Kodi Benchi Dating ndi chiyani? Zizindikiro Ndi Njira Zopewera Izi

Kodi munakhalapo ndi vuto pongodziwa kuti mwangosankha chabe? Eya, munthu ameneyu anakusungani m’mabwinja koma kuswa mtima wanu m’zidutswa. Tikamaganizira za kusokoneza maganizo, timaganizira za benchi. Kukhala pachibwenzi kumakhala koyipa kwambiri kuposa kuzunzika kwathunthu chifukwa mumayesa kudziwa komwe kukupita nthawi yonseyi. Tonse takhala ndi gawo lathu labwino ngati a Mr Big in Sex ndi City, omwe amakufunani koma osafuna kudzipereka.

Kwa ma benchers awa, mwangosankha, munthu yemwe angabwere pomwe zosankha zina sizikuyenda.

Kodi Chibwenzi cha Bench N'chiyani?

Kudziwa kuika munthu pa benchi kutanthauza, taganizirani masewera a timu iliyonse. Osewera abwino amatumizidwa pabwalo pomwe osewera omwe siabwino amakhalabe benchi. Ngati osewera abwino atuluka kapena kuvulala, osewera omwe ali pa benchi amapeza mwayi wosewera. Izi ndizomwe zimachitika pa benchi, pokhapokha ndi zowonjezera zowonjezera ku Chinsinsi monga ziyembekezo zabodza, palibe kudzipereka, kusweka mtima, komanso kusaiwala, kudzimva ngati wopusa. Iwe ukanakhoza kukhala wozunzidwa mzukwa, kuwotcha mkate, nsomba pachibwenzi koma kukhala pachibwenzi ndi masewera atsopano omwe ali ndi zonse zomwe zimakupangitsani kukhala osatetezeka, osokonekera mukamazindikira zomwe zakuchitirani.

Kotero, kodi kukhala benchi kumatanthauza chiyani? Benchi pachibwenzi ndi pamene inu strung mozungulira kwa nthawi yaitali popanda malonjezo odzipereka.

Muli paubwenzi wa limbo komwe amakuwonetsani kuti ali ndi chidwi, zokwanira kuti musamavutike, monga ena ambiri. Akayamba kusowa zosankha amasankha ngati akufuna kupita patsogolo ndi inu kapena ayi. Kukhala pachibwenzi kuli ngati kufooketsa mkate, amaponya chidwi pang'ono panjira yanu ndikukupatsani chiyembekezo chamtsogolo. Pamapeto pake, mumazindikira kuti ndinu ake kubwerera.

Kwa Joanne, 27, pa intaneti chinali chinthu chatsopano. Kumeneko ndi kumene anakumana ndi Alex yemwe ankagwira ntchito yaganyu. Joanne anali wodabwitsa tsiku loyamba ndipo anadikira Alex kuti achitepo kanthu. Patatha sabata Alex adamutumizira mameseji kupepesa kuti pabanja pachitika ngozi. Joanne anapitiriza kulankhula naye ndipo ankadikira kuti Alex ayankhe mameseji ake, koma nthawi iliyonse anali ndi chifukwa china chokonzekera kusapezeka.

Amafuna kuti asiyane naye koma Alex anali ndi njira yolankhula ndipo nthawi iliyonse akamalankhula naye amamupangitsa kumva kuti ndi wapadera. Nthawi zonse Joanne akafuna kukumana naye, anali wotanganidwa. Amamuwona pa intaneti koma si iye yemwe Alex amalembera mameseji. Nthawi zonse akamalankhula, iye sankalankhula za iye mwini. Joanne ankaganiza kuti zonsezi zinali mbali ya iye kusewera molimbika kuti apeze ndikusunga kukayikira. Nthawi zina, Alex ankamulembera mameseji usiku kwambiri ndipo nkhani zinkafika poipa kutumizirana zithunzi. Ubwenzi uwu ndi Alex unapitirira kwa miyezi inayi. Mwadzidzidzi adapita MIA ndipo sanathe kudziwa chifukwa chake, mpaka adakumana naye ku café komwe adakhalako ndi chibwenzi chawo choyamba. Joanne anamva kunyenga ndipo anakambilana naye, anangodziwa kuti mtsikanayo sanali chibwenzi chake koma bwenzi lake kwa miyezi iwiri yapitayi. Apa m'pamene Joanne anazindikira kuti anali kuikidwa pa benchi kuyambira pachiyambi.

