Zitha kuwoneka kuti tikukhala m'dziko laufulu, lodzuka komanso lolondola pazandale koma mbali zina za moyo zimadabwitsabe anthu azipembedzo komanso azipembedzo - kugonana kwa amuna kapena akazi okhaokha, mosakayikira, kukhala chodabwitsa kwambiri kwa ambiri. Kutuluka m'chipinda chogona sikophweka ngakhale m'mayiko otukuka monga USA kumene kayendedwe ka LGBTQ kwa zaka makumi ambiri akwanitsa kuchotsa manyazi omwe ankakhala ozungulira kugonana kwa amuna kapena akazi okhaokha.
Kunyadira kwa amuna kapena akazi okhaokha, zikondwerero za Tsiku la National Coming Out ndi kukambirana pafupipafupi pa nkhani za kugonana kwina kungakhale kofala masiku ano. Ngakhale pamenepo, kwa membala wa gulu, ndizofunika kwambiri kuti ayambe kutuluka m'chipindamo. Pokhala m'gulu la anthu ochepa ogonana, sayenera kungovomereza kaye zomwe akufuna, komanso kuganizira zotsatira za banja, chikhalidwe, ntchito, ndi zina.
Chifukwa chake ndikukhala gay kapena amuna kapena akazi okhaokha kapena amuna kapena akazi okhaokha, ngakhale panopo, zitha kukhala zokhumudwitsa (ngati sizikunyozedwa) kwa anthu angapo. Ziribe kanthu zomwe lamulo likunena, chikhalidwe ndi chikhalidwe cha anthu ndizovuta kwambiri.
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Anthu ambiri, akamaganizira tanthauzo la kutuluka m'chipinda chosungiramo zinthu, amafunsa kuti “N’chifukwa chiyani amatchedwa kutuluka m’chipinda chosungiramo zinthu?” Tanthauzo la kutuluka m’chipinda chosungiramo zinthu ndi mbiri yake zimachokera m’mafanizo a chinsinsi. Mu Chingerezi, mawu akuti ‘kubisala m’chipinda chosungiramo zinthu’ kapena ‘skeleton in the closet’ nthawi zambiri amatanthauza mkhalidwe umene munthu amakhala ndi zinsinsi zochititsa manyazi kapena zoopsa zobisala. Koma m’kupita kwa zaka, tanthauzo la kutuluka m’chipinda chosungiramo zinthu lakhala ndi tanthauzo losiyana.
Yasinthidwa kuti iphatikizidwe mu nkhani ya munthu wa LGBTQ amene akufuna kuulula kugonana kwake kapena umunthu wake kwa dziko lonse. Malinga ndi nkhani yomwe inalembedwa mu TIME Magazine, mawuwa poyamba ankagwiritsidwa ntchito kutanthauza anthu ogonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha omwe akuulula chinsinsi chawo, osati ku dziko lonse lapansi koma kwa anthu ena ogonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha.
Zinatengera kudzoza kwa chikhalidwe chaching'ono cha atsikana osankhika omwe amadziwitsidwa kwa anthu kapena ma bachelor oyenerera akafika msinkhu wokwatiwa. Pa Nkhondo Yachiwiri Yapadziko Lonse, amuna ogonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha anachitanso chimodzimodzi pamipira yokoka. Kwa zaka zambiri, nthawi yonseyi idakhala yaumwini kwambiri kuwonetsa kuti LGBTQ anali wokonzeka kuyankhula za zomwe amakonda kwa aliyense amene angafune. Choncho, mawu akuti 'kutuluka m'chipinda' anayamba kulankhulana ndi kugwiritsidwa ntchito mofala.
Chifukwa chake, kutuluka mchipindacho tanthawuzo limatanthawuza njira yomwe munthu wamba amawulula zomwe amakonda komanso zomwe amakonda kugonana ndi anzawo, abale, komanso dziko lonse lapansi. Dziwani kuti njira yokhayo imatha kukhala yovuta kwambiri kwa munthu amene akufunsidwayo.
