Mukaganizira mofatsa, mudzaona kuti mnzanu ali ndi mbali iliyonse ya moyo wanu. Kumapeto kwa mlungu, maholide, masiku oipa, chakudya chamadzulo chabanja, kupita kokagula zinthu, kuyenda, zolakalaka zapakati pausiku…mumatchula zimenezo. Zoonadi, zinthu zambiri sizikwanira popanda kukhalapo. Ichi ndichifukwa chake kutaya bwenzi lanu lapamtima kumakhala ngati kuyikidwa mu makina ochapira ozungulira.
Ndiye mungathetse bwanji kutha kwa ubwenzi? Kuthetsa chibwenzi ndi njira yayitali komanso yotopetsa yomwe imafuna kulimba mtima ndi kuleza mtima. Ngati ndinu munthu amene mukukumana ndi izi, mufunika malangizo onse omwe mungapeze. Koma inu mwandiika pakona panu, ndipo ine ndikudziwa choti ndichite pamene mukudabwa momwe mungadulire mzanu.
Pali njira khumi zokonzetsera mtima wanu. Ngati mukufuna kuchira chifukwa chotaya mnzako ndikuchira msanga, nayi mapu oti muyendere. Kodi tiyambe? Nazi…
N'chifukwa Chiyani Ubwenzi Umatha?
M'ndandanda wazopezekamo
Kugwa muubwenzi kumatha kuchitika chifukwa cha zifukwa zingapo. Mwinamwake bwenzi lanu linakhala munthu wosiyana kotheratu. Mwinamwake kusiyana kwanu kunali kosatheka. Kapena mwinamwake mmodzi wa inu avulaza mnzake kosatha. Kutha kwa ubale wanga woyamba (inde, ndidakhalapo nawo angapo) kunali kofanana ndi chikondi. Zinthu zidayamba bwino, tinkakondana wina ndi mzake, moyo unali wosangalatsa, kenako ...
Kenako ndinazindikira kuti mfundo zathu zazikulu zinali zosiyana kwambiri. Kusemphana maganizo kunakula koma tinakangamirana mwaukali. Tinkalimbana ndi ubwenzi woopsa ndipo tinkadziwa. Ndinapanga chisankho chovuta chosiyana chifukwa chidzatipulumutsa m'dziko la zowawa m'tsogolomu. Panali njira ziwiri patsogolo - zosagwira ntchito limodzi kapena zotalikirana zathanzi. Mwachibadwa, chotsiriziracho chinali chosankha chanzeru.
Monga maubwenzi ena, kulekana kwa ubwenzi kungakhale kwakanthawi kapena kosatha. Ndi udindo wanu kusankha ngati vutoli lingathetsedwe. Ubwenzi woopsa kapena wozunza uyenera kuthetsedwa nthawi yomweyo koma mikangano imatha kuthetsedwa mwa kukonza zinthu ndikusiya kugwirizana. Zochitika zanu zakufikitsani pamalo pomwe kusweka kwa ubwenzi kumakhala kokhazikika. Ndiye, mungatani ndi kutayika kwa mnzanu wapamtima ? Tiyeni tipeze yankho mu gawo lathu lotsatira.
Njira 10 Zothetsera Kutha Kwa Ubwenzi
Sindikudziwa chomwe chinapangitsa kuti iwe ndi bwenzi lako musiyane, koma ziyenera kuti zinali zowawa ndithu. Ziribe kanthu komwe mukuchokera pano - mkwiyo, chisoni, chisokonezo, kapena mtendere - mutha kugwiritsa ntchito njira zotsatirazi kuti mukhale ndi thanzi labwino.
Mwina munanyalanyaza zotsatira za ubale womwe inu ndi mnzanu munali nawo. Kafukufuku wasonyeza momwe ubale wolimba umathandizira kuti tikhale ndi moyo wautali. Ubwenzi wabwino umagwirizanitsidwa ndi kuchepa kwa nkhawa ndi nkhawa, komanso moyo wautali komanso wachimwemwe. Nzosadabwitsa kuti mukufunsa momwe mungathanirane ndi kutha kwa ubale.
