Ndili ndi zaka 6-7, ndinkadziwa kuti ndine wosiyana. Sindinkadziwa kufotokoza bwino nkhaniyi monga ana ena ambiri ogonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha. Ndinkazunzidwa, kutchedwa mayina koma anyamata ena m'kalasi mwanga nawonso anasonyeza 'chikondi '. Kunena zoona, ndinkachikonda ndipo ndinkafuna kuti chipitirize. Koma kenako, anakula ndipo mwadzidzidzi anayamba kukonda atsikana. Pa msinkhu umenewo, ndinkalakalaka kwambiri kukhala mtsikana!
Kulimbana Kulowa M'dziko Lokonda Anthu Ogonana ndi Anthu Ogonana ndi Amuna Kapena Akazi
M'ndandanda wazopezekamo
Patapita zaka zingapo ku koleji, ndinali ndi chibwenzi ndi atsikana ndipo ndinkayesetsa kuti ndikhale ngati 'mwamuna'. Kuti ndingooneka ngati 'mwamuna' ndinkasuta fodya, kumwa mowa ndipo ndinadzilemba tattoo kuti ndiwoneke ngati 'mwamuna'. Mtsikanayo akangoyesa kundichitira zachiwerewere, ndinkamusiya, zomwe zinkamupangitsa kumva kuti ndi vuto lake.
Chinali chinthu choyipa kuchita ndipo ndikunong'oneza bondo. Kunena zowona, panthaŵiyo sindinkadziŵa bwino lomwe. Nditasowa njira zoti ndisaonekere, kumverera komanso kukhala gay, ndidalowa m'dera la kukhala ndekha. Ndinagwirizana nazo ndipo ndinadziuza kuti ndidzakhala ndekha nthawi zonse. Tangolingalirani kuti ali ndi zaka 22-23 mnyamata akudziuza kuti adzakalamba ndi kufa yekha.
Nditamaliza maphunziro anga, ndinayamba kugwira ntchito mu bizinesi ya banja ndipo ndinayambanso kuchita masewera olimbitsa thupi komwe ndinali ndi umembala wamoyo. Ndinayamba kukonda kwambiri masewera olimbitsa thupi chifukwa zinkandipangitsa kumva bwino. Kugwira ntchito mpaka pano ndi 'kwapamwamba' kwanga. Mu malo ochitira masewera olimbitsa thupi, ndinawona mnyamata wa msinkhu wanga, panthawiyo ndinali ndi zaka 24.
Ndinadziuza ndekha kuti, mwamuna wokongola komanso wokongola bwanji! Ndinkafuna kuti andiyandikire n’kundifunsa kuti ticheze. Ndinaganiza mopusa bwanji nthawi ina. Patapita masiku angapo, analankhula nane ndipo patapita nthawi, ndinayamba kukondana . Kwa nthawi yoyamba m’moyo wanga, ndinaganiza kuti zimenezi ndi zenizeni ndipo palibe cholakwika chilichonse.
Kuwerenga Kofanana: Nthano 10 ndi Malingaliro Olakwika Okhudza Anthu Ogonana Amuna Kapena Akazi Okhaokha
Kutuluka Kuchipinda
Ndinapanga chisankho chopita kwa banja langa . M'mawa wina, ndinauza agogo anga aakazi, omwe anauza amayi anga, omwe anauza abambo anga, omwe anauza mchimwene wanga. Madzulo, aliyense anadziwa kuphatikizapo apongozi a mchimwene wanga. Ndinamasuka. Ndinamva wopepuka komanso womasuka. Kuyambira tsiku limenelo, banja langa lonse linalowa m'chipinda chosungiramo zinthu. Anali 'okonzeka' kukhala mwamuna kapena mkazi koma sanali bwino dziko lapansi likadziwa zimenezo. Ndi chinthu chosangalatsa kwambiri pa moyo, nyama ya munthu wina ndi poizoni wa munthu wina.
Patsiku la International Day Against Homophobia, ndikufuna kunenanso kuti kungolekerera kugonana kwa wokondedwa sikuthetsa kudana ndi amuna kapena akazi okhaokha. Pokhapokha mutawavomera ndi kuwakumbatira monga momwe alili, simunganene kuti mwadzimasula ku tsankho lochokera ku chikhalidwe cha anthu chazaka mazana ambiri.
Banja Langa Limandilekerera Kugonana Kwanga Koma Sanavomereze
Lero, ndili ndi zaka 35, ndipo ndakhala ndi mnzanga kwa zaka 10. Banja langa lomwe tsopano langotsala la bambo anga ndi mchimwene wanga silikudziwa momwe moyo wathu wakhalira limodzi monga banja. Pamwambo wabanja, ine ndekha ndimakhala woitanidwa. Pa foni amangofunsa za ine. Ndikudabwa, akuwopa chiyani?
Zaka zingapo zapitazo zinandikwiyitsa kwambiri. Koma lero, monga ndikudziwira zambiri, ndikuzimvetsa. Ndikulembanso nkhaniyi pansi pa pseudonym. Koma zifukwa zanga ndi zosiyana ndi zawo. Amatsekeredwa pazifukwa zomwezo, manyazi, kutayika kwa nkhope, kuvomerezedwa ndi anthu, kusalidwa, ndi zina zambiri, pomwe ndikubisala kuti ndisalembedwe. Ndikufuna kukhala wosewera komanso m'dziko lathu, ngakhale nyenyezi zazikulu zimatengera mtundu, ndiye ndine ndani? Sindingachitire mwina koma kudabwa, kodi ndingalandilidwe ngati 'womanizer' kapena 'woipa wa macho' ngati ndidzakhala wosewera komanso ngati nditakumana nawo?
Kuwerenga Kofanana: Kutuluka M'chipinda Chogona: Nkhani 4 Zokhudza Amuna Kapena Akazi Ogonana Nawo
Ibibazo
1. Nchifukwa chiyani kuli kovuta kwa amayi ku India kunena za nkhanza?
Kusalidwa chifukwa cha chikhalidwe, chitsenderezo cha banja, kuopa kubwezera, ndi kusoŵa chichirikizo zonse zimachititsa kukhala chete.
2. Kodi tingatani kuti tithandize opulumuka kumva kuti ndi otetezeka kuti alankhule?
Dziphunzitseni tokha ndi ena, kutsutsa ozunzidwa, kupereka zothandizira, kuyankha ozunza, ndi kukulitsa mawu a opulumuka.
Ndemanga Yaumwini
"Kwa opulumuka mwakachetechete: Nkhani yanu ndi yofunika. Ululu wanu ndi wovomerezeka. Simuli nokha. Lankhulani zoona zanu, masulani maunyolo achete, ndipo dziwani kuti kuchiritsidwa ndi kotheka."
Momwe mnzake wa gay adamuthandizira kuti adzivomere ngati mkazi wamasiye
Chopereka chanu sichikutanthauza chopereka chachifundo . Chidzalola Bonobology kupitiliza kukubweretserani chidziwitso chatsopano komanso chaposachedwa poyesetsa kuthandiza aliyense padziko lonse lapansi kuphunzira momwe angachitire chilichonse.