Ngakhale munthuyo atakhala wotsimikiza kuti anthu ofunika kwa iye adzamulandira mosasamala kanthu za kugonana kwake kapena kudziwika kwake monga mwamuna kapena mkazi , zingatenge zaka zambiri kuti adziwulule kuti ndi ndani komanso kuti amakonda ndani pamaso pa anthu. Nthawi zina munthu angaone kuti n'kosavuta kuuza anzake pamaso pa makolo ake komanso anthu onse chifukwa nthawi zonse pamakhala mwayi waukulu wopeza kulandiridwa pakati pa anthu ofanana nawo a msinkhu wake.
Ngakhale kuti chiyembekezo chotuluka ndi chowopsa, zitha kukhala zovuta kwambiri kudziulula kuti ndinu ndani kwa anthu omwe mumawakonda komanso ofunikira kwambiri kwa inu. Izi zili choncho chifukwa cha mantha obadwa nawo komanso ozama kwambiri oti mwina kusalidwa, kuchitiridwa zinthu mosiyanasiyana kapena, poipa kwambiri, ngakhale kuzunzidwa mwakuthupi ndi m’maganizo.
Chifukwa chake, kutuluka kwatanthauzo lachipinda kumakulirakuliranso m'malingaliro akuti munthu amene akuwulula zomwe akudziwa kwa abwenzi ake, banja lake, ndi dziko lapansi angakhale akuchita izi kwinaku akuyika thanzi lawo lamalingaliro ndi thupi pachiwopsezo.
Mbiri ikuchitira umboni za zotsatira zoyipa zomwe anthu amakumana nazo poyera ndi adani - ena mwa iwo anali mabanja awo. Chifukwa chake, ngati mudakali m'chipinda chogona, nthawi zonse mukaganizira za moyo mutatuluka m'chipindacho, mwayi udzakhala wotsatizana ndi mantha komanso malingaliro achiwonongeko, makamaka ngati muli m'banja losamala.
Izi zikunenedwa, chimodzi mwazinthu zabwino kwambiri zotuluka m'chipindacho ndikumverera kwaufulu komwe kumayendera. Simuyeneranso kubisala kuti ndinu ndani. Mukakhala kunja kwa chipinda, mukhoza kuyamba kufotokoza momwe mukufunadi.
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Kwa anthu odutsa, izi zitha kutanthauza kuti pamapeto pake mutha kupeza ufulu wovala zovala ndikusintha mawonekedwe awo kuti agwirizane ndi omwe ali mkati. Ngati ndinu m'modzi mwa omwe ali ndi mwayi ndipo banja lanu likugwirizana ndi zomwe mwasankha komanso zomwe mwasankha, mudzatha kupeza maopaleshoni ndi jakisoni omwe mukufunikira kuti muwonetse bwino kuti ndinu ndani.
Ubwino wotuluka m'chipindacho umaphatikizansopo kucheza ndi anthu amdera lanu komanso kupita ku zochitika za Pride popanda kuopa kuthamangitsidwa mwangozi ndi wina. Mudzatha kudziwitsa banja lanu amene mumakonda osamva kufunika kokhala chete. Mantha ndi chinsinsi zomwe zikanatsagana ndi zochita zanu zonse, kusuntha kwanu kulikonse mukabisala mchipindacho kudzazimiririka.
Koma moyo pambuyo potuluka m'chipindamo si kuwala kwa dzuwa ndi utawaleza kwa aliyense. Kwa anthu ena, zotulukapo zoyipa zotuluka zimaposa zabwino zonse chifukwa kudziulula kuti iwo ndi ndani zitha kungoyika miyoyo yawo pachiwopsezo. Chifukwa chake, ngati mudakali m'chipinda chogona, ndikofunikira kudziwa kuti ndibwino kuti musakhale kunja ndikunyada.
Ngakhale kukhala wokwezeka mokweza ndi waulemerero, moyo wanu ndi zosankha zanu ndizovomerezeka. Pali zambiri zomwe zimabwera pambuyo pake m'nkhani za moyo zomwe zimatiuza za zochitika za omwe sanatuluke m'chipindamo mpaka atakhala ndi zaka za m'ma 50, 60s, kapena ngakhale zaka za m'ma 70. Anthu ena samatuluka moyo wawo wonse. Pali anthu ambiri omwe ali ndi chibwenzi ndi amuna kapena akazi anzawo asanatuluke ngati gay. Ndipo izo ziri bwino.
Tengani nthawi yanu kuti mupeze malo omwe mukumva otetezeka. Kenako, mukakonzeka, lankhulani zowona ndikumva kulemera kwazaka kuchotsera mapewa anu.
