Mitundu 18 Ya Kugonana Ndi Tanthauzo Lake

Panapita masiku omwe lingaliro la binary jenda, kuphatikiza ndi heteronormativity, zidapangitsa anthu kunyozetsa kuchuluka kwa kugonana. Masiku ano, anthu ayamba kuphunzira kuvomereza kuti ndife amtundu wanji monga momwe zimakhalira osati kuti ndife ndani koma kuti ndi ndani komanso momwe timakonda. Tikuphunzira zambiri za mitundu yosiyanasiyana ya kugonana. Ndipo pamene anthu akuchulukirachulukira kuvomereza kuti ndi amuna kapena akazi, mawu atsopano ndi magulu amaperekedwa nthawi zonse.

Kafukufuku waposachedwapa adapeza kuti anthu opitilira 1.3 miliyoni ku England ndi Wales amadziwika kuti ndi akazi kapena amuna kapena akazi okhaokha, amuna kapena akazi okhaokha, kapena amuna kapena akazi okhaokha. Anthu pafupifupi 165,000 amadziwika kuti ndi 'zina' zomwe amakonda pankhani yogonana. Ndipo anthu 262,000 adati kudziwika kwawo ngati amuna kapena akazi okhaokha kunali kosiyana ndi kugonana komwe adalembetsa atabadwa. Mwachionekere, tili paliponse koma, m'njira zambiri, nkhani yokhudza kugonana kosiyanasiyana sinamveke bwino monga momwe iyenera kukhalira.

Kuti tichitepo kanthu kuti tisinthe zimenezo ndikukupatsani kumvetsetsa bwino nkhaniyi, tiyeni tiwone mitundu yosiyanasiyana ya kugonana pokambirana ndi katswiri wa zamaganizo komanso mphunzitsi wodziwa bwino ntchito za moyo Deepak Kashyap (Masters in Psychology of Education), yemwe ndi katswiri pa nkhani zosiyanasiyana zaumoyo wamaganizo komanso LGBTQ ndi uphungu wachinsinsi. Iye akufotokoza kuti, "Kugonana kumatanthauza munthu amene mumamukonda, komanso momwe mumakopekera ndi anthu. Ndipo kudziwika ngati mwamuna kapena mkazi kumatanthauza momwe mumamvetsetsa ndi kudziwonera nokha pa momwe thupi lanu limaonekera. Ma pronouns amachita gawo lalikulu pakudzitsimikizira kumeneko."

Pankhani ya matchulidwe, Deepak akuwonjezera, "Inu mupite kwa munthu ameneyo ndikumufunsa, "Ndimatchulidwe ati omwe ndimakugwiritsani ntchito?" Zosavuta ngati zimenezo. " Kwa osadziwa, opusa kapena ayi, mndandanda wa mawu womwe ukukulirakulira ukhoza kukhala wolemetsa. Koma musadere nkhawa, okonda ana ndi ogwirizana nawo atsopano, chifukwa ndiyesera kukupatsani maphunziro ang'onoang'ono a LGBTQIA + kutanthauza, kusiyana pakati pa jenda ndi kugonana, pakati pa kukopeka ndi kugonana, komanso kuyankha mafunso monga, "kugonana ndi chiyani", "kugonana ndikowonekera", "ndi mitundu ingati ya kugonana komwe kulipo".

Kodi Kugonana ndi Chiyani?

Malinga ndi katswiri wofufuza za kugonana, Carol Queen, Ph.D., ndimomwe munthu amamvera ndi kufotokoza ubale wake ndi kugonana, chilakolako, chilakolako, ndi chilakolako. Ndi chikoka cha munthu pa kugonana, thupi, kapena maganizo kwa anthu. Pali mitundu yambiri yosiyanasiyana ya kugonana, 18 mwa izo zafotokozedwa kale.

Kudziwika kwa kugonana kumasinthasintha ndipo kumatha kusintha - zonse zokhudzana ndi kugonana ndi matanthauzo ake zimasinthasintha. Musadabwe ngati mutapeza kuti mwakhala mukukopeka ndi amuna kwa zaka zambiri . Kapena mutakhala wowongoka mtima moyo wanu wonse, mumazindikira muzaka za m'ma 40 kuti ndinu munthu wokonda kugonana kwambiri ndipo mumakopeka ndi anthu amitundu yonse.

