Maubwenzi ndiabwino koma mwayesapo kugonana kosangalatsa popanda katundu wamalingaliro kapena kugwirizana? Ndi malamulo oyenerera a anzanu opindula, mutha kusangalala nawo ndi munthu amene mumamudziwa komanso kumukhulupirira. Malamulo kukhala mawu ogwira ntchito pano. Izi ndichifukwa choti, ngati zisiyidwa mosasamala, ma equation abwenzi-ndi-mapindu (FWB) amatha kukhala ovuta kuthana nawo.
Nanga bwanji ngati munthu mmodzi ayamba kukondana ndi mnzakeyo ndipo akufuna zambiri osati kungolumikizana ndi zingwe? Nanga bwanji ngati mwasiya kumverera ndi mnzanu ndi zabwino ndipo mukufuna kutuluka? Bwanji ngati apeza munthu ndipo akufuna kupita patsogolo? N’chifukwa chake kukhazika malamulo n’kofunika kwambiri kwa anzanu amene amafuna kukhala pachibwenzi popanda kukhala pachibwenzi. Zimalepheretsa chinthu chosangalatsa, chosavuta kuti chisanduke chisokonezo chovuta.
Kodi FWB Imatanthauza Chiyani Ndipo Zimasiyana Bwanji Ndi Chibwenzi?
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Ngati mwakhala mukudabwa kuti ndi abwenzi ati omwe ali ndi zopindulitsa, muli patsamba loyenera, cholakwika, malo. Chabwino, mokulira, tanthawuzo la abwenzi-ndi-mapindu ndi lodzifotokozera bwino. Ndinu mabwenzi omwe mumacheza nthawi ndi nthawi. A kuphunzira pa FWB limafotokoza mawuwa monga, "Kupangidwa mwachisawawa, ndi za kugonana pakati pa mabwenzi; zomwe zimasonkhanitsa pamodzi ubwenzi (ie psychological ubwenzi), ndi ubwenzi wakuthupi wopanda maubwenzi achikondi." Chifukwa chake zotengera zazikulu kuchokera ku tanthauzo ili zitha kukhala:
- Mnzanu yemwe mumachita naye chibwenzi mongosangalala
- Ndi ubale wopanda zingwe wopanda zotengera zilizonse zamalingaliro
- Ubale pano ukunena za ubwenzi osati kukhudzika mtima
- Nthawi zambiri zimakhala pakati pa mabwenzi kuti kukhulupirirana ndi kumvana zisasokonezedwe
Kupeza zomwe mungafanane ndi mnzanu kuti mufotokoze lingaliro la FWB poyambira kungathe kuwonetsetsa kuti zochitikazo ndi zoziziritsa kukhosi, zachilendo, komanso zosangalatsa kwa onse omwe akukhudzidwa.
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Kusiyana pakati pa FWB, Situationship ndi Dating
"Ndikuona winawake!", "Ndili paubwenzi ndi bloke ameneyo", "Kumeneko kunali kungolumikizana mwachisawawa!", "Ndikukuuzani chiyani, ndizochitika!", "Tikusunga ngati wamba", "Tikuchita. Zopanda Zingwe!" Mawu achibwenzi awa, kapena osakhala pachibwenzi, nthawi zambiri amakhala ovuta kwambiri. Kusiyana kwakukulu pakati pa zochitika zonsezi kuli pa ndege zitatu:
- Mtundu wa ubale: Kaya ndi zogonana, kapena zachikondi
- Mulingo wa Kudzipereka / Kupatula: Kodi mumasunga maubwenzi otseguka, kapena otsekedwa, kodi ndinu okwatirana ndi mwamuna mmodzi?