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"Kutuluka m'chipindamo ndizochitika kwa moyo wonse." Sichinthu chomwe mumachita kamodzi, "anatero YouTuber wotchuka komanso Vlogger David Levitz yemwe nthawi zambiri amagwiritsa ntchito zochitika pamoyo wake kuti apereke malangizo kwa anthu omwe amakumana ndi zovuta zoterezi.
Zowonadi, ngakhale mutazindikira tanthauzo la chipindacho ndipo mwanjira ina mwapeza zomwe mwakumana nazo potuluka kwa makolo anu, mungafunike kudutsanso chimodzimodzi kusukulu yasekondale, ku koleji, pakati pa anzanu ogonana ndi amuna kapena akazi okhaokha, kapena kuntchito. Musade nkhawa nazo.
Sikuyenera kukhala (ndipo si) chinthu chachikulu. Izi zati, izi ndizochitika payekha, ndipo nkhani yotuluka ya gay imodzi ikhoza kukhala yosiyana kwambiri ndi ina. Mukachita izi, moyo mutatuluka m'chipindacho ukhoza kukhala womasuka.
Pambuyo pake, pali ubwino wambiri wotuluka m'chipindamo, kuchokera kutha kukhalapo ndi kukonda poyera kuti mupeze kukoma koona kwa ufulu - zomwe zinakulepheretsani zaka zonse zomwe mudakhala mu chipinda. Kapena zotsatira zoyipa zotuluka zimatha kupitiliza kukuvutitsani mpaka mutapeza malo otetezeka.
Komabe, zonse zikuwonekera, dziwani kuti nkhani yanu idzakhala yapadera ndipo idzakhala yovomerezeka mosasamala kanthu momwe mungasankhire kapena kusankha kutuluka. Ngati, komabe, mukuganiza zopanga izi ndipo mukufuna kudziwa momwe mukulowera, izi ndi zonse zomwe muyenera kudziwa pakuvomereza kugonana kwanu ndikutuluka mchipindacho:
1. Tulukani pamene mwakonzeka
Mu magawo osiyanasiyana otuluka m'chipinda chosungiramo zinthu, ili ndi lamulo loyamba, losavuta komanso lofunika kwambiri. Muyenera kuganizira zochita izi pokhapokha mutakonzeka. Choyamba, muyenera kudzivomereza nokha kenako kukonzekera kuti ena akuvomerezeni. Kwa mamembala ambiri a LGBTQ , zingakhale zovuta kwambiri akazindikira kugonana kwawo. Pakhoza kukhala kukayikira, mantha ndi zovuta. Pamenepo ndi pomwe mungafunike upangiri woyenera, chithandizo cha gulu la anzanu komanso chidziwitso chodalirika.
Mukakhala omasuka, pangani dongosolo la yemwe mungafune kumuululira poyamba. Izi zimatengera mkhalidwe wanu. Kwa anthu ambiri sikuyenera kukhala 'ndondomeko' yayikulu. Nkhani yanu ya 'kutuluka m'chipinda' ingakhalenso kucheza wamba, makamaka ngati mukudziwa kuti wolandirayo ndi womasuka komanso wachifundo.
2. Palibe malire a nthawi yotuluka mu chipinda
Pakadali pano, nkhani zowonera zili ndi nkhani zambiri zokhudzana ndi kukula kwa anthu achiwerewere komanso nkhani zomwe zimatsatira mavuto ndi ulendo wa achinyamata a LGBTQIA+ ndi anthu achiwerewere omwe ali ndi zaka za m'ma 20 omwe amavutika kuti azindikire umunthu wawo asanaganize zoulula kwa anzawo ndi abale awo.
Mwachitsanzo, ganizirani filimu yotchuka ya Khirisimasi, Happiest Season , yokhala ndi munthu wokonda zachiwerewere, Kristen Stewart. Imafotokoza nkhani yakale ya munthu amene wakhala akudzionetsera kuti ndi wolondola kuti angolandiridwa ndi banja lake. Filimu ya 2020 ndi yabwino kwambiri posonyeza momwe zimakhalira zovuta kukhala ndi moyo wachinsinsi pomwe uyenera kudzionetsera kuti ndiwe munthu wosiyana kwambiri, ngakhale kutaya mnzanu pansi pa basi kuti usunge chinsinsi chako.
