Kukhala pachibwenzi ndi introvert kungakhale kovuta kwambiri, makamaka ngati mulibe chidziwitso m'deralo kapena umunthu wanu ndi wosiyana ndi wawo. Nthawi zambiri amatenga nthawi kuti atsegule ndikukambirana zomwe akumva, ndipo chofunikira kwambiri kuti mukumbukire apa ndikuti muyenera kulemekeza nthawiyi.
Pali zinthu zambiri zomwe munganene zomwe zingawoneke ngati zopanda chidwi kwa anthu omwe akungoyamba kumene, ndipo muyenera kuphunzira zomwe munganene ndi zomwe simuyenera kunena. Zitha kusokoneza, ndichifukwa chake tikukupatsirani maupangiri opangira chibwenzi ndi munthu wamba.
Malangizo Pa Chibwenzi ndi An Introvert
M'ndandanda wazopezekamo
Amadzipeza atatayika pokambirana. Amatha kumvetsera kwambiri kuposa momwe ayenera kuchitira. Pamene munthu amene ali patsogolo pawo akudzitamandira ndipo amayamba nseru, amangokhala chete ndikupemphera okha kuti munthuyo ayime ndikuthawa. Koma salimba mtima n’kuwapempha kuti asiye.
Pamodzi ndi Inde Madeti, tiyeni tione mmene tingachitire zimenezi.
Kodi ndikunena za inu? Ndiye ndiwe introvert.
Anthu ngati ife, omwe sachita chidwi komanso osalankhula, amaona kuti kuyendetsa pa zokambirana kumakhala kovuta kwambiri. Ndi chilema choopsa ndipo sitichikonda.
Dikishonale imatanthauzira ma introverts m'njira zambiri koma imafunsa aliyense wolankhula ndipo adzakuuzani kuti zimawavuta kufotokoza zakukhosi kwawo. Woyamba sangakhale chete. Akhoza kulankhula bwinobwino koma nthawi zonse zimawavuta kufotokoza maganizo awo.
Pazokambirana zamagulu amapeza ma mark ochepa. Paphwando, mwakachetechete atenga ngodya ndi kuyamwitsa chakumwa chawo. Iwo sangakhoze kuyima mokweza mawu, mawonetsero, othandizira, abodza, mafumu a masewero ndi anthu opusa. Koma sangawauze choncho pamaso pawo.
Momwe Mungapezere Chibwenzi ndi An Introvert
Pali nthano zambiri ndi malingaliro olakwika okhudzana ndi chibwenzi ndi mwamuna kapena mkazi. Ngakhale ndizopusitsa pang'ono, ngati mumawakonda, ndiye kuti ndi bwino kuyesetsa kuti muwamvetse komanso kuwavomereza.
Ngati muli pachibwenzi ndi introvert, kumbukirani zinthu izi:
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1. Zonse zili m'mitu mwawo
Introverts ali ndi dziko lawo lomwe zokambirana zimachitika makamaka m'malingaliro awo. Munthu amene amalankhula nanu amakuzunzani, kukumenya mbama, kukufunsani kuti muchoke, ndipo ngakhale kukumenyani kumaso…
Izo siziri ngakhale gawo loipitsitsa. Choyipa kwambiri chokhudza kukhala introvert ndikuti milomo yawo imangokhala zipi pamaso pa kuphwanya kwawo. Sindinawerengenso kuchuluka kwa zibwenzi zomwe sindinakhalepo ndi chibwenzi, chifukwa chakuti sindinathe kutsegula pakamwa panga ndi kulankhula pamene ndinayenera kutero kapena kuyembekezera.
Funsani introvert aliyense za chachikulu kwambiri ubale nkhani ndipo iwo mosakayikira adzakuuzani kuti ndi kulephera kufotokoza maganizo awo. Woyamba adzayembekezera kuti wokondedwa wake (kapena kuphwanya kapena chilichonse chomwe chikuyenera) adzalankhula malingaliro awo.
Imeneyo ndi nthawi yabwino kwa aliyense wolankhula ndipo mudzawawona akugwedeza mutu mwamphamvu, ndikuti "Inde, izi ndi zomwe ndikuyesera kukuuzani." Koma zimenezi sizichitika kawirikawiri. Osati ambiri angamvetse zomwe introvert akufuna kunena ndipo nthawi zambiri kuposa ayi, introvert samamvetsetsa.
Anthu amawaona ngati amantha, aulesi kapena opanda kulimba mtima kuti aime m’choonadi. Iwo sali chimodzi cha pamwamba. Ndi ufulu kulumikizana hacks mukakhala pachibwenzi ndi introvert, simudzangowawona momwe iwo alili komanso kudutsa kwa iwo bwino.
2. Khalani wachifundo
'Vuto' ili likufunika chifundo chanu. Tangoganizani nyimbo yomwe yakhala m'mutu mwanu kwa nthawi yayitali koma simukupeza mawu ake. Mumafufuzabe, mukuyembekezera kuti wina adzakuuzani, koma palibe amene angakwanitse.