- Mwachidule: Onse awiri ali patsamba lomwelo pa zomwe akufuna paubwenzi wawo, kapena zonse sizimveka
Izi zimapangitsa kusiyana konse! Tikudziwa kuti chibwenzi ndi chikhalidwe chachikondi. Kugonana kungakhale kapena kusachita nawo zibwenzi ndipo maanja nthawi zambiri amamaliza maphunziro awo kukhala okwatirana. A mkhalidwe ndi mtundu wa chibwenzi koma zimasiyana ndi chibwenzi chifukwa chodzipereka komanso momveka bwino. Nthawi zina anthu okwatirana amakhala pachibwenzi koma sakudziwa momwe ubale wawo ulili.
Kumbali ina, muubwenzi wabwino ndi mapindu, kuyanjana ndi kugonana, palibe chikondi, ndipo nthawi zambiri palibe kudzipereka kwa wina ndi mzake, koma chofunika kwambiri, onse awiri amadziwa zomwe akufuna kuchokera ku dongosolo lawo. Ndiye, ndi iti mwa izi yomwe ili yoyenera kwa inu?
Kodi FWB ndi chisankho choyenera kwa inu?
Kodi munapangidwa kuti muzigogoda nsapato popanda kudzivulaza, kapena kugonana mwachisawawa ndi mnzanu kungapangitse zinthu kukhala zovuta kwa inu? Kusiyanitsa kwagona pa ulusi wabwino wotengera momwe ubale wanu ndi kugonana ulili, komanso thanzi lanu lamalingaliro. Ngati mulibe chidwi ndi ndalama zomwe ubale umafuna, FWB ikhoza kukhala chisankho chabwino kwa inu. Ngakhale anthu omwe amadzizindikiritsa ngati zonunkhira atha kupindula ndi "thupi lokha" labwino la ubale wabwino.
Kumbali inayi, ngati mukulowa muubwenzi wopindula chifukwa muli ndi chibwenzi chachikulu pa munthu uyu, ndipo ubale womwe adzakhale nawo ndi inu ndi kugonana, mukhoza kuvulazidwa. FWB imakupangitsani kumva kukhala pachiwopsezo, osafunikira, kapena osakwaniritsidwa ngati simukutsimikiza kuti izi ndi zomwe mukufuna. FWB yanthawi yayitali idzakubwezeretsani paulendo wanu wachikondi kuti mupeze wokondedwa.
Kuti muwonetsetse kuti izi ndi momwe mumakonda kugonana kwanu: osadzipereka, opepuka, komanso kamphepo, lowetsani mozama mu mtima mwanu. Ganizirani mawu otsatirawa ndikuwona ngati akugwirizana ndi inu:
- Simumakonda kukhala wosakwatiwa ndipo mungakonde kugwa m'chikondi
- Mumakonda kugwirana chanza ndikugwirana pambuyo pogonana
- Muli ndi chiyembekezo choti FWB yokhala ndi kusweka kwanu idzakhala chinthu chovuta kwambiri
- FWB ndiyo njira yokhayo yomwe mungakhalire pafupi ndi kusweka kwanu
- Mukudziwa kuti phindu lidzakhala lopweteka kwa inu koma mukufuna kusangalala ndi zowawazo
Ngati mawu omwe ali pamwambawa akugwirizana ndi inu, ubwino wa moyo ukhoza kukhala wosokoneza. Ndibwino kukhala wopanda chiyembekezo wachikondi ndikudikirira wokondedwa wanu wangwiro. Ngati kuphwanya wanu sangakupatseni izo, pali nsomba zambiri m'nyanja. Komano, ngati mumakonda kukhala wosakwatiwa, sindingathe kudikirira kuti mukhale nokha pambuyo pogonana, khalani ndi mnzanu wodalirika yemwe mumagawana naye chidziwitso cha kugonana, ndi kukonda lingaliro lotulutsa chilakolako chogonana, kugonana ndi anzanu ndi chikho chanu cha tiyi kwathunthu.
