Nthawi zambiri takhala tikumva za uphungu wamabanja kapena uphungu wa maanja. Tikudziwa kuti pamafunika ukadaulo ndipo ndi njira yoti banja lanu liwoneke ngati lili pamiyala. Kuti mutsitsimutsenso banja lanu, thetsani nkhani zina zoyankhulirana ndikuyamba moyo wabanja wathanzi, upangiri wamabanja ndi njira yotchuka. Koma kodi zolinga zenizeni za uphungu waukwati ndi ziti? Mumapindula chiyani mukawonana ndi mlangizi? Ndipo izi zimathetsa bwanji nkhani za ubale wanu?
M'zaka zaposachedwapa, chithandizo cha anthu okwatirana chikukulirakulirabe. Makonzedwe a ukwati ayenera kusamaliridwa mozama. Sikuti ukwati umasintha mayanjano anu ndi malo ozungulira okha komanso umasinthanso inu monga munthu kwambiri. Njira yonseyi yotengera malingaliro a munthu wina ndikusunga zanu zimabwera ndi zovuta zake. Ndipo zinthu zikayamba kukhala zovuta, zitha kuwoneka ngati zonse zikukugwerani.
Ngati mwakhala mukumva kuti 'mwakakamira' m'banja mwanu kapena mukuganiza zoyambitsa chithandizo cha maanja koma simukudziwa, ndiye kuti mwafika pamalo oyenera lero. Kuchiza kungawoneke ngati kowopsa poyamba. Ndipo ngati inu ndi mnzanu simunakonzekerebe, zili bwino. Tikhozabe kukuwuzani zonse za kukula kwa chithandizo cham'banja ndipo mutha kusankha mtsogolo ngati izi ndi zanu kapena ayi.
Ndi nzeru za katswiri wamkulu wa zamaganizo Dr. Prashant Bhimani (Ph.D., BAMS), yemwe ndi katswiri pa uphungu wa maubwenzi ndi hypnotherapy, tasonkhanitsa zolinga zingapo zofunika pa uphungu waukwati. Pansipa takambirana za cholinga cha uphungu waukwati ndi momwe mungachikwaniritsire. Choncho chotsani nkhawa zanu zonse, chifukwa tikhoza kuchotsa kukayikira kwanu konse.
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M'ndandanda wazopezekamo
Uphungu ndi njira yayitali komanso yokhudza mtima ndipo siyenera kutengedwa mopepuka. Zolinga zenizeni za uphungu wa ukwati ziyenera kukonzedwa mosamala kuti muyambe ulendo wanu womvetsetsana bwino ndi mnzanu wanu ndikukwaniritsa ukwati wabwino . Zolinga izi zimatsatiridwa ndikulalikidwa ndi akatswiri odziwika bwino a zamaganizo kuti athandize maanja kuthana ndi mavuto awo.
Alangizi apabanja amawulula kuti maanja osiyanasiyana amakumana ndi zovuta zosiyanasiyana, ndichifukwa chake ali ndi zolinga zawozawo akanthawi kochepa kuti alandire chithandizo. Alangizi ambiri okwatirana amalinganiza zolinga zachindunji kuti athe kuthana ndi mavuto enaake okhudza maukwati. Koma zolinga zina zazikulu zimagwira ntchito kwa onse. Pali zinthu zina zomwe maanja amafuna kukwaniritsa popereka chithandizo - kulankhulana bwino, kupeza luso lotha kuthetsa mavuto kapena kuphunzira kuthana ndi mikangano moyenera.
John ndi Julie Gottman adapanga njira ya Gottman yopangira uphungu waukwati mwa kuchita kafukufuku wasayansi pa maanja 3,000 omwe akhala zaka zoposa 40. Njira yawo ikuwonetsa kufunika koyesa ndi kukulitsa luso pothetsa mikangano, kuthana ndi zopinga, kuwonjezera kumvetsetsana, kukonza mavuto akale, ndikukonza maubwenzi m'maubwenzi.
Chifukwa chake, kuti mukhazikitse zolinga za chithandizo cha maanja, mumayamba ndikuyang'ana zomwe zilipo ndikuyesetsa kuthana nazo. M’nkhaniyi, tafufuza mmene chithandizo cha anthu okwatirana chimakhalira, m’lingaliro la zolinga zimene zingakhudze mabanja ambiri.
