Zoyenera Kuchita Ngati Mukukondana Ndi Mwamuna Wapabanja

Mkhalidwe weniweni wa moyo wa munthu umafotokozedwa ndi kusakhazikika kwake, kusatsimikizika kwake. Komabe, tonsefe timafuna kukhazikika, chakudya, ndi chitetezo. Ichi ndichifukwa chake timakonzekera, kukonza njira, ndi cholinga - popanda chidziwitso chochepa kuti zikafika pakugwa m'chikondi, njira zonsezi zitha kutha munthawi imodzi. Simukuzindikira nkomwe ndipo tsiku lina labwino mukudziganizira nokha, "Ayi! Ndimakondana ndi mwamuna wokwatira!" Ndi chifukwa chake ndikugwa, kugwa kwaulere!

Osati popanda zotsatira zake. Ena amapulumuka ndipo ena amawonongeka. Koma nthawi zina, ena a ife timasankha njira ya masautso ndi kuwonongeka ndi chidziwitso chonse. Ndipo kumeneko ndi kudzipha kwamaganizo. Mukagwa kwa mwamuna wokwatira, ulendowu ndi wosavuta.

Munkhaniyi, Dr. Gaurav Deka (MBBS, PG diplomas in Psychotherapy and Hypnosis), katswiri wodziwika padziko lonse wa Transpersonal Regression Therapist, yemwe ndi katswiri pa kuthetsa mavuto komanso katswiri wa zaumoyo wamaganizo, akulemba za momwe mungathanirane ndi vuto la kukonda mwamuna wokwatira.

Ndimakondana ndi Mamuna Okwatiwa, Nditani?

Ngati kugwa sikungalephereke, tiyeni tingomanga malamba ndikuyembekeza kuti kusakhale kukwera kovutirapo. Ngati mukugwa m'chikondi mwachangu kwambiri komanso ndi munthu yemwe amayang'ana mabokosi onse kuti palibe, kudziwa nthawi yoti muyambe kukoka n'kofunika kwambiri kuti mudzipulumutse ku zotsatira zowononga.

Inde, pamene ntchitoyo yachitika, palibe kubwereranso koma pali chinachake chimene mungachite kuti muteteze malingaliro anu ndi kuteteza zinthu kuti zisaipire.

Kulinganiza zoyembekeza zanu

Tiyeni tiyambe ndi zabwino poyamba - popeza mbali yamdima imadziwika pafupifupi tonsefe. Sizodetsa nkhawa kwambiri mukuwona ngati muli ndi zolinga ndi zoyembekeza zanu bwino. Ubwino umodzi wokondana ndi mwamuna wokwatiwa uyenera kukhala uwu: simukuyenera kutengera ntchito zambiri zomwe zikanangotayidwa pa inu mukanakhala mkazi wake. Tonse tikudziwa zomwe ndikunena.

Inu mumangopeza chikondi chake, kugonana kwabwino mwina, ndi chakudya chamseri kamodzi kamodzi kapena kuthawa - pamodzi ndi mafoni a tsiku ndi tsiku.

Zoonadi, upangiri wathu woyamba ungakhale woti tisiye izi mumphukira ndikuyang'ana kwina bwenzi. Kusiya mwamuna wokwatira chifukwa cha ubwino wake ndiyo njira yabwino kwambiri yochitira zinthu. Komabe, ngati mukufuna kupitiliza njira yachinyengoyi, dziwani momwe mungasungire ziyembekezo zanu kukhala zotsika kwambiri.

Muyenera kukhala ndi malire omveka bwino ndipo muyenera kuchotsa malingaliro monga nsanje ndi kusadzidalira. Kusowa mwadzidzidzi kwa mnzanu, limodzi ndi lingaliro lakuti akadali kugonana ndi mkazi wake ndipo si inu nokha mkazi m'moyo wake, kungakhale kopweteka kwambiri.

Ngati pakufunika kutero, funani thandizo la akatswiri chifukwa kukondana ndi mwamuna wokwatira si nthabwala ndipo kungawononge maganizo anu. Koma ngati mukufuna kusunga ubalewu ndikuupanga kuti ugwire bwino ntchito, mudzafunikira pansi pamndandanda wanu woyamba. Mphamvu yanu yoyendetsa kapena poizoni wanu iyenera kukhala ina: ntchito / kulakalaka kungakhale chimodzi mwazosankha.

