Chibwenzi Chokhachokha: Tanthauzo, Kukonzeka, Ndi Malamulo

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Kusinthidwa: February 28, 2024
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Zolemba zatsopano za Gen-Z ndizovuta koma maubale awo nawonso ndi ovuta kwambiri kuposa mibadwo yam'mbuyo. M'nthawi ino ya kusinthasintha kwa ubale wamadzimadzi, ndikosavuta kusokonezeka tikamva mawu monga zibwenzi zachisangalalo, zibwenzi zongodzipereka, komanso ubale wodzipereka, makamaka popeza anthu osiyanasiyana amatha kutanthauzira ndi kutanthauzira mawuwa mosiyana. Ndipo tikhulupirireni tikakuuzani kuti pali kusiyana pakati pa chibwenzi ndi kukhala pachibwenzi. Ndipo ngakhale zibwenzi ndi kudzipatula sizili zofanana.

Nkhani siili ndi zilembo pa se imodzi koma ndi kusowa kwa kulumikizana momasuka pakati pa zibwenzi zomwe nthawi zambiri zimabweretsa kukhumudwa. Kusokonezekaku kungayambitse mafunso osiyanasiyana akuti: Kodi chibwenzi chokhacho n'chiyani? Kodi kukhala pachibwenzi kokha ndi kukhala odzipereka kumagwirizana kwambiri? Kodi mungakhale paubwenzi wamba wamba? Kodi malamulo okhudzana ndi chibwenzi chokhacho ndi ati? Kodi ndi kubera ngati simuli pachibwenzi? Tabwera kuti tikuyankheni mafunso onsewa ndi zina zambiri kuti mutha kuyang'ana pachibwenzi chokhacho ngati katswiri.

Kodi Tanthauzo Lotani la Chibwenzi Chokhachokha?

Kodi chibwenzi chapadera n’chiyani? Kodi tanthauzo lake ndi lotani muubwenzi? Chabwino, umu ndi momwe timatanthauzira chibwenzi chapadera: ndi pamene musiya chibwenzi ndi anthu ena, kukhala pachibwenzi ndi munthu mmodzi yekha. Ndi pamene mwakhala pachibwenzi kwa kanthawi ndipo mukumva kugwirizana kwakukulu kwa maganizo komwe mumaganiza kuti mumakhala nawo nokha. Mwachidule, ndi pamene anthu omwe akukhudzidwawo amasiya kuyang’ana ena ndikuyamba kuonana ndi munthu wina yekha.

Koma nazi mfundo zosangalatsa zokhudza chibwenzi chokhacho:

  • Tanthauzo la chibwenzi chokha, pamene anthu awiri amakayikirabe za kudzipereka, koma sangafune kuphonya chibwenzi.
  • Kukhala pachibwenzi kokha sikutanthauza kuti anthu awiri ali pachibwenzi. Uku ndiye kusiyana kofunikira pakati pa chibwenzi ndi chibwenzi
  • Ubwenzi wokhawokha umatanthauza kusachita chibwenzi ndi wina aliyense, ndipo uli ngati kuyesa osati kudzipereka kwathunthu. Koma ndizovuta kwambiri kuposa kugonana mwachisawawa/kugwetsa ndipo ukhoza kukhala poyambira kudzipereka kwamtsogolo
  • Anthu awiri omwe akuwonana amangoyang'ananabe, chifukwa amatha kuyang'anabe zolakwika zomwe zingakhale zosokoneza.
  • Sikuti aliyense amene ali pachibwenzi ndi amene sapezeka pamsika. Mugawo lachibwenzi lokhalokha, mutha kukhalabe ndi anthu osunga zobwezeretsera kapena okonda kuyimilira omwe angayitanidwe patsogolo ngati equation yanu sikhala ubale wathunthu.

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Kodi mumafika bwanji pachibwenzi koma osati pachibwenzi?