Kodi Zolinga za Uphungu Waukwati Ndi Chiyani?
Mumakamba chiyani muuphungu waukwati? Kodi pali zolinga zazifupi za chithandizo cha maanja? Mfundo ya chithandizo cha maanja ndi chiyani kwenikweni? Malingaliro anu mwina ali odzaza ndi mafunso awa pomwe mukuyesera kusankha ngati musankhe upangiri waukwati kapena ayi.
Chinthu chimodzi chimene tingathe kukuuzani motsimikiza n’chakuti malangizo a dokotala wodziwa bwino ntchitoyo adzachitadi zodabwitsa m’banja lanu. Ndi malangizo a uphungu aukwati ogwirizana ndi zosowa zanu zapadera, sing'anga waluso akhozadi kukuikani inu ndi mnzanu panjira yoyenera.
Mavuto anu ndi omveka koma tabwera kuti tiwakhazike mtima pansi. Ndi zitsanzo izi 15 za zolinga za uphungu waukwati, mudzakhala ndi lingaliro labwinoko la momwe izi zimakhalira. Choncho popanda kuchedwa, tiyeni tilowemo.
1. Momwe mungayesere luso lothana ndi mavuto
Cholinga chachikulu cha chithandizo cha maanja oyamba ndikuphunzira luso lothetsera mavuto kuti muthane bwino ndi ubale wanu. Mavuto a ubale amayamba m'mabanja pamene sitingathe kumvetsetsa maganizo a munthu wina, kuvomereza kuti kusiyana kumeneko ndi kwachibadwa ndikupeza njira yothetsera vutoli.
Choncho, malinga ndi Dr. Bhimani, maanja akuyenera kuganizira kwambiri za kusinthika ndi kuvomereza ndi manja awiri. Iye anati: “Timayembekezera kuti anthu azichita zinthu mwa njira inayake, koma kwenikweni aliyense ndi wosiyana kwambiri.
2. Momwe mungathanirane ndi kusiyanako
Tingaganize kuti vuto lililonse la m’banja lingathetsedwe mwa kulankhulana mwaluso ndiponso mogwira mtima. Imeneyi ndiyo njira yabwino kwambiri yothetsera kusiyana kwa ubale wanu. "Kuvomereza kusagwirizana", ndi mawu omwe Dr. Bhimani nthawi zambiri amawagogomezera panthawi ya uphungu wake.
Iye anati, “Ngakhale zochita monga kuyenda kapena kuyenda limodzi pagalimoto nthawi yayitali zingathandize kwambiri kuthetsa mkwiyo wanu. Kukhala ndi nthawi yabwino pamodzi, kulankhulana bwino ndi mbali ya kulankhulana bwino. Ngakhale kumvetsera ndi kumvetsera nyimbo zomwe wina ndi mnzake amakonda ndi njira yabwino yothetsera kusamvana komwe kukukulirakulira. Kukhala ndi nthawi ndi ana anu komanso kulankhula nawo kwambiri nthawi zambiri kungathenso kuthetsa mkwiyo chifukwa kumawonjezera chithunzithunzi chabwino.”
3. Maphunziro a kuwongolera mkwiyo ndi mfundo ya chithandizo cha maanja
Mfundo yaikulu ya chithandizo cha maanja ndikumvetsetsa momwe mungasamalire mkwiyo wanu bwino zomwe zingakupangitseni kukhala odziwa kuthana ndi mavuto omwe ali muubwenzi wanu. Mkwiyo ndi chida chowopsa chomwe chingabwere kuchokera kuzinthu zosiyanasiyana. Koma mukachipeza mwamsanga, moyo wanu udzavomereza mwamsanga.
Dr. Bhimani anati: “Mnzako akamaoneka kuti wakwiya komanso wakwiyitsa, uyenera kuyesetsa kuchepetsa mkwiyo wako kuti usapse mtima kwambiri.