Kodi zimakhudza bwanji kugonana? Momwe timalumikizirana ndi dziko lapansi, momwe timasungira malingaliro athu kuti tizikumana ndi zomwe takumana nazo komanso kusiyanasiyana kwamalingaliro amunthu, momwe timadzichotsera tokha kuchokera ku zolembedwa zokhazikika, momwe ndale zathu zimasinthira (zokopa ndi ndale, inde), momwe timadziwira tokha ku malingaliro atsopano ndikuzilola kuzika mizu mkati mwathu - zonsezi zimakhudza momwe timakhalira moyo wathu wokopeka ndi kugonana.

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Ndizosamveka kuganiza kuti titha kuyika chinthu chosasinthika, chosamveka, komanso chandale ngati kukopa kugonana. Tangoganizani izi: Ngati kulibe kugonana kwa amuna kapena akazi okhaokha monga kusakhulupirika, sitikadafunikanso chizindikiro china chilichonse. Anthu amasiya kuganiza za jenda lomwe mumakonda, ndipo sitingataye nthawi yochuluka kufotokoza chifukwa chake kugonana kwina kuli kovomerezeka kapena ngakhale sayansi. Anthu akanangokopeka ndi anthu. Choncho, lingaliro la kugonana / kugonana liripo kokha chifukwa timawona kuti kugonana kwa amuna kapena akazi okhaokha ndizochitika.

Tanthauzo lina la kugonana ndi ili: Kugonana ndi mphamvu yanu yokhudzira chilakolako chogonana. Mwachitsanzo, munthu wolankhula bwino anganene kuti: “Ndikavala chovala ichi, chimasonyezadi kuti ndimakonda kugonana” kapena “Mnzanga amandilimbikitsa kwambiri ndikamayang'ana za kugonana kwanga kapena kuyesa pabedi .”

Kodi LGBTQIA+ imatanthauza chiyani?

Ndipo LGBTQ imayimira chiyani? LGBTQIA+ ndi mawu oyamba omwe amaimira amuna kapena akazi okhaokha, amuna okhaokha, akazi okhaokha, amuna okhaokha, akazi okhaokha, amuna okhaokha, amuna kapena akazi okhaokha, amafunsa mafunso, amuna kapena akazi okhaokha, osagonana nawo, komanso onunkhira. Awa ndi mawu odziwika kwa anthu ammudzi ndipo amaphatikizanso zikhumbo zonse zogonana ndi amuna kapena akazi. Mwachitsanzo, B amayimira bisexual - zokonda zogonana, ndipo T ndi transgender - chizindikiritso cha jenda. The + ikutanthauza mitundu yonse ya kugonana ndi amuna kapena akazi omwe sitingathe kufotokozedwa/kutchulidwa kapena zomwe tipitiliza kuzipeza.

Kodi ndikofunikira kudziwa za kugonana kwanu?

Tisanawerenge mndandanda wamalingaliro ogonana, tiyeni tiwone ngati kudziwa za kugonana / zomwe mumakonda ndizofunika. Chabwino, zingakhale zovuta komanso zomasula, koma sizingakhale 'zofunika' kuti mudziwe.

• Ndine gay kapena ndine bisexual? Simuyenera kudziwa motsimikiza. Anthu ambiri amgulu la LGBTQIA+ amangosinthika ikafika pakudziwika kwawo ndipo ali bwino kukhala opanda zilembo, kapena kutenga zilembo zazikulu ngati 'queer' kapena 'gay' kuti adzifotokoze okha. 
• Mamiliyoni a anthu 'owongoka', nawonso, amakonda kusaganizira zenizeni za chikhumbo chawo ndi kukopa kwawo moyo wawo wonse.
• Kumbali inayi, mungafune kudziwa zomwe mumakonda kuti a) mukhale pamtendere ndi inu nokha, b) kumvetsetsa momwe mumakhudzira chikondi / kugonana komanso mwina ngakhale sonyeza chikondi nokha, c) tchulani kuponderezedwa komwe mukukumana nako (acephobia, biphobia, etc.), d) pezani malo otetezeka komanso gulu la anthu amalingaliro ofanana. 
• Zikatero, chonde dziwani kuti zitenga nthawi komanso kuleza mtima kuti musaphunzire / kuphunzira ndipo muyenera kukhala wodekha.
• Ngakhale mutadziwira nokha zilembo zolondola, sikofunikira kutulukira kwa wina aliyense. Chidziwitso chanu ndi chowonadi chaumwini
• Tanthauzo lanu lokonda kugonana lingasiyane ndi ena omwe ali ndi malingaliro ofanana, ndipo ndizabwinobwino

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Kodi kugonana kuli ndi mawonekedwe?