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18 Anzanu Omwe Ali Ndi-Ubwino Malamulo Oyenera Kulumbirira
Kotero, inu muli mosangalala osakwatiwa ndipo ndikufuna kuti zikhale choncho koma pali mzako amene amakusiyani ofooka m'mawondo nthawi zonse mukawayang'ana. Mumaona kuti nawonso amamva chimodzimodzi. Muli ndi makonda abwino kwambiri kuti mukhale ndi ubale ndi mapindu. Koma musalumphe mfuti pakali pano.
Musanakumane ndi munthu amene mukuona kuti n'zosatheka, pezani mgwirizano ndi malamulo okhudza anzanu omwe ali ndi phindu. Mukudabwa kuti izi zikutanthauza chiyani? Ndi mgwirizano, sitikutanthauza mgwirizano weniweni wolembedwa. Timangotanthauza kukhazikitsa zoyembekeza ndi malamulo oyambira kuti pakhale kumvetsetsa komveka bwino kwa tanthauzo la equation iyi kwa nonse ndi komwe mukufuna kujambula mzere. Kukuthandizani kuti muyambe, nayi malamulo 18 a anzanu omwe ali ndi maubwino omwe mungalumbirire nawo:
1. Fotokozani zomwe moyo wa FWB umatanthauza kwa inu
Zomwe zili mu FWB equation zitha kutanthauza zinthu zosiyanasiyana kwa anthu osiyanasiyana. Choncho, malamulo oyambirira a abwenzi-ndi-zopindula kwa anyamata ndi atsikana ndikupeza tanthauzo la FWB kwa iwo eni. Chofunikira kwambiri kuposa kukambirana ndi "mnzako wapamtima wokhala ndi zopindulitsa", ndikofunikira kuti mudziwe nokha chifukwa chomwe mukusankhira izi.
Onetsetsani kuti simukulowa mukuyesera kuthawa chinachake, pezani chododometsa, kapena kudzilanga nokha (anthu akhoza kukhala ndi chilakolako cha masochistic kuti amve ululu, poyesa kusewera ndi zomwe akudziwa kuti sangakhale nazo). Onetsetsani kuti izi ndi zathanzi kwa inu.
2. Nthawi zonse funani chilolezo
Tsopano kuti mukuwopa, sizikutanthauza kuti mutha kutenga kupempha chilolezo movomerezeka. Osamangowonekera kwa mnzako kuti achitepo kanthu popanda chenjezo lililonse. Kapena kukankhira chinachake chimene sanakonzekere pamene inu nonse muli pabedi. Pamene zofuna za kugonana zimakhala zamphamvu, malingaliro amatha kusintha popanda chenjezo, zomwe zimapangitsa kuti chilolezo chikhale chimodzi mwa zinthu zofunika kwambiri pa mgwirizano ndipo palibe amene ayenera kuutenga mopepuka nthawi iliyonse.
Kuvomereza ndi kulemekeza ndizofunikira kwambiri pakugonana kwakukulu. Ngati muwoloka malire panthaŵi yotentha, mukhoza kuvulaza munthu winayo kwa moyo wanu wonse ndi kuwononga osati makonzedwe angwiro okha komanso ubwenzi wanu. Kumbali inayi, musamve kuti ndinu wokakamizika kunena kuti inde ku zinthu zomwe simumasuka nazo chifukwa chakuti mukugona ndi munthu uyu.
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3. Kambiranani chinthu chodzipatula ndi malire a anzanu omwe ali ndi zopindulitsa
Mukalowa m'makonzedwe a abwenzi-ndi-zopindula ndi mnzanu, kambiranani zomwe mukuyembekezera pogona ndi anthu ena. Kodi malire anu okhala ndi zopindulitsa amafikira pati? Ngakhale kuti uwu siubwenzi wachikondi, zoyembekeza zimatha kukhala ndi maubwenzi apamtima monga awa, ngakhale ngati kugonana kwachisawawa. Kuonjezera apo, si aliyense amene ali womasuka ndi lingaliro lakuti wokondedwa wawo ali ndi zibwenzi zambiri.