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4. Kumvetsetsa nkhani kuyambira ubwana
Wina atha kunena kuti chimodzi mwazolinga zanthawi yochepa pa chithandizo cha maanja ndikumvetsetsa zomwe zimayambitsa kusakhazikika, kukwiya komanso zovuta zomwe onse m'banjamo amachita. Kuyamba chithandizo kwa maanja kumatha kuwunikira chifukwa mavuto ambiri aubwana amatha kuwonekera pankhaniyi. Maleredwe a ubwana amawonekera m'zinthu zosiyanasiyana zomwe timachita ngati akuluakulu.
Mwana wamng'ono amene amaona kuti makolo ake akukangana pafupipafupi, wakumana ndi zolakwa zambiri zokhudza makolo ake , angayambe kuchita zinthu zimenezo m'moyo wawo wabanja. Munthuyo angakule n’kukhala wandewu kwambiri, kusonyeza kusadzidalira kwambiri, komanso mwina kukhala ndi nkhupakupa monga kuluma misomali.
Ndikofunika kumvetsetsa kuti sikudzakhala kosavuta kuchotsa mbali iyi ya umunthu wa munthu. Komabe, kuthana nazo momveka bwino komanso momveka bwino pakuchiritsa ndikuwongolera bwino mphamvuzo zimakhala zofunika kwambiri. Kuzindikira kuti izi zitha kukhala vuto lalikulu ndi zina mwa zolinga zofunika kwambiri za chithandizo cha maanja.
5. Mmene mungalankhulire mwanzeru ndi kumvetsera bwino zimayang'aniridwa ndi chithandizo cha m'banja
Cholinga chachikulu cha uphungu wa ukwati ndikuwongolera luso lolankhulana. Izi sizingothetsa mavuto omwe alipo pano monga kutopa kapena kusakhutira muubwenzi komanso ndi luso lomwe lidzakhala lothandiza nthawi zonse m'moyo wanu wabanja. Ndipotu, lingathandizenso polankhulana ndi anthu ena. Maluso abwino omvetsera ndi ofunikira pa njira iliyonse yolankhulirana.
Kuti ubwenzi ukhale wabwino, munthu ayenera kukhala wotchera khutu, wofuna kudziwa zambiri komanso wofunitsitsa kumvetsera mnzanuyo. Ubwenzi umakhala wopanda thanzi ngati pali kusokonekera kwa kulumikizana. Komanso, m'pofunika kudziwa mmene mungayankhire mfundo zanu kuti mufotokoze maganizo anu pa nkhani inayake komanso kuti mugwirizane ndi maganizo a mnzanuyo.
“Timayembekezera kuti anthu okwatirana azimvana koma anthu azilankhula momveka bwino komanso azilankhula momveka bwino komanso momveka bwino, ndewu kapena kukangana kapena kutukwana si njira zogwira mtima zothanirana ndi vuto, munthu ayenera kulankhula momveka bwino komanso momasuka,” akutero Dr. Bhimani. Mphamvu ya mawu ilibe malire ndipo iyenera kugwiritsidwa ntchito mosamala kuti muzikhala ndi zokambirana zabwino m'banja lanu.
6. Momwe mungadzudzule mogwira mtima
Monga tanenera kale, mawu ali ndi mphamvu zopanda malire, makamaka paubwenzi. Tsopano chidzudzulo chidzabwera chifukwa cha kusiyana kwathu ndi anthu, si chinthu chomwe tingathe kapena tiyenera kuchithetsa. Kudzudzula kolimbikitsa ndikofunikira kuti mufufuze zomwe zingapangitse ubalewo kutsika ndikuyesetsa kukonza zonse.
Chifukwa chake, malo odekha, malingaliro olunjika komanso makutu otseguka ndizofunikira kuti muthane ndi mavuto anu ndikufotokozera zomwe zakhala zikukusautsani za wokondedwa wanu. “Aloleni amvetse bwino za maganizo anu komanso aloleni kuti nawonso afotokoze zakukhosi kwawo.
Mungaganize kuti chovala chimene wokondedwa wanu wavala sichingakhale chake chabwino. Kukhala ndi lingaliro limenelo nkoyenera. Koma munthu amachiyika bwanji? Izi ndi zomwe muyenera kuphunzira ndipo zimabwera pansi pa chithandizo chaukwati.