Palibe njira imodzi yofotokozera zomwe mumakonda. Momwe ndimaonera kugonana, zimakhala ngati kuyenda kwamadzi a m'nyanja, ndipo mumasankha mthunzi ndi mafunde omwe amakuyenererani bwino. Sichiwonetsero chotsatira chomwe chimachoka kwa amuna kapena akazi okhaokha kupita kwa amuna kapena akazi okhaokha (monga momwe Kinsey Scale idanenera). Zidziwitso zonsezi, kwa inu, zitha kukhala zilembo zoyandama zomwe zimaphatikizana, kupindika, ndikudzipatula ndi nthawi komanso kuzindikira.

Kusiyana pakati pa jenda ndi kugonana

Simuyenera kutuluka m'chipinda chobisika , nthawi zonse. Koma muyenera kudziwa kusiyana pakati pa kugonana kwa munthu ndi umunthu wake. Jenda limaphatikizapo chikhalidwe cha anthu, maganizo, chikhalidwe, ndi khalidwe la munthu monga mwamuna, mkazi, kapena mtundu wina uliwonse wa jenda. Chifukwa chake, umunthu wanu wa jenda ndi momwe mumaonera jenda lanu, pomwe kugonana/kugonana kumasonyeza jenda lomwe mumakonda.

Mwachitsanzo: Ndiwe transman ndipo ndiwe wowongoka. Izi zikutanthauza kuti mwamuna kapena mkazi wanu ndi 'mwamuna', ndipo zomwe mumakonda ndikugonana ndi amuna kapena akazi okhaokha, mwachitsanzo, mumakopeka ndi akazi okha.

Kusiyana pakati pa zokonda ndi zokonda zogonana

Timaphatikiza 'malingaliro' awiriwa kwambiri kotero kuti timaganiza kuti kukopana ndi kugonana ndi kukopana ndi chikondi ziyenera kugwira ntchito limodzi nthawi zonse. Komabe, kukondana kumasonyeza mtundu (anthu) omwe mumakondana nawo (mwina simungawakope), ndipo kukondana ndi amuna kapena akazi omwe mumakondana nawo (mwina simungakopeke nawo).

Iwe ngati mkazi utha kukopeka ndi akazi ena. Ndiye ndiwe wachikazi. Koma mumakopeka ndi amuna (osati kugonana). Izi zimakupangitsani kukhala wosiyana ndi amuna kapena akazi okhaokha. Ndiko kusiyana pakati pa kukopeka pakugonana ndi chikondi/kugonana komanso kukondana.

Mitundu 18 Ya Kugonana Ndi Matanthauzo Ake Osavuta

Kaya ndinu ndani, mumakonda ndani, komanso momwe mumasankhira kufotokoza malingaliro anu kwa munthu amene mumamukonda - pali malo anu padziko lapansi. Ndi lingaliro labwino, ndiye, kudziwa zonse zokhudza kugonana ndi matanthauzo. Kupatula apo, ngakhale kuti zilembo sizili zofunika, zimakuthandizani kupeza gulu. Ngati mukufuna kunena momveka bwino za kugonana kwanu, Deepak ali ndi upangiri uwu kwa inu, "Choyamba muyenera kudziwa kuti mudzakhala otetezeka mukatuluka. Ndipo mukatuluka, musagwiritse ntchito mawu opepesa. Mumangonena kuti ndinu ndani."

Tisanalowe mu mawu ofotokozera, tiyeni tibwerere m'mbuyo m'mbiri kwa kanthawi. Pambuyo pa kafukufuku waukulu, katswiri wa zamoyo ndi zachiwerewere wa ku America Kinsey adapanga muyeso wa mitundu yosiyanasiyana ya kugonana kuti apereke bwino magulu osiyanasiyana a kugonana. Ngakhale kuti ndi ntchito yosintha zinthu, muyeso wa Kinsey wataya kufunika kwake m'dziko lamakono chifukwa umalephera kuzindikira mfundo zina komanso zovuta zina zokhudzana ndi kugonana.