Ndiye mumafika bwanji pagawo lodzipatula? Kodi mumangodzuka tsiku lina ndikusankha kuti nonse ndinu odzipatula koma osati ovomerezeka? Kapena kodi malamulo a zibwenzi amaphatikizapo kukambirana mwatsatanetsatane ndi kukhazikitsa malamulo oyambira? Kodi kusiyana kotani pakati pa chibwenzi ndi chibwenzi? Kodi nthawi zonse kumabweretsa ubale wautali?

Chabwino, chowonadi, chochitika chachiwiri ndichabwino kwa onse okhudzidwa. Kukambitsirana kutha kuchotsa kusamveka bwino ndipo sikumakusiyani mukudabwa kuti, “Ndife chiyani?”, ngakhale mutakhala pachibwenzi koma mulibe chibwenzi.

Ndipo palinso mafunso ena, mu chisokonezo ichi cha chibwenzi chokha ndi ubale. Kodi chibwenzi chakuthupi chimachitika musanayambe kapena mutasankha kuti mudzakhala pachibwenzi chokha? Kapena muyenera kudikira mpaka mutakhala pachibwenzi chodzipereka? Kodi chachibadwa n'chiyani? Ngakhale mafunso onsewa mwina akukuvutitsani, yankho lake ndi losavuta: kulankhulana moona mtima komanso momasuka.

Kukhala pachibwenzi chokha koma osati pachibwenzi
Mutha kukhala pachibwenzi kokha koma osakhala pachibwenzi

Adam, wazaka 24, wopanga mapulogalamu omwe adakhalako ndi Stacey masiku angapo adafotokoza nkhani yake yolimbana ndi chibwenzi chokhacho ndi chibwenzi, "Zinali zofulumira kwambiri kuti ndifunse kudzipereka kapena kusamukira limodzi popeza sindimadziwa kuti ndimafuna. Sindinathe kuchepetsa, ndinapeza kulimba mtima komwe ndikanatha ndipo ndinakambirana ndi Stacey za chibwenzi chokha.

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Zibwenzi zapanthawi zonse vs zibwenzi zokhazokha

Ndiye, kodi mungakhale pachibwenzi koma osadzipatula? Mungathe, popeza chibwenzi ndi kudzipereka sikufanananso. Zikadakhala kuti mukusokonezedwabe pazochitika za chibwenzi chongopeka ndi chibwenzi chokhacho, tiyeni tiziwuzira kamphepo mwachangu tisanapite patsogolo.

Umu ndi momwe kuchita chibwenzi mwachisawawa kumakhudzira:

  • Ndi mgwirizano wopanda zingwe, wopanda kudzipereka pakati pa anthu awiri
  • Anthu amene ali pachibwenzi mwachisawawa angakonde kukhala ndi nthawi yocheza koma safuna pangano
  • Pakhoza kukhala kapena kusachita zogonana (ngakhale nthawi zambiri zimakhala)
  • Atha kukhala mu gawo la 'zibwenzi koma osati zokhazokha'. Nthawi zambiri si chibwenzi cha mkazi mmodzi

Kusiyana kwakukulu pakati pa zibwenzi zapanthawi zonse ndi zibwenzi zokhazokha ndikosowa chiyembekezo cha kudzipereka mtsogolo. Tikamalankhula za kukhala pachibwenzi, timakhala tikuwona wina ngati mnzathu wamtsogolo kapena bwenzi lathu. Kukhala ndi chibwenzi chokhachokha ndi maziko a ubale wotero. Koma palinso ubale wamba wamba, pomwe simukuwonanso anthu ena koma mwasunga zinthu mwachisawawa muubwenzi wanu, popanda kukambirana zamtsogolo kapena ubale wautali.

Kodi Chibwenzi Chokhachokha chimasiyana bwanji ndi Chibwenzi?

