Nchiyani Chimamupanga Iye Mkazi?

Kufalitsa chikondi

Chaka Chatsopano chikadzafika, aliyense amayamba kuganiza kuti tsopano ndi nthawi yosintha mitundu ina. Aliyense amayamba kuganiza za malingaliro ndi malingaliro. Zochitika zanga zomvetsa chisoni zomwe chaka chatha zidandithandiza kumvetsetsa bwino zomwe zimapangitsa mkazi. Ndinkalowa m'chaka chatsopano ndili ndi chidziwitso chatsopano komanso malingaliro. Ndipo pamene anthu ondizungulira ankalankhula za zinthu zimene anasintha ndi zimene zinawasintha, ndinalephera kusiya kuloŵerera m’kukambitsiranako.

Pakati pa zinthu zambiri zosaiŵalika zomwe zandichitikira chaka chatha, December 10 mwina amawalira kwambiri. Ndinali kulandira mphoto yanga yoyamba ya utolankhani, yomwe inakhazikitsidwa ndi magazini ya gay, ndipo inali nthawi yabwino yaulemerero waumwini, koma izi siziri choncho. Chinthu chinanso chochititsa chidwi chinachitika madzulo amenewo.

Kuzindikira Zomwe Zimapanga Mkazi Weniweni

M'ndandanda wazopezekamo

Pamwambowu panafika kagulu kakang'ono ka anthu okonda zachiwerewere komanso amuna kapena akazi okhaokha. Monga mkazi wachiwerewere (woperekezedwa ndi mwamuna wake, osachepera!), Ine mwina ndinali ochepa kumeneko. Nditazunguliridwa nawo, maso anga anatseguka n’kuona zinthu zambiri zenizeni zimene mwina sindinasankhe kuziona mpaka pano.

Madzulo amenewo asanafike, nthawi zambiri sindinkamvetsera mawu amtundu wa utawaleza amene amafuulira kuti awandikire ndiponso akuwamvera chisoni. Zawo akutuluka mchipindamo nkhani zinali zodabwitsa komanso zokongola nthawi imodzi. Koma zinali zomwe womenyera ufulu wa LGBTQ muzokambirana zawo zamagulu adanena, zomwe zidandidabwitsa, vumbulutso komanso epiphany. Mkazi ndi ndani? Funso looneka ngati losavuta limeneli lilibe yankho losavuta chotero.

Dr. Akkai Padmashali, dzina lodziwika bwino mu LGBTQ activism space, ali ndi ulendo wolimbikitsa kwambiri. Iye ndi mkazi wosasintha yemwe wanyamuka kuchoka ku maenje a uhule kufika pachimake chopeza PhD ndi ulemu wa boma. Pamene ndinacheza naye mwachidule, ndinasangalatsidwa chimodzimodzi ndi kumwetulira kwake ndi maphunziro ake.

Ndinachita manyazi mwadzidzidzi chifukwa cha mantha anga a hijras ndi tsankho langa pa chilichonse chomwe sichikugwirizana ndi chikhalidwe, chifukwa kodi sindinanyalanyaze, kunyoza kapena kunyoza mosiyana pang'ono, ngakhale anthu anzanga kale? Pamene amalankhula mokonda za ufulu wa LGBTQ, ndinali makutu.

Ndinazindikira kuti ndi angati maganizo olakwika analipo okhudza amuna kapena akazi okhaokha. Koma pali chinthu chimodzi chomwe adanena chomwe chidandiwonekera ndipo chakhala chikulira m'mutu mwanga kuyambira pamenepo. Ndiye chifukwa chake tsopano ndaphunzira zomwe zimapangitsa mkazi ndipo ndikuthokoza chifukwa cha tanthauzo lozama lomwe wandiphunzitsa.

Adanena momveka bwino kuti, "Ndili ngati mkazi wopanda mawere kapena nyini kapena chiberekero, choncho, funani ufulu wa mkazi."

Malingaliro anga pazomwe amatanthauzira mkazi adasintha

Zinali mphezi yaumwini pakupanga kwanga konse kwa ukazi. "Nchiyani chimapangitsa mkazi kukhala mkazi?", Ndinadzifunsa ndekha. Ndinafunsanso funsoli kwa atsikana angapo madzulo mawa. Panalibe mayankho osavuta. Zonse zikakhala 'zabwinobwino', nthawi zambiri safunsidwa mafunso okhuza jenda ndi kugonana.

"Sanangobadwa ngati mkazi; amakhala m'modzi pankhondo iliyonse yomwe amamenya komanso maloto aliwonse omwe angayese kuwathamangitsa."