Ndiye, mu 2023 muli zogonana zingati? Zogonana zonse ndi matanthauzo ake zidzapitirira kukula, ndipo iyi si mndandanda wathunthu. Koma ngati mukufufuzabe dzina lanu, ili ndiye kalozera woyenera kwa inu. Popanda ado, nayi mndandanda ndi matanthauzo a mitundu 18 yakugonana kunja uko:

1. Kugonana kwa amuna kapena akazi okhaokha

Tiyeni tiyambe kukambirana za kugonana konse ndi tanthauzo lake ndi amuna kapena akazi okhaokha, anthu omwe amakopeka ndi kugonana ndikuchita zogonana. Anthu omwe ali ndi chiwerewere chotere amatha kukhala ndi chikondi komanso kukopeka ndi anthu. Dziko pano likugwira ntchito ndi malingaliro osakhazikika akuti aliyense ndi wachiwerewere, wotchedwanso allonormativity.

2. Kugonana

Anthu osagonana ndi amuna kapena akazi okhaokha amadana ndi kugonana kapena sangafune kugonana ndi amuna kapena akazi okhaokha. Ndizachilendo kusakonda kugonana ndi amuna kapena akazi okhaokha. Komabe, anthu osagonana ndi amuna kapena akazi okhaokha amatha kukhala ndi chikondi ndi anthu ena. Chikondi (osati chilakolako chogonana) chomwe chimagwirizanitsidwa ndi kusagonana ndi amuna kapena akazi okhaokha ndi aromantism.

Anthu okondeka samamvetsetsa, amafuna, ndi/kapena amafuna kukondedwa. Sakhala ndi kukopeka ndi anthu amtundu uliwonse kapena amuna kapena akazi okhaokha. Atha kukhala osagonana ndi amuna kapena akazi okhaokha ndipo amatha kukhala ndi malingaliro aliwonse ogonana. Aromantics amadutsa nthawi yovuta kumvetsetsa lingaliro la kusweka kapena kugwa m'chikondi. Sakhulupirira kuti maubwenzi okondana ndi chinthu chofunikira kwa anthu, lingaliro lomwe limadziwika kuti amatonormativity.

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3. Kugonana kwa amuna kapena akazi okhaokha

Anthu a Androsexual ndi omwe amamva kukopeka ndi amuna kapena anthu omwe amawonetsa zikhalidwe zachimuna. Munthu androsexual ndi anthu omwe amakopeka nawo, onse awiri akhoza kukhala cisgender, transgender, kapena nonbinary. Kugonana kotereku sikumangogwiritsa ntchito malingaliro opotoka okhudza jenda, kugonana, ndi/kapena thupi la munthu ndipo kumatanthawuza kukopeka ndi munthu aliyense kapena mwamuna.

4. Kugonana kwa amuna kapena akazi okhaokha

Anthu okonda akazi kapena amuna kapena akazi okhaokha amamva kukonda akazi kapena akazi okhaokha. Mawuwa sadziletsa okha chifukwa cha kugonana, kugonana, kapena thupi. Ndi mawu ophatikizapo omwe amatanthauza kuphatikiza zizindikiro zonse za kukonda akazi zomwe munthu angakumane nazo kwa mkazi aliyense kapena/kapena mkazi. Muthanso kutchula izi kuti gynephilia.

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5. Kugonana kwa amuna kapena akazi okhaokha

Nthawi zambiri kumatchedwa kuwongoka, kugonana kwa amuna kapena akazi okhaokha kumaganiziridwa molakwika ngati 'chosasinthika' pamndandanda wazogonana. Zimaphatikizapo anthu omwe ali ndi chikondi komanso kugonana ndi anthu omwe, molingana ndi matanthauzo akale a amuna ndi akazi, amakhala a 'otsutsa'. Kotero, izo zingatanthauze mwamuna kukopeka ndi mkazi ndi mosemphanitsa.

6. Kugonana kwa amuna kapena akazi okhaokha

Awa ndi ena mwa mawu akale omwe amaphatikiza anthu omwe amakopeka ndi amuna kapena akazi okhaokha kapena amuna kapena akazi okhaokha. Ogonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha amagawidwanso m'magulu awiri, mwachitsanzo, amuna kapena akazi okhaokha, kutengera jenda. Munthu amene amagonana ndi amuna kapena akazi okhaokha angakhale mwamuna yemwe amakopeka ndi amuna kapena akazi okhaokha, ndiye kuti amakopeka ndi amuna. Ogonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha angakhale mkazi wokopeka ndi akazi.