Kukambirana moona mtima pankhaniyi ndi koyenera popanga mgwirizano wa anzanu ndi mapindu. Kodi muli m'gulu lodziphatika, kapena mutha kuwona anthu ena? Kodi mukufuna kuti izikhala nthawi yayitali bwanji? Nonse mulibwino kuchita chiyani? Kodi kukumbatirana kumatanthauza chikondi kwa inu, kapena ndi mbali ya kugonana mukamaliza? Pali zambiri zomwe mungalankhule!
4. Momwe mungagonana motetezeka ndi FWB
Limodzi mwa malamulo ofunikira kwa aliyense, mosatengera jenda, kugonana kotetezedwa. Kaya mukugona ndi anthu ena kapena ayi, chitetezo sichingakambirane mwatsatanetsatane. Sizovuta kuwona momwe kuchenjeza mphepo kungakupangitseni kuti muyambe chiopsezo cha matenda opatsirana pogonana ndi matenda opatsirana pogonana kapena mimba yosafuna. Choncho, ndi bwino kulakwitsa pa mbali ya kusamala osati kukhala osasamala pa kutentha kwa mphindi.
- Khalani omasuka ndi oona mtima kwa wina ndi mzake za moyo wanu wogonana
- Gwiritsani ntchito chitetezo nthawi zonse
- Konzani njira zolerera
- Pitani kukayezetsa matenda opatsirana pogonana
Onetsani thanzi la kugonana muzofiira pamene mukukhazikitsa malamulo a anzanu-opindula kusukulu yasekondale, chifukwa zimakhala zosavuta kunyalanyaza kufunika kwa chitetezo pansi pa zochitika za kufufuza m'zaka zimenezo.
5. Samalirani ukhondo wanu
Chifukwa chakuti simuli pachibwenzi ndi munthu ameneyu, sizikutanthauza kuti mudzakhala ngati slob m'chipinda chogona. Ngakhale atakhala kuti si bwenzi lako, sizikutanthauza kuti suyenera kudzikongoletsa wekha. Osadziwonetsa ndi ma prickly pubes, ma stained undies, tsitsi lakukhwapa, kapena mpweya wa adyo. Tengani nthawi yodzikonzekeretsa monga momwe mungachitire ngati mungatsike ndikudetsedwa ndi mnzanu wapamtima.
Ngakhale mutakhala okondana kwambiri ndipo amakudziwani bwino, pangani lamuloli kukhala limodzi mwamaubwino a anzanu. Yembekezerani kuti mnzanu wogonana naye wamba achite zomwezo. Sizipweteka kuitchula poika malamulo a anzanu omwe ali ndi phindu, kuti nonse mukhale pa tsamba limodzi.
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6. Dziwani momwe mungapindulire ndi ubale wanu wa FWB
Gawo labwino kwambiri la mayanjano osagwirizana ndi awa ndikuti amakusangalatsani ndikuwongolera zikhumbo zanu zakuthupi kuposa ubale wachikhalidwe. Chifukwa chake, sangalalani ndi kufulumira komwe mumamva mukamagona ndi bwenzi lanu ndikupindula.
- Lolani kuti mupite ndikuchotsa zoletsa zanu
- Sewerani malingaliro anu ogonana ndi zilakolako zakuya, zamdima
- Lankhulani malingaliro anu ndikuwadziwitsa zomwe mukufuna
- Osadziletsa kuyesa ndi kufufuza zinthu zatsopano zomwe zimakupatsani chisangalalo chogonana
Tanthauzo lonse la abwenzi-ndi-mapindu limatayika ngati muphonya gawo ili. Ubale wamba, mosiyana ndi wodzipereka, umakupatsani mwayi woganizira maloto anu ogonana popanda kuganizira zina zambiri. Ndikutanthauza, kodi sikutanthauza kusiya maubwenzi apamtima?