Kodi izi zimachitika kwa inu? Inde? Tsopano, tiyeni tichulukitse vuto ili. Tiyeni tipange izi kukhala zanthawi zonse. Masiku awiri aliwonse mumapeza nyimbo yokhazikika m'mutu mwanu koma simutha kuyipeza paliponse. Malingaliro anu amadyedwa ndi nyimbo koma palibe mawu oti mufotokoze.
Mwayi ndikuti mukudziwikiratu ndi izi kapena mukuyamba kumva ululu. Mulimonse momwe zingakhalire, tsopano mukumva momwe introvert imamverera. Ndipo ngati muli pachibwenzi ndi introvert, konzekerani kumva izi mochulukira.
Kupanga maubwenzi a introvert ndizovuta, koma sizingatheke. Koma n’zovuta kwambiri kuposa anthu amene angathe kufotokoza maganizo awo momasuka. Nthaŵi zina, timapeza okondedwa omwe amamvetsetsa malingaliro athu ndi kutithandiza kutulutsa mawu. Timayamba kuyimba nyimboyo chifukwa pamapeto pake timauzidwa kuti mawu ake ndi chiyani.
3. Kuumiriza, koma osaumiriza
Kodi mungakhale bwanji pachibwenzi ndi introvert popanda kuwawopseza? Alimbikitseni kuti alankhule zomwe zimawadetsa nkhawa, koma musawakakamize. Amakonda kutsekereza zinthu. Ichi ndi chimodzi mwa zofunika kwambiri zinthu zokhudza chibwenzi ndi introvert muyenera kudziwa ngati mnzawo.
Kuti akutsegulireni, muyenera kuwauza kuti awa ndi malo abwino oti alankhule. Akumbutseni kuti pokhapokha atalankhula zakukhosi kwawo, ubalewo sugwira ntchito. Ndipo posapita nthawi, amayamba kukuuzani zinthu, n’kuyamba kukhala omasuka pamene muli nanu.
4. Khalani ndi mawu otetezeka nthawi zonse
Mukakhala pachibwenzi ndi munthu amene amamukonda, akhoza kuchita manyazi kukuuzani zinthu mmene zilili. Izi zikhoza kukhala choncho pogona pofuna kugonana kotetezeka, kapena ngakhale pa maphwando kapena zochitika zina zomwe amadzimva kuti ali olemetsa. Ganizirani mawu otetezeka, mwachitsanzo, 'apulo' kuti akakhala ndi chakudya chokwanira ndipo akufuna kuchoka, agwiritse ntchito mawu otetezeka kukudziwitsani.
Chinyengochi chidzawapulumutsa ku manyazi aliwonse ndipo chidzapangitsa zinthu kukhala zosavuta kuti mumvetse. Yesetsani kusinthasintha pogwiritsa ntchito mawu otetezeka kuti azikhala omasuka pamene akufuna kuzigwiritsa ntchito.
5. Onani mbali ya luntha lanu
Imodzi mwa malangizo othandiza pa chibwenzi ndi introvert ndi kulankhula za zinthu zomwe zimawasangalatsa - zikhale zanzeru kapena zamaphunziro, kapena zaluso ngati nyimbo ndi kuvina, zilizonse zomwe amakonda.
Nthawi zambiri, introverts ndi sapiosexuals ndipo amafuna kuti okondedwa awo abweretse china chake chanzeru patebulo. Introverts amafuna ubwenzi waluntha. Uwu ndiye mwayi wabwino kuti muwonetse luso lanu.
Kodi mukudziwa introvert kwambiri? Chabwino, ngati mukufuna kukhala naye pachibwenzi, ndiye khalani mawu awo ndikuwona momwe akukuyimbirani nyimboyo. Ma introverts alinso ndi malingaliro, nthawi zambiri amakhala amphamvu kuposa anu.
Inde, kukhala pachibwenzi ndi munthu wodziona ngati n’kovuta kungakusokonezeni, koma kumbukirani kuti amamva mwamphamvu kwambiri, ndipo m’njira zawo zobisika, amasonyeza kuti amakukondani, ndipo inunso muyenera kuchita chimodzimodzi.
Ibibazo
Inde, ndizovuta kwa oyambitsa kufotokoza zakukhosi kwawo, ndichifukwa chake zimakhala zovuta kwambiri kuti alowe muubwenzi.
Asonyezeni kuti akhoza kulankhula nanu popanda kuweruzidwa, ndipo alimbikitseni kuti afotokoze zinthu zomwe amazikonda kwambiri.
Iwo ali ochenjera kwambiri m'njira zawo. Amasonyeza chikondi makamaka mwa manja ndi m’njira zosalankhula.
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Introversion si manyazi chabe; ndizovuta kwambiri zokonda zomwe munthu amakonda kupezerapo mphotho zambiri kuchokera kumayanjano apamtima ndi magulu ang'onoang'ono. Kukhala pachibwenzi ndi introvert n'zosavuta, bola ngati inu mukudziwa makhalidwe a bwenzi lanu introverted.