Kugonana Mwachisawawa Ndikwabwino Bola Mumachitira Mwachisawawa

Ndimakonda kugonana wamba. Inde ndivomera. Ndipo sindichita manyazi kuvomereza zimenezo. Anthu ngati chakudya, maluwa, mafashoni… ndiye bwanji sindingakonde kusangalala ndi gawo labwino pabedi? Kukhala popanda izo kwa zaka zisanu ndi chimodzi mwa maphunziro ovuta kwambiri omwe ndinafunika kupirira.

Ndipo ndikutanthauza kulandidwa kwathunthu. Palibe kupsopsona. Palibe kukumbatirana. Ngakhale kugwirana chanza (ouch…). Sindinali munthu wokonda kugonana wamba ngakhale ndidazindikira ukoma wake pambuyo pake. Kugonana kunasinthadi momwe ndimamvera ponena za kugonana kwachisawawa.

Ukwati Wolephera Unali Njira Yoyambira Kugonana Mwachisawawa

Ndinali m’banja lopanda kugonana. Sikuti kugonana kunalibe poyamba. Panali. Koma kenako idatuluka mwachangu kwambiri. Pamene kugonana kunasiya, momwemonso chibwenzi chinakula.

Chinyengo kapena lingaliro logonana mwachisawawa ndi ena silinabwere m’maganizo mwanga chifukwa ndimakhulupirira mwamphamvu za kukhala ndi mwamuna mmodzi. Ndipotu m’zibwenzi zanga zonse m’mbuyomo tisanalowe m’banja, ndinali wodzipereka kwambiri kwa azibwenzi anga. Ndipo ndichinthu chomwe ndimadzikuza nacho, mpaka lero.

Kubwerera ku ukwati wanga - izo zinatha mwatsoka ndipo ndinatsala ndekha ndekha, monga mayi wosakwatiwa.

Ndinali ngati namwali wobadwanso mwatsopano

Ndinali wokhutiritsidwa kuti ndidzafa namwali wobadwanso mwatsopano. Mayesero aliwonse osangalatsa omwe ndidatenga pa Facebook, omwe amakuuzani za ntchito yanu yabwino, adakhala osokoneza. Ndinatsimikiza kuti anyamatawa anali kuyang'anira moyo wanga mwachinsinsi. Kodi mukufuna kudziwa zotsatira za mayeso? Chabwino, werenganibe.

"Naina, ntchito yako yabwino ndi NUN." Kapena bwino… “Naina, ndiwe 99% woyera ndi 1% yakuda!" Zotsatira za mayeso a ana opangidwa ndi ena 20-otayika zinandikhudza kwambiri kotero kuti ndinakhala pansi usiku wathunthu ndikulira kwa bwenzi langa la momwe nthawi yanga yachilala ndi dzenje lopanda madzi lopanda madzi, louma, louma lopanda kulima!

Kumapeto kwa macheza athu, tonse tidaseka posankha mawu anga…Koma zidakhala bwino. Usiku ndi usiku, m'mawa ndi m'mawa, malo anga anali owuma!

Ndinapitiriza kukhala ndi moyo wosagonana

Izi zinapitirira kwa zaka zisanu. Ndinali nditayamba kuvomereza moyo wanga wosagonana monga moyo wokonda kugonana. Anthu ondizungulira anali kuchita zachiwerewere koma sizinandisangalatse nthawi imeneyo. Ndinasiya kuyang'ana pagalasi. Ndidalengeza poyera kuti Whoopi Goldberg adandipatsa kutsogolera sister act 3.

Ndinayiwala momwe milomo ya munthu, kapena manja ake kapena tsitsi lake zimamveka. Mikono yamwana wanga wamng’onoyo inali mikono yokhayo ya mwamuna imene inazungulira thupi langa kuti ndiigwire kapena kudyetsedwa kapena kugona. Ndipo ndadalitsidwa kukhala mayi, koma ndinalinso china. Ndinali mkazi ndipo ndinkafunitsitsa kumva ngati mmodzi.

Ndipo inali nthawi imeneyo ndinadziwa kuti chinachake chiyenera kusintha.

Ndinatenga zinthu m'manja mwanga

Masewera apitilira. Ndinachepa thupi. Ndinawononga $ 800 pakupanga tsitsi, $ 200 ina pa zovala zatsopano, koma chofunika kwambiri, ndinaganiza zodzichitira bwino. Ndipo ndalamazo zinali zoyenera.

Ndinalumphira pachibwenzi pa intaneti ndipo nthawi zambiri ndi malo omwe anthu amapeza kugonana kwachisawawa. Sindinali kuyang'ana pozungulira kuti "ndimupeze" koma kuti ndipeze INE NDENDE. Ndinafunika kudziwa ngati ndinali wokonzeka. Ndinafunikira chinachake chondipangitsa kumva kukhala wofunika. Pakufunidwa. Mukusowa.