7. Momwe mungakhalire osagwirizana ndi FWB yanu
Kukhala ndi chidwi ndi FWB yanu kungakhale lingaliro loipa. Ndi chinthu chimodzi ngati inu ndi wanu bwenzi ndi phindu akhala akucheza nthawi zonse ndipo amazolowera kucheza limodzi. Koma ngati munthu ameneyu ndi munthu amene munali naye paubwenzi wamba, samalani kuti musalowe m’gawo la maanjawo.
- Pewani kuchita zinthu zingapo pamodzi monga kugwirana chanza
- Musakhale okondana mopambanitsa ndi achikondi
- Chepetsani zochita monga kupita ku kanema kapena kukagula zinthu limodzi
- Musamacheze ndi wina ndi mnzake mu gawo la “mapindu ndi anzanu”
- Pewani masiku, kudya nkhomaliro, kapena khofi
- Chepetsani kuyanjana kwanu ndi kulumikizana
Izi zikhoza kukhala maziko oyambitsira maubwenzi apamtima. Popeza ndinu okondana kale, kukhala pachibwenzi kungapangitse nthawi yomweyo kugwirizana kwanu m'gawo lovuta.
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8. Pewani kukopana pagulu
Izi ndizofunikira makamaka ngati muli ndi anzanu omwe amapindula kuntchito kapena mukugona ndi mnzanu yemwe ali m'gulu lanu. Ziribe kanthu kuti mumayatsidwa mochuluka bwanji chifukwa cha kupezeka kwa wina ndi mzake kapena kuchuluka kwa moto, pewani kukopana pagulu. Komanso pangani lamulo ili limodzi la anzanu omwe ali ndi zopindulitsa kusukulu yasekondale, komwe mphekesera zimabuka ngati moto wolusa. Izi ndi zofunika makamaka ngati mukufuna kusunga kugonana wamba ndi bwenzi ubwenzi pansi otsika.
Ngati simungathe kudziletsa, bwanji ndi kugonana konse kumakupangitsani kukhala wokwezeka, gwiritsani ntchito njira yanzeru ngati kutumizirana mameseji. Mwanjira imeneyi mutha kufalitsa uthengawo popanda kukweza nsidze. Kuonjezera apo, mbali zonse zachinsinsi zimapangitsa kuti zinthu zikhale zosangalatsa kwambiri.
9. Osadziwitsa achibale kapena abwenzi anu FWB yanu
Malingana ndi malamulo a abwenzi-ndi-mapindu amapita, kuyambitsa FWB kwa banja lanu kapena anzanu ndi NO-NO-NO. Zinthu zimenezo zasungidwa maubale aakulu kokha. Mwa kuchititsa achibale anu kapena anzanu kuti alowe nawo m'makonzedwe awa, mutha kukulitsa vutoli potengera zomwe aliyense akuyembekezera. Osatchulanso zakuwawa kochita ndi kufunsa mafunso oti "chikuchitika ndi chiyani?"
Ngakhale abwenzi anu ndi abale anu akumudziwa kale munthu amene muli naye paubwenzi ndi maubwino, palibe chifukwa chowalengezera za equation yanu.
10. Khalani kutali ndi zogona
Ngati mukufuna kupeŵa kuchita zinthu ndi anzanu omwe ali ndi mapindu, pewani zochitika zomwe zingayambitse kutengeka maganizo. Kukhala ndi ma sleepovers kuli pamwamba pa mndandandawo. FWB wanu akagona, akhoza kukubweretserani khofi pabedi m'mawa wotsatira, kapena kukonza chakudya cham'mawa. Mutha kusamba limodzi musanakonzekere tsikulo, zomwe zimapangitsa kuti zikhale zosavuta kukhudza malingaliro.