Koma ngakhale filimuyi makamaka ndi atolankhani, ambiri, akhala akuyesera kuwonetsa sewero, chisangalalo, ndi zoopsa zomwe zimadziwika ndi zaka zakubadwa, nthawi zambiri zimanyalanyaza anthu omwe sanatuluke ali achichepere kapena azaka za m'ma 20 ndi 30s. Koma chifukwa chakuti mawailesi ofalitsa nkhani samatiwonetsa kuti tikubwera pambuyo pake m'nkhani zamoyo, kodi zikutanthauza kuti palibe? Inde, amatero. Pali anthu ambiri omwe sanamve kukhala otetezeka kapena okonzeka kutuluka mpaka mtsogolo m'miyoyo yawo.
Kumbukirani, palibe bomba la nthawi yoyimbira. Simudzatha maola, mphindi, ndi zaka kuti muuze anzanu ndi abale anu kuti ndinu ndani. Ngakhale mutadzivomereza kuti ndinu munthu wamba, musakhale pansi pa chikakamizo kuti muulule zonse mochititsa chidwi. Levitz anati: “Nthawi zina mungamamve bwino pankhani ya kugonana koma osati ena.
Iye anati: “Ngati simukufuna kukumana ndi mavuto obwera chifukwa cha zinthu zosiyanasiyana, musayese kutuluka m’chipindamo nthawi imodzi.” Koma ngati mukumva bwino pa zimene anthu amene akukuzungulirani amachita, musamaganizire motalika. Monga tanenera, si aliyense amene angakhale wotsutsa pazifukwa zina. Kuvomereza kuti ndinu mwamuna kapena mkazi ndi imodzi mwamagawo ofunikira potuluka mnyumba. Yang'anani pa icho choyamba ndipo zina zonse zidzagwera m'malo mwazokha.
3. Onetsetsani kuti muli ndi chitetezo
Chifukwa chakuti simukufuna kupanga zambiri zokhudza kutuluka mu chipinda sizikutanthauza kuti simusamala nokha ndi zosowa zanu, makamaka zofunika zachuma. Tinene kuti, ngati muli ku koleji ndipo mumadalirabe banja lanu kuti mukulipire chindapusa, lingalirani zotsatira zake.
Ngati simukutsimikiza maganizo awo ponena za kugonana kwa amuna kapena akazi okhaokha ndipo mukuwopa kuti angayankhe mokwiya, mwinamwake kungakhale kwanzeru kuimitsa ‘nkhani’yo kwa zaka zingapo. Ndithudi, n’zosasangalatsa chifukwa simukufuna kukhala ndi moyo wachiphamaso. Koma ndi bwino kutero. Ngati zikuyamba kukhudza thanzi lanu lamalingaliro, komabe, ndipo mukuganiza kuti simungadikire kwakanthawi kuti muuze aliyense kuti ndinu ndani, ndi nthawi yoti muyambe kukonzekera.
Yambani pokonzekera zovuta kwambiri. Yambani kusonkhanitsa chuma chanu. Ikani pambali ndalama za ntchito zaganyu kapena ndalama za m'thumba zomwe mumalandira kuchokera kwa makolo anu. Sungani thumba la zovala, zofunika, ndi zakudya zosawonongeka. Konzani malo okhala ngati angakuthamangitseni. Lumikizanani ndi magulu othandizira ndikuwauza momwe mulili. Atha kukuthandizani ndi ndalama kapena zinthu ngati zinthu zafika poipa. Komanso, adziwitseni pamene mukukonzekera kuchita zimenezi.
Nthawi ikafika, yesani kukhala ndi wina - bwenzi kapena wina wa gulu lothandizira - pomwe mukukambirana ndi makolo anu. Izi ndizofunikira makamaka ngati mukudziwa kuti pali mwayi wotuluka ndikuyambitsa nkhanza.
Kukonzekera bwino ndi kupanga chitetezo n'kofunikanso kwa iwo omwe amapita kusukulu zachitukuko kumene kuli mwayi wopezerera. Pakhoza kukhalanso kukakamizidwa kuchokera kwa anzanu a LGBTQ kuti muulule za izi. Osagonja kukakamizidwa ndi wina aliyense. Lingalirani za mkhalidwe wanu, khalani osungika m’zachuma ndi m’maganizo, ndiyeno chitani zimene muyenera kuchita.
