa mkati ndipo muyenera kuzindikira izi kuti muthawe zinthu zisanakule mwachangu. Chikondi chanu pa iwo chikhoza kukuchititsani khungu ku khalidwe lawo loipa mpaka pano, koma lero, mukhoza kuphunzira momwe mungazindikire zinthu izi.

Tili ndi ife lero, katswiri wazamisala Jaseena Backer (MS Psychology), yemwe ndi katswiri wowongolera jenda ndi ubale. Ndi malangizo ake komanso kumvetsetsa kwa khalidwe lotengeka, tiyeni tidziwe ngati mulidi pachibwenzi ndi stalker kapena ayi.

Zowona Za 'Stalkers And Stalking'

Collin's English Dictionary amatanthauza kuzembera ngati 'chochita kapena upandu wothamangitsa kapena kutsatira munthu mosalekeza kapena mowopseza' komanso wozembetsa ngati 'munthu amene amatsatira kapena kuthamangitsa munthu wina momuopseza kapena mochititsa mantha.'

Ndi mzere wabwino pakati pa kukhala wamisala m'chikondi ndi khalidwe lotengeka kwambiri muubwenzi. Ndipo apa pali chinthu chowopsa. Ndikosavuta kunyalanyaza zizindikiro za stalker ngati muli pachibwenzi. Izi zimachitika chifukwa zimakhazikika pazizindikiro za chikondi komanso chifukwa chikondi chanu pa iwo chimakuchititsani khungu kuti musazindikire zenizeni. Mumaona ngati zochita zawo zambiri ndi zachikondi ndipo mumakonda kuwapatsa chiphaso chaulere. Mwachitsanzo, bwenzi amene ali mutu pa zidendene kwa inu ali womangidwa pa inu nthawi zonse kudzera malemba, mafoni, Facebook mauthenga etc.

Izi zingawoneke ngati zachilendo poyamba ndipo mukhoza kuzikonda kwambiri. Koma ngati mukumva ngati kuchuluka kwa malembawa ndi kuyitana ndizovuta kwambiri ndipo zimayamba kulepheretsa malo anu enieni, samalani chifukwa zikhoza kukhala chimodzi mwa zizindikiro kuti iye ndi stalker. Bwino otetezeka kuposa chisoni!

Otsatira amasiya ozunzidwawo akumva kuzunzidwa, kuchita mantha komanso kugwiriridwa. Koma palinso zina.

Nazi mfundo zochititsa chidwi¹ za stalkers:

• Amuna ndi amene amachitiridwa nkhanza kwambiri: 80.4% ya amene amazengereza ndi amayi pomwe ambiri omwe amachitiridwa nkhanza, (70.5%) ndi amuna
• Ena amachitapo kanthu pa zowopsezazo: 1 mwa 10 otsamira, amene sanali pachibwenzi m'mbuyomo, amachitapo kanthu pa zomwe amaopseza
• Ziwerengero za ozunzidwa: Amayi 1 mwa 5 aliwonse ndi 1 mwa abambo khumi adzakhala mikhole ya kuzembera mopambanitsa m’moyo wawo wauchikulire

Nthawi zambiri, padziko lonse lapansi, ndi akazi omwe amapezedwa. Izi nthawi zambiri zimakhala ngati chibwenzi kapena wokondedwa yemwe amakhudzidwa mwachindunji.

Jaseena amati, “Akazi amatanganidwa kwambiri ndi chibwenzi chifukwa cha nsanje, komabe amalankhulanso momveka bwino komanso mosapita m’mbali. Amazifotokoza kaŵirikaŵiri.

Izi sizingakhale zongotsatira mkazi kumene akupita. Kuzembera nthawi zambiri kumaphatikizapo kufufuza katundu wa wozunzidwayo, kusiya imelo yoopseza, ma SMS ndi mauthenga a WhatsApp, zolemba komanso ngakhale zolakwa za chilakolako. Mwinamwake mwakumanapo kale ndi mkazi amene anadandaulapo za bwenzi lake lakale kapena wanenapo mawu monga, “Chibwenzi changa chimandipeŵera ndi kundibisira nthaŵi zina.”

Otsatira oterewa nthawi zambiri amadziwika mosavomerezeka yang'anani ndikutsatira akazi pa nthawi inayake. Iwo sayenera kunyalanyazidwa zivute zitani. Mlanduwu ndi wovuta kwambiri, womwe nthawi zambiri sunatchulidwe ndipo umachitika mosavuta osamvetsedwa. Koma zizindikiro za stalker zidzakhalapo nthawi zonse zomwe muyenera kuziwerenga mosamala.