A kuphunzira kafukufuku akuwonetsa kuti pafupifupi 22% mwa omwe adatenga nawo gawo adakumana ndi "zovuta zamalingaliro" paubwenzi wawo wa FWB. Chifukwa chake pewani kuchita chilichonse chomwe chimasokoneza malingaliro anu kwa mnzanu wa FWB. Izi zimangosokoneza zinthu. Sangalalani ndi gawo lanu, mwina onjezerani kapu yausiku kapena kusamba mwachangu, kenako, pitani kunyumba kapena kutsazikana nawo malinga ndi komwe muli.
11. Momwemonso kukumbatirana ndi snuggles
Kulankhula za malamulo a abwenzi omwe akugona wina ndi mzake kuti athetse mwayi wokhala ndi kugwirizana kwamaganizo, kukumbatirana kapena kugwedeza pambuyo pa kugonana ndi gawo losapita. Zidzakusiyani mukumva kutentha, kukhumudwa, komanso kukanthidwa ndi FWB yanu.
Siyani ubwenzi wapamtima kuti ukhale chete kugonana kwabwino. Ngati mupeza mushy onse, mukudziwa komanso momwe timachitira kuti ndi njira yowopsa. Makamaka ngati inu nonse muli ogwirizana kwambiri ndipo mwakhala ma besties kwa zaka zambiri, pangani iyi imodzi mwa malamulo anu abwenzi-opindula. Simukufuna kuwononga makonzedwe abwino ndi kutaya bwenzi lanu lapamtima powakonda.
12. Kambiranani malo anu ndi FWB yanu
Malo ndi ofunikira mu ubale uliwonse kapena kulumikizana komwe mumakulitsa ndi munthu wina. Izi ndizowona makamaka pamakonzedwe opanda zingwe ndi mnzanu. Chifukwa chake, mukamakambirana za kukhazikitsa malire ndi anzanu ndi zopindulitsa, ganizirani za malo.
Nawa malamulo ena omwe mungatsatire kuti mutsimikizire kuti nonse muli ndi chipinda chanu chopumira komanso kuti musalowe muzinthu zazikulu kwambiri. Izi zidzathandiza kwambiri pakuwongolera zoyembekeza pambuyo pake ndikukusungani nonse patsamba limodzi.
- Onetsani momveka bwino kuti palibe aliyense wa inu amene angalole kuti wina ayambe kumamatira kwambiri
- Ganizirani kwambiri za ubwenzi osati kuyandikana kwenikweni
- Mmodzi ayenera kukhala FWB malamulo mameseji kuti smother kapena kukwiyitsa munthu wina. Pewani zolemba zabwino zam'mawa kapena kuwatumizira mameseji kakhumi patsiku
- Sungani equation yanu kukhala yosangalatsa, yosangalatsa, komanso yopepuka - monga momwe mungakhalire ndi ma BFF anu aliwonse.
- Kumvetsetsana ndi kulemekeza zinsinsi za wina ndi mnzake ndi malo ndizo maziko a ubale wabwino wa FWB
- Musayese kulimbikitsana kuti mudziwe zambiri zokhudza kugonana kwa wina ndi mzake
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13. Khalani omasuka ku maubwenzi atsopano
Zomwe mukuyenda ndi bwenzi lanu zitha kukhala zabwino koma ndizachiphamaso komanso mwachisawawa. Muyenera kudziwa kuti nthawi zambiri palibe kudzipereka kwa nthawi yayitali pankhani ya kugonana ndi anzanu. Chifukwa chake, musalole kuti zitengere ubale weniweni m'moyo wanu. Khalani omasuka kukumana ndi anthu atsopano, kutuluka pamasiku, ndi kuyamba ubale watsopano ngati munthu woyenera abwera. Izi zimakhala zofunika kwambiri ngati mukuyesera kupeza anzanu apatali ndi maubwino.
14. Momwe mungakhalire nsanje muubwenzi wa FWB
Ngati bwenzi lanu ndi zopindulitsa apeza munthu wina kapena akudziika okha pa chibwenzi powonekera, musalole izo zikupangitsa mkati wanu kukhala wobiriwira ndi nsanje.