7. Momwe mungachotsere mawu opweteka
Kuchuluka kwa chithandizo cham'banja kumaphatikizaponso kukambirana za mikangano yakale ndi madandaulo aumwini. Nthawi zambiri, nthawi zina ngakhale pazifukwa zosagwirizana kwenikweni, timakonda kuchita kapena kunena zinthu zomwe sitingatanthauze kwenikweni. Timakonda kuwonetsa mopupuluma mikangano yamkati mwa njira zosayenera ndikuyika malingaliro athu ndi malingaliro athu kwa anzathu.
Ngakhale kuti zinthuzi sizingapeweke konse chifukwa cha mikangano ya aliyense, ndikofunikira kupepesa moona mtima nthawi ina ndikukambirana momasuka. Tikadzipereka nthawi yoganizira ndikusintha momwe tikumvera patokha, zokambirana zathu ndi kupepesa kwathu kungakhale kwanzeru komanso kochokera pansi pamtima mtsogolo chifukwa cha kukhumudwa komwe kwadutsa mpaka nthawi imeneyo.
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8. Kumvetsetsa pamene ubale unatsika
Ichi ndi chimodzi mwa zitsanzo zofunika kwambiri za uphungu waukwati. Mukalowa mu ofesi ya phungu, mwina chinthu choyamba chimene nonse mumachita ndi kuzindikira ndi kumvetsa pamene zinthu zinayamba kusokonekera. Ubale kapena ukwati ukhoza kukhala ndi nthawi zovuta kangapo panthawi yake. Sichinthu chomwe muyenera kuda nkhawa nacho kwambiri koma chimafunika kuzindikiridwa munthawi yake kuti muwonetsetse kuti mutha kudutsa gawolo mwachangu.
Monga anthu, si zonse zomwe timachita zomwe zimakhala zangwiro. Pali nthawi zina zomwe maukwati anu angawoneke ngati akulephera koma bola ngati mutha kuzindikira bwino chomwe chikuyambitsa mavuto ndikukonzekera njira yopitira patsogolo, ukwati wanu ukhoza kukhala wolimba kuposa kale lonse.
Chithandizo cha maanja chikhoza kukhala chopindulitsa pokhapokha pamene onse awiri avomereza kuti pali vuto. Zina zomwe zingapangitse maubwenzi kutha, malinga ndi Dr. Prashant Bhimani, ndi kusowa kwa kulankhulana, kuuma m'mabwenzi, kukwiya, kuchepa kwa maubwenzi ogonana, kusakonda kupita kokayenda, kukangana kawirikawiri.
9. Momwe mungachotsere kusamvera
“Kupatsana mpata wopumira bwino kumagogomezeredwa pa nthawi ya uphungu wa m’banja.” Mwatsoka, ndi chinthu chimene okwatirana amalephera mobwerezabwereza kuvomereza.
Anthu amakhala ogwirizana payekhapayekha. Choncho zinthu zikavuta, kuganizira za munthu payekha komanso malo ake ndizofunikira kwambiri popanga malo abwino muubwenzi wanu. Komanso, zinthu zambiri zoipa zimangochitika chifukwa chodzionetsera tokha za momwe tikumvera komanso kusadzidalira.
Dr. Bhimani anaonjeza kuti, “Ngakhale uthenga wa pa whatsapp wanthawi zonse osayankhidwa ndi mnzako, koma utha kuwona nkhupakupa za buluu, zitha kukupangitsani kukhala osasangalala. Izi ndizovuta zomwe zimayamba. Zowona nthawi zambiri zimasiyana kwambiri ndi zomwe timaganiza komanso malingaliro athu, ndipo tiyenera kupatsa anzathu mwayi wokayika kuti apewe kulankhulira malingaliro oyipa. Ichi chikuyenera kukhala chimodzi mwa zolinga zaukwati.
10. Mmene munganenere “Zikomo” ndi chimodzi mwa zolinga zanthawi yochepa ya chithandizo cha maanja
“Kuyamikira ndi chinthu chaching’ono chosonyeza kuti mumalemekeza kwambiri mwamuna kapena mkazi wanu.” Izi ziyenera kuchitidwa ndi onse awiri amene ali pachibwenzi nthawi zambiri.” Anthu akumidzi ku India saona zambiri za zimenezi.