Pepani ngati mwataya Ron Weasley kwa Harry Potter wanu, koma tiyenera kupitiriza. Malo otayirako si malo abwino kukhalamo. Umu ndi momwe mungathetsere kusiyana kwa anzanu apamtima…
1. Maluwa ndi ofiira, ndiye kuti mukuvutika ...
Simungathe ndipo simungachire pokhapokha mutavomereza chilondacho. Kugonjetsa kukana ndi sitepe yoyamba ya kuchira ku ubwenzi wosweka. Lolani kuti mumve zosokoneza. Kulira, kulira, kugona tsiku lonse. Ndi bwino kukhala ponseponse pamene mukumva chisoni mapeto a ubwenzi.
Vuto la kutaya mnzako ndilakuti nthawi zambiri sitimaona kuti zikubwera. Pali zizindikiro zochenjeza pamene chibwenzi kapena chibwenzi chanu chatsala pang'ono kutha, koma sitiganizapo za nthawi yomwe mnzako wapamtima sali pafupi nafe. Kukhala ndi moyo wopanda iwo kumawoneka ngati lingaliro loseketsa ... mpaka zitachitikadi. Mukukumbukira momwe Emma ndi Olivia anali omvetsa chisoni mu Bride Wars ? Kutha kwa ubwenzi wawo kunawakhudza kwambiri.
Ngati mudzasewera masewera a "O-I-I'm- fine-izo-zonse-zabwino", ndiye kuti mukutalikitsa masautso anu. Chotsani m'bokosi la minofu pamene mukulira, ikani ayisikilimu kunkhope yanu, kuphulika mwadzidzidzi kuyang'ana pagalasi - palibe vuto kuti musakhale bwino.
2. Serotonin ina chonde!
Nthawi yoyenera kuchita kudzisamalira si 3 am Lachitatu. Kudzisamalira kuyenera kuchitidwa mukatha kutha. Ndipo sindikutanthauza kugwiritsa ntchito chigoba cha pepala kapena kudya zakudya zotonthoza. Kudzisamalira kumaphatikizapo kukonzanso moyo wanu. Kumatanthauza kutengera zizolowezi zomwe zili zabwino ku thanzi lanu lakuthupi, lamalingaliro ndi lauzimu.
Yambani koyenda ndikudya zakudya zopatsa thanzi. Brownies ali bwino pamene mukumva chisoni, koma muyenera kubwezeretsa moyo wanu nthawi ina, sichoncho? Yang'anani pa ntchito ndikuyamba chizolowezi chatsopano. Siyani m'nyumba mwanu kuti muwotche dzuwa kuti mupume mpweya wabwino. Zochita zomwe zimapanga serotonin zidzakhala zopindulitsa kwambiri kwa inu.
Muyeneranso kuganizira za kusinkhasinkha kuti mubwezeretse mgwirizano ndikukhala ndi mgwirizano pakati pa yin ndi yang yanu. Iyi ndi njira yoyesedwa ndi yotsimikizika ndi inu. Ndikulonjeza kuti mudzamva bwino kwambiri mukadzakhalanso ndi moyo wabwinobwino. Ndikofunikira kukumbukira kuti mnzanuyo anali gawo la moyo wanu - inde, wofunika - koma osati moyo wanu wonse. Zili monga momwe amanenera pa Broadway - pulogalamuyo iyenera kupitilira!
3. Kutalikirana ndi anthu (osati chifukwa cha mliri wokha)
Kukakamiza kutseka ndi cholakwika chomwe anthu ambiri amachita. Kutumizirana mameseji nthawi zonse kapena kuyimbira foni mnzanu ndikuwapempha kuti akumane nanu kuti 'muthetse mavuto' ndi vuto. Nonse awiri mukufunika malo otalikirana, apo ayi simungafunse momwe mungathetsere kusweka kwa ubwenzi. Ikani malire amalingaliro ndikuwatsatira.
