Kodi mumakonda zotani? Mukafunsidwa funsoli, mwachibadwa mungayankhe kuti 'molunjika', 'gay' kapena 'bi'. Koma kodi kugonana kungathe kuikidwa m'magulu opanda madzi? Nanga bwanji ngati mukunena zoona koma mumakopeka ndi mwamuna kapena mkazi mnzanu? Ndiye mungadziike m'gulu lanji? Kodi mungatani ngati muli ndi chibwenzi ndi mnyamata kapena mtsikana mnzanu koma mukugonana ndi mwamuna kapena mkazi mnzanu? Kapena mulibe kukopeka konse ndi chikondi kapena kugonana? Mayankho a mafunsowa angapezeke mu nkhani za kugonana.
Lingaliro lomwelo lofunsa anthu kuti adziwe zakugonana kwawo limachokera pakufunika kwathu kuti tigwirizane ndi magulu. Ngati simuli mmodzi kapena winayo, ndiye ndinu ndani? Kodi mumadziwana ndi ndani? Fuko lanu mumalipeza kuti? Kugonana kwamadzi kumatha kukhala chinthu chokhacho ndipo anthu amakula bwino pamalingaliro ogwirizana, ndipo ndipamene kufunikira kwathu kugawa, kulekanitsa ndi kufanana kumayambira.
Munkhaniyi, katswiri wa zamaganizo komanso mphunzitsi wodziwa bwino ntchito za moyo, Deepak Kashyap (Masters in Psychology of Education), yemwe ndi katswiri pa nkhani zosiyanasiyana zokhudza thanzi la maganizo, kuphatikizapo LGBTQ ndi uphungu wachinsinsi, amalemba za kugonana ndipo amatsutsa nthano zokhudza mitundu ya kugonana.
Sexuality Spectrum
Palibe chilichonse chokhudza anthu chomwe chili chakuda ndi choyera, ndipo izi ndi zoona pankhani ya kugonana ndi chikondi cha anthu. Pali anthu oposa 7 biliyoni padziko lapansi. Kodi onsewa angagwirizane bwanji ndi mitundu itatu yosiyana ya kugonana - yolunjika, ya amuna kapena akazi okhaokha kapena ya amuna kapena akazi okhaokha?
Momwe ma yin ndi yang amakhalira amuna ndi akazi amakhala mwa aliyense, mosasamala kanthu za komwe ali pa jenda, kugonana kumakhalanso kwamadzimadzi. Mwachitsanzo, ngati mwakhala mukugonana ndi amuna kapena akazi okhaokha kwa moyo wanu wonse ndipo mwadzidzidzi n’kupeza kuti mwakopeka ndi munthu yemwe ndi mwamuna kapena mkazi mnzanu kapena munagona naye kamodzi kokha, kodi zikutanthauza kuti simulinso m’gulu la zinthu zimene mumaganiza kuti mukugonana nazo? Osati kwenikweni.
Zitha kukhala chifukwa cha chikondi chanu kwa munthuyo chifukwa cha momwe amakuchitirani kapena kukupangitsani kumva. Momwemonso, pomvetsetsa malingaliro awo ogonana, anthu ambiri amagwiritsa ntchito chiwerewere ngati choyambitsa chofewa kuti atuluke. Chifukwa chake, muli ndi munthu m'modzi yemwe adayamba kukhala wowongoka, kenako adadziwika kuti amagonana ndi amuna awiri asanavomereze kukhala gay. Kodi mumawayika bwanji m'magulu awo?
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Kugonana kotereku, kotero, kumapereka ufulu wochulukirapo pakuzindikiritsa ndi kufotokoza za kugonana kwathu. Zatsegula njira yopulumukira ku lingaliro losavuta loti anthu amagonana ndi amuna kapena akazi okhaokha kapena ogonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha, awiriwo amawonedwa ngati mbali zotsutsana.
Masiku ano, tili ndi masikelo opitilira 200 omwe amagwiritsidwa ntchito ngati magawo ofotokozera za kugonana kwa munthu. Odziwika kwambiri ndi awa:
Kinsey Scale, yomwe imayika kugonana m'magulu asanu ndi awiri:
1. Okonda amuna kapena akazi okhaokha
2. Nthawi zambiri amagonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha, nthawi zina amagonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha
3. Nthawi zambiri amagonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha, koma kuposa nthawi zina amuna kapena akazi okhaokha
4. Mofanana ndi amuna kapena akazi okhaokha komanso amuna kapena akazi okhaokha
5. Nthawi zambiri amagonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha, koma kuposa nthawi zina amuna kapena akazi okhaokha
6. Nthawi zambiri amagonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha, nthawi zina amagonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha
7. Ogonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha
Klein Sexual Orientation Grid, yomwe imayang'ana mbali zisanu ndi ziwiri zosiyanasiyana kuti iwunikire komwe munthu amafikira pazokhudza kugonana:
1. Kukopeka ndi kugonana
2. Kugonana
3. Maganizo ogonana
4. Zokonda zamaganizo
5. Zokonda pagulu
6. Moyo wogonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha/ogonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha
7. Kudzizindikiritsa
Storms Sexuality Axis, yomwe imayambitsanso kugonana, ndi zina monga kinks, fetish, ndi zochitika za BDSM pozindikira zizindikiritso zogonana.