"Komabe maubwenzi akuyamba kuyenda mosiyanasiyana m'matauni. Amayi akulemekezedwa ndikuyamikiridwa, ndipo kuthokoza kwawo ndi mchitidwe omwe amatsatira komanso amayamikira," akutero Dr. Bhimani. Kuthokoza nthawi ndi nthawi ndi mawonekedwe osavuta koma ndikofunikira kwambiri paubwenzi. Chimodzi mwa zolinga zosakhalitsa za chithandizo cha maanja chingakhale kuphunzira kuthokoza ndi kuyamikira zoyesayesa za wina ndi mzake.
11. Zitsanzo za zolinga za uphungu wa m'banja - Kubwezeretsanso ubwenzi
Uphungu wa maanja ndi wosakwanira popanda kuthetsa chibwenzi. Zowuma zimatha kukhala zokhumudwitsa, kaya ndi zachikondi kapena zogonana. Maubwenzi ogonana ndi ofunika makamaka kwa achinyamata ndi azaka zapakati.
Dr. Bhimani akufotokoza kuti, "Amuna nthawi zambiri amaganizira kwambiri za ubale wawo ndipo akazi amaganizira kwambiri za malingaliro awo. Koma payenera kukhala kusinthana koyenera pakati pa awiriwa chifukwa onse ndi ofunika mofanana. Ndicho chinsinsi chopezera mgwirizano wabwino pa kugonana ndikukhala ndi moyo wabwino paukwati."
Akatswiri a zamaganizo ayenera kutsogolera maanja kuti azichita zinthu zina za "nthawi" osati "nthawi yanga". Chinthu chinanso chofunika kwambiri chomwe chimagogomezedwa panthawi ya chithandizo cha maanja ndi kulankhulana mogonana. "Kuyankhulana kwakukulu kumafunika chifukwa maanja ambiri salankhulana panthawi yogonana komanso amapewa kuoneratu. Kuseweretsa masewero ndi pambuyo pa masewera kuyeneranso kukhalapo," Dr. Bhimani akuwonjezera.
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12. Kugwira ntchito pa ubwenzi
Mukayamba kulandira chithandizo kwa maanja, dziwani kuti ichi ndi chimodzi mwazinthu zofunika kwambiri zomwe mungaphunzire kuchita. “Kale, ubwenzi sunali chinthu chofunika kwambiri m’maukwati, koma masiku ano, n’kofunika kwambiri kuti banja likhale laphindu.” Ukwati tsopano uli woposa kungogaŵana maudindo ndi kusinthana maganizo.
Kukhala ndi moyo wothandizana, nthawi zina, kumafunika kukhala ndi mtima wokonda kusewera komanso waubwenzi mosasamala kanthu kuti inu ndi mnzanuyo muli ndi zaka zingati. Kusangalatsa pang'ono kapena kunyoza sikungabweretse vuto pa ubale uliwonse m'moyo wanu. Bwanji osayeserera ndi munthu amene mumamukonda yemwenso ndi mnzanu wapamtima?
13. Momwe mungapepese ndikukhululukira mnzanu
Mikangano ndi mikangano yaubwenzi nthawi zonse zimakhalapo pakati pa awiriwa. Monga anthu, n'zachibadwa kusagwirizana ndi kutetezana. Koma chomwe chimawonjezera phindu pa zomwe zachitikazi ndi momwe awiriwa amaphunzirira kuthana ndi kusiyana kumeneku kuti abwerere ku malo ogwirizana muubwenzi wawo.
Kukwatira ndi kuvomereza wina m'moyo wanu kumafuna kuti mulandire kusiyana kwanu konse ndi zovuta zanu. Malinga ndi mmene zinthu zilili, kaya ndi nthawi yanu yogwada kapena kugwada, muyenera kuchita zimenezi mwachikondi komanso mosamala kwambiri. Ichi ndi chimodzi mwa zitsanzo zabwino za uphungu waukwati.
“Mukapanda kukhululuka paubwenzi wanu ndiye kuti simukuvomerezana ndi munthu wina, muyeneranso kukhala okonzeka kusintha nokha ndi kukonza zinthu zikalakwika, n’chifukwa chake n’kofunika kudziwa mmene mungapepesere mnzanuyo,” akufotokoza motero Dr. Bhimani.