Zizindikiro 12 Kuti Mukuchita Chibwenzi ndi Stalker Ndipo Muyenera Kuthetsa Ubwino

Mukangowona zizindikiro zoyamba kuti wokondedwa wanu akukuvutitsani, muyenera kuchitapo kanthu mwachangu pa izi. Kunena kuti “Ndagwira chibwenzi changa chikundizembera,” sikokwanira. Inunso muyenera kudziyimira nokha.

Kudziwa kuti akukuvutitsani kungakhale kosokoneza kwambiri. Zitha kukhala ndi zotsatira za nthawi yayitali zamaganizo. Pali mzere woonda kwambiri womwe umalekanitsa chikondi ndi kutengeka mtima ndipo munthu ayenera kusamala kuti asadutse mzerewo. Ngati muzindikira kuti mukuvutitsidwa, muyenera kudzikonzekeretsa kuti mukwaniritse zovuta zomwe muyenera kuchita musanakumane. thetsa kugwirizana kwanu ndi wotsatira.

1. Amakugwira modzidzimutsa kunyumba kapena muofesi

Mutangotha ​​​​misonkhano yanu yoyamba kapena kusinthana, amakudabwitsani ndi ulendo wosakonzekera ku ofesi yanu kapena kunyumba. Izo zikhoza kukusiyani inu nonse akunjenjemera kuyambira pamenepo mothekera konse sakadayenera kudziwa adilesi posachedwa. Kuthamangitsa movutikiraku kukhoza kukuvutitsani ndithu. Ngati mukudziwa zowona kuti simunamupatse adilesi yanu, sizomwe adazipeza yekha?

Jaseena akutiuza kuti, “Kukhalabe maso m’njira imeneyi kudzachititsa kuti a kutha kwa chikhulupiriro mu ubale wanu. Nthawi zonse amaopa kuti mukuchita zinthu zolakwika kapena zomwe zingawapweteke kwambiri. Ndipo choyipa kwambiri n’chakuti akhoza kumangokhalira kukunyengerera.”

2. Zizindikilo kuti ndi wozembera - amakhalabe ndi chidwi chofuna kudziwa komwe mungapite

Sakhutira ndi mawu amene mumamuuza. Mukamuuza kumene munapita, amafunikira umboni wa umboni. Amayesa kukufunsani zithunzi zojambulidwa kumeneko kapena kufunsa anthu amene mumawadziwa. Kapena amayesa kunena kuti akudziwa kumene munali bwino kuposa inuyo. Khalidweli lingathe kwenikweni tengerani misempha yanu, kunena pang'ono. Choncho, ganizirani kuti izi zikhoza kukhala chizindikiro kuti nayenso akukunyengererani.

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3. Akuwoneka kuti akufulumira kukumana ndi banja lanu

Inde, ichi ndi chimodzi mwazinthu zosatsutsika za chibwenzi chozembera. Chilichonse chili ndi nthawi yake. Ubale umapitirira pang'onopang'ono. Koma akufuna kuchitapo kanthu kuti akakumane ndi makolo anu, ngakhale simunafikepo gawo mu ubale wanu. Chibwenzi chomwe chimakuvutitsani chikhoza kukuuzani zonse zokhudza inuyo ndi banja lanu. Izi mwachangu zosafunikira ziyenera kwenikweni kukuvutitsani.

4. Gehena imasweka ngati simuyankha kuyimba kapena mauthenga ake nthawi yomweyo

Sakumvetsa kuti munangokhala otanganidwa ndi chinthu china kapena kunja kwa intaneti kapena basi osayang'ana foni yanu panthawiyo. Panthawi yomwe mumamutumizira yankho lanu, foni yanu wadzazidwa ndi mawu aukali komanso opanda nzeru za inu mwangwiro kuchedwa kokhululukidwa. Iye adzataya kwathunthu ndi sipamu inu mosalekeza. 

Jaseena akutiuza kuti, "Kutumizirana mameseji kwa okondedwa wanu ndi mafunso komanso kuyang'anitsitsa mnzanuyo nthawi zonse kumakhala ndi zotsatira zambiri. Munthu winayo angamve ngati sadaliridwa ndipo amamva ngati kuti muli pachibwenzi. Pamapeto pake, amayamba kunyalanyaza mauthenga oterowo zomwe zimapangitsa kuti wozemberayo amve kunyalanyazidwa ndi kukwiyitsidwa kwambiri."