Zizindikiro 8 za Chibwenzi cha Bench Muyenera Kudziwa

Tangoganizani mukuyang'ana chibwenzi chachikulu kuti mudziwe kuti ndinu osunga zobwezeretsera. Anthu amakonda kuchita zibwenzi chifukwa amafuna kuti zinthu ziziwayendera bwino. Kulandira chidwi kuchokera kwa anthu ambiri ndikusankha kapena kuwakana kumawoneka ngati mwayi kwa mabenchi awa. Anthu otere amatsatira lamulo limodzi- chisamaliro chochepa, osadzipereka komanso chiyembekezo chachikulu.

Mukakhala benchi, posakhalitsa mungamve ngati muli mu maubale oopsa. Izi ndizokwanira kuti azikusungani nthawi yayitali. Izi kugwirizana kukankha-koka zingakupangitseni kumva ngati simuyenera kuchoka potsatira ubale woyipawu. Nazi zizindikiro 8 zosonyeza kuti mwayikidwa pa benchi.

1. Zomwe mumapeza ndi malonjezo

Ndi kangati omwe adakupatsirani zifukwa zosakupatsani nthawi? kuletsa tsiku kapena kutumizirana mameseji? Nthawi zina zimakhala zantchito kapena vuto la m'banja kapena bwenzi lomwe likusowa. Ndipo nthawi zonse pamakhala chowiringula cha, 'Ndinadwala pang'ono' chomwe chingakupangitseni kumva kuti ndinu olakwa powakwiyira.

Iwo akulonjeza kupita kunja pa tsiku ndi inu kapena kukuitanani koma pafupifupi konse zimachitika. Mumapeza ziyembekezo zanu ndikuyamba kulingalira zinthu m'mutu mwanu, koma mukhumudwitsidwa. Mumadikirira kuti akwaniritse malonjezo awo koma ndi kangati pamene iwo alidi oona mtima kwa inu? 

2. Palibe amene akudziwa za inu

Mwina munauzapo mnzanu wapamtima za munthu watsopano amene mukuonayu. Koma ndi angati mwa anzake omwe amadziwa za inu? Zimakhala ngati sakudziwa kuti mulipo. Ngati mwawona kuti mnzanuyo samakuitanani kunja ndi abwenzi ake kapena amakuuzani kwa iwo, ndiye kuti mukukweza. 

Kodi anakuuzanipo za anzawo ndi kukupatsani kuti mukakumane nawo? Kodi iwo anayamba aperekapo lingaliro malingaliro amasiku awiri? Ngati abwenzi awo sakudziwa kuti mulipo, ndi chifukwa chakuti sakufuna kuti mudziwe zambiri za moyo wawo. Mwachiwonekere samakutengerani mozama mokwanira kuti mugwirizane ndi kampani yawo. Inde, mukuyikidwa pa benchi.

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3. Simungayembekeze kalikonse kwa iwo

Simungathe kukhala ndi chiyembekezo kuchokera kwa munthu amene wakupatsani benchi. Mumakweza ziyembekezo zanu ndipo zasweka ndi munthu uyu. Choyipa kwambiri ndichakuti simungakhale okwiya nazo. Anthu awa akhala mumasewera kwa nthawi yayitali ndipo amadziwa momwe angathanirane ndi munthu yemwe amapeza chiyembekezo.

Aphunzira njira zanu ndipo akudziwa zomwe mukuyembekezera kwa iwo. Amadziwa zomwe anganene kuti akusangalatseni kuti adziwike momveka bwino. Nthawi yomwe mwawakwiyira, adzakutengerani paulendo wolakwa ndipo adzatha kukhala ndi njira yawoyawo. Izi zitha kubweretsa zina mikangano ya ubale. 

