Ochepa kuposa okonda, kuposa abwenzi

Papita zaka zoposa zitatu ndi theka chiyambire pamene ndinasiyana.

Kuchoka paubwenzi umene unatha zaka zoposa zinayi, kuchokera kwa munthu amene munawona lonjezo la 'kwanthawizonse', kumuwona akutuluka muubwenzi popanda kupereka kutseka, ndizopweteka kunena pang'ono.

Kuyesera kufotokoza malingaliro osiyanasiyana omwe ndinamva m'mawu ndi ntchito yopanda phindu. Zinali zopweteka kwambiri poyamba, koma monga mwambi umati, nthawi imachiritsa. Pokhala pachiwopsezo chomveka ngati filimu, ndimatha kunena kuti nthawi yomwe ndimakhala naye, yosangalala komanso yamdima, nthawi zambiri imabwera m'maganizo mwanga. Ndinkafuna kumva kutentha kwake, kukoma kwa kukhudza kwake, kunyowa kwa kupsompsona kwake. Koma koposa zonse, ndimafuna kukhala wofanana ndi ine pamene ndinali naye - wokondwa, wodekha komanso wolimbikitsa.

Kalanga! Tsopano wapita, wapita kwanthawizonse ndipo wapita kuyambira tsiku loyipa lija.

Panthawi imeneyi, ndinakumana ndi akazi atsopano, ndinadziwana ndi ena a iwo ndipo ndinakhala ndi maubwenzi akuthupi ndi ena. Koma ndinazindikira kuti pali chinthu chimodzi chokha chomwe ndimamva - chopanda pake. Sindinasangalale nawo, koma ndinkalakalaka chitonthozo chonse. Sindinafune kupanga nawo chikondi, koma ndinagonana. Ndikayang’ana m’mbuyo, ndimaona kuti angapo a iwo ananong’oneza bondo chifukwa anazindikira kuti ndachita dzanzi.

Ndinadzikankhira kutali chifukwa sanali oyenera kukhala munthu wachisoni amene ndinakhala. Palibe m'modzi wa iwo amene akananditsitsimutsa kuti ndibwerere ku moyo wabwinobwino ndipo sindingathe kuwaimba mlandu. Ndinavulala kwambiri.

Madzulo ena, ndikuyenda molunjika ku galimoto yanga kukonzekera ulendo wa maola khumi kupita kumapiri ndi ulendo wamasiku anayi kuchokera kuntchito, ndinalandira foni kuchokera kwa iye. Tinkakumana kangapo pamaphwando ndipo tinagwirizana bwino. Atandifunsa ngati ndingamutenge ku ntchito, sindinkayembekezera kuti ndidzamuona akudikirira ndi chikwama, okonzeka kuyenda nane. Ndidamuuza za ulendowu dzulo lokha, ndipo zonse zomwe ananena zinali "Hmm ... sangalalani!"

Kuwerenga kofanana: Pambuyo pa usiku umodzi wokha, adasowa chikondi

Pamene tinkapita ku Murthal kuti tikadye chakudya chamadzulo, ndinaona munthu wina amene ndinalankhula naye pamapwando. Nthawi zambiri anthu amakhala omasuka kundilankhula chifukwa ndimamvetsera, koma mmene anamasukira zinali zosiyana ndi munthu wina aliyense. Anadzilola kukhala pachiwopsezo, ndipo panalibe chizindikiro cha chigoba. Kwa nthawi yoyamba nditasiyana, ndinaona kuti ndingathenso kuchotsa nkhope yanga. Ndinayenda usiku wonse ndikumvetsera mawu ake otonthoza, ndikuphunzira za kusatetezeka kwake kwakukulu komanso maloto ake ovuta kwambiri. Ndidawona maso ake akunyezimira pomwe kuwala kochokera kumagetsi akumsewu kudagwera m'maso mwake akugwetsa misozi, ndikuwona mphepo yozizira ikusisita tsitsi lake pang'onopang'ono akagwetsa mazenera pansi ngakhale kunali kuzizira.

M’masiku anayi otsatira, ndinamuuzanso zakukhosi monga mmene sindinachitirepo ndi munthu wina aliyense. Ndinalira kwa maola angapo, ndikumukumbatira. Tinkagona limodzi, kukumbatirana, ndipo nthaŵi zambiri tinali kulira pakati pausiku. Tinamwa, kusuta ndudu zochepa, kuphika limodzi, ndipo sitinachoke m’nyumba mwathu ngakhale kamodzi.

Usiku wachitatu, tinakhala ndi thupi. Sitinali apamwamba, ndipo timadziwa zomwe tinali kuchita. Tidadziwa kuti sitinali m'chikondi, koma tidadziwanso kuti sitinamve zomwe tidamva panthawiyo kwa nthawi yayitali. Tidapangana chikondi ngati timakondana. Zinali zamphamvu, zokonda komanso zokhutiritsa mwapadera. Tinadziŵa kuti tinayenera kuchoka m’mapiri ndi kubwerera ku nkhalango ya konkire, ku chizoloŵezi cha tsiku lotsatira madzulo. M'mawa wachinayi unali umodzi mwa abwino kwambiri.

Tinakhala chete tikumwa tiyi wobiriwira, ndi mawonekedwe owoneka bwino m'maso mwathu, ndi usiku wokhudzika m'mitima mwathu. Kukhala chete sikunali kudziimba mlandu kapena manyazi, koma kukhutitsidwa. Umenewo unali m'mawa wosowa kumene mumazindikira kukhalapo kwa ubale wabwino ndi munthu wina, kubadwa kwa mgwirizano wotsatira.

Masiku ano, iye ndi gawo lofunika kwambiri pa moyo wanga ndipo akunena kuti inenso ndili m'moyo wake. Sitinadzipereke, sitili m'chikondi, koma timakonda kupanga chikondi nthawi ndi nthawi.

Timapita pamasiku ndi anthu ena, ndikukambirana za kuthekera kwa maubwenzi ndi iwo. Zomwe ife sitiri tsopano, ndi zosungulumwa komanso zopanda kanthu. Ndife oposa mabwenzi apamtima wina ndi mzake, koma ochepera kuposa okonda.

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