Ndiye, mungadziwe bwanji kuti mukucheza ndi munthu payekha? Kodi izi zikutanthauza chiyani paubwenzi? Ngakhale zikumveka ngati zofanana, chibwenzi chapadera n'chosiyana kwambiri ndi chibwenzi , ngakhale kuti chingakhale njira yopitira ku kudzipereka mtsogolo. Chifukwa chake, ndikofunikira kumvetsetsa zomwe mukuchita musanachite zinthu zina. Chibwenzi chapadera chimatanthauza chibwenzi ndi munthu m'modzi popanda kudzipereka kwenikweni, chili ndi malamulo ake. Ngati mukudabwa kusiyana pakati pa chibwenzi ndi kukhala pachibwenzi, nazi zina zomwe talemba:

Kukhala pachibwenzi Kwapaderaubwenzi
Simunakonzekerebe kudzipereka, koma mukufika pamenepoMuli m'chikondi ndipo palibe nkhani yodzipereka
Zokambirana sizinafikebe m'gawo lakuya, lovuta. Mukufuna kusangalala ndi panopa popanda kudandaula za tsogolo lanu pamodzi Mumakhala ndi zokambirana zambiri zapakati pausiku zokhudzana ndi malingaliro anu, malingaliro anu, ndi tsogolo lanu
Chiyembekezo chochepa cholepheretsa kupweteka kwa mtima m'tsogolomu ndi ena mwa malamulo a chibwenzi chokhaMumalowa monse ndipo mukuyembekezera kukumana ndi banja, kusamukira pamodzi, ndi zina zambiri
Mukhoza kapena simungapange chiyanjano kukhala chovomerezeka kapena kuuza anthu ena omwe muli pachibwenzi. Izi zitha kupangitsa kuti kusatetezeka kulowe mkati Ubalewu ndi wovomerezeka. Wokondedwa wanu nthawi zonse amakhala wowonjezera-wanu, popanda zikhalidwe zilizonse

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Momwe Mungadziwire Ngati Mwakonzekera Ubale Wokhawokha

Kotero, muli ndi munthu wapadera m'moyo wanu amene mumakonda kukhala naye nthawi zonse, monga momwe zinthu zilili, ndipo simungadandaule kukulitsa ubale wanu pang'ono. Kodi zimenezo zikutanthauza kuti mwakonzeka kukhala naye paubwenzi wapadera? Kodi mumadziwa bwanji kuti mwakonzekadi ndipo simukuyenda mofulumira kwambiri muubwenzi?

Zizindikiro zotsatirazi zosonyeza kuti mwakonzeka kukhala pachibwenzi chokhazikitsira zidzakuthandizani kuyandikira kumveka bwino:

  • Mwataya chidwi chofuna kucheza ndi anthu ena
  • Simunalowe ku mapulogalamu a zibwenzi kuyambira pomwe mudayamba chibwenzi ndi munthuyu
  • Kupita patsogolo kochokera kwa ena kumakhala konyansa komanso kosasangalatsa m'malo mokopa
  • Mumayembekezera mwachidwi kucheza nawo
  • Simungadikire kuti muwonetsere anzanu
  • Mumayimbirana foni ndipo mumatha kulankhula kwa maola ambiri
  • Mumadzipeza mukuganiza za iwo kangapo patsiku
  • Mwataya chidwi chosewera masewera amalingaliro kuti muwasunge
  • Kugonana kumakhala kogwirizana kwambiri, ndipo simugawananso zomwe mwachitazo ndi anzanu
  • Mumagawana nthabwala zamkati
  • Pali gawo laling'ono la moyo wanu lomwe mumagawana nawo okha

Kodi mudadutsamo pamndandandawu akuti fufuzani, fufuzani, ndikuyang'ana? Chabwino, kwa inu, ndinu okonzeka kukhala yekha ndi munthu amene muli naye pachibwenzi.

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Momwe Mungadziwire Ngati Wokondedwa Wanu Ali Wokonzeka Kukhala Wekha

Pachibwenzi chokhacho, zimatengera awiri ku tango. Sikuti aliyense amene muli pachibwenzi amafuna kuti mukhale ndi inu nokha. Funso ndilakuti, mumadziwa bwanji zomwe wokondedwa wanu akufuna? Kodi mukuganiza kuti akufuna kukhala yekha koma osati pachibwenzi? Kodi akuyang'ana ubale wamba koma wokhazikika? Kodi maganizo awo oti mukhale pachibwenzi okhaokha ndi ofanana ndi anu?