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7. Kugonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha

Izi zimaphatikizapo kukopeka ndi amuna kapena akazi okhaokha. Mikhalidwe yokhudzana ndi amuna kapena akazi okhaokha imaphatikizapo kugonana kwa amuna kapena akazi okhaokha, kugonana kwa amuna kapena akazi okhaokha, kugonana kwa amuna kapena akazi okhaokha, kugonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha, ndi zina zotero. Anthu ogonana ndi amuna kapena akazi okhaokha amagwiritsa ntchito mawuwa kusonyeza zomwe amakumana nazo pazochitika zosiyanasiyana zogonana.

Polyromanticism ndi chikhalidwe chogwirizana chachikondi, chomwe ndi pamene mumakopeka ndi anthu angapo, koma osati onse, omwe ali amuna kapena akazi. Izi zimamaliza mitundu 7 ya kugonana, koma, pali zambiri.

8. Kugonana kwa amuna ndi akazi awiri

Musanafunse kuti, “Kodi bisexual ndi chiyani?”, ganizirani izi: kodi lingaliro lakuti “ Ine ndine bisexual ” lakhala likukupatsani chisangalalo kapena chisangalalo? Anthu okonda amuna kapena akazi okhaokha ndi omwe amakopeka ndi amuna kapena akazi okhaokha, kuphatikizapo kukonda amuna kapena akazi okhaokha. Amatha kukopeka ndi amuna ndi akazi a cisgender komanso anthu osintha chibadwa chawo komanso anthu osakhala amuna kapena akazi okhaokha.

Simungathe kugawa anthu ogonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha m'magawo awiri osiyana a amuna kapena akazi okhaokha komanso amuna kapena akazi okhaokha. Kukopa sikumangokhalira kugonana, komanso kungaphatikizepo kukopeka ndi chikondi. Zomwe zimagwirizanitsidwa ndi chikondi ndi bisexuality ndi biromanticism. Anthu okondana amakondana, koma osagonana, amakopeka ndi amuna angapo, kuphatikiza awo.

9. Bicuriosity

Anthu okonda kugonana ndi amuna kapena akazi okhaokha ndi omwe akufufuzabe ndipo sakudziwa ngati ali ndi chilakolako chogonana ndi amuna kapena akazi okhaokha. Sakufuna kuvomereza chilakolako chogonana ndi amuna kapena akazi okhaokha ngati chizindikiro. Chifukwa chake, akhoza kukhala okonzeka kuchita chibwenzi kapena kugona ndi anthu awoawo komanso amuna kapena akazi ena, mpaka atatsimikizira kuti ali ndi chilakolako chogonana ndi amuna kapena akazi okhaokha. Mwachitsanzo, ngati mwakhala mukudzizindikiritsa kuti ndinu mwamuna kapena mkazi ndipo tsopano mukufuna kudziwa za chikondi chogonana ndi amuna kapena akazi okhaokha, mutha kudzitcha kuti ndinu munthu wokonda kugonana ndi amuna kapena akazi okhaokha. Munthu akhoza kukhala ndi chilakolako chogonana ndi amuna kapena akazi okhaokha moyo wake wonse, osayang'ana kwambiri chizindikiro china chake.

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10. Pansexuality

Pan amatanthauza zonse, motero, anthu okonda kugonana amatha kukopeka ndi anthu mosasamala kanthu za jenda, kugonana, kapena zomwe amakonda. Panromanticism ndi chikhalidwe chachikondi chokhudzana ndi kugonana kumeneku, kutanthauza kukopeka ndi anthu popanda kuganizira za jenda, kugonana, kapena zomwe amakonda.

11. Kugonana kwa amuna kapena akazi okhaokha

Kugonana ndi amuna kapena akazi okhaokha kumagwera pa mtundu wa ace - kapena osagonana ndi amuna kapena akazi okhaokha. Anthu ogonana ndi amuna kapena akazi okhaokha amatha kukopeka ndi anthu koma nthawi zambiri amafunika kulumikizana mwamphamvu kuti akhazikitsidwe kaye. Vutoli likakwaniritsidwa, anthu ogonana ndi amuna kapena akazi okhaokha amatha kusangalala ndi kugonana monga mwachizolowezi koma sangachite zogonana monga momwe munthu wosagonana ndi amuna kapena akazi okhaokha angachitire.