Sexuality Spectrum Versus Conformism
Ngakhale lingaliro lakuti kugonana kukhale kosinthasintha likudziwika - malinga ndi kafukufuku , anthu azaka za m'ma 1900 ndi a zaka za m'ma 1900 akuvomereza lingaliroli kwambiri poyerekeza ndi Gen X ndi Boomers, mwachitsanzo - likupitilizabe kutsutsidwa ndi magulu akuluakulu a anthu. Kukana kumeneku kumagwira ntchito pa munthu payekha komanso pagulu ndipo kumachokera ku kufunika kotsatira malamulo.
Ndikuwona zikuchitika ndi anthu omwe amabwera ku chithandizo nthawi zonse. Mwachitsanzo, Ron, wazaka 32, amadabwa ndi lingaliro lokhala ndi amuna ndi akazi koma amawona kuti amuna ndi akazi ndi okongola. Sasha, wazaka 42, wokwatiwa ndi ana awiri sadziwa choti achite ndi kukopa komwe amamva kwa mkazi wa mnansi wake.
Chimodzi mwazifukwa zomwe izi zimachitika ndikuti abambo safuna kuvomereza kapena kuchita zomwe amakonda kapena kukopa kwa wina yemwe ndi amuna kapena akazi anzawo kuopera kuti angawazindikire ngati 'gay' ndikuweruzidwa. Kuyambira ali aang’ono, anyamata amauzidwa kuti azitsatira mwambi woti ‘amuna salira’ ndipo pamapeto pake amakhumudwa kwambiri.
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Ambiri a iwo sangagwirizane ndi akazi popanda kusokoneza ubale wawo, motero, sadziwa chochita ndi chikondi chilichonse chachikondi kapena ngakhale chikondi cha platonic chomwe angamve kwa munthu wamtundu womwewo. Komabe, akazi m'zikhalidwe zambiri alibe ufulu ndi ufulu wodzipangira okha zisankho izi.
Ife, monga gulu, nthawi zonse timayang'anira matupi ndi zilakolako za anthu ena, ndipo apolisi amawapangitsa kufuna kutsata. Anthu amaona kuti ali ndi udindo wosankha mbali ina, ndipo amaona kuti akukakamizika kunena kuti ali mbali imene amaliona kuti ndi yolondola.
Kodi nkhani za kugonana zimatsutsana?
Tikamalankhula za kugonana kukhala madzimadzi, funso lomwe nthawi zambiri limabwera ndiloti ngati kugonana kulipo pamtundu uliwonse, mumadziwa bwanji komwe muli? Kodi nkhani zakugonana sizikusemphana? Kumeneko, ndikunena kuti zimasemphana kokha ngati muli ndi lingaliro la mpikisano wopita ku chiyero, komwe muyenera kukhala gay kapena molunjika.
Ngati muphunzira kukhala pamtendere ndi zilakolako zanu ndikutenga zochitika zonse momwe zimakhalira, kupeza malo anu pazochitika zogonana sikuyenera kukhala zotsutsana kapena zosokoneza.
Yin ndi yang ya kugonana ingakhalepo mwa munthu aliyense mumgwirizano wangwiro malinga ngati palibe chikakamizo kapena kuyesa kutsutsa zilakolako zachibadwa za munthu. Kodi kuvomereza zachiwerewere kumatanthauza kuti tilipobe? Ayi. Kodi tingayembekezere kukafika kumeneko? Mwina ayi. Koma aliyense wa ife angayesetse kukhala ogwirizana ndi amtendere ndi zilakolako zathu zachikondi ndi zakugonana.
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Chopereka chanu sichikutanthauza chopereka chachifundo . Chidzalola Bonobology kupitiliza kukubweretserani chidziwitso chatsopano komanso chaposachedwa poyesetsa kuthandiza aliyense padziko lonse lapansi kuphunzira momwe angachitire chilichonse.