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4. Kutuluka kwa makolo
Susan Cottrell, wokamba nkhani wa TedX ali ndi malingaliro awa pa chimodzi mwa mantha akuluakulu omwe anthu a LGBTQ amakumana nawo - momwe mungatulukire m'chipinda cha makolo anu: "Chiyembekezo cha zabwino ndikukonzekera zoipa". Susan, amene wathandiza makolo ndi ana angapo kuthana ndi vuto limeneli ananena kuti ndi bwino kukhala ndi dongosolo.
Kukonzekera kumathandiza ngati zinthu sizikuyenda bwino mukamakambirana ndi makolo anu. "Khalani ndi munthu wina kapena wina amene akuimbirani foni. Lolani thumba ndi zinthu zomwe mungafune ngati mutachotsedwa mwadzidzidzi - zipangizo zanu, mapepala, ndi zina zotero. Perekani banja lanu nthawi kuti livomereze," akutero.
Adzakonza chidziwitsochi malinga ndi lingaliro la chabwino ndi choipa lokhazikika mwa iwo ndi chikhalidwe chawo ndi mipingo. “Khalani odekha ngakhale atakhala kuti alibe, ndipo khalani okonzeka kuyankha mafunso ofunika kwambiri.” Koma auzeni kuti mumawakonda ndipo mumawafuna, anawonjezera kuti.” Izi zingathandize kuwakhazika mtima pansi pang’ono ngati amakonda kuchita zinthu monyanyira.
5. Pezani dongosolo lanu lothandizira
Izi sizikusowa kufotokozedwa bwino. Ngati mukuona kuti mukusokonezeka ndi umunthu wanu wogonana komanso momwe mungachitire, choyamba pezani gulu labwino lothandizira. Pali mabungwe mazana ambiri omwe amagwira ntchito yothandiza anthu a LGBTQ padziko lonse lapansi.
Kusaka kosavuta pa intaneti kudzatulutsa mayina m'chigawo chanu. Funsani thandizo kwa mlangizi wanu waku sekondale kapena waku koleji ngati pakufunika kutero. Adzakuthandizani kumvetsetsa zovuta za nkhaniyi, zamaganizo ndi zakuthupi za izo, ndi zomwe muyenera kuziganizira mukatuluka m'chipindamo.
Anthu ambiri a LGBTQ amaopa kudzipatula kwambiri. Kukhala m'gulu lothandizira kumakuthandizani kuthetsa kusungulumwa ndi chisokonezo. Akhozanso kukutsogolerani pamene mukuganiza zopita kwa makolo ndi achibale ena. Mudzakumananso ndi anthu amalingaliro ofanana omwe angakuthandizeni kuti mulumikizane ndi inu enieni.
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6. Kugwiritsa ntchito chikhalidwe TV kutuluka
Izi nthawi zambiri zimakhala zovuta - muyenera kugwiritsa ntchito malo ochezera a pa Intaneti kuti mutuluke? Moyenera, ayi. Nthawi zina, kugwiritsa ntchito malo ochezera a pa Intaneti kungakupatseni mphamvu mukaganiza zogawana nkhani yanu ndi dziko lapansi. Cholemba cha FB chokhudza mtima kapena mawu ochititsa chidwi a Twitter adzakopa maso koma atha kukhalanso ndi machitidwe owopsa.
Poganizira nkhani yabwino yokhudzana ndi nkhani za LGBTQ, mwayi ndi wakuti mudzapindula kwambiri pakati pa anthu, zomwe zingakupatseni kulimba mtima kuti mulankhule ndi banja lanu ngati vuto lanu lalikulu ndi momwe mungatulukire kwa makolo anu.
Komabe, zitha kukhudzanso munthu wina - bwenzi kapena banja - moyipanso. Iye angayamikire ngati mutamuuza pamasom’pamaso. Ngakhale kuti maganizo anu ndi ofunika kwambiri, kumbukirani kuti mudzafunika kufotokoza maganizo a munthu amene mukumuulula zakuya kwambiri.
7. Kutuluka kwa abwana anu
Ngati mukutuluka mu chipinda pamene mwayamba kugwira ntchito mwaluso, zikhoza kukhala ndi zotsatira pa moyo wanu wa ntchito. Poyamba, mungadzimve kukhala wosayenera, makamaka ngati anzanu olunjika sangasiye kuyankhula za akazi, zibwenzi, komanso kuyankhula kwanthawi zonse kwa 'mwamuna kwa mwamuna' kapena 'mkazi kwa mkazi'.