Ndinasangalala kwambiri kuzindikira kuti amuna ambiri amafuna kukhala pachibwenzi. Ndipo sindikunena za mitundu yokalamba, ya dazi, yozungulira. Ndikulankhula za anyamata ena otentha kwambiri omwe nawonso "amachita bwino" akuchita bwino. Izi zinanditsimikizira kuti chibwenzi kwa osudzulana si chifukwa chotayika.

Monga, dotolo wina waku Indo-Brit-Canadian ndi ine tinkacheza ndipo tidakhala osangalatsa kangapo.

Kenako panali loya wina wa ku Indo-African-Canada yemwe ndidakhala naye kwakanthawi kochepa ku Canada Rockies. Panthawi ina, panali DJ wa ku Canada amene anayamba kundilambira. Mausiku ambiri ankapereka nyimbo zachikondi kwa ine kwinaku akukanda chimbalecho ndi dzanja limodzi ndikundigwira ndi linalo.

Ndinazindikira kuti ichi chinali chiyambi chabe cha ulendo wanga wogonana wamba. Kulumikizana zinandiyendera bwino ndipo ndinasangalala nazo. Nditapuma pang'ono kuchokera pa tsamba la webusayiti, nditaganiza zokhalanso ndi vuto lina, ndidachita chidwi: kuchokera ku Egypt kupita ku Scottish.

Kunali kugonana kwachisawawa popanda kutengeka mtima

Koma ngakhale zonsezi chisangalalo cha moyo, moyo wanga unkawoneka wosakwanira. Ndinayang'anizana ndi njovu yomweyi yomwe amayi ambiri, ngati si onse, amakumana nayo. Chilombo chimene tonse timasankha kuchinyalanyaza.

Chilombo chimenechi chimatchedwa chilombo cha maganizo. Chikondi. Kukonda. Chomangirizidwa. Chitetezo. Kukhazikika. Ndipo ngati mukuwerenga izi ndipo ngati ndinu mkazi, mudziwa zomwe ndikunena.

Ndi ambiri mwa amuna awa, ndinali ndi zogonana zazikulu, koma palibe aliyense wa ife amene anali wokonzeka kutero igwa mchikondi. Ngakhale chodabwitsa nchakuti kwinakwake pansi, iwo ndi ine tinali kuwombera nyenyezi zomwezo.

Ngati mumaganizira mozama, kugonana kwachisawawa sikungakwaniritse zosowa zathu zonse. Tonse tinkafuna kuvomerezedwa. Usiku umodzi wosimidwa woti uchitike. Kupsompsona kamodzi kokha kwachikondi pamphumi.

Kugonana kokha ndikokongola

Ndipo mphindi yanga ya epiphany idayamba pomwe ndidazindikira kuti sindiyenera kuyang'ana CHIKONDI mwa mwamuna yemwe ndidagona naye. Ndipo monga ndidanenera, kwa amayi ambiri ndizodziwikiratu, komanso ndizofunikira kwambiri komanso zokongola kulola kuti kugonana kukhalebe kugonana.

Chifukwa chiyani ndikunena izi? Chabwino, chifukwa mukufunikiradi kudziwa ngati mulidi m'chikondi ndi mwamuna musanakhazikitse mtima wanu, kapena ndi kutulutsidwa kwa estrogen komwe kumakupangitsani kulira mutagonana.

Kugonana mwachisawawa ndi kwamphamvu

Ndine mkazi wokhudzidwa kwambiri komanso wokhudzidwa kwambiri ndipo ndikudziwa momwe zimakhalira mukayamba kuyang'ana foni yanu ola lililonse pambuyo pa usiku wapitawo. Ndiye musandilakwitse apa. Zomverera ndizofunikira. Koma momwemonso kugonana. Makamaka ngati muli ngati ine amene mukudziwa kusowa kwake kumatanthauza.

Choncho kugonana mwachisawawa ndi kwamphamvu. Wamphamvu. Zamatsenga. Osathamangira kuti mukwaniritse malingaliro anu.

Nthawi zambiri anthu amaganiza kuti kugonana ndi munthu wachiwerewere kapena kugonana mwachisawawa n’kopanda pake, koma sizili choncho. Kugonana mwachisawawa kumasamalira zosowa zathu zoyambirira ndipo ngati muli ndi mwayi, kungakupatseninso bwenzi labwino ngati sichikondi.

Ngakhale nditalandira chisamaliro, ndinalakalaka kwa zaka zambiri (tsopano kuchokera kwa amuna kapena akazi okhaokha. Zikomo ku Canada!) Sindinasiye kugwira ntchito ndekha - mwakuthupi, m'maganizo, mwachidwi komanso muuzimu.

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