Njira yosavuta yopezera mayankho a mafunsowa ndi kukambirana ndi theka lina la equation. Ndipo izi zimakhala zosavuta kwambiri mukakhala otsimikiza kuti munthu winayo ali patsamba lomwelo ndi inu. Zimatengera kulepheretsa ndi kuopa kukanidwa kuchokera ku equation ndikukulolani kuti mukambirane moona mtima komanso momasuka ndi mnzanuyo. Kuti mumvetse kuti wokondedwa wanu ali wokonzeka kukhala yekha, mverani zizindikiro zotsatirazi:

  • Iwo amachita chidwi ndi inu ndipo amayesetsa kukudziwani bwino
  • Amakupatsirani nthawi
  • Amakhala osasinthasintha pakuyesetsa komwe amaika muzochitika zanu zamakono
  • Samasewera kutentha ndi kuzizira kapena kukusiyani mukudabwa za malo anu m'moyo wawo
  • Amakuuzani kuti safunanso kuona anthu ena
  • Mbiri zawo zibwenzi zakhala zikuyenda kwakanthawi
  • Amakonza zoti azikhala nanu komanso kuti azichita zinthu mwanzeru
  • Amayesetsa kwambiri kuti akudziweni bwino
  • Afunsapo za mbiri ya ubale wanu
  • Amafuna kudziwa ngati mukuwonabe anthu ena
  • Pali ubale wapamtima ndipo kulumikizana kwanu sikukhalanso kwachiphamaso
malangizo pachibwenzi

Malamulo 12 Oyenera Kutsatira Mukakhala pachibwenzi Mokha

Kukhala pachibwenzi chokha ndi vuto lalikulu. Mukudziwa kuti simuli pachibwenzi ndi wina aliyense, ndiye kuti pali kusintha kwina mu moyo wanu wa chibwenzi. Koma momwe mphamvu zanu ndi mnzanu zimayendera, simungamve mosiyana. Mwina ndizokhazikika koma sizovomerezeka, kapena muli paubwenzi wamba koma wokhazikika ndipo zomwe zimatha kuyambitsa mikangano yambiri.

Maganizo osiyanasiyana, kukayikira, ndi mitundu yonse ya kusakhazikika muubwenzi zimayamba kulowa, zomwe zimangowononga zomwe muli nazo. Komabe, ngati mufotokoza bwino malamulo a chibwenzi chokha ndikutsimikiza kuti muli ndi lingaliro lomwelo la zomwe mungayembekezere kuchokera pagawo ili la kupita patsogolo kwaubwenzi, zambiri mwa zosasangalatsa izi zitha kuchotsedwa, zomwe zingakuthandizeni kuyang'ana kwambiri pakukweza ubale wanu. Tsatirani malamulo 12 apadera awa kuti mupitirize:

1. Khazikitsani kaye malamulo oyambira

Ndikofunika kulankhula za zomwe mukulowa. Malamulo oyambira ayenera kukhazikitsidwa kuti nonse muli pa tsamba limodzi. Khalani omveka bwino pankhani izi:

  • Kodi chibwenzi chokhacho chimatanthauza chiyani kwa nonse?
  • Kodi mwakonzeka kukhala wodzipatula? Kodi iwo?
  • Nanga bwanji ngati akufuna kukhala pachibwenzi koma osati pachibwenzi?
  • Mukufuna wamba koma ubale wokhawokha?