Mofanana ndi anthu amene amagonana ndi amuna kapena akazi anzawo, anthu okondana nawonso amafunikira kuti zinthu zichitike asanamvepo za chikondi chilichonse kwa munthu. Nthawi zambiri, izi zikutanthauza kuti amafunikira kulumikizana kwamalingaliro kuti kukhazikitsidwe kaye asanamve kuti amakonda aliyense.

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12. Graysexuality

Anthu okonda kugonana a mtundu wa imvi ndi omwe ali pamndandanda wa anthu okonda kugonana. Amamva chilakolako chogonana ndipo nthawi zina amafuna kugonana koma nthawi zambiri, ngati mnzawo akumva chilakolako , sangakhale nacho. Anthuwa amakhala omasuka ndi kugonana kosagonana monga kukumbatirana. Kugonana kwa mtundu wa imvi ndi malo apakati pakati pa kugonana kwa amuna kapena akazi okhaokha ndi kugonana kwa amuna kapena akazi okhaokha, pafupi ndi kugonana kwa amuna kapena akazi okhaokha.

Zomwe zimagwirizanitsidwa ndi chikondi ndi izi ndi grayromanticism. Grayromantics ali pa sipekitiramu zonunkhira. Izi zikutanthauza kuti amakhala ndi chikondi kwa anthu koma osati mofanana ndi ena. Grayromantics sakhala ndi chidwi chofuna kuyambitsa chibwenzi ngakhale atakopeka ndi wina. Iwo alipo mu imvi gawo pakati zachikondi ndi onunkhira.

13. Cupiosexuality

Ili linali dzina latsopano ngakhale kwa ine, ndipo limandipangitsa kudzifunsanso kuti, “Kodi pali anthu angati okonda kugonana?” Anthu okonda kugonana ndi amuna kapena akazi okhaokha omwe, ngakhale sakumva chilakolako chilichonse chogonana, amafuna kugonana , kuchita zogonana, komanso kuchita zinthu zolimbitsa thupi zofanana. Kukondana kogwirizana: kugonana ndi amuna kapena akazi okhaokha. Anthu okonda kugonana amafuna maubwenzi achikondi ngakhale kuti sakumva chilakolako cha chikondi.

14. Autosexuality

Kugonana ndi munthu wodzidalira yekha ndi chilakolako chofuna kugonana ndi munthu wodzidalira yekha. Ambiri a iwo angakonde kudziseweretsa maliseche m'malo mogonana ndi ena kapena ngakhale mnzanu. Tikulankhula za kudzidalira, eti? Chikondi chogwirizana nacho ndi kudzikonda. Amadziona ngati achikondi. Amavutika kusonyeza kapena kulandira zizindikiro zachikondi , koma amakonda kukwaniritsa maloto awo. Anthu odzidalira okha amathanso kukonda anthu ena.

15. Kugonana kwa amuna kapena akazi okhaokha

Kugonana ndi amuna kapena akazi okhaokha ndi pamene anthu amakopeka ndi anthu osintha chigololo ndi anthu osintha chigololo ndi anthu osakhala amuna kapena akazi okhaokha. Mawuwa SIKUTI amatanthauza kugonana ndi anthu osintha chigololo, kuwapangitsa kukhala osayenera, komanso kuwapangitsa kukhala osayenera. Kugonana ndi amuna kapena akazi okhaokha, komwe kumagwirizanitsidwa ndi chikondi, kumatanthauza kukopeka ndi anthu osintha chigololo ndi anthu osintha chigololo.

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16. Sapiosexuality

Kawirikawiri amapezeka pa mapulogalamu ochezera , ndipo nthawi zambiri amagwiritsidwa ntchito molakwika, anthu ogonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha ndi omwe amamva kukondana chifukwa cha nzeru, osati chifukwa cha kugonana, jenda, mawonekedwe, kapena makhalidwe ena a umunthu. Mutha kukhala ndi chilakolako china chilichonse chogonana komanso kukhala munthu wogonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha. Chilakolako chake chachikondi, sapioromantism, chimaphatikizapo kukondana ndi anthu chifukwa cha nzeru.