Chizindikiro chodziwikiratu cha kutengeka ndi kuzembera ndi kusafuna kwa bwenzi lanu kuti 'Ayi' kuti akuyankheni.. Amadana ndi kumva 'Ayi' kuchokera kwa inu ndipo amayembekeza ndikuumirira kuti muvomereze. Inendi njira yake kapena msewu wawukulu. Iye ndi wolimbikira ndipo amangoona zinthu zikuyenda momwe iye akufunira. Izi zikhoza kukhala zenizeni wophwanya mgwirizano. Muyenera kusamala.

6. Akuwopseza kuti adzivulaza

Akayamba kuzindikira kuti mukufuna kuthetsa chibwenzicho, amasonyeza kuti akufuna kudzivulaza. Izi zitha kumveka kwambiri mozama zolinga zoipa. M'zochitika zachikondi kwambiri, ozembera angatanthauze kuti akufuna kudzipha. Panthawi imeneyo, mwina mukudabwa kuti, "Kodi mungatani ndi chibwenzi cham'mbuyo chomwe sichingakusiyeni nokha?"

Jaseena anati: “Kudzivulaza n’kukakamizika chifukwa chotengeka maganizo ndi munthu. maganizo oipa — kudziŵa bwino lomwe kuti munthu winayo amawakondadi. Khalidwe limeneli silovomerezeka chifukwa limakhala lopanda kukhulupirika m’maganizo komanso ndi khalidwe lodzikonda kwambiri.”

7. Makhalidwe a chibwenzi chotsatira - ali ndi nsanje kwambiri

8. Adzakupezani deta yanu musanampatse

9. Mumapeza mafoni ambiri opanda kanthu kuchokera ku manambala osadziwika - zizindikiro kuti iye ndi stalker

Ndipo woyimbirayo akuwoneka kuti akudula atangomva mawu anu. Choipa kwambiri, amakhala wosalankhula pamzere ndikumvetsera zomwe mukuchita kuti mukonzekere kusuntha kwina. Chizindikiro chodziwika bwino cha stalker yemwe amakhulupirira izi basi chikondi ndipo akuwonetsetsa kuti muli bwino. Stalkers nthawi zambiri amapusitsa ndipo amachita izi pamodzi ndi mitundu ina ya cyberstalking. 

10. Iye amakuzonda;

Chikondi chake chimasanduka chizoloŵezi chovuta kwambiri ndipo sangathe kukuchotsani m'maganizo mwake. Amamva kufunikira kokakamiza kuti azidziwa zonse za inu, ngakhale atakhala kuti atumiza wina kuti adziwe zambiri.. Awiri a inu mukhoza mwadzidzidzi kukumana wina ndi mzake nthawi zambiri. Izi siziyenera atengedwe mwangozi ndipo ndi chimodzi mwazochita zazikulu za chibwenzi chotsatira. 

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11. Sakhala bwino ngati mutasiya mbali yake paphwando

Amafuna kukhala nanu nthawi yonse pagulu limodzi ndi abwenzi kapena abale. Ngati mukuyenda mozungulira, iye mwachangu amayang'ana komwe mukupita ndi omwe mumacheza nawo. Amakukwiyiraninso ngati mulankhula ndi mnzanu kapena mnzanu wachimuna. Ichi si chikondi; ukhoza kukhala mlingo woopsa wa kutengeka maganizo.

Jaseena akutiuza kuti: “Mnzanu amene sangakuoneni mukulankhula ndi munthu wina paphwando ndipo osachoka kumbali yanu akhoza kukhala wotanganidwa kwambiri, wodzikonda komanso amangosonyeza kuti munthuyo amangokhalira kukhumudwa.” Izi zimachokera ku kusatetezeka kwa munthuyo ndipo alibe chochita ndi mnzakeyo. kulamulira khalidwe mu maubale.”

12. Amawafunsa Anzako nthawi zonse

Maubwenzi oterowo akhoza kukhala oopsa kwa inu ndipo muyenera kupeza njira yopulumukira. Chidwi pa moyo wa mnzanuyo ndi chidwi chochuluka chodutsa misala sichiyenera kusokonezedwa pa chikondi. Mchitidwe woterewu, wozembera ukhoza kusokonekera nthawi iliyonse ndikuphulika, zomwe zimabweretsa zovuta zambiri kwa okondedwa komanso mabanja omwe akukhudzidwa..

Kukhala ndi mnzanu amene amalamulira mwanjira yotere si chinthu chosavuta kuthana nacho kapena chinthu chomwe mungangochichotsa. Tengani upangiri wathu pankhani ya zomwe mungachite pa chibwenzi chomwe chilipo kale kapena chibwenzi chapano chomwe chikukuvutitsani, ndipo muwadule mwachangu momwe mungathere. 

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