- Dzikumbutseni kuti sindinu abwenzi
- Mvetserani kuti sakukunyengani kapena kuwoloka mizere iliyonse ngati akufuna kulumikizana mozama ndi munthu wina
- Kumbukirani kuti malamulo anu amatanthauza kuti nonse muli omasuka kufunafuna wina aliyense mwachikondi
Izi ndizofunikira kwambiri kuti ziphatikizidwe m'malamulo aabwenzi akutali omwe ali ndi phindu. Mwina muli m'mizinda yosiyanasiyana ndikutumizirana mameseji kuti musunge ubale wanu wa FWB. Zingakhale zosavuta mumkhalidwe woterewu kudzazidwa ndi mkwiyo pamene atulukadi ndi munthu wina. Koma palibe chifukwa chodzimva kuti watayidwa!
15. Tatulani zonyezimira zanu;
Ngati inu ndi a FWB anu mukusonkhana tsiku ndi tsiku kuti muzichita zinthu zotentha komanso zotentha, ndizachilendo kuti mudzazolowerane pa moyo wanu. Ndilo sitepe loyamba lokonda munthu. Izi zidzabweretsa zowawa zambiri ndi chisoni pamene mmodzi wa inu asuntha. Ichi ndichifukwa chake kusiyanitsa magawo anu othawa ndi ena mwa malamulo ofunikira kwambiri. Ngakhale mutadana nazo, mukudziwa kuti ndikofunikira kuti mupitirize kutsegulira kapena kugwirizanitsa makonzedwe anu, ziribe kanthu momwe mungakhalire.
16. Momwe mungasinthire chikondi mu maubwenzi a FWB
Sitingathe kutsindika izi mokwanira. Mukakhala ndi ubale wapamtima wotere ndi munthu ndikuyamba kumva bwino pamaso pawo, ndizachilengedwe kuti malingaliro angakule nthawi ina. Ngati mukuwona kuti zikuchitika, yesani kutsatira malamulo awa:
- Osayang'ana chikondi mumkhalidwe wa anzanu omwe ali ndi mapindu
- Dzitalikitseni nokha ndi wokondedwa wanu mwamalingaliro, m'malingaliro, komanso mwa digito
- Yang'anirani malingaliro anu; kupanga chisankho mozindikira
- Lamulo lofunika kwambiri kwa anzanu omwe ali ndi zopindulitsa ndikuchepetsa zomwe mukuyembekezera
Monga pa a kuphunzira kafukufuku kutengera kafukufuku, 60% mwa omwe adatenga nawo mbali adakhudzidwa ndi kukhala ndi "zilakolako zosabweza za kudzipereka kwachikondi" chifukwa chokondana mwachisawawa. Komabe, ngati simungathe kubwezeretsa malingaliro anu, muyenera kukhala omasuka komanso oona mtima. Momwe FWB yanu imachitira ndi chitukukochi zili ndi iwo.
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17. Lankhulani za kutha kwa nthawi ya FWB
Inu ndi FWB yanu simungathe kupitiriza kuvina uku - ngakhale kutakhala kosangalatsa bwanji - mpaka kalekale. Izi sizitenga nthawi yayitali ngakhale mutazifuna. Malinga ndi kafukufuku wofalitsidwa mu Ubale Waumwini, Maubwenzi a FWB amasewera monga momwe anthu amayembekezera 17% yokha ya nthawiyo. Kafukufukuyu akuwunikira kusiyanasiyana kwa ubale wamtunduwu, womwe nthawi zambiri umasanduka chinthu chovuta kwambiri kapena kufa.