Kulankhulana momasuka ndiye chinsinsi cha chibwenzi chokhazikika. Maya amene ndinkagwira naye ntchito anasimba kuti: “Ndinkachita zibwenzi zingapo ndi mnyamata ameneyu ndipo ndinamukonda kwambiri, koma ndinaganiza kuti ndingofulumira kukambirana naye chilichonse.” Komabe, sindinkafuna kukhala pachibwenzi ndi munthu wina aliyense. Ngakhale kuti sikumapeto kwa dziko, ndi mmene Maya akanatha kupewa atalankhula ndi mnyamata amene anali naye pachibwenzi.

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2. Perekani mpata okondedwa wanu

Limodzi mwa malamulo ofunikira kwambiri okhudzana ndi chibwenzi ndi kulemekeza malo a mnzanu . Akungokulolani kuti mulowe m'moyo wawo, musawakakamize powafunsa mafunso ambiri. Apatseni malo omwe akufunikira, ndipo pamapeto pake adzakulolani kuti mulowemo akadzamasuka mokwanira kugawana nanu gawo lalikulu la moyo wawo. Musakhale omangika komanso osowa.

Lekani kuyang'ana mu equation yawo ndi abwenzi ndi abale kapena mbiri ya ubale wawo ngati iwo sali okonzeka kutsegula za izo panobe. Mutha kukhudza mitsempha yaiwisi podziwana bwino ndi mnzanuyo ndikumukankhira kutali.

3. Lekani kufufuza malo a zibwenzi

Tsopano popeza muli pachibwenzi chapadera, muyenera kusiya kugwiritsa ntchito malo ochezera a pa intaneti , chifukwa mungayembekezere kuti mnzanuyo achite chimodzimodzi. Ichi ndi chifukwa chake:

  • Mapulogalamuwa ndi masambawa amangokuyesani kuti mufufuze zambiri, ndikusokoneza kuthekera kwanu kolumikizana ndi munthu amene mwagwirizana kuti muzikhala naye.
  • Izi zitha kupangitsa mnzanuyo kukhala wosatetezeka chifukwa ubale wanu sunatchulidwebe. Ndipo simukufuna kuti pulogalamu ikuwonongeni
  • Bwenzi la mnzanuyo atha kuwona mbiri yanu ndipo zomwe zingatchule tsoka pachinthu chomwe chingakhale chachikulu.

Kuti muchoke pa chibwenzi kupita pachibwenzi, muyenera kuthana ndi gawo lakukhala wokhazikika mosamala kwambiri, moona mtima komanso mowonekera.

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4. Sungani kusatetezeka kwanu

Palibe chifukwa chodzikayikira za munthu amene mukumukonda yekha. Pakhoza kukhala mavuto okhudzana ndi kudalirana komanso mantha akuti angakusiyeni n’kuyamba chibwenzi ndi anthu ena, koma muyenera kuchita zonse zomwe mungathe kuti muwakhulupirire.

Ngakhale atakhala kuti akufuna kukhala wodzipatula koma osakhala pachibwenzi pomwe mwakonzeka kulowa, musalole kusiyana kumeneku pamapazi anu pawokha kukutumizirani kukhala woganiza mopambanitsa ndikuyambitsa kusatetezeka kwa ubale. M'malo mwake, tengani tsiku lililonse momwe likubwera, ndipo ganizirani kusangalala ndi zochitikazo.

5. Musati munene zam'mbuyo pakali pano

Pewani kubweretsa ubale wawo wakale ndi akale mukamakambirana, pokhapokha ngati mnzanuyo akukuuzani za zakale zawo. Zakale sizikugwirizana ndi zomwe muli nazo kale. Aliyense ali ndi katundu wakale ndipo amaugwiritsa ntchito mwanjira yakeyake. Khalani ndi moyo wamakono ndipo pindulani ndi zomwe muli nazo.

Ngakhale mungafune kudziwa zonse za mbiri ya chibwenzi cha mnzanu kuti muyese kuwamvetsetsa bwino, ino si nthawi yoti muchite zimenezo. Ngati mutha kukhala omasuka nawo, komabe, mutha kuganiza zobweretsa mutuwo.