4. Sapezeka kwa inu

Mumangowaimbira foni kapena kuwatumizira mameseji, ndipo alibe nthawi yoti ayankhe. Mumada nkhawa nazo ndikuyamba kutero kutengeka nazo izo. Ndi pambuyo pa maola ambiri kapena mwina masiku pamene iwo potsiriza akuyankhani kwa inu. Nthawi zina amawerenganso mauthenga anu ndikuiwala kuyankha.

Tikhulupirireni, palibe amene amaiwala kuyankha munthu amene amamukonda. Anthu nthawi zonse amapeza ndikupangira nthawi kwa omwe amawakonda. Ndi chifukwa chakuti akukumana kale ndi gulu la anthu nthawi imodzi ndipo akanatha kunyalanyaza uthenga wanu chifukwa anali otanganidwa ndi munthu wina.

5. Ali pa intaneti koma osalankhula nanu

Mudzawawona pa intaneti kwa maola ambiri koma si inu amene akutumizirani mameseji. Chifukwa cha chidwi, mutha kuwatumizira mauthenga koma sakufuna kuyankha. Mukamaliza ngakhale kutumizirana mameseji kawiri kuti muwone ngati akuyankha koma simukubwereranso. Ndi chizindikiro chodziwikiratu cha benchi pachibwenzi chifukwa ali otanganidwa kutumiza mameseji ena. 

Pamene mukuyankhula za malonda apakati, izi zimachitika kawirikawiri kwambiri. Mwina akakhala otopa ndipo pamapeto pake amaliza kutumizirana mameseji ndi ena, adzakumbutsidwa kuti ayankhe kwa inu. Osakondwera, chifukwa ichi ndi chizindikiro choyika munthu pa benchi. 

6. Mukuganiza kuti akusewera kwambiri kuti apeze

Mwadzidzidzi mudzawapeza akukupatsani chidwi chonse ndipo mwadzidzidzi adzachita zonse mozizira komanso kutali. Mudzamva kuti akutero chifukwa ali kusewera molimbika kuti mupeze. M'malo mwake, amatha kukhala omangidwa ndi chidwi ndi wina. Anthu amasewera molimbika kuti apeze m'masiku oyamba a chibwenzi, osati nthawi zonse.

Ngati mupeza kuti zosokoneza zotere zikuchitika pafupipafupi, muyenera kuda nkhawa. Kusakhazikika kotereku ndi chizindikiro chofiyira ndipo sikudzatha kwa inu. 

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7. Ndizodabwitsa kwambiri

Mutha kudziwa zina za iwo koma khalani pansi ndikusinkhasinkha izi. Kodi mumawadziwa bwino? Ngati nthawi zambiri zimawoneka kuti nkhani zawo zambiri sizikuphatikiza kapena nthawi zambiri amabweretsa zinthu zomwe sanatchulepo kwa inu, pali chinsinsi choyipa muubwenzi wanu. 

Ngati muyamba kuzindikira kuti simukudziwa kalikonse za moyo wawo, izi zitha kukhala chizindikiro chakuti akukupangani chibwenzi. Mutha kuyesanso kutero kumudziwa bwino koma iye sakupanga kuyesayesa kotero kwa inu. Mwina, mwachita chidwi kwambiri ndi mtundu wawo wapaintaneti kotero kuti simunathe kuwona zenizeni zawo. Poyamba, chikhalidwe chodabwitsa choterocho chikhoza kukhala chokongola komanso chokongola, koma pambuyo pake, chidzangosankha ubongo wanu. 

Anthu ena amagwiritsa ntchito chinsinsi ichi kuti akusungeni kuti musamafunse mafunso ambiri.

8. Dziyeseni nokha

Ngati mukuganiza kuti mwayikidwa pa benchi, ndi nthawi yotsimikiza. Atumizireni mauthenga kuti mukufuna kucheza mawa kapena sabata ino. Ngati anganene kuti, “Inde, tiyeni tikumane.” Ndinu otetezeka. Koma ngati munthuyo anena kuti, “Sindinganene motsimikiza. Iye sali ndithu kucheza nanu kokha.