Maubwenzi a FWB, olemba phunziroli akuwonetsa, mwina amakula kukhala maubwenzi apamtima komanso okondana kapena kubwereranso ku maubwenzi okhazikika osakondana pang'ono. Pamene ubale ukusintha, umakhala pachiwopsezo ku chilichonse mwa zomwe awiriwo amayembekeza. Idzafika nthawi yomwe m'modzi kapena nonse mudzafuna kutuluka. Kuti muwonetsetse kuti izi sizikusiyani ndi zowawa, khazikitsani maulamuliro omaliza a anzanu omwe ali ndi phindu, monga:
- Fotokozani kuti zingaloledwe kuthetsa dongosololi pati kapena pati
- Kodi mudzakhala ndi zokambirana zambiri kapena kungongolankhula chabe kungakwane?
- Kodi mungayambirenso kukhala mabwenzi pambuyo pake?
- Osatengera malingaliro anu pakuchitapo kanthu
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18. Lolani kuti zinthu zikule bwino
Zikachitika kawirikawiri kuti nonse inu ndi FWB wanu mukukondana wina ndi mnzake ndipo mukufuna zambiri kuposa kugonana, palibe vuto kulimbikitsa dongosololi kukhala ubale weniweni. Kupatula apo palibe zowonekera mgwirizano wofiira mbendera ndikukuuzani zina. Mukafika pamenepa, lolani kuti zinthu ziyende bwino m'malo moyesetsa kuti ubale wanu ukhale wabwino. Ngati izo zikuyenera kukhala, zidzachitika. Ngati sichoncho, mudzangoyenera kukhazikitsa mtendere ndi kupitiriza.
Zolozera Mfungulo
- Maubwenzi ndi abwenzi ndi opindulitsa ndi ongolumikizana wamba. Pakhoza kukhala ubwino wambiri wa maubwenzi ndi kugonana kulikonse komanso palibe chikondi
- Mu maubwenzi opambana a FWB, kuyanjana kumangogonana, palibe chikondi chomwe chimakhudzidwa, ndipo mabwenzi onse ogonana ali patsamba limodzi.
- Kambiranani ndi FWB yanu za malire a ubale omwe mungalumbire poyambira pomwe
- Pewani kugwidwa muukonde wamalingaliro ndi mnzanu wa FWB
- Samalani ndi kuvomereza, kulemekezana wina ndi mzake, pewani kuthera nthawi pamodzi kuti musatenge malingaliro, ndipo koposa zonse, khalani otetezeka
Ndi malamulo omveka bwino awa, mutha kupanga udzu pamene dzuwa likuwalira pa moyo wanu wogonana popanda kutenga khungu lanu. Ingokumbukirani kusunga malingaliro anu ndikumasula thupi lanu kuti mukwaniritse zomwe mwakumana nazo mokwanira. Ngati muli kale paubwenzi wotere ndipo mwafika pamalo omata pomwe mukufunika thandizo ndi kuthandizidwa kuti muthe kutuluka, funsani mphunzitsi wa ubale. Ngati mukufunikira thandizo limenelo, alangizi aluso ndi odziwa zambiri ndi othandizira Gulu la Bonobology ali pano kuti akuthandizeni.
Nkhaniyi yasinthidwa mu March 2023.
Ibibazo
Anzanu omwe amapindula amagona limodzi popanda kukhala pachibwenzi.
Palibe tsiku lotha ntchito paubwenzi ndi mapindu. Anthu ena amasiya pakatha milungu kapena miyezi ingapo, pamene ena amasiya kwa zaka zambiri. Malingana ngati zikuwoneka bwino, mukhoza kupitiriza.
Kwa mnyamata nayenso mabwenzi omwe ali ndi ubwino amatanthauza kukhala ndi kugwirizana ndi munthu yemwe amagwera penapake chibwenzi ndi ubwenzi. Amuna ena amaona kuti ndi njira yabwino yokwaniritsira zosowa zawo popanda kunyamula katundu kapena maubwenzi. Izi zati, zingakhale zosavuta kuganiza kuti amuna onse ali ndi lingaliro lofanana pa dongosololi.
Inde, si zachilendo kuti mabwenzi amene amapindula nawo ayambe kukondana kapena kuyamba kukondana. Vuto limabwera pamene malingalirowa ali mbali imodzi.
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