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6. Osanenanso zamtsogolo

Mwadziwana ndi mnzanuyo kwa nthawi ndithu ndipo mukuganiza kuti tsogolo lawo likhoza kukhalapo. Koma muyenera kubisa maganizo amenewo. Yesetsani kuti musakakamize wokondedwa wanu kuchita chilichonse, osakambirana nawo zomwe mukuyembekezera. Ngati mukukakamiza wokondedwa wanu kuti adziwitse abwenzi ake kwa inu, mutha kungomaliza kuwakankhira kutali m'malo mokhazikitsa china chake cholimba.

7. Chepetsani zomwe mukuyembekezera

Kuyembekezera kuti mnzanu akukondeni monga momwe zilili m'masewero achikondi kudzatha moyipa. Ngati mumalota za chikondi chachikulu ndi kukangana kapena ndewu pamene ziyembekezo zimenezo sizinakwaniritsidwe, mnzanuyo pang'onopang'ono adzayamba kukusiyani. Mungayesere kusamalira ziyembekezo zanu muubwenzi m'njira zotsatirazi:

  • Osamufananiza ndi akale anu (mungoyerekeza zomwe zinali zabwino za wakale wanu ndipo mwina osati zomwe mnzanu wapano ali nazo)
  • Musamayembekezere kuti nthawi zonse amakonzekera. Inunso muyenera kuchita izo
  • Yembekezerani kuti apeze nthawi yocheza nanu, koma musayembekezere kukhala pakati pa dziko lake

Kusunga ziyembekezo zotsika komanso zenizeni kudzakuthandizani kukhala okhutira ndi zomwe muli nazo ndikulola nthawi kuti igwire ntchito zake zodabwitsa.

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8. Khalani ndi nthawi yochulukirapo

Tsopano popeza nonse mwayamba kumasuka ndi wina ndi mnzake, khalani ndi nthawi yambiri limodzi. Dziwani momwe munthuyo alili pamene nonse simuli pachibwenzi. Kupeza nthawi yabwino yocheza wina ndi mnzake panthawi yocheza kudzakuthandizani kudziwa momwe mungakhalire ogwirizana komanso kukuthandizani kuzindikira ngati ndi lingaliro labwino kuti mudzipereke kwa wina ndi mnzake.

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9. Osalowa nonse

Ngati ndinu munthu wachikondi wopanda chiyembekezo, mungayesedwe kuuza munthuyu momwe 'mumamukondera' mutangopita kukacheza kangapo. Yesani kudzitonthoza, kusamba m'madzi ozizira, ndikuganizira za kuthekera kwakuti mwina mwangotengeka , osati mu chikondi. Kapena kuti mwayamba kukondana mofulumira kwambiri ndipo mukudziika pachiswe chosapeŵeka.

Kupita m'njira zonse ndikudzitsegulira nokha kwa iye si chinthu chomwe mnzanuyo angakhale wokonzeka. Musalakwitse kukhala ndi chibwenzi chokhachokha. Sungani mbali zakuya ndi zamphamvu za moyo wanu mobisa. Kubweretsa zinthu zotere kumangokupwetekani pamapeto pake ngati zinthu zifika poipa.

tanthauzo la chibwenzi
Munthu ayenera kuonetsetsa kuti ndi chikondi osati kungotengeka maganizo, asanayambe kucheza ndi munthu wina

10. Muziganizira kwambiri zosangalatsa

Pewani kukhazikitsa ubale wamaganizo ndi iwo pakadali pano. Maganizo ndi malingaliro sizigwira ntchito bwino pachibwenzi chokha, poyamba. Lingaliro lokhala pachibwenzi chokha ndikukhazikitsa ubale wabwino ndi munthu m'njira yochezeka komanso yosangalatsa. Mwanjira imeneyi, ngakhale zinthu zitatha, mudzamva kuti munayenda bwino, popanda chisoni kapena kusweka mtima.