Kodi mumadziwa bwanji kuti ndinu wofunika?

"Ndimakondana ndi mwamuna wokwatira!" Inde, lingaliro lochititsa mantha limeneli likhoza kubweretsa masinthidwe ambiri m’moyo wanu. Kumbukirani, kuti mu ubalewu, mwalamulo, ndalama ndi maganizo, inu momveka mulibe chonena. Pakhoza kukhala zovuta zalamulo zokhala pachibwenzi ndi mwamuna wokwatiranso.

Kupatula apo, sangakhalepo kwa inu monga momwe mnzanu wina angakhalire. Akhoza kukhala mwamuna wokoma mtima kwambiri. Koma nayenso ndi wothandiza. Apo ayi, akanasiya mkazi wake kalekale. Ndipo ndicho chomwe chimamupangitsa kuti asapezeke.

Pakhoza kukhala zizindikiro kuti mwamuna wokwatiwa amakusamalirani ndipo mafoni a tsiku ndi tsiku angakupangitseni kukhulupirira kuti ali pafupi. Kumbukirani, pansi pamtima ndi chinsinsi kwa iye monga momwe zilili kwa inu. Choncho, palinso mantha muubwenzi wanu ndi mwamuna wokwatira. Inde, pali zowopsa zokhala pachibwenzi ndi mwamuna wokwatira koma musalole kuti manthawa akuthereni.

Nthawi zonse khalani ndi anzanu pafupi. Ndikwabwino kuwulula kwa gulu la anthu oyandikana kwambiri (2 kapena opitilira 3) ndikukonzekeretsa gulu lanu lothandizira. Izi zidzakuthandizaninso kuthetsa ulendo wanu wolakwa - ngati muli nawo. Pali mowa wokwanira, zosangalatsa ndi kuvina zomwe zingakupangitseni kuganizira zinthu zabwino m'moyo ndikuiwala zokhumba nthawi zonse ndi zowawa zomwe zingabwere chifukwa chokhala mu gawo la 'Ndinakondana ndi mwamuna wokwatira'.

Nkhani ndi amuna okwatira psychology

Pakhala pali maphunziro ochuluka okhudza chifukwa chake amayi amapeza amuna okwatiwa okongola komanso mosemphanitsa. Sizochitika zokha zomwe zimawonedwa mwa anthu komanso nyama zina. Kukhala m'chikondi ndi mwamuna wokwatira ndi zotsatira za zochitika zakuya zamaganizo ndipo ife tiri pano kuti tiwulule izo. Ndiye n’chifukwa chiyani zimenezi zimachitika?

1. Kudzipereka / nkhani zaubwenzi: Amayi ena omwe ali ndi a nthawi yovuta kuchita kwa anthu amadzipeza okha kukopeka ndi anthu omwe maganizo sakupezeka. Amadziwa bwino kuti amuna amenewa sangathe kudzipereka kwa nthawi yaitali, choncho, sadzayenera kugwirizana ndi nkhani zawo zaubwenzi.
2. Amuna okwatirana ali ndi chidindo cha mnzawo wabwino: Mfundo yakuti iwo ali okwatirana imawapatsa chidindo cha munthu wokhwima, wokhazikika komanso wosaopa kudzipereka. Iwo anayamba kukwatiwa, sichoncho? Mukuona momwe izi zikusemphana? Timazindikira izi koma nthawi zina ubongo wathu sudziwa. Amakondabe kuganiza kuti chithunzi chonse cha mwamuna wokwatira ndi wodalirika komanso wodalirika, ngakhale kuti ali wokonzeka kukhala ndi chibwenzi.
3. Ego boost / superority complex: Akazi ena amakonda kukhala ndi lingaliro lonyenga la kukhala apamwamba pa chenicheni chakuti mwamuna wokwatira amene ali ndi mkazi ndipo mwinamwake ana amasankhabe iye kuposa iwo ndipo ali wololera kuika ukwati wake pachiswe. Ngakhale ili ndi khalidwe lachipongwe, nthawi zina silingathandizidwe ndipo limapangitsa anthu kudzimva kuti ndi apadera

Kwa amuna, cholinga chake ndikusunga zokometsera zamoyo: zomwe nthawi zambiri zimakhala chizolowezi cha anthu chofuna zinthu zomwe sizingatheke. Ndicho choposa theka la chifukwa chimene akazi amalowa muubwenzi ndi mwamuna wokwatira.