Ngati mukuwona zizindikiro zosonyeza kuti wina wakhala akukupangani chibwenzi, ndi nthawi yoti muchenjeze malingaliro anu ndikuwunika momwe zinthu zilili kuposa kale. Simukufuna kutsogoleredwera njira yakusweka mtima kotero muyenera kukhala osamala musanachitike. 

Njira Zopewera Kukhala pa Benched

Ngati ndinu munthu amene wagwa mumsampha wa benchi pachibwenzi, muyenera kukhala diso kunja kwa mbendera zofiira. Kugwa mumsampha wa benchi pachibwenzi n'zosavuta chifukwa simungathe nthawi zonse kuweruza buku pachikuto chake. Zomwe mungachite ndikuyang'ana zizindikiro ndikutembenuka nthawi ikakwana. Nazi njira zina zopewera kukhala mabenchi.

1. Samalani ndi zizindikiro zochenjeza

Tsatirani mphamvu yanu yachisanu ndi chimodzi ikakuuzani kuti muthamangire njira ina. Chidziwitso chanu nthawi zonse chimakhala champhamvu kuposa momwe mukuganizira. Nthawi yomwe mukumva kuti munthu sali wowona mtima ndi inu, tulukani m'malo amenewo. Ngati mutamvera kumverera kwanu m'matumbo, mungadziwe pamene a munthu samakukondani. Ingomvetserani ndikukhala tcheru ndi khalidwe lake ndi momwe amayankhira kwa inu. 

2. Osawonetsa chidwi kwambiri pa chiyambi

Anthu bench omwe angakhale zosavuta zosunga zobwezeretsera kwa iwo. Ngati mumasonyeza kuti mumawakonda, amaona kuti mukuwatsatira ngakhale atakhala kuti sakusamalani. Kutumizirana mameseji posachedwa kwambiri si chimodzi mwazo malamulo otumizirana mameseji mukakhala pachibwenzi. Ngati mumadzipanga kukhala wopezeka nthawi zonse, amakuonani mopepuka.

3. Tengani ulamuliro

Osapatsa benchi yanu ulamuliro. Nthawi zonse imirirani nokha ndi kuwawonetsa kuti sindinu munthu amene angapusitsidwe mosavuta.

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4. Dziwani kuti ndinu wofunika

Osakhazikika pa chilichonse chomwe simukuyenera. Dziwani kuti muyenera kuyang'aniridwa ndipo mukuyenera kukhala ndi ubale / chibwenzi. Ngati iye ali kubisa ubwenzi wanu kwa anzake, chinachake sichili bwino. pa kudzidalira kwanu ndikuganizira zomwe mukufunadi pamoyo wanu. Osathamangitsa munthu wosayenera zinthu zomwe mukufuna pamoyo wanu. 

5. Akhale pa benchi pobwezera

Ngati mukumva kuti wina ali pachibwenzi ndi inu, mutembenuzire masewerawo pa iwo. Agonjetseni pamasewera omwewo omwe akuganiza kuti ndi abwino kwambiri. Apatseni kulawa mankhwala awo. Chitani zomwezo zomwe akuchitirani ndi kuseka komaliza. Izi ndithu mpangitseni kukusowani. 

Masiku ano, kuyika benchi munthu pa disco, pa intaneti komanso kudzera m'malemba kwakhala chinthu wamba. Anthu ena amapeza kuti aikidwa pa benchi pamapeto podziwa kuti munthuyo wapita ndi munthu wina. Pomwe ena, amakhala ndi lingaliro losamveka ndipo amapitilirabe nalo chifukwa alibe njira ina iliyonse panthawiyo. Dziwani kudzidalira kwanu ndikubwereranso mumasewera a chibwenzi. Nthawi zonse simudzapeza ma benchers akudikirira ma backups abwino. Simudziwa, lotsatira likhoza kukhala loona.

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