Koma bwanji ngati mukuona ngati mwagwa mutu ndi munthu ameneyu? Chabwino, mwina, musavale mtima wanu pamanja pakali pano. Khalani ndi malingaliro anu kwakanthawi kuti muwone ngati ali enieni kapena osakhalitsa pomwe mukusangalala ndi zabwino zomwe mukupita.

11. Simuyenera kupita nawo poyera

Inu ndi mnzanuyo mutha kukhala paubwenzi pa malo ochezera a pa Intaneti ndikulembana ma meme. Koma kuyika mnzanuyo nthawi isanakwane kungawaopseze. Inde, mwina mungafune kuuza anzanu za munthu watsopano amene mwamupeza amene simukukhutira naye, koma yesetsani kupewa kulankhula za iye kwambiri. Ngati chibwenzi chanu chapadera sichikuyenda bwino, simukufuna kuti anzanu akufunseni zosintha.

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12. Kumbukirani, chibwenzi chokha si chibwenzi

Muyenera kumangodzikumbutsa kuti simuli pachibwenzi. Izi zidzakulepheretsani kuchita chilichonse chosangalatsa paubwenzi ndikuyembekezera kuchitiridwa ngati muli paubwenzi wabwino kwambiri. Kukhala pachibwenzi kokha ndi sitepe yopita ku kudzipereka. Izo sizingakhale ngakhale kwautali woterowo. Choncho, khalani okonzeka.

Zolozera Mfungulo

  • Kukhala wodzipatula ndichinthu chofunikira kwambiri paulendo wochoka pachibwenzi mpaka kukhala pachibwenzi
  • Zimathandizira anthu awiri kudziwana bwino ndikuwona ngati amagwirizana ngati okondana
  • Kukhala pachibwenzi kokha kungakhale kosokoneza ngati mulibe kukambirana momveka bwino za izo
  • Kupatsana malo, kuyang'anira zoyembekeza zenizeni, ndikupita patsogolo pang'onopang'ono ndi zinsinsi zoyendetsa gawo ili ngati pro.

Chifukwa chake zili ndi inu kuti muwone ngati zomwe mukufuna ndi zosangalatsa zokhazokha kapena ubale wodzipereka. Kodi mukufuna sewero lopanda sewero, zochitika zosangalatsa, kapena ubale wopitilira womwe umakupatsani mtendere wamumtima? Muyenera kusankha ngati mukufuna kusewera motsatira malamulo kapena kuthetsa masewerawo. Kaya mukufuna kukhala pachibwenzi mwachisawawa kapena mukuyenera kusankha pa chibwenzi chokhacho ndi chisankho chodzipereka - chisankho ndi chanu.

Ibibazo

1. Kodi muyenera kukhala pachibwenzi nthawi yayitali bwanji musanayambe chibwenzi?

Palibe nthawi yeniyeni yomwe muyenera kukhala nayo pachibwenzi musanayambe chibwenzi, zimatengera zomwe abwenziwo amapeza bwino. Koma anthu ambiri amavomereza kuti kungoonana ndi munthu kwa miyezi itatu kapena inayi nthawi zambiri ndi lingaliro labwino musanalowe pachibwenzi.

2. Nkaambo nzi ncotweelede kuyandana?

Njira yabwino yodziwira ngati muli pachibwenzi ndi kukambirana nawo. Kodi amayembekezera kudzipereka? Kodi sali okonzeka kukhala ndi ubale wodzipereka? Mafunso ngati amenewa adzakuthandizani nonse kukhala pa tsamba limodzi.

3. Kodi ndi kubera ngati simuli yekha?

Ndiye, kodi nthawi zambiri mumadzifunsa nokha "Kodi ndikubera ngati simuli pachibwenzi koma mulibe chibwenzi?" Ngati nonse munakambilana kuti simuyenela kukhala pa ubwenzi wolimba, kugonana ndi munthu wina sikungaganizidwe ngati chinyengo. Kubera kumatanthauziridwa motere pokhapokha inu ndi mnzanuyo mutakambirana kuti muli nokha kapena mwaganiza zongodzipatula koma osati mwalamulo.

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