Ngati sanakutsatireni pa malo ochezera a pa Intaneti, zikhale choncho. Munthu aliyense amatenga zisankho zomwe zimamuthandiza kukhala ndi moyo wabwino. Ngati mnzanu akuganiza kuti mtunda pang'ono ndi njira yopitira, lemekezani malire awo. Kumbali ina, ngati iwo ndi amene akukuvutitsani, musazengereze kuwatsekereza kwakanthawi.
Mbali yofunika kwambiri ya kukula ndikuzindikira kuti kutseka sikutheka nthawi zonse. Nthawi zonse anthu amamaliza zinthu mwamtendere. Mutha kuyesa kupeza mtendere nokha, koma kukakamiza wina kutero ndi chisankho cholakwika.
4. Musakhale gulu lankhondo la munthu mmodzi
Ngakhale kuti kudziyimira pawokha ndi kudzidalira kuli koyamikirika, pali nthawi ndi malo awo - pamene mukuvutika m'maganizo si nthawi imeneyo komanso phanga lanu lodzipatula silili malo. Chonde fikirani kwa wina ndikutsanulira mtima wanu. Munthuyu akhoza kukhala kholo lanu, mnzanu, kapena katswiri wa zamaganizo.
Kutaya mnzanu wapamtima ndikuthetsa kusudzulana kungayambitse malingaliro osiyanasiyana. Ngakhale kuti kuthetsa mavutowa ndi ntchito yomwe inu nokha mungathe kuchita, ena nthawi zonse angakupatseni kapu ya tiyi kuti mutonthozedwe. Ndipo ndapeza kuti kufotokoza zomwe mwakumana nazo nthawi zina kungakupatseni kumveka bwino komwe mukufunikira. Ku Bonobology, timapereka thandizo la akatswiri kudzera mu gulu la alangizi ndi akatswiri ovomerezeka. Malangizo awo angakuthandizeni kuthana ndi mavutowa m'moyo wanu. Mutha kudalira ife.
Kukhala ndi ulamuliro ndi khalidwe labwino kwambiri, koma mungathe ' kusiya ' ngati Elsa pankhani ya anthu omwe mumawadalira. Mnzanga wina anaponya chotsukira mchere pagalasi atathetsa ubwenzi wawo, ndipo kodi anamva bwino pambuyo pake? Mfundo yanga ndi yakuti, pezani njira yotulukira ndikuwonetsa momwe mukumvera!
5. Kuyang'anira zinthu zonse ziwiri
Ughhh, apa pali malo ovuta omwe ndi ovuta kuwongolera. Kugawana zokondana ndi mnzathu wosiyana sikosangalatsa kwa onse omwe akukhudzidwa. Koma musamapangitse kuti awiriwa asankhe mbali; si giredi 7, tonse ndife akuluakulu pano.
Osasokoneza bwenzi lanu lakale kwa onse awiri, ndipo khalani okondana nthawi zonse. Khalani omasuka kufotokoza mbali yanu ya nkhaniyo (ngati mwafunsidwa), koma pewani ndemanga kapena zonyoza zosafunikira. Uzani anzanu onse awiri kuti aliyense ali ndi equation yake; kuti inu ndi bwenzi lanu lakale mudasiyana ndi chochitika chimodzi chomwe sichiyenera kukhudza wina aliyense.
Onetsani kukhwima pochita ndi anzanu omwe muli nawo limodzi - simukufuna kuwataya powapanga kusankha magulu. Ngati mukufunadi kudziwa mmene mungathetsere chibwenzicho, musalole kuti maganizo anu asokonezeke. Monga munthu yemwe wagwa mumsampha wa 'kutengera anthu pagulu lake', ndine wodalirika pankhaniyi. Nthawi zonse khalani ololera. Nthawizonse.
6. (Usakhale a) Hule, chonde!
Mafilimu ndi mafumu akukwiyitsa m'mafilimu, ndipo satha kulekerera kwenikweni. Palibe chabwino chomwe chingabwere kuchokera mu sewero la kutha. Kufalitsa mphekesera, kunena mabodza, kuwakwiyitsa popanda chifukwa, ndi kutaya zinsinsi zomwe zimagawana molimba mtima, zonsezi ndi makhalidwe oipa komanso ang'onoang'ono.