Ndi kugonana kapena chikondi?

Ngati nkhani ya chilakolako chokha, ndiye kuti munthu angathe kuthetsa nkhani ya 'kusasiya kugwirira ntchito limodzi'. Koma mwatsoka, kwa akazi, sizigwira ntchito mwanjira imeneyo. Chinachake chomwe chingayambe ngati chikondi cha kuntchito chokhazikika pamapeto pake chingapeze chinsinsi chamaganizo chokhazikika mumtima mwa munthu mpaka kalekale kotero kuti ululu sungapeweke kumapeto kwa chochitika choterocho.

Kudzisungira malire amalingaliro ndi chinyengo. Koma zinthu zotere sizimaphunzitsidwa kwa ife ndipo tiyenera kuziganizira mozindikira.

Kukondana Ndi Mwamuna Wokwatiwa Ndipo Mungaleke Bwanji?

"Ndimakondana ndi mwamuna wokwatira!" Chabwino, oops. Monga tafotokozera kale kangapo, palibe njira yoti kuwonongeka kwa chikole kungapewedwe. Ngati mukufunadi kupulumuka muubwenzi wotere, pepani koma muyenera kukhala ndi khungu la chipembere! Ziribe kanthu momwe angadandaule kwambiri za ukwati wake ndi kulankhula moipa za izo, kumbukirani kuti sakusiyani inu.

• Yang'anani mayankho kuchokera kwa inu nokha. Dzifunseni mafunso omveka bwino: Kodi mumadzilemekeza? Kodi ndinu okondwadi muubwenzi umenewu ndi mwamuna wokwatira? Kodi muli bwino pokhala munthu wachiwiri m'moyo wake? Dzifunseni nokha, ndi mbedza yotani yomwe ikukusungani pano, ndi iye. Ndi chikondi chenicheni kapena ndi china
• Dziwonetseni nokha. Mukamaliza ndikuwunikiraku, mutha kuzindikira chifukwa chomwe mudakondana ndi mwamuna wokwatira, poyambira. Mwinamwake pali zambiri kwa izo kuposa zomwe mumawona pa nkhope yake. Nthawi zambiri zimapita mozama kuposa zomwe zangochitika kumene monga zifukwa zomwe tazitchula pamwambapa. Ndicho chifukwa chake ndikofunikira kuti inu khalani owona mtima ndi inu nokha
• Kuthetsa chibwenzi. Mutazindikira vuto lenileni, ndi nthawi yoti muthetse vutolo. Ikani mwala pamtima panu ndi kung'amba wambayo. Kusiya mwamuna wokwatira n’kovuta. Koma titha kukutsimikizirani kuti ndikosavuta kuposa kukhala m'chikondi ndi mwamuna wokwatira ndikukhala moyo wosatsimikizika komanso wachinsinsi.
• Tengani nthawi yanu kuti muchiritse. Osadzikakamiza kapena kudzidetsa. Tengani nthawi yanu kuti muchiritse mutayamba kukondana ndi mwamuna wokwatira kenako ndikumusiya. Mwachionekere wakhala kukwera gehena ndipo inu muyenera nthawi kwa wekha. Pitani ku detox kapena tchuthi. Phunziraninso kudzikonda nokha ndi kudziwa kufunika kwanu

Mukudziwa kuti mukuyenera bwino kuposa izi ndipo ndinu olimba mokwanira kuti musiye gawo lanu la "Ndili pachibwenzi ndi mwamuna wokwatira". Kusiya mwamuna wokwatiwa ndi chinthu chabwino kwambiri chomwe mungadzichitire nokha. Chikondi chanu chikhoza kukhala chowona ndipo akhoza kukupatsani agulugufe pompano, koma zomvetsa chisoni izi zidzangotha ​​mwa njira yonyansa m'tsogolomu. Komabe, ngati mwasankha kusachitapo kanthu, kumbukirani kudziika patsogolo ndi kusunga zoyembekeza zanu kukhala zotsika, kuti muchepetse nkhonya imene ingabwere. Kodi gawo lanu ndi chiyani?

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