17. Kugonana kwa amuna kapena akazi okhaokha

Anthu okonda kugonana ndi amuna kapena akazi okhaokha amakhala ndi chilakolako chogonana, zomwe zikutanthauza kuti amasinthasintha pakati pa mitundu yosiyanasiyana ya chilakolako ndi chilakolako chogonana moyo wawo wonse. Izi zimasonyeza kuti chilakolako chogonana chimasintha nthawi zonse ndipo chingasinthe mphamvu ndi mayina. Mofananamo, anthu okonda kugonana ndi amuna kapena akazi okhaokha amakhala ndi chilakolako chachikondi chomwe chimakhala chosangalatsa moyo wawo wonse.

18. Heteroflexibility ndi homoflexibility

Munthu wosinthasintha amatha kudzifotokoza kuti ndi amuna kapena akazi okhaokha koma nthawi zina amatha kukopeka ndi zofanana kapena zina. Munthu wokonda kugonana ndi amuna kapena akazi okhaokha amatha kudzifotokoza kuti ndi amuna kapena akazi okhaokha koma nthawi zina amatha kukopeka ndi zizindikiritso zina.

Kotero, tisanamalize, ndikufunseni funso - Kodi tsopano tikulandira kwambiri mitundu yosiyanasiyana ya kugonana monga anthu? Deepak akukhulupirira kuti, "Ndi bwino kuposa kale. Koma sitingathe kudzitcha tokha anthu olandira. Tili ndi anthu enieni olandira anthu ndipo tikuwona kusintha kwa malingaliro okhudza kugonana ndi kukopa, koma sitikulandira mokwanira pamlingo wa chikhalidwe, malamulo, komanso dongosolo kuti tidziwonetse ngati anthu olandira anthu."

Kuthandizira gulu la LGBTQIA+

Ngati mukusokonezeka kapena mukuvutika kuzindikira/kuvomereza chilakolako chanu chogonana ndi/kapena chikondi koma mukufunadi kutsatira njira iyi yodzifufuza, kufunafuna thandizo kuchokera kuzinthu zoyenera kungakhale chinthu chabwino kwambiri chomwe mungachite nokha. Magulu ndi zipatala zina zomwe anthu okonda kugonana angapiteko kuti akapeze chithandizo, malinga ndi Medical News Today , ndi awa:

• Ntchito ya Trevor: Bungweli limadzifotokoza kuti limapereka chidziwitso ndi chithandizo ku gulu la LGBTQ
• Audre Lorde Project: Kuchokera ku New York City, bungweli limalimbikitsa chilungamo kwa anthu ogonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha, amuna kapena akazi okhaokha, amuna kapena akazi okhaokha, mizimu iwiri, trans and gender nonconforming (LGBTSTGNC) People of Color
• Zuna Institute: Bungwe lolimbikitsa anthu ogonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha lakuda limayang'ana kwambiri zaumoyo, mfundo za anthu, chitukuko cha zachuma, ndi maphunziro.
• National Queer Asia Pacific Islander Alliance: Bungweli likuti "limapereka mphamvu kwa LGBTQ+ Asiya ndi anthu aku Pacific Island polimbikitsa mayendedwe, kulengeza mfundo, ndi kuyimira."
• Bungwe la American Institute of Bisexuality: Limadziwikanso kuti Bi Foundation, bungweli limathandizira anthu omwe amadziwika kuti ndi amuna ndi akazi
• CenterLink: Anthu a ku United States, Australia, Canada, Colombia, China, ndi Uganda angagwiritse ntchito webusaitiyi kuti apeze malo ochezera a LGBTQIA+
• Equality Federation: Bungweli limapereka chikwatu cha mabungwe a LGBTQIA+ m'boma lonse

Titha kuyembekeza kuti chithunzicho chidzasintha pakapita nthawi ndipo anthu pamitundu yonse ya kugonana ndi amuna ndi akazi adzalandira ufulu wofanana, kusintha kwalamulo, kusintha, kulemekeza, ndi kutsimikiziridwa. Ngakhale nkhaniyi ikungotchula mitundu 18 ya kugonana, dziwani kuti pali zambiri kunja uko. Poganizira kuchuluka kwa kugonana komwe kulipo, zingakhale zovuta kuti mudziwe kuti ndinu ndani nthawi yomweyo. Koma ngakhale simukugwirizana ndi kugonana ndi matanthauzo ake omwe alembedwa apa, dziwani kuti malingaliro anu ndi kukhalapo kwanu ndizovomerezeka. Musalole aliyense kuti akuuzeni zina.

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