Musakhale munthu ameneyo. Palibe amene amakonda munthu ameneyo. Tengani msewu wawukulu ndikusunga umphumphu wanu zivute zitani. Kukambiskana za ubwezi wakukwaskika kungakuwovyani kuti muwoneke munthu wambula ulemu. Ngakhale bwenzi lanu lakale silinakhwime, musapitirire pamlingo wawo.
Chikumbutso china chodekha kuti musagwiritse ntchito malo ochezera a pa Intaneti ngati bwalo lankhondo pamene mukutha. Monga abwenzi, mumadziwa zambiri zachinsinsi za wina ndi mnzake, ndipo chiyeso chogwiritsa ntchito ngati zida ndi chachikulu kwambiri. Ndikudziwa kuti kutaya mnzako wapamtima ndi koyipa, koma kutumiza zinthu zamwano ndizovuta komanso zowopsa.
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7. Bwezerani, bwereraninso, sinthaninso
Ralph Waldo Emerson anati, “Njira yokhayo yopezera mnzako ndiyo kukhala mmodzi.” M'mawu osavuta - zimatengera awiri ku tango. Patapita nthawi, ndipo mukukhala ndi maganizo oyenera, ganiziraninso zimene zinachititsa kuti ubwenzi wanu uthe. Khalani owona mtima ndi inu nokha mu kubwereza uku.
Simungafunse momwe mungapitirire bwenzi lapamtima popanda kuganizira gawo lanu. Inunso muyenera kuti munalakwitsapo. Munalakwitsa pati? Mutapenda khalidwe lanu, mukhoza kukumbukira zolakwa zanu.
Ngakhale mutakhala kuti mukufuna kuyanjananso ndi mnzanuyo, muyenera kukhala ndi lingaliro lolondola la momwe zinthu zilili. Popanda kudziwa zolakwa zathu, timakonda kuimba mlandu . Socrates anati mwanzeru kwambiri, “Dziwani nokha.”
8. Galasiyo ili ndi theka
Kukhala ndi chiyembekezo kudzakuthandizani kudutsa mu nthawi zovuta kwambiri. Ndipo izi sizikutanthauza kungoyembekezera zinthu zabwino, komanso kuyang'ana mmbuyo pa zokumbukira zabwino za ubale womwe unatha. Mnzanuyo anali gawo lofunika kwambiri pa moyo wanu ndipo simungathe kuchotsa moyo wake m'zokumbukira zanu. Chitani zinthu zabwino mutatha kusudzulana.
Yembekezerani kufika pamlingo woti mutha kuganiza za nthawi zabwino ndi chikhumbo chachikondi m'malo monong'oneza bondo kapena chidani. Mutha kuyamika masiku abwino akale ndikukhalabe ndi madandaulo motsutsana ndi bwenzi lanu lakale. Awiriwo sali ogwirizana.
Kusunga chakukhosi kumangowononga mkati. Ngati Susan Bunch ndi Ross Geller angakhale wamba kwa wina ndi mzake, ndikukhulupirira kuti mupeza njira yokhazikitsira mtendere ndi zakale. Yankho la momwe mungathetsere chibwenzi ndi losavuta - musalole zomwe zinakuchitikirani zikufotokozereni momwe mumaonera maubwenzi onse.
9. Kusonyeza kuyamikira
Mwaona? Kuchita masewera olimbitsa thupi m'njira zonse ndi kokongola. Kutaya bwenzi kuyenera kukupangitsani kukhala ofunika kwambiri omwe muli nawo. Khalani othokoza chifukwa cha kupezeka kwawo, ndi zonse zomwe amakuchitirani. Alemekezeni ndipo yesani kukhala bwenzi labwino. Njira yabwino yothanirana ndi zotayika, ndikudzikumbutsa za zinthu zomwe muli nazo.
Sungani zolemba zoyamikira, kapena pemphererani anzanu ngati ndinu opembedza. Werengani madalitso anu, ndipo musamaganizire aliyense. Ubwenzi ndi chisankho chomwe timapanga tsiku lililonse - ndikosavuta kuchoka kwa mnzako chifukwa palibe mangawa. Komabe, timapanga chisankhocho ndikukhalabe.