Koma mukangoganiza zowulula zomwe mukufuna, sizitenga nthawi kuti ofesi yanu idziwe. Choyamba, fufuzani ngati pali chitetezo kwa inu ngati wogwira ntchito pamene mukutuluka mu chipinda. Khalani paubwenzi ndi anthu omwe angakhale achifundo komanso opanda tsankho.
Izi zingakuthandizeni kupeza chithandizo pamene chowonadi chatulutsidwa. Zitha kuletsa kapena kuyimitsa miseche, zomwe zingadalire chikhalidwe cha malo anu antchito komanso momwe ntchitoyo ikuyendera. Opanga kapena odziwa zaukadaulo, malo antchito amakono nthawi zambiri amakhala ochezeka kwa LGBTQ kuposa mabungwe azikhalidwe.
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8. Kuulula kwa mwamuna kapena mkazi wanu
Pali anthu ambiri omwe amatha kuchita zomwe sayenera kuchita - kukwatirana ndikubisala kuti ndi amuna kapena akazi okhaokha. Zitha kuchitika m'mabanja achikhristu osamala kwambiri omwe amadana ndi kugonana kwa amuna kapena akazi okhaokha ndipo munthuyo alibe kulimba mtima kuti achite zosemphana ndi zikhalidwe.
Koma patatha zaka zambiri mukukhala moyo wapawiri, mukatuluka m'chipinda kupita kwa mnzanu , muyenera kuthana ndi vutoli mosamala kwambiri. Musataye mtima wa ubale wa m'banja. Sizidzakhala zosavuta ndipo palibe amene angadziwe momwe mwamuna kapena mkazi wanu angachitire.
Okwatirana ena angavomereze kupitirizabe kukhalabe muukwati wa ana kapena kusunga maonekedwe a anthu. Koma zinthu sizidzakhala chimodzimodzi. Ndi bwino kukaonana ndi mlangizi kapena dokotala musanalape choncho chifukwa mwamuna kapena mkazi wanu angafunike kuthandizidwa kuti nayenso akuthandizeni.
9. Dziwani za ufulu wanu
Gulu lomenyera ufulu wa gay silinathe. Mwina ndinu m'modzi mwa mamembala amwayi a LGBTQ omwe safunikira kubisa zomwe amakonda kapena sanakumanepo ndi zovuta zambiri chifukwa cha kugonana kwawo. Kapena mwina, zingakhale zosiyana.
Mulimonsemo, muyenera kudziwitsidwa za ufulu wanu wonse ngati ochepa ogonana. Ngakhale kuti lamulo lingakhale laubwenzi, anthu kapena mpingo ungakhale wosakhala bwino. Simukuyenera kuchitiridwa tsankho. Chifukwa chake, dziwani zonse zomwe zikuchitika padziko lonse lapansi motere.
Mukadziwa za ufulu wanu, kutuluka m'chipinda chogona kumakhala kosavuta chifukwa kuzunzidwa kulikonse kuchokera kotala kumakhala kochepa. Mudzatetezedwa mwalamulo komanso mwachuma kumavuto aliwonse omwe mungakumane nawo kuchokera kwa anthu omwe angakhale odana ndi amuna kapena akazi okhaokha. Zambiri zimakupatsani chidaliro.
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Ngakhale nsonga zonse zomwe zaperekedwa pamwambapa, chowonadi ndi chakuti kutuluka m'chipindacho ndizochitika payekha. Palibe njira yoyenera kapena nthawi yoyenera kuchita. Ndipo pakhoza kukhala kuthekera kulikonse kwakuti zinthu sizikuyenda bwino. Achibale anu, makolo, anzanu kapena kuntchito mwina sangakhale ndi zomwe mukuyembekezera.
Pachifukwa ichi muyenera kukhala ndi fuko lanu. Nthawi zina gulu lothandizira limakhala banja lomwe simunakhale nalo. Ganizirani za inu nokha, pa kukhala wodziimira nokha ndi kudzizindikira. Sizingachotseretu zovutazo kapena zovutazo koma mudzakhala okonzeka kuthana nazo.
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