Kuyambira pamene mwana wamkazi amabadwa, nyini yake imakhala ngati njira yoti imulowetse mu lingaliro lovomerezeka la ukazi. Pamene akuyamba unyamata, mabere ake amakhala nkhani ya chisamaliro chosafunikira. Ntchito za msambo ndi kubereka, pamapeto pake zimagwirizana ndi udindo wa 'mkazi'.

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Koma dziwani kuti anthuwa salekerera zolakwa zilizonse. Timadziwa momwe anthu angakhalire ankhanza kwa amayi omwe amalephera ngakhale theka la parameter ndi momwe angachitire nthano za akazi akhoza kuphwanya kwathunthu umunthu wawo ndi zokhumba zawo. Kodi sitikudziwa mayina omwe amapatsidwa kwa akazi omwe sasamba kapena osabereka? Ngati tili ndi chifuwa chafulati, pali vuto. Ngati sitingathe kuyamwitsa, pali vuto.

Ngakhale zinthu zisanu ndi zinayi mwa khumi zili m'malo, moyo ndi wovuta kwa mkazi. Koma monga munthu amene wakwanitsa kuyang'ana mabokosi onsewa, ndi kumupezera mikwingwirima yomwe amati ndi yachikazi, mawu a Dr. Padmashali adandichotsa pakhungu langa. Ndidazindikira momwe ndingadziwike ngati mkazi. Chomwe chimapangitsa mkazi weniweni ndichoposa mabere pachifuwa.

Mawa ndikadzuka opanda mabere kapena nyini? Bwanji nditasiya kusamba nthawi yomweyo? Nanga bwanji ngati tsogolo likadandikakamiza kuti ndichite mastectomy pawiri, chiberekero, ndi kudula maliseche aakazi pa ine zonse mwakamodzi? Tiyeni tidulenso apa.

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Nchiyani Chimakupanga Iwe Mkazi?

Yankho la chimene chimapanga mkazi kaŵirikaŵiri limayankhidwa mwa kufotokoza ndondomeko yachikazi yachikazi imene kaŵirikaŵiri imaperekedwa kwa akazi. Ndizovuta kudzilingalira ngati mkazi, wosiyidwa ndi chithunzithunzi chotchedwa 'chirengedwe chachikazi'. Nanga chikhalidwe cha akazi ndi chiyani?

Ndinkaona kuti ndikadadalirabe kukumbukira za zochitika 'zofunika' izi kuti ndipeze zomwe ndikudziwa komanso kumvetsetsa zomwe zimatanthauzira mkazi. Ndiyenera kutsamira podziwa kuti kusamba kumakhala kotani, kusangalatsa kwa kugonana kumaliseche kapena kupweteka kwa pobereka.

Ndipo komabe, apa panali munthu uyu, yemwe adadziwika kuti ndi mkazi popanda kudziwa kapena kuyembekezera kudziwa chilichonse mwa njira zoberekera. Zingakhale zokwanira kwa ine, monga Dr. Padmashali, kuti ndingovala ngati mkazi ndikulakalaka kuti mwamuna azimva ngati mkazi?

Tsiku lina, ndidzamukhazika pansi ndikumufunsa kuti, “N’chiyani chimakupangitsa kukhala mkazi?” Mpaka nthawi imeneyo, ndikulimbana ndi zomwe ndikudziwa ndikuyesera kupeza mayankho.

Ibibazo

1. Kodi uzimayi umangofotokozedwa ndi biology?

Ayi. Ngakhale kuti biology imagwira ntchito, ukazi umakhala waumwini, woumbidwa ndi chikhalidwe, umunthu, zokumana nazo, ndi kudziona.

2. Kodi nchifukwa ninji ukazi umawonedwa mosiyana m’zikhalidwe?

Miyambo ya chikhalidwe, zikhulupiriro, ndi chikhalidwe cha anthu zimapanga malingaliro a tanthauzo la kukhala mkazi, kukhudza maudindo a amuna ndi akazi ndi ziyembekezo.

3. Kodi tingakondweretse bwanji ukazi m’moyo watsiku ndi tsiku?

Pokweza mawu a amayi, kutsutsa malingaliro awo, kuthandizira zisankho zawo, ndi kuvomereza zomwe amathandizira pagulu.

Maganizo Final

Ukazi si tanthauzo limodzi - ndi kusinthika, mphamvu, ndi zochitika zaumwini. Mkazi samangotengeka ndi dziko lozungulira iye, koma ndi zosankha zake, chikondi chimene amapereka, ndi mphamvu zomwe ali nazo. Akatswiri athu zingakuthandizeni kukumbatira chidzalo cha chimene inu muli.

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