14. Kumvetsetsa umunthu wosiyana ndi kachitidwe kawo kachitidwe
Aliyense wa ife wakula mosiyana ndipo anali ndi zochitika payekha. Kusiyana kwathu ndi zomwe zimatipangitsa kukhala okopa kwa anthu ena. Koma nthawi zambiri, kukhala wapadera kwambiri kapena kusiyana kwakukulu kumatha kusokoneza moyo watsiku ndi tsiku. Kumvetsetsa kusiyana kudzakhala chimodzi mwazolinga zathu zazikulu zauphungu waukwati.
“Kukhala ndi umunthu wosiyana n’kwachibadwa. Koma kukulitsa kumvetsetsana n’kofunika kwambiri.” N’chifukwa chiyani tiyenera ngakhale kuyesa kupangitsa munthu wina kukhala wofanana ndendende ndi ife?
15. Kupanga dongosolo logawana zinthu zofunika pa moyo ndi cholinga cha chithandizo cha maanja
Dokotala Bhimani akutiuza kuti, “Ukwati uliwonse uli ndi ‘khalidwe lake la ukwati’. Dongosolo la makhalidwe abwino ndi chinthu chomwe chimakhala chofunikira kwambiri kwa munthu payekha komanso chimasintha nthawi zonse. Khalidwe la ukwati uliwonse ndi losiyana. Okwatirana ena ali ndi maukwati otseguka pomwe ena amalimbikira kwambiri pa malingaliro monga kukhulupirika.”
Malingana ngati maanja akhala akukambitsirana bwino za mtundu wa makhalidwe omwe amayembekeza kuti ukwati wawo ukhale nawo, zinthu ziyenera kukhala bwino. Thandizo la m’banja lingathandize okwatirana kudziulula khalidwe limenelo.
Choncho, tingavomereze kuti mfundo zimene zili pamwambazi zingakhale ngati ndandanda yopenda zinthu zofunika kwambiri m’banja lanu. Ngakhale banja lirilonse liri ndi umunthu wake, ulendo ndi masautso, pali njira zingapo zodziwika bwino zomwe mungapangire kuti zochitikazo zikhale zokhutiritsa kuti mugawane ndi bwenzi lanu.
Ngati mukuyamba kumene chithandizo cha maanja kapena mwakhala mukuganizapo za izi, tikukhulupirira kuti tsopano mwadziwa bwino zomwe mungayembekezere. Komabe, zabwino zonse paulendo wanu womwe ukubwera. Ngati simunapeze mlangizi, titha kuthetsa vutoli pano. Bonobology ili ndi gulu la akatswiri odziwa bwino ntchito omwe ali pafupi kuti athetse mavuto anu onse a m'banja.
Ibibazo
Zolinga zina zabwino zaukwati ndi kukulitsa luso lotha kuthetsa mavuto ndi kuthetsa mikangano, kudzudzula kolimbikitsa ndi kupewa mawu opweteka, kukonza ubwenzi ndi ubwenzi, kunena kuti “zikomo” ndi “pepani” kaŵirikaŵiri. Komanso, kumvetsetsa nkhani zimene zingayambitse ubwana n’kofunikanso.
Chinsinsi cha ukwati wabwino ndi kumanga kukhulupirirana ndi kumvetsetsana, kugawana maudindo ndi kuthandizana. Njira zolankhulirana ziyenera kukhala zotseguka nthawi zonse ndipo payenera kukhala ubale wamaganizo ndi wakuthupi.
Muyenera kufunsa mlangizi wanu waukwati momwe mungathetsere mavuto m'banja lanu ndikulilimbitsa. Funsani mlangizi wanu kuti akupatseni malangizo ndi zolinga zaukwati zomwe mungathe kukwaniritsa gawo limodzi panthawi.
Bungwe la American Association Of Marriage And Family Therapy (AAMFT) limanena patsamba lake kuti chithandizo cha ukwati ndi banja ndi chothandiza kwambiri, ndipo nthawi zina chimakhala chothandiza kwambiri kuposa chithandizo chachizolowezi ndi/kapena cha munthu aliyense payekha. AAMFT ikubwerezanso kuti 98% ya makasitomala a akatswiri ochizira mabanja ndi mabanja amanena kuti chithandizo chamankhwala ndi chabwino kapena chabwino kwambiri.
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