Yesetsani kukhala ndi ubwenzi ngati wa Pooh ndi Piglet. Yambitsani anzanu ndi chikondi ndipo bwezerani zoyesayesa zawo. Moyo wanu ukhale wodzazidwa ndi kuseka ndi chikondi chaubwenzi!
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10. Khalani mtengo
Nthambi kunja. Ayi, sindikupepesa chifukwa cha mawuwa. Mukakonza malingaliro anu onse, muyenera kupita kunja ndikukhala omasuka kuti mupange mabwenzi atsopano. Osafikira anthu osawadziwa mwachisawawa ndi malingaliro openga, koma khalani ochezeka pamene wina akulankhula nanu.
Pitani kumalo omwe anthu amalumikizana (monga maikolofoni otsegula, kapena kalasi yatsopano, mwina?) ndikuyamba kukambirana. Onani kumene izo zikupita organically. Ingokumbukirani kuti simukufuna kusintha bwenzi lanu lakale. Izo sizimagwira ntchito mwanjira imeneyo. Simungathe kulowetsa anthu m'malo mwa wina ndi mzake.
Mwanjira ina, musakhale munthu wakunyumba! Tulukani kumeneko ndikuwona malo atsopano. Mutha kungokumana ndi munthu yemwe ali woyenera kukhala paubwenzi wamaloto!
Tatsala pang'ono kunena za kutaya bwenzi lapamtima. Pita masitepe awa mowona mtima ndipo osataya chiyembekezo. Ubwenzi wosweka ungawoneke ngati kutha kwa dziko, koma ndikukulonjezani kuti sichoncho. Ndikusiyirani ndakatulo yokongola iyi ya Langston Hughes.
" Ndinakonda mnzanga
Iye anachoka kwa ine
Palibenso chonena
Ndakatulo yatha,
Zofewa pomwe zidayamba -
Ndinkakonda mnzanga.”
Ibibazo
Kuthetsa ubwenzi kungaoneke ngati kovuta poyamba, koma kuthetsa vutolo kungasinthidwe pa masitepe atatu. Choyamba, sinthani malingaliro anu moyenera. Izi zikuphatikizapo kupeza malo otulutsiramo. Chachiwiri, bwezeretsani moyo wanu mwa kuthana ndi chisoni ndikukhazikika m'chizoloŵezi. Ndipo chachitatu, fufuzani zisankho zomwe mudapanga panthawi yaubwenzi, ndikuwona ngati mudalakwitsa. Izi pamapeto pake zidzatsogolera kuleka chidani kapena mkwiyo.
Pali zisonyezo zosiyanasiyana, koma zapamwamba zitha kukhala kuyesayesa kwa mbali imodzi komanso kusapezeka kwamalingaliro. Ngati mmodzi wa inu akuyesera kuti zinthu zipite patsogolo popanga mapulani kapena kulankhulana, ndiye kuti iyi ndi mbendera yofiira. Ubale sungathe kukhazikika pa zoyesayesa za mbali imodzi. Komanso, kusaganizirana kapena kuchitira chifundo mavuto kapena moyo wa wina ndi mnzake kungayambitse nkhawa.
Palibe nthawi yoikidwiratu yochira pambuyo paubwenzi wosweka. Munthu aliyense amachira pa liwiro lake. Komabe, nthawi yayitali (kupitilira masiku 21) yakhalidwe lokhumudwa liyenera kukhala chizindikiro chofuna thandizo la akatswiri. Khalidwe lovutika maganizo limaphatikizapo kutaya chilakolako, kudya kwambiri, kusowa tulo, kugona, kulira kosalekeza, kudzimva kuti alibe kanthu, kusalabadira ena ndi malingaliro ofuna kudzipha.
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Chopereka chanu sichikutanthauza chopereka chachifundo . Chidzalola Bonobology kupitiliza kukubweretserani chidziwitso chatsopano komanso chaposachedwa poyesetsa kuthandiza aliyense padziko lonse lapansi kuphunzira momwe angachitire chilichonse.
